Whole Heart Transformation

Join me today as Dr. Debi Silber and I discuss Post Betrayal Transformation.

Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. 

We can't heal what we don't feel and we can't heal what we don't face.

Subconscious loyalty involves feeling a strong need to protect our parents, whether it's their image or our feelings about them. Ultimately, this can hinder your healing.

The root of our pain is surprising to many. That's because. facing and feeling reality isn't something we feel capable of. So whatever is causing the pain now (like betrayal or any other pain) we find ourselves focusing on that and not getting relief.

Join me today as I share more and how to finally get relief from the trauma once and for all.

Many partners of sexual addicts (or any addiction) believe that if they were enough their addicted partner would stop their addictive behaviors.

In this episode, I will discuss WHY you can't be enough and what you need to do instead.

Many of us didn't have the security in our upbringing to just be and be ok. Our parents (for most of us) didn't have the tools, skills or understanding of what children needed.

When our parents don't help us see the world in a connected healthy way, we have no other option but to split off from the shame we feel because of it.

Join me as I share a little more about this from the perspective of parts work and how we can get on the healing journey.

Join me today as I discuss the importance of emotional growth.

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Anger is a part of the grief process. When we are not in touch with anger or if it has become our first emotional response, there is most likely a place where anger was the safest emotion to express rather than deep sadness.

On the opposite side, frozen anger ( when we aren't even connected to it) could reveal that we aren't even in touch with grief in many ways. Which means we could be disconnected from reality.

Listen as I shared further about this on today's episode.

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Here's some key steps to awareness of how generational pain and trauma gets passed down and how to stop passing it.

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Grief is a part of life. Many of us weren't taught how to grieve. Science is revealing the deeper harm that is caused to ourselves when we don't process emotions, but not only does it cost us, it costs future generations as well.

Take a listen as I share how avoiding grief is harmful and what you can do about it.

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Many times when we attempt to deal with the issues we are facing whether that is overeating, not working out, addictions, inability to stop yelling at our kids or whatever else we could put on the list, we need to get to the root. All the behaviors are just symptoms of soil and root issues and not the problem itself.

Most of the work I see people attempt to do is behavioral management. This doesn't get to the roots. It's cutting off the fruit. Which means that eventually the old fruit will be produced at some point again. You can take that to the bank!

Today I share how to get to the roots so you no longer produce the fruit that you don't like.

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Wondering why you are going back to the same things and having the same problems?

Today I will be talking about the "why" and how to change PERMANENTLY.

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Many of us want to avoid emotional pain. We will do anything not to sit with it and avoid it at all costs.

But in order to heal grow and change, we have to face it. Without facing the pain head on, we will find ourselves repeating painful cycles.

Join me today as I share how to face the pain and what to expect on the other side.

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Have you gone through hardships that have left you joyless?

Has betrayal hit your relationship and you feel as if you're sinking in grief with no way out?

Join me today as I address what happens to our brain when we aren't getting the proper chemical in our brain and body that give us joy and how to gain joy back even in the midst of grief.

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There are 2 main components to getting our healing process started. Without these 2 components, we won't even begin the process of healing.

Take a listen as I share these components and next steps!

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Attachment is the very foundation of our beginning as a human. If that foundation isn't developed properly in childhood, we will be left with attachment deficits in adulthood.

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Join me today as I share my story from the lens of healing and post traumatic growth.

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Join me today as I share some of the most powerful and impact ways to heal

Our body carries our story more so than our brain. When we become curious with the signals our body is attempting to point us to we can begin to heal as a we discover what it is trying to say. When we avoid curiosity, we stop the healing process and stifle our growth.

Join me today and I talk about examples from my own healing journey and some of my clients who have overcome with simple curiosity for what is happening inside.

Self reflection is a skill we learn in childhood. If we aren't able to self reflect, we won't be able to discover how to heal and change. Listen, as I share how I help my kids learn to self reflect and how you can learn to even if you didn't gain the skills in childhood so you can grow and heal too.

There is a real need to heal when betrayal hits your life. Here are some reasons why looking for healing from your betraying parter won't heal the deep pain.

Many people believe that once you become an adult that your childhood experiences are no longer an excuse or reason for how you show up as an adult. Unfortunately nothing could be further from the truth. Join me as I share my journey and the journey of supporting others in their process to healthy, secure attachment.

False connection is a fleeting experience. It is not sustainable but we do this because it appears that it will make us feel better and fill the deep hole inside.

Hook culture is breeding avoidant attachment and leaving many people more lonely than ever before. It's a real concern. Take a listen as I share more about the concerns and what can be done to change and heal.

How infidelity shatters the soul and the process to heal.

Embodied beliefs are what we experience as beliefs in our whole body. The only way to heal these beliefs is to feel them all the way through. Listen for how in todays podcast.

Our childhood either prepares us to be healthy adults, or it leaves us to grow up with deficits and unable to deal with difficult situations.

Why you may not be experiencing real transformation and how to get there.

Ever wonder if you can/should share your emotions or experiences with people, and later regret sharing because of how they respond?

I will share 7 signs of emotionally safe people so you can understand what to look for when leaning in to share. And so you can understand for yourself if you are an emotionally safe person.

In order to mature in emotional intelligence, you have to recognize where you are deficient.

Anger is good! Many of us were taught that it was bad or we witnessed out control anger so we don't know how to express it at all or we don't know how to express it in a healthy way. I will discuss these facets of anger and how to heal.

Empathy, Sympathy, Empaths and none is the topic of discussion for today. If you find yourself wondering why you may fall into any of these categories, here's some reasons why.

The root is the fruit of all behaviors that we don't want or like. And that root is always disconnection and aloneness. Join me today as I talk in depth on why this is the root and how to heal.

Notice that you complain more than you like? Or that you complain attempting to be heard but don't get the needs met that you were hoping to be met?Take a listen to why you might be doing this and what's underneath the complaints and how to change it.