What I Didn't Tell My Therapist - REBOOT

Haley Novander, a comedic actress, writer and the former co-host of the original What I Didn’t Tell My Therapist Podcast discusses her writing process, identity and some challenges she’s currently facing in her creative pursuits. Creative Wellness Coach, Leela Davis and Expressive Arts Practitioner, Kelsay Myers share some writing tips from their own experiences with the creative process and offer some coaching to Haley in this information-packed, philosophical and hilarious episode! We discuss the importance of “more than one art” in communicating and healing our identities as women and creatives through writing. We offer a lot of resources and practices to help confront creative blocks and share some of our favorite spiritual and creative programs. . .and we have a whole lot of fun doing it! 

If you’re looking for some inspiration to renew your passion and commitment to your writing and creative pursuits, you won’t want to miss this episode! 

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Haley Novander’s life philosophy can be summed up in four words: Adapt. React. Readapt. Act.

NSFW and NSFkids Alert - On this Episode Amanda Quick, a Quantum Energy Healer and author of  The Sex Trafficker's Wife  reveals the whole spectrum of the power of transformative spirituality.  Amanda vulnerably shares what it is like as a very young woman to have your  family and life BLOWN apart by her husband's criminal behavior.  She is transparent about her initial unwillingness to accept the horrific reality led her to make some mistakes, which she had to pay the price for.  And what was the turnaround?  A psychic's revelation that her inability to SEE the truth was a Karmic result from a past life entanglement with her husband. This realization sends her into the quagmire of challenging social worker's lawyers and the system to keep her children safe from the man who is their father.  It is a wild ride and even has a Hollywood Happily-Ever-After ending.  This is the perfect show to watch for anyone who is in an abusive relationship and needs inspiration to get out, who wants to understand how to protect kids from SA or help them if you suspect something.  Amanda's story reminds us that messy realities take a fierce dedication to resolve but can absolutely lead to a much better life, if one is willing to go through the fire of the discomfort zone.  From the shadows into the light, Amanda also shares her wise insights and the beautiful work she is now doing helping to her clients heal their trauma.

Check out the links below to get access to her riveting memoir, and find out how you can learn more from her and work with her.

Challenging the typical adoptee narratives, The Adopted Chameleon community activist and trauma-informed yoga therapy instructor, Lorah Gerald shares her experiences healing from adoption trauma. Creative Wellness Coach, Leela Davis and Expressive Arts Coach, Kelsay Myers get personal, political, and spiritual with Lorah in this episode. We discuss the power of adoptee stories in correcting social myths around the idea of being “grateful.” We explore the need  to “fix” things or “figure it out” because adoptees are always searching for their identity, their biological family, or a therapist to connect to! We cover surrogacy, foster care, trauma responses, the higher risk of suicide for adoptees, somatic therapies, and “the science” behind the effect of early life separation from birth mothers in a system that buys and sells children, as well as alternatives to growing up in abusive homes in general. Lorah even shares a breathing exercise to help settle a highly activated system. We also cover the intuitive, the energetic, and various resources for adoptee healing that are out there, including Lorah’s own projects centered around giving voice to adoptee experiences. You won’t want to miss this timely conversation on the heels of the overturning of Roe v. Wade and Adoption Awareness Month!

Welcome to our World of Woo and Wonderful Weirdness.  Kelsay Elizabeth Myers and I, from the first day we met, realized we were Sisters from another Mister AND Mistress!  We both have Michiganian family roots, both grew up feeling like outsiders for very different reasons.  In order to cope with the challenges of this we turned to creative expression - writing, acting, singing and dancing into our adulthood.  In our early 30's we realized we needed more to heal the unique traumas we experienced as children and early adulthood and deepened into spirituality.  Kelsay tells of how she was a reluctant medium since childhood until she started on her path to becoming a Reiki Master.  Leela explains how Astrology helped her map her healing journey since the age of 10.  And more recently they have found purpose and direction in their studies and application of Human Design to their lives.  They both happen to be Projectors.  This episode reveals how healing doesn't just have to be work but can be a delightful and enriching adventure.

