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Your Time To Grow

Your Time To Grow

By Charlotte Ashley-Roberts
Your Time To Grow is a podcast for busy women who feel lost in their career, want to make a change and build momentum to grow their potential and create a career they love.

In it, Charlie, mum of three and experienced careers coach, shares her own experiences of being a working mum and how she created a balanced career around her family. You'll find guests, case studies as well as tons of practical advice and support.
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If at first you don't succeed...how a family motto can shape you
I'm floundering this week, although it's the summer holidays and I've cut down my work, I noticed yesterday that I was feeling really demotivated about my current work goals. As I let this thought reverberate around my mind during the day I realised I was living an old family motto.
08:52
August 3, 2021
A simple self-care strategy for returning to work
Childcare sorted? Check. New clothes? Check. Self-care strategy? Wait, what? Returning to work after having a child is both rewarding and challenging. I have already discussed the practical side of returning to work after maternity leave and about the emotional doubts which come from stepping back into the office. Today I want to talk to you about managing your self-care and keeping yourself topped up.
07:10
July 27, 2021
7 easy ways to invest in yourself
When you invest in yourself you are doing more than spending time and money. You are putting yourself higher up your priority list. Whether it's developing yourself personally or professionally, to invest in yourself is likely to be the best investment you make.
07:25
July 20, 2021
What if you're exactly where you need to be?
Have you ever wondered if you are missing out? If you should be doing more? Have you ever considered the fact that you are exactly where you need to be? This is called happenstance and it’s common to hear folks say they were just in the right place a the right time, but what about when we don’t feel in the right place at the right time?
06:35
July 13, 2021
Strategies for breaking bad habits
We all have bad habits. Sometimes I procrastinate and leave my work until the last minute. Take this podcast for example, I have had plenty of time to finish this…but it’s 2pm on the day it’s due and I want to get it done asap… but having had over an hour of uninterrupted silence after getting up (which I spent on watching the TV)…it’s almost time to pick up the kids. Drat.
10:03
July 6, 2021
Focusing on progress, not perfection
Today we are talking about progress, not perfection. Let me tell you a story. I looked at my running stats, I was ten miles short of where I wanted to be that month. I spent hours working out if I could squeeze in a few more runs. Of course I would be able to but it would mean sacrificing something else. In the back of my mind a question floated around: will it matter in 12 months time? The truth is, I couldn't tell you how many miles I ran last week, let alone a year ago. In this instance, no, it wouldn't matter so what was I doing? I was aiming for perfection.
05:49
June 29, 2021
5 listening tips for busy leaders
Life can get pretty busy and when it does, listening goes out the window. When we are busy we can feel overwhelmed and stressed out and feeling this way makes it hard to listen – to ourselves and to others. Main body I was reading an article by the University of Missouri which said that 45% of our time in daily communication is used to listen and yet it is one of our most ineffective communication skills. Why? I think part of it is because we are all so busy.
06:46
June 22, 2021
Saying yes - what's the best that could happen?
Saying yes. Imagine that you said yes to every opportunity that came your way? Shonda Rhimes did for a whole year and it changed her life. It could change yours too, if you're strategic about it.
06:14
June 15, 2021
3 things to consider before changing career
Changing your career can feel very uncertain and indeed it can be uncertain. This is especially true if you have been doing something/been in a role for a long time. Before you make the leap it’s important to make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. With that in mind, in today’s episode I want to give you three things to consider before changing your career.
08:37
June 8, 2021
There is no secret to success
Have you ever wondered about the secret of success and how *those* people get ahead? I can tell you the secret – there is no secret. Getting ahead is about the mindset you have and the behaviours you exhibit and best of all, they can be learnt, practised and implemented. Here are 8 behaviours that successful people demonstrate for you to start with…
07:18
June 1, 2021
Are you a leader of change?
One of my favourite pictures of change is that one where the leader says “who wants change?” and everyone puts their hands up. Then the leader asks “who wants to change?” and everyone looks at the floor. Change is hard sometimes, especially when we don’t choose it but what if we change our perspective and choose to be a leader of change?
