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Listen To Your Single Friend

Listen To Your Single Friend

By Jazmine Karess

Voted Best New Podcast by The Black Podcasting Awards 2021!

Embracing all things single: The Good, The Bad, And The Lonely! LTYSF was created to help singles and daters take control of their love lives and to erase the negative stigma associated with singleness, particularly for Black Women. The show seeks to engage in an honest, but positive dialogue on dating.

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25. Season Finale: You Are Not A City Girl

Listen To Your Single FriendJun 09, 2021

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02:20:37
36. 2023 Goals and 2022 Goofies
Dec 31, 202201:54:58
35. Flirting Tips w/ Lady B
Jul 07, 202201:55:56
34. Single at Weddings
Apr 07, 202201:45:33
33. What Your Taken Friends Want You To Know ft. Unprofessional Opinion Podcast

33. What Your Taken Friends Want You To Know ft. Unprofessional Opinion Podcast

We have our FIRST married couple on the show - Unprofessional Opinion Podcast came over here and cut up! I had the them weigh in on prior discussions from the married perspective. We talked about what’s really considered cheating, dating men with vision vs potential, and single women who say they are “waiting for their husband.” Melody and Rashad also dropped all sorts of gems about sustaining a healthy relationships and pushing 20 years of marriage. You do NOT want to miss this episode! 

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess 

Guest Host: Unprofessional Opinion Podcast

 IG: @unprofessional_opinion 

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Lil 

Editor: @Tgmsvcs 

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3 

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Mar 16, 202202:08:35
32. Valentine's Day for Singles ft. Author Nikki M.
Feb 10, 202201:30:13
31. Should You Even Be Dating? ft. Meagan C of Single Girl Club
Jan 19, 202201:46:54
30. Shooting Your Shot
Dec 22, 202101:09:09
29. Purity Culture is Ruining Your Love Life ft. Danyelle Thomas of Unfit Christian
Nov 03, 202102:05:37
28. Navigating Common Dating Questions - Part 2

28. Navigating Common Dating Questions - Part 2

Part two! There were soooo many questions, I had to come back from more! Check out the 2nd half of this in-depth look at common dating questions. I get into some of the big questions, and also tell the epic "Red Lobster" story! lol. Also you are now listening to an award-winning podcast - WHOO HOO!!  Thank you to the Black Podcasting Awards for selecting Listen to Your Single Friend as the BEST NEW BLACK PODCAST 2021! Congrats to all the other winners and nominees! 

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.

Oct 02, 202101:03:04
27. "Wyd?" - Navigating Common Dating Questions

27. "Wyd?" - Navigating Common Dating Questions

"Wyd? What are you looking for? Why are you single?" These are just a few of the common questions you get asked while dating. Love or hate these questions, chances are you will keep getting asked! This episode I run through common dating questions and how to respond to them! Also I've made a great discovery about a new dating app, that may be a GAME CHANGER! You don't want to miss this episode!


Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Sep 23, 202101:10:57
26. Aging Out

26. Aging Out

As a woman, getting older comes with so much pressure and we aren't easy on ourselves or the men we are dating. In this Season 2 premiere, I talk about how aging out isn't even a thing and how to live your best life, biological clock or not.  I just had a birthday so I also give my reflections on my last year and my learning lessons as a single woman! Season Two baby -  Listen To Your Single Friend is back! 

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Sep 15, 202101:06:12
25. Season Finale: You Are Not A City Girl

25. Season Finale: You Are Not A City Girl

We did it Joe! 1 full season, 25 episodes - The Season 1 finale of Listen To Your Single Friend is absolutely insane! I am joined by Kayla of Killa Konvos Podcast and we talked about EVERYTHING: Dating men with kids, the female version of "BDE", a step-by-step guide on pulling men, and how I recently catfished a guy! I also talk about the inspiration for this show and the plans for Season 2. This episode was funny, silly, vulnerable, vulgar, and everything in between. Had to go out with a bang! Check it out now. 


Guest Host IG: @TheKillaKonvosPodcast


Guest Host Youtube: The Killa Konvos Podvast


Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess


Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil


Intro: @Stanleyspringer3


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Jun 09, 202102:20:37
24. Dating & Mental Health ft Ashleigh

24. Dating & Mental Health ft Ashleigh

TRIGGER WARNING: Mental Health, Suicide 

Is it okay to run when you find out a new boo has been diagnosed with a mental illness? What if you’re dating someone who hasn’t been diagnosed but is showing signs? Has rejection in dating or being single long term impacted your mental health? 

