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Real & Raw by Unsetting Expectations

Real & Raw by Unsetting Expectations

By Franka Grubisic
Unsetting Expectations is a community of authenticity & vulnerability that drives humanity forward by inspiring storytelling. We publish new, moving articles weekly and host Real and Raw conversations every Thursday live on our socials. If you can't make it live, tune in to the conversations here. Real & Raw features & highlights women who have or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more.
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Raw bite 19 - Internalizing over a "?": Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. I’ve been thinking back about things that had been a huge problem for me when I worked for different companies over the past couple of years, and I suddenly realized that many of the troubles have resulted from over analyzing my menager's or my colleagues' emails and replies. I immediately started to internalize and feel fear inside of me when I saw a question mark in it, because I thought there was something I hadn't done right. Crazy, isn't it? Technology has undoubtedly made our lives easier in many ways, but I’m not so sure I like the effect it has on communication and understanding those written messages. It's especially present in communication between a manager and their employees, and a huge problem is not even hearing something each of them has to say.  And I've realized that people had never thought of listening as an important subject by itself. Now that I'm a business owner and having people working for me, I have realized that listening to what they have to say is one of the most important parts of our communication and of me getting to understand how they feel and what they need so that they can feel more comfortable working and communicating back to me. Listening to what they have to say may be more than an eye-opening experience for them, as well as for me and the business. It could mean more understanding of their needs, more progress and possibly innovation when they are being heard and valued. I'm kind of in the midst of a journey of reframing and reparenting myself  I also run two social businesses and I have a small team working together. And the roles are different so I need to be able to recognize how my team is feeling that day just based on their messages and their replies. And then I moderate my replies to them based on understanding what they need to hear, or what they might think. Because I know that sometimes they can also feel the same fear from a message that I sent that has a question mark in it.
01:28
April 09, 2022
Raw bite 18 - Having boundaries is not rude: Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Do you feel guilty when you even think of setting boundaries? Well, I'm here to tell you that you're not alone! One of the main reasons we avoid setting boundaries is that we mistakenly think they’re rude and controlling and that we'll get characterized as being mean and selfish. For many of us the problem is being stuck in a people-pleaser mindset, letting other people tell us what's right for us instead of deciding for ourselves. We have all these negative beliefs because others have reacted poorly to our boundaries in the past. And this is especially present in dysfunctional families where people may feel guilty or unjustified in asking for what they want or need and never getting their needs met. Personally, I didn't have boundaries for a lot of reasons and when I met people who had them, I always thought "Oh my God, what a rude person!". The relationship with my parents, and their parents was really dysfunctional and it was especially hard for me as a child to look at and to grow up in such environment. I didn't have anyone  kind of role-modelling that it's okay to stand up for yourself, that it's okay to say no to things and that it's okay to, not to raise your voice but to speak your truth. And by getting raised by a family that acts a certain way, I just thought that I should be quite all the time and let people use me however they want, because those were the behaviors that I saw for such a long time. When I moved to Zagreb, for University, I figured that people were acting differently here and I quite liked it. It was a transitioned period of me realizing that having boundaries is not rude at all, that's what should be the bare minimum of common courtesy to yourself. Setting boundaries means, for once, putting ourselves first. And what it really does is, it protects us from being hurt and taken advantage of.  In fact, setting clear boundaries creates healthy relationships and clear expectations as long as we learn how to set them properly and don't feel guilty. Therefore, we have to figure out how to find ways to set boundaries that work for us. Listen to the whole conversation and pick up some of the tips for yourself!
01:48
April 07, 2022
Raw bite 17 - Keep your inner connection: Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. So many of us go through life disconnected from our inner self, not paying attention to our core, looking for someone or something to complete us. And it's almost like we're waiting for some kind of outside approval for things we should or shouldn't do, we begin to lose control of what we truly want and feel like doing. We miss out so much on vital information that could be shaping our life choices and daily actions by not trusting ourselves and our inner feeling. Sometimes you get really caught up on looking so much outwards and comparing ourselves and our businesses with how businesses of other people work so much that we lose that inner connection and trust and you're like "Oh, I'm actually not feeling really aligned with this, I don't feel like I have the energy to launch this now even though I already had that planned." And that can create a lot of resistance and judgement and a lot of those negative emotions. For the most part of my life I struggled with a poor relationship with myself. I used to have a critical, judgmental inner dialogue. My perfectionist tendencies made me feel like I was never good enough which made me feel completely disconnected from my inner self. Over recent years, so much of this has changed. I have practiced acceptance, forgiveness and unconditional self-love, which made me realize, I'm on my own journey in this life and it's completely fine to take a step back, tune in and be like "it's okay if I don't do this at the moment because it doesn't feel right". The key is to develop the connection with the source of guidance, the sense of self that lies within you, to discover that you're able to rely on your inner feeling, your inner guidance. And just like anything, it requires dedication and a lot of patience. It's important to let yourself receive any information that comes from within, and give yourself time to process it and understand what is it trying to tell you.
