Verimour Speaks

Verimour Speaks

By Verimour Speaks
Verimour Speaks is hosted by Dawn Keegan cofounder of the dating app Verimour and the nonprofit app Hero Harbor. Though each app has a different audience, they both have the same mission. Loneliness and suicide are at a record high. We’ve more ways to communicate, yet in our darkest moments often feel we’ve no one to turn to. The conversations recorded here show you're not alone, and even the strongest, most talented among us have their bad days. But instead of avoiding the pain, we strive to understand the triggers, manage the challenges, and focus on quality support over quantity.
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S02E57 - Michael Sodini Founder of Walk the Talk America Part Two
Despite his family's three decades in the gun manufacturing business, Michael bills himself and the most ungun gun guy. Listen in as we cover everything from guns to social media. Mission Statement Reduce incidents of suicide by firearms, gun negligence through  education and proactive programs that identify risks, raise awareness,  and provide solutions to those who choose to own firearms responsibly  and the public at large. Goals Our goal is to raise awareness and create a change in the  misunderstandings regarding mental illness and firearms by bringing  together industry leaders to reduce gun violence, negligence, suicide  and the trauma created by these events. Develop programs for suicide  prevention, firearms negligence, trauma mitigation, and child safety. Vision For The Future Eradicating the prejudice that both the firearms and mental  health industries face while reducing the number of tragedies and deaths  that have occurred over the years since the US has had a decline in  mental health funding and education (*).  Creating an organization that  is solely focused on making change and is made up of experts from  different fields and all walks of life that is not corrupted by  politics, the media, or personal prejudices.  We will seek out input  opportunities to further enhance communication, compassion, calls to  action, and education. President Walk the Talk America (501-C-3) Avidity Arms LLC  WalktheTalkAmerica.org IG:   @walkthetalkus FB:  @walkthetalkus Avidity Arms LLC IG:  @avidityarms FB: @avidityPD10 MichaelSodini.com IG:  @michael_sodini FB: @michaeldsodini
1:08:45
July 16, 2019
S02E56 - Michael Sodini Founder of Walk the Talk America Part One
Despite his family's three decades in the gun manufacturing business, Michael bills himself and the most ungun gun guy. Listen in as we cover everything from guns to social media. Mission Statement Reduce incidents of suicide by firearms, gun negligence through  education and proactive programs that identify risks, raise awareness,  and provide solutions to those who choose to own firearms responsibly  and the public at large. Goals Our goal is to raise awareness and create a change in the  misunderstandings regarding mental illness and firearms by bringing  together industry leaders to reduce gun violence, negligence, suicide  and the trauma created by these events. Develop programs for suicide  prevention, firearms negligence, trauma mitigation, and child safety. Vision For The Future Eradicating the prejudice that both the firearms and mental  health industries face while reducing the number of tragedies and deaths  that have occurred over the years since the US has had a decline in  mental health funding and education (*).  Creating an organization that  is solely focused on making change and is made up of experts from  different fields and all walks of life that is not corrupted by  politics, the media, or personal prejudices.  We will seek out input  opportunities to further enhance communication, compassion, calls to  action, and education. President Walk the Talk America (501-C-3) Avidity Arms LLC WalktheTalkAmerica.org IG:   @walkthetalkus FB:  @walkthetalkus Avidity Arms LLC IG:  @avidityarms FB: @avidityPD10 MichaelSodini.com IG:  @michael_sodini FB: @michaeldsodini
1:01:44
July 13, 2019
S02E55 - Is There Any Value In Working To Get Your Ex Back?
Repurposed content from the relationship segment of the Honestly Dawn podcast. Ahmed and I talk about the trend I was seeing in angst ridden individuals who were posting questions on Reddit and Quora about how to get their exs back. We consider the question from both personal experience as well as practicality.
19:05
July 9, 2019
S02E54 - Hero Segment Talking With The Men of Four Brothers Mead
What a great story and fun interview. Two blood brothers, one brother-in-law and one brother in arms, but 100% love, respect and mutual support. Hear them talk family, service, challenges and mead! fourbrothersmead.com
34:17
July 6, 2019
S02E53 - How To See Yourself As Sexy
https://medium.com/@verimour/how-to-see-yourself-as-sexy-21ec1c66957a For as long as I can remember I’ve had what a friend once referred to as “White Woman’s Syndrome”. It’s that inability to step outside our heads and see ourselves in the senuous and sexy way others do. Because of that we are not comfortable in our bodies, so we don’t swing our hips or flaunt our gorgeous selves in the way of the women we idolize as beautiful. Part of the reason is our culture and “learning” early on in life that sex is bad, therefore being sexy is bad. “Good girls don’t act like that and the more heinous and insidious, even if unspoken, “she was asking for it”. Part of it comes from not being taught how to handle the attention that arises from being confident, owning our bodies and our sexuality. Additionally, we build up insecurities over the years through repeating to ourselves perceived slights from others or unfair and biased self-criticisms. When I got divorced 2.5 years ago I was like a caged animal unleashed. I had felt captive for so long I didn’t know who I was (sexually speaking), what I liked, and what I was or wasn’t willing to do. I knew that many people, men and women alike had referred to me as beautiful or sexy, but since I didn’t really see myself that way, I had to figure out what sexy was. One of the first things I did was make a friend take me to a real live strip club. Now, without a doubt there are highend places that feature the amazing creatures television teaches us is the norm. However, this was not one of those. The women there each had their own form of beauty with or without perfect bodies. But what they all had in spades was the ability to make the most of their assets and be unapologetic about flaunting them. The freedom with which they moved their bodies to the music was otherworldly. While they were certainly cognizant of the men at the edge of the stage looking to hand them money, most of them seemed lost in the music and enjoyment of their movement. It was mesmerizing. The closest I’d ever come to that was mentally tapping into a great workout (which for me meant very heavy weight and total limb trembling exhaustion). But what I was seeing was foreign to me and I wanted to know more...