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Welcome to the Season 3 TRAILER of What I Didn't Tell My Therapist - Reboot, where Creative Wellness Coach and your consistent co-host, Leela Davis, returns with a new co-host – Expressive Arts Coach and founder of Dialogical Persona Healing Arts, Kelsay Elizabeth Myers – to discuss all things different, human, wonderful and weird in this world!   We have a whole new couch, a whole new energy, and lots of creativity, guidance and wooey wisdom this season from our guests as well as your two Projector co-hosts!    For all those who grew up feeling like outsiders, aliens, or in some way didn’t belong, we hope you find some comfort, solace, and learn new tools for healing and self-expression in Season 3 of What I Didn’t Tell My Therapist!    

Can you be " Addicted to Love"?  Sure you can - and according to Robert Palmer, it's great.  But is it though?  Edited down from 4 hours of  discussions spread over 2 days David Greenleaf, Trauma Recovery Specialist and Leela Davis, Creative Wellness coach discuss the pitfalls of what many 12 Step groups refer to as "Sex and Love Addiction."  We discuss our own harrowing tales of Love gone wrong, due to the misfortunes and misunderstandings about healthy relating we learned from our family dynamics.  We point out that "co-dependancy" is a prominent feature in how Western Cultures have trained us to form romantic relationships for both men and women.  We even cover the science of WHY addictions form in the area of romantic and sexual relationships.  And no show would be complete without us sharing a number of different strategies to identify dysfunction in our relationships and learn how to heal ourselves so we can form new healthy relationships.  As David says in the show -
Strap in for a wild ride!"  If the term "love addiction" seemed a curiosity to you before.  You will be able to give a TED talk on the topic by the end of the show, especially if you start digging into the extensive resources mentioned in the episode.

Reading List on Love Addiction - Amazon links provided are NOT affiliate links, only provided for convenience.

On this episode we are interviewing Alessandra Amico-Jones, a Certified Practitioner of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) also known as tapping, joining us on the Pod.  We also have a switch in co-hosts - Whaaaat?  David Greenleaf a life-coach specializing in thriving beyond trauma and in recovery is taking over for Jude Gorini for a few shows.  Jude Gorini's last show was #16.  He is going on to other creative projects and I will share the info on how to continue following him later in the show notes.

But BACK to Alessandra, she tells her personal stories and shares those of her clients of how tapping has dramatically shifted experiences of grief, anxiety, and depression.  EFT/Tapping is good not only for emotional pain, but also physical pain and changing mindset.  In fact toward the end of the show, Alessandra leads us through a short tapping routine for the inner critic.  We will be posting the whole inner critic tapping routine and Alessandra's instructions on our YouTube Channel soon!  

EFT/Tapping is both powerful but also very gentle and simple to implement.  Simple enough to help children help themselves.  Alessandra has recently written a book - The Magic Within You - to assist children and their parents to learn about and practice tapping to address childhood challenges.  She is also making a special offer through the podcast - offering a free 15 minute tapping session if you DM her on Instagram and tell her you heard her interview on this podcast.

Here are the Amazon links for - The Magic Within You

Have you ever felt so exhausted and overwhelmed with your life and all its responsibilities?  You may be on the way to or in the middle of

Burn-out.  Burn-out is more than simple exhaustion after a hard day of work, it involves the degradation of your life force physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  And those of us who live to serve and help others and are often in the front of the line leading to Burnout.  Dr. Mary (Chiropractic Doctor and Medical Intuitive) describes how she went through a protracted period of Burnout, in spite of being in the medical field, due to her passion to help others, and ignoring the signs of how she needed to support her own health as well.  This led to her leaving a successful chiropractic practice that she had spent over 20 years building to start a new life on the other side of the world.  Who does that?  A woman who wants to save her marriage, rediscover happiness and purpose, and renew her health in her middle age.  Dr. Sanders goes on tell of her adventures, discoveries and studies around the world.  

If you want to understand how to address mindset issues that lead to burn-out, we are talking about you, PERFECTIONISM and COMPARISON, listen to this show as Dr. Mary, Jude and myself all speak about each of our Burn-out Journeys and Lessons.  There is a lot of wisdom and HOPE in this show.  Dr. Mary explains how learning how to manage one's energy gives us 2nd, 3rd, 4th and more chances at life.

Be sure to stay till the end or check out her website below to get information about her offerings.  You absolutely don't have to feel old before you are chronologically "old."  And any one who learns how to tap into the eternal life force, really has access to the fountain of youth.

