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Urban Spinster

Urban Spinster

By Sadia Sanders

Celebrating the SINGLE life without judgement and redefining the word “Spinster”
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How To Hook Up A Single Friend - 3 Tips 🙎🏾‍♂️🙎🏾‍♀️

Urban SpinsterNov 28, 2019

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MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother in Poverty (Episode 6)
Mar 26, 202453:16
Know Your Worth!

Know Your Worth!

Sometimes it takes a while for women to reverse the conditioning received from birth. And when we do, often that awakening is met with backlash. Especially from males.
Jan 19, 202313:56
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother in Poverty (Episode 5, Part 2)
Dec 26, 202201:19:56
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 5, Part 1)
Dec 08, 202201:01:08
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 4)
Jun 20, 202254:22
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 3)
Jun 12, 202214:59
MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 2, Pt 2)

MacLaren Hall - The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 2, Pt 2)

Continuing my episodic series on MacLaren Hall, I speak to Claudia Flowers, who began her career in Social Work in 1993 and remained at the facility until its closing. This is Part 2 of 2.
MacLaren Hall Children's Center has been called "Los Angeles' Dirty Little Secret". Owned by the county, It once housed thousands of kids removed from their homes for various reasons and placed at what was to be a temporary facility until a suitable foster home became available. Disproportionately, poor single mothers without the proper resources would lose their children to foster care. Many were victimized at the hands of those with a duty to protect them, resulting in lawsuits and the facility shut down. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE! anchor.fm/urbanspinster/subscribe
May 26, 202227:04
MacLaren Hall – The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 2, Pt 1)

MacLaren Hall – The Sin of Being A Single Mother In Poverty (Episode 2, Pt 1)

Continuing my episodic series on MacLaren Hall, I speak to Claudia Flowers, who began her career in Social Work in 1993 and remained at the facility until its closing. This is Part 1 of 2. 

MacLaren Hall Children's Center has been called "Los Angeles' Dirty Little Secret". Owned by the county, It once housed thousands of kids removed from their homes for various reasons and placed at what was to be a temporary facility until a suitable foster home became available. Disproportionately, poor single mothers without the proper resources would lose their children to foster care. Many were victimized at the hands of those with a duty to protect them, resulting in lawsuits and the facility shut down. 

May 18, 202230:55
MacLaren Hall ~ The Sin of Being A Single Mother in Poverty

MacLaren Hall ~ The Sin of Being A Single Mother in Poverty

MacLaren Hall Children's Center has been called "Los Angeles' Dirty Little Secret". Owned by the county, It once housed thousands of kids removed from their homes for various reasons and placed at what was to be a temporary facility until a suitable foster home became available. 

Disproportionately, poor single mothers without the proper resources would lose their children to foster care. Many were victimized at the hands of those with a duty to protect them, resulting in lawsuits and the facility shut down. 

On this episode I speak to Andrew Bridge. He is a Survivor of MacLaren Hall and the LA County foster care system, an Attorney, Author and Children's Advocate. 

Apr 30, 202201:12:01
Why Do People Put So Much Trust In Social Media Influencers? 🤷🏽‍♀️🧟‍♀️

Why Do People Put So Much Trust In Social Media Influencers? 🤷🏽‍♀️🧟‍♀️

The latest social media influencer drama with Darius Williams aka Darius Cooks has me wondering why so many people will not only blindly follow, but staunchly support and defend folks they don't know in real life?
Go with me down the #dariuscrooks vs The Kitchenista et al. rabbit hole.
Jul 21, 202125:50
It's Not A Party All The Time 🎉🎈

It's Not A Party All The Time 🎉🎈

Social Media will have you believing that being young and single is a non-stop party.

Let's dispel this myth.

Jan 18, 202117:58
Twerk Tantrum at True Kitchen & Kocktails - Dallas 🍗🧇

Twerk Tantrum at True Kitchen & Kocktails - Dallas 🍗🧇

It went down in Dallas, TX this weekend with an all out twerk battle between patrons and the owner of True Kitchen & Kocktails. 
Dec 01, 202014:40
Bishop Bazemore Goes Awf! 🤦🏾‍♀️🙌🏾🙀

Bishop Bazemore Goes Awf! 🤦🏾‍♀️🙌🏾🙀

Bishop A. Wyoming Bazemore wants you to know that his wife of less than a year Ann'Gel is a true Jezabel!
But why did he choose her when other pastors warned him to stay away?
Oct 18, 202020:51
"I Don't Believe In Forgiveness"

"I Don't Believe In Forgiveness"

Our own bad decisions can lead to us having bitterness that lasts a lifetime. 

In an effort to keep our life lists on course, we often justify a significant other's bad behavior.

Listen to my perspective on Teri Knight's story, ex-wife of murderer Manuel Gehring. 


