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Toks Talks Podcast

Toks Talks Podcast

By Toks Ayinla
Hey friend! I'm Toks Ayinla, a poet, speaker, and strategist. Join me every week as I give you strategy and tips to empower you on all things personal development, relationships, and entrepreneurship. I take a faith based, whole life, solution focused approach to the topics I cover; there's room for sugarcoating! Each week, you will walk away with a fresh perspective and actionable steps on how to elevate your whole life to the level you deserve. The goal is to develop bold, unshakable confidence and faith; the kind that will make you jump off the edge of a cliff and land in purpose!
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155: About the final phase of your healing journey

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159: This is how you get out of survival mode
Going into survival mode is the only way to make it through some hard times,  but learning when to get out is just as important. Staying in survival mode longer than you need to is a disservice to your body mind and spirit!  This video is 5 tips how to get to a place where you're thriving! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Contact@tokstalks.com!
12:57
May 04, 2022
158: 5 signs that you might be settling in your relationship
Friend, you should not be settling in any part of your life, especially your relationship. If these 5 signs are present in your relationship, chances are that you're settling.   Don't fret though, you now have information and the power to make the best decision for yourself with it.❤️ Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Contact@tokstalks.com!
15:47
April 27, 2022
157: How to live an excellent high value life
Being a high value woman has more to do with the energy exude than who you attract. To live an excellent life is to make a decision of how you want to show up and to move consistently in that everyday.    Take these for perspectives, apply them to your life and watch how it changes!   Friend, you are excellent before the co-sign❤️ Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Contact@tokstalks.com!
10:37
April 20, 2022
156: Are you intimidating men?
As a woman, once you're around the age of 30 with ambition, people start to stay that the reason why you're single is because men find you intimidating. This might be the case, but it's not necessarily something to care or concern yourself with.    I break break down 2 types of intimidation; one thats relevant and on that isn't so you can decide where you stand.    The man that is meant for you won't try to diminish your greatness and anyone who does isn't worth your time! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Contact@tokstalks.com!
14:48
April 13, 2022
155: About the final phase of your healing journey
Healing can take a lifetime, but it does get better. Ep. 155 of the Toks Talk Podcast is all about the triumph of the healing process. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
14:46
March 30, 2022
154: About the moment when you have a slip up
Step four to healing is dealing with the relapse. Ep. 154 of the Toks Talk Podcast is all about how to get back on track after slipping up. When life inevitably takes us backwards, it can feel as if all the progress we've made so far was a waste; don't fall for that mental trap.     This is part 4 of a 5 part series on healing where I break down the healing journey and offer perspective and tips. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
10:37
March 24, 2022
153. About the rebuilding after things fall apart
Rock bottom is the perfect stop to start building the life of your dreams. Ep. 153 of the Toks Talk Podcast is all about coming back after you hit rock bottom.   This is part three of a 5 part series on healing where I break down the healing journey and offer perspective and tips. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
18:08
March 16, 2022
152: Leaving the negativity in the past to heal
Step two for healing is about leaving the negativity in the past. Ep. 152 of the Toks Talks Podcast is all about the unlearning that is required to continue to heal and move on. This is where you take the lessons while leaving any negative and unworthy behind in the crumble.   This is part two of a 5 part series on healing where I break down the healing journey and offer perspective and tips.   Forgiveness Episodes  https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Qt019d6w7QRyVfptoVxyl?si=TDrPTNDFQb65bZFmKpK5dA  https://open.spotify.com/episode/0fvMkfjHCEI8n76E2Sg382?si=9OHZF-KBQJiPla9SOh9FGg  Do you want me to answer your question on March's theme Healing? Send it to its.tokstalks@gmail.com Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
18:36
March 09, 2022
151: About 5 tips for healing when things fall apart
Things falling apart, or the crumble is the first step of the healing journey. In this episode I start the 5 week healing series for the month of March.   Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
16:36
March 02, 2022
Monday Mantra February 28 2022
Even if things don’t go the way I planned them to, I will be okay. I have faith that in the moments where things fall apart, the space is creating room for better. I give myself the room to mourn the things I’ve lost even if I know I deserve more. I’m growing, and part of that growth is that things that once fit me will now be too small. Yet still, I will never apologize or feel guilty for the space that I occupy. Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:44
February 28, 2022
150: Ask Toks About Release
Episode 150! I never would have thought that I'd be able to stay consistent on this podcast for 150 weeks without stopping (honestly not me at times lol)    After all of the sentimental stuff, I answered 2 listener questions- one about release from the mental voice of a horrible ex and the other about release from the fear of past failures.   Have and amazing week! Do you want me to answer your question on March's theme Healing? Send it to its.tokstalks@gmail.com Mind Spirit & Body Exercise https://www.tokstalks.com/freebies  Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
21:11
February 23, 2022
Monday Mantra February 21 2022
The consistency that I have towards my work will pay off for me this week. All of the little steps that I have been taking will get me to my destination at just the right time. I applaud myself, and even when no one notices the work I’m putting in, I know it’s worth it. I don’t feel rushed, because I am not in competition with anyone. Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:10
February 21, 2022
149: About Releasing yourself from the Pain of the Past
In continuing our month of release, this week Toks talks about about releasing the pain of the past. Our past negative experiences leave a residue that can stain future experiences if you don't do the work to let them go.  Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
12:41
February 16, 2022
Monday Mantra February 14 2022
I'm free of my past mistakes. I give myself grace for the moments I didn't do better. I'm growing and I trust myself to make better decisions now. I'm healing so I don't bring past pain into my future relationships. My healing and wholeness are worthy of the work I'm doing. Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:23
February 14, 2022
148: About the 3 Things I had to Release to Succeed in Entrepreneurship
This week marks 3 years of Toks' Entrepreneurship journey. She shares the 3 things she had to let go of to tap into success. I Released myself of the need to be perfect I Released myself from the outcome I Released myself of comparison Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
17:28
February 09, 2022
Monday Mantra: February 7 2022
I am enough as I am. The only person I need to be better than is who I was in the past. I don't need to be perfect, because I can refine as I go. I release myself from my outcomes and set my focus on purpose. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:08
February 07, 2022
147: About Releasing Yourself from Unmet Expectations and disappointment
