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Freedom Reigns

Freedom Reigns

By Freedom Reigns
I'm Coach Vee, the New Love Strategist with New Thing Life Coaching. I'm a certified Life/Singles, Dating, and Relationship Coach. I help Christian women experience freedom from religion in order to successfully date in modern times, prepare for kingdom marriages, and overall win at love! And that's God's love, self-love, and real love!
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God has me Hidden (Myths)
Another myth we need to explore. Because many single women believe God has them hidden and there is NO truth to this.
January 20, 2021
Dating is Data Collecting (Myths)
Something that often gets tossed around is that dating is about collecting data. Meh. Yes and no. Mainly no. Tune in to the latest in the series Myths Keeping Christian Women Single to learn why.
January 14, 2021
Christian Women shouldn't be Dating (Myths)
Time to kick off a new series. There are myths about Christian women that are keeping them single. Let's address these!
January 6, 2021
How to Reel him in (TAM pt 4)
OK, we have looked at the "negatives" but now about the positives. At the end of the day, we want to know what they want and like. And I have that info for you, ladies. Tune in to the final installment of this series. Sorry it was cut short. You can tune in to the live video I shared on the FB page.
January 6, 2021
Inconsistent Efforts (pt 3)
Why, why, WHY are we dealing with men and their inconsistent efforts in 2020? Sir, are you interested or nah? What's it gonna be? Ladies, tune into part 3 of The Truth about Men series so we can see why men tend to be a bit inconsistent and how to handle it. 
December 24, 2020
When Men say 1 Thing, & do Another...
Why, why, why?! Their actions never line up with what they're saying and it's a bit old, huh? Tune in! Because I've got something to say as we continue in the Understanding Men series.
December 16, 2020
Why Men Lie!
Let's discuss some things about lying men. I also will give you the #1 reason men lie in this new series, The Truth about Men. Buckle up ladies. Because this one is gonna be heavy!
December 9, 2020
False Alarms & Fantasy Building
Let's finish up this Single & Frustrated series. Because I have something to say about something that women are TERRIBLE about in the early stages of a POTENTIAL relationship. There's a reason we end up more and more frustrated, speaking negatively over our single season. Tune in because I have a lot to say!
December 2, 2020
A Trip Down Memory Lane (SAF pt 3)
One thing I know is that the past holds the answers for many single women who are frustrated and have made repeated mistakes with the men they chose. Let's examine a few things if you're sure about something different in the future. Tune in for episode 3 of Single and Frustrated!
November 29, 2020
You and your type: The Common Denominator
So, you seemingly attract the same kind of man? Men and dating today steadily looking a bit familiar? Man do I have some serious gems for YOU. Because enough is enough. 
November 18, 2020
Single and Frustrated
In part 1 of the new series, Single and Frustrated, I want to examine why God seems to skip over some women when it comes to a good man and marriage. If you're bold, tune in!
November 11, 2020
Going Forward with Online Dating
We've made it to the end. I've given you tips, and more when it comes to Online Dating Help, but there are some things you really need to know when it comes to going forward. So before you create the profile and start swiping, grab this last bit of info, OK? 2 keys get you in the door, yes. But the outcome is based on one single word...
October 28, 2020
Choosing the Correct Dating Method
There are 2 ways to date: Multi vs All Eggs. Pros and cons to each, and I often get asked which is best. Well, that depends. Tune in for more Online Dating Help!
October 21, 2020
Handling Communication when it comes to Online Dating
Women often walk away from dating apps prematurely because they're unsure how to handle communication, boundaries in communication, online conversations, etc. Let me help you. Tune in for part 2 of Online Dating Help
October 14, 2020
2 Keys to Online Dating
These are 2 things to help you when it comes to online dating. Mind you, keys open doors. There's much more to do when inside. And we'll explore that later. But for now, tune in!
October 7, 2020
Quarantine Blues
Some are still locked down and quarantined. Some have had their entire lives change in an instant. People are sure to check on the married folks, the elderly, those with kids, etc. But what about the women who are single? Those who were trying to start a dating life? Those who had just met someone they were interested in getting to know?  Don't let the lockdown keep you down. 
September 23, 2020
Why Dating isn't Working (for you)
Dating While Christian. Lord help us! Many women struggle in this area for various reasons, and I've come to the rescue. Put your big girl panties on and tune in. I'm just trying to help!
