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Your Real, Your Ideal

Your Real, Your Ideal

By Sandy Lane and Amy Tokos
Two women taking on life’s questions as posed by their listeners. Through their unique journeys in weathering life to date, Amy and Sandy, tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life.
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Ep. 41 Pack It In
Do you overpack or travel lite?  Sandy likes to travel lite and Amy is an over packer.  One time Amy got challenged to write an article about how to pack lite for a trip.  She decided to do it as an actual experiment and documented her packing and traveling for a week with only a carry on.  She learned a little about herself and what is really needed to enjoy a vacation.  Sandy on the other hand has done a trip with just a string backpack.  What was she trying to prove?? Enjoy our conversation. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
36:39
May 6, 2021
Ep. 40 Acts of Kindness
Random acts of kindness not only feel good for the receiver, but also the giver.  Sandy and Amy set out for a fun week of doing acts of kindness, asking about acts of kindness during this pandemic and getting some video.  It didn’t all turn out as planned, but as always, we had a lot to share. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Sited articles: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-nourishment/201711/why-random-acts-kindness-matter-your-well-being#:~:text=When%20we%20practice%20random%20acts,be%20kind%20to%20other%20people.&text=Kindness%20reduces%20stress.
38:31
April 29, 2021
Ep. 39 Surprise
Most episodes Sandy and Amy are in different states but last episode, Sandy surprised Amy with an in person visit.  It was so fun, it got us thinking, who likes surprises?  We polled friends and family and found out not many people like surprises.  But there is an interesting twist to this little tidbit.  Enjoy our conversation. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Sited articles: https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/takeaway/segments/surprise-unexpected-why-it-feels-good-and-why-its-good-us https://splinternews.com/science-explains-why-surprise-brings-us-pleasure-1793846784
36:59
April 22, 2021
Ep. 38 Villains and Victims
The easy route when dealt with conflict is to play victim. Women are especially good at this. It feels good and most people sympathize with the victim. Win-win. But there are no victims without villains. All drama is constructed of the villain and victim mentality. Are real life stories really those of villains and victims or is the truth somewhere in the middle? Is a true friend one who doesn’t automatically sympathize and help build the villain, but one who shows compassion and helps learn from the journey? You can lift someone up without tearing someone else down. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal Content referenced in this conversation: Blog post https://sandyalanedays.blogspot.com/2019/05/may-15-2019-victims-and-villains.html article: https://jacobdevaney.medium.com/villains-victims-and-heroes-which-one-are-you-63be4f9d8d0f https://www.healthline.com/health/victim-mentality#signs Revisionist History: Free Brian Williams https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELM_WEoV3Ns
43:47
April 15, 2021
Ep. 37 Love Languages
If you feel any kind of disconnect with a child, spouse or friend, it could be because you’re speaking different love languages.  The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman outlines the different languages we speak, why we need to speak others love language and how to do it.  It’s a very interesting concept to explore in your relationships. Show Links: Oprah and Chapman conversation:  https://omny.fm/shows/oprah-s-supersoul-conversations/oprah-and-dr-gary-chapman-the-five-love-languages Determine your love language: www.5lovelanguages.com Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
33:14
April 8, 2021
Ep. 36 Conflict - Avoid or Embrace?
 Conflict can be so uncomfortable, especially when working with a team.  It feels much better when everyone is in agreement.  Is it possible to shift our thinking about conflict and consider it more of a gift.  The people who share different perspectives can help you see your blind spots. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
32:32
April 1, 2021
Ep.35 Get ‘er Done
Get ‘er done is a tongue-in-cheek quote (most often associated with Nebraskan, Larry the Cable Guy) but this action carries a lot of significance. Starting something is great, but finishing is the grand prize. Many of us (including Amy and Sandy) struggle with kicking the can over the line. Not only is it important to finish what we start, but to pick the right things to start and finish. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
33:14
March 25, 2021
Ep.34 Untamed Book Discussion
We all know our authentic self but have we adjusted to match societal expectations...are we caged?  Sandy and Amy recently read the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle.  She’s a great story teller that explores stepping out of our cages and honoring the knowing. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
33:08
March 18, 2021
Ep. 33 Where are You From?
