To Be Single or Not to Be

To Be Single or Not to Be

By Shaanah Montanna
A podcast where we discuss navigating life with or without a partner and the cause and effects that come along with it. Are either all they’re really cracked up to be? Each episode will leave you with new info to decide if you’re to be single or not to be!
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Celebrating Being Single - Ep.44
On this episode, we take a colorful deep dive into the beauty and beasts of being single, why it’s actually not a disease or something you need to “escape” from, the inexplicable freedom that comes with it, and why it may not be for everybody! To sum it all up in the words of the great philosopher Megan Thee Stallion, “Got a ex that miss me so bad, probably praying for me now” let’s you know that being single really IS all it’s cracked up to be! EXTRA special guests: @itstwoelles, Mister Wilson, Cass, & @positivelymyeek
1:49:35
January 20, 2020
Gender Roles - WTF does that mean?! Ep. 43
On this episode we take a deeeeep, interesting, and EXPLICIT dive into gender roles and I loved every minute of it! Tune in if you want to know what gender roles are, if and when they should be applicable to your relationship, OR if you should just throw them out the window! Special & AMAZING guests: @thedenpodcast & the one & only Bulli Carter
1:35:15
January 6, 2020
Is Long Distance Love Possible? Ep. 42
On this episode we take a deep dive into the world of our special guest who has experienced the highs and lows of long distance love, what the journey is truly like, and uncovering that it AIN’T FOR EVERYBODY! Tune in to find out if it may be for you! Special guest: Obrenka Thompson of @thesitdownwbrenks
58:23
December 30, 2019
Knowing When it’s Time to Let Go Ep.41
On this episode, we dive into a serious conversation around knowing when it’s time to let go of a relationship that has worn out its welcome and is wearing you down as a person! Tune in to find out how to identify if it’s time to let go, how to know if you’re on either side of the coin, and how to move on if you so desire! Special guests: In House Wife Tori, Cass, & @positivelymyeek
1:01:14
December 24, 2019
No Matter What, You Will Be Okay Ep.40
On this episode we dive into some deep conversation around when LIFE happens, how you PUSH through, how you GROW from it, and how you LIVE to see another day because you will always be OKAY! #RIPPops Special guests: Krystal M., Krystal J., & Magical Dr. Grant
1:20:42
December 16, 2019
Love Languages - Ep.39
On this episode we take a deep dive into what love languages are, how they can help your relationship to flourish, and the importance of having a partner who understands them and vice versa! Special guests: Brandie J., reoccurring star @positivelymyeek, and the one & only Bulli Carter
1:18:32
December 10, 2019
Part II: Creating a Thriving Relationship Ep.38
We dive head first into PART II of how you can create a thriving relationship if you’re willing to do the WORK and if you have a partner that is willing to as well! In truly takes two to tango and without a partner willing to dance with you, you may go nowhere fast! Special guests: @positivelymyeek, In House Wife Tori, & reoccurring star Cass
57:21
December 2, 2019
Part I: Creating a Thriving Relationship Ep. 37
HOV might’ve made one of the greatest blueprints ever, but I promise he nor any other man on this earth has the blueprint for a thriving relationship and we dish on it here! Tune in as we dive into what healthy and happy looks and feels like, what angles you should honestly view your relationship from, and we call YOU to the carpet to ask yourself is your relationship thriving or is it just surviving and how to navigate with your answer! Special guest: @positivelymyeek, in house wife Tori, & reoccurring star Miss Cass
1:02:46
November 25, 2019
Is Your Partner Responsible for Fulfilling All of Your Needs? Ep. 36
On this episode we open up SEASON 2 by giving a microscopic examination over the age old question of partner fulfillment! Is it possible for your partner to truly fulfill ALL of your needs and theirs or is it even realistic to desire such a thing? Tune in as we put a magical perspective on it all with our special guests, Dr. Grant & our in house wife, Ms. Tori!