February's theme is Release. This week we're talking about releasing yourself and others from unmet expectations.  Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
16:49
February 02, 2022
Monday Mantra: January 31 2022
I release myself from the disappointments I’ve experienced from others. When my expectations are not met, I hold the power to make the best decision for myself. I am too special to force or convince anyone to stay in my life. I have a tribe that I don’t have to perform for and I never lack support. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:23
January 31, 2022
146: Ask Toks About Clarity
To cap off January's theme of clarity, Toks answers 2 listener questions.  Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
17:17
January 26, 2022
Monday Mantra: January 24 2022
This week I release myself From the pressures of being perfect If I do what’s right and true I will learn as I go And I can pivot as necessary There are lessons in my mistakes And with new information I hold the power to make a new decision I have no shame in my past wrongs Because I am a work in progress And I know I’m making progress Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:09
January 24, 2022
145: About the Importance of Having Clarity in your Relationships
You need to know where you're going; especially in relationships. You should be asking all the questions you need to in order to feel comfortable and clear. Toks gives you 5 clarity questions to ask in any relationship to make sure you're on the same page. What are we in this for (right now)? What are our intended outcomes/Where do you see this going (ideally)? What will make us feel satisfied? What do we need from one another? What are our boundaries? Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
14:56
January 19, 2022
Monday Mantra: January 17 2022
No kind deed I do will ever be in vain Because the fact that I can still be kind is a miracle. I’m healing from my past And I have not allowed it's hurt To remove the parts of me that make me special And that alone is worth celebrating. But to top it off I am confident and sure That in my moments of need I will encounter good people Who will show me the same kindness That I have shown to others. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
01:35
January 17, 2022
144: About Getting Clear on your Finances
You need to have financial clarity this year! When you know what your money is doing, you're able to take your power back and hit your financial goals. In this week's episode of the Toks Talks podcast, Toks walks you step by step through a financial clarity exercise to get a better picture of your financial situation.  40 Easy Savings Plans to Help Reach your Goals in 2022: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRrgdbvtI64&ab_channel=xoReni Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA  www.ToksTalks.com  Follow @ToksTalks on all socials    ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
17:45
January 12, 2022
143: About setting clear goals all 2022
The word for January is Clarity. If you're clear on where you're going, you hold more power to make decisions concerning your life. This week Toks, shares here 3 goal framework and how to set and frame your goals to maximize your chances for success. 3 Types of goals Health Wealth  Stealth  Considerations when creating your goals Make your goals as specific as you need them to be for clarity Frame your goals as if you already have them  Create Domino Goals Take the path of least resistance Have and amazing week! Subscribe to my Youtube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCig96m6QcalH9advYaFTtcA www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my DMs or send me an email at Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
25:22
January 05, 2022
142. About 2021 Audit Pt.4: Are you driven or distracted?
In the final part of the 2021 audit, Toks talks about how slowing down could be the key to picking up the momentum that you want!
11:50
December 29, 2021
141: About 2021 Audit Pt.3: What are you willing to sacrifice?
On the part 3 of the 2021 audit, Toks talks about preparing for the unavoidable sacrifices that come with achieving your goals.
10:30
December 22, 2021
140: About 2021 Audit pt 2: What are you so ashamed of?
On the part 2 of the 2021 audit, Toks talks about the importance of leaving shame behind as we move into 2022.
14:52
December 15, 2021
139: About 2021 Audit: Is what you're doing worth it?
On the first episode of the 2021 audit, Toks talks about the benefit of slowing down and determining the full cost and value of your goals, decisions and commitments before you get into them.
23:02
December 08, 2021
138: About Projection: Why you should make your own decisions and mistakes
In this episode Toks talks about why it's important to walk you own path and make your own mistakes in life
15:10
December 01, 2021
137: About Managing Expectations: Stop setting yourself up for heartbreak
In this episode Toks talks about how to properly manage your expectations of others.
13:23
November 24, 2021
136: About LinkedIn Pitching: 7 steps to converting on LinkedIn
In this episode Toks talks about how to strategically pitch your products and services on LinkedIn
21:49
November 17, 2021
135: About Vanity Metrics: Get off the hamster wheel
In this episode Toks talks about the dangers of being wrapped up in vanity metrics and shares some worthy metric suggestions.
19:19
November 10, 2021
134: About Associated Costs: Why I bought a Honda instead of a Benz
In this episode Toks talks about the importance of looking beyond your wants when making a decision.
18:54
November 03, 2021
133: About Unlearning Thin Love: Dating yourself to set a new standard
In week 4 of the unlearning series, Toks Talks about unlearning love that doesn't excite your soul.
19:45
October 27, 2021
132: About Unlearning Scarcity: Picking between 2 good things
In week 3 of the unlearning series, Toks Talks about unlearning scarcity and why you owe it to yourself to live in your abundance.
11:16
October 20, 2021
131: About Unlearning Ambition Guilt: Are you overly ambitious?
In week 2 of the unlearning series, Toks Talks about unlearning the myth that you can be overly ambitious.
11:36
October 13, 2021
130: About Unlearning Explanation: Why no is a complete sentence
In week 1 of the unlearning series, Toks Talks about unlearning the need to explain yourself unnecessarily
11:33
October 06, 2021
129: About Confidence: Do your results back it up?
This week, Toks talks about having true confidence that when tested doesn't crumble.
15:23
September 29, 2021
128: About Happiness: Check your success metric
This week, Toks talks about why you can seemingly have it all and yet still not be happy and what to do about it.
09:56
September 22, 2021
127: About Questions: How to embrace tough questions
This week, Toks talks about her love of questions from the right people and how to audit your instinctual reaction to tough questions.
14:28
September 15, 2021
126: About the small things: Finding clarity in small steps
This week, Toks talks about how the little, consistent steps lead to the greatest clarity on your journey.
11:22
September 08, 2021
125: About Wise Council: The importance of having VIPs
In this episode, Toks talks about the benefit having people to look up to in all aspects of your life.
14:55
September 01, 2021
124: About Fake Humility: You're only hurting yourself
In this episode, Toks talks about why minimizing your emotions can be detrimental to all parts of your life.
15:44
August 25, 2021
123: About Clarity: Why I'm shutting down part of my business
In this episode, Toks explains why she's shutting down the personal coaching arm of her business...for now.
17:59
August 18, 2021
122: About Clarity: Why I turned down a 6 figure contract
In this episode, Toks talks about how clarity of vision and purpose led her to turn down a 6 figure opportunity.
17:59
August 11, 2021
121: About Divine Ideas: The importance of asking for help
In this episode, Toks talks about divine ideas and why it is important to tap back into the source when working through them.
