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Wild Witches

Wild Witches

By Valerie Schrader

Welcome to Wild Witches, where we celebrate power, reclaim ancient wisdom, and embrace our untamed selves. From soul-nourishing discussions on self-love and body positivity to delving into the depths of spirituality, join us for raw, honest conversations that ignite the fires of change within. Whether you're a seasoned witch or just beginning to explore the magic within, let Wild Witches be your guide on this transformative journey. Together, let's unlock the boundless potential that resides within us all.

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You’re not selfish for splurging!!!

You’re not selfish for splurging!!!

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As women and vulva owners we’re often taught to feel shame for wanting things or doing nice things for ourselves!

We’re made to feel selfish because of expectations and roles we never signed up for.

We deserve better, we deserve more and to get there we’ve gotta understand why we were taught to believe we deserved less.

Listen in now to hear my thoughts on breaking through this belief to feel worthy of more 💜
Feb 05, 202437:04
My neck injury was affected by childhood trauma

My neck injury was affected by childhood trauma

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Our bodies are affected by our emotional state and certain types of injuries and illnesses hold different types of wounds.

In this episode, I'm talking about how I reinjured my neck and shoulder and realized it was entirely related to childhood trauma and fears around support and security.

This was all while experiencing the highest level of success I've ever had.

Listen in now to hear my experience and see how it resonates 💗
Dec 28, 202342:53
Shadow work meditation

Shadow work meditation

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Understanding our shadow self is the key to moving forward and releasing blocks in our lives.

This meditation is designed to help you start tapping into your shadow to work through specific blocks and issues you keep running into.

Use it to clear and integrate smaller shadows but for more in-depth support reach out for 1:1 coaching!
Dec 18, 202334:39
Dating, Toxic Men, and choosing you with FeelingRandi78

Dating, Toxic Men, and choosing you with FeelingRandi78

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Randi, better known as FeelingRandi78 on TikTok rapidly became a sensation for calling out the toxic behaviors of men on the platform. In this episode we're diving into her experiences addressing them, dating and relationships, and how she's made it back to herself. Listen in now and if you're not following her, you can check her out here: https://www.tiktok.com/@feelingrandi78?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Interview with FeelingRandi78
Dec 05, 202350:23
Healing the relationship with your business!

Healing the relationship with your business!

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Have you ever found yourself struggling with your business or finances, so you throw more money at it by signing up for courses, coaching, automation, books, and webinars to make things better?
When we do that it's a trauma response and it comes from the same place as all your other relationship issues.

Listen in now to hear my thoughts on this and how to stop throwing money at it to heal it instead💗

Nov 07, 202337:38
How is self-leadership impacted by your inner child?!

How is self-leadership impacted by your inner child?!

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Self-leadership drastically impacts our ability to trust ourselves and make decisions for ourselves. But when we have an inner child that's never been given permission to trust themselves we constantly see others as the authority.

Listen in now to hear my thoughts on this 💗
Oct 24, 202336:02
Is your Inner Child Affecting your Health?!

Is your Inner Child Affecting your Health?!

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Have you ever noticed every time things start getting better your health turns to shit and it stops you in your tracks?

Maybe it's through an injury.

Maybe through an IBS or migraine flareup.

Or you get the flu right before a big opportunity and you have to bail.

Whatever it is the root cause could be your inner child!

Listen in now and see what I'm talking about and how to heal both your body and mind!

Oct 12, 202332:41
Let your Inner Child Go to the Grocery Store

Let your Inner Child Go to the Grocery Store

Check out my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Notice every time things seem to go great it all falls apart?Might just be an inner child afraid to have it all!Teaching that part it's safe to choose what you want and go after it can shift everything. The more it realizes it's safe to choose, even something as simple as cereal at the grocery store, the more it'll get on board with your bigger adult choices! Listen to my podcast Reclaiming Me for more but if you're ready to welcome in everything you desire join my workshop on Cleansing & Protecting Energy to welcome in a better state of mind for a better life!
Oct 04, 202330:40
My recent journey of somatic healing

My recent journey of somatic healing

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Real talk… I've had a wild journey recently addressing some longstanding issues of sciatic pain and how that's related to feeling not good enough and carrying some ancestral wounds.

