Unbuttoned India

Body Grooming... Welcome to Season 2 Episode 8, the final episode of the season!

Let's be real about body hair, right? Humans are animals, animals have hair.  It's natural and healthy. But our bodies are also like material that can be molded, meaning we can totally change HOW our hair looks. Considering that grooming can often be accompanied by pain - why do we do this?? For some folks it is about perceptions of what beauty is. For some it is about perceptions about hygiene.  For some it could be a combination, or a perception about what is "cool" or "socially acceptable" regardless of their personal feelings. 

Mojo, Pixie and Cherry are back to create safe space to chat about all things body hair related. We get candid about why we feel the need to do or not do certain types of grooming: waxing, threading, shaving, trimming. We get into all the happy hairy crevices too: eyebrows, upper lips, beards, underarms, genitals, arms, legs, you name it! So fun to reminisce about how us humans get started on this journey of grooming, and what drives our likes and dislikes, and how that interplays with other humans who have opinions one way or the other. 

Question: What's the part of body you don't understand why people groom?

About Unbuttoned India: Three young Indians meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Do You Have A Type?... Welcome to Season 2 Episode 7!

We've all been this person, right? Picture the scene. You are out with friends where someone will point to a stranger and say, "whoa, that person's hot!" Or good looking. Or sexy. Or cute. Or well-groomed. Or muscular. Or voluptuous.... At that point, another friend might go, "Nope, that's not doing anything for me."  We've been there. These experiences start to come together and we realise, oh wait, I have a type!  In this episode, the Unbuttoned India trio dive right in to this question of what type of factors make humans attractive to us!

Join us to hear about our many different "needs". ;-) There are specific physical features that we discuss that may surprise you.  There are behavioural needs that are sometimes just as or more important in getting us to say AWWWWYEAH. We explore the idea of preference, and wonder about prejudice, and things in between. 

Question: Do you have any "type" that you are simply not attracted to? Why do you think that is?

About Unbuttoned India: Three young Indians meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Exploring My Sexuality... Welcome to Season 2 Episode 6!

When did you know you were sexually attracted to a human? Perhaps a particular set of humans? Some realise they are attracted to the opposite sex, some to the same sex, some to all, and some to none at all! The Unbuttoned India trio of Mojo, Pixie and Cherry revisit their oldest memories and ongoing experiences to piece together a story of how each became aware of their sexuality. We make pit stops at all-girls convent schools, love letters, best friend crushes, 90s indian movies, porn tales....and other anecdotes that made us laugh and sigh. 

Swapping tales helps remind us that every single human goes through a similar journey of doubt, exploration and exhilaration! Join us in a quest to question the origins of romantic fantasies and deeply ingrained social conditioning about what is "normal." 

This episode's Did-You-Know section gets into some of the terms and descriptive labels used in the episode, with quick introductions by Cherry on Asexuality, Pixie on Bisexuality and Mojo on Pansexuality. 

Idea: Sex is not just about reproduction and procreation. Humans engage in sex for pleasure full stop! Go ahead and look up "all animals that have sex for pleasure" - prepare to be pleasantly surprised. 

About Unbuttoned India: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Body Image... Welcome to Season 2 Episode 5!

This week Pixie, Mojo and Cherry pay a visit to our physical bodies.  We talk about experiences in our childhood and current life that have (literally and figuratively) shaped our bodies. Who and what has had a say in how we perceive ourselves? What shifts and transformations have we undergone over time?

Hitch a ride with us as we visit classic body image hot-spots like store changing rooms, weddings, schools, gyms, movies....our own internal minds. We arrive at Memory Lane that is lined with anecdotes about complexion, skin, body shape, body size, smells, and in sharing openly we find understanding in each other about the under confidence, the anger, the shame, the reflections and the liberation. 

In Did-You-Know, tune in for some very interesting surveys about male body image and cosmetic surgery. We also tell you about the fabulously body-positive podcast called Fat.So? Go check them out!

Idea: Have you tried daily affirmations? Where you look in the mirror and say out loud "I love you. I love all of you. Yes, YOU!"

About Unbuttoned India: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Oh For Orgasm... Welcome to Season 2 Episode 4!

This week we get each other off. And by that we mean, you know, off on orgasm stories!

Pixie, Mojo and Cherry traverse the contours of the body and mind to understand each other's oh-yeahhhh and oh-mehhh moments when it comes to sexual excitation and that Big O. What does it take for us to reach an orgasm? Some like it hot, we hear.  Some like it textured with gentle ribbing. Stop - wait a minute (here's my cup, put some liquor in it) .....what IS an orgasm? We unpack the basics for ourselves so that we may ponder the tales of multiple orgasms, faking orgasms, the nature of ejaculation in men and woman, and saying COME ON to "cumming together". 

We all have moments of moaning outwardly or inwardly when we orgasm. We all have moments of mourning outwardly or inwardly when they fail to come. Tune in to hear us say O My!  After all, we are in this together. #thatswhathesaid 

Question: Have you ever "cum together" with someone? Or come close? :-P

About Unbuttoned India: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Sexual Mishaps and When Things Go Uh Oh... Welcome to Season 2 Episode 3!