00:47
April 02, 2022
Raw bite 16 - Against your own nature: Jaz Broughton
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Many of us have been in a place where we are in a constant resistance to what we feel inside ourselves, our internal state where we're holding off, and it's almost like constant pushing or pulling back. Being too hard and resistant to ourselves makes us feel angry, miserable, frustrated and even overly restricted. It makes us blame ourselves for things we didn't do, we even blame ourselves for things we did and how we did them, almost like we have no control over ourselves and our emotions towards ourselves. Whether it's a trauma response, whether it's the discomfort that you're feeling, the resistance where you're resisting against your own nature, it's important to figure that out, and see if you can get yourself to a space where there's just less shame and it doesn't feel as heavy. We need to be light. You cannot be limitless when you're just like "I'm going to apologize for everything I am and everything I do and everything I didn't do." You don't want that version of you showing up in the world. Personally, I don’t believe it’s really healthy to fight or judge yourself, and I also don’t believe it’s healthy to just give in to every impulse either. There should be a healthy balance between the two. It’s about compassionate self guidance and self discovery, so that we can get where we want to go in life, as well as feel free and be able to enjoy the journey.
00:39
March 31, 2022
Raw bite 15 - How do I want to feel today?: Vix Anderton
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. So much of our time we spend trying to keep up and fit everything into our days that we can't even enjoy them as we want to. In a world like this that often seems to get busier and fast-paced than ever, it’s easy to get swept up by the feeling of needing to do more and do it faster, just to keep up with the world. It has become a societal norm that being busy equals more productivity. It leads us feeling overwhelmed, stressed and it makes us feel like we're not good enough, like we're not doing good enough. We're running ourselves into the ground, almost. And I'm kind of feeling that in all our busyness and constantly running around, we're missing out on the most important and most beautiful parts of our lives. It is important to make slowing down a priority and focus on what's really important for you at the moment. And it isn't the easiest thing to do, it takes time and practice and a lot of discipline and self control to take it easy. You need to learn to pay attention to the things that are in front of you in the moment, to stay present and right where you are. "How could I slow more today?" Okay, I'm going to sit and I'm going to journal for five more minutes. So my thing today is like, how can I keep slowing down? And every time I've noticed that I've started getting a bit more stressed, everything speeds up for me. I talk a little bit faster, I move faster. And, so rather than just telling myself to slow down, if I can slow down my body movements, I start to cultivate a feeling of slowness and everything suddenly my day has felt a little more spacious. And it feels like I have room to move. - says Vix Anderton. Whenever you’re feeling overly busy, stressed or simply overwhelmed, try some of these small tips to help you slow down and just follow the pace of yourself. Every small change throughout your day can slow down your pace without killing your productivity. If you find a more peaceful process, you’ll be both happier and more effective. If you're interested in learning how to slow down and still get things done, I highly suggest you to listen to this episode!
01:30
March 31, 2022
Raw bite 14 - Where do I find human beings?: Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. We live in a world where not everything we see on the internet is true. And this is especially the case with social media. With so many opinions and information coming from all sides, people showing up with filters and masks on, it’s easy to just fall for everything that’s fighting for our attention. The most widespread use of augmented reality is the face filters on social media that are more and more used among women and even young girls. And I don’t think it’s just filtering an actual image, it’s filtering  their whole life. Nowadays, everything is all about portraying a perfect life to gain fame and a number of followers, people forget who they are and they pretend to be someone who they're not. And I think it’s very sad what’s happening more and more. So much of the things we see online is scripted and Unsetting Expectations is my counter medicine to that. It's because everything is so scripted, everyone shows up with a filter and with a mask, it feels like we're already living in the metaverse. It's already like we're showing up as different people than who we are because someone one day decided it's better because it earns them more status, more followers and more money. I remember kind of being left, standing like this time a year ago and thinking like "Who is showing up as a human being?", " Where do I find human beings?", almost only place where people share conversations like these is on communities like Reddit, for example. And my intention for this entire project is to raise that awareness that every experience as a human being is a normal experience, that it's okay to show up as who you truly are. We're consuming more online media than ever and people have become obsessed with seeking approval from millions of strangers online. It has led to creating an incredibly fake persona and not having a genuine sense of identity and purpose. This is why Unsetting Expectations came to life, to normalize the experiences of us as human beings, to normalize the conversations around them and to offer a safe and warm space to share your stories.
