Welcome to the Other Side
By Meg Gluckman
Welcome to the Other SideFeb 13, 2022
116. Mindset Mini: Taming Your (Divorce) Fears
Having nagging fears during the divorce process is normal; what's optional is how long we let them linger. In this short episode, we talk about the impact of fear on our bodies & on our ability to think clearly, and I share a concrete (paper & pen) strategy for neutralizing your fears.
Find the 10 Questions and the full show notes here: https://meggluckman.com/podcast/116
115. What You Need To Know About Mortgages & Divorce, with Mihaella Bayla
Mortgages, refinancing, and transferring home ownership can be one of the most complicated pieces in dividing assets in a divorce. But not if you have someone on your team who knows the ins and outs of lending & divorce, like Mihaella Bayla.
She's on this episode to teach us what we need to consider when deciding who keeps the family home, how to structure spousal support so that we can refinance, and why the departing spouse may choose to stay on the mortgage for a while.
Check out the full show notes at:
114. Mindset Mini: Co-Parenting Math Problems
What if just a bit of math could improve how you feel about co-parenting?
From figuring out school costs to planning a return to work, I'll show you how simple math can make big challenges feel more manageable, and make co-parenting feel a little bit easier.
So, grab your calculator and tune in to discover the power of trading math for struggle in your co-parenting problems!
// For more info on Meg's co-parenting coaching practice, visit https://meggluckman.com/
113: Ask the Coaches with Jill Kaufman
It's a double-coach episode! Meg pulls in some real-life parent questions about co-parenting that she & coach Jill Kaufman answer for you.
Here's what they tackle:
- Wrangling frustrations when co-parenting potty training styles clash
- Juggling sideline dynamics at kid soccer games
- Getting ultra clear on your requests to a co-parent
- Navigating grief and embracing new parenting roles
- Tapping into resources like counseling, coaching, and support groups.
Happy Listening!
FULL SHOW NOTES: https://meggluckman.com/podcast/ask-the-coaches-with-jill-kaufman
112: Using Mediation Post-Divorce with Elisa Ford
If problem-solving and decision-making with your co-parent post-divorce could use some support, mediation might be just the right option.
Join me and my guest, Mediator and Attorney, Elisa Ford, to talk about:
- What is mediation?
- What kinds of co-parenting issues can it help with?
- What happens when your 6'2" teen doesn't want to stick to the parenting schedule?
- How you can use mediation to more smoothly work through issues like: kids on social media, deciding on IEP or unique education plans, special expenses, kids driving, college decisions, and more.
Happy Listening!
//CONNECT WITH ELISA
Trailhead Mediation: http://www.trailhead-mediation.com/
//CONNECT WITH MEG
To learn more about Meg's divorce & co-parent coaching for individual parents, visit https://meggluckman.com/
111. Mindset Mini: Benefits of Two Different Households
What if the differences between our co-parenting homes are good for our kids?
Asking ourselves this question can help shift our perspective from seeing differences in co-parenting as negative to considering them as potentially beneficial for our kiddos.
The question encourages us to collect evidence on the positive aspects of diversity in parenting styles and to look for where they foster empathy, adaptability, and understanding in our children.
Check out this short & sweet episode to see if asking yourself one question might shift how you feel about co-parenting (even just a smidgen).
// CONNECT WITH MEG
Learn more about Meg's divorce & co-parent coaching, plus download free resources at https://meggluckman.com/
110. After the Affair with Luke Shillings
Divorced dad and relationship and infidelity coach, Luke Shillings, is on this week to talk about all things after-the-affair.
Luke generously shares his personal experience and the helpful strategies he's identified as he's helped so many people navigate this unwanted experience.
We talk about the 5 stages most people go through while healing from infidelity (independent of whether you stay in your relationship or not).
We also discuss how to co-parent during this healing time and Luke shares his personal story.
No two people have the same story in navigating infidelity. Still, we can all look for where we have agency and control so that we can feel more empowered navigating this new life.
Enjoy!
// CONNECT WITH LUKE
Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
Facebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke
Podcast name: 'After the Affair' with Luke Shillings
// CONNECT WITH MEG
To learn more about Meg's 1-on-1 coaching practice for divorced parents, especially those looking for less stress around co-parenting, visit https://meggluckman.com/
109. 5 Question To Help You Prepare For Any Divorce Or Co-Parenting Meeting
New Resource Alert!
Get ready for a helpful episode where I introduce a tool for anyone facing an upcoming divorce or co-parenting meeting.
I've noticed many people feel nervous before these meetings, worrying about what might happen or if they'll get what they want.
But fear not! I've got 5 QUESTIONS that will help you feel calm, confident, and ready to take on anything that comes your way.
Whether you're meeting with a lawyer, financial advisor, or co-parent, these questions are super easy to use.
By answering them, you'll feel empowered and in control as you tackle these important discussions.
So, let's dive in and explore these questions together, and don't forget to download the PDF from my website to keep them handy for your next meeting!
5 Questions to help you prepare for any divorce or co-parenting meeting.
More resources and information about coaching with Meg at https://meggluckman.com/
108. Mindset Mini: How to Navigate the 3 Phases of Your Divorce
📚 Any good story has a beginning, middle & end.
Your divorce story is no different.
In this week's podcast episode, I'm sharing a concept from a favorite book of mine: Bruce Feiler's book Life Is In the Transitions.
Bruce traveled across the country interviewing over 100 people who had gone through major, identity-shifting life changes and found many common themes with how folks navigated the transition.
One theme was the phases that we go through as we shift from our old lives to our new. He named these the Long Goodbye, the Messy Middle, and New Beginnings.