12:57
August 04, 2021
120: About Feeling Stuck: What's in your hands?
In this episode, Toks talks about dealing with the feelings of stagnation by looking at the things you already possess first.
11:04
July 28, 2021
119: About What it Looks Like: What is your vision?
In this episode, Toks talks about the importance of identifying what the things that you want look like to you. It's time to have clarity of vision friend!
17:46
July 21, 2021
118: About Thinking vs. Knowing: The importance of moving in bold confidence
In this episode, Toks talks about how a conversation rocked her perspective of what she really wanted out of life.
22:10
July 14, 2021
117: About Good vs. Right: How to make the best decision for you
In this episode, Toks talks about the difference between what's good for you and what's right for you.
18:41
July 07, 2021
116: About Respect: Allow everyone to take their own path
In this episode, Toks talks about the importance of letting people take their journey at the right time on the path.
17:01
June 30, 2021
115: About Self Confidence: How to have confidence in your own capabilities
In this episode, Toks talks about the importance of being your own expert when it comes to your capabilities and talents.
26:50
June 23, 2021
114: About 9 for 29: The 9 lessons I've learned this past year
In this episode, Toks celebrates her birthday by sharing the top 9 lessons she's learned this year. 1.Ask for what you need 2.Surround yourself with forward-minded people (not always like minded) 3.Step back and see the full picture  4.Love your body for it’s function when you can’t appreciate the Esthetics  5.Apply consistant pressure 6.Believing is seeing  7.Clarity comes after obedience  8.Accept people (or not) for who they are now 8b.Say no with your chest 9.What’s meant for you will never miss you  Download the free Mind Spirit & Body Journaling Exercise here https://mailchi.mp/c33e418541c7/mind-spirit-body-journal www.tme.solutions www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Its.tokstalks@gmail.com! 
28:07
June 16, 2021
113: About Frustration: Stop trying to control everything
this episode, Toks talks about the they ways that fear and lack of control lead to our frustration with others and how to free yourself of it.
23:56
June 09, 2021
112: About Losing Faith: for when your prayers don’t get answered
In this episode, Toks talks about how to deal with the pain of when your prayers go unanswered.
32:36
June 02, 2021
111: About Words: Effective Communication is Key
In this episode, Toks talks about the importance of delivery when communicating ideas.
24:05
May 26, 2021
110: About Starting Over: Do you have to wait?
In this episode, Toks shares her recent liberation on starting over when you fall off the bandwagon.
18:20
May 19, 2021
109: About Kindness: Do not take my kindness for weakness
In this episode, Toks shares her belief that there is no such things as having too much of a good virtue.
25:26
May 12, 2021
108: About Pain: When you do the right thing and it doesn't feel good
In this episode, Toks talks about the pain that you feel after you make the right decision.  The Words to Live by this week are Feeling bad doesn't make me a bad person. Have a Great Week! Download the free Mind Spirit & Body Journaling Exercise here https://mailchi.mp/c33e418541c7/mind-spirit-body-journal www.tme.solutions www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all socials  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Its.tokstalks@gmail.com! 
22:18
May 05, 2021
107: About Self Preservation: Is self preservation a good thing?
In this episode, Toks retracts her opinions about self preservation. She explains the similarities between self preservation and risk aversion. Toks offers examples of what self preservation can look like in our lives and offers tips on honest self evaluation.
22:32
April 28, 2021
Mini Mindshift: Who said that?
Where do those negative thoughts that you've been internalizing come from? It's time to let them go!
04:57
April 26, 2021
106: About Staying in your Lane: How to live a purpose driven life
In this episode, Toks talks about the importance of focusing on your purpose and journey. Comparison is not only the thief of joy, but also a heavy burden that will leave you feeling overwhelmed and unhappy.
16:49
April 21, 2021
Mini Mindshift: Who do you think you are?
Never get down when people ask you who do you think you are. It really has more to do with them than it does you.
04:35
April 19, 2021
105: About Mind Body Spirit: How to have a practical faith transformation
In this episode, Toks talks about the Mind Body and Spirit trinity as it relates to getting back to your centre using practical faith. Toks breaks down the importance of each part of the trinity and shares her tried and tested Mind Spirit & Body journaling exercise.
20:47
April 14, 2021
104: About Self Love: How to love yourself right now as you work towards better
In this episode, Toks talks about the importance of loving, appreciating and celebrating yourself where you are right now and not hoarding your joy until you reach your perceived target.
19:42
April 07, 2021
103: About Coaching: 6 Considerations if you want to become a coach
In the third and final instalment of the 3 part coaching series, Toks talks about 6 important considerations if you're thinking of starting your own coaching practice.
31:01
March 31, 2021
102: About Coaching: Listen to this before you hire a business coach
This week is part 2 of the series on coaching. Toks talks about what consider when you're looking to hire a business coach.
27:56
March 24, 2021
101: About Coaching: Listen to this before you hire a life coach
This week, the Toks begins her 3 part series on coaching. She starts talks about life coaching and what to look for when hiring a life coach
25:07
March 17, 2021
100: About Vulnerability: What I've learned from podcasting for 100 week straight
This week, the Toks Talks Podcast hits 100 episodes! Toks walks about her journey podcasting and how being vulnerable has helped her gain the courage to hit this milestone.
25:49
March 10, 2021
99: About Journaling: Journaling for mental health
This week, Toks talks about one of her favourite things to do, journaling!! She discussed the benefits of journaling for mental health and all the different types of ways to journal.
28:44
March 03, 2021
98: About Quitting: Knowing when to walk away
This week, Toks talks about redefining the concept of being a quitting. Knowing when to walk away from a situation that is no longer serving you is essential to making room for growth.
29:23
February 24, 2021
97: About Wise Men: How to build a community
This week, Toks talks about the importance of having a tribe of trusted individuals around you.
23:10
February 17, 2021
96: About Mango Trees: For when you feel unappreciated
This week, Toks talks about an analogy she heard about mango trees and how they relate to what we go through when we're doing amazing work but feeling under-appreciated.
23:54
February 10, 2021
95: About Self Rejection: How to deal with low self esteem
This week, Toks talks about self rejection and the importance of not counting ourselves unworthy, especially when other people are more than happy to do it for us.
26:03
February 03, 2021
94: About Drinking the Kool-Aid: How to gain self confidence
This week, Toks talks about believing in yourself enough that other people can too. Based on her experiences this week with purchasing copies of her book and enrolling in Marie Forleo's B-School, Toks breaks down the importance having true, well rounded confidence in our abilities and how that will be shown in the actions that we take....and also don't take.
