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DeFINE Feminine

By Jestine Jonel

The DeFine Feminine podcast is dedicated to rawthentic women who are on a journey towards fulfillment within this lifetime. Jestine Jonel, your lovely host, shares her most candid moments through her journey throughout womanhood along with offering useful tips, truths, and inspiration to embrace the polarities of life. Join us on the journey to define the feminine experience.

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DeFINE FeminineOct 14, 2022

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The Era Of Errors

The Era Of Errors

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If you enjoy chronically chaotic storytelling this it the episode to dive right into. In this episode we discuss new music from my favorite female artist right now, learning how to be more “feminine”, learning how to celebrate friends, the poopy job market, and so on and so forth. Just tune in, we will talk soon! 😘
Oct 01, 202301:10:48
Forgiveness is for you, F*ck them!

Forgiveness is for you, F*ck them!

Define Feminine is a thought-provoking and compassionate podcast that delves into the intricate and transformative power of womanhood,healing, and authenticity. Hosted by Jestine Jonel, this podcast explores the stories of individuals who have embarked on remarkable journeys, both towards others and themselves.

Whether you are seeking personal healing, inspiration, or a deeper understanding of the human capacity for compassion and redemption, the Define Feminine podcast offers a safe and compassionate space to explore forgiveness in all its complexities. Join us as we learn how to unlock a new perspective to obtain forgiveness, discover the transformative power it holds, and embrace the possibility of unburdening our hearts.
Jul 14, 202314:19
BFFR

BFFR

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In today’s episode your host Jestine Jonel will be discussing the reality of funeployment, realizing that you’re not exactly who you thought you’d be when you grew up, and getting out of a depressive funk. It’s almost summer so it’s time to come out of our shell and shine!
Jun 17, 202326:23
Coming To Terms With Peace

Coming To Terms With Peace

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In this episode of the DeFine Feminine Podcast, Jestine Jonel, your host, will be discussing the power of alignment, peace, love, and awareness. Sometimes peace can be lonely but it’s the price you pay when you chose to no longer associate with things that brings your grief.
Apr 03, 202327:49
Harlem Season 2: Recap & Review

Harlem Season 2: Recap & Review

Four very unserious yet ambitious best friends, Camille, Tye, Quinn and Angie, navigate relationships and careers in Harlem, NY. In this episode we will be discussing this recent seasons highlights along with the character development within this new season.
Mar 02, 202326:39
Allowing Reality To Set In

Allowing Reality To Set In

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Lately, the vibe has been more chill, more internal transitions, and embracing being the student instead of always striving to lead. In this episode; we discuss the impact of embracing your current reality and allowing it to be as is without having to filter the parts that you may think others will judge you for. I remember wanting to enter the fashion industry when I was in high school and 10 years later, I’m going to school to study English to be a writer of some sort. Nothing truly makes sense right now but I know it’s in alignment with my future. I hope you enjoy this episode and you’re able to gain inspiration to do the things that align with you as you evolve.
Feb 24, 202329:47
Do you boo!

Do you boo!

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Welcome to The DeFine Feminine Podcast! In today’s episode we’re discussing approaching the end of your 20’s, going back to college after a certain age, and learning how embrace the simplicities of life in order to be happy. In life it’s best to embrace the highs and lows and understand what your purpose is in this lifetime, by doing that, you are strengthening your self awareness muscle subconsciously.
Feb 19, 202328:01
Netflix’s You People | Movie Review

Netflix’s You People | Movie Review

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A new couple and their families reckon with modern love amid culture clashes, societal expectations and generational differences. I this episode, I share a few sentiments about the film along with my commentary about each dynamic.
Jan 28, 202329:24
DeFining Motherhood : Erykah Badu & Puma Curry’s A$$ets

