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Purposely Thriving Podcast

Purposely Thriving Podcast

By Tonya Carter

The Purposely Thriving Podcast is designed to help individuals navigate the journey of their divorce/breakup with intention so that they are empowered & confident in cultivating a "life after" that embodies freedom & fulfillment. Join Relationship Exit Strategist & podcast host Tonya Carter as she provides tangible advice by focusing on essential areas such as mindset, emotions, finances, health, faith, love, parenting and relationships. These weekly conversations, solo insights & astounding guest interviews will help you elevate & evolve personally and professionally in your next chapter.
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72. You Cannot "Save" Everyone w/ Johnetta Middleton

Purposely Thriving PodcastDec 27, 2021

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Re-Aired Episode! Post-Divorce/Breakup Healing: 3 Essential Inner Work Practices
Mar 20, 202425:15
Re-Aired Episode! Trailblazing Forward: 3 Important Things to Remember After Divorce/Breakup
Mar 13, 202426:23
162. Choosing Myself in Divorce: A Journey of Parenting Four Kids, One with Autism, While Being a Caregiver and Managing Two Jobs w/ Kaysha Griffin
Mar 06, 202401:27:39
161. Being Misaligned In My Marriage, Breaking Free of People Pleasing, & Becoming Liberated from Perfectionism w/ Jernise Young

161. Being Misaligned In My Marriage, Breaking Free of People Pleasing, & Becoming Liberated from Perfectionism w/ Jernise Young

Feb 28, 202401:09:28
160. Thriving Beyond Divorce: 3 Key Insights
Feb 21, 202422:48
159. Your "Single" Season: 4 Essential Pieces of Advice
Feb 14, 202422:25
158. Navigating Valentine's Day After a Divorce/Breakup: 5 Helpful Tips
Feb 07, 202421:13
157. Why Women Initiate Divorce More: My Top Four Observations
Feb 01, 202428:02
156. Strategic Endings: 3 Crucial Questions to Ask
Jan 25, 202424:03
155. A Year From Now: 3 Questions For Moving On After Divorce/Breakup
Jan 17, 202425:14
154. Navigating the Holidays After Divorce: 5 Essential Tips for Parents
Dec 06, 202324:43
Re-Aired Episode! "Three Approaches of Being Thankful In a Season of Uncertainty"
Nov 22, 202322:14
Re-Aired Episode! "Overcoming Tiredness After Divorce: Three Transitioning Tactics"
Nov 15, 202322:42
153. Overcoming the Feeling of Failure After Divorce: Three Key Reminders to Move Forward
Nov 08, 202321:33
152. T.H.R.I.V.E & Date With Purpose After Divorce - Podcast Interview w/ Sade Curry of Dating After Divorce Podcast
Nov 01, 202356:46
Re-Aired Episode! "Five Relationship Types to Stay Away From"

Re-Aired Episode! "Five Relationship Types to Stay Away From"

There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of  a relationship.

It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impacts the quality of your life.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five types  of relationships that you should avoid entertaining!

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Oct 25, 202326:50
151. Walking Away Strong: Leaving My Abuser and Reclaiming My Life w/ Janelle Hunt

151. Walking Away Strong: Leaving My Abuser and Reclaiming My Life w/ Janelle Hunt

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month which aims to raise awareness, support survivor's, break the silence and work towards the prevention and elimination of domestic violence in all its forms.

Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, economical, and/or spiritual.

These patterns are designed to manipulate, isolate, frighten, terrorize and hurt someone in ways that will leave lasting scars, both visible and invisible. By the time, the victim has the courage to leave, the after effects such as depression, self-esteem, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress can continue to impact their lives.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a conversation with Janelle Hunt. She shares her personal journey of leaving an abusive relationship after seven years, discussing the importance of forgiveness, the cycle of generational abuse, and practical steps to break free from an abusive partnership.