September 16, 2020
Is he date-able?
So there's this guy... And he's saying all the right things to have you interested and really feeling him. Now you're trying to figure out if you should continue or not. Tune into this latest podcast. Because I want to give some green flags on things to look for. Let's stop being so negative, seeking out the red flags! 
September 9, 2020
Navigation Conversation
As we come to the end of the Breakout series, there's one final step. We've addressed household, habits/traits, ideal relationship and guy, and our "list." Well, none of those things will help you breakout and meet someone if you're doing it from the couch. How do you get approached and apply what you've learned? Because, sis? It's time to navigate! 
August 26, 2020
What does your "list" look like?
Be honest! We all have some kind of list when it comes to what we're looking for in a  partner. The thing is that we've switched up the order of importance when it comes to these things. Add to that, many of us don't offer what we're demanding. I want to teach you about 3 things regarding that list of yours as you're on the path to BREAKOUT!
August 19, 2020
Transformation in Process
Many of us have that idea of who we'd like to be in love with and eventually marry. The thing is, have you started your transformation process? You've got to become the person that the person you're looking for is looking for! As we continue on with Breakout, let's talk about your ideal mate and what your future relationship would look like according to you. 
August 12, 2020
Habitual Mistakes
In order to breakout from a bad habit, you have to acknowledge one is present. Last week, we examined our households. Today, I want to look at how your mom, dad, childhood, etc can have an influence on your relationships and unhealthy patterns. And how you might be repeating cycles instead of breaking them... 
August 5, 2020
Breakout from Parental Prohibitions
When we stop and take the time to examine our past and our households from childhood, we'll learn that so many answers are there based on why we make unhealthy choices now with men, sex, relationships, money, and truly, in general. Imagine still being single because you haven't cut the cord from your mama, or because you haven't divorced your daddy. Tune in for the new series, Breakout! It's time to be free for real!
July 29, 2020
Love Goals pt 7: Trust!
Believe it or not, this is the most important aspect of a relationship. It's foundational, and is even more important than love. Let's talk about why it's important for it to exist and why this should be a part of your prayer regarding your future bae. 
July 23, 2020
Love Goals pt 6: Emotional Support
There's a reason that some people are alone in their relationships. Don't be like them. Don't envy or desire any relationship missing this vital component. 
July 15, 2020
Love Goals pt 5: Loyalty & Honesty
Yes, this should be a given. But even with these 2 key components to a healthy relationship, there are mistakes made in the single, dating, and relationship stages. How so? Well, there's loyal to a fault, one-sided relationships, oversharing, lack of discretion, and so much more. Let's talk about this as we work on our love goals!
July 9, 2020
Love Goals pt 4: Give and Take
There are givers and takers. Oh, and a 3rd option. Why is giving and taking an essential component to a happy, healthy, holy relationship?
July 3, 2020
Love Goals pt 3: Respect!
A healthy relationship can't survive without respect. But I've learned that there is one major reason many women don't command and demand respect from men.... 
June 26, 2020
Love Goals: Friends only vs lovers and friends
Friendship and fun should be a love goal of yours. When it comes to a happy, healthy, and holy relationship, this is very important for many reasons. The questions arise when the "cool, chill" woman often gets friendzoned, or when you want to be friends first but aren't sure how to keep it romantic. And what about when in an actual relationship? Why have psychologists determined that friendship and fun is so important? Let the New Love Strategist help you out!
June 19, 2020
Love Goals pt 1: Intimacy
In my new series, Love Goals, we're going to look at what your personal love goals should be. Not the relationship goals that society has set in place. 
June 12, 2020
The Greatest Aspect to Intimacy (Stage 6)
Alright ladies, we've made it to the end of the Intimacy series. What if... all that I gave over the past 5 weeks weren't "stages" after all? What if wordplay was used to get you to see something about your inner self? Let's talk about the greatest aspect to any intimate relationship. 
June 5, 2020
Intimacy - Stage 5
A lot of the mistakes women make in stages 1-4 are because they're rushing to get to this stage. And what's interesting is that those that make it here, fail to do one simple thing. Tune in to learn the 5th gradual stage to intimacy!
June 4, 2020
Intimacy - Stage 4
The 4th gradual stage to intimacy would be romantic lovers. What does this look like as a Christian woman, and what are women doing wrong in this stage? Tune in! 