DeFining Motherhood : Erykah Badu & Puma Curry’s A$$ets

Welcome back to a new episode of the DeFine Feminine Podcast! On todays episode, we’re discussing the impact of the internet and how influencers on Twitter have made it trendy to drag & police those who chose to live differently than them. Today on twitter, an irrelevant “spiritual“ page decided to share a recent photo of Puma Curry,18, Erykah Badu’s daughter where they both we’re turned away from the camera showing their a$$ets. The main things that were highlighted in this episode is the idea of women being sexualized, the concept of having a difference in opinion, and acknowledging the misery that exist in women who are outwardly afraid of embracing their authentic selves due to how they will be perceived by others. Many of the commenters were in agreeance with the lack of integrity in black mothers for their daughters in media and I was inspired to dissect this topic.
Jan 25, 202322:30
Stepping Into Your Higher Self, No Fucks Given

Stepping Into Your Higher Self, No Fucks Given

Welcome back to another episode of DeFine Feminine! 

It's a new year so we're moving into a new age, new environments, perspectives, and a new found confidence. The chosen ones are going to feel this episode more than the regular degulars and that's okay, you can just take notes until you're ready to SHOW UP. Self love shouldn't be supressed to make others comfortable, and it's time to truly learn how to embrace the person you truly are without guilt or limitation. Let them look, let them talk, let them think whatever. Freedom is when you don't have to retract any aspect of self, and you deserve that shit. 

Thank you for listening to this episode, i hope this isn't the last and I look forward to sharing more rawthentic ways to define womenhood, in our next girl talk. 


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Jan 09, 202311:42
Read The Room B*tch

Read The Room B*tch

Welcome back to a new episode of the DeFine Feminine Podcast. In today’s episode, your host Jestine Jonel, will be discussing protecting women in different scenarios along with a mini Storytime. It’s important for women to be more aware of how they can easily fall into the trap of protecting men whether it’s intentional or unintentional. Be sure to share this episode with another woman who needs to hear it the most.
Jan 01, 202324:31
Fuck Around & Find Out

Fuck Around & Find Out

Welcome to the DeFine Feminine Podcast where we unpack the rawthetic reality of life and womenhood through teachable topics. Your host, Jestine Jonel discusses her thoughts on the sentiment “ If you seek for peace be still if you seek for wisdom be silent and If you seek for love be yourself “ that was mentioned in a recent TikTok by @Hanhtan27 on TikTok, a Buddhist Monk. Such powerful words yet so simply put to allow others to truly think about their actions and how to obtain, peace, love, and wisdom. Stay tuned & subscribe to the DeFine Feminine Podcast for exclusive episodes just for you. Be sure to follow DeFine Feminine on Instagram @DeFineFemi9 & check out our blog site definefeminine.com for new blogpost and future updates!
Dec 08, 202220:16
DeFining HERstory
Dec 06, 202220:16
How can you loose when you already chose?

How can you loose when you already chose?

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Well,well, well! Welcome back to the DeFine Feminine Podcast where we discuss different topics about women defining their journey in ways that we benefit the most. In today’s episode, your host, Jestine Jonel, discusses the importance of awareness. Awareness is beyond being able to see when the traffic light turns green, or red but being able to be aware of social queues that allows you to elevate is the real reward. Being 2-3 steps ahead of the game is key as a young woman so, what better way to share the gems that keeps giving other than on the DeFine Feminine Podcast? You may utilize this message and apply it to any circumstance you are struggling with at this time because truthfully, the answer is to ALWAYS choose YOU.
Dec 01, 202220:51
The Standard Of Friendship

The Standard Of Friendship

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I’ve recently shared that I’ve been connecting with a few women on BumbleBFF for about a year and here are my thoughts after a year of being on this journey. My perception of friendship has altered from a year ago based on the experiences I’ve encountered within this time. If you’d like to hear my thoughts on what I’ve observed as a wellness anthropologist, tune into this episode!
Oct 29, 202239:06
 I don't fuck with anything that crawls!

I don't fuck with anything that crawls!

