Unbinary Life

Is it better to be a Jack of All trades? Or a Master of One? 

Rishikesh Lokapure is the perfect man to answer this question. 

In this episode, we discuss which of the two things is better. This is a question you need to ask yourself too.  After being acquainted with multiple disciplines of life like finance, marketing, and investing he is here to break the limitations that you put on yourself.  

"Why be a master of one? When you can be a master of all?"  But to be that you first need to be the Jack of all! 

Tune in to know exactly how it is possible, and what can you do today to walk a similar path!  The Unbinary Life podcast is a self-help, personal development, and educational podcast. If you find our videos to be helpful then do subscribe to the channel if not done yet :) !  

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Anoushka is one of the strongest humans you'll meet today.  Since facing bullying in their childhood,  when most will shut themselves off and silently endure it.  

Anoushka chose to fight it in 3rd grade.  She not only tackled it in her school but went to many others and chose to spread awareness about it.  Later she developed an app called "Kavach" and was featured in Shark Tank India too.  

Tune in to learn about her journey and how she fought against bullying, her thought process to walk this path and her future goals.  The Unbinary Life podcast is a self-help, personal development, and educational podcast. 

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Shiksha, Shikshit and a Shikchak!  

What if we tell you that a 23 year old is bringing a massive change in education?   

It's a surprise for sure.  Uddeshya Sachan, has been bringing revolution to education by teaching hundreds of underprivileged children at his school. At the age of 23 he is acting as a father figure to hundreds of kids and helping them get quality education!   

And not just basic education but children are taught the art of living too!  The life of Uddeshya and the story of the Gurukulam called as the "School of Happiness" is really interesting and you do not want to miss it!  

Join tune in to the brand new episode and capture the essence of Education, Educated and the Educator!  

Abhijeet Kumar, tells about himself as a couch potato in a far-off land and the face of The Lazy Writer. He add that he is an introvert, lazy and working-from-home freelancer. He deals in content writing, content marketing, occasional graphic designer, hobbyist photographer and a die-hard foodie. He loves to form stories around products and create content for websites. Abhijeet has been featured in Freelance Magazine as a Top 20 creators of all time. 

For us, Abhijeet is The Different One, who has defied all odd in his life and created a positive life for himself.

Sudharsanan Ganapathy is an entrepreneur and a personal branding expert.

With over a decade of experience in social media marketing and personal branding, he currently run a personal branding agency in Chennai, India by the name “The Social Company” that is specialized in LinkedIn and content creation, personal branding, content strategy, digital transformation, social media marketing and growth hacking.

For us, Sudharsanan is The Different One, who has defied all odd in his life to create a much better life for himself and everyone around him. When we asked why he feels he is different, this is what he said, “Everyone is different for that matter of fact. My life was difficult. So I got up and changed it. Then all of a sudden people called me different and started to look up to me. Everything I did, was for a selfish reason that I wanted to live a better life but when you want to change your life, you cannot do it without changing the lives of few others too!”

I am sure you will enjoy this episode as much as we have enjoyed it. You can now watch the video of the podcast on our YouTube channel “Unbinary Life Podcast”

If you have been a regular listener or someone who is new to the Unbinary Life podcast channel, this episode is a convergence of all the other episodes that we did earlier. Each of our episodes have been an effort to help you become a better version of yourself by working upon your Emotions, Relationships, Communication skills, Decision-making, and more.

For the first time ever we had four guests and it turned out to be an emotional episode by the time we ended it. No, there were no tears. All you could hear was only laughter! 😊

All the four guests were a closed cohort of the Unbinary Life podcast listeners and in a way a validation for us to see how relevant we were in doing every episode and did it make a difference. And what better than a setup where we invite people connected to each other as family members!

So we had Kundan who hosted this episode and Ruchi on the other-hand became a guest and was joined by her cousins and the conversation was an interplay of the following things:

· How the roles of adults and children or kids are defined in a family?