1:15:33
November 18, 2019
Does Being a Boss Hurt You or Help You in Relationships Ep.35
On this episode we take a deep dive into exploring if being a BOSS hurts you or helps you when it comes to romantic relationships and how to handle the dating field or being partnered in the midst of it all! Guests: Kay of @justkayelle & Mykia of @comfort.togo_
1:04:23
November 11, 2019
Manifesting the Love You Desire Ep.34
On this episode we take a deep dive into understanding why we love love and are so driven by love! We then examine if it’s possibly to manifest the exact love you desire, what it takes if is possible, and why sometimes you just have to let the chips fall where they may when it comes to real love. Special guests: Kesh Kesh, H, & Mrs. Brooks
1:31:59
November 4, 2019
Are Women Making it Too Easy for Men to Show Up & Ask For the Most While Doing the Least? Ep. 33
The great philosopher Tupac once said, ”Hate to sound sleazy, but tease me, I don't want it if it's that easy“ and he must’ve been referring to present day 2019 and state of relationships! For this reason, we take a deep dive into a conversation around why some women make it so easy for men to be in their lives without giving them what they desire, what role fear plays in all of this, and why we have to unite and stand as one to move past this epidemic immediately! Special guests: Nikki, Kyla C., & TT
54:42
October 28, 2019
EXES...Where Do They Belong? Ep. 32
On this episode we dive into all aspects of EXES! Why some people still communicate with them, why some people hate them, and why some people may still love them! Tune in so you can know how to navigate in the future! Special guests: Cara, Nikki, & Kirbie
39:45
October 14, 2019
Let’s talk about SEX, baby! Ep. 31
WARNING! We don’t go too far, but we do take a peek over the edge with the conversation on this episode as we take a deep dive into sex, sexuality, why we have to OWN our sexuality, why it’s nothing wrong with having multiple partners, and so much more! Special guests: Candace, Ashley, & Kelsi
1:00:52
October 7, 2019
What’s My Type?! Ep. 30
On this episode we take a DEEP dive into types, preferences, chemistry, attractions, and much more to let you know if your decisions in these areas are helping or hurting your relationship chances. We all have a type, but are we choosing the right one? Special guests: @positivelymyeek, Crystal Denae, Mrs. Jordan, & Mardae
1:44:01
September 30, 2019
Are You Really Ready for a Relationship or Marriage? Ep. 29
On this episode we give relationships and marriage a deep examination to determine if people are really ready for what they think are ready for, what it may look and feel like if you are ready, and what you may need to do if you can’t decide where you stand either way. Special guests: @positivelymyeek, Tori Brianna, & Ms. Crystal
46:04
September 23, 2019
Potential... What Are We Supposed To Do With That? Ep.28
On this episode we examine what potential is, why some people choose to risk it all and date people based on it, and what to do with it, if anything! Guest Co Host: Miss Cassanora L.
52:39
September 16, 2019
How Do You Know They Are The One? Ep.27
On this episode, we speak from the single and married perspective of how you may be able to determine if your partner is “THE ONE”! We dissect what this means, what it looks and feels like, and if they aren’t “THE ONE”, how you can determine that too! Special guests: T- Baby, @positivelymyeek, & Crystal Denae
55:44
September 10, 2019
Sisterhood & Relationships Ep.26
On this episode I had the pleasure of having a conversation on sisterhood with two of the closest sisters I’ve had in my life the past 15 years. We dish on the importance of having the support of a sisterhood, how to sustain it while dating, and why sisterhoods are the backbones of our lives whether in relationships or not. Special guests: Danny Sims & Brooke Breezy
35:53
September 2, 2019
Miss Independent... Is She Doing Too Much? Ep.25
On this episode we take a closer look at independence to determine if there’s a such a thing as being too independent! We dive into what this really looks from a woman’s perspective, why it’s a conversation we must have, and how to maneuver it in relationships! Co starring Miss Quanda, Janae J., Tori Brianna, & Mrs. Jordan
1:09:37
August 26, 2019
Self Care... Don’t Lose Yourself Ep.24
On this episode we take a deep dive into what self care really looks like in a relationship, how to prioritize it, and why you can’t lose yourself just because you have a new partner in crime! Special guests: Jenn Benn & Cordell S.
1:12:55
August 20, 2019
Dating in 2019...Is it a War Zone? Part II: Ep. 23
On this episode, we complete the conversation on why dating in 2019 can be a hard task, if you should get on or off a dating app, and being CLEAR on your intentions! Special guests: Courtney N, Crystal E., & Ernest aka Mr. Oblivious
56:40
August 12, 2019
Dating in 2019...Is it a War Zone? Part I - Ep.22
On this episode, a few brave girls and guys dive into conversation about this war like dating zone in 2019. We deep dive into personal experiences, what the hell does no expectations mean, why it’s so different for girls and guys, and how to navigate it if you want to eventually find love after fighting the good fight! Special guests: Courtney N, Crystal E., & Ernest aka Mr. Oblivious
54:03
August 5, 2019
Toxic Masculinity Ep. 21
An episode all men need to hear! We discuss toxic masculinity, men’s mommy & daddy issues, and how we combat this epidemic today! Special guests: Lizzy Liz, Miss Cassanora, & the one & only Krystal Jordan.