If it's one thing about me, I love a good holiday that makes you experimental because HALLOWEEN is finally here! Fear's and Phobias, is a quick series that I'll be hosting a few women that I've met recently on the Geneva App. If you haven't downloaded it as yet, you must. As many of us face different fears throughout our life, how often do we get asked what they actually are? Does it help? Maybe a little, but it's fun to unpack conversations that makes you a little squirmy. Sit back, relax and enjoy this episode featuring my special guest Daviuska, a graphic designer based in the east coast. Her amazing burst of energy was needed because this was recorded at 8am pre coffee me. Stay tuned for more of my beautiful guest as we uncover our fears and phobias.

Oct 14, 202240:31
Work Life Balance, Retirement, and Being Obsessed With Celebrities
Aug 31, 202227:01
Summer Youth 22’
Aug 24, 202244:31
Attachment Styles With Keyz

Attachment Styles With Keyz

Our special guest Keyz, is the owner of FlossLLC ; a luxury jewelry brand and she was born and raised in my hometown Mount Vernon,NY. I had the pleasure of sharing my platform with her to discuss a topics that define her experience as a woman. In this episode, we uncover what attachment styles in partnership, friendships and how we identify with reciprocity. As we continue to experience life and evolve, we learn that we are never truly defined until we have fulfilled our mission on earth, so it was beautiful to capture this moment in real time.
Jul 31, 202247:23
Wise Words From A Chatty Gemini

Wise Words From A Chatty Gemini

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Learning how to let go is an on going process at every stage of life. In this episode Jestine discusses various topics that surrounds around finding innovative ways to enhance the human experience without involving unnecessary baggage. It’s Gemini season so buckle up for the montage of thoughts that aroused through this session.
Jun 14, 202228:12
Coexisting In A Sociopathic Society

Coexisting In A Sociopathic Society

In this episode, I discussed the influx of crime that has occurred in NYC and some of the reasons that has led the citizens the big Apple astray. Unfortunately, living in a big city such as NY has caused people to loose their minds due to the inflation and the lack of resources to help maintain a balanced environment.
Apr 12, 202216:37
New Body

New Body

In order to grow you must be comfortable with the reality of what growth comes with. There may be some discomfort and some loss through the process but the goal is to adjust to the newness that is presently showing up in your reality. In this episode I discuss my experience gaining weight and how I was able to find peace and comfort in my new body. As Onika Miraj once said “Fuck up a cheque on my body”, this is your que to treat yourself to some jeans or a dress that makes you feel sexy, you’ll make the money back girl just ENJOY YOUR LIFE.
Mar 15, 202215:05
In Hopes Of Being A Social Media Influencer

In Hopes Of Being A Social Media Influencer

From January 18th- February 9th,2022 I’cove documented my real-time thoughts on how detrimental the life of aspiring to be an influencer can be. I took it pretty hard at first because I felt like it was based on a lack of support but it turned out that who I am presently no longer can support the old version of self any longer. I decided to keep my authentic thoughts on how this rocky journey has been along with a few perspectives that should be brought up more in the public eye. This episode highlights the reality of allowing the flow of life to guide you to a path that no longer feels forced or unrecognizable to your soul.
Feb 10, 202244:31
Are You From New York Even ?

Are You From New York Even ?

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New York has yet to be the same ever since 2020 began and returning after relocating to sunny Texas, was like ripping off a old and nasty bandaid. In this episode, I discussed my thoughts on how it felt to be back in my hometown and to visit all of my old stomping grounds from a new perspective.
Dec 29, 202119:51
The Discrepancy Within Broken Homes, Broken Hearts, Broken Women

The Discrepancy Within Broken Homes, Broken Hearts, Broken Women

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In today’s episode, I’ll be discussing my experience with sexual assault and how I’ve been able to regain my power after an unfortunate event. Along with how the lack of empathy within the home of a single mother can cause young women to seek love and comfort elsewhere because of the inbalance between the masculine and feminine energy in the household.
Dec 20, 202129:16
 “What’s Next?”

“What’s Next?”