12:08
July 2, 2019
S02E52 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Frank Manteau of Kamikaze Wood Werks and Crayons Ready to Eat Part Three
In the final episode of this inspiring story, Frank brings home the story of just how far we'll go to protect our children and what he envisions for his companies as well as what he does to pay it forward. http://www.kamikazewoodwerks.com/ https://crayonsreadytoeat.com https://www.facebook.com/kamikazewoodwerks/ https://www.facebook.com/crayonsreadytoeat/
1:10:28
June 29, 2019
S02E51 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Frank Manteau Founder of Kamikaze Wood Werks and Crayons Ready to Eat Part Two
Family, country, corps. Frank had a lot going on when the towers fell. Listen in as he continues his story of difficult decisions, bold moves and taking that leap of entrepreneurial faith.   http://www.kamikazewoodwerks.com/ https://crayonsreadytoeat.com https://www.facebook.com/kamikazewoodwerks/ https://www.facebook.com/crayonsreadytoeat/
59:59
June 25, 2019
S02E50 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Frank Manteau Founder of Kamikaze Wood Werks and Crayons Ready to Eat Part One
From unspeakable childhood drama, to being instrumental in the incarceration of family members to being active duty Marine when the towers fell, Marine Sgt. Frank Manteau has never shied away from the hard work and tough decisions. Hear his story told for the first time in a widely public forum. http://www.kamikazewoodwerks.com/ https://crayonsreadytoeat.com https://www.facebook.com/kamikazewoodwerks/ https://www.facebook.com/crayonsreadytoeat/
59:55
June 22, 2019
S02E49 - The Past, The Future, Depression and Finding Your Passion
A lot has changed in the 23 years since I wrote the paper highlighted in this episode. While I still have challenges, their nature and degree are very different. 
18:16
June 18, 2019
S02E48 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Brian Chontosh, Host of Crooked Butterfly Podcast, Founder of Crooked Butterfly Ranch
Courtesy of Tosh's website " Brian “Tosh” Chontosh is a retired Marine having served as an enlisted  and commissioned infantryman. He has received multiple decorations for  valor and recognized for his dynamic leadership capacities.  His  pursuits in the ultra endurance arena challenge the limits of his  comfort zone to where he continually re-negotiates the question “Who Am  I?” Tosh’s skill and passion for the outdoors, coupled with his empathy  and curious knack for leadership, presents a special talent in creating  opportunities for others toward self-discovery and personal enrichment." https://youtu.be/nBeFrpWqIUM http://www.crookedbutterfly.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-butterfly-podcast/id1447499055 https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-chontosh-3128215b/ https://www.facebook.com/crookedbutterfly/  
1:01:48
June 15, 2019
S02E47 - Hero Segment WWII Battle of Peleliu Marine Veteran Vic Bond Part Two
His quiet voice is difficult to hear but this man is a gem. We met when I interrupted his trek through my neighborhood several years ago to tell him how inspiring I found his daily runs. A veteran of WWII, a survivor of the great depression, he is one of the hardest working and proudest Marines I've ever met. He spent more than 60 years married to the same woman only to lose her at their son's funeral. In his mid nineties, he lives alone, drives himself, walks every single day, is still the go to guy for his kids and has gone to great effort to make sure his grand kids are taken care of after his passing. He has a great sense of humor and the characteristic adapt and overcome mentality so common among our Heroes.   https://youtu.be/DX6WRsKNgnE
57:52
June 11, 2019
S02E46 - Hero Segment WWII Battle of Peleliu Marine Veteran Vic Bond Part One
His quiet voice is difficult to hear but this man is a gem. We met when I interrupted his trek through my neighborhood several years ago to tell him how inspiring I found his daily runs. A veteran of WWII, a survivor of the great depression, he is one of the hardest working and proudest Marines I've ever met. He spent more than 60 years married to the same woman only to lose her at their son's funeral. In his mid nineties, he lives alone, drives himself, walks every single day, is still the go to guy for his kids and has gone to great effort to make sure his grand kids are taken care of after his passing. He has a great sense of humor and the characteristic adapt and overcome mentality so common among our Heroes.  https://youtu.be/XFpMjdmCL5w
1:01:42
June 8, 2019
S02E45 - Hero Segment Fishing Therapy for PTSD with Matt and Paul Part Two
 Fishing and other outdoor activities are often a great way to relieve  stress. Hear Matt Witkowski of @flying_fish_hooks and Paul Roy of  @fishing4therapy talk about their favorite fishing stories, how fishing  has helped them manage their post active service world and what they are  doing to share that with other Heroes. I apologize upfront for some of  the spotty recording quality.  flyingfishhooks.com https://youtu.be/mZXFo4KqDxw
49:27
June 4, 2019
S02E44 - Hero Segment - Fishing Therapy for PTSD with Matt and Paul Part One
Fishing and other  outdoor activities are often a great way to relieve stress. Hear Matt  Witkowski of @flying_fish_hooks and Paul Roy of @fishing4therapy talk  about their favorite fishing stories, how fishing has helped them manage  their post active service world and what they are doing to share that  with other Heroes. I apologize upfront for some of the spotty recording  quality. http://flyingfishhooks.com/ https://youtu.be/kJOq_heJ9fY .
