What I Heard This Week
By What I Heard This Week
So, can we talk about this!? Every week, we're offering you a behind-the-scenes glimpse into what we get to hear as a coach and therapist throughout the week from our students and clients. We hope you'll come join us!
What I Heard This WeekMay 26, 2022
Life is Not a Tampon Commercial
It's the end of the podcast as we know it-for Season 1! In today's episode, we observe basic truths such as: life is painful no matter what, there is nothing wrong with you, you are not alone, and sticker charts are the bomb diggity.
How do I emotionally protect myself from these fools? A Q+A
Some of the people we find ourselves around sometimes say things that super hurt and pain us. Dealing with this is so complicated. But, have no fear-we have some ideas to help.
The Wobbly Walk of Questioning Relationships
Even having the question-"Do I want to be in this relationship anymore?" is super unsettling and scary. But normal. And even important to ask. Today, we talk through the scary wobbly walk of questioning what we want for our relationships.
Wait ... what if I'm not suffering enough? A Q+A
One listener asks if it's possible they aren't feeling bad enough. Like-what if they aren't suffering as much as they should be? We hear this concern a ton-and we are excited to dig into this point with you on today's Q+A episode!
Dear Chalesondra: Q + A
Conflict in relationships is hard-but is it bad? On today's Q + A episode we answer this Listener Question: Is it ok to have conflict with your partner, or does having problems mean something is wrong with your relationship?!?
Trusting My Gut-Should I or Shouldn't I?
You meet someone. Your gut says "NOPE." Do you override your intuition or listen?! Great question. Let's discuss. Also-spoiler for the Netflix show Ozark around 4 minutes in. So sorry.
About Your Mother, Part 1
Whew! Relationships with parent figures can feel complex, confusing, and sometimes just outright rejecting. We're diving into a "Part 1" convo about navigating the mother (or mother figure) dynamic today...let's talk about what to do to make this relationship (and others in your life) a little more easeful, shall we!?
Q+A! Q+A! Q+A!
A couple of Katie's asked some questions-and we responded. Today, we give you more details about what exactly The Brink Academy is (spoiler-it's amaze) AND how to handle doing your own work & seeing others in your life who could benefit from the same but are sooooo not interested!
You Are Good, You Are OK.
As humans, we tend to operate from one assumption that creates a cascade of misery. Today, we are asking a big question that taps into this assumption and helps us shift from despair to hope.
It's a Q+A Episode!
You've got questions, we've got answers! Today we're tackling questions from our listeners on generating motivation to get sh*t done, building self-trust + self-love, and helping yourself to follow through and stop avoiding (with pleasure!).
When They Just Refuse to Listen
Other people can be SO defensive, right?! It's maddening. All we want is for them to listen-why is that SO hard? What in the world can you do when you aren't being heard by someone? We have some ideas for you in today's episode.
THIS is Why We Don't Do New Shit
Doing. New things. Is so hard. Not only is it hard to do something we haven't done before, but the vulnerability that comes along with doing it is so incredibly uncomfortable. In today's episode, we talk all about how it is normal to struggle with doing something outside of your comfort zone AND we talk about how you can cope with alllll of the uncomfortable feelings that come after doing something new.
Links Mentioned:
The Brink Academy
Self-Care Class: Mind Body
The Holy No
NO-a small word for a complicated concept. Most of us probably "should" say no more-but it can be so confusing to know what to say no to. In today's episode we talk about how to figure out when to say yes-when to say no
Link Mentioned:
The Thing About Pam
I Want What You Have & Now It's Hard to be Happy
Envy-we shake our fists at you! It's so hard to see all the things that we wish we had-a beautifully organized closet, successful business, loving relationship, relaxing vacation. But what we see is not what is actually happening-reality is a lot more complicated and messy. In this episode, we normalize this hard feeling and tell you exactly what to do with it!
Links Mentioned:
The Midnight Library by Matt Haig
Amigo Scooters
She's Come Undone by Wally Lamb
Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
Desperate Housewives
Wishing for A Feeling
As humans, we want to feel love, belonging, and a sense of emotional safety. Today we're talking about some of the bullsh*t narrative we are sold about how we're "supposed" to feel around the holidays or what we're "supposed" to be doing, and reminding you about how amazing you already are and that you have choice in how to feel and what to do.
Link Mentioned:
The Happiness Lab Podcast Episode About Fun
Add Pleasure to Boring Sh*t
Today, we're having an oh-so-riveting conversation about why completing anything is sometimes difficult, and what to do when you're just not wanting to finish something. Our advice!? Add pleasure, and make it meaningful...come join us!
Links Mentioned:
Tosha Silver Forum
Stephanie Banks Intuitive Channel
Private Practice Show
Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski
That's the Right Way to Feel
Today we are talking about the reasons why we choose to do things and how our motivations impact what we end up doing (and not doing!).
Do you want to give your social person these links that we referenced in the episode?
Your call, but here they are:
Tosha Silver
Brene Brown podcast with Harriet Lerner
Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
Why Won't You Apologize? by Harriet Lerner
Joyfully Sluggish + Identity Shedding + Transitions
Today we are talking about what it's like to go through transitions (life, relationships, seasons, etc.) and how it's easy to become judgy about yourself without even realizing it. We're also talking through difficulties in shifting from one thing to the next, as well as describing one of the KEY THINGS you can do when in the midst of the hard feels. If you get stuck sometimes in feeling shitty about yourself, this is the one to listen to!
Links Mentioned:
The Woman They Could Not Silence by Kate Moore
Governerds Fall Fun Workshop Person
The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck
Sex Education on Netflix
Made of Stone by Matt Corby on Spotify
Welcome to WIHTW! May We Normalize That For You!?
Welcome to our very 1st episode! Please allow us to introduce ourselves. This show will be a behind-the-scenes look at our work in mental + emotional health as two psychologists. If you're someone who wants to live a big meaningful life AND is a deep feeler (who also doesn't mind use of profanity), we need to talk with YOU. Come join us!
Links Mentioned:
The Brink Academy with Dr. Alysondra Duke
Group Therapy with Dr. Chelsi Davis