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What I Wish My Mother Taught Me

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me

By Nikki / Parenting and Healing Childhood Trauma

I am Nikki, a mom of two. I believe that our childhood experiences shape us as adults and can help empower our knowledge and actions as parents.
Are there things you wish someone had told you the truth about? Things you had to learn on your own but the experience would have been much easier if someone had warned you about it or told you the honest truth about it.
I wish I knew more about things. I wish I knew more about marriage before I got married, or I wish I knew more about parenting before I became a parent.

In each episode, we’ll have conversations with other women, and sometimes men, about childhood lessons learned and lessons lost and how they impact us. Hear from real women as they discuss relationships with their mothers, their relationships with their children, what they learned from their mothers, what they teach their children. We dive into other relationships, like marriage, relationships with other women, struggles with anxiety, fear of failure, and successes.
What I Wish is an excellent opportunity to learn from other women and hear how all mothers have shared experiences. Are you ready to find deep meaning in parenting?

We’ll share real-life tips and approaches to navigating life, using what we wish we knew to help us be better parents and better to ourselves. My goal is to help mothers and daughters have a good relationship from a young age into adulthood.
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Bravery is a Skill: Listening to your own voice.

What I Wish My Mother Taught MeOct 12, 2023

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Bravery is a Skill: Listening to your own voice.

Bravery is a Skill: Listening to your own voice.

On this episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, I chat with Nicole Trick-Steinbach about the process of building bravery is built upon three pillars: acknowledging and embracing one's emotions, creating an action plan, and taking accountability for one's own actions and dreams.

  • The first pillar emphasizes the importance of truly connecting with and processing one's emotions, as this is often overlooked in today's society. Feeling one's feelings is a necessary step in building bravery.
  • The second pillar involves creating an action plan, setting goals, and taking consistent action towards those goals. It requires stepping out of one's comfort zone and embracing risks and challenges. Building momentum and moving forward, even in the face of setbacks, is key.
  • The third pillar centers around taking responsibility for one's choices and actions, as well as taking ownership of one's dreams and aspirations. It is about recognizing the power to shape one's own life and make things happen. Accountability is not about controlling others, but rather about self-governance and personal growth.

Overall, building bravery encompasses emotional awareness, proactive planning, and personal responsibility. It is a skill that can be applied to various aspects of life, such as careers, relationships, and personal growth. By embracing these three pillars, individuals can cultivate the courage and resilience needed to overcome challenges and pursue their dreams.


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Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

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Oct 12, 202331:43
Mini Moments: Mind Body connections with Lenora Edwards

Mini Moments: Mind Body connections with Lenora Edwards

In this mini momnets episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, one of my favorite guest, Lenora Edwards, provides snippets of how the mind and body are connected.

  • Lenora talks about her work as a mind body enhancement specialist.
  • How we talk about ourselves and how other people pick it up
  • Be mindful as a parent about how critical you are of yourself and others because children pick up on it.
  • How to rewire your system to become more authentically you.

Lenora Edwards, a remarkable Mind & Life Enhancement Specialist, Teacher, and Speaker, is devoted to guiding individuals towards the realization of their personal aspirations. Lenora's impressive array of certifications equips her with unique capabilities to empower individuals on their transformative journeys. As a Board Certified Speech Language Pathologist, she possesses a deep understanding of communication and can help clients overcome barriers to effective self-expression. Her expertise as a Certified Hypnotist enables her to tap into the subconscious mind, facilitating profound shifts and unlocking hidden potential. As a Certified Holographic Memory Resolution (HMR) Practitioner, Lenora has mastered techniques for resolving deep-seated emotional and physical pain, liberating clients from their burdens. Additionally, her certification in Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) empowers her to reprogram limiting beliefs and behaviors, opening doors to success and fulfillment.

As an avid student of life, Lenora has dedicated over 15 years to the study, practice, and implementation of teachings and technologies curated by esteemed experts, mentors, and coaches from across the globe. Her unwavering dedication, immense compassion, and relentless commitment to helping others are infused into every aspect of her work. Drawing upon the knowledge, tools, and skills acquired from her phenomenal teachers and mentors, Lenora has personally experienced the remarkable benefits and outstanding results these approaches have yielded in her own life and the lives of those she has guided.