1:12:12
July 29, 2019
They Cheated...Now What? Ep. 20
On this episode we discuss cheating and cheaters and the low downNESS of it all! Special guest: @positivelymyeek, Nikki H., Kyla C., & Mrs. Freeman
1:33:43
July 22, 2019
Settling & Why You Really Don’t Have To Ep. 19
On this episode, we dish about the reasons why we settle, why society has made us think it’s the norm, and why we should no longer make settling an option when the life we desire can be manifested and is truly available! Special Guest: @positivelymyeek, Nikki, Kyla C., & Mrs. Freeman
55:52
July 9, 2019
Timelines in Dating & Relationships- Part II Ep. 18
This is Part 2 of our previous episode on the four stages of dating and relationships and why we should all possibly invest in having dating timelines to prevent the preventable in the future! Special Guests: @PositivelyMyeek, Nikki, & Nicole
1:30:06
July 1, 2019
Timelines in Dating & Relationships & Why You Might Need Them Ep.17
This is Part 1 of a 2 part episode on the four stages of dating and relationships and why we should all possibly invest in having dating timelines to prevent the preventable in the future! Special Guests: @PositivelyMyeek, Nikki, & Nicole
57:14
June 24, 2019
Lose My Breath - Dealing with Mental Health & Anxiety Ep.16
An educational episode where we discuss mental health and anxiety, what it looks and feels like, how we help each other deal with it, and so much more! Co starring special guests!
1:26:13
June 17, 2019
Breaking Generational Curses, Setting Boundaries, and Healing YOU before the relationship! Ep.15
On this episode we take a deep dive into the conversation on how we can break generational curses, set boundaries with family, and how we must heal ourselves before we bring a partner into the fold! Co starring special guest Danny Sims and K. Watkins
1:30:21
June 10, 2019
Married Millennials: What Does Marriage Look Like in 2019? Episode 14
An episode where we dish with 3 millennial married couples to talk about the highs, lows, compromises, and so much more on what marriage is really about! Co Starring The Brooks, The Dewalts, and The Jordan’s.
1:35:47
June 3, 2019
R&B Divas Series: Toni Braxton - Let It Flow: Triggers: Stop, Drop, & Address Them Episode 13
On this episode we discuss how to identify triggers, how to handle them in relationships, and how to not allow them to WIN when it’s you against the mind! Co starring special guest!
1:02:28
May 27, 2019
R&B Divas Series: Toni Braxton - Breathe Again: Breakups & How You Deal Episode 12
On this episode we dish on how you do the breaking up, how you push through one to heal, and how you handle them when you’re in the midst of it all! Featuring special guests!
1:05:21
May 20, 2019
R & B Divas Series: Toni Braxton - Just Be a Man About It Guests: Danny Sims & K.Watkins Episode 11
On this episode we dish about Accountability, Ownership, & Submission in all forms, shapes, and sizes! Do men need to step up or do us women have work to do to?
1:07:27
May 13, 2019
Emotionally Unavailable & Narcissist Men aka Fvck Boys Episode 10
We discuss how to identify, understand, and get the hell away from the creatures known as fvck boys and why they make second chances null and void. Guest: LaJanee Miseducation of the Stereotype
1:18:23
May 6, 2019
Non Negotiables.... How Many of Us Have Them? Episode 9
An episode that dives into the relationship necessity of the list of non negotiables and why everyone should have one! Guests: Tori Brianna & Founders of PHRIENDS
1:26:28
April 29, 2019
Part 2: Why Are So Many Sistas So Single? Episode 8
We continue and close the discussion on why so many sistas are single, the work that needs to be done, and how we overcome this epidemic once and for all!
1:12:13
April 22, 2019
Part 1: Why Are So Many Sistas So Single? Episode 7
An episode around the single epidemic that many sistas face today. We discuss what this looks like for us, the work that must be done to navigate through it, and how we come out on the other side of it if that’s what we desire. Featuring various special guests!
56:16
April 15, 2019
I Ain’t Going Half on Sh*t! Episode 6
We get into a round table talk about finances in relationships and marriages, gender roles within them, and how we have arrived at these conclusions! Guest appearances: Ms. Cara, Ms. Krissy, & Ms. Janae
56:10
April 9, 2019
We Cookin’ or Nah? Bonus Episode 5
Here we briefly explore gender roles in relationships and if cooking will keep your man in the streets or the sheets!
14:32
April 4, 2019
I want a HUSSSSSSBANNNND! Episode 4
An episode that explores the ins and out of why people want to get married... is it for the gram or nah! Guest: Miss Amani
1:04:05
April 2, 2019
Dead Weight! How to Identify it, Address it, and Move on! Episode 3
Bonus Episode! This episode discusses all things dealing with dead weight in a relationship, how to handle it as a single person, and how to avoid it in the future! After this episode decide, To Be Single or Not To Be? Guest: Danny Sims
32:51
March 29, 2019
Why Are so Many Sistas so Single? Episode 2
This is a snippet and preview episode where we dive into why we think so many sistas are single? Is it Us or is it Them?
07:24
March 28, 2019
We Welcome You! Episode 1
On this episode, you get a briefing on what to expect from this podcast, why I decided to do it, and how often you will hear from me. Pretty much, setting the mood!
00:51
March 28, 2019