24:05
January 27, 2021
93: About Robbery: Stealing information and stealing resources
This week, Toks gives a lecture on the importance ensuring that we get our information, insight and resources to the audience that they are meant to help.
25:37
January 20, 2021
92: About Persistence: Am I insane or am I faithful
This week, Toks adds a much needed adjustment to the common phrase 'Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.'
26:17
January 13, 2021
91: About Discretion & Discernment: Out of season mangoes
Inspired by her recent purchase of uninspiring mangos, Toks talks about the importance of knowing what our needs and wants are when dealing with a situation.
23:24
January 06, 2021
90: About 2021 Preparation Pt.5: It's time to stop being lukewarm
In this episode, Toks gets into the fifth and final instalment of the 2021 Preparation series by talking about the difficulties that come when you want to be lukewarm and great at the same time.
27:43
December 30, 2020
89: About 2021 Preparation Pt.4: Ridding yourself of the residue of 2020
In this episode, Toks gets into the fourth instalment of the 2021 Preparation series by talking about the importance of ridding yourself of mental and emotional residue from past experiences. She offers examples and walks you through a residue removal exercise.
22:49
December 23, 2020
88: About 2021 Preparation Pt.3: Redefining your metrics for success
In this episode, Toks gets into the third part of the 2021 Preparation series by talking about the importance what metric you use to measure your successes and goals. She shares tips on how to identify your personal metrics.
23:15
December 16, 2020
87: About 2021 Preparation Pt.2: Do you have a business or do you have a hobby?
In this episode, Toks gets into the second part of the 2021 Preparation series by talking about the difference between a hobby and a business or side hustle. She shares tips on how to notice the differences and advice on what to do with that information.
20:05
December 09, 2020
86: About 2021 Preparation: Taking an audit of 2020
In this episode, Toks Talks starts her 2021 Preparation series off with an audit of 2020. She discusses the importance of not sweeping 2020 under the rug and the importance that will play in our 2021 goals.
26:45
December 02, 2020
85: About Fostered Confidence: Wholeness is an inside job
In this episode, Toks Talks about the the importance of bringing back in house the fundamental emotions that make us whole. She discusses what fostering out our emotions into the custody of others looks like and offers tips on how to bring them back home.
32:28
November 25, 2020
84: About Excitement & Commitment: What to do when the butterflies die
In this episode, Toks Talks about the difference between excitement and commitment and how each offer fuel for a different destination.
24:58
November 18, 2020
83: About Now vs. Later: Do you want great or do you want to dictate?
In this episode, Toks Talks about getting what you want now vs getting it later and the trade offs we make when we wait for great. She goes over some common now vs. later trade offs and offers 3 tips to help keep motivated on your choice.
31:45
November 11, 2020
82: About Gifts & Callings: What is the difference between a gift and a calling?
In this episode, Toks Talks about Gifts & Callings. She explains what the difference is between a gift and calling and breaks down some common confusions regarding the two.
26:02
November 05, 2020
81: About The Wait: 5 steps to actively wait for your breakthrough
In this episode, Toks Talks about the wait. She explains what it means to actively wait and offers 5 steps to help you on the journey
34:54
October 28, 2020
80: About Shame Fear & Guilt: How to take control of emotional strongholds
In this episode, Toks Talks about shame fear & guilt. She explains the difference between experiencing the three as emotions vs as spirts that take the drivers seat in how you live your life.
39:02
October 21, 2020
79: About Submission: A 3 point formula to healthy submission
In this episode, Toks Talks about submission. After Jeannie Mai said that she plans to be submissive to Jeezy in marriage, the discussion of submission and the many opinions surrounding it were raised.
39:17
October 14, 2020
78: About The Process: 6 Practical Steps to Achieving your Goals
In this episode, Toks Talks about the one year anniversary of her book Through my Brown Eyes available on amazon. In reflecting on the accomplishment, she breaks down the 6 steps that it took her to achieve the goal.
30:10
October 07, 2020
77: About Failure: Taking negative information and making new decisions
In this episode, Toks Talks about failure and the importance of looking at it instead as information.
25:22
September 30, 2020
76: About Self Awareness-Self acceptance
In this episode, Toks Talks about self awareness and the importance of really knowing and accepting yourself.
29:31
September 23, 2020
75: About Questions and Answers: Let's get deep in it
In this episode, Toks answers all your questions!
39:57
September 16, 2020
74: About Defence Mechanisms: 5 effective alternatives to your regular language
In this episode, Toks Talks about defence mechanisms. She breaks down common phrases that are used too often and offers alternative phases that are beneficial to us all.
32:07
September 09, 2020
73: About Kindness: 5 Reasons why being kind is to your benefit
In this episode, Toks Talks about kindness. The unexpected death of Chadwick Boseman has many people regretting their hash jokes about his appearance over the past year or so.
23:02
September 02, 2020
72: About The Journey: Don't Worry, You've Got This
In this episode, Toks Talks about the journey. She offers advice and encouragement to help you trust the process to greatness.
26:17
August 26, 2020
71: About Self Talk: Watch Your Mouth, It's Powerful
In this episode, Toks Talks about Self Talk. What is your inner story? What you say becomes the truth so it's best to know where it's coming from. The Words to Live by this week are 'What I think it will be, it will be.' What are some stories that you tell yourself that you can change?  Have a great week! Get your copy of Through My Brown Eyes today! https://www.tokstalks.com/shop www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
32:45
August 19, 2020
70: About Unrealistic Expectations: Stop Setting Yourself Up For Failure
In this episode, Toks Talks about Unrealistic expectations. Let's try and be realistic with what we want so that we avoid disappointment, premature quitting and unnecessary failure.
37:06
August 12, 2020
69: About High Functioning Brokenness: 5 tips to heal & move on from the past
In this episode, Toks Talks about High Functioning Brokenness. Just because you can get out of bed and do what needs to be done, doesn't mean that you should neglect true healing.
36:28
August 05, 2020
68: About Post Traumatic Growth Pt2: Going from Survival Mode to Triumphant
In this episode, Toks Talks about Post Traumatic Growth. Going from victim to survivor is not the end of the journey, the Triumphant Phase is where you experience true and whole growth and healing.
37:60
July 29, 2020
67: About Self Perception: The importance of knowing your value
In this episode, Toks Talks about Self Perception. How we see the value of ourselves and our work is important so that we get what we deserve.