Sep 09, 202041:15
"Face It"🎭 - John Gray

"Face It"🎭 - John Gray

The pastor has been caught cheating again! Would you continue to be a member of Relentless or any church where the principles of the bible continue to be disregarded?

Sep 03, 202014:13
Soul Food & Murder For Hire - It Be Your Own Damn People! Pt 2

Soul Food & Murder For Hire - It Be Your Own Damn People! Pt 2

By now you may have heard about the Prince of Sweetie Pies, Tim Norman being arrested on a federal charge of conspiracy murder-for-hire that killed his nephew Andre Montgomery.
On this episode I talk about what lead to this arrest 4 years after Andre's murder. Ya'll pray for Miss Robbie!
Aug 20, 202022:38
Pyramid Schemes 💸 and COVID 19

Pyramid Schemes 💸 and COVID 19

The Flower, Blessing Loom, Gifting Circle etc. are nothing but schemes that will crumble, maybe before you cash or “gift” out. Not to be confused with real Su Su a savings club among close friends and family, these invite only massive groups are illegal scams. And COVID has created the opportunity for people to be taken advantage of as finances have become unstable.
Jul 26, 202028:01
Keep Your Legs Closed To Married People! 🚫🍑🍆

Keep Your Legs Closed To Married People! 🚫🍑🍆

When single people entangle with married folks we usually get the short end of the deal. Hear my thoughts on this whole August Alsina and Jada mess...
Jul 12, 202015:01
It Be Your Own Damn People! 🤷🏾‍♀️

It Be Your Own Damn People! 🤷🏾‍♀️

I've been watching docuseries "Trial by Media" on Netflix. The "King Richard" episode in part is an example of a Civil Rights attorney selling out the Black community in order to serve his own agenda. 

May 16, 202017:35
Are You Dating a Narcissist?

Are You Dating a Narcissist?

My Aunt Pepper Miller, a multi-cultural market researcher for companies like Bravo, Ulta Beauty and McDonald's, joins me to discuss the signs of a narcissist and how to break free from narcissistic abuse.
Mar 25, 202052:45
Don’t Want To Suck 🍆? Keep A Job!

Don’t Want To Suck 🍆? Keep A Job!

Men still feel like home makers, while important, don’t contribute in the same ways that they do. And therefore should sexually satisfy their needs when desired. Comedian David Arnold’s Netflix special “Fat Ballerina” confirms this way of thinking.
Mar 09, 202006:43
Married Woman Asks Ex For Money 💍💰

Married Woman Asks Ex For Money 💍💰

Do you think it's OK for a married woman to ask her ex for money?
On this episode I have a 3rd Party Story Time while I apply my avocado face mask.
Feb 07, 202012:42
Mama Bird Syndrome

Mama Bird Syndrome

Are you a Mama Bird? 🐦 Constantly feeding someone else with your time, money and resources without receiving much in return?
Jan 30, 202004:56
Creating A Partnership With Your Aging Parents

Creating A Partnership With Your Aging Parents

" People with aging parents are tired of being stuck between trying to help them and a parent’s denial, resistance, and rejection of ideas.

On this episode I speak with Rhonda Caudell, RN, CCM The Aging Parent Expert. She tells us how to co-create a partnership plan with our aging parents in order to help them have the best quality of life.

Jan 23, 202031:49
Marrying A Younger Man

Marrying A Younger Man

One of my best friends and I talk about her experience marrying a man 7 years her junior.
Jan 16, 202043:37
Save Money Using Your Flex Spending Employee Benefit 🗣

Save Money Using Your Flex Spending Employee Benefit 🗣

Most employees of large organizations have a Flex Spending Account benefit that they are not using.
I teach you how to take advantage of this pre-tax savings on out-of-pocket medical expenses.
Jan 09, 202010:13
Crime Doc Review. - “The Confession Killer”

Crime Doc Review. - “The Confession Killer”

Spent a Friday night doing one of my favorite things, watching a good crime documentary.
This one is not only suspenseful, but had me confused, sad and angry all at the same time.
Dec 18, 201924:14
Today’s Rando Thoughts 🤔

Today’s Rando Thoughts 🤔

The Peloton Bike Ad and Billy Dee Williams being “fluid”.
Dec 04, 201908:48
How To Hook Up A Single Friend - 3 Tips 🙎🏾‍♂️🙎🏾‍♀️

How To Hook Up A Single Friend - 3 Tips 🙎🏾‍♂️🙎🏾‍♀️

Married or partnered people always try to hook up their Single friends. But get it wrong every time!

On this episode, I give matchmakers 3 tips that will save a lot of time and keep the friendships in tact. 

Nov 28, 201911:15
Get Rid Of Things That No Longer Serve You 📦

Get Rid Of Things That No Longer Serve You 📦

Sometimes we hold onto things we no longer need in our lives and don't do us any good. 