01:36
March 24, 2022
#18 Accepting your uniqueness as a value proposition with Alice Brown
In this Real & Raw episode we're speaking to Alice Brown, a copywriter and website specialist who helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses. We talked about self doubt, uncertainty, fear and all these emotions entrepreneurs encounter when starting their own business. As entrepreneurs, in all our efforts to get better and deliver as much value as possible to our customers, we often feel there's always something missing, and the added pressure from our family and friends isn't helping. To learn to accept all these challenges as well as to accept your uniqueness as a value proposition is what we'll touch upon in this very raw episode. We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on YouTube. Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Twitter -  https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
01:20:52
March 22, 2022
Raw bite 13 - Relearning emotions: Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Being cut from your emotions, both positive and negative ones, can have serious and destructive impact on your life, your mental health and your relationships. Being detached from your emotions unables you to connect to your body, to recognize your body's needs, to process your emotions and to express how you feel in certain situations. Emotional detachment can happen due to so many different reasons, including a prolonged period of depression, an episode of anxiety, a long period of neglect as a child and other unexpected and pretty horrific events in your life. I was having trouble experiencing joy. If you had asked me 'Where do you feel joy?", I couldn't tell you, and I couldn't describe to you how joy felt to me. So I genuinely though, I'm incapable of experiencing joy. Because what I did for a very long time was by shutting down feeling the negative emotions, which unfortunately I had many especially throughout my childhood, I shut down all emotions. I didn't even know if it's possible to kind of shut the negative emotions and still be able to feel the positive ones. What was really difficult for me was to recognize when I feel happy, when I feel joy. Everyone has a different tendencies to feel emotions or turn them completely off based on how they feel about themselves and the world. It is important to be in touch with our emotions because they let us know where we want to set our boundaries, they inform us and protect us and they leave space for us to heal. We need access to all of our emotions in order to function in a healthy way. If you've caught yourself detaching from your emotions and being unable to express feelings, if any of this resonates with you, I highly suggest you to listen to the whole conversation. It is all about focusing on making change and understanding some important facts about our feelings before we learn to express them in an appropriate way.
01:23
March 19, 2022
Raw bite 12 - Too busy for a lunch break: Vix Anderton
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. It's almost impossible for anyone to work every minute of every day without eventually burning out. People often sacrifice their lunch breaks in order to be as productive as possible or they even go into the office at the weekends when they're supposed to be out of office and take those days off for themselves. Eventually, in one way or another, it takes toll on them. It is often related with struggling to cope with stress at a workplace that may place people at high risk of burnout which then leaves them feeling exhausted, empty, and unable to cope with the demands of life and work. When you experience burn out,  you feel more drained, your motivation is killed and it makes you feel like losing interest in your work. And those are just a few of many signs of prolonged response to works stress. "It happened quite gradually over a few months. I became too busy for a lunch break. I was working long hours and I started to go into the office at the weekends." - says Vix Anderton. I only started to appreciate that there might be something wrong when I was working with a coach, we had a three hour in-person session and she asked me how stressed I thought I was. I paused and I thought and I was like "I don't know, maybe like four or five out of ten". And she looked at me and said "Vix, you've been in tears for this entire session, you might want to reconsider your answer." It blew my mind. Crying in the toilets and having panic attacks at work every day isn't normal. Taking breaks has a big impact on your ability to deal with work and life stress.  It's important to find ways to cope with your work tasks and especially when it comes to finding a work-life balance so that it doesn't interfere with your personal life. Prioritizing self-care and scheduling time for yourself is one of the most crucial strategies to fighting burn out. Don't stay silent. You can also reach out to someone if you’re experiencing or approaching burnout. It's a lonely place to be, but you don't have to go through it alone! Do you feel depressed as a result of work-related stress? How do you cope with it? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with us.
01:50
March 17, 2022
#17 Lead your business with more ease and flow with Emily Hodge
In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Emily Hodge, a psychologist and a qualified coach who helps other coaches and founders lead their service business with more ease, integrity and profit. We talked about lacking of self worth despite hard work and accomplishments and how it manifests itself in entrepreneurial activity. Emily also shared her story on this as she's writing a book that was also developed as a result of her own struggle with lack of self compassion and feelings of self worth. She talked about leading a business with more ease and flow and what it means to run a business that fits around your needs. We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter -  https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
49:44
March 15, 2022
Raw bite 11 - The linear life: Jaz Broughton
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. There are so many reasons why we put limits in everything we do. From my perspective, most people limit themselves because they are scared of the unknown, they are scared of failing. More often we prefer to stay within our comfort zone because that is what we know and where we feel safe. Also, we often limit ourselves due to the fear of what people will think about us. What the society will think. All these limitations we put on ourselves are mind based. Our thoughts are being indoctrinated and manipulated from the moment of our birth and they have continued to be manipulated by the society we grew up in. When we were kinds, we were told we could be anything we want, but only if we were careful enough. Now as adults, we are missing out on those glorious moments of absolute freedom because our fear leaves us paralyzed as we hold out in the safety of what we know and where we feel comfortable. In a lot of ways it broke my heart, because it made me realize how easy it is for us to hold ourselves back to self-sabotage and do all these things quite unintentionally, says Jaz Broughton, a certified career coach. You have to get used to a certain level of uncertainty, you have to get used to a certain level of adventure, even if you really want that stability and you want that linear journey. Sometime we within ourselves don't know how to compute that because even from childhood we were taught to think in linear ways. It's no secret we all like comfort zone and we don't consider taking risks. But taking risks is the only guarantee for being truly alive. To take risks, we should have courage, and to have courage we should step out of our comfort zone. Our thoughts become our reality, and our mind soaks up whatever we focus on, the good and the bad. That's why it's important to stop putting limits on everything we do. And are you ready to step up and move beyond your own limitations?