05:12
May 25, 2021
How to nurture your leadership skills
Today I want to talk about nurturing your leadership skills. Maybe you already lead a team, maybe you are aspiring to that. You don't have to lead a team in a company/institution to be a leader - you might be self-employed, a parent or a volunteer down at your local sports or social club or within the community. This episode is for all the people who use leadership skills - formally or informally.
06:30
May 18, 2021
When was the last time you felt heard?
When was the last time you felt heard? Like someone was really listening to what you had to say? As we are in Mental Health Awareness Week I wanted to touch on why listening to others (and ourselves) is so important and two tips on how to be a better listener too.
09:07
May 11, 2021
5 challenges women face in leadership and how to reframe them as opportunities
As women, we face different challenges in the workplace to our male colleagues, particularly in positions of leadership. These range from being held to a higher standard than our male counterparts to having to contend with old-fashioned notions such as choosing between “a career or a child?”. Overcoming these obstacles can seem daunting, but there are strategies you can use to turn these barriers into opportunities.
09:13
May 4, 2021
Five skills you need (and have) to return to work after having kids
When I speak to mums in my tribe about going back to work the number one thing they say to me is: “I don’t have the right skills anymore”. Now they might not say it in exactly those words but that is the underlying message. I believe that ultimately it’s a lack of confidence we suffer from when we return to work after a break but to tackle that, we need to face those fears head-on. After the previous three episodes Ihope that already you are seeing a glimmer of hope, a spark of self-confidence? If not, trust me and bear with me as I take you through the skills you need to return to the workplace. I have only discussed 5 here, but there are many more. These would be the ones I would focus on and are those an employer will be commonly looking for.
12:42
April 27, 2021
Is there a career after having kids?
Raising a family takes love, time and effort and is often described as one of the most rewarding things you can do. Days turn into months and years and suddenly the kids are at school and you are ready to do something for you. Sound familiar? Many parents I speak to find themselves wanting to return to the workplace after a significant career break of anywhere from 5 to 20 years. Do you want to know the biggest barrier to returning to work after raising a family? 
11:47
April 20, 2021
Preparing to return to work whilst on maternity/parental leave
It always amazes me how soon you need to start planning your return to work after your little one arrives. You think you have all the time in the world and suddenly your baby is 6 months old, sitting up, eating and starting to move around and it's time to start planning your return (or not). Preparation is key. Let's look at the logistical and emotional needs in returning to work.
08:04
April 13, 2021
Are you getting ready to go on maternity (parental) leave?
It's 2015: In the top left hand corner of my diary there is a number scrawled in black ink. It tells me that I have 36 working days left before I leave for my second bout of maternity leave. Hindsight is a useful thing isn’t it? The benefit of going through this process once already has made me make crucial changes in preparing to leave. I thought it might be useful to share my experience.
09:60
April 6, 2021
Are you driven by a deadline?
For years I have yearned to be one of those people who get the job done way ahead of time, giving them time to be smug and relaxed. Instead, I find myself consistently working right down to the wire, feeling the pressure of the deadline. I procrastinate and I’ve berated myself for that but I am also a high achiever. I am definitely driven by a deadline but it’s taken me a long time to realise it. What about you?
06:33
March 31, 2021
Cultivating acceptance and forgiveness in leadership
Last week we were thinking about self-forgiveness in terms of moving on after making a mistake. It got me thinking about leaders too and how we can become better leaders through self-acceptance and forgiveness.
05:12
March 23, 2021
Sometimes you have to let go to grow
I listen to my client as I watch her mentally let go of the belief that she needs to do at all. It's liberating for her. In that moment, she lets the ideas come and go, observing them with curiosity; she's in the zone. She leaves lighter, focused, and ready to accept herself... because sometimes you have to let go to grow.