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Oct 18, 202353:55
150. The Journey To Your Best Self After Divorce/Breakup: Four Key Steps
Oct 12, 202325:44
Re-Aired Episode! "Coping With Relational Hurt and Betrayal: Four Strategies to Recover After Divorce or Breakup"

Re-Aired Episode! "Coping With Relational Hurt and Betrayal: Four Strategies to Recover After Divorce or Breakup"

When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally:‎

• The disbelief and shock of it all

• Your self-esteem gets compromised

• An overwhelm of shame, guilt, and/or self-blame

• Your perception on relationships and people

The impact of feeling betrayed can begin a wave of questions and emotions regarding ‎themselves, the person who betrayed them, and the entire relationship.‎

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give four things you need to do to get past hurt and betrayal

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Oct 04, 202325:47
149. Nurturing Body Confidence: Feeling Safe & Secure In Your Own Skin w/ Jasmyne Reynolds
Sep 27, 202301:19:04
Re-Aired Episode! "Holding On When They're Ready to Let Go"

Re-Aired Episode! "Holding On When They're Ready to Let Go"

What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't?

Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out.

When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue to forward with your life.

In this episode, join me as I discuss what you need to do when you're the person who doesn't want the relationship to be over.

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Sep 20, 202337:45
148. Your Questions Answered: Choosing Self-Care Over Self-Neglect

148. Your Questions Answered: Choosing Self-Care Over Self-Neglect

When it comes to caring for yourself aka "self-care", its significance can easily diminish when it becomes a trendy buzzword and loses its authenticity. However, in its genuine form, self-care serves as a means to honor and demonstrate self-respect, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life.

Frequently, self-care is reduced to a method of "treating oneself," where it causes a person to only indulge in occasional and often costly acts. Yet, the essence of self-care transcends these occasional indulgences. It is a daily practice, a lifestyle that encompasses various aspects of your well-being, from your mental and emotional health to your financial stability, physical wellness, relationships, spirituality, social life, and work or business endeavors.

On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who has developed a level of self-neglect due to an ongoing commitment to caring for others.. In this episode, I will discuss three essential insights regarding around self-care and 21 distinct perspectives on how to perceive self-care differently.

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Sep 13, 202319:26
147. Another Year Wiser: Turning The Page After Divorce/Breakup - 10 Ways To Start Celebrating Life

147. Another Year Wiser: Turning The Page After Divorce/Breakup - 10 Ways To Start Celebrating Life

This past weekend, I celebrated another birthday. Every year, I take a moment to contemplate the various factors that have played a role in my personal growth and development. One significant aspect of this reflection is the notion of celebrating life.

Life frequently presents us with disappointments that lie beyond our control. Often, when our carefully laid plans do not unfold as expected, it can limit our perspective concerning ourselves and our future.

As I've matured over the past eight years, my outlook on life has profoundly shaped my self-perception, which in turn has had a direct influence on my actions and choices.

On this week's podcast, I invite you to join me in exploring my birthday reflections and 10 strategies for celebrating life after experiencing a divorce or breakup.

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Sep 06, 202324:27
146. Your Questions Answered: To Date OR Not To Date at 56?

146. Your Questions Answered: To Date OR Not To Date at 56?

When it comes to dating, specifically after divorce, it involves much more than simply "re-entering the dating scene."

Contrary to what many believe, it takes a lot of courage to step back out in the dating arena when plans to spend the rest of your life with someone has changed.

One of the most complexed and complicated questions is "When will I be ready?". Now although no one can tell you a specific timeframe, a level of personal readiness is essential to approach the dating landscape with greater insight.

On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who currently is 56 and wonders if she should embrace the idea of dating. In this episode, I will address three key aspects to provide clarity to the present challenges surrounding dating that will help assist her in navigating this area of her life.

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Aug 31, 202328:29
Re-Aired Episode! "The Habit of Always Trying to Please People"

Re-Aired Episode! "The Habit of Always Trying to Please People"

When the priority becomes pleasing others at the expense of your own well-being and quality of life, it's likely that you've ingrained a tendency toward being a "people pleaser."

This surpasses mere kindness; it has evolved into a pattern where you modify your true self for the sake of others.

Over time, this persistent need to satisfy others transforms into a self-sacrificial inclination, leading to consequences like compromising your core identity, harboring resentment, experiencing stress, facing burnout, and undermining relationships.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and the major thing you need to do for gain clarity on where this behavior could stem from.

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Aug 23, 202318:60
145. Your Questions Answered: I'm a Woman Who Cheated...How Do I Move On From The Guilt & Regret?

145. Your Questions Answered: I'm a Woman Who Cheated...How Do I Move On From The Guilt & Regret?

When someone in a relationship decides to "step out" it violates the relationship's exclusivity as well as jeopardizes the overall well-being of the relationship.