Using this naming during and after our divorce can help us cope with uncertainty, bring us more peace, and give us a sense of what's coming. Tune in for actionable advice on navigating divorce with resilience and grace, inspired by Feiler's wisdom.
Happy listening!
// For more info about Meg's divorce & co-parenting coaching visit https://meggluckman.com. There you can find free resources to help support you during and after divorce, and sign up for a complimentary consult call to see how coaching can help you create the co-parenting relationship and life beyond divorce that you crave.
107. Mindset Mini: Spouse Mind vs Parent Mind (and how to tell your kids you're getting divorced)
In this week's NEW episode of Welcome To The Other Side we learn about flipping between the "spouse mind" and the "parent mind" in order to best support our kids.
Drawing from invaluable wisdom shared by Karen Bonnell (author and co-parenting expert), I unpack the divorce emotional rollercoaster of resentment, blame, and grief you might experience WHILE striving to prioritize stability for your kiddos.
I’ll share helpful examples of age-appropriate communication so that you can ensure kids feel safe and supported during divorce's turbulent times.
Discover how to shift gears from blaming to nurturing, for your benefit and your kids'. Tune in and embrace the spouse-parent mindset shift.
Happy listening!
//CONNECT WITH MEG
For support navigating divorce, life after divorce or challenging co-parenting relationships, check out Meg's coaching for individual parents: https://meggluckman.com/
Come say hi on Instagram too!
106. Changing Or Starting A New Career After Divorce, With Lara Buelow
Time to change jobs or find a new career?
Divorce often brings with it a need to change jobs, and careers, or return to work after being the primary at-home parent.
Today's guest, certified coach and professional life designer, Lara Buelow is a catalyst for transformation. She specializes in guiding women through powerful career transitions, empowering them to become their most effective, fulfilled selves.
If this feels like where you are, get ready for lots of good info!
She's on to share tools and resources for helping you navigate a work transition and to find a career that fits well with your income goals, schedules, passions, skill sets, and natural affinities.
HIGHLIGHTS:
- How many at-home parents feel “unemployable” and how low self-confidence & unhelpful societal programming affect our ability to find a new career.
- Action Breeds Confidence- how taking action leads to clarity, and clarity leads to confidence. PLUS examples of specific, concrete actions you can take to move you closer to your ideal next job/career.
- Informational Interviews as a tool when you’re in the dreaming/brainstorming phase.
- Career Transition Support: How coaches can assist during career transitions by shifting negative narratives, offering guidance on practical steps, and providing the accountability needed for successful career changes.
Specific Tools Lara mentioned in the episode:
- Bento Box: https://bentoism.org/2-the-bento-method
- Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Berkman
- Designing Your Life by Burnett & Evans
Happy listening!
// CONNECT WITH LARA
www.larabuelow.com
@larabuelow on IG
//CONNECT WITH MEG
Individual coaching for parents during and after divorce with a specialty in helping co-parent relationships be less stressful, more efficient, effective, and easy. https://meggluckman.com/
105: Mindset Mini: Don’t Wait For Your Co-Parent’s Response
If you find yourself anxiously waiting for a response from your co-parent on a request you’ve made or to see what they propose as a solution to an issue, this episode is for you!
Instead of waiting & worrying, try using the scenario & decision tool I suggest.
You may not know what your co-parent is going to say or do, but you can be prepared and keep moving toward the life you want!
// CONNECT WITH MEG
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104. What To Do When Your Ex (Or Their New Partner) Annoys You
What can we do when something our co-parent (or their new partner) does regularly ANNOYS the beegeezums out of us???
I share a specific example and the Reflective Practice I recommend, which includes:
1. Check-in with Yourself: Take a moment to assess your emotions using the Anger Scale [introduced by Maggie Reyes in Episode 98] and whether how you are feeling warrants action.
2. Embrace Curiosity: Ask yourself if your emotional response is proportionate and appropriate.
3. Clarify Your Desires: Identify what you REALLY WANT in the given situation. Whether it's seeking more connection with your child or feeling appreciated, clarity helps us focus on the goal and not get distracted.
4. Uncover Root Causes: Delve into what’s underneath your emotional reactions. I share the power of asking “why.”
5. Connect with Your Body: Pay attention to how these feelings show up physically.
Tune in to discover a holistic approach to co-parenting, where emotional intelligence takes center stage, allowing for smoother interactions. 🌟
// CONNECT WITH MEG
Check out Meg's free resources for divorced parents navigating co-parenting here: https://meggluckman.com/
103: Mindset Mini: Puzzles vs. Problems
Welcome to a Mindset Mini!
This is where I share with you a mindset concept or a tool that you can apply to your co-parenting relationship right away. I keep these short and sweet so that you can grab them and go.
In this episode, I share:
- A Recent Positive Experience Co-Parenting
- Overcoming Past Stress & Mindset Traps
- Seeing Scheduling Issues As Puzzles
- Feeling Relaxed Proposing Solutions
- Finding More Ways To Bring Lightness to Co-Parenting
If you find this episode helpful, I'd love it if you'd leave a review on Apple Podcasts! This helps other parents navigating divorce & co-parenting find the podcast as well.
To learn about Meg's coaching practice, visit https://meggluckman.com/
102: How To Sleep Better Even When Life Is Stressful with Martha Lewis
Are you having trouble sleeping?
Whether you find it hard to fall asleep, with your mind spinning about co-parenting decisions, or wake up at 3 am and can’t fall back asleep– This episode is for you!
Martha Lewis is a sleep consultant for people who have tried EVERYTHING and still can't sleep.
As a certified sleep expert and Functional Diagnostic Nutrition practitioner, she addresses both body and mind with stress resilience techniques and testing for hidden health issues to get to the root cause of her clients’ insomnia.