Lenora's ideal clients are individuals who yearn to break free from anxiety, stress, and fear, desiring a life filled with purpose and joy. She welcomes those who are ready to release old patterns, self-sabotaging behaviors, and emotional baggage, paving the way for personal growth and self-actualization. Lenora is committed to guiding ambitious individuals, passionate about their own transformation, and eager to co-create a powerful plan for lasting change.

With a touch of playfulness, an abundance of curiosity, and an unwavering determination to succeed, you too will witness the transformative changes you yearn for. Together, we shall unlock the doors to your desired transformation, paving the way for the life you envision.


Connect with Lenora Mind & Life Enhancement Specialist ⁠DTBHorizons.com

⁠⁠DTB Horizons on YouTube⁠⁠

LinkedIn Connection⁠


Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

Connect with me on Instagram

For more, visit our website


Sep 05, 202303:56
Wise Little One: How to Recconect with Your Inner Child and Find Peace and Fulfillment.

Wise Little One: How to Recconect with Your Inner Child and Find Peace and Fulfillment.

On this episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, I chat with Jana Wilson author of Wise Little One: Learning to Love and Listen to My Inner Child . As an emotional healing educator, meditation teacher, retreat leader, public speaker, hypnotherapist, and the founder of the Emotional Healing System, Jana Wilson has helped thousands heal from the pain of their past. 

A victim of childhood abuse and trauma, Jana Wilson could have wound up another statistic. Yet, at the age of twelve, she had a mystical experience that catapulted her on a life-long journey of learning to listen and love herself. In her breakout prescriptive memoir Wise Little One, we follow Jana as she develops a connection to her inner child. 

A riveting tale of triumph over tragedy, Wise Little One is interlaced with the knowledge Jana learned on her path of discovery – eventually training and working with prominent thought leaders Dr Deepak Chopra, Dr Brian Weiss and Debbie Ford. Ultimately, she honors and listens to her Wise Little One and, at long last, is guided to her beloved in the most auspicious way. In the end, readers discover that we are all here in Earth school to learn how to heal from our pasts, extract lessons from our traumas, and to value and fall in love with ourselves.


Listen as we talk about

Healing the inner child wounds we carry.

Taking control of our lives and letting go of the childhood traumas that hold us back.

Steps we all need to take to recover from our wounds

Connect with Jana on On her website

Connect with Jana on Instagram

Connect with me on Instagram

Purchase Jana's book on Amazon

Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more, visit our website




 

Aug 08, 202327:28
Learning Through Play with Sally, the TenderHearted Teacher

Learning Through Play with Sally, the TenderHearted Teacher

I can't believe we are back to school in two weeks. In honor if returning back to school, I thought we shoudl revist one of my favorite episodes with one of my favorite Early Childhood Teachers, TenderHearted Teacher, Sally.

Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me. In this episode, I chat with Sally, a toddler mom, and special education preschool teacher. Sally has over 10 years of experience working with young children.

Sally is the Education blogger behind The Blog TenderHearted Teacher.  Her blog and social media platforms provide topics on early academics,  Social-emotional learning; she uses her platform to support other parents and caregivers by giving them strategies on how to encourage overall development. I am obsessed with providing kids with critical thinking skills at an early age; Sally does a wonderful job of breaking down critical thinking skills and introducing the skill to kids as part of their early education. 

Highlights:

At a Higher level, critical thinking skills allow us to take in new information, use it, and allows us to form new ideas. Set goals, communicate, and collaborate with others.

  1. [00:01:45] Deciding to go into teaching.
  2. [00:04:15] Critical thinking.
  3. [00:10:46] Teaching critical thinking skills.
  4. [00:12:45] Encouraging play at home.
  5. [00:17:06] Open-ended play and creativity.
  6. [00:22:03] Supporting social emotional learning.
  7. [00:24:07] Teaching empathy and emotional awareness.
  8. [00:29:01] Watching children grow and develop.
  9. [00:34:26] Tantrums are a natural part.
  10. [00:37:13] Prioritizing self-care as a parent.
  11. [00:41:14] Social emotional skills in life.
  12. [00:45:30] Life skills and academic success.
  13. [00:49:31] Using recyclable materials for STEM activities.
  14. [00:55:43] Teaching critical thinking skills.
  15. [00:57:56] Sharing knowledge and raising thoughtful children.
  16. [01:02:01] Making a difference in education.