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The process of getting your life together comes in cycles and it looks and feels different Everytime. In this episode, I’ll be discussing the importance of taking time for self to solidify the things that are high priority which is a sense of security, finding balance with your loved ones, and indulging in things that once was fulfilling before life came and bit you in the ass.
Dec 17, 202123:11
You DON’T need your parents approval to live for YOU: STORYTIME Edition

You DON’T need your parents approval to live for YOU: STORYTIME Edition

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Validation is a way of letting someone know we understand him or her. Being understood is an essential ingredient to feeling connected and supported. But when happens when you don’t feel connected nor supported by someone you’re seeking validation from? As an only child, I’ve spent a majority of my lifetime seeking validation from my parents who consistently contributed to my mental instability. The moment I decided to pivot from the need to be validated, I quickly realized it was no longer a necessity. In this episode, I discussed the pros and the cons of coexisting without having a cohesive relationship with your parents as an adult.
Nov 21, 202132:54
Imposter Syndrome vs The Harsh Reality of Success

Imposter Syndrome vs The Harsh Reality of Success

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The paranoia that exsists in the mind once you reach new levels of success is unbearable when you’re an assertive being. As humans we aspire to make it out of our hometown to be something bigger and better and unfortunately your audience may not applaud you on your way up. In this podcast, I discussed my personal experience with paranoia and finding new ways to utilize my energy with things that allows you to preserve your InnerG for your greater good.
Nov 18, 202118:42
The Virtual Warping Of Realities : The Baby Mama Syndrome

The Virtual Warping Of Realities : The Baby Mama Syndrome

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In this episode, I’ll be discussing the exchange between Jayda Wayda and @Thecourtneyc on TikTok after Courtney decided to share her opinion on motherhood/success. Unfortunately, we live in a day and age that speaking your mind about what you aspire to be is frowned upon especially when it’s not culturally common. Jayda responds to the young lady by telling her to “be black” which can be argued on various pretenses because GURL :) . I also discussed other blueprints of being successful after an unfortunate relationship in the media with the rise of Saweeties “Icy” brand and how influential you can be by creating a narrative that isn’t degrading towards your public character.
Nov 16, 202134:02
A Full Circle Moment : Scorpio Nu Moon

A Full Circle Moment : Scorpio Nu Moon

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This New Moon will force us to become real with ourselves—Scorpio is all about getting to the core of issues and understanding our authentic truths. In this podcast episode I decided to share a Storytime about when I gave my power away to those who truly didn’t deserve access but I’m also grateful for those experiences because it helped shaped me as a woman with high standards at this present time. Sometimes we are ashamed of who we were because it doesn’t look like who we currently are but it’s all so necessary to experience the highs and lows of life.
Nov 11, 202113:18
Unpopular Opinions On Female Friendship Dynamics + Girl Chat ft. Pietty

Unpopular Opinions On Female Friendship Dynamics + Girl Chat ft. Pietty

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Today I welcomed my guest @iampietty to discuss a few trending topics intertwined with finding new ways to live a fulfilling life overtime. Our friendship has taken lots of twists and turns like any ordinary relationship but finding a neutral place of understanding has helped us to come to terms with our differences after 5+ years of friendship.
Nov 02, 202153:43
Embracing Lilith InnerG : Gemini Edition

Embracing Lilith InnerG : Gemini Edition

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Lilith is an extremely raw, primal energy that is hard to keep under control. With my Lilith in Gemini, I often tend to unintentionally say things that others misinterpret, or they find offensive. In this episode I’m speaking on the reality of having insecurities that were not acknowledged from my childhood which has put a heavy expectation onto those who I surround myself with as of today. Finding oneness within self is vital in this journey and it takes you looking at the conflicts that you’ve experienced and creating space for growth. This level of awareness helps to bridge the gap between the self and your environment. Ultimately, to arrive at true oneness, you’ll need to do a lot of inner work and self-reflection.
Oct 15, 202147:47
The Pros & Cons of Social Media ft. Rich