This episode Ashleigh from My Happy Journeigh and I had a uniquely light hearted conversation while we tackled some pretty serious subject matter. We also discussed platonic friendships with the opposite sex, the comment I’ve been asked to STOP making on the show, and what it means to be strong and still show emotional vulnerability. This is an episode you won't want to miss!


Guest Host Website: https://www.myhappyjourneigh.com 

Guest Host IG: @AshVaughn 

Guest Host YouTube: AshVaughn

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

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May 27, 202102:05:21
23. Self-Image Sabotage ft Dr. Erika

23. Self-Image Sabotage ft Dr. Erika

This week we had a doctor in the house! Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Erika Dawkins joined us to talk about self-image! When dating, it's so important to have a positive image of yourself, your body, and how you present to people. We talk about challenges to loving ourselves and our bodies and Dr. Erika shares tips for the "love your body" ritual that EVERY one should be doing. I got super vulnerable about my concerns dating during Covid while struggling with self-image and we talked all about showing up in spaces bold and unapologetic! This episode is the affirmation you will not want to miss!

Guest Host: Dr. Erika Dawkins 

IG + FB: @RevolutionaryPerspectives 

Website: www.RevolutionaryPerspectives.com 

Resources Mentioned: Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 

Dr. Erika’s Free E-Book: https://www.revolutionaryperspectives.com/ebooks


Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

IG: @ListenToYourSingleFriend

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May 13, 202102:00:06
22. Think Like A Man...That’s 
Not That Into You

22. Think Like A Man...That’s Not That Into You

Let’s talk about what these two popular movies on singleness, dating, and love got RIGHT and WRONG! Think Like A Man and He’s Just Not That Into You were best-selling books turned into even bigger movies! This is a fun episode, where I sound off and give my commentary on the plot points and themes of these films. FYI: Both these movies are about 10+ years old, so this is spoiler-heavy! I am back dating, and I also tell an insane story about my April Date Challenge failure (THANKS YALL)! Check it out and see if you agree with my hottakes on these cult classics and to hear about my dating shenanigans lol.

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

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May 10, 202101:45:60
21. Emotionally Unavailable Men ft. Micah

21. Emotionally Unavailable Men ft. Micah

This episode we were joined by one of my homies to talk about men who are not emotionally available and how to spot them! Micah is a preachers kid so the analogies and Bible references were hitting this episode. But he also gave some illegal advice for the ladies to do when these men are tripping LOL.  Somebody pass the collection plate because we were going in - you do NOT want to miss this episode!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Apr 27, 202102:02:51
20. How to Build A Roster

20. How to Build A Roster

It's time for the draft!! Dating multiple men at one time is really not as complicated as it may seem. On this episode I make my case for roster dating, man funnels, or whatever the girls are calling it these days. With a little bit of strategy and clear boundaries, you too can build your team of future baes. Learn how to build a roster, what you MUST know beforehand, and how to make cuts!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.


Apr 21, 202155:23
19. Navigating Date Night ft Mickey

19. Navigating Date Night ft Mickey

The Date Night “Female Hitch” joined us this week! A part of being single and dating is ACTUALLY going on dates. We talked about shaking first date jitters, why it’s important to remember that dates are just vibe checks, and why we should be less concerned about a mans career and more concerned about his character. We broke date night all the way down and Mickey told us all about her date planning services. We also shared some crazy date night stories that is going to have your mouth on the floor! Consider this episode your new date night guide. Check it out now!

Guest Host: Mickey C. Lee of  It's A Date

Guest IG: @itsadatedate

Guest Website: visit itsadatedate.com to get your date night box or inquire about date night planning services!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.

Mar 31, 202102:05:10
18. What Your Single Friends Want You to Know

18. What Your Single Friends Want You to Know

Two-timing men deserve to be dragged! It's no secret that Derrick Jaxn is getting Goofies this week! Find out which other cheater got Goofies, and why I think Derrick's wife deserves a little bit of grace. I also gave some insight to the single life for our taken friends. I talked about Single Amnesia, how to navigate inviting us out and on trips, and other things we just want our taken friends to know! Check it out!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

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Mar 25, 202101:07:32
17. Closure Is A Myth

17. Closure Is A Myth

Breaking up is hard, but is closure really necessary? This episode I am talking about the most evil thing men do, why closure can sometimes make your healing harder, and how taking the time to heal without your ex can actually get the results you want! Check out this episode before you hit up your old bae! Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil Intro: @Stanleyspringer3 IG: @ListenToYourSingleFriend Twitter: @YourSingleFrnd FB: /ListenToYourSingleFriend Website: ListenToYourSingleFriend.com Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.
Mar 18, 202101:05:47
16. Why So Serious?