She goes beyond the basic sleep advice you read about everywhere else and addresses what’s happening in the body that causes insomnia
Martha shares why sleeping can be hard during divorce or tough co-parenting times and what you can do about it.
We cover:
Using journaling before bed to empty your mind
Why high cortisol feels good to us but has negative sleep impacts
3 ways to lower the level in your “stress bucket”
Comparing modern stress to what stress was like 150 years ago
Why that 3am wake-up could be related to a nocturnal parasite (Yes, really!)
Listen in and then get some good rest!
//CONNECT WITH MARTHA
Take the QUIZ: What's Causing Your Insomnia?
www.thesleepdetective.com/what-causing-your-insomnia
Visit: www.thesleepdetective.com
Follow: https://www.instagram.com/marthalewissleepdetective/
//CONNECT WITH MEG
I help parents create amazing lives after divorce. Check out my 1-1 coaching program and other resources at: https://meggluckman.com/
101. When To Choose A Therapist vs. A Coach, with Beth Hirnle
These days when we can reach for a therapist or a coach, how do we know which will be a better fit?
My guest Beth Hirnle, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Coach for parents navigating divorce and co-parenting, is here to to answer that exact question for us.
She and I will walk you through many examples of when to connect with a therapist, when to work with a coach, and when either one will serve you well.
We also cover the different kinds of coaches and how to find a match to your goals.
Highlights:
- Beth's Luggage Analogy which so clearly explains the difference between coaching and therapy
- Identity shifts that everyone going through divorce experiences
- Choosing a mindset that there’s always time for something new.
- Viewing marriage as Volume 1 and co-parenting as Volume 2.
- How we are more resilient than we believe
- Embracing "good enough" parenting
If you are looking forward to getting yourself more support and new perspectives in 2024, this episode will be very helpful!
Happy Listening!
//CONNECT WITH BETH
Website: www.bethhirnlecoaching.com
//CONNECT WITH MEG
Website: www.meggluckman.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meggluckman
100: Celebrating 100 Episodes & 2023
Celebrating a year of great conversations, new friends, lots of learning, co-parenting lightning strikes, and a bunch more self-kindness.
// Connect with Meg
Got an idea for a podcast topic? Drop it at the bottom of my website: https://meggluckman.com/
Come say Hi! on Instagram!
Ready to transform your co-parenting relationship so you feel confident and clear about your future and focus your energy on what you want to create? Reach out for some coaching support to make it happen: https://meggluckman.com/
99. How Using a Divorce Financial Analyst Gives You More Options, with Jesse Deason
As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Jesse Deason helps individuals and couples make informed financial decisions during and after divorce.
On today's episode, she walks us through:
- Collecting the financial data needed in a divorce
- How she helps clients weigh short-term vs. long-term needs when evaluating asset division scenarios
- What to consider when deciding whether to keep or sell a home during divorce
- How she helps clients stay focused on facts and take the emotion out of financial decision-making
- What the Collaborative Divorce meeting process looks like in Washington State
- and much more!
If you are thinking about divorce or in the midst of it, you'll find so much useful information in this episode!
Jesse also hosts the monthly Washington Divorce Workshop, a virtual educational workshop about divorce in our state.
//Connect with Jesse
//Connect with Meg
For more information on Meg's private co-parenting coaching practice and free resources for improving your co-parenting relationship, visit https://meggluckman.com/
98. How to Get More of What You Really Want with Maggie Reyes
This week I've got one of my coaching & podcast heroes on the podcast: Maggie Reyes is the Queen of having a great marriage.
I start the podcast by explaining that I've listened to her podcast (The Marriage Life Coach Podcast) for the past few years-- all while I haven't been married. Why? Because everything she teaches is SO helpful in any and every relationship-- including our co-parenting relationships. Plus she is just such a fun, warm, insightful woman to listen to!
We also share a love of romance novels, so of course we have to dive into that a bit... (here's my recommendation and hers).
Then it's on to concrete, actionable concepts that will help improve your co-parenting relationship.
Some of our topics include:
- Maggie's Anger Scale and how to use it
- Your choices when things aren't fair
- The Power of 1 and how to use it to improve co-parenting
- Letting patterns make things easier for you
I think you're going to love meeting Maggie and get some very useful take-aways that you can apply to any relationships in your life!
Enjoy!
//Connect with Maggie
https://maggiereyes.com/
Her Book: Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner
//Connect with Meg
To learn about Meg's coaching practice for parents during & after divorce, visit: https://meggluckman.com/
97. Using "Fair Play" in Co-Parenting with Frederick Van Riper
Could a "card game" make dividing up parenting responsibilities with your co-parent easier?
Ever since Elise Buie in Episode #75 told me about Eve Rodsky's book "Fair Play," I've wanted to dive into how we can use this system or "card game" to divide up tasks in co-parenting.
When I met Frederick Van Riper, a coach for men & dads and a Certified Fair Play facilitator, I knew he'd be a great guest to answer all my questions.
In this episode, we dive into:
- What is the "Fair Play" system
- How can you use it if you're partnered, co-parenting, or on your own with kiddos
- Common challenges to get started
- How Frederick's relationship with his wife went from good to great after implementing Fair Play
- Why your co-parent thriving is in your best interest
Fair Play lays out all the work that goes into maintaining our household and raising kids. I'd recommend reading Fair Play to anyone who is in a partnership, hopes to be in a new relationship, or is co-parenting (no matter the temperature of your co-parenting relationship).
Even if you don't imagine sitting down with your co-parent to work through the "card game," getting clear for yourself on what is in your hand versus what is in your co-parent's can reduce stress and confusion.
Check it out!