48:33
June 1, 2019
S02E43 - Hero Segment Memorial Day Special Episode
Here is the text of the email about the Vietnam Wall. I have not verified these stats, but the sentiment is the same even if the numbers are somewhat different.  If you are interested, I tell more about my father's story in S01E06.   A little history most people will never know. Veterans statistics of the Vietnam Memorial Wall. There are 58,267 names now listed on that polished black wall, including those added in 2010. The names are arranged in the order in which they were taken from us by date and within each date the names are alphabetized.  It is hard to believe it is 63 years since the first casualty. The first known casualty was Richard B. Fitzgibbon, of North Weymouth, Mass, listed by the Department of Defense as having been killed on June 8, 1956.  His name is listed on the Wall with that of his son, Marine Corps LCpl. Richard B. Fitzgibbon III, who was killed on Sept. 7, 1965. There are three sets of fathers and sons on the Wall. Of all the names listed, 39,996 were 22 years-old or younger; 8,283 were 19 years-old. The largest age group, 33,103 were 18 years-old;  12 soldiers were 17 years-old;  5 soldiers were 16 years-old.  One soldier, PFC Dan Bullock, was 15 years-old. 997 soldiers were killed on their first day in Vietnam;  1,448 soldiers were killed on their last day in Vietnam.   There are 31 sets of brothers are on the Wall;   31 sets of parents lost two of their sons. 54 soldiers attended Thomas Edison High School in Philadelphia. 8 Women who nursed the wounded are on the Wall.  244 soldiers were recipients of the Medal of Honor during the Vietnam War; 153 of them are listed on the Wall. Beallsville, Ohio with a population of 475 lost 6 of her sons. West Virginia had the highest casualty rate per capita in the nation.  There are 711 West Virginians on the Wall.   The Marines of Morenci, AZ - They led some of the scrappiest high school football and basketball teams that the little Arizona copper town of Morenci (pop 5,058) had ever known and cheered.  They enjoyed roaring beer busts.  In quieter moments, they rode horses along the Coronado Trail, stalked deer in the Apache National Forest .  And in the patriotic camaraderie typical of Morenci's mining families, the 9 graduates of Morenci High enlisted as a group in the Marine Corps. Their service began on Independence Day, 1966. Only 3 returned home.   The Buddies of Midvale, UT - LeRoy Tafoya, Jimmy Martinez, Tom Gonzales were all boyhood friends and lived on three consecutive streets in Midvale, Utah, on Fifth, Sixth and Seventh avenues.  They lived only a few yards apart.  They played ball at the adjacent sandlot ball field And they all went to Vietnam.  In a span of 16 dark days in late 1967, all three would be killed.  LeRoy was killed on Wednesday, Nov. 22.  Jimmy died less than 24 hours later on Thanksgiving Day.  Tom was killed assaulting the enemy on Dec. 7, 1967.    The most deaths for a single day was on January 31, 1968 when 245 service members were killed. The most deaths for a single month was May 1968, where 2,415 service members died. To those  who survived the war, and to the families of those who did not, we see the faces, we feel the pain that these numbers created  We are haunted with these numbers because they were our friends, fathers, husbands, wives, sons and daughters  There are no noble wars, just noble warriors. https://youtu.be/RnE16bCU1yE
15:05
May 27, 2019
S02E42 - Why I Love Mondays and You Can Too
   For many years I was like the rest of the world rushing my life from weekend to weekend always trying to savor those precious final Sunday night or holiday hours and dreading the sound of the alarm that signaled a new work week. Even then I remember commenting on the irony of it and how unfortunate it all was given how delicate our existence can be. And when I found myself out of work it got even worse instead of better. I suddenly began to hate every day instead of just Mondays. I saw myself as without purpose and lacking value or worth. For a long time I did everything I could think of to mold myself into something the corporate world wanted. I got certified in PowerPoint, studied change and project management. I changed my resume with every submission in an attempt to highlight whatever skill that particular company was looking for. It didn’t work. I became so desperate to show I could do it all I would oversell myself. Each rejection just drove me further into despair. I began to envy every minimum wage job earner I came across simply because they were drawing a check. Then one day I began looking inward at my heart. I asked myself “What are your true gifts and what is it that you are passionate about?” Not only was the answer easy, it was one that others had been saying to me for years. I am a people pleaser. Yes, definitely in all the negative connotation ways that has of sometimes being easily taken advantage of, but also in the amazing ways of making total strangers smile with compliments and giving random hugs and getting the response “you don’t know how I needed that”. Yes dear, actually I do because I needed it too. But it was more than that. I love to hear people’s stories and I am inspired all the time by the resilience of human nature and encouraged by the strength I see in those who don’t even recognize it. My heart is also too often crushed by those I meet who have so much to offer, but have been beaten down by life and don’t know how to fight back. So I began with getting my personal trainer certification and then lent myself to the path as it appeared and soon thereafter got my life coach certification as well as many others. Soon Mind and Body Coaching was born. Now every Monday is a gift because it means the rest of the world is back at work and I can again go out there and interact with them and have the opportunity to change lives. Every Monday is sort of like a New Years day in that it feels like a new beginning and a fresh start. So holidays excepted I get 52 fresh starts a year. It’s natural that we all experience sort of a reverse bell curve effect with any goal. However, if you start the week miserable where can you go from there? Maybe it’s time to look at your life differently. Don’t wait for a catastrophic event like a job loss, divorce or death to open your eyes to the possibilities. Start figuring out your path, heart and true bliss right now before you have rushed weekend to weekend your entire life away.
