I'm Kim, the Poster Girl for Contentment, but it wasn't always that way. I approached my 40th birthday mired in a quiet struggle with my body, my career, my marriage: this struggle was self-created & it was all-consuming. My grandmother's parting words "Enjoy Your Life" gave me a possibility to live into and sparked a series of experiments that transformed me. I intend to use this podcast to encourage my fellow quiet strugglers. If you've been waiting for permission to enjoy your life, it's here and it's now.
Even though I live Unmired now, the old mental ruts that created my struggle are still there. Needing to make a decision can trigger old patterns of overthinking and fearing failure. I was in such a rut when it was time to record, so that’s what I decided to talk about. Being gently curious and observant of my thoughts prevents me from getting mired all over again.
A little hodge-podge of an episode about the importance of digging up long-buried dreams. I talk about my early desire to become a writer, how I finally granted myself permission to try, and why I ended up writing workbooks. I also invite you to join me in the Enjoy-Your-Life Experiment program starting September 1. All the details are available at www.unbelievablefreedom.com
This episode is a follow up to Episode 6, describing the importance of combining possibility with permission. My discomfort with the unfamiliar nature of radiant health and happiness created what Gay Hendricks calls an “Upper Limit Problem.” I want you to be able to recognize and release the struggle and even self-sabotage of an ULP if it happens.
Throughout this podcast, I’ll be sharing the unfolding story of my personal Enjoy-Your-Life Experiment. It’s an invitation, too, and I want you to understand the two critical ingredients for a successful experiment. This one’s possibility and the next one is permission. The best news? You can create both for yourself right now. More information about the Enjoy-Your-Life Experiment program at www.unbelievablefreedom.com
In this episode, I describe another dynamic that kept me mired: people pleasing. It’s so common that you hear the term everywhere, but for me, I came to understand it as a stress response. My freedom was inhibited by fear of losing the approval of others. Recognizing and releasing this pattern helps me enjoy my life. *** Book title mentioned in this episode is Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
Above all else, this podcast is about life enjoyment and how staying in its flow feels like freedom. I have five foundational habits that support this effect in my life. In this episode, I describe a bit about each one, how I practice it, and why it’s so meaningful to me. As always, they are offered for as a contemplation for your own experimentation. Enjoy Your Life!
Food is inherently enjoyable, so how did food become THE major obstacle to my own freedom flow? It has to do with my mental mire, fueled by the struggle energy of daily food cravings and “failures.” Fasting interrupted the pattern and created an expansive sense of space, within which I found a sense of clarity and capability. The full story is in our memoir Unbelievable Freedom: How We Transformed Our Health and Happiness With Intermittent Fasting
Overlapping with the years that I spent in the mire were the years I spent struggling with compulsive eating and morbid obesity. This was a particularly complex aspect of my transformation because it’s one that was entangled with my husband’s weight struggle. In this episode I set the stage for how we came to gain 200 pounds and then lose it again. Thank you for listening. Enjoy Your Life!
In this introductory episode, I describe a bit about my backstory and what I mean when I say I was deeply “mired” in a quiet struggle. I set the stage for some of the practices I will describe in the episodes to come, those that helped me find freedom. I want you to understand the things I do to intentionally stay Unmired. I hope you will subscribe and share. Enjoy Your Life!