//Connect with Frederick
www.linkedin.com/in/frederickvanriper
https://m.facebook.com/groups/thechartermen/
//More About Fair Play
https://www.fairplaylife.com/
//Connect with Meg
Meg offer's private co-parent coaching and a drop-in co-parenting support group. Learn more here: https://meggluckman.com/
96. How to Have a Better Relationship with Your Teen with Ben Pugh
Ben Pugh, coach for parents of teens & teens, high school principal, and self-described former knuckle-head, stops by the podcast to share insights around finding out parenting alignment, no matter what's going on at the other house.
He shares how knowing your Parent Trap can give you the keys to unlocking a more enjoyable relationship with your teen.
Come laugh with us and grab a few instantly implementable tips to have more fun parenting!
//Connect with Ben
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/benpughcoaching
Take Ben's Free Parent Trap Quiz! https://benpughcoaching.involve.me/parenttrapquiz
//Connect with Meg
To learn about Meg's 1-1 coaching practice for divorced parents or her co-parenting support group, visit: https://meggluckman.com/
95. How to Never Fight with Your Co-Parent Again
Take a walk down my neural pathways and see the habits & techniques I use if (lol when) I get triggered by something my co-parent says or does.
I promise I'm not a unicorn, you too can learn these tools, and with practice, join me in a world where you never fight with your co-parent again!
//Connect with Meg
Want to never be sent into a tailspin again by something your ex writes in a text? Want to feel confident AND peaceful about co-parenting, while being lit up about all the other parts of your life? Let's make co-parenting as easy and mundane as doing a load of laundry so that you can focus on the other fun stuff in your life!
Check out my website for resources and to learn how you can work 1-1 with me to transform your co-parenting relationship!
https://meggluckman.com/
Come say hi on Instagram too! @meggluckman
94. Co-Parenting Tips to Make the Holidays Go Smoothly
No matter when the holidays fall for you, this episode has GOLD in it to help make them go smoothly!
Holidays usually involve changes to our parenting schedule and these changes can add in extra uncertainty, big feelings (hello loneliness), not to mention different moods, expectations, and needs from our kiddos.
Listen in for my top 8 tips to help your holidays go smoothly this year while co-parenting!
// CONNECT WITH MEG
When you're ready to thrive after your divorce and be unbothered by any of your co-parents antics, reach out to set up a call with Meg! https://meggluckman.com/
Come say hi on Instagram too! @meggluckman
93. Supporting Your Teen with Dr. Myka Hanson
We’re heading to Minnesota this week to catch Dr. Myka Hanson and talk all things teens & co-parenting.
Dr. Hanson has spent the last 30 years working with teens and tweens in a variety of capacities. She taught high school English for over 15 years and has a Masters in Special Education and a Ph.D in psychology and somatics.
She leads Teen Forward, a coaching program that honors all teens as complete, creative, amazing individuals while helping them and their parents navigate the obstacles of adolescence.
Yes, not-gonna-lie, I did invite her on to ask her all my questions as a mom-of-a-teen. 😉
I also wanted to get her take on being a stepparent of two teens and navigating co-parenting.
I’m SOOO inspired by the care she brings to her work. I did get a little teary when she talked about helping teens broach big topics with their parents-- I DARE YOU not to as well 🥲
I took many notes and if you have a teen, I’m sure you will too.
If you feel like your teen could use some more support from an adult who truly gets them, I encourage you to reach out to Dr. Myka.
// CONNECT WITH DR. MYKA HANSON
https://teenforward.com/
Teen Forward
Instagram (@teenforward)
https://www.linkedin.com/in/myka-hanson-ph-d-4274337/
// CONNECT WITH MEG GLUCKMAN
Meg offers private coaching for divorced parents and a co-parenting support group. More info at www.meggluckman.com.
Connect with Meg on Instagram too!
92: Revisit the 4 Principles of Powerful Decision Making
Today we reconnect with some core teaching I did back in 2022.
Listen in to learn about Powerful Decisions and signs to recognize if you're not making decisions powerfully in your life.
(HINT: it may involve hypothetical rabbit holes, 2nd guessing yourself, and blaming your past self for making "wrong" decisions. )
I share the 4 Principles of Powerful Decisions:
1) Make them intentionally
2) Love your reasons
3) Have your back afterward
4) If you want, evaluate to learn from the decision
Our life changes at the rate we make decisions, so if you want things to be different, get ready to take some notes!
// For more about Meg & how you can work with her in her private coaching practice for divorced parents or in her co-parenting support groups, visit https://meggluckman.com/
Come say "hi!" on Instagram too! https://www.instagram.com/meggluckman
91. Using Disappointment To Get You The Life You Want
Coming to you today from the trail!
On this fall walk through the woods, I'm bringing you some ideas on:
- when to use therapy vs. when to use coaching
- how great therapists & great coaches both help you connect with your body
- learning how to handle big emotions
- the power of being willing to feel disappointment
- having fun setting VERY clear intentions or goals
Here are a few soundbites:
“One overlap between therapy and coaching is that we can process grief, we can process big feelings. We are a safe space to allow everything to come up.”
“What happens when we allow ourselves to get into our bodies is that we get less scared of any big emotions. We see them just as kind of changing weather patterns in our body, and we accept that they're going to keep changing.”
“When we are okay feeling disappointment or the possibility of feeling disappointment, we will go after SO MUCH MORE in our lives.”
Happy listening!
// To learn more about Meg's 1-1 Private Coaching Practice or her Co-Parenting Support Groups, visit https://meggluckman.com/
90. How Changing Your Questions Helps You Make More Decisions
Think you need more answers & solutions in your life?
Maybe what you actually need are different questions.
Today I share how to surface invisible questions affecting your day and how to use questions to help you make the decisions that will get you more of what you want.