Listen in now to hear how I've moved through this and released a lot of physical pain too 💗
Sep 21, 202337:40
Why I don't like Cord Cutting Rituals

Why I don't like Cord Cutting Rituals

Check out my Clearing & Protecting Your Energy Workshop & current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader We see cord cutting classes and meditations all over the place and while I love a good witchy ritual to release things that are toxic or no longer serving us...


I don't love trying to do quick-fix rituals when there's deeper trauma or issues that need to be addressed.


As a somatic trauma coach, I'm giving you my perspective on how to best use these rituals and what's most important to deal with. Listen in now 💗

Sep 14, 202327:58
Building a Business is like Growing a Garden

Building a Business is like Growing a Garden

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Growing a garden takes time, and patience, and requires us to make small changes over time for sustainable growth!

Creating/growing a business or making big career changes requires the same.

Rush it and you'll find yourself overwhelmed, burned out, resentful, and making bad decisions.

Taking your time leads to step-by-step building a thriving beautiful garden to enjoy for years to come!

Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've helped clients do the same 💗
Sep 13, 202337:21
Are you using your business to get love?!

Are you using your business to get love?!

Check out Solo & Satisfied and my other offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Confession: Im a in recovering people pleaser and as uncomfortable as it is to admit I've done it in every area of my life, including promoting my business! People pleasing is a form of manipulation but it's not done with the intent to hurt others. We do it because there's a level of love, attention, and approval we missed out as kids. In this episode I'm diving into my journey facing this behavior and what it looks like on the other side of it. Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've learned to make myself happy 💗
Sep 13, 202346:58
Journey to Happily Single

Journey to Happily Single

Check out Solo & Satisfied: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader When I started on the happily single journey and decided marriage was not for me, it happened in parts.The first part was unpacking all of the bad relationships and patterns I had been in. Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I got to the place of being happily single 💗
Aug 16, 202337:35
You make yourself happy!

You make yourself happy!

Check out Solo & Satisfied: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader We're taught to seek happiness from a partner but what if happiness is derived from ourselves? How does that change the way we look at love? What pressure gets lifted? And how do we present ourselves to others when we learn to make ourselves happy? Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've learned to make myself happy 💗
Aug 11, 202336:27
De-centering romantic love

De-centering romantic love

Check out Reclaiming Me: linktr.ee/valerieschrader In a world that prioritizes romantic love what would it look like if that wasn’t your focus? Many of us deal with the frustration of dating and feel the pressure to want more but what if we let that go? Listen in now to hear my thoughts and experience with this!
Aug 04, 202338:48
Dealing with childhood trauma while caretaking a parent

Dealing with childhood trauma while caretaking a parent

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When a loved one gets sick and we become the caretaker it takes a toll on us. But what no one prepares you for is the unresolved trauma caused by them popping up while caring for them.

Listen in now to hear my experiences with this and how I've dealt with it 💗
Jul 26, 202335:16
Friendship Struggles & Trauma Responses

Friendship Struggles & Trauma Responses

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Friendships are vital to our well-being yet a lot of struggle to create and maintain healthy ones. Why is that and how do we deal with it?

Listen in now to find out
Jul 19, 202346:48
Boundaries, & Self Awareness

Boundaries, & Self Awareness

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By now you may have seen or heard about the toxic AF from Jonah Hill but let's dive deeper into an issue I see a lot of people get into when first starting therapy or diving into the spiritual or wellness world.

Listen in now 💗
Jul 12, 202339:46
The Answer to Burnout isn't Rest!

The Answer to Burnout isn't Rest!

Check out Reclaiming Me & My Other Offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader Everyone says we just need to rest or take a break when we're burned out but honestly...that's not the answer! Burnout is a sign that something's wrong and we need way more than rest to address it. Listen in to get my tips on understanding the deeper issue now!
Jul 04, 202331:01
Understanding the Healing Process

Understanding the Healing Process

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One of the most aggravating things for me to witness are people trying to tell us what methods of healing and resourcing are the best!