Connect with Sally on Instagram

Connect with me on Instagram

Read Sally's blog posts at TenderHearted Teacher

Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more, visit our website


Jul 25, 202301:03:12
Taming the High Cost of College with Brad Baldridge: Combat Misinformation Around College Planning

Taming the High Cost of College with Brad Baldridge: Combat Misinformation Around College Planning

On this episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, I am joined by Brad Baldridge, Brad Baldridge is a College Funding Specialist who has

helped thousands of families plan and save for college with smart and proven strategies to save time, money and stress. Brad is the host of Taming the High Cost of College podcast.


He teaches parents the best ways to save and pay for college, including how to find the right school, maximize financial aid and scholarships, avoid student loan debt, and make your children’s college dreams come true without wiping out your finances or retirement

Check out their website for more information about Brad and gather resources for college planning success.

Check out my book ⁠What I Wish My Mother Taught Me⁠ and ⁠What I Teach My Daughter⁠ and ⁠Journals⁠.

For more, visit our ⁠website

Disclosures

The information provided to you today is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to constitute specific recommendations or advice. Please consult with a qualified professional before acting on any of this material.

Some of today’s discussion may have included information about investing. Please remember that investing involves risk, and, depending on the types of investments, there may be varying degrees of risk. Investors should be prepared to bear loss, including total loss of principal.

Before investing in any state’s 529 plan, investors should carefully consider investment objectives, risks, charges and expenses. This information and other important information are contained in the fund prospectuses, summary prospectuses, and 529 Product Program Description. These documents can be obtained from a financial professional or directly from the plan’s website. Please read them carefully before investing.

Depending on your state of residence, there may be an in-state plan that offers tax and other benefits, which may include financial aid, scholarship funds, and protection from creditors.

Before investing in a 529 plan, investors should consult a tax professional. If withdrawals from 529 plans are used for purposes other than qualified education, the withdrawal could be subject to a 10% federal tax penalty, state penalties federal income tax and state income tax.

Brad Baldridge is a Registered Representative with Cambridge Investment Research, Inc.

Securities are offered through Cambridge Investment Research, Inc., a Broker/Dealer, Member FINRA/SIPC

Brad Baldridge is also an Investment Advisor Representative with Cambridge Investment Research Advisors, Inc., a Registered Investment Advisor

Baldridge Wealth Management and Baldridge College Solutions are affiliated. Cambridge and the Baldridge companies are not affiliated.

Registered branch location: 10521 W. Layton Avenue, Suite 200, Greenfield, WI 53228

529 College Savings PlansBrad Baldridge


Jul 11, 202341:48
Enhance your Mind and Body and Get Unstuck

Enhance your Mind and Body and Get Unstuck

On this episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, I chat with another favorite guest, Lenora Edwards. Lenora Edwards, a remarkable Mind & Life Enhancement Specialist, Teacher, and Speaker, is devoted to guiding individuals towards the realization of their personal aspirations. Lenora's impressive array of certifications equips her with unique capabilities to empower individuals on their transformative journeys. As a Board Certified Speech Language Pathologist, she possesses a deep understanding of communication and can help clients overcome barriers to effective self-expression. Her expertise as a Certified Hypnotist enables her to tap into the subconscious mind, facilitating profound shifts and unlocking hidden potential. As a Certified Holographic Memory Resolution (HMR) Practitioner, Lenora has mastered techniques for resolving deep-seated emotional and physical pain, liberating clients from their burdens. Additionally, her certification in Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) empowers her to reprogram limiting beliefs and behaviors, opening doors to success and fulfillment.

As an avid student of life, Lenora has dedicated over 15 years to the study, practice, and implementation of teachings and technologies curated by esteemed experts, mentors, and coaches from across the globe. Her unwavering dedication, immense compassion, and relentless commitment to helping others are infused into every aspect of her work. Drawing upon the knowledge, tools, and skills acquired from her phenomenal teachers and mentors, Lenora has personally experienced the remarkable benefits and outstanding results these approaches have yielded in her own life and the lives of those she has guided.