Here are a few sound-bites:
"Specificity is the enemy of worry and anxiety. When we get very specific about the situation and all the different ways that we could choose to navigate it, then we can dissolve our worry and our anxiety about it."
"Our brains love questions. They love to go on a hunt and be curious. Let's feed our brains questions that light us up, that have us feeling empowered and capable."
"If you want to be making more decisions, if you want things to be changing and improving more in your life, then asking YOURSELF more questions is the first step to doing that."
"Identify the questions that you are not answering right now. I encourage you to write them down. Flush them out of your brain. Make your brain get specific about what the question is."
A few sample questions to play with or journal on:
- If this fear or anxiety or anger suddenly, magically, disappeared, what would my life be like?
- Which of my strengths are most helpful right now?
- If all you could feel was love and appreciation for yourself, what would change?
- If I knew with perfect certainty that I could handle anything that came my way and I'd be fine, how would I live differently?
Bring on the questions!
// MORE ABOUT MEG
To learn about Meg 1-1 private coaching practice or her co-parenting support group, visit: https://meggluckman.com/
Come say hi on Instagram too!
89. When It All Feels On Your Shoulders
Imagine thinking about the Divorce & Co-Parenting journey like a board game.
We move through it, some squares are harder than others, but we'll all make it to the goal.
If you're feeling stuck and that EVERYTHING is on your shoulders-- then this episode is for you!
NEWS: Did you hear I've started a virtual Co-Parenting Support group? If you're struggling with co-parenting and crave being in a community of parents who get what you're going through, check it out! Registration is on my website: https://meggluckman.com/
Check out my other resources and private 1-1 coaching practice here: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
88. You Don't Have to Trust Your Ex
Trust is tricky during and after divorce.
We think we need to be able to trust our Ex in order to move forward... but do we?
Maybe trusting our Ex isn't the key to everything going smoothly from here on out. Maybe there's something else we need.
Today's episode is deciding where we need trust and WHO we need to trust.
ALSO, grab some paper & a pen! I close the episode with a reflection exercise to help you build trust with the help of your past self.
//More from Meg
Learn about my 1-1 Coaching Practice, Co-Parenting Support Group, and other free resources at https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
87. The Co-Parenting Handbook with Karen Bonnell
Co-parenting expert Karen Bonnell comes by to chat about her fabulous resource of a book: "The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adults through Divorce or Separation."
Meg pulls out some of her favorite concepts and she and Karen dive deep into them.
Including:
- Moving from a spouse brain to a parenting brain
- The I-5 & I-405 analogy
- Our lightening-strike moments
- How co-parenting evolves and changes over the years
- Do kids need the truth, actually no.
- and more!
Tune in and absorb all Karen's wisdom from working with hundreds of parents.
// Learn more about Karen & her co-parenting resources: https://karensbonnell.com/
// Learn more about Meg's coaching & how to work with her: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
86. Don't Let Your Past Weigh You Down with Tommy Geary
This week I invited fellow coach, parent, and podcaster, Tommy Geary to share his ideas on how to stop letting our past weigh us down.
For many of us on the other side of our divorce, we can still feel weighed down-- even years out-- by why the relationship ended or things that happened during the divorce process.
Time to get that weight off!
Tommy and I chat about:
- How carrying our past can be like packing for a backpacking trip
- Why guilt, shame, and anger can make decision-making hard
- The sneaky ways our stories about our past relationships can affect what we do today
- and my 2 rules about when the kids can interrupt a podcast recording 😂
Tommy's the host of the Durable Dad Podcast, owner of Tommy G. Coaching and his mission is to bring coaching to men who have a powerful influence on their work culture, communities, and families.
Tommy helps take the pressure off high-performing men so they can be better leaders, husbands, and dads. His journey from – college football player, to snowboarder, to corporate leader, to meditation teacher, to business owner and men's coach – shows how a "normal guy" can level up with mindset work.
Enjoy the episode!
//MORE ABOUT TOMMY
Tommy G Coaching: http://tommygcoaching.com/
Durable Dad Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/durable-dad-with-tommy-geary/id1676678184
//MORE ABOUT MEG
For more resources on thriving after divorce, fearless co-parenting, and decision-making, visit https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching. There you can find out about Meg's 1-1 coaching practice as well.
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85. VOTE Method: What to do when you're triggered by a text
Last week's episode was about creating a text & email practice that minimizes how often you get triggered by something from your Ex.
This week we focus on what to do when you do feel triggered.
It happens to all of us!
I offer you a 4-step practice called V.O.T.E. to help you lovingly take care of yourself in those moments.
Give it a try and see how much quicker you recover from being triggered by their text.
// CONNECT WITH MEG
To grab the Fearless Co-parenting class or to learn about how I can support you in my 1-1 private coaching practice, visit: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
84. Text & Email Guardrails for Your Co-Parent Communication
QUICKIE EPISODE this week!
I'm sharing tips or “guardrails” that you can implement in your co-parent communication to make it less triggering and more empowering.
Here's what I cover:
1) Emotional Regulation
Learn how to respond thoughtfully rather than react emotionally.
2) Distinguish Text vs. Email
Consciously decide what warrants a text and what should be communicated via email.
3) Timing is Everything
Avoid the impulse to immediately read and respond to emails, especially if they trigger strong emotions.
4) Email Acknowledgment
Decide whether to acknowledge received emails briefly.
5) Create a Co-Parenting Email Address
Consider setting up a separate email address exclusively for co-parenting discussions.
Listen in and see how these “guardrails” could help your communication feel a whole lot less stressful.
// CONNECT WITH MEG
To grab my Fearless Co-parenting resource or to learn about my 1-1 private coaching practice, visit: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
83. Thriving with Autoimmune Disease During Divorce and Beyond, with Amy Behimer
As if divorce & co-parenting aren't challenging enough, many women simultaneously navigate one or more autoimmune diseases.
