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The Eye of the Survivor

The Eye of the Survivor

By Tonya GJ Prince
A collection of healing stories, healing information, and healing wisdom. Helping you to overcome and increase on your healing journey. Hosted by: Tonya GJ Prince a 27-year subject matter expert on domestic violence, child abuse, rape, and other forms of sexual violence. Contact: info@wesurviveabuse.com More FREE information & products at: payhip.com/WESurviveAbuse.com
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How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Move Ahead

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The Story Behind the Braid the Ladder Project
Braid the Ladder is a not-for-profit charitable effort to encourage members of communities to donate specialized hair care products to local shelters for people with beautiful & uniquely textured hair.     The organization was started by founder Tonya GJ Prince after an encounter with a Black family seeking services in a Battered Women's Shelter where she was the counselor. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
18:32
September 26, 2021
The Rudeness of Silencing
"If you are silent about your pain, they will kill you and say you enjoyed it."- Zora Neale Hurston They say "silence is golden".   WE say it is not.  It is tarnished and rusty on the edges.  At least when it comes to abuse it is. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
32:02
September 26, 2021
How Good Parents Miss Child Sexual Abuse: The 5 Critical Questions You MUST Ask
How do good parents miss the signs of child sexual abuse It is simple. By not asking the right questions, at the right time. Tonya GJ Prince shares her abuse story and information on how asking the right questions can help parents protect their children. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
17:48
September 23, 2021
Missed Feminist Opportunities and Missing White Woman Syndrome
"Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere." Dr. Martin Luther King There is no such thing as a "convenient time" for a woman to speak out against injustice. Feminists and other women's activists miss opportunities to challenge and examine systemic change when they reject the voices of Native, Black & Brown women.  Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message Ex: Hi this is......(First name), from (location) Hi this is......Anonymous from (location)
22:47
September 22, 2021
The Soul Still Remembers Domestic Violence w/Soulrac
Abusers who are violent to their partners cause deep scars and pain for children who witness domestic violence. In this episode, visionary artist Soulrac, talks about weaving that pain into his art.  Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders for the journey. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
26:03
September 21, 2021
What's Expected of Rape Healing Facilitators
Veteran rape healing facilitator, Tonya GJ Prince talks about the expectations of people who choose to assist victims and Survivors along their healing journey.  Encouraging and supporting the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivor of domestic violence and sexual violence. We welcome informative, inspiring, and/or motivating guests to our podcast.
25:13
August 24, 2021
5 Ways Survivors Set Personal Boundaries
"Boundaries and self-worth go hand in hand." WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince. 
19:60
July 29, 2021
July 26, 2021
00:28
July 26, 2021
Black Women Are Not the Mammy for Every Movement
It's true. Black women are great warriors and strategists. We come from cultures that are filled with love, compassion, and resilience. People around the world have always had needs, but so do we.   "Mammyism"  That's a term I am hearing more and more often.  "Mammyism" is the demand for Black women and Black girls to do more while continuing to accept that they will get less. One of the major tenets of Mammyism is that Black women and Black girls labor for people who have no intention, and therefore no plan to labor for us in return. When we say that I want everyone to be safe, healthy, and get all of their financial needs met, I mean Black women too. WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince.
37:09
July 20, 2021
Black Women Can Say "No" Too: WI Spa Aftermath
Historically and right up until this very minute, society has always told Black women & Black girls that we have no right to boundaries, consent, & our own individual feelings and perspectives around sex and sexuality. The video/event at WI Spa was no different. WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince. 
18:13
July 18, 2021
He-Man Woman Haters Club is Still for Boys
If you hate women, I'm afraid we can't use your services in the work to end violence against women and children. WE are trying to make this world a better and safer place for all.  WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince
15:23
July 15, 2021
Survivor Affirmation: I Stand In My Own Truth
I Stand in My Own Truth Deep within my heart, deep in my soul, I locate my truth center. WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence.  Founder, Tonya GJ Prince.
03:45
July 14, 2021
Survivors Matter, You Are Not to Be Dismissed
Throwing it back to wisdom from Zora Neale Hurston, on refusing to be dismissed. Here are 20 phrases people use to dismiss feelings. WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince. 
09:29
July 11, 2021
Irony: A Woman's Well-Being Doesn't Matter at the Spa -
What about a Black woman's rights? What about a Black woman's boundaries? Are we just okay with a white man asserting that she must be exposed to that that she doesn't want to be exposed to? WESurvive Abuse helps you to overcome challenges you may encounter on your healing journey. WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince. Offering consulting, engaging content, speaking, storytelling services.