28:13
July 22, 2020
66: About Perfection: Stop Sugar Coating your Procrastination & Fear
In this episode, Toks Talks about perfection. perfection isn't realistic to strive for and doings so can be crippling and counter productive to your goals.
33:37
July 15, 2020
65: About Opportunities: Kanye for President & Shooting your Shot
In this episode, Toks Talks about the importance of going for all opportunities. Inspired by Kanye West's presidential announcement, Toks offers 5 tips to help making it easier when shooting your lofty shots.
33:17
July 08, 2020
64: About Strength REWIND: Stop missing leg day...it's showing
In this episode, Toks talks about strength. Rooted in a scripture she read, Toks breaks down the importance of not allowing our focus on strengthening certain areas of our lives to allow other important parts to weaken.
33:35
July 01, 2020
63: About Emotional Regression: Why do I still feel this way?
In this episode, Toks Talks about the struggles of emotional regression. Putting in all the work to get to a healthy emotional space can feel like wasted time when a trigger takes you back to square one.
29:39
June 24, 2020
62: About 28: 8 Lessons I learned this past year
In this episode, Toks celebrates her 28th birthday by sharing the 8 most important lessons she learned this year. The Words to Live by this week are 'Better Still Remains.' Take time to this week to look back on how far you've come as a source of hope for how much more you'll achieve. 8 Lessons I've learned this past year: 1. Be nice not naive 2. I don't owe anyone my peace of mind 3. Don't feel guilty for the good in your life 4. I don't want anything that's not mine 5. Pick a side, you're leaning towards one anyway 6. Genius and creativity come in whispers, listening closely 7. If I don't believe in it fully, it's probably not worth my time 8. Prune often-Cut dead ends, ideas, and relationships Have a great week! Get your copy of Through My Brown Eyes today! https://www.tokstalks.com/shop www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Its.tokstalks@gmail.com!
33:46
June 17, 2020
61: About Boundaries: How to set boundaries
In this episode, Toks Talks about the importance of creating and enforcing personal boundaries.
27:28
June 10, 2020
60: About Self Care: Protecting your mental health
In this episode, Toks offers tips for prioritizing your mental health when dealing with trauma.
32:27
June 03, 2020
A 5 Minute Mindshift on Fear
Welcome to the 5 Minute Mindshift, an occasional episode geared toward offering you a fresh perspective to help keep you on your path to success.
05:20
June 01, 2020
59: About Podcasting: Should I start a podcast & Joe Rogan's Spotify deal
In this episode, Toks offers tips and considerations when deciding if you want to start a podcast
38:55
May 27, 2020
58: About Self Forgiveness: How to move on from your past mistakes
In this episode, Toks talks about forgiving yourself of past wrongs.
30:49
May 20, 2020
57: About Plateaus: How to get back on an upward trajectory
In this episode, Toks talks about getting yourself out of a plateau in your personal life, relationship or business.
28:21
May 13, 2020
56: About Patience: How to know if it's worth the wait
In this episode, Toks talks about the complexities of patience.
29:18
May 06, 2020
55: About Pedestals: The difficulties of idolization and perfection
In this episode, Toks talks about the negative outcomes of putting someone on a pedestal
33:08
April 29, 2020
54: About Entrepreneurship: Should you quit your 9-5?
In this episode, Toks talks about the 5 most important tips that have helped her in entrepreneurship.
31:39
April 22, 2020
53: About Personal Liberation: Learning from hindsight
In this episode, Toks talks about how to learn and improve from negative past situations.
33:11
April 15, 2020
A 5 Minute Mindshift on Pivoting
Welcome to the 5 Minute Mindshift, an occasional episode geared toward offering you a fresh perspective to help keep you on your path to success. This Mindshift is on Pivoting
05:34
April 13, 2020
52: About Consistency: How to keep pushing when it gets difficult
In this episode, Toks talks about the benefits of remaining consistent in whatever you're doing.
36:38
April 08, 2020
51: About Authenticity: What is the benefit of forging a unique path?
In this episode, Toks talks about remaining authentic when there is so much information and inspiration available.
38:28
April 01, 2020
50: About Mass Hysteria: Maximizing the silver lining during strange times
In this episode, Toks talks about Mass Hysteria over COVID-19. She discusses the silver linings and how to find positivity in the midst of all the confusion and fear.
42:30
March 25, 2020
49: About Mass Hysteria: How do I do better and ease anxiety?
In this episode, Toks talks about Mass Hysteria over COVID-19. She discusses the sad and socially inconsiderate behaviours that have been happening during the pandemic. She also offers 3 traits to exhibit to help ease the anxiety and find peace of mind in these strange times. The Words to Live by this week are 'Is this rational?' In times like these we need to take a step back and think before we act in the abundance of all our emotions. Have a great week! Get your copy of Through My Brown Eyes today! https://www.tokstalks.com/shop www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
38:23
March 18, 2020
48: About Confidence: The difference between Self Esteem and Self Worth
In this episode, Toks talks about Confidence. She discusses the difference between self worth and self esteem and how they effect us in relationships. The Words to Live by this week are 'I'm taking myself off the clearance rack.' We are too valuable to allow people to get access to us at such a low cost. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! https://www.tokstalks.com/shop www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
35:55
March 11, 2020
47: About Too Much: Only Too Much For You- A self empowerment movement
In this episode, Toks talks about Too Much. She discusses the notion of being woman being 'Too Much' and introduces her Only Too Much For You Movement. The Words to Live by this week are 'I'm Only Too Much For You.' You're abundance will never be too much for the right people! Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
31:56
March 04, 2020
46: About No New Friends: Are your day ones enough for success?
In this episode, Toks talks about No New Friends. She discusses the term made popular by Drake and how new friends are sometimes a necessity for new levels and environments. The Words to Live by this week are 'It's Okay to Not Carry Everyone." When success comes, the guilt of not being able to do for everyone around you becomes a real and daunting situation. The burden we carry because of this is often a heavier load than we need to. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
29:28
February 26, 2020
45: About Multi-Talents: Can I do it all if I'm good at it all?