08:24
May 25, 2019
S02E41 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Lorne Moon Part Two
In the second part of his interview, Lorne talks about PTSD, discovering giving back as a way to manage his stress as well as embracing alternatives to pharmaceuticals.   https://youtu.be/5q7ge435RP8
1:11:16
May 21, 2019
S02E40 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Lorne Moon Part One
Another Marine Hero steps up to tell his story. Hear Lorne tell what led him to join the Corps in the pre Gulf War days, how that decision was partly informed by being the child of an alcoholic parent, and his surprise at learning that the recruiting process and job placement isn't always as smooth as we anticipate. https://youtu.be/WV-BdfSy6wA
1:06:52
May 18, 2019
S02E39 - Dr. Ming Wang, Author of From Darkness to Sight: A Journey from Hardship to Healing
Repurposed content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn podcasts. Dr. Wang tells of growing up in communist China where no one was allowed to move from one city to another without the governments permission and how his mind and world view shifted completely upon coming to the US.
41:04
May 14, 2019
S02E38 - Boris Boric Part Two TBI, Coma, Death Sentence and the Long Road to Recovery
Repurposed content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn podcasts. Hear Boris tell of his second near death experience where he wakes from a coma to learn he wasn't even supposed to live, much less walk again. And hear what seem like a surprising revelation about his attitude regarding the entire experience.
42:29
May 11, 2019
S02E37 - Boris Boric Part One Child Survivor of the Croatian War of Independence
Repurposed content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn podcasts. Boris is one of the most inspiring people I have ever met. Having survived not one, but two cataclysmic life events, he now uses what he learned to change lives himself.  In this first part, hear him tell of tripping over dead bodies at the age of 6 after being separated from his family while fleeing to safety. And of spending years in refugee camps where his young mind continued to be faced with the stark realities of that life.  
18:48
May 7, 2019
S02E36 - Entrepreneur Confessions and Apologies to the CEO of WHOOP
Today's episode is me hoping to help you through my own raw honesty about the challenges of being an overachieving work in progress and the stupid shit we do that doesn't have to be the end of the world.  The apology is mostly in the confession, that he'll never hear, as I don't ever actually say I'm sorry.  But if it's the thought that counts then he should have been feeling a warm glow all day, because my heart is almost always in the right place.
32:45
May 4, 2019
S02E35 - Mustafa How a Muslim Taught Me the Meaning of Christmas
This interview was recorded Christmas Day 2015 in Austin, Texas. When I say the meaning of Christmas here, I'm referring to the most basic human traits of love, compassion and pain both physical and emotional.  I know that many people still experience a great deal of anger toward the Muslim community. My aim isn't to comment or pass judgment on either side of that equation. What you will hear in this discussion is the story of a young man, through no fault of his own, forced to leave the only home he'd ever known. For the safety of his family, he found it necessary to seek refuge in a country that is very often unwelcoming and even hostile.  What I hope is that you listen to this interview not through the lens of religion or politics but instead through a lens of humanity. Allow yourself to hear all the ways this young man is just like you and me. He loves, he hurts, he questions and he grows from learning. Hear how he has come to embrace and love his new home despite the sometimes hurtful and confusing way he experiences it.
1:07:19
April 30, 2019
S02E34 - Kerry Cohen Author of Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity
Repurposed content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn podcasts. Kerry is a prolific writer and speaks very candidly about her addictions to sex and alcohol. She has written several other books including: Lush: A Memoir Dirty Little Secrets The Truth of Memoir Easy
38:08
April 27, 2019
S02E33 - The Secret to Women Revealed
It's an age old cliche the shake our heads moments when we look at the opposite sex and wonder how we can both be the same species. Could it be simpler than we let ourselves believe? A repurposed interview from Honestly Dawn, Ahmed and Dawn explore the possibility that maybe it doesn't have to be so difficult.
21:27
April 23, 2019
S02E32 - Debra Gwartney Author of Live Through This: A Mother's Memoir of Runaway Daughters and Reclaimed Love
Imagine your two teenage daughters living on the streets where you can't find them and can only imagine their fate. In this repurposed interview from the Honestly Dawn podcast, author Debra Gwartney talks about the mixed bag of fear, guilt, anger and hurt. 
39:22
April 20, 2019
S02E31 - When is a Dick Pick Appropriate?
Repurposed content from Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn, I wasn't sure what to say when Ahmed asked me to talk about this subject, but you can believe I came up with something. Enlightening conversation as always.
19:51
April 16, 2019
S02E30 - Thomas Cook Talks Parenting, Drug Abuse and Life Changes
Repurposed content from Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn, my friend Thomas talks about growing up in a very dysfunctional home where drugs and alcohol were the norm and what it took to go from drug addict and dealer to respected businessman.
