To Be Human

I'm doing an episode every day this month! Short and sweet, riffing on things, trying out a new format of podcasting.

Today, I’m just doing a quick 2023 recap. I was lucky enough to have a pretty steady 2023 with lots of highlights and life milestones. I wanted to share about that, and tomorrow I’ll talk about my goals for 2024.

XOXO.

Merry Christmas!

This week I talk about what kickstarted my sobriety - Dry January. I talk about how I realized I had a problem with alcohol, my several attempts at quitting before it stuck, and how to pull off a dry January if you're questioning your relationship with alcohol.

ENJOY.

Welcome back! Let’s shake off the winter blues and take action to get out of a funk and prepare for the new year. In this episode, I dive into the intricacies of self-awareness, kindness to oneself, and practical ways to regulate your nervous system.

Join me in doing the pain in the ass, but ultimately important, process of doing things you might not feel like doing, and lets get our positivity juices (ew..?) flowing with a "rampage of appreciation".

Also, is ghosting personal? How to move on when someone you like disappears.

In this episode I talk about Complex PTSD (CPTSD) caused by childhood trauma and neglect can lead to chronic, debilitating shame, and how we can start to heal our inner child and live more authentically.

- Pete Walker's work around complex ptsd

- Assertiveness vs Conflict and why people who say they hate conflict might be conflating the two

- Shame and how it can show up (the 4 F's - Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn)

- How to heal our inner child and begin to live more authentically.

➡ Carrie & Big were engaging in a classic cycle where one partner has anxious attachment, and the other has avoidant attachment. These two attachment styles are drawn to one another in a way that is both intoxicating and toxic.

🎙️ In this episode, I'll explore attachment theory, which is the foundation for my therapy practice. I'll talk about the two main attachment styles, and why the person you CHOOSE matters so much when it comes to relationships. If you're feeling like you keep dating people who feel so wrong, yet so right, this episode might be for you.

Surprise!!

We will do a quick intro about what's been up with me for the last 3 years (lol, hi!). I'm also chatting about how to survive the holidays (from a therapist-in-training!) and what I talk to my clients about during this season. Plus, is Tom Schwartz a narcissist? Let's talk about my argument for why he's potentially the most insidious person on the Vanderpump Rules cast.

Today I talk to Laina about her exact formula for manifestation (3 steps), synchronicities and what they mean, what it looks like when we aren't trusting the universe (hint hint - control and anxiety), and more. She's such a lovely embodiment of 'you get back the energy that you put out'. She radiates positivity and her presence alone reminds me that manifestation should be fun!

How do you begin recognizing red flags or unhealthy relationship patterns, why is it important to listen to your friends when they don't like your new relationship, how much should we be drinking on our first dates...? 

Sharon is a clinical therapist and life coach, and this week we talk about:

• Why some of us attract unavailable people
• Why it’s important to establish ritual in relationships, especially with long-term relationships
• Why having friends who will be honest with you when you first start dating someone is important
• How to avoid ending up in unhealthy or abusive relationships
• Why it’s important to not over-drink on dates
• Why to keep a date journal
• How we get schemas from the relationships we were around as kids, and sometimes we re-enact the similar dynamic to reconcile the pain we experienced growing up
• Greiving our breakups and creating healthy rituals that bring us back to joy

Sharons' Breathwork Practice - breathing exercise inhale for 4, pause for 7, exhale for 8 — when we exhale for longer than we inhale it resets our nervous system (8-10 rounds)

Books mentioned in this episode:

 In this episode Nadia and I chat about:

Our imprinted subconscious beliefs that are formed by what we observe as little children, and how they create what we believe is the potential, and the limitations, of where we want to go.

How she works with her clients using energy psychology to identify their triggers as a basis to discover what parts of them remain to be healed.

Her spiritual journey and how she got started on this path, starting with a trip to Costa Rica where she met her first spiritual teacher.

I chat with Scott and Melissa about plant medicine, and it's ability to heal us. We talk about how Western medicine has failed to heal us holistically, what happens in your brain when you take ayahuasca, the ritual and ceremony behind ayahuasca, and more. Enjoy!!

I tell my ayahuasca story! I talk about my 4 plant medicine ceremonies, the center I chose to go to in Costa Rica, and what you might expect at a center like this. 

This episode is for you if you’re curious about the healing powers of plant medicine, what it might feel like, and how it healed my heart.
ILU

Today marks about 2 months of no alcohol (about 2 months longer than i've ever gone). It's an update on my first "sober date", learning to lean into discomfort that was usually eased with alcohol, and trying not to worry too much about how people might label me. After almost 2 full months, I am truly living a completely different life.

Drinking alcohol is so normalized in our society, that if we even think about quitting we get labeled (or label ourselves) with a problem. I'm empowering you to question whether you want alcohol in your life, not whether you need alcohol in your life. It is YOUR life. Make it as fulfilling, as rich, as beautiful, and present, and as conscious as you possibly can.

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Episode 6

- this is your life!! empower yourself to make decisions that are best for you!

- revisiting the normalization of drinking alcohol in society and family 

- leaning into discomfort - the thing I was avoiding by drinking - and feeling life fully.

Obsessing over that thing you said one time? It’s keeping you up at night? You would have done it differently? UGH, if only you could go back in time! In this episode I talk about some practical ways to change your mindset around that obsessive thought & hopefully reduce the frequency of that negative loop all-together.

Episode 5

- a step-by-step help center for when you’re obsessing over something you cannot change (remember, the past is literally all in your head).

- actionable tips on how to stop obsessing and forgive yourself for that moment (we are all doing the very best we can)

- a mindset tip to help you walk into the world with forgiving lens.

How do we become magnetic for what we want? Why do good days get better and bad days get worse? Why does our mindset matter so much?

⁣Episode 3

- law of attraction 101 ⁣

- the 4 key steps to manifestation

- how i manifested an apartment and a text from an ex⁣

- how to raise your vibes wayyyy up to be a vibrational match for what you desire

In this episode I talk about:

Dry January and beyond! Questioning your relationship with alcohol? Wondering what kind of connection - with yourself and others - you might be missing out on by choosing to drink? Same...

Episode 2

- Why is it that drinking is an expected part of our society, and choosing not to drink means you must be an alcoholic? 

- Rewriting my alcohol story and exploring a life without drinking.

- Why being completely conscious is probably what the world needs right now.

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Join me and my guests every Wednesday as we talk about spirituality, manifestation, personal growth, relationships and love, plant medicine, and more. Basically, all the ways I’m curious about expanding my consciousness, de-conditioning my subconscious mind, and creating a life that I love.