In this episode, Toks talks about Multi-talents. Using Rihanna as a case study, she discusses the pull that come with having multiple talents and the difficulties that come when you deviate from the first talent that is publicly recognized. The Words to Live by this week are 'My best is only too much for small minded people." Walk in your abundance regardless of how people react to it! Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
35:25
February 19, 2020
44: About Gayle King: protecting black woman & bias cancel culture
In this episode, Toks talks about Gayle King. She discusses the line that was crossed when Snoop Dog went from justified criticism of her interview with Lisa Leslie into physical insults and threats. From there, Toks moves into an analysis of the the way cancel culture only holds in for certain individuals and the lack of protection for black women in media. The Words to Live by this week are 'If you were to think about it, could you live with it'? Let's make decisions that we can really live with instead of ones we have to avoid. Have a great week! Self Check Questions: What are you fighting for and are you fighting fair? Who do you defend and who do you destroy? Do the punishments fit the crimes and who is most disproportionately affected? Are standing on our morals and ethics or on our preferences? Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 www.ToksTalks.com Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
48:34
February 12, 2020
43: About Black Mental Health: Distorting the stigma & changing the narrative
In this episode, Toks talks about Black Mental Health. She discusses the stigma around metal health and debunks some common phrases and justifications. The Words to Live by this week are 'I'm better when I'm better.' When we are at our best, we can be the best for those around us. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
36:16
February 05, 2020
42: About Reciprocity: Do we always reap what we sow?
In this episode, Toks talks about reciprocity. She discusses the frustrations with putting in effort and receiving less than par in exchange, while offering some positive aspects to consider. The Words to Live by this week are 'Reciprocity isn't always linear.' When we do good things for someone and they don't return the favour, it's important to always keep in mind that they our good can come from other sources. So keep going, keep giving in your abundance! Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
36:36
January 29, 2020
41: About FOMO: Are you really missing out?
In this episode, Toks talks about Fear of missing out. She discusses FOMO pressures and four things they will have you doing that aren't beneficial. The Words to Live by this week are 'Not all successes are instagrammable.' It's important to measure successes with the right tools, and sometime social media engagements are not that!  Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media  ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
36:44
January 22, 2020
40: About Healing: The struggles of the healing process
In this episode, Toks talks about Healing. She talks about some of the important and unexpected parts of the healing process. The Words to Live by this week are 'a setback on my journey doesn't mean I'm off track.' Ups and downs are a natural and normal part of any journey we take so it's important to remember that a bump in the road doesn't change the fact that you've made so much ground. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
34:38
January 15, 2020
39: About Imposter Syndrome: Do you really deserve to be there?
In this episode, Toks talks about Imposter Syndrome. Feelings of inadequacy are quite common so Toks gives tips on how to notice it and how to overcome it. The Words to Live by this week are 'People have more than me, people have less than me, but people are not me.' When dealing with situations, it's important to remember that no matter how alike we may look with others on paper, we each have a unique You Factor. This is why there is no use in playing the comparison game. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
34:33
January 08, 2020
38: About Pace 2020: How do I set myself for the marathon ahead?
Happy New Year!! In this episode, Toks talks about Pace 2020. She talks about the importance of pace in ensuring the success of your resolutions and offers a tips on how to create a realistic pace for yourself. The Words to Live by this week are 'how much work can you actually put in?' When it comes to what we want, half the battle is figuring out how much work you can realistically do to accomplish that goal. Being honest with yourself will set you up for success! Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
30:26
January 01, 2020
37: About Post Traumatic Growth: A review of 2019
In this episode, Toks talks about Post Traumatic Growth. She breaks down 2019 and how a negative start to the year coupled with the right mindset ultimately lead to a positive ending. The Words to Live by this week are 'are you happy?' Life gets very routine and it's important to take a step back and ask yourself if you're truly happy with all aspects of the life you're living. If not, maybe it's time to reassess some things. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
47:21
December 26, 2019
36: About 10 For 10: Ten lessons for the decade
In this episode, Toks talks about 10 for 10. As we come to the end of a decade, Toks shares the top 10 lessons that have shaped who she is today. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
36:23
December 18, 2019
35: About Cages: How are you stunting your growth?
In this episode, Toks talks about Cages. It's time to become aware of the confines that are stunting our growth and do something about them. The Words to Live by this week are 'When it's time to go, go in faith.' Waiting for ideal conditions, comfort or safety will have us waiting a long time to get out of our cages, have faith and move! Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
38:09
December 11, 2019
34: About Celebration: Is it arrogant to celebrate yourself?
In this episode, Toks talks about Celebration. As the year comes to a close, most of us will be reflecting on how this year has been and all the great things that have happened. Learning how to celebrate and be celebrated are very important life skills. The Words to Live by this week are 'How you feel and what you feel are not the same thing.' Our feelings sometimes bubble up out of our control, but what we can control is our ability to self reflect and determine the actual reasons motivating what we feel. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
35:40
December 04, 2019
33: About Social Anxiety: Summer Walker & black woman's mental health
In this episode, Toks talks about Social Anxiety. Inspired by the bravery and back lash regarding Summer Walker, Toks discusses the narrative around mental health and black women. The Words to Live by this week are 'When it's time to jump, don't flinch.' Hesitation brought on by self doubt has become one of the major reasons for unnecessary delay. Listen to your gut, and make that move! Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
35:31
November 27, 2019
32: About Rest: The other four letter word
In this episode, Toks talks about Rest. Our society has turned rest into a 4 letter when it shouldn't be! Toks breaks down her perspective and lets it be known that she is the president of the sleep when you're tired society. The Words to Live by this week are 'don't weaponize your gifts.' When basking in the greatness of our unique gifts and talents, it's important to remember their power- in particular how they may be oppressing to those who don't have the same ones as us. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Nobel, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
31:04
November 20, 2019
31: About Hymens: T.I. & Female Virginity
In this episode, Toks talks about hymens. Triggered by the recent drama surrounding TI, Toks discusses the issues with policing female bodies and the narrative of female virginity. The Words to Live by this week are 'learn to bump heads without cracking skulls.' Healthy conflict resolution is one of the most import traits to have in our adult lives. Take time this week to look at your relationships and how you deal with conflicts to see if you're handling them in the best way possible. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Indigo! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
33:35
November 13, 2019
30: About Strength: Stop missing leg day
In this episode, Toks talks about strength. Rooted in a scripture she read, Toks breaks down the importance of not allowing lour focus on strengthening certain areas of our lives to allow other important parts to weaken. The Words to Live by this week are 'stop negotiating with your demons.' We need to let go of the dead weight and negative things that we have been holding on to. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon! Get your copy today! Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 USA: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
33:02
November 06, 2019
29: About Willing & Worthy: The equation to a successful relationship
In this episode, Toks talks about Willing & Worthy. She discusses how willingness and worthiness are a necessary duo when creating a successful relationship. The Words to Live by this week are 'Love and stupidity are twins, one is raised by reciprocity and the other by neglect.' In relationship, our actions have a way of shifting from love to stupidity when the relationship fails. Instead of acting because of what we think we will get back, try and act out of the abundance of yourself in a way that will still feel comfortable if it isn't reciprocated. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon! Get your copy today! https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
32:31
October 30, 2019
28: About Riders: Why ride or die mentality endangers young women
In this episode, Toks talks about riders. She shares her thoughts on the ride or die mentality and its dangers to young women. The Words to Live by this week are 'If someone makes you feel small, ask yourself why you gave them power to choose your size.' Our self worth is our personal responsibility and to give that to someone else is very dangerous to our identity. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon! Get your copy today! https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
33:05
October 23, 2019
27: About Winning: Do you have a Local Champion Complex?