Sometimes things just don't go that smoothly, do they? This week Mojo, Pixie and Cherry have a rollicking time frolicking through tales of woes, foes and stubbed toes - figuratively; it was a stubbed head in this case, ouch! *Inserts laughter track*

Pixie wants you to know that time waits for no man - or woman. Mojo has logistical conundrums and even provides solutions in the Did You Know segment! Cherry has a tryst with a hot-air-balloon of a human and encounters a range of badness, from breath to technique. Uff da!

Join us as we swing wildly between chuckling and cringing. It's a ride and a half ;-)

Question: What is the nuttiest/boobiest thing you've encountered in the heat of the moment? 

About Unbuttoned India: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Libido and Love - A Lockdown Special. Welcome to Season 2 Episode 2!

The nation-wide lockdown here in India has translated to a long spell of home-bound isolation. As a result, we are all experiencing a significant shift in how our body and our minds are being engaged with the outer and inner worlds.  Mojo, Pixie and Cherry decided to get on an impromptu lockdown special episode to chat about how this new normal is affecting sexual desire and our relationships with ourselves and others. 

In this episode we unbutton stories on how we navigate the spectrum of sometimes "not feeling it" and "feeling strain and stress" to placing importance on self love and expression. Tune in to hear the trio share their ideas for activities that bring focus to the self ...all in aid of strengthening the connection with others, sexually or otherwise!

Question: Have you found masturbation to be a stress buster?

About Unbuttoned India: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics.

Getting Sexy in Public Spaces. Welcome to Season 2 Episode 1!

Are you getting jiggy with the genitals in a general and ginormous jagah? Join us, gentle listener, as we kickstart this brand new season with a jaunt to those public spaces that raise the bar and the heart rate when it comes to getting sexy with another human.  Mojo takes us from Bali to Barcelona, and gets us excited about "cruising" and elevator stories.  Cherry can't contain her wild sounds as she shares her enthusiasm for making our mark in this world - with our bodies. Pixie regales us with tales on getting down and getting busy in natural habitats and urban ubers.  

... and those are just teasers! Tune in for more as we unbutton ourselves and blow open (ahem) our thoughts on the sense of danger, the forbidden, safety, trust, intimacy, and most of all exploring our boundaries. Private and public.

S2E1's Did-You-Know segment touches on India laws on PDA, how Indians are becoming bolder, and ideas for spaces that bold indians may want to add to their fucket list.  

Again, for those at the back: Getting jiggy with the genitals in a generally ginormous jagah! Say this fast five times - out loud. Get out, get loud.

About Unbuttoned India: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned India provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course unpack the many questions they too have around these topics. 

First Sexual Experiences. Welcome to Episode 8 of Season 1!

In this exciting last episode of the season, Pixie, Mojo and Cherry talk about ‘first sex’ - that first time that marks the beginning of one’s glorious, action-packed sexual life! 

While recounting their own first experiences, they discuss everything from the anticipation, the nervousness, the kindness, the disappointment, the pain and the pleasure of that experience. 

Stayed tuned till the end for some fun facts on lubricants, the hymen and what curious Indians google the most about first sex! 

Question: When was your first time getting jiggy with your genitals with another person? 

First (Relation)Ships and Trips. Welcome to Episode 7 of Season 1!

Memories of a first romantic relationship can be cute, be painful, be filled with joy, be filled with regret....and a zillion things in between and beyond. ALL ABOARD as Mojo, Pixie and Cherry hop on the trippy ship of shippy tales, making their way through the choppy memories of first romantic relationships. You know those questions we ask friends when we get all up in their dating lives? This episode visits all of them. "How did you guys meet?" "How did you make it official?" "Did you change in any way?".....yada yada yada, you know the drill!

We discover that no matter which kind of memory it might be for each of us, what does hold true for all is that it left us with lessons for the self. Join us in this conversation as we share what we learned. 

Also, also, also -  tune in to get did-you-know'd on relationship-induced hormones, a fun revealing questionnaire that can be used during first relationships, and a fun fact about living-in in India!

Question: What heads-up would you give to someone starting out on their first relationship?

Pouring Over Porn (POP!). Welcome to Episode 6 of Season 1!

Titillation is a fun word, no? Doesn't it just bring to mind the Hindi word for butterfly - Tittli?! In today's episode, Mojo, Pixie and Cherry are your friendly neighbourhood butterflies flitting between all matters related to that one thing that one time that one person got caught watching in the Indian parliament, no less: PORN. 

Ah yes, sweet memories! We talk about the first time that we each watched a porn video or looked at pornographic imagery. There was a time when pleasure met shame in bittersweet embrace...How have we evolved since then in our tastes and attitude towards the consumption of porn? This and more...so, tune in for a ride from internet cafes to magazines to porn award shows!

Get the goods, and then talk a walk with us on fun facts about Indian porn watching trends and of course classic-name-drop-essential: Kama Sutra. #whynot

Episode food-for-thought: Have you tried watching porn featuring characters of a different sexual orientation than you? Why or why not?

Discovering Masturbation. Welcome to Episode 4 of Season 1!