· Why are there boundaries in relationships where there is a higher age difference? Who creates those boundaries?

· Are there expectations within the family set-up?

· What happens if we speak to each other about our expectations?

· What does it mean to be mature in a relationship and how does it take a toll on you?

· How being emotional cannot be labelled as an excuse to get away from your bad behaviour or ill-treatment?

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And so many other things.

We are sure this episode would resonate with you in multiple places and you will find yourself playing a part of it in the relationships discussed in this episode.

Relationships are everywhere around us! 

The way we like to say - "We do not exist solo."

This episode took the longest time for us to prepare. There is so much to talk about, at the same time, this is such an important part of our lives, that we were diligent about it.

In this mega episode on RELATIONSHIPS, we talk about:

• What do we mean by the term "Relationships"?
• Why do we need relationships in our lives?
• What makes relationships complex and important at the same time?
• What are the pillars of relationships?
• What is the importance of individual growth in personal and professional relationships?
• What is the importance of quality versus quantity of time spent together in a relationship?
• What are the signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships?

This one was really close to our heart and we hope we were able to provide you with a new perspective on relationships and how can you make your relationships healthy with one another. 

The multiverse is a hypothetical group of multiple universes. Together, these universes comprise everything that exists: the entirety of space, time, matter, energy, information, and the physical laws and constants that describe them. The different universes within the multiverse are called "parallel universes", "other universes", "alternate universes" etc.

How is this relevant to us in life. 

Like the physical universe is made up of space, time, matter, energy and information, our life is also made up of multiple variables like emotions, relations, societies, our in inner self say spirituality. Now imagine them as separate Universes. 

How?

For that, you have to listen to the entire episode.

In today’s episode, we talk to someone who did not even run a 100m race till the age of 18 years and at the age of 25, he climbed Mt. Everest battling covid and facing multiple storms on this journey.

An IT Engineer by education, mountaineer by profession, and sustainability advocate by compassion, Harshvardhan is an internationally recognized expedition leader, public speaker, and ambassador of the non-profit, "Project Chirag".

Having reached over 20M people through videos, talks, and media appearances advocating for Sustainability, Harsh reached the summit of Mt. Everest in 2021. Joshi's work involves impact tourism in the Himalayas and inspiring people to climb their metaphorical Everest. Currently, he is working on his book and documentary around his campaign "Sangharsh Mission Mt. Everest" while preparing for upcoming big mountain expeditions and IRONMAN triathlons.

“Passion is not about what you do but about how you do it.”

This episode will leave you inspired in many ways and we highly recommend listening to the podcast and sharing your views.

Till then, cut the crap and take charge of your life!

Palakh Khanna is a 19-year-old relentlessly optimistic dreamer, multi-faceted, way too ambitious, the happy-go-lucky kinds. She is graduated from The Mother's International School, Delhi in 2021, and now looking forward to college life.

Palakh is a Social Entrepreneur-CEO of an organization, working towards talking about all things taboo and creating an enlightened youth community. She is a A mentor and teacher- Teaching children and adults some important skills! An active environmentalist-Working towards adapting practical ways of saving the environment and so much more. In short, she prefers to be called a Youth Changemaker- All in to be a catalyst for change!

This episode we take a journey to Palakh’s life till now and how she is pushing Human boundaries to be a change maker and inspiring so many around her including us. Enjoy this episode and do let me know if this triggers any emotion in you.

How much money do we really need to live a content life?

What are we really running for in life?

Do you have a clear answer?

Maybe, after listening to this episode you will get an answer for yourself.

In this episode of the Unbinary Life podcast, we speak to a 27 years old man who wishes to retire in the next 2 years. Surprised? Retiring by the age of 29, wow!!! Who wouldn’t want that?

We spoke to a person who doesn’t like himself to be associated with any title. He is someone who lives a nomadic life in the mountains and spreads awareness about climate change.