Lenora's ideal clients are individuals who yearn to break free from anxiety, stress, and fear, desiring a life filled with purpose and joy. She welcomes those who are ready to release old patterns, self-sabotaging behaviors, and emotional baggage, paving the way for personal growth and self-actualization. Lenora is committed to guiding ambitious individuals, passionate about their own transformation, and eager to co-create a powerful plan for lasting change.

With a touch of playfulness, an abundance of curiosity, and an unwavering determination to succeed, you too will witness the transformative changes you yearn for. Together, we shall unlock the doors to your desired transformation, paving the way for the life you envision.

HIGHLIGHTS

  • Clear away the things that are holding you back and keeping you stuck
  • Get tips for a healthier lifestyle
  • Get tips to become a better leader.

connect with Lenora Mind & Life Enhancement Specialist 
DTBHorizons.comDTB Horizons on YouTube
LinkedIn Connection



Jun 27, 202336:10
Childhood Sexual Abuse: The Impact of the Parents Response
Jun 13, 202334:35
How to Build a Community to Support Your Parenting Journey with April Knight-Copeland

How to Build a Community to Support Your Parenting Journey with April Knight-Copeland

On this episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, I am joined by April Knight-Copeland,. April Knight-Copeland is a South Jersey/Philadelphia-based motherhood content creator and influencer specializing in new parent advice, child developmental milestones, and children's product reviews. Her blog, accordingtoapril.com, focuses on providing new moms with practical and real-life hacks to make motherhood more manageable. She has reached moms in all motherhood journey stages by sharing her experiences as a new mom during the Covid-19 pandemic. 

 

Check out tweApril's website for tips, resources and wonderful blogs to support your parenting journey. On The Episode

  • Black women's expereince as mothers
  • Building a community to support you as you parent
  • What new mom's need from the people aroudn them
  • How becoming a parent can be the motivation you need for success


Check out April ⁠website⁠ for more information and to grab all of her wonderful resources.  Connect with April on ⁠Instagram⁠ and YouTube

Check out my book ⁠⁠What I Wish My Mother Taught Me⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠What I Teach My Daughter⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠Journals⁠⁠.

For more, visit our ⁠⁠website⁠



May 30, 202351:45
The 7 Elements to Establish a Strong Family with Joe and Mell Hashey

The 7 Elements to Establish a Strong Family with Joe and Mell Hashey

On this episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me, I am joined by Joe and Mell, wonderful parents and hosts of the Strong Family Project Podcast. Joe and Mell joined me to discuss The 7 Elements of the Strong Family Path, which are principles they live by and want to share with other families to support other parents in building strong families. Joe and Mell are proponents of taking intentional steps to determine what success looks like or your family.

Joe and Mell, as parents and professionals, both understand how important family relationships are.  Joe is currently a business consultant who managed to find the perfect balance between his demanding work and his family while Mell is a dedicated stay-at-home mom with 5 years of professional experience in counseling families in abusive situations. 

 

Check out their website to learn more about the 7 Elements of the Strong Family Path: 

·  Picking family core values

·  Productive Morning routine 

·  Family meetings that kids love

·  Confidence building goal setting system 

·  Family dinner plan and conversation topics

·  Eveningdebrief for kids to be heard

·  Home relationships to be mindful of 

Check out their website for more information about Joe, Mell and The Strong Family Project. 
Connect with Joe and Mell on Instagram accounts.

Check out my book ⁠What I Wish My Mother Taught Me⁠ and ⁠What I Teach My Daughter⁠ and ⁠Journals⁠.

For more, visit our ⁠website


May 16, 202342:33
How to Support your Kids's Mental Health
May 03, 202334:36
How to Help Your Kids Overcome Communication Problems and Improve Speech in the Home.

How to Help Your Kids Overcome Communication Problems and Improve Speech in the Home.

Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me. In this episode, I chat with an old friend, Lenora Edwards, an expert speech therapist with 10+ years of experience treating children and adults and the Chief Knowledge Officer of Better Speech, a leading online speech therapy provider (150+ speech therapists). Lenora offers insights on the best ways to improve speech at home and how to help kids overcome communication problems - which is vital to success in school or on the job!  