Today's guest, Amy Behimer, helps people overcome the uncertainty of autoimmune disease to take control of their health.
She's a doctor of pharmacy, board-certified health & wellness coach, and certified life coach living with multiple sclerosis.
Amy walks the talk of using small, powerful everyday habits to enjoy life-- autoimmune disease and all!
Highlights of our conversation:
- The KEY habit we both love and use to decrease our stress (and reduce the inflammation caused by stress)
- What Amy learned from her divorce that set her new marriage up for success
- How to make decisions that set your future-self up to thrive
// FOLLOW AMY
The Habit Hub for Autoimmune Health Podcast
Amy Behimer Coaching
Grab Amy's 6 Key Habits for Feeling Better with Autoimmune Disease...starting TODAY!
// MORE FROM MEG
Want support in your divorce, co-parenting journey, or in decision-making in your post-divorce life? Learn more about Meg's free resources and her private 1-1 Coaching Practice here!
82. A Good Cry with Kristen King
Did you know that you have 3 kinds of tears and they are made of different stuff?
Learn something new every day, right?!
Kristen King is an integrative business coach who loves teaching how to tune out all the fear-based, perfectionist, hustle-culture BS that paralyzes us and how to tune in to a fun, fulfilling, f*ck-yeah business that feels like our own. And to do this without overcomplicating things, doing stuff we dread, or burning ourselves all-the-way out.
Today, we’re talking about our shared love of crying. Including:
3 Different types of tears & their chemical make-up
The benefits of emotional release for our physical & mental health.
How to differentiate between compartmentalizing vs. swallowing your feelings
What’s an “Emotion Appointment” and how to make one
Modeling for our kids how to be ok with big emotions
If you’ve ever said: If I let myself start crying, I’ll never stop– then this episode is for you!
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Learn more about Kristen:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KristenKingCoaching/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristen.skove.king/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/kristenking/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-f-ck-me-to-f-ck-yeah/id1690393913
81: Introducing Your New Partner with Heather Harman
Thinking about introducing the new love of your life to your kiddos?
Wait! Before you do, listen to this episode!!
This week we have special guest Heather Harman, a co-parent coach, stepfamily coach, and parent educator. She has trained with and continues to use the guiding principles of her mentor, Karen Bonnell. Heather has an MA in Education and uses her knowledge of child development, parent education, and mediation to guide her clients in the direction of what is best for the family.
Tune in to hear sage advice from Heather including:
- Having big convos with your new partner before any introductions
- Why you will never be replaced by your Ex's new partner
- How to introduce a new partner in an age-appropriate way to your child
- Why we can't apply the Gottman approach of partner relationships-before-kids in a stepfamily setting
- and why you might want to give your Ex a heads up that you're on the dating apps
Even if you're not ready to make introductions yet, listen so that you have all the tools once you do!
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Connect with Heather:
Website: heatherharmancoaching.com
Facebook: Heather Harman Coaching
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Connect with Meg
To learn about Meg's free resources and here 1-1 Coaching practice for moms after divorce, visit https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
80. Mediation with Erika Englund
Today's guest knows divorce inside & out.
Not only did she divorce when her kids were 1 and 3, but in the same year she gave up her career as a divorce attorney and chose to focus entirely on mediation.
Listen in to hear why Erika Englund says "I'm the divorce lawyer who never won a case", and why she feels like everyone wins in mediation.
Erika believes that good people deserve good divorce, and it is her life's work - as a lawyer, mediator, strategist, professor, and mother - to make that happen.
Tune in to hear:
- the George Castanza's method of managing high-conflict divorce,
- how mediation can reduce stress for parents and children,
- why conflict is the problem for our kids, NOT divorce,
- why you don't need to be singing Kumbaya with your ex in order to use mediation,
- and a bunch of great thought-provoking questions that Erika asks her clients.
Erika also offers a book recommendation if you're trying to decide if divorce is the right move for you: Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship, by Robert Buchicchio.
This is such a great conversation about navigating divorce, how to use mediation, and how to set your focus on long-range goals.
PS- Do you know someone thinking about divorce or at the beginning of their process, please share this episode with them!
// More about Erika
Website: https://erikaenglund.com/
// More about Meg
Learn more about Meg's private 1-1 coaching practice and dig into her free classes and resources at https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
79. Solo Travel After Divorce with Alyssa Johnson
Alyssa Johnson is a travel advisor based in Seattle, WA. Her goal is to help women learn about themselves and have life-changing experiences through solo travel.
We have fun sharing:
- Our first travel-after-divorce stories
- Tips on overcoming fears of traveling alone
- How travel helped the two of us see ourselves as "more interesting"
- Designing trips that are an easy first step- for you & for kids at home
- Solo vs group vs solo-not-solo trips
Solo travel can be a powerful part of your grief process and also in discovering what you want in this next chapter of your life.
Enjoy our chat!
//MORE ON ALYSSA
You can get a head start by downloading her free guide to your first solo trip at Fearless Freedom Travel.
Website: Fearless Freedom Travel
TikTok: Alyssa | Travel Advisor's Creator Profile
Instagram: (@fearlessfreedomtravel)
//MORE ON MEG
For tips on having a co-parenting relationship that's less drama and more ease, check out her free resources & coaching practice: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
78. Sexy Self Love with Gabby Jockers
Gabby Jockers is the Mindful Boudoir Photographer and owner of Embodied Art Boudoir, a body-positive boudoir studio in Golden, CO just outside Denver.
