Walk a Mile in My Shoes

So, I married a borderline! Chris and Ella challenge some of the astonishingly stigmatising myths around Borderline Personality Disorder

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By Chris Young
Imagine a man walking around the edge of the U.K. with no money, relying purely on the kindness and generosity of the people he meets to help him on his way. Imagine that man has Borderline Personality Disorder - a severe and enduring mental health problem. Imagine this is Brexit Britain where hate crimes of all types have increased. That man is me, and these are the fabulous people I’ll be meeting to show that love and compassion are alive and well in our lovely country.
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Austerity's Victims - Living with a Learning Disability under Cameron and May
Welcome to the Walk a Mile in My Shoes podcast - I’m your host, Chris young, and I’ll be chatting with all kinds of folk, highlighting the experiences of people with mental health problems, many of whom feel on the edge of society, as I walk around the edge of the U.K. over the next couple of years.  Following in the steps of a hero of mine, Satish Kumar, a Jain Monk who went on a peace march in the 1960’s, I’ll be taking no money with me. His guru felt, if he did, he’d lack the motivation to speak with people at the end of the day, and that the only people he’d meet would be hoteliers. I thought if this amazing man could walk from India into Pakistan - expect and receive wonderful hospitality when the two countries were at war - then I should expect nothing less from the people on this beautiful island of ours.  So far, I’ve walked the 4 thousand or so miles anti-clockwise from Edinburgh to north wales and the people I’ve met, without exception, have been fabulous.  Oh, I nearly forgot to mention, I have a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder - a severe and enduring mental health problem - which, although it curtails me, doesn’t define me.  But this isn’t a story about me - this is all about those fabulous people I’ll be meeting as I go…well…since my mental wheels fell off over Christmas and New Year…I’ll be talking with some of the fabulous folk I’ve met virtually on social media and otherwise until…until I manage to put the wheels back on… That said, it doesn’t have to be quite so selective…I’m inviting you to be part of the story - we’re told we’ve become a more divided nation in recent years - I’m here to prove that wrong. Join me...I’d love to hear and share your story…help me on my journey, as we challenge mental health stigma, one conversation at a time.  You can call me on 07535 035 909 Email me at hello@letswalkamile.org  Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileUk In this episode, I’ll be talking with Neil Carpenter, the author of ‘Austerity’s Victims: Living with a learning disability under Cameron and May’ available in paperback on Amazon for £6.57 or on Kindle for the princely sum of 99p  For those of you who’d prefer not to use Amazon, you can contact Neil directly at killingyousoftly@outlook.com for a copy. Either way – please buy his book – you won’t regret it. You can also find him on Twitter @NeilCarpenter14  On the first page of his book, he uses the quote, ‘The mark of a civilised society is how it treats it’s most vulnerable members’ and throughout the podcast you’ll hear time and again about how, as a society, we’re making a complete arse of things… If you’re listening to this using the Anchor.fm app, then I’d be delighted if you’d leave an audio message I can play in the next episode. I’d really love to hear your thoughts on what Neil has to say.
1:47:41
May 21, 2019
What is a Clinical Psychologist? What do they do? In this episode, clinical psychologist, Alana Davis tells us a bit about her work and what the Division of Clinical Psychology in Scotland are up to
In this episode, I speak with the clinical psychologist, Alana Davis, who talks about her work as a clinical psychologist and what the Division of Clinical Psychology, The DCP, in Scotland are up to. If you’re listening to this using the Anchor.fm app, then I’d be delighted if you’d leave an audio message I can play in the next episode. I’d really love to hear your thoughts on what Alana has to say. And yes, I know there were bits where I sounded a bit like a psychology groupie… Sue me! Well, bugger me, that’s been a bit of a challenging couple of weeks. For those who don’t know me, I lose about a third of my life to dissociation where the world becomes unreal to me – where I lose most or all of my every day emotions – or I can experience the white-hot silent scream that fills all my senses. Where, after years of life with mental illness I know my only option is a darkened room with loud American cop shows with increased antipsychotics. It’s hard not to feel the guilt and frustration that comes with my desire…hope that I’m going to be producing regular interesting, informative and entertaining podcasts, with great and varied guests (I’ve got loads of fine folk lined up for your future delectation)  mental ill health, mental illness, mental malady, whatever you like to call it, is a pain in the arse… Anyway… Welcome to the Walk a Mile in My Shoes podcast - I’m your host, Chris young, and I’ll be chatting with all kinds of folk, highlighting the experiences of people with mental health problems, many of whom feel on the edge of society, as I walk around the edge of the U.K. over the next couple of years.  Following in the steps of a hero of mine, Satish Kumar, a Jain Monk who went on a peace march in the 1960’s, I’ll be taking no money with me. His guru felt, if he did, he’d lack the motivation to speak with people at the end of the day, and that the only people he’d meet would be hoteliers. I thought if this amazing man could walk from India into Pakistan - expect and receive wonderful hospitality when the two countries were at war - then I should expect nothing less from the people on this beautiful island of ours.  So far, I’ve walked the 4 thousand or so miles anti-clockwise from Edinburgh to north wales and the people I’ve met, without exception, have been fabulous.  Oh, I nearly forgot to mention, I have a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder - a severe and enduring mental health problem - which, although it curtails me, doesn’t define me.  But this isn’t a story about me - this is all about those fabulous people I’ll be meeting as I go…well…during this time of inertia, I’m currently hunting down some of my social media heroes – people I’ve virtually bumped into over the years… That said, it doesn’t have to be quite so selective…I’m inviting you to be part of the story - we’re told we’ve become a more divided nation in recent years - I’m here to prove that wrong. Join me...I’d love to hear and share your story…help me on my journey, as we challenge mental health stigma, one conversation at a time.  You can call me on 07535 035 909 Email me at hello@letswalkamile.org  Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileUk
1:27:40
May 3, 2019
What is a Therapeutic Community? Is a collaborative approach the way ahead for the treatment of folk with mental illnesses?