01:35
March 12, 2022
Raw bite 10 - Keep constant reminders: Alice Benham
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. In order to bring this perspective into your life and business, you have to keep that positive attitude and develop a growth mindset. It means that you take every opportunity with open arms, that you believe you can do anything you put your mind to and that you are willing to work hard for what you want.   Positive affirmations are a powerful tool as they can help improve your confidence and help you become better at a certain activity or skill. When we believe in ourselves and when we are confident in our own capabilities, it allows us to view and feel less threatened by anything. We become more confident which then boosts our performance.   We don't have those constant reminders or pieces of evidence, but that is what our brains crave. Our brains want evidence that just closes that feedback loop that tells us, yep, I'm doing something worthwhile. This is the right thing and something I do on an ongoing basis, says @alice_benham. When I have a testimonial, a nice message or someone says yes to something, I get a screenshot and put it in a folder, so when I have the very frequent wobbles, I can be like "no, this is why I'm doing it, and it's worth it!".   There are times when we all feel like not being able to deal with those tough situations that just keep getting in the way of all the things we love in our lives. It's almost like we forget about all our accomplishments and everything good that we've done. It can be due to so many different things related to being stressed and under pressure. But those aren't permanent conditions. They're temporary, and just like everything, it will eventually go away. What we can do to help ourselves feel better, we can learn to practice positive affirmations as they help us overcome negative thoughts and self sabotage.   Whether it's putting post-it notes around the house, repeating positive affirmations in your head or reading your testimonials or nice messages, whatever works for you. It's important to feed you brain with constant reminders and you can use them in any situation where you'd like to see a positive change take place in your life.    You can find some valuable tips and tricks in this episode, it's worth listening
00:47
March 10, 2022
Raw bite 09' - Who is yourself?: Sara Ramos
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. "Just be yourself!”  It sounds like an amazing thing to do, and I have wished many times that I could just do that. But I've wondered what does it even mean and what does it take to just be yourself. When it comes to being yourself, the one showing to the world, there's usually a lot of pressure from the society around us who tries to influence who you are and who you should be. And it's hard to live in such a developing world where you're expected to adapt and to live and do what society tells you to do. That's why it's so important to know deeply who you are and live in alignment with your values and beliefs. Because, without knowing yourself and without establishing your boundaries, you can easily be pushed around and become lost and dissatisfied. If you've never thought about it in that way, if you're only following the script that someone else wrote for you, you may not even realize that you're not showing up as yourself because you don't know who that is, says Sara Ramos, a Learning Designer, Facilitator & Community Host. By deeply knowing yourself you are more likely to experience a fulfilling and rewarding life. Life is a journey of becoming the highest version of who you are, and although we all go through ups and downs, we can always come back to who we are. Listen to the full conversation to get some of the most useful tips to this very individual adventure of discovering your true self and being ready to show it to the world.
01:28
March 08, 2022
#16 How to let go of perfectionism and just be real with Sara Ramos
In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Sara Ramos, a Learning Designer, Facilitator & Community Host whom we talked about the importance of approaching everything as an experiment rather than striving for perfection, as it takes the expectations down. That way you're committing to allowing yourself to just be real and present rather than putting on a mask and living by a script. We also touched upon easing of restrictions that has allowed us to get back to the people and things we love, but at the same time not being able to be at ease because of everything that's been happening in Ukraine right now. We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
01:06:46
March 08, 2022
Raw bite 08 - Do you know who you are?: Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. I don't think that we don't know who we are. I just think that we have been conditioned for such a long and extended period of time that we've just gotten kind of disconnected because there's so much noise around us. The world floods us with messages about who we should be in order to survive and thrive in this world. We're all trained to be the opposite of who we are from the moment our parents are parenting us, to the moment we go to school and we get our first job and we're being constantly fed messages. But the way that we are is not correct and are trained to be the opposite of who we are. So what does human design do? Human Design shows you where and how to access your body's consciousness as a decision making tool, how to live as your true self and how it guides you in living in a manner that is in sync with who you are. It helps us to remember who we were before and if that happens, we can start to remove some of the conditioning and really start to utilize our gifts that we've often been told our weaknesses. If you're interested in finding out what your human design is and then how you can work in accordance to it and not the opposite of it which makes us even more powerful in our day to day lives, listen to this powerful conversation as Carly Ferguson shared with us her experience and her story.