24:06
July 1, 2021
Strong Woman's Guide to Teaching Healthy Boundaries to Kids
Notes from this episode: A child who grows up in a home having healthy limits will also learn to apply such boundaries in his own life. What Does “Boundary” mean? A boundary signifies a limit that a person has.  Can be physical or emotional.  Boundaries are like contracts, “I won’t do anything to harm you” and “I expect you not to do anything to harm me. When you’re raising kids to have healthy boundaries, it’s important to allow the children to have and express their own feelings. The best way to teach children healthy boundaries is for parents to have healthy boundaries themselves and to model them in the home. Showing respect for each person in the house,  ensuring everyone has rights to their feelings and  appropriate expressions of them,  and talking openly and honestly about any challenging issues demonstrate healthy boundaries for children. Featuring Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com
36:44
June 29, 2021
3 Short Christian Devotionals for Mighty Mothers
Even the best mothers need encouragement and support.  It is my prayer that these three devotionals offer mothers from all walks of life, just that.   WESurviveAbuse.com encourages and supports the de-silencing, healing, & empowerment, of victims & Survivors of domestic violence and sexual violence. Founder, Tonya GJ Prince. Offering consulting, engaging content, speaking, storytelling services.
10:26
June 22, 2021
The Power of a Black Man's Voice to Heal the Pain of Violence and Abuse
To keep the silence in place is to keep the shackles in place.- Tonya GJ Prince This recording is about Black males and abuse. It's about the power of Black males to speak to the pain of other Black males dealing with the pain of abuse and violence.  About Black males who have been sexually abused... Black males who have been physically abused by a parent or caretaker.... Black males who have witnessed physical violence in the home.... Black males carrying have memories of being tossed across rooms when they tried to intervene as children..... Black males carrying the pain of being unable to prevent the death of a woman they loved. A mother, a mother of their child, a sister, a friend. It is unwise to ignore this pain. It is destructive to ignore this pain To keep the silence in place is to keep the shackles in place. WE Survive Abuse encourages Black males to use the mighty power of their voices to speak about the pain, injustice, and healing of abuse and violence.  Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders.
25:29
May 31, 2021
Surviving Racism & Abuse: Is Racism a Strain of Narcissism
Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Asking critical questions out loud,  "Are individuals in society minimizing the impact of racism on others?  No matter how they got that way, are we underestimating how truly disturbed racist persons are the same way society underestimates other abusive members of society?" Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
15:09
April 23, 2021
Just 3 Good Natural Remedies for Migraines
Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions).
03:52
March 28, 2021
Why Do Women Have to Talk So Ugly
*Trigger Warning* (nongraphic discussion of child abuse)  "If we women and girls were better protected, there would be no ugliness to speak of." Women & girls who speak about the violence and abuse that they experienced are often accused of being "vile" even hateful. This is wrong and unacceptable.   Women and girls are only telling true stories about violence inflicted upon them. If we women and girls were better protected, there would be no ugliness to speak of. Tonya GJ Prince tells a short story about how language is important to Survivors of sexual violence. She talks about how a television movie finally gave her language to break the silence around years of child abuse.  __________________________________ Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message Ex: Hi this is......(First name), from (location) Hi this is......Anonymous from (location)
10:50
February 27, 2021
Survivor Affirmations: I Release Myself from Toxic Relationships
Letting go of a toxic relationship can be difficult.  Here are 25 affirmations to help you stay the course of release from a toxic relationship. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. Abundant Blessings!
04:19
February 20, 2021
Men Silencing Women with the Aid of Other Women? Again.
Women are being silenced. Again.  Social changes are happening and that is a great thing. Social conversations are going deeper and reaching into the long-neglected cracks and crevices, that's a great thing too. In the midst of all of this, women's safety and health is being discussed but women who wish to weigh in on their needs and concerns are being fired, shunned, disregarded, and labeled.  Same obstacle, different day. Let women have their say. Tonya GJ Prince talks about the familiarity of people who use this silencing tactic with people who accuse Black people of using "the race card" what i  
26:46
February 12, 2021
Girls & Women Do Not Owe Anyone Sexual Reparations
No one is owed justice, equity, equality nor reparations by way of romantic attention or sex from girls/women. The boundary lines that you surrender in favor of being ‘accommodating’ are not always easily recoverable. -Tonya GJ Prince #ProtectYou Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message Ex: Hi this is......(First name), from (location) Hi this is......Anonymous from (location)
16:58
January 18, 2021
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Move Ahead
All of us make mistakes, but not all of us know how to forgive ourselves for those mistakes. In this recording, we give you three strategies to make the process of forgiving yourself easier. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message **Bonus affirmations at the end of the recording.