Let's unpack while my clay face mask dries!

To watch my Facemask Monday videos, subscribe to my YouTube channel. 📺

Nov 05, 201910:13
Tyler Perry's "Sistas" - Pilot Review 📺

Tyler Perry's "Sistas" - Pilot Review 📺

I break down this 1st episode given my experiences with these types of relationships the ladies find themselves in. 

Subscribe to the YouTube channel - Urban Spinster 

Oct 26, 201921:52
Home Sweet Home

Home Sweet Home

Buying property is stressful enough. Now let’s add selling another to the mix and having to be on alert for fuckery at the same time!
Oct 03, 201933:27
Happily Divorced 🧘🏾‍♂️

Happily Divorced 🧘🏾‍♂️

My guest, comedian Anderi Bailey aka Mr. Amen, joins me to talk about why he is happily divorced. But would marry again for a 3rd time.
Aug 22, 201928:47
A Young Black Man in Love ♥️ 🤵🏾

A Young Black Man in Love ♥️ 🤵🏾

My guest on this episode is a young Black man who loves love! We talk about why he values relationships, the mistakes made and his path to being better.
Aug 15, 201901:02:14
Single at Seventy

Single at Seventy

My guest and former 8th grade teacher joins me to talk about why she remained single after having her children.
Aug 07, 201932:38
“We Gotta Do Better!”

“We Gotta Do Better!”

When people acknowledge that they are falling short there is rarely an attempt to actually “do better”. So why say it out loud? 😩
Jul 31, 201907:23
Insecurity Is Not Cute! 🙅🏽‍♀️

Insecurity Is Not Cute! 🙅🏽‍♀️

Attention isn’t always positive and sometimes not even about you. On this episode of the podcast I talk about how insecurity signs may be missed during the initial stage of a relationship.
Jul 05, 201910:59
Why Do People Choose To Pay Rent? 🏘

Why Do People Choose To Pay Rent? 🏘

My guest, Credit Repair Expert Larry Baxter and I discuss why people may choose to rent vs own their home. He dispels first time buyer myths also giving tips on how to boost your credit score.
Apr 16, 201946:27
Petty Is As Petty Does 🤷🏽‍♀️

Petty Is As Petty Does 🤷🏽‍♀️

A woman messed around for 25 years waiting on her estranged husband to go half on the divorce! Now that is petty.
Apr 11, 201908:41
Being Authentic

Being Authentic

Single women are often advised to change things about themselves in order to attract and marry a man. But being fake is not sustainable over time. Take a listen to this latest episode and tell me what you think.
Mar 08, 201906:05
Financial Manipulation 💵⛓

Financial Manipulation 💵⛓

On this episode I address financial manipulation by a spouse and the need to have emergency savings in case things go bad.
Feb 21, 201906:55
Girls on Fyre 🔥 and other docs we like.

Girls on Fyre 🔥 and other docs we like.

My guest, blogger Laura Reid and I discuss our thoughts on why scammers like Billy McFarland are so successful and also delve into other documentaries we enjoyed.
Jan 25, 201901:01:26
Bosses...Get Some Health Benefits! 🏥

Bosses...Get Some Health Benefits! 🏥

Many entrepreneurs don’t have health insurance. It’s expensive, especially when you’re just starting out. But there are ways to cover yourself in the event of an unforeseen illness or injury.
Dec 04, 201808:41
Closure is a trap! 🕳

Closure is a trap! 🕳

When relationships end, sometimes without warning, we want to know where it went wrong. But is that really the best thing for our emotional health?
Nov 09, 201809:23
Push Back

Push Back

It seems that women are always having to push back against people that seek to take advantage of us, or who are just being uncooperative. Do men have the same issue?
Oct 13, 201831:60
Force or Choice?

Force or Choice?

Caribbean Top Model contestant says she was “forced” to chemically straighten her hair. But wasn’t this a choice? When faced with an ultimatum we either stand by our convictions or concede.
Sep 30, 201809:18
Our Current Racial Climate & Cults

Our Current Racial Climate & Cults

I am fascinated with cult documentaries. Why people join them and how the leaders get members to stay. I think today’s racial climate may lend itself to the rise of another group that lures those seeking answers with promises of solving our communities issues.
Sep 14, 201811:34
4th Time’s The Charm? 💍🎩

4th Time’s The Charm? 💍🎩

My guest Dr. Alvin Abston talks to me about being married 3 times and still having a desire for the right wife.
Aug 16, 201859:34
Faith Without Works 🙏🏾⚒

Faith Without Works 🙏🏾⚒

We often hear that when praying for something, our “works” are required in order to make it happen. But sometimes we don't wait to find out exactly what that is.
Aug 02, 201812:52
Are you being thrown under the bus? 🚍

Are you being thrown under the bus? 🚍

Jun 29, 201808:38