She uses embodiment practices like meditation & breathwork to help her clients get out of their heads and into their bodies. She is profoundly passionate about creating an experience for her clients that goes beyond just a 'sexy photoshoot' and serves as a stepping stone to the next step of their self-love journey. She is also the co-creator of The Body Deck, a body image-focused affirmation card deck.
GABBY'S LINKS:
- Website: https://embodiedartboudoir.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedartboudoir/
- The Body Deck: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1349481091/the-body-deck-77-affirmation-cards-body
77: Reinvention with Shannon Ivey
Shannon Ivey is just one of my favorite people! We crack each other up on this episode as we chat about:
- Her “life enema” after her divorce & job loss
- Using a tuning fork analogy to connect with our truest longings
- How she spots familiar conditioning in other ex-Evangelicals (the devil makes his first appearance on the podcast!)
- Choosing a midlife reinvention over a midlife crisis
Shannon Ivey, MFA, is an ICF Professional Coach and Creative. She has often been called the Creative Fairy Godmother, the Story Goddess and the Longing Whisperer. She’s an ex-professor, a late-in-life queer realizer, and a queen of reinvention. To get her free course BOUNCE, sign-up for her weekly email at: https://www.shannon-ivey.com/
// ABOUT MEG GLUCKMAN
For more info on Meg's 1-1 private coaching program for divorced & co-parenting moms, or her free course- Fearless Co-Parenting- visit: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
76. All About ADHD with Shaun Roney
Could it be that unrecognized or undiagnosed ADHD makes divorce or co-parenting more challenging for you?
In this episode, I get to chat with Shaun Roney a coach for ADHD and Neurodivergent thinkers. She educates to create awareness, coaches to help uncover obstacles, and shares strategies to help ease and manage ADHD tendencies.
She shares her story of figuring out she has ADHD and her experience of working with many clients with ADHD.
I learned soooo much & I think you will too. A few of my favorite topics we covered:
3 Types of ADHD and what they look like in kids versus adults
Medication Myths vs. Neuroscience
ADHD Superpowers
Masking vs People Pleasing
Learn more about Shaun & her program, Brain Brilliance (open to adults experiencing ADHD and parents of kids with ADHD) at her website.
If any of what we talked about rings true for your life experience, Shaun highly suggests that you take one step at a time and learn more about ADHD. She recommended two websites: Chadd.org and Add.org
Her big dream is for kids & adults alike not to have to struggle with ADHD but to learn how they can thrive with that beautiful brain of theirs!
//MORE ABOUT SHAUN
www.revealedpath.com
IG: @shaun.roney
Youtube: @revealedpathlifecoaching
FB: @revealedpath
ADHD Tendency Quiz - In 10 short questions find out if you have ADHD tendencies and how they may be affecting you: https://revealedpath.com/adhd-tendency-quiz
75. Owning Your Life with Elise Buie, Family & Divorce Lawyer
Elise Buie, Esq. is a Seattle-based family and divorce lawyer and founder of the Elise Buie Family Law Group. A survivor of Hurricane Katrina, her own divorce, and many lively family dinners with her husband, Doug, and their blended family of six teens and 20-somethings.
In this episode, we chat about:
What the advice to “put the best interest of the kids first” really means
Taking ENTIRE responsibility for your life
Her view of how divorce can be a great transformation instead of a tragedy
We also wave our magic wands and talk about what we want every mom going through divorce to know— including all the options for support as you navigate your divorce & co-parenting.
Elise is super fun to talk to, shares openly about the personal change she went through to become a better co-parent, and paints a picture of the possible happy endings in co-parenting.
You don’t want to miss this episode! Please share with anyone you know who is going through a divorce or is struggling with co-parenting.
// MORE ABOUT ELISE BUIE
IG: https://www.instagram.com/elisebuiefamilylawgroup/?hl=en
FB: https://www.facebook.com/elisebuiefamilylaw/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/elise-buie-family-law-group/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/elisebuie
Books mentioned in the episode:
Relentless Solution Focus by Jason Selk
Elise & Meg’s favorite co-parenting book: The Co-Parenting Handbook By Karen Bonnell & Kristin Little
74. Learning Self Kindness with Pete Sibley
Take a walk and listen to this sweet conversation with guest Pete Sibley as he shares his challenges with anxiety & depression and the dark times when he felt that he had "failed" at a music career.
We'll cover self-talk "dressing rooms", punching-wall parenting moments, and how being raised to serve others doesn't automatically teach us how to be kind to ourselves--- and how to raise our kids with that skill.
It's a vulnerable, applicable, heart-soothing conversation. Enjoy!
// LEARN MORE ABOUT PETE
Whether it’s performing for millions in Times Square in NYC or creating a community sustainable living fair that is still going after 20 years, or helping hundreds of people find their inner kindness or traveling the U.S. for 16 months with his wife and two little babies as touring musicians…
Pete has always been asking, “Why are we here?”
His answer - Love.
As a “self-kindness” life coach, Pete now coaches adults from self-attack and self-blame to self-acceptance and self-love. Because everything: every challenge, every obstacle, everything, is a chance to deepen one’s capacity for love.
Pete is a dad, husband, T1D, ADHD, multi-instrumentalist musician, outdoor enthusiast, lover of musicals, JRR Tolkien fan, and loves taking a cold plunge in the pacific ocean!
His Podcast - Your Song of Aliveness - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-song-of-aliveness-with-pete-sibley/id1516301097
73. Which Story Are YOU Telling?
Every divorce is different, but given our quirky human brains, we often talk about them in the same ways.
I coach my clients on the "story" they currently tell about their divorce (to themselves and to others) and how it can shift and change over time.
"Editing" or "rewriting" our story can magically✨unlock new, unexpected possibilities for us.
It's especially helpful if we've been feeling unable to move on, stuck in yucky co-parenting drama, or feeling a lot of resentment or anger.