Or they try to convince us that we have to use the skills that work for them even if they don't work for us.

In this podcast, I'm breaking down the formula I use with clients to figure out what works best for them!

Listen in, try it, and share it! I hope it helps 💗
Jun 23, 202342:57
Why do we feel so guilty sticking up for ourselves?!

Why do we feel so guilty sticking up for ourselves?!

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It's not uncommon to feel tons if guilt sticking up for ourselves. At least not for those of us that are used to being daylight, manipulated, and dismissed.

But why do we do this and what do we need to do to stop?!

Listen to this week's episode to understand why and what we need to do to ease the guilt and stick up for ourselves!
Jun 12, 202325:23
You're not broken!

You're not broken!

Check out all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader I yelled at a new client recently for saying they're broken. I reminded them that no one needs to put them back together. No one needs to fix them. And there's nothing so irreparable about them that they're a lost cause. Like my client, so many of us see the messages that because of the shit we've been through we're broken and this one person can help put you back together again. I F$&%ing hate when I see coaches & therapists put out messages like this! It's a power play meant to prey on someone's insecurities and so incredibly wrong. My dad always said duct tape could patch anything (in case it weren't obvious that I'm Gen X that should clarify things 🤣). We're not broken, we just need a little figurative duct tape to help patch up the emotional wounds we're carrying. That way they don't get bigger and harder to patch. We can always get patched up and the cool thing is we already have the duct tape to do it. Sometimes we need the help of a therapist, coach, friends, partner, or community to do the patching. But we know how to do it and no matter how fancy someone else's duct tape looks it's all duct tape. The thing to look for is someone that'll help support you in using your own duct tape that understands you're not broken, you just need help patching up!
Jun 08, 202327:58
How Needing Approval has Shown up for Me!

How Needing Approval has Shown up for Me!

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We’re diving into to some of my current work around my wounds of needing approval and let me tell you…it’s a doozy! Listen in now and see if you relate!
May 31, 202353:48
Welcome to Reclaiming You!

Welcome to Reclaiming You!

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/valerieschrader The podcast has a new name and a fresh outlook! This episode I'm sharing with you why I've made this change and what's in store. Listen in and stay tuned!
May 23, 202322:25
Asking your partner for what you want!

Asking your partner for what you want!

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower Communicating in a calm, confident way is so hard when you've got all the little inner child parts reminding you of every rejection. Taking a little time to prep yourself and relax your body can make all the difference though! Try these tips and if you wanna work on all the fear and anxiety popping up around 🌶️ time and your relationship join Unleashed! It's 6 weeks of guiding you into feeling more confident to create deeper intimacy, stronger relationships, and have way hotter 🌶️ time. That means if you're: 💗Struggling to O 💗Tensing to O 💗Having a hard time relaxing in bed 💗Feeling anxious to open up 💗Scared to ask for what you want/desire/need We've got you! Our first Q & A call is May 23rd. Check it out and join now!
May 15, 202337:15
Is body shame messing with spicy time?

Is body shame messing with spicy time?

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower I had a pretty major injury that caused me to put on over 50lbs and my belly showed a lot of it. I felt so insecure that I wasn't letting my belly be touched, I was trying to remain clothed, avoiding certain positions. It made everything suck and I wasn't really enjoying spicy time anymore! Addressing the shame and judgment I felt not only erased all those issues a few other things happened: I challenged everything I'd been taught about my body and fell in love with it! l love my body more than I did during all my years working as an aerialist and pole dancer. I developed better exercise habits and do because it feels good. I addressed emotional eating and worked on feeling more love within. I enjoy spicy time way more because I'm in the moment. I dress differently and wear brighter colors vs the all-black lused to! I feel so much better about myself and again, spicy time is wav more fun than it's ever been!
May 05, 202347:43
Why you're still triggered in the healthy relationship!

Why you're still triggered in the healthy relationship!