“Getting out of the comfort zone” has become kind of universal sentiment for most of us. It has become a differentiator between achievers and super achievers. We have a few examples, where people are okay to risk their health in the name of not being comfortable.

What is this state that we talk so much about? Let’s take a deeper dive into the same.  
 

For any discussion, our go to tool is to align on the word meaning first. Unless we are aligned we are running in any direction looking for finish line. For example, fun can mean different for different people and if we start debating if fun is good or bad, it can be endless.

So here is what we found:
1st - a situation where one feels safe or at ease;
2nd - a situation in which you feel comfortable and you do not have to do anything new or difficult.
 

If you are someone who aligns with 2nd meaning here, please define what “difficult” means to you and you are set.

 
For the ones, who knows comfort zone as the 1st definition like me, I find it to be the state where I feel safe and my creativity flourishes. The same has been quoted by Marcus Buckingham & Ashley Goodall in their HBR article “The Feedback Fallacy” (Image shared).

In all these discussions, there always be a parameter of “How much?” which I am not taking up now.

All I am trying to bring here is that easy and comfortable are not the same thing. There is a reason why “being comfortable” is the most desired state. We work hard to earn the comfort and prepare of the next battle. It is more like getting a good “comfortable” sleep to prepare for the next most productive day.

I have very high regards for people who consistently push themselves to achieve greater height by being uncomfortable. The idea is not to be too soft and fragile in the name of being comfortable. Specially when the talk about mental health is being discussed all across.

The idea is to find the best version of you.

 
Please try for the right mix of it depending on your system you live in and don’t justify all motivations with “being uncomfortable”.

If you loved this episode, do share it with your friends, and don't forget to rate us or drop us a review! :) 

If Abhinav Goswami has his way, America will soon experience the amazing gifts of ancient India — extraordinary health, ethical A2 dairy products, Vedic education and more.

“I had achieved what many would regard as the ultimate dream — a job as a data scientist in Apple,” recounts Abhinav Goswami.

He wondered why the modern education system was turning out hordes of youngsters who felt no bond with nature and only focused on material desires. His whole life flashed before him; his family name Goswami (meaning both “protector of cows” and “one who had conquered the senses”) beckoned to him with a deep significance. 

In ancient India, indigenous cows were the center of the economy; they were wealth; and in fact, they even played an important part in maintaining the educational system. Their milk was used to make delicious curds, butter, buttermilk, ghee, and other dairy products which kept the population nourished and happy. For students, it was extra important to have enough quantities of milk and curds. 

Cow dung was used as fuel, fertilizer, plastering material (which kept houses cool in summer and warm in winter), anti-bacterial cleaner and more. The cow’s urine was used in myriad health-giving Ayurvedic products. In addition to all the material gifts they bestow, cows also have a deeply spiritual presence, which has been acknowledged by many. The deep bonds between cows and their owner’s families was a given.

More is covered in detail in a candid conversation with Abhinav. Hope you enjoy it! 

Online relationships and friendships are a thing! 

Thanks to the pandemic, the world became even closer! Birthdays, anniversaries, any special occasion, found a new venue ONLINE! 

To some, the online world has opened up myriad opportunities and to some online world has left an unpleasant mark on their minds!

Bumble, Tinder, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook, Quora, etc. there is a huge list of platforms! Accept it or not, like it or not, we cannot escape the online world!

And since we cannot escape it, we chose to talk about it and share our experiences (healthy and unhealthy) of the online world, with YOU!

If you loved this episode, do share it with your friends, and don't forget to rate us or drop us a review! :)

What is love?

We use this word so many times during the day. 

I love this dress, I love going on holidays, I love him or her, I love doing this work, I love this, I love that!!!!!!

Like really, we love so many things! 

Yet, when it comes to people, there are so many conflicts in love! WHY?