When you're ready to change your story, you can do so without making past versions wrong or bad.
Listen in to hear the 3 types of stories most folks tell about their divorce and compare it to how you talk about your divorce now.
// MORE RESOURCES & WORKING WITH MEG
https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
72. Thriving After Divorce with Rachel Clar
Hearing other women's stories reminds us that we are not alone on our journeys.
Today, Rachel Clar shares her journey from divorce to creating a rich, juicy life.
Rachel shared: "I am a mother of two teenage boys, I am a lawyer turned entrepreneur, I am a woman with Jewish roots and Buddhist wings, I love to dance, make art, and enjoy art. I am right on the line between introvert and extrovert, enjoy both deep introspection and high adventure. I find a connection to everyone I meet."
A bit more about Rachel: "I absolutely love peanut butter. I annoy my sons with silly songs about whatever is going on in life, & I live to make them laugh. My favorite moment in 2022 was the family dessert party for my elder son's 14th, which devolved into a spontaneous dance party, making my three-year-old niece's eyes grow very wide (with “shock and awe”?)."
To learn more about the work Rachel does in the world, visit her website: https://www.interconnectedus.com
// To grab Meg's free Fearless Co-Parenting Class or sign up for 1-1 Private Coaching, visit: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
71. All Things Perimenopause with Kylie Pinwill
My guest this week is Kylie Pinwill, a clinical nutritionist, speaker and host of The Hormone Hub podcast with over 20 years experience in the health and fitness industry. She works with busy women who are feeling lethargic, struggling with weight gain, bloating and not sleeping, to balance their hormones and reset their metabolisms so they can feel happier and more confident in their own skin.
I invited her on because, for so many divorced & co-parenting moms, perimenopause is in the background as we juggle everything else in our lives.
I learned SOOO much in this episode and if you've got ovaries, or love someone who has, I bet you'll learn a lot too!
// More about Kylie
https://kyliepinwill.com
The Hormone Hub - https://kyliepinwill.com/podcast/
https://www.facebook.com/KyliePinwillNutrition
@kyliepinwill_hormonehub
Grab Kylie's Guide to Hormone Healthy Foods: https://kyliepinwill.com/freebie-hormone-healthy-foods-us/
Find out exactly what to eat for happier hormones.
Reclaim your energy, banish the bloating and fire up your metabolism
Feel more energized, motivated and confident in your own skin.
Without giving up ALL your favorites!
// More on Meg
Free Fearless Co-Parenting class: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63d18821de520bd60dc33af0
Summer Special Coaching Package: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=21186660
More after-divorce, co-parenting and dating-after-divorce resources: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
70. How to Stop People Pleasing with Sara Bybee Fiske
This week I'm absolutely thrilled! We have a very special guest, master coach Sara Bybee Fiske, who happens to be one of my favorite teachers. She shares valuable insights on how we can break free from people-pleasing. I can't wait to for you to learn from her and apply her wisdom to your own life.
Here are a few topics we cover:
~ how we are all born people-pleasers
~ why women often show more people-pleasing tendencies than men
~ how to be ok with people thinking whatever they want about us
~ what resentment can indicate for us
~ how ending people-pleasing can lead to feeling so much freer in our lives
Enjoy!
// MORE ABOUT SARA
www.sarafisk.coach
https://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/
https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach?lang=en
https://theexgoodgirlpodcast.buzzsprout.com/share
Grab her Stop People Pleasing resource: https://tinyurl.com/stoppeoplepleasing
// MORE FROM MEG
Summer Coaching Special: 6- Weeks of private 1-1 coaching- https://app.acuityscheduling.com/catalog.php?owner=21186660
Free Fearless Co-Parenting Class: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63d18821de520bd60dc33af0
Lots of other goodies from Meg: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
69. Tips for Handling Parental Separation Sadness
It's really normal for parents to feel sad when they are separated from their child in a new way for the first time. Normal, but so rarely talked about.
Whether it's leaving them with a babysitter or dropping them at your co-parent's home, big feelings can come up for you.
Today's episode provides concrete tools for processing and learning from those emotions so that they don't drain your energy or keep you from enjoying your life.
If you've been struggling with this lately, I hope you find this episode really helpful!
// LEARN MORE ABOUT MEG
Find all the resources shared in this episode at: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
To learn about Meg's private 6-week coaching program visit www.meggluckman.com.
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68. The Power of Sometimes with Natalie Roush
This is a good one folks! Coach Natalie Roush is on to talk about her take on our inner self-critic and more.
Together we cover:
- How to convert your inner critic to an inner best friend
- The freedom that comes with "sometimes" being a bad mom
- Being Unoffendable: What it looks like to love yourself AND agree with other people's criticism of you
- How it can be totally fine if that thing was your "fault"
A heads up- these are all great topics AND some might be a deeper dive (think Thoughtwork 3.0) than you might be used to on the pod. Take what feels helpful, leave the rest.
// FOLLOW NATALIE
Website: https://natalieroushcoaching.com/
Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1plMGGFHNhlWWTMWzjqydm?si=8e50e1d49e3e4377
// FOLLOW MEG
Mother's Day Coaching Session SPECIAL: https://purple-cell-249.myflodesk.com
Fearless Co-Parenting Class: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63d18821de520bd60dc33af0
So much more goodness here: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
67. Chill Mom Manifesto
Check out these 7 beliefs of moms who stay grounded and calm during divorce & co-parenting challenges.
Get your copy of the Chill Mom Manifest here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644ae1adf8626f86b453fc0e
Grab the Fearless Co-Parenting Class or sign up for a Coaching Consult with Meg here: https://linktr.ee/meggluckmancoaching
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