09:22
March 16, 2021
The truth about your career potential
Have you ever considered your career potential? By this I mean the potential to be happy and fulfilled in your career. Most people I meet are tremendously critical of themselves and their capabilities. This is true whether they earn £16k or £100K+. Most people don’t appreciate themselves, their job or their journey and this can be a barrier to reaching your career potential
08:03
March 9, 2021
How to ask for what you need
I think we can all agree that we can't do it all and that attempting to do so causes overwhelm can't we? Once you have accepted this fact then next comes creating a strategy for creating the life you want. Before you can ask for what you need, however, you need to understand what that is. So in this podcast, I am going to take you through understanding what you need and then how to ask for it - whether it's in your personal or professional life.
09:42
March 2, 2021
What are your core values?
Our values are the things which we believe to be important in the way that we live and the way that we work. Our values affect our behaviour and act as an internal navigation system guiding us along our journey. Today I am going to take you through an exercise on how to identify your core values.
14:46
February 23, 2021
What do you want to be famous for?
What do you want to be famous for?” A question that tends to stump people at first, with a lot of umming and erring. Ultimately we are talking about your reputation – what you want to be known for and that is of particular interest if you are looking for clients as a business owner or if you are applying for a new job or are wanting to take the next step up the ladder.
07:45
February 16, 2021
5 tips to living with purpose
We all have a purpose in life even if we don't know what it is yet. For some they have a clear vision of their purpose early on in life - their path is laid out for them and all they have to do is take the first step. For others, the vision is unclear, foggy and the path is ambiguous or perhaps non-existent
07:32
February 9, 2021
The Power of storytelling in your career
As humans, we like to find meaning in our day-to-day life so we create and construct a narrative and the way we tell them matters - to others and ourselves. Our stories are powerful
06:01
February 2, 2021
How re-evaluating your values can be life changing
I was musing over the weekend on what to talk about today and then it came to me - values. I was thinking about how in re-evaluating my values I had made some life-changing decisions. So I decided to share my experience as a case study. Here goes….
07:49
January 26, 2021
There's no shame in investing in yourself
I don’t feel guilty about spending my money - I have earned it and I know I've done nothing wrong in spending it on myself. I do however feel ashamed about spending it. Whether it's money, time or another resource we all need to invest in ourselves without feeling guilty or ashamed of doing so. In this episode I tell you about my own experience and give you some tips for investing in yourself this year.
08:21
January 19, 2021
How to find your passion
One of the reasons people come to me for coaching is that they want to do something they love but they don’t know where to start. I love what I do, I mean really love it and I am so grateful that I found career coaching relatively early on in my career. I remember a conversation where I said this and a friend of mine argued that not everyone has the luxury of doing something they enjoy and being paid for it, that most people have to put up with their job and just get it done in order to pay the bills. I disagree. So here's how to start thinking about when finding your passion
06:30
January 12, 2021
Are you ready for a no resolution revolution?
Have you got all of your New Year’s resolutions sorted? Raring to go? Or are you procrastinating on what you want to do? For many people, the New Year involves making a list of all the things we want to do over the coming 12 months. Many people choose to stop a certain (usually ‘bad’) activity, some start something new or vow to find a new job or look for opportunities in your current one. We begin with good intentions but how long do they last? For most of us, we’re lucky to make it to the end of January. This year  I want to start a no-resolution revolution.
08:19
January 5, 2021
How staying curious can help you listen
If you need or want to listen to others more effectively then one of the best things you can do is stay curious.
05:24
December 22, 2020
Seven easy ways to stay present
How often are you present? By which I mean actually focusing on one thing at a time, right here, now and in the present? If you're anything like me, you'll be listening to a podcast whilst you're doing something else! Here's seven easy ways to stay present.
07:22
December 15, 2020
Five reasons to show yourself kindness
I saw my friend's Facebook status and all it said was "ARRRRRGGGGHHHHH". I gave it a sad smiley face and messaged her to find out if there was anything I could do. As she talked I realised something - her cup was empty. I (gently) pointed this out to her and said: "you need to show yourself kindness too."
06:47
December 8, 2020
Give yourself the gift of kindness this Christmas
Christmas - for some a wonderful time of celebration and gathering together. For others a difficult time of melancholy or sadness. For most a time of self-imposed and unnecessary stress. It can seem like there are so many things to do - planning Christmas Day, writing Christmas cards, watching nativity plays, buying presents, doing the big shop, finishing up work. Right now, it feels more busy, less magical.