May 22, 2020
Intimacy - Stage 3
Can we continue on with the 3rd gradual stage of intimacy? It's a place that many women desire to be, yet there are some critical mistakes made here. Tune in!
May 15, 2020
Intimacy - Stage 2
Can we talk about stage 2 of intimacy? This is yet another area that woman tend to get overeager only to later state that dating is exhausting. Hmm. I wonder why. Let's talk!
May 8, 2020
Intimacy - Stage 1
Intimacy. Everyone wants it, but not many understand it. It gets confused, used interchangeably, misquoted, and so much more. There are 6 gradual stages to it, but we often try to cram so much into this first stage (big mistake)! Let's talk about it!
May 1, 2020
Can you prepare for marriage?
"Marriage isn't something you can prepare for" is a response I've heard some say when I tell women to prepare while they pray. With so many responses like that, it made me wonder. I had to go back to what God spoke to me, and I needed to say THIS. Tune in!
April 24, 2020
#1 Way to get a Husband
Listen, you may have tried and done many things thinking you would've had a real one by now. But I can assure you're missing out on this one thing... 
April 17, 2020
Shoot your (holy) shot!
Women making the first move. Are we mature enough to have this conversation? Is this OK, allowed, and respected as a woman of God? Tune in!
April 10, 2020
Self-love 101!
Is self-love a toxic trend keeping women single, or what?? Let's talk!
April 3, 2020
Are you date-able?
How easy it is to want a date, do online dating, put our twists and definitions on what dating even is, the whole 9. But I listen to some women talk and I've realized something. Many women need to take the time to ask themselves if they're even date-able.... Tune in and find out what I mean!
March 27, 2020
What's keeping women single...
So here's the thing... I've noticed there are a wide variety of reasons Christian women are remaining single longer and longer (against their actual desires). Imagine you're the one getting in your own way? Let's talk about this!
March 20, 2020
Why you may have been ghosted...
Have you been ghosted before and you're trying to determine why? Let's shed some light on different reasons men tend to vanish without a trace. And what you should do if he returns...
March 13, 2020
Social Media & Your Relationship Goals
Social media is creating unhealthy relationship goals and it may be playing into why you're still single, sis...
March 6, 2020
Get out of Egypt
A shame it would be if you're the one in your own way!
February 1, 2020
Unloved: A Tale of 2 Women
For the Sassy Saturday Special, I need to examine 2 women in the Bible that were unloved and rejected. But there was a solution...
December 21, 2019
Rotten Fruits
It's easy for us to discuss the fruits and motives of men. What about our own ladies?
December 14, 2019
Is Marriage my Portion?
Often times women wanna know if they'll ever get married. Maybe. Let's talk!
December 14, 2019
A Broken Heart
How exactly does one get over a broken heart? Let's discuss tools, tips and strategies!
December 14, 2019
Holiday Blues
Enduring the holidays isn't always easy. Here's how to get through!
December 5, 2019
Abandon ship!
Where's your boat taking you? If the man can't steer, hop off!
November 16, 2019
Rahab, where's your husband?
You'd be surprised to know that your past seasons of crushing may be what your husband needs in the future...
November 11, 2019
Dating while Abstinent
I get questions about how to date when sex is off the table. When is it the appropriate time to tell? Well, let's talk about it for the Sassy Saturday Special
October 26, 2019
It might get worse if you leave!
I know that where you are right now might be a little bit rough. And I know you might be tempted to walk out, but what if it's actually going to be worse on the other side? What if you're making the biggest mistake by even thinking about leaving? I need you to stay put and press in! Tune in for Mountain Moving Monday!!
September 16, 2019
Eve, the attention seeker
How much attention do women need? And why are they constantly seeking validation from others? Where did this start?! Listen to today's Sassy Saturday Special!
September 14, 2019
Behold your New Thing
God is doing a new thing in your life. Perhaps you're unable to realize it because you're expecting Him to bless you the way He did it before. Forget the former things and don't dwell on the past. Look at the new thing that He is doing!
August 17, 2019
Prepare for the Promise
Can you say that you're actually ready for all that you've been asking for and all that you've been praying for? Are you prepared for the promise? I look at Isaiah 40:31 and there are 2 words in particular that stand out to me. Let's talk about them!
July 29, 2019
Ghosted... again?!
If you've been ghosted more than once then at some point it's time to evaluate what you might be doing wrong. Let's look at some of your past behaviors and actions to see why this has been happening!