As we celebrate St. Patty’s Day, enjoying our Irish heritage (or pretending we have Irish lineage), we are reminded that we are all from somewhere. From family who immigrated from another country generations ago to our childhood beloved hometown, we hold dearly our roots. Amy and Sandy discuss the human connection to our heritage and need to belong to something deeper than ourselves. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
34:23
March 11, 2021
Ep. 32 Take Me Away
We are on the road again! After months of dreaming for our days of travel to be back. Amy and Sandy are finally enjoying some much wanted travel. But as with all things in life, especially a life riddled with COVID, our journeys have changed. Although we are giddy to pack our luggage again, we are also finding travel feels a lot different, some good and some bad. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
32:42
March 4, 2021
Ep. 31 Truth Hurts
Honesty is a coveted virtue. One we place highly as a building block to integrity and character. But what about when the truth hurts? What if a white lie is told to avoid pain or ugliness of a situation? Is truth always the golden rule? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
32:19
February 25, 2021
Ep. 30 Needs vs. Wants
Reviewing our financial years for 2020 vs 2021, most of us see stark differences in where we spent our money. Looking at fluctuations in income during COVID year as well, the financial comparison has been a good reflection; not only on core needs vs. wants but also the ROI (return on investment) in how we spend our money in relation to how we spend our time. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
32:40
February 18, 2021
Ep. 29 Taming Your Advice Monster
Want to help someone head in the “right” direction?  Well, we are sure you have some advice on share.  You might even use some advice our listeners shared on Episode 17 of our podcast.  We share advice because we want to help, but is there a little more to it?  We discuss how to tame that desire to “help” and how to switch the conversations to curiosity not solutions. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
33:42
February 11, 2021
Ep. 28 Chasing the Bright Side
Oh, to be optimistic.  Amy joined Sandy’s book club in reading Chasing the Bright Side by Jess Ekstrom and on this podcast we have a mini book discussion. What resonated with us is the concept of hope for the future which was highlighted in her stories of resilience and perseverance. Email your book recommendations, suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
31:48
February 4, 2021
Ep. 27 When Life isn’t Beautiful
 “To heal we have to remember” - President Joe Biden regarding the loss of lives due to the pandemic.  It’s been a rough year for some of us.  How do we move forward when life isn’t always beautiful.  We’ve all had those events that have left their mark. Amy and Sandy share a few and how they moved forward. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
35:26
January 28, 2021
Ep. 26 Judgy Judy
What is the difference between an opinion and a judgement? Although being judged feels harsh, too often we ourselves rush to judgement before taking the time to form honest opinions. Sandy and Amy dig into this topic.  When do you share an opinion?  Just because you have it, doesn’t mean others want to hear it. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
37:53
January 21, 2021
Ep. 25 Perfecting the Pivot
I was reading an article about how successful businesses perfected their pivot to survive the COVID shutdown and changes forced from the pandemic. I got to thinking how this applied to individuals as well. How do you react when change happens? Do you successfully pivot or cower from the obstacle? Let’s discuss how to perfect the pivot.  PS- Amy mentions this is episode 24, but she was off.  It’s really 25!! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
38:36
January 14, 2021
Ep. 24 You Win Some. You Lose Some.