08:31
January 14, 2021
Do FGM and Transgender Issues Collide?
In every movement to end domestic and sexual violence, we are in the process of working towards making a powerful space for both autonomy and interdependence.  In this recording, we talk about how to make room for one another, while caring for ourselves. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
15:41
January 13, 2021
Unspoken Truths About Differences Between Women
A quote by Audre Lorde tells us that: "It is not our differences that divide us.  It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences. " Activists and advocates are often pressured to use our skills on behalf of one group over another.  In this recording, we are talking about how we must continue to make sure that oppressed women and girls are heard in our work to end domestic and sexual violence.  Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions). We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional. https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message
23:35
January 12, 2021
Staying Calm And Centered In Times Of Corona Panic (Part 1 & Part 2)
We’re going to go over three of the best ways that you can stay calm and centered in times of COVID-19 panic! Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders. Feel free to leave us a recorded voice message (comments, tips, quotes, statistics, questions).  We might use your recording on a future audio recording. Leaving a name is optional.   https://anchor.fm/wesurviveabuse/message Ex:  Hi this is......(First name), from (location)        Hi this is......Anonymous from (location)
17:15
December 31, 2020
4 Things I Bet Your Parents Didn’t Tell You About Pain in Relationships.
Old habits don’t have to control you or your partner. It’s possible to move past hurt and pain and on to more joy.  The cycle of pain and hurt can be difficult to break in a relationship. However, it’s possible to move out of this cycle. Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to healthful affirmations and reminders.
25:60
December 30, 2020
Survivor Affirmations: Health and Opportunities
Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to affirmations and reminders. This week, 2 collections.... Survivor Affirmation: The Door is Half Open Survivor Affirmation: My Health is Important.
05:42
December 5, 2020
I Unburden Myself: 27 Survivor Affirmations
Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to affirmations and reminders. 1.  I unburden myself. 2. I take a load off my body and mind. 3. I release anything that comes between me and my happiness....... (listen for more)
03:17
November 26, 2020
Survivor Affirmations: Gratitude and Love
Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to affirmations and reminders for healing. Affirmation 1: Gratitude Promotes Healing Affirmation 2: I Receive Love Easily and with Gratitude 
05:17
November 23, 2020
From Mending Old Wounds to New Beginnings
Tonya GJ Prince from WESurviveAbuse.com, SurvivorAffirmations.com, and BraidtheLadder.org gives voice to affirmations and reminders. Reminders About Mending Emotional Wounds Survivor Affirmation: I Have Many Reasons to Live Survivor Affirmation: I Welcome the New Year with Joy *The number to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is provided in this recording collection. 1-800-273-8255 24/7 (En Espanol, Deaf & Hard of Hearing)
15:50
November 12, 2020
Survivor Affirmations: Good Things Are Coming Our Way
Three different collections of powerful affirmations: I Welcome Good Things Good Things Are Happening I Celebrate the Small Joys
09:38
November 7, 2020
Women, Tain't Nobody's Business Who You Choose to Love (audio)
Audio version of a popular post on WESurviveAbuse.com.  Now more than ever, girls and women are potentially exposed to sexual coercion and grooming online. Tonya GJ Prince is sharing some important tips about boundary reinforcement when it comes to dating. 
29:18
October 19, 2020
The Five Forgotten Benefits of Conflict
  If we use it right, conflict is a great tool for building stronger and healthier communities.  Tonya GJ Prince offers five ways we tend to forget while in the midst of conflict.
22:43
September 3, 2020
Survivor Affirmations: I Learn My Lessons From Life
During this time of unprecedented uncertainty, affirmations are a requirement for the journey. Here is an affirmation on learning lessons from life. 
04:10
July 7, 2020
Survivor Affirmation: I Gather Wisdom
From WESurviveAbuse.com and SurvivorAffirmations.com Read by Tonya GJ Prince
02:58
April 23, 2020
Survivor Affirmation: I Choose Hope Over Fear
From WESurviveAbuse.com and SurvivorAffirmations.com A quick but effective affirmation about choosing hope over fear. Read by Tonya GJ Prince
02:59
April 23, 2020
Coronavirus? Yep, Let's Pray About It
Fear... Panic... Worry... Hopelessness? All at the same time? All around the world? It's time to take this to God in prayer. We're humbly praying about peace, our responsibility to one another, and our burdened minds.  We invite you to join us.
