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The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door

The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door

By The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door
The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door tells the story of a suburban, middle class girl who was trafficked and sexually exploited for decades starting even before the age of 6 years old
Hopeful and Afraid Part Two
In this episode we continue the discussion of how investigations feel to the survivor. We will specifically be addressing private/non-law enforcement investigations and their emotional impact on the survivor.
30:54
September 19, 2022
Hopeful and Afraid Part One
In this first part of a two part series, we unpack how a criminal investigation is experienced by the survivor.
25:25
September 17, 2022
Step Up
In this episode we unpack the painful….and empowering….reality of how regular people make the difference. Thank you to the Butfalo Bills for taking a stand for the vulnerable even if it means a sacrifice….Go Bills!
01:10:48
August 28, 2022
Conversation with Kait’s husband, Patrick
Listen as Kait and her husband, Patrick, talk about what it’s been like for him as he has walked this road with Kait. They share a little insight into their dating life, premarital counseling, and marriage❤️ as well as how it has been for him as the puzzle pieces have come together and the boxes have opened. If you are a spouse or loved one of someone who has experienced trauma, this is a good one to listen to!
51:08
August 23, 2022
Conversation with Christiana💜
In this episode we talk with Christiana Christiano about her own experience with the church that much of Kait’s abuse happened in, her own sexual abuse story, and her choice to get involved in The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door.
59:16
July 31, 2022
Q&A: Part 2
Listen as we continue talking about and answering many of the questions our listeners have asked.
47:18
July 25, 2022
Q&A: Part 1
You asked and we are answering! In this episode we answer some of the many questions we have gotten from our listeners since starting the podcast. 
48:47
July 11, 2022
Part 2: What makes family based trafficking different?
In this episode we continue to unpack the details that make familial sex trafficking unique and highlight the unique needs of survivors.
55:45
June 26, 2022
What makes family-based sex trafficking different? Part 1
In this episode we start to unpack the unique realities of familial sex trafficking
25:46
June 19, 2022
DARVO
Deny, Accuse, Reverse Victim and Offender (DARVO)….the playbook for responding when you’re accused of sexual abuse
38:39
June 11, 2022
The Science of Deception
In this episode we interview Zachary Carr, PhD and consider how the science of deception informs our understanding of sex trafficking
48:09
June 03, 2022
Entanglements and Connections
In this episode we share more details about the enormity of the sex trafficking organization in WNY and the bits of information that have come to us from listeners corroborating Kait’s experiences.
43:39
May 28, 2022
The Second Wound
In this episode we address the issue of The Second Wound. This happens when instead of support and protection, a survivor experiences victim blaming, denial and other damaging responses when they come forward with their trauma. Survivors are left feeling re-traumatized, confused and isolated. Listen as we unpack this very real and harmful phenomenon and discuss many of the second wounds that have occurred in Kait's story. 
51:48
May 22, 2022
What Should Happen
In this episode Kait and Laurie unpack what they wish for in an organization’s response to allegations of misconduct. They also directly address what they want to see from The Chapel.
34:12
May 06, 2022
Conversation with Amberlee and Tim
In this episode we give you a chance to hear directly from a woman who shared her experience of bringing allegations to The Chapel in 2018/19 regarding sexual abuse of her then 3 year old daughter.
01:49:50
April 29, 2022
Response to the Congregational Statement
If only the words and actions matched….this episode would not have ever been recorded. We so so wish it were not needed but it seems to be. In this episode we address the comments made in the congregational statement published by The Chapel this week.
42:15
April 25, 2022
The College Years
In this episode we address the experiences Kait had during her college years. What she hoped would be a fresh start and an opportunity to reinvent herself turned out to be another time her abusers proved that their reach was long.
44:47
April 22, 2022
Conversations with John Gannon
Listen to John Gannon (Kait’s father in law) talk about his perspective not only as a dad, but also as a long time member of The Chapel. John has been a volunteer, board member and staff member at The Chapel and gives some great insights into what this has been like as he has watched it all unfold.
37:32
April 17, 2022
Where is God?
In this episode, Laurie attempts to unpack the question of God’s presence in the heartache of this life
27:37
April 10, 2022
We Keep Going
In this episode we share some of the impact this journey has had on us….and on some of our listeners. It has not always been easy or seamless...in fact its often messy and hard... but we keep going. We keep going because it matters. 
41:32
April 09, 2022
The Enablers
In this episode we address the painful truth that abusers will continue to abuse as long as the enablers enable.  If we are waiting for the toxic people to suddenly wake up and decide to stop then we are going to wait forever.  What if individuals and organizations like The Chapel at Crosspoint decided to stand firmly for the victims instead of enabling?
57:27
April 01, 2022
Peripheral Puzzle Pieces
In this episode, we talk about the details that have been filled in for us since the podcast began.  Thank you to all of you who have volunteered your experiences.....it has been illuminating. 
41:11
March 25, 2022
Never Empty Threats
In this episode Kait shares more details about the threats that kept her from being able to tell the whole of her experience all at once rather than in pieces.
34:20
March 16, 2022
Escape Attempt 2
What happens when a child attempts to tell and isn’t heard?  What would it take for her to try to tell again? In this episode Kait shares the painful truth of the fall out of her second attempt to be free of her abusers and finally be safe. 
39:38
March 12, 2022
Keeping our kids safe
So….if we can’t be sure we will spot someone who poses a risk to our children HOW DO WE KEEP THEM SAFE??  The answer is to give them a deep sense of their own power and voice that will help them to protect themselves.
25:02
March 09, 2022
It Was Fun…until it wasn’t
Skiing with my family is one of my favorite things…but then ski patrol happened.  In this episode we explore how common life experiences become more complicated when you have trauma. 
28:47
March 05, 2022
Investigations
In this episode we explore the damage done when untrained individuals attempt to investigate allegations on their own.
36:08
March 02, 2022
Escape attempt
Brace yourself….this one is hard….middle school is messy enough without all this
31:17
February 26, 2022
How I Know
What are the aspects of a disclosure that provide clarity about the accuracy of the report?
20:51
February 22, 2022
Trauma and Faith
In this episode we explore the question of faith and the relationship between trauma and faith
38:18
February 21, 2022
Why now and escape attempts….how does it all go together?
In this episode we talk more about memory and Kait’s experiences of trying to break free
33:25
February 20, 2022
How Memory and Trauma Work
Sometimes people are confused about how it is possible for someone to be unable to access some factual details of a traumatic experience. In this episode, we are hoping to share some brain science information to show how it makes complete sense based on the science.
13:28
February 18, 2022
My Two Worlds
How does a child live simultaneously a “normal” suburban childhood while being sex trafficked? The only way to survive that is to have a complete separation between one reality and the other.
28:33
February 17, 2022
Finding My Voice
The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door tells the story of a suburban, middle class girl who was trafficked and sexually exploited for decades starting even before the age of 6 years old.  In this episode we introduce ourselves and begin sharing what it means to have a voice. 
22:40
February 11, 2022