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Your Real, Your Ideal

Your Real, Your Ideal

By Sandy Lane and Amy Tokos
Two women taking on life’s questions as posed by their listeners. Through their unique journeys in weathering life to date, Amy and Sandy, tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life.
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Ep. 8: I Don’t Work with Assholes
 Too often we equate being successful at work or growing our client base to requiring whatever it takes to move up to the next level. But good work relationships do matter. No one gets a pass for being an asshole. Not every relationship is a good fit, but being an asshole is a non-negotiable. Life is too short to work with assholes. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Find us on: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
1:00:02
September 18, 2020
Ep. 7 She’s So Vain
It is a common theory that to be your best person is to be humble, definitely not vain. And is a level of vanity bad? Looking and feeling our best brings out our best in our words, actions and outlook. How do we distinguish between self-care and vanity?  Amy and Sandy dig into this topic and share their "vain" moments. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
52:25
September 10, 2020
Ep. 6 Own Your Shit!
Taking responsibility for your mistakes can be hard.  No one is perfect, you can tell when people are not stepping up, there is an appreciation for people who do take responsibility, comfort in knowing mistakes are ok.  We are at our best when we can create a safe space for ourselves and others to come clean. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
55:21
September 3, 2020
Ep. 5 What's Your Happiness Factor?
How happy are you? Ask yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, how consistently happy are you at this stage in your life? There is so much talk on the quest to find happiness and joy in life. We will discuss the real behind the happiness factor and what affects this and the formula (yes, there is one!) behind achieving your ideal highest and most consistent state of happiness. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
1:17:28
September 1, 2020
Ep. 4 Should I Say or Should I No?
How do we create positive change in the face of all racial and political oppression of today? When is it courage to speak up or wisdom to way nothing? How do we navigate through oppression to enable positive steps forward? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
49:14
September 1, 2020
Ep. 3 The Life Script Model
  Why do we feel so inclined to parent under The Life Script Model?  What does stepping outside the life script look like?     “There is an overwhelming desire for people to follow the ‘life script model’. When people break it, it becomes very noticeable.”~Kate Bowler. The concept was introduced to us when listening to a Kate Bowler “Everything Happens” podcast. She talked about it from the perspective of a cancer patient and facing death. The Life Script Model resonated with us as individuals and as a parents. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
53:59
September 1, 2020
Ep. 2 I'll Have What She's Having
Just like the classic line from "Harry Met Sally", people too often chase happiness by wanting to mirror others. Sandy and Amy discuss the misnomer of trying to achieve this Sally zen by duplicating actions and lives in a quest to obtain the same. “I’ll have what she’s having” seems so simple an ask. Yet just like the humor of this movie moment, it is rarely a reality. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
52:34
September 1, 2020
Ep.1 Welcome and Our New Normal
Amy and Sandy discuss their lives post-shutdown (coronavirus). The new normal is happening and we’ve decided to start a conversation.  We are two women taking on life’s questions. Through our unique journeys in weathering life to date we will tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k21w Twitter https://twitter.com/YourREALideal
52:08
September 1, 2020