28:55
April 13, 2019
S02E29 - The Secret to goal Setting for Maximum Results
Repurposed from Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn, Hector and I share our similar but somewhat different views on the difference between "just do it" and "of course, what else would I do?".
39:58
April 9, 2019
S02E28 - Anthony Venn-Brown Author of A Life of Unlearning - a Preacher's Struggle With His Homosexuality, Church and Faith
More repurposed content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn podcast days. Venn-Brown talks very candidly about growing up gay in an ultra religious Australian family and the inordinate lengths he went to trying to get God to "fix" him, before tragedy helped him find a place of acceptance with his life and his church.
37:55
April 6, 2019
S02E27 - Hero Segment Jason Jean Air Force Veteran and Founder of Tattered Beans Part Two
After technical and mental SNAFUs required a rerecording of part of Jason's story, here is the abbreviated version of how Tattered Beans came about, what it means to the Hero community and Jason's bold plans for the rest of 2019 and how you can be a part. Find Jason and Tattered Beans at tatteredbeans.com and on all social channels by searching Tattered Beans. https://youtu.be/h2rZw5mDPXc
36:52
April 2, 2019
S02E26 - Hero Segment Jason Jean Air Force Veteran and Founder of Tattered Beans Part One
Hear Jason tell how his roughneck ways led to his joining the Air Force and the injuries that cut his career short. Listen as we discuss work ethic and the thinking that led him to become a millionaire by his 30th birthday. Jason can be found by searching for tattered beans on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter https://tatteredbeans.com/ https://youtu.be/MRkEy-Wj_Dw
1:00:32
March 30, 2019
S02E25 - Female Satisfaction in the Bedroom
As women are we doing all we can to ensure our wants and needs are met in the bedroom? Do we have any culpability at all in our dissatisfaction or should our partners come to the game fully informed and prepared? 
06:51
March 26, 2019
S02E24 - The Social Media Monster, Faithful Friend or Pure Evil?
Anyone who knows me well can tell you I have a very dim view of our current social media environment.  And my distaste for it has grown exponentially since this episode was recorded in 2016. That year alone, nearly 45,000 Americans took their own lives and there is more than enough anecdotal if not outright causal examples of the role the social media played in those deaths. While this in an interesting conversation, look forward to an updated version in the near future. 
29:11
March 23, 2019
S02E23 - Profanity and Loss of Control
Additional reused content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn podcast days. Hear Hector and I talk about words, how we use them, the power they give and the power they take away. Hear him tell how language is handled in his home of small children and what ground rules keep things running smoothly in an enormously hectic but loving household.
23:23
March 19, 2019
S02E22 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Ray Lopez Part Two
In part two of our conversation, Ray talks about taking charge of his medical care and the way he personalizes his work for each customer. Facebook and Instagram: PTSDBOTTLES https://youtu.be/SLNq_8WhUaA
33:04
March 16, 2019
S02E21 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Ray Lopez Part One
Hear Ray talk about fighting to get into the corps, fighting to stay in the corps, the physical challenges that eventually drove him out and the creative methods he used, first to save his own sanity, then later to help others in typical Marine brotherhood fashion. Ray is such a shining example of that spirit and fortitude that drives so many Heroes. A joy to talk to and a great friend to have. Find Ray on Facebook or Instagram at ptsdbottles https://youtu.be/OY6TJTwuNjw
34:47
March 12, 2019
S02E20 - Confidence, Vanity or Narcicissm
Repurposed content from the Honestly Speaking/Honestly Dawn Podcasts.  The words we use especially in the way of labeling ourselves or others can have an incredibly powerful, long lasting and too often extremely detrimental impact on our lives.  In this episode Hector and I attempt to make a semantic distinction between the labels of Confidence, Vanity and Narcissism. As always these conversations were fun to record, enjoyable to relisten to and hopefully helpful or at least entertaining to our listeners.
24:59
March 9, 2019
S02E19 - Hero Segment Navy Veteran Matt Witkowski Owner of Flying Fish Hooks
One of Hero Harbor's most fervent fans, Matt tells of his military journey and why he so strongly believes in and champions HH's mission. flyingfishhooks.com https://youtu.be/6GpiOfBx3xI
50:26
March 5, 2019
S02E18 - FBI Negotiator Gary Noesner Author of Stalling For Time
This interview is a couple years old, but the information is still relevant and interesting as Gary gives us insight into the troubled minds behind  some of our country's most memorable events. Gary was the lead negotiator at the Branch Davidian compound in Waco, Texas. He also took an advisory roll in the making of the recent mini series recounting that event.
52:01
March 2, 2019
S02E17 - Hero Segment Army Veteran Rick Stevens Part Two
In this episode Rick tells how something as simple as water was the game changing difference in allowing him to take control of both his VA issued medications as well as his recreational drugs and alcohol. https://youtu.be/vRRF8Cbi4W4
31:18
February 26, 2019
S02E16 - Hero Segment Army Veteran Rick Stevens Part One
Hear Rick tell of losing 6 friends during two days of combat and the horrific way that experience changed the course of his life for years to come. https://youtu.be/KFZhtTWcFho
33:21
February 23, 2019
S02E15 - What If You Could Hear Your Lover's Thoughts?
