Traumaramadingdong
By Traumaramadingdong
TraumaramadingdongMay 31, 2021
AI, the FUTURE and the Catfish
Traumaramadingdong is back with new co-hosts Gio Trimble LMFT, Ph.D. Candidate, Clinical Supervisor, and CEO & Mika Revell LMFT in Training. We chat about AI, Jonathan's early catfishing expeditions, and muse about the impacts of tech on our mental health.
Art So Hard
Creativity is the nectar of the gods and also, incidentally, trauma central. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan get into the trauma and life-sustaining powers of arting, being an artist, and being around artists (a best and potentially worst-case scenario). They're joined by artist, mother, civil rights lawyer, and trauma survivor Aarthi Haig, and artist, mother, and founder and curator of Roaring Artist Gallery, Katie Bradford Osborne.
Because I'm Mad, I'm Mad
Anger! Rage! Mad... feelings!! In this epi, Remy and Jonathan explore anger - from silencing anger, to expressing righteous anger, to throwing an ashtray at the wall when you can't have a coke (because how dare). They welcome therapist, witch, and activist Sam McIntyre Ethridge, aka Mac, to teach us about healing the effects of anger–and the effects of silencing anger–in ourselves and others.
Chaotics Anonymous
But honestly: Life is fucking insane. And for some people, it's insane from the second they exit the womb, and their adulthood is a fun maze of recreating the chaos they're comfortable with and trying to clean up the messes that are made in the process. In this epi, Remy talks about being raised amid chaos and (trying her very best to heal) the subsequent emotional chaos of adulthood, Jonathan talks about Chaos Theory and why the existence of an observer changes literally everything (physics!!), and special guest and friend of the pod Jessica Molnar comes on to talk about the chaos of being raised by a sociopath - PLUS, she made us all a V TITE ebook of affordable resources to help heal from the trauma of chaos (woot for Jessica!).
HOLY Sh*t!
This week on the pod: spiritual trauma. Turns out organized spirituality can do the exact opposite thing it's supposed to do! What a fucking bummer. In this epi, Remy goes deep on the relationship between the patriarchy and Judeo Christianity, Jonathan talks about his trauma as a preacher's son, and Chelsea Baier, special guest and friend of the pod, comes on to tell her stories of trauma in spiritual communities and about the path to healing through the holy (like, really holy) spirit.
Grind and Bear It
The grind. We know it, we've all had to do it, we hate it the most. Bosses out there treating you like poop, cost of living going all crazy, that free economy guilt around not committing your entire life to being a workhorse. In this epi, Remy and Jonathan talk about capitalism and the grind, the patriarchy and the grind, and all the times Remy napped in a hidden work hallway to subvert the grind. They're joined by artist and public health expert Rita Patel to discuss her research on beauty and emotional embodiment as tools we can use in undermining grind culture.
Speak for Yourself
TFW you need to stand up for yourself but instead you're a shaking, weeping ball of anxiety. Cool cool cool. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about the trauma of speaking up - from shame trauma that prevents us from setting boundaries in our own lives, to the research that explains why femme folks are more likely to silence themselves. They're joined by psychotherapist Laura Bulchis who walks us through healthy ways of speaking up and explains how we heal from the trauma of being silenced.
Fixation Station
Obsess much? In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about the bitch of an experience that is fixating. Remy goes deep on the relationship between fixation and validation addiction, Jonathan breaks down the Freudian philosophies behind obsession, and intuitive healer Jess Taylor leads us through *actual* healing work you can do in those anxiety-ridden moments when your obsession won't just shut the ef up.
Trick or Cheat
CHEATING THO. Not chill. Not cool. V traumatic. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about why people cheat, cheating & the patriarchy, and what it means when we're cheated on. They're joined by trauma-informed therapist Julia Willinger who shares about the psychological research on cheating and walks us through reclaiming our trust after betrayal trauma. Plus, a cheating revenge story; you love to see it.
That Drug Life
This is your brain. This is your brain on drugs. This is your brain with a drug/therapy/meditation regimen combo. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan look at drug-related trauma from multiple angles: within the family, within the culture, within the patriarchy, etc. PLUS, they end with a big reveal: their best-of, drug-involved sexcapades.