00:46
March 05, 2022
Raw bite 07 - Sharing helps others: Jo Hooper
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. It isn't always easy to describe how you’re feeling and what you're going through and what does it feel like inside your head. However, expressing how you feel and sharing it with others can help you identify your feelings better and can also help you cope when life throws you challenges. When we're wounded, we're frightened and we're ashamed, and shame and fear and loneliness keep you more ill for longer. People go so far down the well that they don't think there's any way out, and that's what shame and fear and loneliness does, says Jo Hooper. This is why talking about your feelings is so important, as it helps you lift that weight, that emotional baggage, from your shoulder. And it also helps other people going though similar situations realize that they aren't alone. If by sharing a tiny bit of what you're going through or as much as you feel comfortable and able to share, can help others feel less alone and less ashamed and less fearful, it's an amazing thing. It's also amazing for yourself because once you start sharing, you start hearing back from others that they've had similar experiences, you realize that you're not alone, and you can feel a little bit less afraid and a little bit less ashamed. Bottling up our emotions isn’t a good thing, in fact, overtime it can become toxic. Talking about your feelings can make you feel vulnerable, however, by sharing how you feel with someone supportive and trustworthy, and someone with similar experiences can help you realize you're not alone in this and that there are ways you can learn to support yourself through life’s ups and downs. This community is a safe place for you to share everything you've been bottling up for so long! It exists to bring topics such as these to light, to normalize these kind of experiences to offer you a safe and warm space to share your stories! Remember, you're not alone in whatever you're going through!
01:42
March 03, 2022
#15 Identifying, accepting and expressing feelings with Dr. Rashmi Narayana
In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Dr. Rashmi Narayana, a psychiatrist and a Leadership & Clarity coach, who has worked across academia, the humanitarian sector, and tech start-ups. She is currently running her coaching practice, supporting female tech CEO in running company operations & founders in early-stage tech start-ups to identify their personal values and translate them to company values and is proud to be in a group of 28 international leadership coaches on the TRIUM EMBA program and a coach on the Imperial College, London Coach and Coffee program. We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
01:01:40
March 01, 2022
Raw bite 06 - Preferences of others: Rachel Walker
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. People often make judgments about others' valuations and preferences, based on their religious, ethical, political preferences and especially when it comes to the preferences for a romantic and a sexual partner. It is no doubt we all have different opinions about other people and other things. It's the matter of fact that people often throw their opinions at us whether we ask for it or not. And you wonder why should anybody give that much of a shit about somebody else's choices? You're always gonna have people that will have an opinion. It's a tough one, right? I think there's a process of like, getting to a place where you feel confident in yourself and that is what you want or don't want. And feeling secure in that in yourself is like a really important step. Because it's easier to withstand other people's judgement and questions if you're confident in yourself, says Rachel Walker. It's making sure you feel secure in yourself and in your relationship about what you expect from each other, what you do or don't want and then just being aware that other people are going to say stuff and ask questions.
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February 26, 2022
Raw bite 05 - She has no idea: Franka Grubisic
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Change is a normal part of life. It is inevitable. And some people even seem to thrive on change. They're open to new ideas and open for gaining new skills and new experiences. Many of us have been at the place of questioning our career paths at least once in our lifetime. The problem is, most of young graduates have no way of knowing for certain that the job they're applying for is the right fit for them. And they're constantly looking for new jobs and new opportunities because they certainly don't want to spend their lives in a career that does not make them happy. One of my biggest struggles I had in my life, was realizing that I don't have to have a niche or something to describe myself with one single word, or two words at maximum, because I'm a generalist and I have worked in such different industries, a plethora of different jobs. What it then seems on the outside is that if you're changing your job or your career path, you're short-sighted, less consistent and you show less commitment and dedication. Moreover, it seems that you have no idea what you want to do with your life. Whereas, for me, everything makes sense in it's own way. I'm trusting my curiosity and how it's guiding me and what I'm building, that when I look back, it all makes sense.