While public conversations about infidelity often revolve around men, what unfolds when a woman finds herself entangled in such actions? Research indicates that approximately 13% to 15% of women engage in infidelity, driven by motivations distinct from those of men.

In this week podcast, I invite you for a listener's Q&A as we discuss a situation where infidelity was involved on the woman's part and how to move past the pain she cause herself and the person she was in a relationship with. Join me as I discuss 3 things that she must do to navigate the aftermath of this decision.

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Aug 16, 202328:29
144. "Situationships"....Save Yourself The Heartbreak

144. "Situationships"....Save Yourself The Heartbreak

There are many gray areas around entertaining "situationships" a term that is characterized around uncertainty and undefined boundaries. These types of connections can often have a significant impact on individuals both mentally and emotionally. The blurred lines and lack of clear commitment can lead to confusion and unease, potentially causing emotional turmoil.

Although there isn't one "relationship standard" for everyone, it's important to get clear on what works for you and your quality of life.

When you're someone who has difficulty around relational dynamics that lack commitment yet still find themselves entangled in such scenarios, it's important to acknowledge the potential pitfalls that comes with this territory.

On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss the misconceptions around these connections, why people may choose to participate in these relationships even though it leaves them unsettled, as well as four critical questions to ask yourself to help make informed decisions about your emotional well-being and the relationships you invest in.

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Aug 09, 202326:36
Re-Aired Episode! "Managing Trust Issues in a New Relationship"

Re-Aired Episode! "Managing Trust Issues in a New Relationship"

Expressions like "I don't trust anyone," "No one can be trusted," "Loyalty is scarce nowadays," and "Opening up will only lead to pain" may appear straightforward, but beneath their surface lies profound implications that hinder genuine connections, vulnerability, and living authentically. When an individual has experienced betrayal in the past, it can substantially affect their current and future relationships. Although you yearn for meaningful connections, you find it challenging to embrace authenticity. The desire for profound bonding contrasts with a tendency to withdraw from vulnerability.

Now, the question arises: How can someone rebuild trust after it has been shattered? In this episode, I will delve into three essential aspects that can help you begin the journey of regaining trust again.

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Aug 02, 202328:59
143. You Couldn't Have Saved The Marriage All On Your Own
Jul 26, 202322:51
142. Your Ex Is A "Non-Factor" To Your Healing

142. Your Ex Is A "Non-Factor" To Your Healing

Contrary to popular belief, your "ex" holds minimal relevance to your journey of moving forward.

Too much credit is given to someone who no longer holds the same level of significance in your life and when that's the case, the focus needs to change. When the decision has been made to dissolve, it's important to be mindful on how much you're giving "life" to this story.

While reflection is important, it is equally essential to avoid excessive rumination on this story, which can hinder your ability to process the experience. Striking a balance between introspection and allowing yourself to move forward is key to embracing personal growth and healing.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss their unimportance in shaping your next chapter, five ways on how this could delay your growth, as well as five thought provoking questions that will help you assess how much energy you may be unintentionally directing towards your ex.

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Jul 19, 202323:40
141. The Power of Releasing the Need for an Apology From Someone Who Hurt You

141. The Power of Releasing the Need for an Apology From Someone Who Hurt You

When we experience harm from others, it is common to expect an apology as a form of resolution. However, it is crucial to understand that while an apology holds power, it should not be a requirement for our own personal progress.

The reality is that some individuals may choose not to apologize, and this decision is often beyond our control. Nevertheless, we have the ability to seek our own closure independently of their apology.

By finding inner strength and embracing our personal healing journey, we can attain closure and move forward in our lives. Instead of depending on external validation through an apology, we empower ourselves to find resolution and growth from within.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about releasing the need for an apology, 10 reasons why someone may resist apologizing, as well as five questions to ask yourself, enabling personal reflection and growth in this area.

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Jul 13, 202325:08
140. Accepting and Understanding Their Capacity To Be Unavailable

140. Accepting and Understanding Their Capacity To Be Unavailable

One of the hardest things to understand, specifically when you were available in your relationship, is coming to terms when the other person wasn't. There are numerous reasons as to why this could be however, what gets many in a cycle of attempting to understand is that they the other person's lack of presence personal to their value.