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower It's completely normal to feel more anxious about performing when you finally have a healthy, safe relationship. You're not used to getting what you want yet. Even when you understand all the relationship trauma your body still isn't adapted to allowing relaxation. We have to help it adapt! The 2 most important things you can do are: 1. Create an integration & resourcing process to help the brain squirrels relax. 2. Either role play or do some other embodiment work to help your body feel good receiving & relaxing! Both things will calm the anxiety & make it easier for you to be yourself, enjoy spicy time, express your desires, & help your partner meet your needs! If that's something you want support on check out Unleashed in the normal spot 😉
Apr 25, 202338:38
This may be why you’re tensing or faking it

This may be why you’re tensing or faking it

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower Yesterday @strawberrysmutcakes and I were filming a module for Unleashed & she brought up wanting to discuss a particular issue that she’s never experienced. We both grew up with narc moms & have dealt with A LOT of spicy time shame & relationship issues as a result. However, I’m the one that wasn’t able to have an O till I was 29. Yep, the woman who was a former SWer, sensual movement teacher, and seemed so adventurous hadn’t ever had one! Every bit of my worth, happiness & decision-making had been determined by my mom. So when I began dating & having sex with partners I thought they would be in charge of making me enjoy it! I would never say no, never tell them if something didn’t feel good & then I’d never feel like I was fully in my body. I would then go so far into my head as I was being encouraged to come that I’d just fake it. At 29 I got my first vibe and finally, it happened but for it to happen I had to tense my whole body. I mean my whole body because that was the only way to stop me from checking out. I spent years doing that and the few times I had Os with partners I had to tense and force it for it to happen. I had no idea that I was just causing more harm to myself because everything was forced and without understanding what I wanted or needed. At first not much happened. I could barely touch myself without hearing this internal voice scream “NO”!!! I went slow and explored my body and pleasure in little bits. I built back to trust and then one magical day it happened... Not only did my body want pleasure again but I was able to totally relax into it! Instead of this short little rush that quickly ended, it felt like a tsunami and like my soul was cracked open. I didn’t even know I could experience that! I’m sharing this because I’m not alone in this and maybe I won’t change your life although I feel like it did mine. But what comes about from exploring totally relaxed and consensual pleasure because you’ve truly connected to your body and self will.
Apr 17, 202347:17
What does emotional availability look like?

What does emotional availability look like?

Check out Unleashed & all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower What does it mean to you to be emotionally available? How do you settle in your relationships because you fear being emotionally vulnerable? Why do you choose partners who aren’t emotionally available or cut yourself off from being open emotionally? Listen in now as we dive into this!
Apr 03, 202335:08
Do you reject softness as a trauma response?

Do you reject softness as a trauma response?

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When we grow without emotional and physical softness and affection we tend to reject it later on. Why do we do this and how can we stop doing it? Listen in to find out!
Mar 31, 202339:05
Embrace your Empowered Self Meditation

Embrace your Empowered Self Meditation

Embrace your Empowered Self Meditation

Mar 24, 202313:13
Are you using sex as love?!

Are you using sex as love?!

Check out all my current offers: https://linktr.ee/sensualpower It is time to get Unleashed 🎉🎉🎉 Unleashed is the most unique course to help you strip away all the shame, self-doubt, and struggle to live your most magical life! This is for those of you that: ✅ Grew up with a narcissistic or emotionally unavailable parent/parents. ✅Have struggled with your relationships and sex life. ✅ See the red flags but question if you’re overreacting & being judgmental. ✅ Struggle to express exactly what you want and need from a partner. ✅ Use intimacy as a means to receive affection/love. ✅ Find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people. ✅ Always look to others to make you feel seen, loved, validated. ✅ Judge your appearance and think your attractiveness determines being good enough. If you are a yes to any of these.... Then it’s time to get Unleashed! The program starts May 8th but early bird pricing is open now till April 7th with $300 off! Payment plans are available.
Mar 24, 202331:09
Your Fear of Rejection is a Trauma Response!

Your Fear of Rejection is a Trauma Response!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower. Fear of rejection as a trauma response

What is a fear of rejection really?

Well, it's a fear of being abandoned by someone or something.

There are many different core wounds we experience in childhood.

Abandonment is one of those.

Now that doesn't always have to look like your basic needs glimg unmet or a parent being absent.