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Jude is a cat-dude and I am a OUT-LOUD and PROUD Cat AND Dog Lady.  And in today's episode Jude and I pummel Lauren Parsch, a cat behaviorist with question after question.  If you love cats or want to love them better this show will be of great value to you.  Lauren first tells us about her challenges in getting to know the first and second cats in her life and how her mission to create peace in her home led to a full-on obsession about cat info.  She finally gave in to her obsession and made a career out of it, and is now certified in Cat behavior.  It IS a thing!

She gives some great tips on how to begin improving your one one one relationship with a cat, the key differences between cats and dogs, what key factor leads to behavior problems in cats, how to introduce new cats into the household, why they are great for our mental and general health and more.

I had a great experience working with Lauren regarding introducing my Pomeranian dog Pippin Puppacino to my cat BBG aka Blackberry Girl.  BBG is super territorial and hates other cats but with Lauren's advice I was able to introduce Pippin into the household without any drama.  They peacefully co-exist and now sleep on the same bed as me, when BBG is in the mood.  She is a cat after all!

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What do you do when Addiction plays too big a role in your family?  Start a podcast of course!  Beth Syverson and her son Joey have used their SAFE HOME PODCAST as a powerful tool to explore and share healing, communication and information to help other families avoid the same pitfalls they have experienced.  Their podcast covers rarely discussed perspectives on addiction, adoption trauma, bullying, addiction relapse, over-the-counter addictions and so much more.  In today's show Beth discusses how her own struggle with sugar and workaholism and her own healing journey with Buddhism and therapy has given her the insight to maintain a compassionate and supportive connection with Joey.  She explains how the addictions have come about as a result of adoption trauma and racist bullying directed toward Joey as a Japanese-American and that these root traumas, until they are healed can cause dysregulation that needs soothing.  Since his middle-school years Joey has struggled with suicidal ideation, and attempted suicide multiple times.  The pain has been real and led abuse of over-the-counter drugs, psychadelics, marijuana, among other substances.  Beth points out that just because a child or adult has substance abuse issues, it doesn't make them bad - but it does point out that they are in pain.  And it is the pain that needs to be addressed not the character or morality of the person.  During the podcast we also discuss the reality that our  American culture rewards individuals for some addictions like workaholism, heavily punishes us for street drug abuse, and is neutral about sugar addiction.  And there is the ironic reality that many of the pharmaceuticals that are pushed upon people with mental health challenges are as toxic and addictive and sometimes more so than marijuana or some other illegal substances.  This is such an important show, because addiction touches all of us personally in ways we need to better understand!

To see how a family can maintain bonds through real life struggles, while also maintaining their own principles and prioritizing healthy and not co-dependent relationships, check out this show Episode 14 and then pop over and binge on Beth and Joey's SAFE HOME PODCAST.

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You can find What I Didn't Call My Therapist on all major podcast platforms!  And please subscribe, share, and RATE 5 stars where you can! You can also find us on Instagram @whatididnttellmytherapist.  And stay tuned for our YouTube channel of the same name for videos of the pods - with some outtakes.

Get ready to be pumped up by life coach, David Greenleaf’s transformational life stories.

What do you do after spending years focusing on healing your trauma, doing all the “right things” like regular therapy sessions and attending AA meetings, daily meditation, journaling and focusing on self-love and you are stuck STILL feeling sorry for yourself and your life?  David Greenleaf, life coach/blogger and podcaster, with many years work experience as a social worker tells us how he broke through from a victim mindset to being victorious over his inner demons.  It all started with Greenleaf listening to the inspirational work of David Goggin’s “Can’t Hurt Me.”  Goggins is an inspirational speaker, ex-Navy Seal and Ultra-Marathon competitor.

Greenleaf dove head first into exploring Goggins’ tough love approach of pushing through mental and emotional resistance to change through a confrontation with physical limits by taking up an intense cross-training routine. You will hear how his intense dedication to physical mastery, benefiting from his supportive cross-training community totally transformed his life.  After years of feeling oppressed by his history of childhood trauma, trying to cope with it through alcoholism, co-dependency and drugs, followed by years of working his Anonymous programs - he finally feels like he is living the life he was always meant to live.