The Pros & Cons of Social Media ft. Rich

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Social media has became the go-to place for daily news, fashion trends/entertainment, etc. Many people have been able to build their own platforms off of the most popular apps today where they no longer have resort to working the traditional 9-5 jobs just to get by. Although there are many negative effects of being online, there are many ways that you can make it a tool to help you access others who share the same interest as you. On this podcast my guest and I will discuss our views on how social media has effected or impacted our lives in different ways over time.
Oct 08, 202155:22
Robotic Body Influencers + Building Your Confidence IRL

Robotic Body Influencers + Building Your Confidence IRL

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How do you feel when you scroll down your timeline and everyone is “flawless”? Perfect hair, nails, body shape, ect. Everyday women battle the temptation of getting cosmetic surgery in order to look like the baby mamaz/ Insta baddies of our time and it’s becoming an epidemic within our minds. The constant replicas of bodies is creating a disconnect between real life goals vs “ good enough to take pics” goals. I believe that if you are influenced by those who do not live the same life as you, you’re doing yourself a disservice. Love on you at ALL stages of your journey and surround yourself with those who influence you to feel great within the skin you’re in!
Sep 30, 202121:36
Shifting Timelines: The Power Of Your Intuition

Shifting Timelines: The Power Of Your Intuition

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Soul Contracts - Caroline Myss Establishing a Nu sense of individuality with purpose from love. In this episode I was able to distinguish the difference between who I was within two different timelines and how it has influenced my perspective who I am vs who I was in survival mode. Utilizing your intuition is your super power from God,don’t take it for granted when you’re being asked to transition.
Sep 19, 202134:12
Thoughts on Being A Good Person

Thoughts on Being A Good Person

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Random thoughts about what it means to be at peace with self after consciously being a good person. I’ve always felt like it was blessing and a curse but with everything you do consciously you will have to deal with the turbulence of living no matter how much you try to avoid it.
Aug 20, 202116:41
Becoming your own Therapist

Becoming your own Therapist

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Becoming your own therapist doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re bypassing the licensed professionals, but being able to self heal is a great tool to be self sufficient. Train your mind to be aware of why you feel uncomfortable and how you can find a way to be more loving towards self and others around you. Everything isn’t all about comfort it’s all about awareness and acknowledging your truth. Unfortunately, my audio was alittle fuzzy in this episode but the message was necessary so enjoy 😂.
Aug 16, 202134:02
Entitlement + Thoughts On Egotistical Parenting (Bonus Audio)

Entitlement + Thoughts On Egotistical Parenting (Bonus Audio)

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In this episode I had the opportunity to speak on the effects of unproductive parenting skills as well as how being entitled effects relationships/friendships.
Aug 14, 202127:17
Cancer New Moon Reflections

Cancer New Moon Reflections

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After a beautiful Russian cream blunt, I decided to get on the mic and talk my shit. This Cancer Moon has put a full stop to things that I allowed to hinder me for years. Hopefully you’re currently indulging in self care and loving on your inner child right now, we al deserve that love that we weren’t able to get in the past. Now is the time to give back to you and to nurture the parts of you that needs protection during this time.
Jul 12, 202115:34
Clock Out

Clock Out

Learning how to surrender to the divine has been one of the most challenging tasks during this journey but it has allowed a lot of things that no longer serves a purpose to fall apart. This podcast is all about making room for greater things to come into your life once you allow things to play out exactly the way they need to even when it’s something sacred to you, you must know how to live without attachment to things that lowers your vibration.
Jul 07, 202113:41
Current Waves

Current Waves

3am thoughts on experiencing loss in business and hope. Dreaming is only one portion of success it also takes support and will power and I’ve given up on my ability to always be so resilient even through the toughest crowds. Blocking others out and focusing on what you’re trying to build works in many cases but for me I truly yearn the support and love that I provide for others.
Jun 15, 202120:55
RIP Kewpie

RIP Kewpie

My thoughts on loosing my childhood pet. The loss of a pet is often overlooked because of you haven’t felt it you probably wouldn’t understand the true meaning of friendship. I didn’t think this would hurt especially years after giving her away. This brought up so many memories that I almost forgot..
Jun 15, 202107:34