Amy and Sandy will reflect on their wins and losses for the year. What worked and what didn’t? From parenting and work to relationships and goals, it is an episode on the reflection of the good, the bad, and even a little bit of ugly. Things may always look rosy from the outside view, but the failures are real and necessary for future wins. Related quotes: “Mistakes are portals of discovery” - James Joyce “Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement” - Rita Mae Brown Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
36:25
January 7, 2021
Ep. 23 Goals and Habits into the New Year
Come January 1st self improvement is on everyone’s mind, including Sandy and Amy’s.  What can we do different this year to be better?  Research shows that of the 50% of adults that make resolutions only 10% will keep them more than a few months. Yep, we’ve been there. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
55:49
December 31, 2020
Ep. 22 How to say Goodbye
Change is hard. Leaving relationships along with the security and the investment that went into them is even harder. We hold on to what brings us comfort. And then there's death and mortality, the ultimate fear for most.  So much in this conversation! Some tips we discussed: 1. Don't rush your goodbyes; it's a continual process so start early. 2. Keep objects as a memory prompt. 3. Pinpoint exactly what you will miss. 4. Don't forget to say goodbye to places and things. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:00:14
December 24, 2020
Ep. 21 Thanks for the Feedback
Ugh, feedback. It can be well received or ruin your day. If you fine tune the way you give and receive feedback, it can help you in life long self awareness and improvement.  Sandy and Amy are doing a book discussion about “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:03:12
December 17, 2020
Ep. 20 Location, Location, Location
Where would you live if you could live anywhere?  Where we plant ourselves can be different in each phase of our lives.  There are many things that brings us to where we are currently living.  Maybe we’ve always lived in the area, or maybe a job brought us here.  These days, with more and more online work, many of us could be living anywhere.  What makes your city your home? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:02:06
December 11, 2020
Ep. 19 Is Gratitude an Attitude (or a must for 2020)?
Have you heard that 2020 has been a rough year?  We’re hearing a lot of people just wanting 2020 to go away.  We’re taking a different approach by looking at 2020 through the lens of gratitude.  This little shift in perspective can help all of us appreciate the good that also happened in 2020. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
56:11
December 3, 2020
Ep. 18 Who’s the Boss?
If we lead and are self-assured women, does this make us bossy? Being told we are confident and in charge feels good. Being told we are bossy and controlling feels judgy. What is the fine line between the two and how do we best present ourselves to come across in the most effective way?  In this episode we talk about  #BanBossy. You can get more info as a teacher, parent  or manager at https://banbossy.com/ Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
56:37
November 27, 2020
Ep. 17 You Can't Alway Get What You Want (and other good advice)
 We were looking for a little advice to talk about so we asked our listeners to share their best advice.  We got so many submissions!  We picked a few and took a deep dive in this podcast. We had fun reading the advice and sharing why it resonated with us.  If you want to read all the advice we got, you can find it HERE.  Enjoy! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
57:35
November 19, 2020
Ep. 16 Stop Apologizing!
 We find women in my life apologize A LOT! And for things they don’t need to apologize for. They overthink situations and then go back with regret on what they say or felt. Why do women have the knee-jerk reaction of apologizing for how they feel? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
55:40
November 12, 2020
Ep. 15 What About the Dreamers?
We talk about the real in all of our discussions. But what about hopes and dreams? What about the dreamers? Should we always be realistic in our thoughts or do we need space in our brain to dream for what may seem unrealistic?  Amy and Sandy explore how to encourage and support the dreams of others plus when (and if) you need to step in with some reality. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
56:35
November 5, 2020
Ep. 14 My Ordinary Life
What are you doing tonight...same thing as last night? If you have tried to simplify your life in the past, this moment in time with the pandemic could feel boring.  We can embrace the ordinary knowing that this time will pass, but what do we do with all this free time?? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:01:07
October 29, 2020
Ep. 13 Just Do It!
We’ve all heard “Anyone can be an activist”.   There is a moment in your life when you have all of a sudden feel like you have the time to do small things to help a cause.  Then, you might notice yourself doing bigger things.  What’s the cause you’re willing to give your time too?  It’s never too late to “Just do it” Please rate and review us!!  We love hearing from our listeners! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
57:16
October 22, 2020
Ep. 12 Let’s Talk Money!
Money can be a blessing and a curse. The more we make, the more we spend. Our monthly financial obligations can turn into a ‘handcuff’ against making desired life decisions. “I can’t change careers because I can’t make what I make today.” “I don’t have enough spare money to cover cost of the course I SOOOOO want to take.” Starting with a zero budget and analyzing every cost as needed, wanted, necessary (or plan to reduce in future) is a great exercise and digging deep in what really matters. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
57:26
October 15, 2020
Ep. 11 “That’s for Old People” - Aging with Dignity
Aging is tough. We are all doing it, but in different stages. The last phase is the notably the hardest, given our mortality stares us in the face and our vessel of a body can not do the things it could do at a younger age. The key is in handling hard life choices and the aging process with human dignity and leading with this driving principle. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:03:12
October 9, 2020
Ep. 10 Talk Less. Smile More.