16. Why So Serious?

Dating is NOT that serious! No really, some women claim dating burnout as a reason they haven't been on dates and it's not true. The simple act of going on a date and engaging in good conversation with a cool person is just that. It does not need to feel serious or complicated. This episode I am running down a list of excuses women make to tapout of dating! This is the tough love episode: It's just a date!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Mar 11, 202152:05
15. I Stay Out of Married People's Business But...

15. I Stay Out of Married People's Business But...

Typically I mind my single ass business but I can't keep quiet this week! I am doing a case study on a married couple because honestly they are a hot mess. I am taking you guys through their relationship and giving eight takeaways that single people can learn from this couple and apply to your dating lives right now!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

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Mar 04, 202155:53
14. Dating For Introverts ft. Dalencia

14. Dating For Introverts ft. Dalencia

I am joined this week by Dalencia Ross, a Confidence and Mindset Coach, who specializes in training for introverted women. We talked about how I think introverts have it is easier being single, and she explained some challenges that introverts have in dating and relationships. Also what IS an introvert? We break it down for you guys. Major gems dropped for those who are introverts and extroverts on this episode! 

Follow our guest on Instagram: @DalenciaRoss. To learn more about her coaching program and the Shyne Society go to DalenciaRoss.com

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

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Feb 24, 202101:30:22
13. Who Gone Check Me?

13. Who Gone Check Me?

I am tired of people disguising their disdain for women with standards as “dating advice.” There’s this pervasive narrative in the advice arena that women, Black Women in particular, are asking for too much or not valuable until we prove ourselves worthy. I’m calling folks out and deading all that noise. Also I cried during goals this week so there’s that lol.

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

IG: @ListenToYourSingleFriend

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Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.

Feb 18, 202101:15:37
12. What Men Want ft. Derrick

12. What Men Want ft. Derrick

This week I took the backseat and let the men have the floor. (Okay I was definitely a backseat driver lol). Derrick joins us to discuss What Men Want in Dating, Relationships, & Sex. We also had a mean rant about double standards for men vs women during Goals & Goofies! Check this episode out! 

Follow Derrick: @Allens_Way 

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess 

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil 

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3 

IG: @ListenToYourSingleFriend 

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Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.

Feb 10, 202101:51:12
11. What Are We?

11. What Are We?

"Where is this going?" The dreaded words that can make or break your dating life! Valentine's Day is around the corner and way too many women are still uncertain about where they stand. This episode, I am breaking down why women would rather die than ask a man where things are going. I am also giving some options on how to address this topic with your boo and how to handle his response! It's time to take some action yall, you don't want to miss this episode!

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

Intro: @Stanleyspringer3

IG: @ListenToYourSingleFriend

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Email: listentoyoursinglefriend@gmail.com for advice and questions.

Jan 27, 202152:55
10. What About Your Friends? ft. Melanin Michele

10. What About Your Friends? ft. Melanin Michele

Friends are not stand-ins until you get a man! Isn't it so annoying getting ghosted by your friends when they get into a relationship?  This week I am joined by Melanin Michele, who's giving us some insight on this from the perspective of a woman in a relationship. She gave us the honest truth about why friends ditch you when they have a new boo. This episode was hilarious, check it out!

Follow her/ IG: @_Melanin_Michele x Twitter: @Michele_Melanin

Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

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Jan 20, 202101:29:57
9. My Man is Her Man

9. My Man is Her Man

Side chicks, main chicks, and the men playing the middle: gather round! This week I am talking about sharing men and other shit we do not need to be doing in 2021. I also gave you what you came for: my thoughts on Lori Harvey who has been the talk of the town all week! I dragged everybody this episode lol. Check it out!


Hosted + Edited by: Jazmine Karess

Produced by: Jazmine Karess, Mr. Big, & Mr. Lil

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Jan 13, 202101:02:00
8. History of Hookup Culture

8. History of Hookup Culture

Talking is NOT a relationship status, especially when you've been hooking up and attached for months. What happened to this generation? Why is no one getting married or wanting serious commitments anymore? In the first episode of the new year, I discuss this new millennium phenom that we all hate but participate in: Hookup Culture. 


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Jan 07, 202101:06:30
7. New Year, New Bae

7. New Year, New Bae

We made it! This ghetto year is almost over.  Seven (7) is my favorite number and in this episode I am give you all the positive vibes for yourself and your dating life in the new year. You won't want to miss all my tips and the ways that I am personally preparing for new connections and love in 2021. 

Happy new year! 

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5. The Worst Men to Date ft. JT
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4. Dating Apps Are Ghetto
Dec 09, 202001:14:18
3. Surviving the Holidays While Single
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2. Ghosting is Upsetting to Me and My Homegirls
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