00:55
February 24, 2022
#14 Self-awareness and work-life balance with Alice Benham
In this live we welcomed Alice Benham, a business and marketing strategist, and how she likes to say it, a slightly accidental entrepreneur who shared with us her inspiring story of leaving school and stepping into business at the age of 17 and gradually growing from there. She pointed out many lessons on work-life balance that she, as a 23-year-old entrepreneur has learned in the previous 9 years of being in business. We also touched upon the importance of establishing personal values into every aspects of what we do and why getting ourselves to a good place and a better mindset should be our first priority. One thing that we've all been trying to learn is how to regain control over our time and prioritize our time to rest. If this is what sparks your interest, make sure to listen to the whole conversation and take some of the shared tips on how to blend a bit of work and a bit of rest!   Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏   Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter -  https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today!  Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
54:49
February 22, 2022
Raw bite 04 - Responsibility in relationships: Rachel Walker
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. When it comes to parental divorce, it often leads to low trust and it makes dating and romance more difficult for children as they reach adulthood. They tend to have less positive attitudes towards marriage and more positive attitudes towards divorce. In this Real & Raw conversation, Rachel and I touched upon this as she shared her experience and her raw story about having these kind of doubts about relationships. We often feel like everything is our responsibility and we're the only ones who need to do the work. When in reality, we don't have the capability to carry it all on our backs. When we expect something to fail, we're subconsciously expecting it to be our sole responsibility to make things work. And what happens then is most of us get disappointed when those expectations are not met.  "It has been a huge thing for me to get to a place where I kind of feel like some relationship last and some don't. We have certain control over it. We also have no control over it. It's letting go of the fact that uncertainty is uncomfortable and to be a bit more present in relationships." - says Rachel Episode #08 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9uecKR9S48&t=173s
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February 19, 2022
Raw bite 03 - Closing a business: Hanna Andersen
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. Once you've made the decision to leave your job to go freelance or launch your own business, it can bring serious questions and assumptions from people that are close to you.  If it was for another job for a bigger company, it would be fine, they would all congratulate you, but when it comes to launching your own business and starting from scratch, people immediately start assuming that you'll fail and be unsuccessful if you don't have a proper plan with detailed structure and strategy.  As Hanna says, there seems to be this huge pressure that when you start a business that then has to make you a millionaire or last forever, otherwise you failed.  When you think about closing your business people start assuming "Oh, well, that business failed. Oh, she didn't manage to do what she wanted to do." when in reality, I've just changed my mind about what I want to do. And at the end, it all comes down to your decision and what you think will work for you, whether it's reconsidering your career, closing your business or finding a new job. It's safe to say that our society heavily relies on viewing things from the perspective of having a job in a big organization and working for a huge company. When in reality, your personal values and your business values shouldn't necessarily differ because you're still the same human being showing up for work, whether you're working for yourself or for someone else. Either way, you have to give the best version of yourself to make things work. There should be no rules for what you should be doing.  It all comes down to this, nobody knows what's best for you better than you can, so trust your instincts and own your decisions. You'll be glad you did. Episode #09 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GvoHRDpgho&t=231s
00:43
February 17, 2022
#13 Perfectionism, productivity & pressure with Vix Anderton
In this live we welcomed Vix Anderton, a recovering perfectionist and embodiment coach who shared with us her inspiring story after spending years in an air force. We touched upon recognizing the signs of burnout and why is it important to allow yourself to live with more ease every single day and why we should make uncomfortable situations explicit and bring them into conscious awareness. Welcoming everything doesn't mean to tolerate uncomfortable people or situations in our lives, we should accept them as they're the parts of us being human. And the more we push these part in the  shadow, they run us from the unconscious.   Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏   Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more.   See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter -  https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic Join Unsetting Expectations today!  Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
01:05:49
February 15, 2022
Raw bite 02 - Is done enough?: Katie Phillips
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. A question that often pops in my head is "Is done really enough?" "Does any task I do need to be perfect?". For the most part of my life, since I was 14, to be precise, I have battled with perfection, especially at work. I have tried to achieve perfection in every single task I did. Little did I know that the world is far from being perfect and that sometimes imperfection is a wonderful way to discover new ways of doing tasks that aren't rigidly perfect. Somewhere along the line, I realized that trying to control everything was kind of exhausting and it would make my life more stressful than it were at that moment, it just wouldn't let me consider the important things in my life, and I was forced to put those things on hold. What a bad way to deal with things, right? As Katie Phillips says, we need to start looking at ourselves and become internally self aware. And it's when you get into the practical stuff, like "how do you manage your time" and "how do you prioritize your needs" on a day-to-day basis. That way you don't remove those stressors, you actually do something to process that stress. It is important to learn to let your guard down when it comes to thinking that you need to be perfect all the time. You do not! 🌟 Episode #07 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvwR4z2hxiM&t=98s
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February 12, 2022
Raw bite 01 - Doing less or more things: Rachel Emma Waring
In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw. We often find ourselves asking whether we should be doing less or more work in order to be fulfilled and happy in life, and it often leads to uncertainty and burn-out. The reality is, doing less makes it easier for us to grow in some circumstances, as Rachel says, but the point is to find a healthy middle ground between doing what makes you happy and at the same time, building a business and a career that fulfills you. If you're able to establish a daily routine that works for you, as well as be open to change and flexible with what what life has to offer, that way it will get the best of both worlds. ✨ Episode #10 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cqs3aT2TnCU&t=615s
