The Trina Glines Podcast - It's about you

Did you know that "all the research agrees that a stable, loving relationship is the absolute cornerstone of human happiness and general well-being"? Dr. Sue Johnson (Love Sense) And did you know YOU ARE NORMAL if this doesn't naturally happen in your marriage?

None of us were taught all we need to know to create a secure attachment with our spouse. Do you even know what that means? For over 20 years I had no idea! I am SO GRATEFUL for the learning journey I have been on! It has changed my marriage! And what I have learned is it is a work in progress for us all! This is GOOD NEWS!

Today I share an interview with Geoff Steurer LMFT. He is trained and certified in Dr. Sue Johnson's couples therapy; Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Do yourself a favor, and listen to this interview! It is AMAZING! Most of us weren't given the tools to maneuver through this messy thing call marriage. But we can choose to LEARN tools!

That is how we will work on creating a secure bond with the person we have chosen to spend our life with! (I believe eternity) It is SO WORTH IT! 

Valentines Day is coming up! And did you know that Valentines is the most unliked holiday by husbands? There are often expectations they struggle to meet. Which leaves you disappointed and him asking, "why did I even try?" 

Birthday's, Anniversary's, and Holiday's can often bring on those unmet expectations! 

Today I want to set you up for success by setting your man up for success! I share what you can do to ensure you and your man have a successful celebration. 

Have you ever considered letting your man know what you would like on on these special days? Unfortunately ladies, we often fall to the thinking that if he really knows me and loves me he will know what I like. This is incorrect thinking. He can NOT read your mind. He works differently than you do. 

You sharing with him what makes you feel loved and adored on these special days sets him up to win, which means you win too!

Marriage is different once you have kids, would you agree? Raising a family requires a lot of sacrifice from both husband and wife. But do we need to sacrifice our marriage relationship also? I don't believe we do.
It will be different than before children, but it can also be even better.

Our children will bring us our greatest joy and greatest challenges and frustrations. All the more reason to put your marriage at the top of your priorities so together you can enjoy the happy - joyful moments and hold each other up during the challenges times.

Today I share ideas on how you can nurture your marriage while raising your family. It is so important to remember that the two of you came first. Life and the kids will scream louder and demand more of your attention, but you can still give quality attention to your marriage.

As you keep nurturing this life long union (I believe eternity) you are giving your kids the greatest gift you will EVER give them - parents that love each other.

If you are human, chances are you struggle at times with the negative narrative in your head.

This voice is always keeping us in the deficit. Everything is past due. It constantly is comparing us and others to a "perfected" version, that doesn't even exist. And this voice is SO good at assumptions.

You can call this voice all different names, I call her The Intense Woman. She is constantly trying to interfere in my life! I am so grateful I have learned how to tame her! Kick her to the curb where she belongs.

Actually, I kick her further than that!

I encourage you to do the same!

Today I share how I have been able to get rid of this negative narrative, The Intense Woman in my head! It is a daily battle, but it gets easier now that I know where she comes from and her purpose! She is NUTS!
My life is SO much better without her! And so will yours be. It does take effort and practice, and most likely we will be fighting her off for the rest of our lives, but the more we notice her, and kick her away, the less she will show up!

LIFE often is our greatest teacher. Each one of us goes through experiences that test and try us. Some experiences are more painful than others, but each brings with it a level of new understanding and new growth.

Allowing us to become a better version of ourselves. The lessons life teaches us, really can lead us to a better version of us.

Today my interview is with MamaBear.Fitness. Ashlyn Mitchell shares her powerful personal story of betrayal trauma.

Ashlynn and her husband have opened their lives to share with others the process of recovering from sex addiction and the betrayal that comes with it. Their story also includes their two daughters being sexually molested by someone they trusted.

What I loved about this interview is that the lessons and strengths Ashlynn learned are ones that can be applied to each one of us in our own lives. You or a loved one do not have to be suffering from an addiction to benefit from the lessons Ashlynn shares with us.

Ashlynn is now a personal coach who helps others live healthier lives mentally and physically.

I applaud Ashlynn and her husband for being open about their story so that others have the opportunity to learn from them. So many things Ashlynn shared in this interview have changed the way I think daily. I admire her and her ability to articulate her self-reflection so well.

LIFE is very real and life can be really hard. Life also has the ability to teach us our greatest lessons that will help us become a better version of ourselves. Our greatest growth will often come from our hardest lessons.

Thank you MamaBear.Fitness for sharing your powerful message and for being an example of one who has chosen to live with intention.

"The New Year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals." Melodie Beatie

I share with women all the time, YOU are the author of your love story.

I am so excited for 2019! It's going to be a wonderful year!

I would like to invite you to join me with setting some marriage goals. We often set health goals, financial goals, work goals and when we're going to wake up goals, but what about marriage goals? Without a happy, fulfilling marriage, all these other goals mean nothing!

Today on my podcast I share 10 marriage goals for the New Year. You can choose to use one of them or all of them! Whatever you do though, include your marriage in your New Year goals/resolutions. This is the MOST important area in your life you can focus on!

(I released my podcast early since Monday is New Year's Eve)

The holidays can often NOT bring out the best in us.

We, women, are multi-task alerted beings, aware of everything going on around us at all times. Most everything is in past-due mode and our to-do list is always growing.

And the holidays seems to add so much more to our already overflowing schedule. Which often will bring a level of intensity out of us that we really don't want any part of!

The Intense Woman is a REAL being, and she makes our life and all those around us miserable. Kick her to the curb where she belongs!

Today's podcast I share 5 ways we can keep The Intense Woman away during this next week.

I released my podcast early since Monday is Christmas Eve. Merry Christmas to all you incredible women out there that make this world a better place! I hope you all are able to enjoy this time with your families!

We each have our individual blueprints. These are created from our upbringing and our social circumstances. Learning about your blueprints and discovering your attachment style allows you to change behaviors instead of being a victim to your blueprint. We can actually alter them to help us be a healthier version of ourselves! It is empowering! Cognitive Cycles has been a life changing exercise for me. I am so grateful to Dr. Slade for being willing to step us through this process. Denim L Slade, PhD,  321 N Mall Dr Building VW Suite 101 St George, UT 84790 915-245-2518