We asked this question to people around us and we'd like to share a few of them with you: 

• "Given, its all shapes and sizes, my understanding of love boils to this - Love is a sum of all things you sacrifice to sustain all the things that bring you joy."  ~ Rakshith Gowda

• "Being understood without having to explain myself. Being able to enjoy a person - all good and bad that comes with them. And also a feeling where non-verbal communication is well received and reciprocated." ~ Urmi Jain

• "The most important thing about love is to express. If you can express it, love has value." ~ Priyank Jain

(By the way, thank you all for sharing your responses_/\_. We tried putting the audio clips too, but unfortunately, it didn't work out well.)

Now, coming back to the episode topic, an interesting point here is there is no right or wrong when it comes to defining love. And we are not debating those perspectives of love for any individual.

What we want to share with you is again a perspective that could help you dealing your love relationships.

A few questions that we try to address here and want you to be aware of:

• What are the unhealthy forms of love?
• Are you expecting or dependent on someone when in love?
• What are the stories you tell to yourself in love? Are they helping you?
• Do you have healthy communication with the other person? 
• Can you or should you control love?

We hope this episode too provides a different perspective and helps you in your journey of self-growth. 

If you loved this episode, do share it with your friends, and don't forget to rate us or drop us a review! :)

Most of us have all faced peer pressure at some or the other point in our lives. 

Peer pressure can be traumatic and it could lead to lower self-esteem for a lot of people, especially during school and college days.

In this episode of the Unbinary Life Podcast, we try to understand, why peer pressure exists, why people entertain peer pressure, and what you can do to stay away from it. 

But can peer pressure be healthy too??? 

In order to know, please listen to this short episode and hop you enjoy listening to it!

Are you someone dealing with anger issues? 

Do you have that one friend, family member, or colleague who always shouts or yells at people and finds it hard to control their temperament? Then this episode is something that you should share with them. 

Anger has a detrimental impact on our lives yet we take it so lightly that oh, he or she is short-tempered. He or she always gets angry, let it be, ignore them.

Maybe that person needs help or some intervention of some sort to come out of it. 

When we say love binds relationships, on the other side, anger destroys relationships over a period of time. 

In this episode, Kundan and Ruchi open up about their anger issues. How Ruchi still struggles with it and wants to work upon it and Kundan shares one of his life experiences where he really lost it too bad and then how he started working upon himself to become calmer.

Without disclosing much, we'll let you listen to this! :)

A growth mindset means that you believe your intelligence and talents can be developed over time.

A fixed mindset means that you believe intelligence is fixed—so if you’re not good at something, you might believe you’ll never be good at it.

HBR Says: 

We are fascinating creatures! Aren't we?

We live in a world where most people find it hard to be their real selves and spend most of their time in the imaginary world or thinking about the ideal version of themselves.

And again, most of the time, the ideal, real, and imaginary versions of ourselves are significantly different from each other. That creates a huge mess in our minds.

Hasn't it happened with you that you have gone on a date with someone and you try to impress the other person and project yourself as an ideal version of yourself? 

But in reality, you may be far away from that projection of yourself. You behaved in a particular way anyway because you wanted to impress someone. The person is impressed and you start dating and then conflicts start arising. You cannot fake your ideal self on a day-to-day basis for a long time. Your real self starts showing up and the other person may or may not like that version of you. 

This is just one of the examples. We do the same in job interviews, marriage proposals, client meetings, and so on.

We fight to be who we are not! Or we present ourselves as someone we are not! And then we are unhappy!

In this episode, we build up from the basic on Concept of Self, our 2nd episode and try and understand:

• What are the real, ideal, and imaginary selves of a human being?
• How can one identify those?
• How does it affect us when all these three versions of us are different from each other?
• How we can bring them closer to each other?

Not sure if you can feel the energy of this episode while listening, this was our very first offline recording away from virtual video calls and we were excited to do it in-person. 

Hope you enjoy it as much as we did! Happy listening! :)

We all have beliefs and feelings. And we have beliefs about ourselves, about the world around us. 