Redefining his body also led him to redefine his career, realizing he could no longer work in a broken mental health care system which wasn’t truly addressing or helping to solve the root problems of his clients.  What makes Greenleaf’s work so unique - is that he has fearlessly confronted the trauma of his own life for years, and through it started serving others.  But in his own practice he adds: the introspective gifts of what he calls “deep woo-woo” of mindfulness in nature, raw-heart-felt sharing of his life story in his blogs and podcast to create connections with people and life, and t a “hard-ass with a heart of gold” personal trainer approach to life-coaching.  Join us for a wild ride of healing with David Greenleaf!

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Much of what we know about Sex Trafficking we learn through sensational stories through the media, or exploitative narratives through entertainment.  In this episode Laura Wilcox, the Founder of Stir It Up Collective - a Canadian Non-profit created to provide skill enhancement, somatic healing workshops, employment opportunities, and eventually, Peer Support to individuals who have experienced sex trafficking, gives us REAL tips on how to:

• Recognize and protect yourself or others from sex trafficking
• What makes a person vulnerable to being lured into trafficking
• What are the methods traffickers use to lure people in
• Help someone if you suspect they are being trafficked and/or abusive relationship
• Find help if you are in a sex trafficking situation
• Increase one’s confidence to escape a sex trafficking situation
• Start healing through Somatic work - dancing, singing, etc.

Sara Milligan, board member of the Stir It Up Collective further elaborates on the above and adds her knowledge of anti-violence work she has gained working in a Domestic Shelter.  She explains how in spite of how grim the issues of Sex Trafficking and anti-violence are, that both she and Laura really have found a joy in creating the collective.  Focusing on creative collaboration and healing is a joyful act - and focusing on this joy is prioritized in order to mitigate the painful struggles of their clientele.

Jude and I learned so much from these angels in human form doing such important work in their community!  We know you will too!

You can follow Stir It Up Collective and learn more about their Mission on:

Haley Novander and Liza Davis dish out on their latest Fabbo Fails (things they are struggling with & determined to turn around).  Haley is dreading the dark and cold being a Southern California Belle.  Liza suggests that they hold a funeral for summer and focus on cozy inside activities like baking and making art.  Haley considers adopting a Bear mindset & crafting an organic B--t plug & committing to months of winter hibernation.

This is an episode about POLITICS, SOCIAL MEDIA and other STUFF that makes both Haley and Liza crazy, like talking about politics and the modern world with family when you don't exactly see eye 2 eye.  

1. A little recap on the last Debate warming up for the next - Do we really want to be forced into choosing a candidate before we are ready? The primaries so many months away? Especially those virgin voters out there?  Shouldn't they be given a chance to get to know the candidates before they pop their political cherry?
2. A sidebar on #Marianne Williamson whom they both agree is a candidate whose candidacy is grounded in a deep knowledge of American History & grounded morality, yet is maligned and misrepresented by the media.  
3. A sidebar on Misogyny in politics leads to  Kavanaugh - and his  member-swinging days of yore.  The main question being does he STILL refer to farting as BOOFING?  
4. And HOW would any political discussion be complete without a discussion on how Social Media has been dividing us as a country?  Liza has discovered that her Twitter addiction can serve as a window into learning how to deal with conflicts.  How she has been able to transform a rabidly aggressive twitter banter with digitalized foes into a digitalized friendship.  Do I hear the angels singing?
5. And THEN it gets personal with Haley sharing her SECRETS on how to make peace with Right-leaning and Religious parents if you are a lefty-loosey!
6. And THEN it gets MORE personal with Liza making a BIG REVEAL on how her Midwestern and selectively racist family came to accept her Secret past identity.  You want to know, you know you do!
7. And of COURSE there is more --- you know like - Why do White people claim to be chronically color-blind?   Or When does a VP get to announce to the White House staff on behalf of our FIRST WOMAN President, " Put your D--- s away there is a LADY in the HOUSE!"

So five shows into the podcast, Haley Novander and Liza Davis are reveling in the advantages of maintaining their anonymity in the creative world.  The struggles they have in their lives has NOTHING to do with their creative lives which allows them to do whatever the "F" they want on the pod and have a blasty-blast and introducing their alter egos - Heckler & PigDog.  

So in the theme of making and breaking rules - the show starts with the Auto-tuned song -  I Don't Need Tha-tha- Therapy by Haley Novander with Liza Davis accompanying.