Abandonment can look like your parent(s):

* Not showing to up to support you for sports/dance/etc. activities.
* Choosing the other parent/a partner over you even when inappropriate.
* Not keeping promises or following through on things they agreed to.
* Ignoring you and neglecting to spend quality time with you.

There’s a lot of other ways this fear of abandonment comes up.

Point is, the fear exists.

That leads to subconsciously or consciously always worrying about being rejected.

Again, the rejection is really this fear of abandonment but you get the point.

You become so worried about being rejected (abandoned) that you begin to anticipate it.

You almost expect it which means you do 1 of 2 things:

1. You sabotage relationships or opportunities because better you get the jump on things falling apart vs them.
Or

2. You give up before you start because you don't trust things will work out so desires, relationships, or dreams go unfulfilled.

Either way, you're missing out on a lot of happiness!

Which leads me to the obvious question?

How do we let go of the fear and start welcoming in our happiness?!

For that you've gotta follow and listen to my podcast 😚
Mar 16, 202348:47
Why our relationship issues stem from our parents!

Why our relationship issues stem from our parents!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower. We learn so much about ourselves in childhood.

We also learn expectations and limits on who we get to be from our parents/caregivers.

Actually about 80% of what we believe and think comes from childhood.

As our brains develop and learn to make sense of the world we form beliefs, patterns, and stories based on what we see and experience.

So without examining what we learned and how impacts us we essentially have inner children incharge of things like:

* Relationships
* Intimacy
* Careers
* Finances

and pretty much everything else!
Mar 08, 202353:03
WTF is Embodiment & how can it help you Heal?!

WTF is Embodiment & how can it help you Heal?!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower. The APA Dictionary of Psychology says embodied cognition is the concept that:

“the human mind is largely determined by the structures of the human body (morphology, sensory and motor systems) and its interactions with the physical environment.”

AKA

Your body and the environment heavily influence what you think and feel!

In childhood, parents that teach us to ignore our feelings or physical boundaries and are controlling cause us to become disembodied.
Mar 01, 202351:13
Are you selfish or did you just not get your needs met?!

Are you selfish or did you just not get your needs met?!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower. Raise your hand if you're a woman or AFAB person and you were told you were selfish growing up🙋‍♀️

Anytime you wanted attention, comfort, toys, clothes, food, activities, to take sports or dance lessons, etc.

You got told you were selfish!

Maybe the word selfish wasn't used but the implication was there when they came back with things like:

"quit asking for that, we don't have the money!"

or

"be happy with what you have"

or

"why are you always asking for things"

There're a million other variations but you get the idea, you were selfish!

Now as an adult you probably struggle with making any requests of people or doing things for yourself.

I know women who will wait until they're in unbearable pain to get a massage.

Then brag about finding a really cheap one because it makes it seems less indulgent aka selfish for getting one.

Yes, sometimes we are on a budget so funds dictate getting a cheaper massage but that's not why we mention the cost.

We do it to avoid seeming selfish and that's true whether or not we have kids.

The truth is you aren't selfish, you just had parents who didn't have the emotional capacity to handle their triggers and trauma when you needed anything.

They shamed you for having needs and wants and yes, wanting the "in clothes" to fit in is a need as a kid, unfortunately.

We know how easy it is to get bullied when you don't have the right...whatever.

What your parent(s) should've said in those moments is:

"I'm sorry you've been made fun of or outcast for not having the right shoes. You don't deserve that. Right now I don't have the funds to buy new ones but let's come up with another solution".

it may not have been the same but you wouldn't have felt selfish.

It goes beyond material things too because we were told we were selfish for our ambition, needs for emotional support, attention, and other things.

The bottom line is you aren't and weren't selfish and it's time to break free of that story!

What ways were you told you were selfish that you want to break free from?
Feb 21, 202350:23
Your inner critic is just trying to protect you!

Your inner critic is just trying to protect you!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower You ever have that moment when you're all stressed out, trying to accomplish something and that voice pops in letting you know...

You ain't shit!!!

You know the voice, it's so critical of you.

It cuts you down and reminds you of every failure you've ever had or any flaw you possess.