All this is because of our experiences. As a child, we encounter some events and it has an impact on us. That is how our beliefs are formed.

What is important is to understand that these beliefs are not permanent.

Many a time, we are living somebody else’s life. We are living somebody else’s version of our life. 

We have to remember that we are the author of our own story. We are not another person. There is only one version of us.

The biggest revelation for people is that – “Whatever you are thinking, are your thoughts. If they are your thoughts, then you have the power to change them.” It is that simple!

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Is there anyone who hasn't had any expectations from others in life?

A lot of people have said in the past that the key to happiness is not to expect anything from anyone.

As human beings, we all have this tendency to expect from others. And when those expectations are unfulfilled, we feel upset, angry, disappointed, or are taken aback. 

But have you ever wondered, is it the expectancy that hurts or dependency on someone that hurts us more?

In this podcast, Kundan and Ruchi discuss this topic and tell us the use of two thermometers that we can use in life to help us overcome these situations.

Has it ever happened with you that you encountered something unfortunate - maybe some news of a financial loss, failure in achieving a goal, job rejection, etc. and after that, your entire day went for a toss because knowingly or unknowingly you invited a lot of bad events yourself?

In this episode, Ruchi shares her experience of a recent event where unknowingly she messed up her day and indulged in an unhealthy argument with a friend because of an uncontrollable event that happened somewhere else.

We are sure you might have done something similar in your life too at some time. 

Towards the end of this episode, Ruchi shares how calming our mind can potentially help us to invite other bad events that are controllable from our side.

Has it ever happened to you that are studying or working and suddenly you start feeling too anxious?

Or, you had a fight or a disagreement with a loved one, continuous back and forth of statements and then anxiety starts hitting you?

Sounds familiar?

In this episode if the Unbinary Life Podcast, we try to understand anxiety and how can we deal with it. 

Can we overcome it completely? NO, that's not possible! We would be lying if we say yes that we have a full-proof solution.

Being Unbinary people, you know that's the last thing that we will say. But yes, we can work towards dealing in those anxiety-filled situations positively. 

In order to please someone else, will you destroy your own peace of mind? Should you do so or where do you need to draw a line between your personal space and your equation with others? Who decides that? 

In this episode, we are trying to find:

• How do we set healthy boundaries for ourselves?
• How do we deal difficult situations wherein we have to choose between self and others?
• The moral dilemma of selecting self over others
• ...and more!

How many times have you encountered situation wherein you are taking care of yourself and protecting yourself from a bad situation and then someone says, "hey you are being so selfish, you are not even thinking about me."?

The debate between self-care and being selfish is not new. 

In this episode, we again have a heartfelt conversation with Kanika Sarda, a young and smart lady who tries to balance her personal space with her friends, colleagues and family members.

The examples we discuss will make you feel relate to them. 

We hope that you enjoy this episode too, like you have enjoyed the others! :)

Happy listening! 

A writer, freelance journalist, public speaker, young nutrition ambassador, and TEDx speaker, our guest of today’s episode has accomplished all this so far and her journey has just started!

How many of us have made New Year Resolutions year-on-year and then failed to continue those by the end of February???

Every year, most of us plan to be more healthy, be more fit, adopt good habits, and what not....  and WE FAIL!

Ever wondered WHY?

Why do we fail to fulfill the promises that we make to ourselves? Are we that incompetent or we are just too lazy or do we just lack commitment? 

In this episode, we have tried to drill down :

• Why do we fail to keep up with our resolutions?
• What is the neuroscience behind habit formation?
• How does our brain work?
• What is a habit loop and how can you get rid of a bad habit or develop a good habit?
• Can we hack our brains to develop new habits?
• How can you re-shape yourselves? What is the "NEW YOU" that you would like to define for yourself?

And just a little bit about ourselves and our new year resolutions for 2022. :)

In the end, it will leave you thinking, is our success or failure actually a result of our Karma or it is just a result of our habits!