When you continuously allow this to be the reasoning for someone else's behavior, you give away your ability to move forward as well as undermine your own worth. While it's necessary to seek understanding, it's equally important to recognize that another person's lack of presence does not define your worth or determine your ability to move forward. By continually attributing their behavior to your own value, you perpetuate a cycle of self-doubt and hinder your own progress. It's crucial to separate their actions from your sense of self and focus on your own growth and well-being. Remember that you have the power to define your own worth and create a fulfilling life independent of their presence.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about how to approach this from a different perspective as well as give seven empowering questions to ask yourself.

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Jul 05, 202318:17
139. From Boys To Men: Exploring Male Childhood Trauma & How It Impacts Them As Fathers w/ Shon Hart

139. From Boys To Men: Exploring Male Childhood Trauma & How It Impacts Them As Fathers w/ Shon Hart

According to fatherhood.gov, research studies indicate that children who have involved and loving fathers are more likely to achieve academic success, develop healthy self-esteem, display empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid engaging in high-risk activities such as drug use, school absenteeism, and criminal behavior.

While there is extensive discussion surrounding uninvolved fathers, it is important to recognize that the assumption that absent or uninvolved fathers lack the desire to be present oversimplifies the complexity of their situations.

Various factors from their childhood contribute to the absence or limited involvement of fathers in their children's lives, including experiences of sexual abuse, upbringing circumstances, strained relationships with their biological mothers, and even growing up with absent fathers themselves. It is crucial to understand that acknowledging these factors does not condone or justify their absence but allows us to understand the complexities surrounding fatherhood and to effectively support fathers in becoming more engaged with their children.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a heartfelt conversation on fatherhood with Shon Hart, author, speaker, & executive director of InvolvedDad.org. Join us as Shon unpacks different types of trauma that men experience during their childhood and how it connects to fathering, the impact of their mother's partners on their lives, their personal relationships with their own fathers, the challenges fathers face in their relationships with the mothers of their children, and the process of reconnection between fathers and their children.

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Jun 28, 202301:21:12
138. Redefining Masculinity: Escaping Stereotypes and Embracing Authenticity w/ James Harris

138. Redefining Masculinity: Escaping Stereotypes and Embracing Authenticity w/ James Harris

When masculinity is often discussed, the focus on predefined characteristics and expectations overlooks the individuality and complexity of men's experiences.

By reducing masculinity to a narrow definition based on traditional ideals of strength, emotional suppression, dominance, and a reluctance to seek help or support, we limit the potential for men to fully express themselves and navigate their challenges in a healthy and authentic way. This can lead to feelings of isolation, internalized pressure to conform, and an inability to address mental health issues effectively.

It is crucial to recognize that men, like anyone else, are multifaceted beings with a wide range of emotions, vulnerabilities, and strengths. By embracing a more inclusive and expansive understanding of masculinity, we create space for men to explore their identities, seek support, and foster their overall well-being.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a conversation with Licensed Mental Health Professional James Harris to delve into the topic of masculinity. Together, we will explore the misconceptions surrounding masculinity and its profound impact on men. We will highlight the significance of liberating oneself from societal and cultural expectations tied to masculinity, encouraging a more authentic and holistic understanding of what it means to be a man.

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Jun 22, 202301:01:04
137. Second Time Around: A Man's Journey From A Shaky 1st Marriage to a Phenomenal 2nd Marriage w/ Quest Green

137. Second Time Around: A Man's Journey From A Shaky 1st Marriage to a Phenomenal 2nd Marriage w/ Quest Green

Studies indicate that second marriages have an even higher rate of divorce than first marriages. When you hear this statistical data, one why think "Why would I get married again if the chances of it ending in divorce are even greater?" However, it's important to consider various factors that contribute to this trend and understand that statistics don't necessarily dictate individual outcomes. While the higher divorce rate in second marriages may seem discouraging, there are several reasons why people choose to embark on this journey once more.

Join me in this week's podcast episode where I have a conversation with Marriage Coach, Quest Green. We will dive into his experience of his 1st marriage of two years, and explore how the absence of shared core values influenced his approach to relationships. He also discussed the personal growth and unlearning he had to undergo, as well as the key elements that have contributed to the success of his 2nd marriage of twelve years and counting.