08:11
December 1, 2020
How to develop gratitude as a leadership skill
When you think of leadership skills you might consider 'communication' or 'motivating others' or 'listening' but how many would say 'gratitude'?
07:03
November 24, 2020
What I have learned from being grateful
I’m grateful. Generally, sporadically, genuinely grateful. I’ve been practising gratitude a while. Even as a happy-go-lucky, hopeless optimist I’ve learnt some things on this journey and I wanted to share them with you. I hope to inspire you to consider putting on your gratitude goggles too.
07:44
November 17, 2020
Why should you be grateful?
It’s easy to be grateful when it’s all going well but what about when it’s not?  What about if you are going through a crisis of some sort. How many of us even want to be thankful if we have been made redundant, if we (or someone we love) are ill, or if life is really hard right now? Even if life isn’t traumatic we still forget to be thankful for what we have. So why should we be grateful and how do you go about it?
08:20
November 10, 2020
3 ways to stay motivated in a job you hate
"I hate my job. I really want to move but I can't. I am stuck." Whether it's the security of a permanent position, a good salary, a job amidst a pandemic, or another reason you might need to stay in a job you hate, or one which you are bored in or demotivated. If this resonates with you here are 3 tips to stay motivated whilst you plan your alternative.
06:43
November 3, 2020
Making the most of your talents
Do you wish you had more progression at work? Maybe you would like more recognition for your contributions? Are you making the most of your talents at work? Perhaps you're struggling to recognise your own talents after having kids? I ask because I speak to folks in coaching sessions who want more but feel shy about shouting about their talents and strengths. I mean, how are you going to get noticed if you don’t let yourself shine?
13:20
October 29, 2020
How to develop your career without getting burnt out
I am an advocate of doing something you love every day – from making time for self-care through to the job that you do. Today I would like to focus on your job/career/business – whatever you call it and whatever you have. It might be a combination of all those things. I want to talk to you about managing your career, rather than letting it manage you. I want to show you that you can develop your career you into one that you love. You can create the life you want to live and find balance. It sounds a lot for a podcast no? Give me eight minutes to see if this resonates with you.
09:17
October 20, 2020
Career advice during Covid-19
You might think that it's pointless, incongruous or unimportant to consider your career during Covid-19. That's OK. It's likely managing your career will only be important to you if it's a priority for you. It's ok not to have the headspace (which I cover in this episode too) but, if you do then here are five easy tips for managing your career in the current climate.
11:06
October 13, 2020
What's in it for me? (Taming your inner chimp)
When my brother introduced me to 'The Chimp Paradox' it changed my life. I suddenly understood why I thought the way I did and why I reacted to certain situations in a way that wasn't always constructive! When your chimp needs to feel in control it asks: what's in it for me?
10:07
October 6, 2020
ACTing on your self-talk
When it comes to your work life, how many times do you think to yourself "I can't do this" or "I need to learn more to be competent" or "I should have chosen a different career"? You get caught in the spiral of listening to your self-talk...
10:32
September 29, 2020
Managing your personal productivity during Covid-19
I would definitely describe myself as productive (80% of the time at least!) I'm driven by a deadline and during Covid-19 all my deadlines have disappeared and I'm finding it hard to manage my personal productivity, by which I mean I am giving myself a hard time for not doing more. Now if you are too, listen on for some tips on how to cope with it.
06:35
September 22, 2020
Understanding Motivation
Sometimes I think motivation is vital to success and other times I think it's not important at all...so in this episode I explore the feelings of motivation, why it is (or isn't) important and types of motivation
09:49
September 15, 2020
How to celebrate your successes
Celebrating success, whether it's ginormous or minuscule can feel hard but it is critical to reaching even bigger goals and achievements...but how do we even go about it?
08:20
September 11, 2020
What's stopping you?
For most of us, we really want to do the thing which scares us but the thing is….it scares us. In this episode I explore what stops us achieving our goals and how to get going again.