Highlights:

  • How to detect possible speech problems at birth
  • Communicating well in your relationship to serve you and your partner.
  • Normalizing the art of disagreement and giving your kids the tools to effectively use disagreements as an opportunity to learn.

Connect with Lenora on her website and social media accounts.

Check out my book ⁠What I Wish My Mother Taught Me⁠ and ⁠What I Teach My Daughter⁠ and ⁠Journals⁠.

For more, visit our ⁠website

Apr 18, 202350:32
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Education with Danielle Shelton

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Education with Danielle Shelton

I have the great pleasure of chatting wiht Danielle Shelton about all things education and raising a fearless daughter. Danielle is a proud graduate of Florida A&M University and National University holding both a Bachelor of Science and a Master of Arts degree in English. As an avid reader of literature, she took pride in pushing her students to read and dissect complex texts. For her, Literature is more than just words. Her aim is to get students motivated about reading and exploring words beyond the surface. Over the years, her students affectionately called her the Literary Ninja saying her approach is silent and swift. As an educator, she inspired her students to reach new heights and to dream big dreams. After the pandemic, she left the classroom and her nine-teen year teaching career to pursue her dreams of becoming a Life Coach and Motivational Speaker. Danielle has coined the term “Destination Coach” because she knows how to move people from one area in their life to a new destination. Danielle’s Podcast “Tips and Tricks Podcast with Destination Coach Danielle Shelton” has ranked with some of the best Podcasts to date. Not only does she tackle tough issues with heart, she also saves her audience time by adopting a mini-pod podcasting format. Let’s face it, no one has more than thirty minutes to listen to a Podcast. As an Educational Consultant, she shows educators and students that learning about literature can be fun. As a writer, she explores complex relationships and writes to get her readers lost in the moment. As a mommy manager, she guided her daughter, Zoe through publishing her first book at 6 years old. Zoe is now one of the youngest authors in the Broward County area. Following in the footsteps of her fearless daughter, Danielle is also a published author, with several writings in the works and multiple LinkedIn publications as well as two published books on Amazon: An Unfinished Collection of Works from the Busy Mind of a Writer and Navigating Grief: 30 Day Grief and Reflection Journal Life had granted her ups, downs, losses and triumphs. Danielle not only inspires others to follow their dreams but encourages them to take the necessary steps.

Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more, visit our website


Mar 22, 202301:01:39
TenderHearted Teacher. How Early Childhood Education Impacts the Development of Children

TenderHearted Teacher. How Early Childhood Education Impacts the Development of Children

Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me. In this episode, I chat with Sally, a toddler mom, and special education preschool teacher. Sally has over 10 years of experience working with young children.

Sally is the Education blogger behind The Bolg TenderHearted Teacher.  Her blog and social media platforms provide topics on early academics,  Social-emotional learning; she uses her platform to support other parents and caregivers by giving them strategies on how to encourage overall development. I am obsessed with providing kids with critical thinking skills at an early age; Sally does a wonderful job of breaking down critical thinking skills and introducing the skill to kids as part of their early education. 

Highlights:

At a Higher level, critical thinking skills allow us to take in new information, use it, and allows us to form new ideas. Set goals, communicate, and collaborate with others.

  1. Encouraging open-ended play and making play and exploration a priority
  2. Through play, they learn cognitive skills
  3. Make sure that the home environment welcomes questions from your children.
  4. Have an open environment and have safe brain-storming ideas.
  5. Give opportunities and space to try and fail.
  6. Support social-emotional learning. Model the behavior that you want to see in your child. 
  7. You want the child to know how to find emotions and normalize the feelings. Feelings can change from moment to moment.

Connect with Sally on Instagram

Read Sally's blog posts at TenderHearted Teacher

Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more, visit our website


Feb 28, 202301:03:12
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me About Menstrual Cycle

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me About Menstrual Cycle

Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me. In this episode, I chat with Briana Villegas. Briana helps women understand and leverage the different stages of their cycle. Turn the menstrual cycle into something that works for you instead of something you are pushing through or ignoring. Her mission is to empower women by demystifying money and providing them with an infrastructure that allows them to build confidently.  She coaches her clients on how to build a relationship with their money, heal financial trauma, and understand finances by breaking it into bite-size digestible pieces. Her program gives women tools that help women get unstuck and move forward.