It often sounds like one of your parents, making you feel just as small as when you heard/felt similar things as a kid.

It shuts you down and makes it really hard to do anything.

What if I told you that inner criticism is coming from a part that's just trying to protect you.

When the inner criticism starts it's because something about what you're dealing with or working on is reminding this part of the past.

Maybe you're trying to build a business, take a career leap, get a job, start dating again, work on a relationship issue, start a hobby, etc.

Whatever it is reminds this part of you of a time in childhood or as a young adult when you got shut down, criticized, judged, or made to feel bad.

This part probably learned to criticize you because that's how your parent/caregiver shot you down and so it does the same thing.

It's afraid of you experiencing the same intense pain you did when you were younger so it's using whatever it can to stop you.

As much as it sucks to experience the inner critic voice hopefully it helps you understand it's just trying to protect you.

Once you know that it's easier to show understanding and compassion, and then figure out how to soothe it!

Doing that reduces stress and helps you come up with ways to move forward and accomplish what you really want.
Feb 21, 202342:43
Parts Dilemma Meditation

Parts Dilemma Meditation

Parts Dilemma Meditation
Feb 06, 202314:05
Inner Parent Meditation

Inner Parent Meditation

Inner Parent Meditation
Feb 06, 202312:07
What is IFS or parts work?!

What is IFS or parts work?!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower You ever make the statement:

"It feels like a part of me just won't let me be happy"

or something similar to that?

Approaches in talk therapy have us looking at ourselves as if we have a singular identity, a singular part of us.

But in IFS or parts work we recognize that there are subconscious parts of us playing out different roles and formed for different reasons.

Think of it like the different hats daily: boss, partner, parent, child, friend, coworker, etc.

Sometimes those hats conflict and collide, some work together and some don't.

That's going on within our minds as well.

We have parts of us in conflict, colliding against what we want to do and who we want to be.

We have parts that are in conflict with each other too.

All these parts are sitting in a secret control room like in Inside Out either working together or fighting one another (or a little of both).

They develop at different stages of childhood and beyond to protect us which isn't always helpful.

Maybe 8-year-old you got made fun of a lot for being the "big kid" so now you either obsessively watch food or workout, causing issues.

Or you hide away to avoid ever being judged so you never start that business you have always wanted to start!

Maybe there's a part that you labeled your "love slut" and that's the version of you so obsessed with finding a partner to love you that you end up dating the worst people.

That love slut learned to do this when you were younger because it never got affection from mom and dad.

These parts all exist; with IFS we identify, understand, and work with them to do something healthier and more helpful.

That way, the issues you're dealing with get addressed and any of the stress, anxiety, depression, etc. they've caused also get addressed.

Best part of this method is once you know how to use it you can do it any time you notice an issue or pattern popping up.
Feb 01, 202350:54
What do you do when you start struggling again after healing

What do you do when you start struggling again after healing

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower. What happens when you do all that work on yourself and you find yourself struggling yet again? You’ve worked on the wound/pattern/belief and yet here you are on the cusp of greatness feeling like your brain is kicking you in the ass again? Listen in now as I share my own experiences with this and what I've done to help myself through!
Jan 25, 202352:22
Do you hyper-focus on your partner’s pleasure?

Do you hyper-focus on your partner’s pleasure?

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower Often when we grow up with parents that make love, praise, and acceptance very conditional we find ourselves performing in romantic relationships. We get hyper-focused on their pleasure in and out of bed because we feel like the only way to be loved, liked, and chosen is to perform just right. It's exhausting and often leaves us feeling empty and lonely. Listen in now if this resonates with you!
Jan 17, 202334:19
What is Parentification?

What is Parentification?

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Ever experienced being the emotional support system for your parents) growing up?

You know, where they'd dump their relationship, financial, marriage, and other problems on you as if you were their friend or therapist?

Maybe you were responsible for making sure siblings were taken care of.

Maybe you were responsible for taking care of yourself.

Maybe you at some point had to get a job or do things to financially support the family or keep the house.

Yeah, that's called parentification and it has some harsh side effects!