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February 10, 2022
#12 Holding ourselves back and being in the 'messy middle' with Jaz Broughton
In this Real & Raw live, we welcomed to Jaz Broughton, a certified career coach who has helped many people establish their businesses, attract new opportunities and get away from this 'never-enough' cycle through her coaching and group programs. We talked about the messy middle, what it feels like being stuck in the 'black box' and never speaking about what we're going through. We also touched upon what happens when we hold ourselves back by putting limits, and the way our thoughts are connected to our beliefs. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏  Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. Join Unsetting Expectations today!  Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/
01:04:27
February 08, 2022
#11 Importance of sharing our honest experiences with Jo Hooper
In this Real & Raw we're having a conversation with Jo Hooper, a mental health at work consultant and a founder of Mad And Sad Club. We're talking about the importance of sharing our honest experiences right in the moment where we are with our mental health and our business. we also touched upon what it's like to live and work in a box that society thought us we should and about setting boundaries in a way that help other people understand our expectations in order to learn and grow together. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Jo Hooper: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/madandsadclub/ web: https://madandsadclub.co.uk/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
01:06:38
February 01, 2022
#10 Inner critical voice of a creative person with Rachel Emma Waring
In this Real & Raw episode we had a conversation with Rachel Emma Waring, a stylist turned strategist who she runs her own business. As a business owner, she makes her own assumptions of her business (like so many of us), which end up causing burnout and overwhelm! We talked about these made-up assumptions, how to overcome the critical voice and all the fears, doubts and lessons learnt on her own journey to unset expectations. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/  Rachel Emma Waring: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelemmawaring/ web: https://www.rachelemmawaring.com/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
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January 18, 2022
#09 Confessions of a Founder after being made redundant after 13 years with Hanna Andersen
Today we welcomed Hanna Andersen from As We Are to talk about her journey of getting made redundant after 13 years (she started when she was 19!) and what that meant for her in her journey to becoming self-employed. In the second half of the conversation we touch upon the differences of being in a traditional vs. Founder jobs and how does the society view them, what makes it harder etc. The key thing for me in this conversation was the realization how Founder businesses are treated unfairly when we decide to change ideas or move from it after 2 years. Not a lot of people would judge you if you were to change your regular job after 2 years, right? So why do they do it here? Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Hanna Andersen: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asweare.uk/ web: https://www.asweare.org.uk/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
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December 16, 2021
#08 Expectations in relationships and what happens when you start being okay with cheating with Rachel Walker
Today we're speaking with Rachel Walker, a Whole Person Certified Coach, Self Discovery Facilitator, ex-Primary School Teacher, and Psych grad and we're going to talk alllll things relationships! Hope you enjoy the talk! Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Rachel Walker: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courageouslyyoucoaching/ web: https://www.courageouslyyou.co.uk/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
01:15:38
December 09, 2021
#07 What happens if you ignore the signs of burnout with mental wellbeing expert Katie Phillips
Today we're speaking with burnout and mental wellbeing at work expert Katie Phillips about the triggers, signs and  symptoms of burnout, how to recognise them, what to do if you're there already and how to support your mental wellbeing. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Katie Phillips: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katiephill/ web: https://kdp.coach/links/ Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
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December 07, 2021
#05 How to shift your mindset to live a fuller life and be more confident with Nicola Charlotte
Nicola Charlotte is a mindset and confidence coach. We discussed what are the "shoulds" that you are living by? Are you conforming to society and shrinking yourself to fit in to what is "traditionally successful"? If these questions pique your interest, you'll definitely love the conversation. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Clubhouse. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. Join Unsetting Expectations today! See what we're up to on Instagram.
01:02:00
November 16, 2021
#04 Emotional safety, body image, manifestation and motherhood with Jill Skulina
Jill Skulina is an "artist, writer, mentor, DISRUPTER and emotional work in progress." The disrupter in caps gets me every time. We speak about emotional safety, motherhood and other life narratives. Join us for a real and raw, warm and heartfelt conversation.  Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Clubhouse. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. Join Unsetting Expectations today! See what we're up to on Instagram.
01:21:11
November 09, 2021
#03 Human design, working like a human, why one-size doesn't fit all when it comes to work with Carly Ferguson
Carly Ferguson is a leadership and business coach, and in this episode we've spoke about human design - how to work in accordance to ours, instead of trying to imitate what the rest of the world is doing and much more! Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Carly Ferguson: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlyfergusoncoaching/ web: https://linktr.ee/carlyfergusoncoaching Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
01:09:13
November 02, 2021
#02 Wholesomeness, being a human, unlearning and reconnecting with yourself with Poonam Dhuffer
Poonam Dhuffer is an embodiment practitioner and founder of community care platform, YSM8. Her mission is to help everyone recognise their wholeness, interconnectedness and divinity that resides within. We talked about our unique and wholesome experiences of being human beings, of reconnecting to our bodies, how it's hard for women because of the continuous oppression and disconnect from our bodies, healing from trauma and much more. I hope you'll enjoy the conversation. Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Poonam Dhuffer: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_ysm8/ web: https://linktr.ee/_ysm8 Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
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October 26, 2021
#01 Ambition, uncertainty, fear of success, being in control with Dr. Rashmi Narayana