12:24
September 1, 2020
Taking action when you're feeling exhausted
This time a year ago we certainly didn’t see a pandemic coming! As the days carry on and more and more uncertainty comes our way, it’s easy to lose your motivation and find yourself in a downward spiral, and that’s the most challenging time to stop the momentum and turn things around. If that’s the case, keep it simple and start to reach for little things to help you feel better and climb your way out.
18:21
August 18, 2020
How to get started when you don't know what to do
One of my biggest reasons for procrastinating is not knowing what to do. I always imagine that it’s going to take me ages to learn, that it’s going to be really hard and/or that I’m going to be rubbish at it. That’s a limiting belief right there! So here’s what I’ve learned about how to get started when you don’t know what to do.
10:05
August 11, 2020
Never give up on a bad day
We all have bad days and for some of us our anxiety gets in the way of us achieving our goals by causing us to feel overwhelmed or paralysing us into indecision. Here's how to refocus using the Eisenhower Matrix.
07:47
August 4, 2020
Have you set yourself toxic goals?
We all have dreams and desires and there are moments in any goal where we feel it's not going well (see the previous podcast episode for more on this!) But what if the goal you've set is a toxic goal?
11:02
July 30, 2020
It always feels like a failure halfway through
In life it can be easier to forgive others before we forgive ourselves and some of us hold ourselves more accountable and to a much higher standard than we hold others; this can be especially true when we are working towards a goal. In the middle of the process it (and you) might look or feel like a failure. If you stop then, it almost certainly will be.
08:01
July 22, 2020
Everything is a choice
Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made. If you want a different result, make a different choice - unknown. Sometimes, we need to give ourselves permission to change so here are my top three reasons to do so.
06:41
July 14, 2020
Are you a hare or a tortoise?
Are you a hare or a tortoise? Understanding our personality traits can have an effect on the activities we choose and how we achieve them. In this week's episode I discuss solitude, support, 'should' and self-care in pursuit of balance.
09:27
July 8, 2020
5 things to do when you're feeling overwhelmed
The feelings of overwhelm can strike in the strangest of places, at a time when you might not even understand it. So what to do when those feelings overwhelm you?
11:21
June 30, 2020
Avoiding burnout through nurturing yourself
In this episode I talk about burnout - what it is and how it feels and give you my plan on how I nurture myself and how you can too.
09:33
June 23, 2020
Are you struggling to find balance?
Balance is like the sea, ever changing and always returning to a natural, calm state at some point. It’s not something to be reached and firmly maintained. It is flexible and with a bit of awareness, it is easy to bring more balance into your life.
09:06
June 16, 2020
How to be more self-accepting
When we are self-accepting we are able to embrace our whole selves, not just the positive parts. It's all about admitting we are good enough, that we are enough, just as we are.
08:41
June 10, 2020
Do you realise your potential?
As much as I can write articles, record videos and tell you in person that you have gifts, it doesn’t mean a thing if you don’t believe me. So how do you realise your potential and identify your gifts when you feel you have nothing to give? Let me start with a story…
09:51
June 2, 2020
The importance of being consistent
Consistency matters in setting and meeting our goals because when the initial excitement and enthusiasm wanes it is being consistent that keeps us on course.
11:53
May 26, 2020
Seven easy ways to be present
It's mental health week and whilst I think that looking after our mental health is a long term gift to ourselves, a week to remind ourselves and others to check in is always welcome and so today I'm asking: How often are you present?
07:45
May 19, 2020
How to measure self-worth
Imagine for a minute you want a new job, or you are in a position of leadership, you are building a business or returning to work after having kids...you want to go for it but deep down you're not sure if you deserve to be happy. How would that affect your next move?
11:46
May 12, 2020
Be your authentic self (erm, how do I do that?!)
The trick is accepting yourself and not apologising for who you are or want to be. Easy, right? Er, no. Not for most of us so how do we be authentic?