When we experience parentification we can experience:

* A lot of hypervigilance to monitor the needs of others around us.
* Anxiety around trying to care for everything and everyone.
* Hyper Independence because we're used to doing it all ourselves and taking care of everyone.
* Struggling with setting boundaries or speaking up when emotionally tapped out because we're used to being a dumping ground.
* Struggles to create and maintain healthy coping skills because we're used to going until burn out.

Bottom line Parentification steals the ability to be a kid and makes a lot of struggle to prioritize our own rest, play, and needs.

If you feel like you're still struggling with these effects getting support is key!

I've opened up my schedule for more 1:I coaching spots this year.

That includes:
25 90 mins calls

30 mins whatsapp support weekly

Access to my grimoire full of self healing tools, meditations and even business building blueprints.

Plus my Pleasure Healing course with my 4 pt. Somatic trauma healing methodology.

Apply now or book a call to chat!

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Jan 10, 202339:49
What do you do when you can’t even resource?

What do you do when you can’t even resource?

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For those of us that’s grown up with a lot of childhood trauma or have experienced complex traumas, it can be a struggle to stay positive and take action.

If we get told to do anything it’s to use our resourcing skills or focus on the good things. But in those moments when you’re struggling to resource and focusing on the good things isn’t possible.

So what do we do in those moments?

I’m diving into the extra step for those of us struggling with spiraling thoughts, depression, and anxiety in this episode.

Given the amount of us struggling through trying to heal, I thought this would be the perfect episode to kick off season 4 with. Listen in now and share this with anyone that could use it!
Jan 04, 202346:42
What do you like about yourself that's just for you?

What do you like about yourself that's just for you?

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower For those of us that grew up with narcissistic, emotionally immature, unavailable, or abusive parents/caregivers a lot of what we value in ourselves and like about ourselves has to do with others. We had to produce the right results, ask right, look right, and behave right to review some praise, or avoid punishment. It leaves us relying solely on others for any sense of self and we deserve better! We deserve to feel love, like, and value in ourselves and for ourselves. This episode is dedicated to understanding this more and giving you some tools and tips to start finding love, like, and value in yourself for yourself! Listen in now!
Dec 28, 202239:11
What did you learn about self doubt from your narcissistic parent(s)

What did you learn about self doubt from your narcissistic parent(s)

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower. If you grew up always being gaslight, having things turned back on you or made to feel wrong for your responses you probably feel a lot of self doubt! In this episode I’m diving into how that affects us as adults and what we can do to combat it. Make sure you’re on my mailing list too if you want more tips on this!
Dec 21, 202251:12
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Dec 14, 202246:33
Money wounds mimicking your relationship to your parent(s)?

Money wounds mimicking your relationship to your parent(s)?

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower A lot of us know the messages we heard about money growing up affect how we see money now.

But what about the relationships we had with our parents and caregivers?

How's that affecting our relationship with money and/or our business? Listen in now as I talk about how our relationships with money and business can be mimicking the relationship we have with our narcissistic, emotionally immature or unavailable parents. Want more support on this? Check out my course money magic beginning January 5th: www.sensual-power.com/shop/p/moneymagic
Dec 08, 202231:19
Are you constantly worried about being good enough?!

Are you constantly worried about being good enough?!

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower You be ever have that moment where you were at a friend's house for dinner and you watch them cook so you ask if they need help? But instead of asking once you ask a few times and feel super anxious because you need to prove you're worthy of being there. What about those moments in a relationship where you feel like you have to be constantly bubbly and on to prove you are good enough? Or in your career, you overly explain your qualifications and overly give up your time and talent? Yeah...I do it too and this episode is dedicated to breaking down why we do this, where we learned to feel this, and offering some tips to work on it! Listen in now and if you want some coaching support to help curb the not good enough feels check that out too: www.sensual-power.com/coaching
Nov 29, 202240:15
Ancestral Connection Meditation

Ancestral Connection Meditation

Check out all my current offers: linktr.ee/sensualpower Connecting to our ancestors is a vital part of our healing, growth, and unpacking of harmful narratives we've been taught. This meditation is designed to help you connect to those ancestors aligned with your growth and healing!
Nov 28, 202220:41