Rashmi is a psychiatrist and coach who has worked across academia, the humanitarian sector, and tech start-ups. She is currently running her coaching practice, supporting female tech CEO in running company operations & founders in early-stage tech start-ups to identify their personal values and translate them to company values and is proud to be in a group of 28 international leadership coaches on the TRIUM EMBA program and a coach on the Imperial College, London Coach and Coffee program. We talked about meeting expectations, worrying about mistakes and what to do when you've been feeling like you're stuck! Hope you'll enjoy this fruitful interactive conversation! Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏 Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more. See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/ Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations?__nodl&ref=external%3Awww.youtube.com&_rdr LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/frankagrubisic/ Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Join Unsetting Expectations today! Here on our web page - https://www.unsettingexpectations.com/ Rashmi Narayana: instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rashminarayana_/ web: https://linktr.ee/rashmiln Watch the episodes on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDZZkKG3WaZIg-A1CODRNhA?sub_confirmation=1
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October 19, 2021
#12 - Finding Yourself
A must-read if you need a powerful and inspiring intimate confession on creating a path for yourself, whether professional or private.Isn't it astonishing how we sometimes forget that our rules are made up and there is no point in stressing ourselves over them and continuing the kind of behavior that empowers them at our damage?One of the Unsetting Expectations' contributing authors shared her thoughts on finding the ideal career and job and balancing everything else that life brings us. She has reflected on engaging with herself and finding comfort in being more than one thing at a time.Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.comFollow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/—————Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
14:34
July 22, 2021
#11 - The cost of people-pleasing
If you're a constant people-pleaser, this will sound familiar 👇"The world is crammed full of things I want or need to be involved in the second I hear about them. There’s a talk next week – yes count me in. There’s a new tree planting scheme up the road – yes I’ll be there. There’s a gig in 2 weeks – I’m polishing my dancing shoes already!", writes Eddie for Unsetting Expectations.Welcome to the confessions of a compulsive initial enthusiast, a brilliant guest piece for Unsetting Expectations, out today.Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.comFollow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/—————Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
12:46
July 01, 2021
#10 - Rebellion, new beginnings & rebirth
Unsetting expectations is important. When we don’t feel valued, worthy, or enough — and we’ve set the standards and expectations ourselves — it’s key that we unset them. But, in all of that, we also need to learn how to (properly) set (proper) expectations too. In this episode, Franka talks about her journey of learning to set healthy expectations and visualises how it will look for you too. Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/
05:38
June 17, 2021
#09 - Is work-life balance real?
What happens when your work identity takes over your personal identity? In this week's issue of Unsetting Expectations, Alice Benham, a business and marketing strategist, describes her journey of the separation between human Alice and Alice Benham Ltd.If you've never really resonated with the work-life concept, and find a great deal of my identity in your work, you're gonna want to hear this one.Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/
09:22
June 10, 2021
#08 - Why "Stop When You Are Done" is horrible advice for perfectionists
Are things ever actually ‘done’? As a perfectionist, I always see the next step forward. Hence, “Stop When You’re Done” could very easily be the most horrific piece of advice one might get. Even worse, such advice is popularised and praised upon by our hustle & grind culture.This episode delivers 3 tips for perfectionists with deadlines, which continue to help me come to peace and almost “melt” with my perfectionism while also taking care of myself and my mental health!Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.comFollow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/—————Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
08:42
June 03, 2021
#07 - Small steps for big impact
The discovery of a gentle approach to creativity, self-love, and business couldn't have arrived at a better time. Since losing our family puppy and uncle in the past three weeks, adopting this approach has helped me be gentle, not put pressure on myself but rather take small steps towards recovery. As this week's Unsetting Expectations guest writer Katja Hunter said: "My perfectionism has a hard time trying to be in control when there’s no pressure to 'perform'".
04:56
May 27, 2021
#05 - Why can't you be like her?
The 5th issue of Unsetting Expectations talks about how being subjected to comparison from a young age doesn’t help much when we start becoming perfectionistic adults.Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.comFollow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/—————Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
05:30
April 25, 2021
#04 - Absorbing reflected perfectionism
In this 3rd issue, Franka reads an issue written by a contributing author, which describes what happens when we reflect whatever version of ourselves the person we're talking to needs to see. At that moment, we hide our true feelings and thoughts, defaulting instead to what we think is required.Listen to this honest confession about being a mirror instead of an authentic individual with genuine conversations and real connections.Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.comFollow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/—————Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
05:32
April 15, 2021
#03 - Lonely at the top: On losing friends
In this 3rd issue, Franka discusses what happens when your greatness and ambition outgrow both, comfort zone and minds, of your own closest friends? Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/ ————— Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic. We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
05:54
April 01, 2021
#02 Never enough - Not feeling like your work is important
In this episode of Unsetting Expectations, Franka discusses the feeling of never enough, where, no matter how hard you work, you simply can't connect to your accomplishments. The article uncovers where does this come from, and what can we collectively do to help ourselves overcome those feelings. Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/ ————— Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic. We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
04:09
March 18, 2021
#01 - You are holding the pen wrong
The first issue of Unsetting Expectations covers the topic of inhibited perfectionism - how society imprints rules on us since a young age, which lead to the development of perfectionism because we're told that no matter how hard we try, it's never good enough.Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.comFollow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/—————Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.
05:50
March 04, 2021