13:34
April 17, 2020
Survivor Affirmation: I Am Free of the Past
An affirmation for survivors from all backgrounds and lived experiences.  As always, we encourage your feedback.
03:30
February 4, 2020
Major Self-Improvement Mistakes
Self-improvement is great, but sometimes the way that we think about self-improvement can have painful; even fatal consequences.   At this recording, the new year was just a few days away.  Tonya GJ Prince reflects on the mistakes we make on our journey towards self-improvement.  She touches on her own experience with suicidal ideation during the holiday season and what thinking errors led her to the brink of despair.  Tonya's thoughts were with people who may be struggling with sadness, depression, and negative thoughts this holiday season.  
18:03
December 28, 2019
Reinforce Your Safety Plan with Safety Strategist Rasool Crawford
WE Survive Abuse presents..... President/CEO of Katalyst Safety Defense Services, Rasool Crawford, provides listeners with tips to help strengthen our safety plans.  You do have a plan to stay safe, don't you?  https://anchor.fm/bigsool-crawford/episodes/We-survive-abuse-e931si/a-a124qoh
01:17
November 23, 2019
FAQ about Trauma, Abuse, & Violence with Gary Jones LCSW
Tonya GJ Prince of WESurviveAbuse.com is talking with an expert in trauma and healing especially around domestic and sexual violence.  We asked Counselor Jones questions from our readers and listeners that we frequently get about trauma, abuse, and violence. Gary Jones LCSW is a dedicated therapist for Lower Merion Counseling Services outside of Philadelphia, PA.  Counselor Jones is the owner of Surviving Today LLC. He is also an adjunct professor, clinical supervisor, consultant, facilitator, and trainer.   Connect directly with Counselor Jones: CONTACT
20:19
October 3, 2019
How Mistakes Can Make You Money
Did you know that there are six household products that came about because of a mistake? In 10 minutes or less, Tonya GJ Prince of WESurviveAbuse.com will tell you about those products with the hope that it inspires you to keep pressing forward even after you've made a mistake.
07:11
September 17, 2019
The Adult Learner's Guide to Study Tips
Study tips especially for adult learners.
05:09
September 14, 2019
10 Lessons You Can Learn When Everything Falls Apart (Parts 1 & 2)
“What am I supposed to do when everything falls apart?” No one is in the mood to learn something when they are surrounded by chaos. We just want the nearest exit out of our crazy situation. Sometimes, the only way out is to go through it. Here are 10 lessons you can learn amid everything falling apart around you. In fact, learning these lessons may be the key to getting out of your situation. Parts 1 & 2 authored by Tonya GJ Prince of WESurviveAbuse.com
27:08
September 11, 2019
25 Things to Remember When the Going Gets Tough
25 affirmations to fuel you through the tough times. Presented by Tonya GJ Prince of WESurviveAbuse.com
06:58
August 22, 2019
Here Come New Ideas for Ending Self-Defeating Behavior
Are you standing in your own way?
07:53
August 1, 2019
How to Live Healthy Lives While Dealing with Unhealthy Circumstances
NLP Coach, Shaun James, a cis-gendered Black male gives us a brief, but  informative talk about living our most healthy lives even as we deal with unhealthy circumstances.
12:34
February 25, 2019
20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 2)
   In intimate relationships, conflicts are inevitable. Conflict has an undeserved bad reputation. But, conflicts aren't a bad thing. They can be healthy. They can be safe.  However, conflicts can become violent and dangerous when couples don't have a plan for resolving conflicts safely. Here are 10 of 20 questions to help people resolve conflicts in a more healthy and safe manner.  (Part 2) (Questions 11-20)
28:53
January 20, 2019
20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 1)
In intimate relationships, conflicts are inevitable. Conflict has a undeserved bad reputation.  But, conflicts aren't a bad thing.  They can be healthy.  They can be safe.   However, conflicts can become violent and dangerous when couples don't have a plan for resolving conflicts safely.  Here are 20 questions to help people resolve conflicts in a more healthy and safe manner.  (Part 1) 20 Questions U Might Want to Ask Your Partner at Some Point in the Near Future: Conflict (Part 1)
27:11
January 20, 2019