Welcome to the Walk a Mile in My Shoes podcast - I’m your host, Chris young, and I’ll be chatting with all kinds of folk, highlighting the experiences of people with mental health problems, many of whom feel on the edge of society, as I walk around the edge of the U.K. over the next couple of years.  Following in the steps of a hero of mine, Satish Kumar, a Jain Monk who went on a peace march in the 1960’s, I’ll be taking no money with me. His guru felt, if he did, he’d lack the motivation to speak with people at the end of the day, and that the only people he’d meet would be hoteliers. I thought if this amazing man could walk from India into Pakistan - expect and receive wonderful hospitality when the two countries were at war - then I should expect nothing less from the people on this beautiful island of ours.  So far, I’ve walked the 4 thousand or so miles anti-clockwise from Edinburgh to north wales and the people I’ve met, without exception, have been fabulous.  Oh, I nearly forgot to mention, I have a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder - a severe and enduring mental health problem - which, although it curtails me, doesn’t define me.  But this isn’t a story about me - this is all about those fabulous people I’ll be meeting as I go…well…during this time of inertia, I’m currently hunting down some of my social media heroes – people I’ve virtually bumped into over the years… That said, it doesn’t have to be quite so selective…I’m inviting you to be part of the story - we’re told we’ve become a more divided nation in recent years - I’m here to prove that wrong. Join me...I’d love to hear and share your story…help me on my journey, as we challenge mental health stigma, one conversation at a time.  You can call me on 07535 035 909 Email me at hello@letswalkamile.org  Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileUk In this episode, I speak with the delightful Ellie who talks about the rocky waters she’s had to negotiate because she’s had a mental illness since she was young. Among other things, she extolls the virtue of collaborative working – and how a move away from ‘us’ and ‘them’ attitudes can mean better outcomes for everyone concerned.    We talk frankly about a number of challenging issues, so I’ve given this episode an explicit rating.  If you’re listening to this using the Anchor.fm app, then I’d be delighted if you’d leave an audio message I can play in the next episode. I’d really love to hear your thoughts on what Ellie has to say. You can find her on Twitter @EllieWildBore
1:53:32
April 30, 2019
In this Episode, author and public speaker, Madeleine Black, talks about how forgiveness helped her to come to terms with a violent rape she endured in her teens
Huge thanks to Madeleine for sharing her story. You can find her book, 'Unbroken: One Woman’s Journey to Rebuild a Life shattered by violence – A true story of Survival and hope’ here and you'll find her website here You'll find the link to the Forgiveness Project website here and their book, 'The Forgiveness Project: Stories for a Vengeful Age' here Remember, if you're using the Anchor.fm app, then you can leave an audio message that I can play in future episodes.  You can phone me on 07535 035 909 Or email me at hello@letswalkamile.org or follow me on Twitter @WalkAMileUK or you can join us on the rather lovely Walk a Mile in My Shoes Facebook group here And while you're in a reading stuff kind of a mood, you can buy my book, 'Walk a Mile: Tales of a Wandering Loon' here currently at the knock down price of £9.99 Walk a Mile
57:26
April 3, 2019
From Hospitals to Therapeutic Communities - in this episode I speak with the Occupational Therapist, Keir Harding, about his work with folk with the label of 'Personality Disorder'
I really enjoyed speaking with Keir - here are some of the links to his work so you can love him as much as I do! Blogs mentioned in the podcast...there's loads more, but these are my favourites... 'It’s #TimeToTalk about #HarryPotterBookNight – The reality of 11 years in a cupboard'  'Product Placement: Out of Sight and Out of Mind' Website... Beam Consultancy Upcoming Events.... Keir will be speaking at the BIGSPD - that's 'The British and Irish Group for the Study of 'Personality Disorder' ' conference in Durham from 02/04/19 - 04/04/19  You can follow him on Titter too @keirwales That's quite enough about Keir for now... Remember, you can phone me on 07535 035 909, email me at hello@letswalkamile.org or follow me on Twitter @Walkamileuk And...if you have the Anchor.fm app, you can leave audio messages for me to play in the next episode.  Walk A Mile
1:29:27
April 1, 2019
Diagnosed with Childhood Bipolar at 9, Holly walks us through her experiences of mental health services, diagnoses and labels until the present day.