05:43
May 5, 2020
Mindful balance for working mums
As mums we wear many hats - partner, mum, employer, employee, leader, friend, volunteer, playmate, chef etc. If you are the main carer for your children it's likely that your mental load is very large. I know that mine is. The question is, how do we balance it all? I know that I can't do it all... but there must be a way to find balance?
07:31
April 28, 2020
Career Confessions of a guilt-ridden Mum
I remember thinking that when I became a mum I would be ‘me’ with a child. Oh, how naive I was! With motherhood comes joy, tears, amazement, frustration, judgement and the inevitable guilt and anxiety. When you become a parent it seems like there are a million decisions to make and a million different ways to make them. What if you make the wrong choice? There are also endless opportunities to compare yourself to others and find yourself coming up short.
08:25
April 21, 2020
Are you suffering from mental load?
Are you suffering from mental load? It is a narrative I hear all too often. Clients, friends and family talk about having to do everything themselves, to doing it perfectly and being a good example to their kids.
11:48
April 15, 2020
Mums: it's time to recognise your exponential potential
Today I'm thinking about all of those mum skills we have but that we just talk away. So many mums I speak to can't see their (exponential) potential when it comes to their skills and strengths. With that in mind, here are 7 skills you gain as a mum with examples of how you can use them in a professional context.
09:49
April 7, 2020
What is your guilt threshold?
Today I'm thinking about guilt, in particular the guilt we feel as mums. In this episode I share some things I and others in my tribe feel guilty about and three ways to shift those guilty thoughts.
08:11
March 31, 2020
What I've learned during our self isolation for Covid 19
It’s day 9 of our 14-day self-isolating experience for our family due to my partner having a temperature. We don’t know if it is coronavirus since there’s no testing, but we’re taking the precaution anyway. I wanted to share with you what I’ve learned.
19:19
March 24, 2020
Everything is a choice
Today we're talking options and choice. How many times have you said to yourself or someone else: "I had no choice" or "it was my only option" or "I felt trapped". I believe that everything in life is a choice and I'm sure that many of you will say that there are events in life we cannot change and I agree...but...
06:50
March 17, 2020
It's time to stop being so hard on yourself
Are you your own worst enemy? I ask because I have spoken to three people this week who are being hard on themselves. It can be easier to forgive others before we forgive ourselves and some of us hold ourselves more accountable and to a much higher standard than we hold others. In this episode I give you some strategies to be kinder to yourself and three reasons to give yourself permission to change
08:38
March 10, 2020
Self-Sabotage: Are you being honest with yourself?
"Have you ever woken up determined to hit your goals or deadlines and reached the end of the day to find you have spent most of the day on facebook? Me too. In this podcast I'll give you three ways women (in particular) self-sabotage and how to combat this behaviour, specifically the benefits of being honest with yourself. "
09:23
March 3, 2020
How to cope with change and move out of your comfort zone
We all have to cope with change. As Benjamin Disraeli said "change is inevitable. Change is constant". But change can bring so many emotions and there are two main methods we employ when it comes to coping with change...
13:03
February 25, 2020
The power of 'I am' statements and affirmations
What if you could retrain your brain and subconscious and reprogram your mind to let go of the limiting beliefs you have and accept more positive beliefs. Creating 'I am' statements can do that. Tune in to find out how.
15:03
February 18, 2020
The anxiety of change
Change is constantly happening, sometimes we choose it, sometimes it happens to us. This can bring anxiety. So often it feels the road we are meant to take is the one that is most overwhelming, and yet, if we can continue ahead we can reap the rewards. Let me tell you a story...
09:47
February 11, 2020
Everyone else is better than me
If you believe that you're not as good as others think you are, or that everyone else is better than you, you might be suffering from imposter syndrome. Tune in to find out what it is, how it affects us and I'll give you an exercise to help you overcome it.
11:03
February 4, 2020
How to break through your limiting beliefs
We all have limiting beliefs, aka the lies we tell ourselves. They are the things we believe or assume that stop us progressing to the next step.
06:55
January 28, 2020
What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Let's talk about fear, the psychology of it and how to overcome it.
09:33
January 24, 2020
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00:59
January 22, 2020