In this episode, Toks talks about winning. Coining a new term Local Champion Complex, she breaks down why if you're at the top of your class, you're in the wrong class. The Words to Live by this week are 'Just because I am available does not mean I owe you access to me.' Our space is sacred and because of this, we need to have the confidence to be picky with who we give access to, whether we have time or not. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon! Get your copy today! https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
30:38
October 16, 2019
26: About Competition: Getting ready to win
In this episode, Toks talks about competition. She breaks down why competition is equally internal and external while also giving you tips to keep you ready to win. The Words to Live by this week are 'I will not give ultimatums because I am too worthy to only be chosen as the alternative to a wall. We all deserve to share our space with people who genuinely want to be a part of it, so lets not force people to choose us. Have a great week! Through my Brown Eyes is now available on Amazon! Get your copy today! https://www.amazon.com/Through-Brown-Eyes-Toks-Ayinla/dp/1999220005 Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
32:57
October 09, 2019
25: About Forgiveness: The most selfish act
In this episode, Toks talks about forgiveness. She breaks down why forgiveness is a selfish act and its importance for freeing up space in your heart for what is important. The Words to Live by this week are know when it's time to stay afloat and know when it's time to steer the boat. Have a great week! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
30:13
October 02, 2019
24: About Success: If at first you don't succeed...
In this episode, Toks talks about success. She breaks down the popular quote: if at first you don't succeed, try try again. This quote is transformed from elementary encouragement into an adult life worthy instruction. The Words to Live by this week are Secure the bag before you buy them all. As we are entering into Q4, make sure that you find the right balance of splurging and saving so that you set your future self up to be comfortable too! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media If at first you don't succeed, Get Up Asses Adjust Then Try, Try Again ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
27:21
September 25, 2019
23: About Levels: When do we need to adjust the levels?
In this episode, Toks talks about levels. Feeling the internal push that more is required of her now, she breaks down various 'levels of' traits that fluctuate based on the different seasons you are in. Being self aware of where we are and what is required of us will make it easier to adjust the levels of our characteristics that we need. The Words to Live by this week are Before you take the bate, consider the hook! Make sure you look into all of the fine details of every shiny thing you want to get into. As important as the benefits you can get are the risks involved! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
33:35
September 18, 2019
22: About Work: Do what you love & never work a day in your life?
In this episode, Toks talks about work. She breaks down why 'Love what you do and you'll never work a day in your life' was a lie and offered other things that happen when you do what you love. Entrepreneurship is a journey that is full of work, trials and tribulations no matter how much love and passion you have. The Words to Live by this week are there is nothing wrong with being specific. Knowing exactly what you want is not a bad thing at all and actually helps make it easier to game plan and accomplish goals! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
29:21
September 11, 2019
21: About Statistics: Are you in the 1 percent?
In this episode, Toks talks about statistics. When it comes to stats, you need to associate yourself with the positive side, no matter how low of a percentage it is! The Words to Live by this week are you don't need an answer, you need peace. We are in control of our emotions and to put them into the hands of others through what we expect from is dangerous. Decide that you are going to give yourself peace regardless of what anyone does to you. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
27:47
September 04, 2019
20: About Mindset: How what you think affects what you do
In this episode, Toks talks about your mindset. Our lives are limited by what we think we can or cannot do. When we decide to expand our thoughts about our abilities beyond what we can physically comprehend, the world opens up doors that we could have never imagined. The Words to Live by this week are understand your relationships. Each person in our life serves a unique purpose and role to us and the sooner you understand what that is, the easier it will be for you to understand how to utilize them. Take some time this week to see if you're utilizing your tribe members in the best way for their personality. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
29:52
August 28, 2019
19: About Social Limits: Recognizing and operating in your emotional threshold
In this episode, Toks talks about social limits. Our social limit is our personal threshold for being in social situations. Understanding what our social limit will make it much easier for us to know how to manoeuvre wherever we find ourselves. The Words to Live by this week are learn when to hold that thought. As important as knowing the right thing to say is knowing when you shouldn't say anything at all! Our opinions aren't always needed and understanding when it isn't is an important part of adulting right. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
22:09
August 21, 2019
18: About Growing: The pains of transitioning into You 2.0
In this episode, Toks talks about growing pains. Elevating ourselves and entering into who we're growing into is a battle on all fronts. Toks offers advice on how to deal with the pains and make the best of the transition into you 2.0. The Words to Live by this week are find and utilize your wise men. We all have amazing people around us who can be very useful resources in times of trouble. Figure out who these people are and integrate them into your life- especially in your decision making. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
29:36
August 14, 2019
17: About Gifts: How to best utilize what you're born with
In this episode, Toks talks about our God given gifts. Each of us is born with gifts and talents that come quite easily to us, sometimes so easy that we don't even realize how special they actually are. Toks dives into some thoughts to consider when realizing with how to best utilize and maximize your gifts. The Words to Live by this week are Do what you're supposed to do, Regardless. It's very easy to find valid reasons (excuses) not the do what needs to be done in your life, so this week I encourage you all to push past the excuses and do what you need to do, regardless! Intentionally striving to reach your full potential will reveal a level of satisfaction and accomplishment that will blow your mind! Have a great week! Please follow this link if you want to donate towards MASTAB Prep School in Accra, Ghana! https://www.gofundme.com/wordspoken Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
29:40
August 07, 2019
16: About Inventory: Are you utilizing all the tools you possess?