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Jun 14, 202301:20:55
136. A Man's Perspective on Navigating Divorce: The Power of Creating Space for Healing and Moving Beyond the Expectation of Forever w/Joseph Wilson

136. A Man's Perspective on Navigating Divorce: The Power of Creating Space for Healing and Moving Beyond the Expectation of Forever w/Joseph Wilson

Contrary to popular belief, divorce poses challenges for both men and women. While it is commonly assumed that men handle it better, studies reveal that men actually face greater difficulties in coping with divorce.

Men encounter a range of obstacles, including internal conflicts, emotional pain, identity issues, and heartbreak. Gaining insight and perspective from men is crucial to understanding how the dissolution of their relationships impacts them.

In this week's podcast episode, I invite you to join me in a conversation with Joseph Wilson. We will delve into his personal journey of ending his seven-year marriage, explore the importance of seeking support from his inner circle, shed light on why many men suffer in silence, and discuss topics such as dating and remarriage.


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Jun 08, 202358:46
Re-Aired Episode! "How Heartbreak Affects Your Mental State"
May 31, 202319:33
135. Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt About Your Divorce/Breakup - 5 Essential Strategies

135. Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt About Your Divorce/Breakup - 5 Essential Strategies

When couples split, the emotion of guilt can arise and have a significant impact on both individuals involved. It is natural for feelings of guilt to surface during such a challenging time, as people may question their actions, decisions, or the consequences of the separation. However, it is equally important to recognize that dwelling on guilt may hinder the healing process and prevent individuals from moving forward.

It is essential not to internalize what is known as "unhealthy guilt," where one becomes consumed with excessive blame and self-condemnation. Instead, it is beneficial to cultivate a healthy sense of remorse and focus on overcoming guilt.

On this week's podcast join me as we delve into the emotion of guilt. We will explore various types of guilt you may experience from the dissolution of relationships and five practical strategies to help overcome guilt and move in a better direction.

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May 25, 202328:14
134. Rewriting Your Story After Divorce - Podcast Interview w/ Jenelle Tremblett of Ebb & Glow Podcast

134. Rewriting Your Story After Divorce - Podcast Interview w/ Jenelle Tremblett of Ebb & Glow Podcast

Starting afresh after a divorce can be a time filled with emotional challenges and uncertainty. It's completely natural to experience feelings of being overwhelmed, confused, and unsure about what steps to take next. Amidst the complexities of thinking about your children, finances, co-parenting, and establishing a new sense of self, you are also navigating the emotional aftermath of the divorce.

However, within this difficulty lies an opportunity to embark on a new journey and shape a life that resonates with your values and aspirations. Embracing the process of starting over allows you to redefine your direction, rewrite the narrative of your life, and construct a future that brings you happiness, personal growth, and a profound sense of fulfillment.

On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Jenelle Tremblett, host of Ebb & Glow Podcast as we talked about starting over at 29 with two small kids, dating, forgiveness, and the importance of getting the help.

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May 17, 202353:29
133. The Journey of Courage: Walking Away, Navigating Abuse, Forgiveness, & Trusting Yourself to Love Again w/ Jermeika Burks

133. The Journey of Courage: Walking Away, Navigating Abuse, Forgiveness, & Trusting Yourself to Love Again w/ Jermeika Burks

May 10, 202301:22:51
132. Finding Strength and Resilience: Rebuilding Life After 50 and a 28-Year Marriage w/ Wendy Telatko

132. Finding Strength and Resilience: Rebuilding Life After 50 and a 28-Year Marriage w/ Wendy Telatko

"No one gets married to get a divorce"...that's hardly the plan. However, what happens when those plans change? What happens when your life is disrupted in ways that doesn't seem possible to move on?

My client Wendy and I worked together back in 2021 where she was 52 at the time and dissolving a 28 year marriage. The emotional turmoil of infidelity, betrayal and debt weighed heavily on her. She had to sell her home, move out of state, and leave her job to go move in with her sister.

Through hard work, determination, and perseverance, Wendy has been able to purchase a home, pay off her debt, find a better job with higher pay, and cultivate a stronger relationship with her kids. She is now dating again and has the tools and strategies to co-parent in a complicated dynamic.

Throughout the episode, Wendy shares her valuable insights and strategies for anyone facing a similar situation. She emphasizes the importance of taking things one step at a time, focusing on the positive, and having faith that things will work out in the end.