Holly tells us about her life, her mental ill health, the variety of diagnoses she's received on the way and her thoughts on, amongst other things, the label of Borderline Personality Disorder/ Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder.  Because of some of the challenging topics covered in this podcast, I've given it an explicit rating. You can find her on Instagram here @gorneography and @gorne.illustration Remember you can contact me on 07535 035 909 Or email at hello@letswalkamile.org Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileuk  And... If you have the anchor.fm app, you can leave audio messages that I can play in the next episode... Until the next time  I’ve been Chris young and you’ve been rather fabulous  Walk a Mile 
1:39:13
March 20, 2019
What happens when someone develops a mental health problem? In this episode I speak with Katie who explains just how complex it can be.
In this episode, I speak with Katie. She got in touch on Twitter after I threw out the question ‘What happens when someone develops a mental health problem?’ I’m not entirely sure what I expected from such a vague question, but twitter didn’t let me down…here’s one of my favourites… Dr Chris Manning says ‘I’d start off by defining what you consider to be a ‘mental health problem’? I consider it to be something at the level of consternation at my bag going missing at Heathrow. I also think the term trivialises the severe anguish, distress and darkness associated with mental illness’ Thanks for that, Chris I think the language we use surrounding mental ill health, mental illness, mental health problems, mental maladies…and how we refer to people with these conditions is an interesting area worthy of discussion… I’ll talk about this more in later podcasts, but it’s my feeling if we police that language too closely…too strongly…then we’ll be closing down the very conversations we desperately crave… In the messages I got from Katie, she explained that developing a mental health problem, for her, was so much more than becoming ill…getting treatment…and returning to how you were…it’s decidedly more complex than that… We cover some challenging topics in the podcast, so I’ve given it an Explicit rating.  A huge thank you to Katie – I think I’ll keep throwing out the question, ‘What happens when someone develops a mental health problem?’ for a while – there’s still a lot of conversation to be had there. Next time I’ll be speaking with Hollie, who, after years of navigating the mental health system was recently given the label of ‘Borderline Personality Disorder’  We discuss what that means to her and her plans for the future Remember you can contact me on 07535 035 909 Or email at hello@letswalkamile.org Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileuk  And... If you have the anchor.fm app, you can leave audio messages that I can play in the next episode... Until the next time  I’ve been Chris young and you’ve been rather fabulous  Walk a Mile 
55:30
March 16, 2019
In this episode, I speak with my good friend, Christopher, a man I met on Twitter a hundred years ago while we were both making a noise about mental health through the medium of THE LONG WALK.
In this episode, I speak with my good friend, Christopher, a man I met on Twitter a hundred years ago while we were both making a noise about mental health through the medium of THE LONG WALK.  We cover A LOT of mental health related topics in this podcast – including what motivated him to undertake his endeavour, the support he had from the people he met, the childhood events that led to him developing a mental illness, what it felt like being admitted to the Royal Edinburgh Hospital – the Royal Ed – Edinburgh’s psychiatric hospital – the language used to describe mental ill health – some of his thoughts on mental health professionals and campaigners – his life just now – including his work, family life, how he expresses himself through his art…and a lot more… We both use strong and challenging language throughout this episode – I think this adds to the authenticity of what Christopher has to say – but you’ll be the judge of that – so I’ve given it an EXPLICIT rating.  The sound quality isn’t as good as you spoiled bunch have grown accustomed to – since Christopher and I live about 300 miles apart – I’ve used Skype and its new, handy dandy, recording function to bring this episode to you.   Remember you can contact me on 07535 035 909 Or email at hello@letswalkamile.org Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileuk  And... If you have the anchor.fm app, you can leave audio messages that I can play in the next episode...
2:05:13
March 11, 2019
Dan Udale talks about how he developed Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome following an assault in his teens, the support he's received and his plans for the future
In this episode, I speak with the delightful Dan Udale about his his life with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, the support he's received, and his plans for the future. You can hear more from him on Know Yourself podcast. https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/know-yourself-podcast/id1352792846?mt=2 Remember, you can contact me on 07535035909, or email hello@letswalkamile.org or Twitter @walkamileuk
1:30:01
March 2, 2019
Are you disabled? Or is it society that's disabling? In this episode I speak with Simeon Wakely of Life with Ability about his life with Spina Bifida
In this episode, we talk about, amongst other things, Simeon's life running a wheelchair basketball team, a tiny bit on Brexit (sorry in advance), mentoring, and the increase in disability hate crime in the UK.
1:54:56
February 21, 2019
So, I married a borderline! Chris and Ella challenge some of the astonishingly stigmatising myths around Borderline Personality Disorder
Ella and Chris explode some of the myths around what a long term relationship is actually like with, or when your partner has, a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder/ emotionally unstable personality disorder.  Spoiler Alert - contains happiness and hope as well as reflection on some of the challenges of life with BPD.  Remember you can contact me on 07535 035 909 Or email at hello@letswalkamile.org Or follow me on Twitter @walkamileuk  And... If you have the anchor.fm app, you can leave audio messages that I can play in the next episode...
1:18:07
February 20, 2019
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