In this episode, Toks talks about Inventory. We all have a backroom of tools that we have at our disposal, if we remember to pull them out. Toks talks about talents and people as two types of inventory that we all have available to us. The Words to Live by this week are You don't have to explain your value. We have the power of determining our value and if someone decides not to see it, that is their loss. You need to know your worth and operate from that space always! Have a great week! Please follow this link if you want to donate towards MASTAB Prep School in Accra, Ghana! https://www.gofundme.com/wordspoken Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
25:56
July 31, 2019
15: About Energy: How is what you're surrounded by affecting you?
In this episode, Toks talks about Energy. Our energy we surround ourself with is of the utmost importance in determining how we function. The Words to Live by this week are Do Everything in YOUR Power. When it comes to dealing with situations with the least amount of stress and regret possible, do everything that you can and leave the rest. We can only account for ourselves and once you're sure that you've done that, you're good!! Have a great week! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
23:27
July 24, 2019
14: About Alcohol: A beverage based character analysis
In this episode, Toks talks about Alcohol. She created a personality scale based off of alcohol traits. The Words to Live by this week are Stop Classifying Toxic Habits as Character Traits. Let's try and understand the negative habits that have been with us so long that we classify them as 'who we are' Our habits can be changed and the sooner we realize that, the better off we will be. Have a great week! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
19:12
July 17, 2019
13: About Time: Why do I feel this pressure to rush?
In this episode, Toks talks about Time. Each of us is in our own unique time zone and the sooner we realize it, the easier it will be to work towards our goals. The Words to Live by this week are Don't Compromise your Identity. When it comes to dealing with people, it is important to find common ground as often as possible. With that being said, if finding common ground causes you to lose yourself, it may not be worth it. Have a great week! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
15:54
July 10, 2019
12: About Waiting: Sometimes you just need to make moves
In this episode, Toks talks about waiting. Waiting when you should be taking action towards whatever you want in life can cause avoidable delays. Toks gives 3 situations that you shouldn't wait for when making moves! The Words to Live by this week are you're on your way. Find little ways to continue to push towards your goals. If you're not moving forward, you're moving back so continue the journey! Have a great week! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
27:50
July 03, 2019
11: About Preparation: If you get it now...are you ready?
In this episode, Toks talks about Preparation. Having goals that we want to reach is amazing, but are you prepared to sustain when you get to where you want to be? Toks discusses Money Marriage and High Positions, offering some preparation tips to consider on our paths to greatness. So... the word of the week is now Words to Live by and this week it is Almost Doesn't Count. Let's try and be people who actually accomplish our goals instead of being stuck on talking about all of our almosts. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
29:20
June 26, 2019
10: About 27: life changing lessons of this past year
In this episode, Toks talks about turning 27 and the top 7 lessons she learned it the past year. 1. It's okay to crumble 2. Share your feelings 3. Say No...period 4. Whatever you focus on will magnify 5. You don't know until you're in it 6. Maintain your integrity 7. Be critical of yourself Since these are words of the year, there is no need to have a word of the week. We will be back to our regular schedule next Wednesday! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
23:17
June 19, 2019
9: About Blame: Are you triggered or targeted?
In this episode, Toks talks about being blame. Learning the difference between being triggered vs. targeted will save us all from unrealistic expectations and unnecessary conflict. The word of the week is What do you Prioritize? Are the things you put on the back burner the things that should be at the front of the line? Talk some time to align your priorities with your actions. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
25:53
June 12, 2019
8: About Honesty: How to make sure your message is properly received
In this episode, Toks talks about being honest with the people in our lives, and how to do it in a way that allows the message to be delivered and received properly. The word of the week is Rediscover your Joy. Lets take time this week to find the things that make us light up on the inside and bring them back to the forefront. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
21:49
June 05, 2019
7: About Trauma: How to overcome childhood trauma in adulthood
In this episode, Toks talks about childhood trauma, and how to deal with them so they don't hinder our adulthood. The word of the week is Don't Shrink. The fullness that you posses was put into you for a reason! Let's live in our abundance and stop making ourselves small to make other people feel comfortable. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
23:29
May 29, 2019
6: About Abortions: Legislation and control over our bodies
In this episode, Toks talks about the abortion ban and her opinions on people minding bodies that aren't theres. No matter how strongly we feel about our convictions, we need to know when we are overstepping. The word of the week is Pay your Character Debts. Is there anyone that you owe an apology, some time, or a call? Try and find a way this week to balance out what you owe! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
36:50
May 22, 2019
5: About Bridges: When to burn them & when to keep them
In this episode, Toks talks about bridges. Some bridges need to be burned and she gives you advice on how to determine which ones. The weekly word is Maintain Your Level. Let's try our best to not let our petty bones control our behaviour! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media -Facebook Instagram and Twitter ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
17:43
May 15, 2019
4: About Validation: Who gives it & where is it coming from?
In this episode, Toks talks about validation and the fact that who you get it from is the most important aspect. The weekly word is Do Your Best Everyday so take time each morning to be intentional about what you want to accomplish for the day. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media -Facebook Instagram and Twitter ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
16:07
May 08, 2019
3: About Movement: Why direction is more important than movement
In this episode, Toks talks about movement, and how not all action is good action. The weekly word is Appreciate the doors so take some time this week to reflect on all of the doors that you have encountered in your life up to this moment and how they have shaped who you have become and are becoming. For all of your event planning needs in the GTA, be sure to check out www.temsdelightevents.com and follow her on instagram @TemsDelightEvents- tell her Toks sent you :) Follow @ToksTalks on all social media -Facebook Instagram and Twitter ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
21:40
May 01, 2019
2: About Centres: Finding and maintaining your emotional equilibrium
In this episode, Toks talks about emotional centres, offering advice on how to cope when you are out of them, and how to get back into them. The weekly word is Co-sign Yourself so make sure that your confidence in yourself is strong enough to withstand the disappointment of not having anyone else see your vision the way you do. Follow @ToksTalks on all social media -Facebook Instagram and Twitter ***Have any questions or anything you think I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
07:32
April 25, 2019
1: About: Introductions
Welcome to the first Episode of Toks Talks! In this episode, Toks talks about introductions and offers a few tips on how to deal with them. The weekly word is Release the Wheel so try and find some ways to loosen your grips! Follow @ToksTalks on all social media -Facebook Instagram and Twitter ***Have any questions or thoughts on what I should talk about? Slide into my instagram DMs @ToksTalks or send me an email Toksayinla@gmail.com!
12:39
April 16, 2019