Highlights:

Understand the 4 phases of the menstrual cycle

1. Menstruation

2. Reflection. The brain is more focused. Sensitivity to things happening in our environment. Sit with the emotions and determine if it is a reoccurring pattern. Journal practice. Take action

3. Follicular: our energy shoots up and boosts in creating. Appetite shifts. Work on projects. Take advantage of the boost in energy.

4. Ovulatory phase. 3-4 days, estrogens highest, boost in libido, the glow happens, really good at problem-solving and communicating. Set up to have conversations around the support you need.

Connect with Briana on Instagram

Visit Briana's Podcast page for more information.

Hormone Rants Podcast: Cycle Syncing for Tweens & Teens Waitlist:

Be sure to check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more visit our website

Feb 14, 202336:52
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Validation and Judgement.

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Validation and Judgement.

We all have a friend that just gets you, and when you are together, you just enjoy the time with each other. My guest today is that friend to me. We had a fantastic time talking about love, and validation as children and learning to take on the responsibility of validating yourself and not waiting on a parent or adult to validate you. This episode goes off the rails at times. What I learned from our conversation is to validate my kids; I also learned to appreciate the importance of validating my children's feelings and talents. I knew that words really do matter. My guest was absolutely vulnerable and this episode is perfect for a girl looking for ways to validate themselves so that they can show up authentically to the world.
Jan 31, 202301:30:56
Who or What Defines Your Identity with Edith: Validating a child vs validating an adult

Who or What Defines Your Identity with Edith: Validating a child vs validating an adult

One of my favorite people in the world is back again. Edith and I are back with laughter, seriousness, and deep conversation. Listen in on what is our everyday conversation with each other. The unique thing about our relationship is that Edith and I see the world differently, and we debate with love and ultimately find common ground.
Listen to hear what happens when I reveal that I did not know my children's eyes should be examined yearly.
Highlights:
Teaching People to Validate Themselves
The pressure we place on others to validate us
How I taught my kids to find value in who they are
Validating people in the workplace
Check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.
For more, visit our website.
Jan 31, 202334:50
Balancing Mom Guilt: Fill your cup
Jan 17, 202334:19
The importance of Eye Care in Children

The importance of Eye Care in Children

Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me.  In this episode, I chat with Dana. Dana is a mother of two sons and an Optometric physician.  Dana specializes in pediatrics and myopia management.  Dana and her husband, Luke, operate the blog LukeKnows. I invited Dana back to the podcast to talk more in-depth about the importance of eye care in kids. Dana speaks candidly about eye care, she gives us tidbits about steps we can take to prevent bigger health issues.

Check out Dana's blog post on WHAT TO EXPECT AT YOUR CHILD’S FIRST EYE EXAM.  In this episode, Dana discuses childhood Myopia. Myopia is also commonly known as “nearsighted” or “shortsighted”. With myopia the ability to see up close is preserved but far away is blurry unless one wears glasses or contact lenses. Read the article on the LukeKnows blog site and learn how to slow down short-sidedness in children. 

Highlights:

The diseases that are preventable with regular eye care.

How eyesight affects a child's development. 

The importance of eye care

Connect with Dana on Instagram

Visit LukeKnows Website for more information.

Check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more, visit our website.

Dec 20, 202235:40
Taking Ownership Of My Trauma and Healing Childhood Abandonment. What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Resolving Abandonment

Taking Ownership Of My Trauma and Healing Childhood Abandonment. What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Resolving Abandonment

Healing and moving forward from childhood trauma can feel like an uphill battle. My purpose for hosting the What I Wish My Mother Taught Me Podcast is to build a community of men and women willing to speak transparently about their life experiences and how those experiences shape them as adults and parents. My guest this week, Karen, spoke transparently about childhood abandonment, the effects of divorce on children, and the importance of seeking help in the form of therapy to heal childhood trauma and abandonment in the case of Karen. This episode is an excellent reminder that you are not alone, and there are so many people who are on that healing journey as well.
The path to healing starts now.
IN THIS EPISODE:

Anger associated with abandonment
Adolescent anger carries into college because we do not have the tools to deal with the trauma.
How parents can communicate better with their kids to support changes in life
Having Open communication between parent and child can help when a child feels abandoned.
The loneliness that comes with divorce.
Losing siblings, going from a home filled with siblings to feeling lonely because you’ve been removed from your siblings.
The importance of providing our kids with tools to manage their stresses, anxiety, emotions
I wish my parents had been more patient with me
I wish my parents had praised me more
I wish my parents were my coaches and helped me and encouraged me, and supported me more.
I wish I had tools to help me know that I am doing life right.
I wish someone had told me how money works.
How narcissistic family impacts our daily life.
Plus much more…

Check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.
For more, visit our website.
Dec 07, 202237:26
Finding Balance as a Parent and Making Space for more Time with Family

Finding Balance as a Parent and Making Space for more Time with Family

Thank you for joining me on another episode of What I Wish My Mother Taught Me.  In this episode, I chat with Dana. Dana is a mother of two sons and an Optometric physician.  Dana specializes in pediatrics and myopia management.  Dana and her husband, Luke, operate the blog LukeKnows.  They use this platform to encourage working parents as they navigate the parenting journey and live a balanced family life.  Listen to hear what happens when I reveal that I did not know my children's eyes should be examined yearly. 

Highlights:

Raising godly sons

The challenges women face in business and as leaders. 

The importance of eye care

Connect with Dana on Instagram

Visit LukeKnos Website for more information.

Check out my book What I Wish My Mother Taught Me and What I Teach My Daughter and Journals.

For more, visit our website.

Nov 22, 202251:12
How Trauma Impacts our Ability to Build Wealth
Nov 15, 202259:48
How to Teach Your Daughter to Own her Power and Validate Herself.
Nov 08, 202201:48:14
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Self Validation
Nov 01, 202234:50
What I Wish my Mother Taught me about Setting Boundaries
Oct 26, 202249:28
How to Teach Your Kids Effective Communication: The Magic of Communication with Anna Scoby

How to Teach Your Kids Effective Communication: The Magic of Communication with Anna Scoby

In this episode, I chat with Anna Scoby, and I am a Communication Coach specializing in taking intimidating factors out of public speaking. Anna is the creator of Project Be You, an educational non-profit dedicated to youth. The project was created with one goal to instill confidence in my students through teaching them soft skills necessary for future success. I have been working with children for over seven years now and have developed several unique programs to teach soft skills, including communication skills, to kids of all ages. Project Be You was created as a project-based focusing on positive association. Years of working with youth provide insights into their development and needs.

Teaching kids the magic of communication and the power of words can open up so many opportunities. If they know how to communicate, they can communicate well with each other, collaborate, and create and advocate for themselves effectively.

It’s important for kids to have good communication skills at a young age because communication is like magic. With one word you can fall in love, you can start a war, you can build someone up or break them down. 

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Sep 27, 202201:09:25
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me About Marriage and Raising College aged Kids.

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me About Marriage and Raising College aged Kids.

I am joined by one of my favorite people in the entire universe. Selina is a mother to 3 amazing children, she has 2 in high school and one child in college. She and I discuss what she teaches her teenagers and how her relationship with her college-age daughter is now one of counselor and less parenting. We also dive into the truth about marriage and how unprepared we are going into it.

What I learned from this episode is

1. To teach my kids to love themselves, continuously tell my kids that they are loved

2. Teach my kids to use their voice and learn to advocate for themselves

3. Become my children's SafetyNet. Listen to them without judgment.


Aug 30, 202235:20
Raising a Daughter from a Father's Perspective-Trevor Gabbidon

Raising a Daughter from a Father's Perspective-Trevor Gabbidon

Trevor Gabbidon, author of Daughters Grow Up So Fast: From A Father's Perspective, joined me on the Podcast this week. I enjoyed listening to him talk about being a father and enjoying the ride and experiences of a girl dad. We dive into what goes on in the mind of a dad as he watches his little girl grow up. We also discuss how girls and boys are raised differently and the essential things every young father should know when they become a parent.
Aug 16, 202241:40
Men and Vulnerability: The effect of societal norms on the mental health of men.