If you're looking for inspiration and practical advice on how to rebuild your life after a major setback, this episode is a must-listen. Wendy's story is a powerful testament to the human spirit and the power of resilience.

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May 04, 202357:11
131. Breaking Up and Breaking Free: The Cheat Code to Moving Forward
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130. Don't Postpone Your Joy
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128. Are You Loyal To An Extreme?

128. Are You Loyal To An Extreme?

Being "loyal" is often a word that many use to define an important quality that people should have however, when "loyalty" becomes the unconditional exchange at the expense of one's own detriment, has the word lost it's true meaning?

Has the expectation of this word become so misused and manipulated where "being loyal" should be at a fault regardless of treatment?

What happens when the quality of being loyal causes you to compromise your boundaries, values and self-respect?

What facts and flaws gets overlooked when blinded by being loyal to this extreme?

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about loyalty, the exchange of being loyal to an extreme and three questions that a person should ask themselves in regards to their belief and behaviors around being loyal.

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Apr 05, 202327:31
127. Authentic Femininity w/ Adrianna Mason Onubogu

127. Authentic Femininity w/ Adrianna Mason Onubogu

When it comes to dissolving a relationship, a person can easily switch into a state of what looks as protection only be less receiving, less attentive to themselves, as well as the belief that they have to do it all! This approach is normally praised and glorified however, what does it do to a woman and her ability to just "be".

The word femininity in pertaining to womanhood has been a conversation that many have weighed their opinions and thoughts around online. Oftentimes if this attribute is misunderstood, misinterpreted or even misused, it can cause a woman to not step into this powerful quality that is authentic to her.

She often finds herself in what many would define as a "masculine" energy where it may cause her to display less understanding, patience and nurturing.

How can a woman embrace this side of herself that's authentic? How can she lead her home and be in this quality?

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with author & speaker Adrianna Mason Onubogu as she discusses what femininity is, why it's important to embrace this quality for yourself first, how this attribute elevated her life as well as steps you can take to embody your own authentic femininity.

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Mar 29, 202301:05:45
126. Unpacking "The Superwoman Syndrome" w/ Cerita Yvonne

126. Unpacking "The Superwoman Syndrome" w/ Cerita Yvonne

The ability to "do it all" has been the expectation and standard for black women for generations. This unhealthy characteristic of attempting to "have it all together" is a bondage mechanism for women to look and appear to be perfect.

Underneath this covering of what many would perceive as strength, lies a woman who suppresses her emotions, neglects her self-care, unwilling to ask for help, and always feels obligated to help others.

This repeated behavior of sacrificing your well-being consistently will inevitably lead to multitude of stress related symptoms, strenuous relationships and a low quality of life.

Even though this a word that many are familiar with, what really matters is where do we draw the line? How can women begin to disrupt the generational pattern of perfection, take off the superwoman cape and step into her superpower of designing a healthier way to show up for herself unapologetically?

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with psychotherapist & certified clinical trauma professional Cerita Yvonne, as she unpacks this trauma behind being superwoman, how it impacts the relationships you entertain and how to begin to dismantle this belief of having to do it all.

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Mar 22, 202301:00:21
125. Thriving As A Single Mom w/ Samantha Gregory

125. Thriving As A Single Mom w/ Samantha Gregory

Being a parent is one the most self-sacrificial jobs to have however, when it comes to the daily duties and obligations of single parents, the responsibilities are much different.

When it comes to being a single mom, there's a lot of conversation that holds a stigma that creates shame, negative stereotypes, and judgement around the structure and circumstances of kids being raised in a one parent home.

From paying the bills, planning the meals, signing the permission slips, checking homework,  all while making sure the heat, lights, and water stays on....what often gets misunderstood is that these home are broken, chaotic, and that your kids lack the love and support that only a two parent home can provide.

Contrary to many believe to even what statistics say, there are many single mothers who has chosen to not accept this reality as theirs and decided to take their power back and become an authority over their lives so that they can thrive for themselves and their children.

On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Samantha Gregory, founder of richsinglemomma.com as we discuss her single mom hero story, the importance of healing as a single parent, being present for your kids, and tangible things you can do to unlock your potential to thrive as a single mom.

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Mar 15, 202301:10:09
124. When You're Having Difficulty Honoring Your Worth
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