Trauma-longing-dingdong
Like, what? Just out here longing all the goddamn time. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about longing through the lens of IFS, Enneagram, Mary C. Lamia's research, and of course, Michael Jackson, Bruce Springsteen, and ABBA (traumaabbadingdong). They're joined by Jonathan's twin, Dove, who opens up about their experience with longing from a non-binary perspective.
Betray All DAY!
Nothing like a little betrayal to keep your attachment fears goin' strong! In this episode, Remy and Jonathan dive into the different ways betrayal can look - (romantic! familial! societal! and - ooh lala - self-betrayal!). They're joined by psychotherapist Sam McIntyre - whose lab coat look was v kewt, FYI - to look at all the ways we heal and get back to trusting.
This Sh*t Is (Gas)lit!
Why. Are. People. Out. There. Gaslighting. Cut. That. Shit. Out. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan unpack the mind-bending, manipulative world of gaslighting: what it looks like, how we know it's happening, how it affects us, and how we heal. They're joined by Manhattan Wellness Center therapist Jennifer Teplin, who leads us through some v helpful tips and tricks for getting TF out of toxic situations with gaslighters.
I Get So Unemotional, Baby!
Fathers, fuckbois, something else that starts with F. This week, Remy and Jonathan march boldly into the world of emotional unavailability to get to the bottom of this bummer issue. What's up with not having our emotional needs met by our parents? What's up with anxious attachment style folks being all about avoidant attachment style folks? WHAT'S UP WITH FUCKBOIS?? They're joined by marriage and family therapist Julia Willinger, and she's a smart fuckin' babe and a sweet sweet Cancer. So.
Traumarama WRONGA
WE ARE NEVER WRONG. Except when we are and nosediving into a shame spiral. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about all the ways we can be wrong, why being right is so important to us, and the nuanced world of feeling justified. PLUS, they play Three Wrongs and a Right and it's pretty dang funny.
Hey, Jealousy!
If you haven't secretly smoldered over someone else's life, looks, love, annoyingly wild success - have you even lived, henny? In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about the various ways jealousy and envy have taken a poo on their lives, go deep on jealousy's relationship to shame, and look at the ways we heal that secret resentment.
The Sexual Assault Epi
TW: This episode discusses sexual assault, and may be triggering to some listeners. Please check in with yourself before diving into this one!
No jokes here. Sexual assault is super common and super traumatizing. BUT - with lots of self-love, treatment, and support - huge strides can be made to get through the heartbreak. In this episode, Remy talks about her experiences with sexual assault and the remedies that were most helpful in her recovery, and Jonathan leads us through the reality of sexual assault in our country today. They're joined by Venice Blue, a depth hypnosis counselor, who shares about her most effective healing modalities when treating victims of sexual assault.
Art by @frizzkidart
No Money, Mo' Problems
This week on the pod, Remy and Jonathan talk to wealth coach Morgan Blackman about money trauma (WOOF). This episode's got everything from shoplifting avocados, to being abandoned by preacher dads, to meditating your way into that cash flow.
Pandemic at the Disco
Remember when pandemics were just that thing they made psychological thrillers about? In this episode, Remy and Jonathan are joined by licensed psychotherapist Amy Whelan for a pandemic deep dive, from extrovert anxiety, to the disproportionate effects on people of color, to side-eying all those Tinder dudes who swear they're social distancing.
Rejection City
Romantic rejection: It's the goddamn worst. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan unpack moments of unrequited love, all the ways it can look, and what helps get us through.
PTSTD
Sure, sex is cool. But have you tried getting an STI and having a huge breakdown? This week, Remy and Jonathan welcome sex educator Mychal Shifrah as they dive into the world of herpes, HPV, the clap, and all the other things your uptight health teacher warned you about in middle school.
Body-ody-ody
In this episode, Remy, Jonathan, and their guest, Eli, talk about body trauma—from anorexia, to acne, to overeating (with a little pube dive for good measure). In the process, they unpack some of the complex nuances and harsh realities of the patriarchy, self-image, and white supremacy. This is a juicy first epi!
Traumaramadingdong Episode 0 "Drugstore Ayahuasca"
Introducing Remy & Jonathan and launching Traumaramadingdong!