Here’s a fine tale to unbutton from our hip-stories: our first ever tryst with masturbation. Some humans somehow 'just knew' and some humans simply stumble upon the experience, and others are all shades in between. This makes for a fun trip down to the assorted areas of Pillow Town, Tap Water Chowk, Vibrator Nagar, Bollywood Motif Street…a total smorgasboard, nay, a smorgasmboard of options and experiences.

Join Mojo, Pixie and Cherry as they saunter into pleasurable pasts and presents, with a few ideas for the future. Get did-you-know’d on eye-opening facts on the masturbation habits of Indian women (yes please!), myths, and a quick check-in on The Stone Age (aka The Bone Age, amirite?)

Q-for-U: Who was the first person you ever spoke to about self-pleasure?

First Dates? First Dates! Welcome to Episode 3 of Season 1!

Relationships always begin with a first meet. Cut to romantic relationships, a "first date" is the classic way humans brave through the awkward and/or the exciting path towards getting to know someone better. Sometimes it's with open eyes, sometimes blind.

Join Mojo, Pixie and Cherry revisit their first ever romantic date - how did it come to pass? How come this person? What were the logistics- WHO PAYS?? (No really, what's the rule here anyway and why do we think that?) What was going through our minds during this date? Talking about our first dates took us back in time to a place we were way more tentative - did that experience influence how we behave during dates today? 

We then pass through the valley of did-you-know to some curious facts about dating in the human race.

Episode food-for-thought: In such cases as dates, how much are we guided by what people have told us should happen? What do you think?

Sexting Sexcapades. Welcome to Episode 2 of Season 1!

What do two people very into each other do when they can’t be in the same place at the same time? "Don't get vexed, send that sext! Don't get vexed, send that sext!" .....ok FINE, maybe that *isn't* a famous slogan just yet. Either way, join Mojo, Pixie and Cherry as we take a walk through the verbal, the visual, the visceral and -uff- the vicarious! We drive bumper-first into our histories, making pit-stops at the fun-fun and the cringe-fun stations. What drove our first experience, How and Where we now like to do it, and Why it is a jolly good catalyst in sexual relationships.
Get ready to get Did-You-Know’d on India's sex survey, local laws around sexting, and a blog recommendation for those who want to try sexting for the first time.

*Off -the-wall question*: Would it matter if the sexting partner was an A.I.? 

That First Romantic Kiss. Welcome to Episode 1 of Season 1!

Today Mojo pulled out a topic chit that had us journeying back to the first meeting of lips, slips and tips. Oh boy, the variety in our experiences just go to show how much we can learn from swapping (saliva) stories - ahem! Awkward. Exciting. "Interesting". Overwhelming. Underwhelming. Just how did we even know where to position our heads, our hands, our bodies? Was the kiss instinctual or was the guidance largely external? We help each other recall those first sensations, and then explore whether those have come to play a role today in our likes/dislikes when it comes to kissing.  Stay tuned to the end for some sweet Did-You-Know facts and figures on the life and times of KISSING. :-* 

Say, has kissing ever given you goosebumps like it did Pixie?

When Sex Meets Food. Welcome to episode 3 of the pilot season.

Today, we rustle up our feelings on food being used during sexual activity. Take a walk with us as we recount actual experiences or fantasies of pleasure. Thinking about imagery as a source of arousal, we stop to wonder why food -specifically-  is sooooo suggestive in the first place. #OralFixation, anyone? Oh, and we don't shy away from discussing that mini-war between our inner Adventurer and inner Germophobe...someone's got to do it :-P

What are your boundaries when it comes to including food in your "sexual diet"?

About Unbuttoned: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course discuss the many questions they too have around these topics. In this pilot season, get a taste for the Unbuttoned experience in three weekly episodes that will follow the preview.

One-Night Stands. Welcome to episode 2 of the pilot season.

Today, we jump into the world of the quick and passing trysts with another human. We ask ourselves what constitutes a "one-night stand." We ponder the logistics around it - those details of where and when and how, amirite?! When you don't expect to see each other again, does that change what you say and what you do?

Can a one-night stand be a deeply profound experience? 

About Unbuttoned: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course discuss the many questions they too have around these topics. In this pilot season, get a taste for the Unbuttoned experience in three weekly episodes that will follow the preview.

Talking About Sex. Welcome to episode 1 of the pilot season.

Today, we chat about chatting about sex, and what it has done for us. “So meta you guys!” In the episode, we explore what talking about the sexual experience with friends or with sexual partner(s) brings to relationships - especially what it could mean for long term relationships. 

Have you found that your relationships have opened up when you talk about sex?

About Unbuttoned: Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course discuss the many questions they too have around these topics. In this pilot season, get a taste for the Unbuttoned experience in three weekly episodes that will follow the preview.

Three friends meet weekly to talk about sex, sexuality and intimacy in urban India. Hosted by Cherry, Mojo and Pixie, Unbuttoned provides a healthy and safe platform to share their stories, find pleasure in their discoveries and of course discuss the many questions they too have around these topics. In this pilot season, get a taste for the Unbuttoned experience in three weekly episodes that will follow the preview.

This episode is a preview that introduces you to the why, what and how of Unbuttoned.