Men and Vulnerability: The effect of societal norms on the mental health of men.

Men are often told to be strong, suck it up, and not show emotions. From a young age, society teaches most boys that being vulnerable isn't what a man should do, and most of them grow up believing that a man should not be vulnerable. I was struck by the fact that all of the mass shootings we have had in the United States were by men. To address my curiosity about the mass shootings, I invited Raymond Chukwuma, a Licensed Counselor, to discuss how societal norms affect men. We also discuss what parents can do to change the message boys receive to help them communicate their feelings much easier and show vulnerability. In this episode, Raymond and I discuss

1. What his mother taught him 

2. How societal norms shape the brain of a young man

3. Creating a safe space for men to express themselves freely. 

Aug 02, 202201:17:59
How to Build the Most Fulfilling Relationship with Your Children

How to Build the Most Fulfilling Relationship with Your Children

Sandra Trew is the founder of Get Real Parenting Coaching, www.getrealparentalcoaching.com, where she helps working parents balance their work/ home life so they can feel confident and not so overwhelmed.  In this episode, we talk about 

How to deal with the common problems parents face 

The two things all children want from their parents

How to maintain consistency as parents

How to heal your childhood wounds to better parent your children

I learned from our conversation that intentional parenting requires parents to heal their childhood wounds to give their best to their children; I also learned to appreciate the importance of validating my children's feelings and talents.  We also discuss a father's role in the home and how dads can fulfill their role as a father by getting their needs met.  

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Jul 19, 202253:43
What My Mother Taught Me about Resiliency as a deaf child.
Jun 23, 202226:23
What I Learned from Losing my Mom at age 22
May 01, 202248:16
What I Wish I Knew About Aging. Embracing Our Authentic Self and Loving the Body you Have

What I Wish I Knew About Aging. Embracing Our Authentic Self and Loving the Body you Have

In this episode, I chat with another amazing woman. Daniella Monestime and I chat about how she quit her job at age 50 and decided to do what makes her happy. We discussed shared experiences as children, how when parents leave you as a child to provide better opportunities for the family, how that shapes a childhood and adulthood. We also dive into how women and mothers can model the different facets of beauty to help young girls embrace their authentic selves. What I learned from our conversation is to embrace the aging process, love my body; I learned that loving myself gives my daughter permission to love herself.
Apr 13, 202201:02:22
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Compassion and asking for what I want from people

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Compassion and asking for what I want from people

In this episode, I chat with another amazing woman about her life's journey so far. We dive into missed opportunities, career pivots, managing your expectations of others, and most importantly, sewing seeds into the young people in your life. Mary and I discuss her very special relationship with her niece and how she provides for and supports her niece. If you are not a biological parent, there are other kids in your life who need your wisdom and support. What I learned from our conversation is to look beyond my kids and help other parents around other children in my life and me. I also learned to be more curious about the people in my life.
Mar 29, 202201:29:00
What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Self-Worth and Validation.

What I Wish My Mother Taught Me about Self-Worth and Validation.

In this episode, I chat with Christine Ebie. A close friend, a amazing woman of God.  We talk in-depth about how a true encounter with God in her mid-20s changed her life; finding validation through a relationship with Christ.  We talk about hiding your true self, preventing yourself from shining, shrinking yourself. Christine encourages young women to lean into who they are.  What I learned from our conversation is to pour more into my relationship with my daughter, to validate her and teach her to validate herself. I also learned that it is important to talk to my kids about the impact and benefit of a strong relationship with God. 

Mar 21, 202201:48:04
Introducing What I Wish My Mother Taught Me.

Introducing What I Wish My Mother Taught Me.

Every little girl and woman needs a tribe, the first member of the tribe for a little girl is her mom. <br /> My Nkechi Agwuenu and I started the what I wish podcast to highlight the special relationship between a mom and her daughter(s). I invite other women to talk about their experiences as girl-moms and lessons learned from their relationships with their moms.<br /> My guests and I also talk about the other parts of us, like the other relationships in our lives: single life, career development, and self growth. Thanks for listening, I hope you enjoy the conversation.
Feb 20, 202200:49