Additional content reused from the Honestly Dawn podcast. Communication between partners is so often a large source of frustration. In this episode Ahmed and I consider whether knowing what your partner is thinking would help or hinder your private time.
31:37
February 19, 2019
S02E14 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Joshua Granger Part Two
In typical Marine fashion, Josh pulls no punches as he tackles the harsh reality of mental illness labels, life in the VA and what it takes to live in a world where the bulk of people cannot comprehend the reality you live with.  https://youtu.be/KN-znnCTelk
54:44
February 16, 2019
S02E13 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Joshua Granger Part One
In my most raw conversation yet, Josh talks about being Marine infantry in the immediate aftermath of 9/11.
51:05
February 12, 2019
E02E12 - Special Guest Katie McKenna Chats About Compliments
Anyone who listened to episode 3 knows how much I love Katie. In an effort to not let some great previous content go to waste, I'm doing minor edits and relaunching select episodes from the honestly dawn/honestly speaking podcast. Please forgive any bleed across shows in production and try to focus on the main content itself. As always Katie is a terrific joy and pleasure to work with. 
17:02
February 9, 2019
S02E11 - Hero Segment Marine Veteran Omar Fuentes
Omar talks about going all in to embrace his veteran status in order to do the most good in the community he knows and loves. Semper Fi Project Podcast Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/omrfuentes Instagram -  omarfuentes_sfp
53:15
February 5, 2019
S02E10 - Hero Segment Marine SSgt JB Brown Founder of Fidelis Farm Solutions Part Two
I got as much enjoyment editing this portion as I did in the original conversation. JB is a lot of fun, but he is also very honest about his struggles and the dark turn he took after leaving the Marine Corps. I again have no doubt about the potential benefit nearly anyone can receive from the story shared by this amazing individual. Starting Wednesday February 7th, JB and I are going to begin a regular conversation live on Facebook about things other than the military. 
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January 31, 2019
S02E09 - Hero Segment Marine SSgt JB Brown Part One
Every interview I do teaches me something and inevitably inspires me in some way. However, as anyone who lives their life in the service of others will tell you, there is nothing more gratifying than the moment you learn that something you've done had a positive impact on someone else.  SSgt. Brown stepped out from the shadows of social media to join the Hero Harbor app and through our interaction there, honored my request to tell his story here. Even as I type these words, my nose and eyes are burning while I try to suppress the tears of gratitude and respect I have for his actions both in service of his country and now in service of other heroes.  JB and I spoke for nearly two hours, so this is only a portion of our interaction. But I promise you will find something of value either as entertainment, inspiration or simple education. Whatever you take away from it, please know he is one of so many hero stories that deserve our attention and respect even if we don't get to hear them in person.
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January 26, 2019
S02E08 - Honestly Speaking Chapter Five read by the author and host Dawn Keegan
   “It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.” ― C. S. Lewis Here we are finally at the place my clients always seem to want to jump to first, the “fix it” spot. Congratulations! The beauty of being here is you completed the difficult part by doing the exercises in the previous chapters. The most significant part of change is awareness of the habits and trends that got us here and by doing the exercises you’ve likely developed a great deal of insight into your repeating patterns both good and bad. 
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January 25, 2019
S02E07 - MLK Holiday and the Confessions of a Closet Non-Racist
My usual launch schedule has been shot to hell recently, but this is a topic I didn't want to pass on and today was a good day to at least open the door to the discussion. What follows is the text version of the blog post I share while recording.  Confessions of closet non-racist - Originally written July 2016 When I was in elementary and middle school I lived in Indianapolis,  Indiana. During the years that spanned Kindergarten through 6th grade I  only remember one black student. There may have been others, but they  didn’t live in my neighborhood and I didn’t interact with them. After my  parents divorced I moved to Florida and briefly attended the very small  private school associated with my grandparents church. There were no  black students there either. About the time I was starting high school  my grandparents bought a farm in the rural areas of Tallahassee. The  middle school bus that picked up my brother drove toward town and the  more affluent neighborhoods. The bus that transported me headed the  other direction toward the poorer mostly black community. There were only three white students on my bus. I was the first  picked up and so had the longest ride every day. Next was my best friend  who lived in the middle of that small community and whose mother owned a  store where most all the residents had credit accounts. The last girl  was a very cute, quiet student who got on as the last pick up of the  route only a few blocks from the school. Because I was on the bus the longest I had the most opportunity to  get to know the other passengers. If you were to meet me today you would  likely have a difficult time pegging me as timid, or shrinking. But  even now confrontation is not my first line of defense and one that  raises my blood pressure. However, back then was a different story. A  few of the guys I rode the bus with took a shine to me and would often  make verbal advances and plead their case for why I should hang out with  them. That alone was uncomfortable for me. But the really difficult  part was that their attention made me a further target for the girls. On one day in particular I sat in complete terror during the bulk of  the trip while one of the girls continued to flick pennies at the back  of my head. As my first significant exposure to members of the  African-American race this was not a positive experience for me. As I  got older I found myself attracted to black men on more than one  occasion. However, while there had never been any discussion about it  I’m sure I would never have taken one of them home to my family or even  have been seen regularly in public with them. I couldn’t have explained  it I just somehow knew it wasn’t acceptable and not a battle I had the  strength to wage. When I joined the Marine Corps in my mid 20’s there was an admin  clerk who worked in my office. She was white, but only dated black men.  The other Marines in my shop referred to her as a mudshark. The  significant difference with this young woman was that her entire  personae changed when her love interests were around. Suddenly her  actions and speech changed completely and she became very “ghetto” an  act that disappeared when she was among her primarily white coworkers. As an unrelenting observer of human behavior always in search of  answers about my motivation and that of others I’ve long been bothered  by a strange tendency I see in our conversations. How many times a day  do we hear someone tell a story and point out the ethnicity of the  parties involved even when that fact has no relevance to the story at  all? It said to me that despite what we tell ourselves or want to  believe, most of us still see skin color in a very distinct and
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January 21, 2019
S02E06 - Honestly Speaking Chapter Four Read by the Author and Host Dawn Keegan
My apologies that I have nothing else prepared at the moment, but I am working on some great new guests and content! “You can't be brave if you've only had wonderful things happen to you.” ― Mary Tyler Moore It can be seen as an unfortunate reality that most significant and permanent change is brought about due to what we usually identify as cataclysmic events in our lives frequently not of our intentional making. Although I’ve been on a path of discovery for years, it was two recent and specific earth shifting events that led most to my current self-realization.