It is so easy to jump to judgment and offer your two cents, state your point, before anyone else. We all want to be heard, especially when we feel passionate about something. The problem is we miss the input of others when we talk over them. Collaboration is a great thing and true collaboration involves active listen and understanding others points of view. This applies both at work and in personal relationships. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com  or by voice mail here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/message Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
59:46
October 1, 2020
Ep. 9 Let’s be REAL
Let’s turn things a little upside down.  Instead of doing magical thinking, let’s be realistic.  Let’s fill our lives with the essential, not everything.  Let’s be authentic and not just follow the crowd.  And lastly, are we creating a life that’s livable.  Are we thriving or just surviving?  The episode we talk about all these aspects of being REAL in your day to day living including the obstacles and the rewards. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Leave a voice mail here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/message Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:02:58
September 24, 2020
Ep. 8: I Don’t Work with Assholes
 Too often we equate being successful at work or growing our client base to requiring whatever it takes to move up to the next level. But good work relationships do matter. No one gets a pass for being an asshole. Not every relationship is a good fit, but being an asshole is a non-negotiable. Life is too short to work with assholes. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Leave a voice mail for us here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/message Find us on: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:00:03
September 18, 2020
Ep. 7 She’s So Vain
It is a common theory that to be your best person is to be humble, definitely not vain. And is a level of vanity bad? Looking and feeling our best brings out our best in our words, actions and outlook. How do we distinguish between self-care and vanity?  Amy and Sandy dig into this topic and share their "vain" moments. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com or by voice mail here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/message Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
52:25
September 10, 2020
Ep. 6 Own Your Shit!
Taking responsibility for your mistakes can be hard.  No one is perfect, you can tell when people are not stepping up, there is an appreciation for people who do take responsibility, comfort in knowing mistakes are ok.  We are at our best when we can create a safe space for ourselves and others to come clean. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
55:22
September 3, 2020
Ep. 5 What's Your Happiness Factor?
How happy are you? Ask yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, how consistently happy are you at this stage in your life? There is so much talk on the quest to find happiness and joy in life. We will discuss the real behind the happiness factor and what affects this and the formula (yes, there is one!) behind achieving your ideal highest and most consistent state of happiness. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
01:17:28
September 1, 2020
Ep. 4 Should I Say or Should I No?
How do we create positive change in the face of all racial and political oppression of today? When is it courage to speak up or wisdom to way nothing? How do we navigate through oppression to enable positive steps forward? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
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September 1, 2020
Ep. 3 The Life Script Model
  Why do we feel so inclined to parent under The Life Script Model?  What does stepping outside the life script look like?     “There is an overwhelming desire for people to follow the ‘life script model’. When people break it, it becomes very noticeable.”~Kate Bowler. The concept was introduced to us when listening to a Kate Bowler “Everything Happens” podcast. She talked about it from the perspective of a cancer patient and facing death. The Life Script Model resonated with us as individuals and as a parents. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
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September 1, 2020
Ep. 2 I'll Have What She's Having
Just like the classic line from "Harry Met Sally", people too often chase happiness by wanting to mirror others. Sandy and Amy discuss the misnomer of trying to achieve this Sally zen by duplicating actions and lives in a quest to obtain the same. “I’ll have what she’s having” seems so simple an ask. Yet just like the humor of this movie moment, it is rarely a reality. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
52:35
September 1, 2020
Ep.1 Welcome and Our New Normal
Amy and Sandy discuss their lives post-shutdown (coronavirus). The new normal is happening and we’ve decided to start a conversation.  We are two women taking on life’s questions. Through our unique journeys in weathering life to date we will tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
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September 1, 2020