July 28, 2019
MMM: Be bold!!!
Fear and faith can't reside in the same place. Be bold. Your God isn't basic!
July 22, 2019
SSS: Online Dating Help!
Ladies, don't panic. There's a way to do this. Let me help you. And the stigma is gone. 40% of couples met online! Let's discuss this!
July 20, 2019
Is my husband in the church?
We can go on and on about godly men, church attendance, etc. Many women think that's where their husband is. Is he? Let's talk about it!
July 19, 2019
SSS: How to Date?!
I often get asked by women "how does dating work?" It can be a lot in 2019 but let me help you a bit!
July 18, 2019
MMM: Guard your Heart
There's a reason we're told to guard our hearts. And it's funny that we're always saying "God knows my heart" but how many understand what that TRULY means??
July 15, 2019
Date with a Purpose
We say it but what does that mean? And how do we do that exactly?? Let's talk about it!
July 12, 2019
Religion and Relationships
How is religion possibly getting in the way of your relationships? Let's talk about it for the Sassy Saturday Special!
June 22, 2019
SSS: Looking for Love
How does it work with Christian women? Let's talk about it!
June 16, 2019
Wait or work?
Should Christian women wait on God to send their husbands or are they allowed to put in some work?
June 9, 2019
Take a pic. Upload it. How do you feel? Now, what can you explain about the person in the image? How do you REALLY feel about her?
June 2, 2019
Not your Average 3Some
When a man comes into the picture, who all does he have to date alongside you? What factor are outsiders playing??
May 25, 2019
Different Seasons
Sassy Saturday Special:  So many women aren't sure which season they're in. Should they be dating? Are they hidden? Let's talk about it!
May 18, 2019
Because of the kids
The reason many women stay in toxic relationships. Is it more damaging to the kids to stay or leave?
May 12, 2019
You can't afford to go back!
Listen! What worked in the last season won't work in this one. Cut ties. Break out. Keep waiting. Do what you must but do not. Go. BACK!
May 9, 2019
Revive the promise
Looking at 2 Kings 4 shows me how much of a tragedy it can be to receive what you've been waiting for only to have it be taken away. It's time to revive the promise!
May 6, 2019
Unequally yoked
What does this mean and how serious is it? What does this apply to?
May 4, 2019
Realities of premarital sex
There's more at risk than you realize. Let's talk!
April 27, 2019
Abstinence vs Celibacy
What's the difference between the two?
April 26, 2019
What's the deal behind sexual immorality?
April 13, 2019
Sins of the Parents
We've talked about how our parents affect us, but how are you affecting YOUR children and future children??
March 30, 2019
Let Me be your husband first!
Ladies, you must submit to God first!!
March 23, 2019
Why the past isn't the past
What's still affecting your present and getting in the way of your future?
March 16, 2019
But my daddy
I want to discuss daddy issues and how they affect women.
March 9, 2019
Lies from the Mother
What lies from the past are still affecting you in the present time?
March 2, 2019
Dating God
This is the most important thing a single woman can do.!
February 25, 2019
SSS: Dating the Independent Woman...
Dating is already iffy. Throw in an independent woman, and many men are clueless. Should they run for the hills? Should they stay put? Should the woman ease up a bit? Let's talk!
February 16, 2019
SSS: Dating without Discernment
This is dangerous but many women do it!
February 9, 2019
SSS: Desperately Dating
There's a right and wrong way for Christians to date. Let's talk about it!
February 2, 2019
SSS: Blending Families
Christian women don't seem to always be in line with God's design for the family when it comes to their children and future husband. Why?
January 26, 2019
Hey 4 eyes!
We have more than one set of eyes and I dare you to use them all!
January 20, 2019
SSS: Christians and Online dating
I get asked this question a lot. And some have a stigma on online dating in general. Let's talk about it
January 19, 2019
ROC: Remedy before the Rescue
From REACH Online Church, I wanted to let someone know what they must do before they're rescued. And it doesn't involve wallowing in it or even trying to fix it alone.
January 13, 2019
SSS: Settling vs sitting
I want to talk about settling vs sitting in this season of being single!
January 12, 2019
SSS: How bad is sex?
It's 2019. Is premarital sex still a big deal for Christians? Or do we feel as if it's not discussed enough? Let's talk about it for the Sassy Saturday Special!
January 5, 2019