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January 15, 2019
S02E05 - Honestly Speaking Chapter Three Read by the Author and Host Dawn Keegan
 “Simply put, to be self-aware is to know yourself as you really are. Initially, self-awareness can come across as a somewhat ambiguous concept. There is no finish line where someone is going to slap a medal on you and deem you ‘self-aware.’ Awareness of yourself is not just knowing that you are a morning person instead of a night owl. It’s deeper than that. Getting to know yourself inside and out is a continuous journey of peeling back the layers of the onion and becoming more and more comfortable with what is in the middle – the true essence of you.” – Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves While the chapter on steps to change required the most intentional and concentrated thought on my part, it is the benefits of change that most captures my thinking on a daily basis. It is in this chapter where you’ll find my favorite stories and the place where I most hope to capture the essence and evidence of what is possible for us as individuals and as the human race.
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January 12, 2019
S02E04 - Sam Tarell, Self Ascribed Feminist, Visionary Thinker and CEO of Hoop Brothers
For many of us, the recent hectic and often disheartening holiday season, had us wondering if humans are unrecoverable as a species. However, today I offer you candid conversation between two dreamers who not only believe there is hope, but each have a plan for how to help. Introducing Sam Tarell, CEO of Hoop Brothers and unabashed big thinker. For more information on Sam you can follow him @samtarell on most social channels. You can also listen to his interview with Tony McGehee on the Emerging Entrepreneurs Podcast as well as my interview of Tony in Episode 7 of Verimour Speaks. https://anchor.fm/verimourspeaks/episodes/Episode-7---Tony-McGehee---Host-of-Emerging-Entrepreneur-Podcast-e2ianu https://webplayer.whooshkaa.com/episode/249300?theme=light
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January 8, 2019
S02E03 - Honestly Speaking Chapter Two Read by the Author and Host Dawn Keegan.
 This chapter attempts to identify some of the factors that lead to our break from authenticity and in turn drives our pain. "But as we grow up, and for some of us this happens sooner than for others, life begins to crowd out that trust and honesty. We experience perceived or actual hurt, betrayal and all the other things that force us to look at the world from a different perspective. Suddenly we no longer find it natural to give anyone the benefit of the doubt and trust is difficult. Therefore, we begin consciously or not to seek ways of managing this new interpersonal vista we face. We surround ourselves with those who support or sustain our falsely developed personal world view. While we rally around the cry for independence and individuality in many aspects of our lives, we seek directions regarding what to do, what to think, what to eat, etc. We give up all personal power in favor of quick fixes and being part of the in-crowd. It’s easier to blame others or close ourselves off from those who might remind us of or shine a light on the areas of our personality we disdain."
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January 6, 2019
S02E02 - What if it were me? Compassion, humanity, and walking that mile.
Shorter than 10 minutes, this episode introduces Tuesday's guest, allows me a little personal introspection and describes some upcoming format changes.
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January 5, 2019
S02E0 1 - Honestly Speaking chapter one read by the author and host Dawn Keegan.
 "Imagine yourself going through life every day having the confidence to  overcome any fear, reject any label and achieve any dream. Envision  knowing even though the bad times will still come it's okay because now  you won't just "get through it" you will guide the outcome and REALLY  get stronger because of it. Finally, imagine that through having that  knowledge and power you can change any aspect of your life currently  causing you pain." - Dawn Keegan, USMC, Executive Director, Hero Harbor,  Inc.  This chapter shares some of the most difficult stories from my childhood and of people who left this earth without ever fulfilling the powerful destiny that could have been theirs. At the end are 5 simple exercises in awareness to help you begin hearing how your internal dialogue and what you hear from others, either helps or hurts your chances of achieving whatever dream you hold dear.
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January 1, 2019
S01E13 - Victor Perez and Josh's Benches for Awareness
Approximately 7 months ago, Victor's best friend since childhood committed suicide by gunshot. In this episode, Victor talks about being a twenty something in today's world and shares with us the nonprofit foundation he helped start in honor of his friend.
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December 29, 2018
S01E12 - Introduction to the book Honestly Speaking, written by your host Dawn Keegan
Merry Christmas all. I hope it has been and continues to be an amazing one.   The original episode planned for today was, in my opinion, just too much gloom and doom. Therefore, I made an emergency substitution.  There is often a degree of curiosity and surprise when people find out I've written a book. Those reactions are compounded by the fact that it's not currently available anywhere but as a pdf on the verimour.com website.  Because Honestly Speaking was my first foray into what has since become a personal mission to help other's lead more confident and fulfilling lives, I offer it now in audio version to make it accessible to one more audience.  One small note, however, I've made some editorial changes that transposed the previous introduction and first chapter. Therefore, until the website is updated, be aware the written and audio versions will have the same text just in different order.
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December 25, 2018
S01E11 - Silencing the Noise, My Christmas Wish For You
The holidays can be at the same time both exhilarating and infuriating. All the extra activity and pressure can bring out the best and worst in us. In a traditionally short Saturday episode, I share my insight while giving you a small preview into Tuesday's emotional topic and interview. heroharbor.org/get-it verimour.com/get-it
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December 22, 2018
S01E10 - Hero Segment Marine Sergeant Adam T. Cummings, host of Vetting America Podcast
Listen as Adam speaks candidly about the emotional crossroads leading him to become a Marine and how he uses his experiences and insights to continue serving all the heroes of America's fighting force. Find Adam at: https://medium.com/@adam.cummings Facebook - Adam T Cummings Linkedin - Adam T Cummings Instagram - Adam.T.C Email - adamtraviscummings.com
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December 18, 2018
S01E09 - Kathleen Rothenberger, second generation breast cancer survivor
What would you do if suddenly diagnosed with the same disease you'd seen your mother suffer with for more than 3 decades? Barely 6 months ago, Kathy was diagnosed with stage one breast cancer and had to answer that very question. Tune in to hear her amazing story and what you might find as her surprising decision. www.kathleenrothenberger.com
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December 11, 2018
S01E08 - Hero Segment When Heroes Experience Pain
Veterans and first responders are killing themselves at an alarming rate. more than 5500 veterans so far this year. Hear my story as well as those of men and women I've met. heroharbor.org/get-it
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December 8, 2018
S01E07 - Tony McGehee - Host of Emerging Entrepreneur Podcast
In this episode, Tony talks about what it takes to put a dream in action, serving others as a form of motivation and how he gets his groove back when he finds himself giving into inertia. @emergingentrepreneurspodcast https://linktr.ee/emergingentrepreneurspodcast
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December 4, 2018
S01E06 - The Paradox of Regret
In this episode I talk about both my regret and those of my father by relating stories from our military service. Additionally, I offer listeners a challenge designed to help you turn regret into something helpful.
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December 1, 2018
S01E05 - Dating coach T. Anthony of Online Dating Superpowers in Cincinnati
Hear coach and I talk about the current state of dating, how apps hurt or help and what Verimour is doing to solve the problem. https://www.instagram.com/onlinedatingsuperpowers/
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November 27, 2018
S01E04 - Verimour the Dating App
After my divorce in 2015, I did what seemed to me the time management savvy thing and took to dating apps. It didn't take long to realize what an awful mess that world is. Personal and intimate relationships have arguably the highest requirement for honest communication and these apps were promoting anything but. And that's not even taking into consideration the very real physical and financial danger risk. I knew there was a better way. Verimour is my solution to that problem. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IAC_(company) https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1NHDdsJEQsWh9E4uNsh35EU83QUyN8USFp0ddmmCButk/edit?usp=sharing
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November 24, 2018
S01E03 - Katie McKenna Author of How to Get Run Over by a Truck
Once again I'm pleased to be speaking with this dynamic and empowering woman. Hear her tell about taking her worst day ever and turning it into a life of amazing joy and abundance. I've included links to my previous conversation with Katie as well as her guest blog post and all the places you can learn more about her life and work. http://honestlydawn.com/episode-15-katie-mckenna/ http://honestlydawn.com/scheduling-a-compliment-party-guest-post-by-katie-mckenna/ Instagram: @katiecmckenna Twitter: @katiecmckenna Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katiecmckenna Website: www.katiecmckenna.com Book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Run-Over-Truck/dp/1536669431
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November 20, 2018
S01E02 - How Understanding Communication Styles Can Radically Improve Our Relationships
The books I reference are listed here: That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships - 2011 You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation - 2013 by Deborah Tannen
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November 17, 2018
S01E01 - Hero Segment Army Ranger Remi Rivera, COO of Ratpack Worldwide Security
Remi and I chat about life after the military, safety as a worldwide concern at an individual level, and the importance of connections and support at all stages of life.  www.ratpackworldwidesecurity.com  @ratpackworldwidesecurity https://youtu.be/PW7gdl1-BRk https://youtu.be/RaFLbeeefbM https://youtu.be/3YRy-zfIs94 https://youtu.be/KyICeqI7Rc0
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November 13, 2018
S01E00 - Verimour Speaks Pilot Episode
In the pilot episode of the Verimour Speaks Podcast, your host, Dawn Keegan, provides a brief introduction to our content, philosophy and a short list of upcoming guests including authors: Katie McKenna - How to Get Run Over By a Truck Gary Noesner - Stalling for Time Tim Lefins - Flying Colors Debra Gwartney - Live Through This Kerry Cohen - Loose Girl  https://verimour.com  https://twitter.com/Verimour  https://www.facebook.com/verimourapp/  https://heroharbor.org  https://twitter.com/HeroHarbor
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November 10, 2018