Waking Up From Breaking Up

In this episode of Waking Up from Breaking Up (WUBU), we join Adam White on his poignant journey of love, self-discovery, and letting go. Moving continents, confronting personal challenges, and navigating the complexities of relationships, Adam shares how his quest from England to Vancouver, Canada led him to profound insights about what it truly means to find 'home.' As he opens up about the tough decisions that reshaped his life path, listeners will find encouragement and wisdom in his experiences with mental health, communication, and personal growth. Tune in to learn how embracing change and releasing what no longer serves you can be the gateway to waking up to your most authentic self.

In this episode we interview Ian Kelly, whose remarkable story of resilience in the face of adversity inspires us all to find strength within ourselves. Ian takes us on a journey through his battle from Covid to being hospitalized, which tested his physical limits.

Despite facing the daunting challenge of recovering, Ian's tale is one of incredible determination and discipline. From the depths of his body completely shutting down, he emerges not just healed, but transformed. This episode delves into the importance of listening to our bodies, and the power of rest and recovery.

His insights into the critical balance of rest, recovery, and resilience offer invaluable lessons on the path to personal growth. It's an invitation to reflect on our own resilience and capacity for renewal. It encourages us to ask ourselves how we can apply Ian's lessons and way of thinking to our lives.

This episode features David Henderson, the heart behind Vancouver's Denman Athletics. From his early days as a psychology student to becoming a beloved gym owner and strength coach, David's journey is a testament to the power of partnership, perseverance, and community. Alongside his wife, Aimee, they navigated the challenges of entrepreneurship and personal growth, proving that success is sweeter when shared. This episode is a celebration of teamwork and the unbreakable spirit of togetherness. Whether you're facing personal hurdles or chasing ambitious dreams, David's story offers invaluable lessons on the importance of having a supportive team by your side. Join us for a heartfelt narrative that will leave you motivated to embrace collaboration in your journey toward fulfillment and success.

Dive into the inspiring world of Waking Up from Breaking Up with Yra Jai in our season 3 opener. This episode, "Embracing Forty," explores the profound beauty of aging, challenging stereotypes with Yra's reflections on turning 40. It's more than celebrating a birthday; it's about understanding happiness and youthfulness as part of life's journey, not tied solely to genetics or appearances.

Yra shares how a positive attitude, holistic well-being, and meaningful relationships shape our experiences of aging. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that happiness is woven through every aspect of our lives, encouraging listeners to embrace every year and every challenge with open arms and a joyful heart.

In this final Season 2 episode of WUBU, we take a reflective journey through the past year, anchored by the host's own experience of profound loss and the process of healing. The passing of her beloved dog, Deekin, serves as a poignant backdrop to explore themes of emotional resilience and the power of self-compassion.

Throughout the episode, we delve into the complex interplay between dwelling and feeling. This distinction is a lesson in navigating heartache and sorrow.

Drawing inspiration from Yung Pueblo's "Lighter," the episode offers listeners a path to lighten the emotional load of 2023 and step into 2024 with a renewed sense of purpose and self-awareness. The episode explores how acknowledging and releasing heavy emotions can open up a path to freedom and transformation, not by denying the pain, but by fully experiencing it as a passage to healing.

The episodes impart wisdom on embracing our imperfections, extending forgiveness to ourselves, and approaching the new year with kindness and humility. The episode is interspersed with practical tips and affirmations to help listeners navigate their journeys of personal growth and healing.

This episode is not just a reflection on the past but a beacon of hope for the future.

In this week's WUBU podcast episode, we delve into the nuanced world of relationship dynamics, challenging the conventional wisdom on red and green flags.

Are those so-called red flags always a cause for concern, or could they signify potential for growth and deeper understanding? Join us as we dissect common relationship concerns, from intense emotions to the desire for frequent communication, and flip the script to reveal their positive aspects.

We'll explore why a partner's independence, past relationship talks, and even their approach to conflict and commitment, often seen as red flags, can actually be green flags indicating healthy traits like honesty, self-awareness, and emotional depth.

This episode is not just about reevaluating the signs but about reshaping how we perceive and approach our relationships. It's a call to view our partners and ourselves through a lens of empathy and growth, transforming our understanding of love and compatibility.

Did you know that mid-December is the period of they year that most people break up. It's known as the break up season! So this episode a must-listen for anyone facing the difficult task of ending a relationship or seeking to understand the dynamics of respectful breakups.

We delve into the nuanced art of ending relationships with grace and integrity. Our discussion centers on the vital importance of respect and honesty in the process of parting ways. The episode explores why breaking up in person, despite being more challenging, stands as the most respectful approach.

We discuss how face-to-face conversations enable both parties to express their feelings openly and allow for a clearer understanding of the situation. This method, although emotionally taxing, helps in avoiding misunderstandings and provides a sense of closure.

In this captivating WUBU podcast episode, join us as we explore the transformative journey of Jeremy Vaughan. From facing adversity behind bars to embracing the path of self-awareness and personal growth, Jeremy's story is one of resilience and redemption. His inspiring narrative not only challenges our perceptions of the past but also redefines the future, especially in the realm of men's mental health.

Jeremy has now dedicated his life to guiding other men on their healing journeys, reshaping the narrative around men's mental health and breaking down the barriers of emotional expression. His work is a beacon of hope, showing that change and growth are always possible, regardless of one's past.

Connect with Jeremy and join his mission:

In this week's WUBU episode, we are joined by Jeff.

This episode is a journey of self-discovery, and embracing one's genuine identity.

We begin by exploring the often invisible yet heavy chains of expectations that bind many of us. These chains come in various forms – cultural norms, family roles, societal expectations, etc. and how these expectations can limit us from living and being who we truly are, and from genuine happiness.

Jeff had the courage to be himself, and that meant accepting to limit his involvement in his parent's lives. This bold decision to step away from the mould, to venture into the realm of personal truth and freedom is inspiring.

In this week's episode we are joined by Charity who is a testament to the strength and determination of those battling endometriosis.

This episode doesn't just recount her struggle with endometriosis; it's a journey through the trials and triumphs, the moments of despair, and the ultimate awakening to self-empowerment.

Faced with excruciating pain and little support, the turning point comes when she decides to take control of her health journey. This awakening is a powerful reminder of the importance of self-advocacy.

By sharing her experiences, Charity created a community of support and awareness. You can connect with her on her social media platforms, where she continues to share her journey and insights:

In this week's WUBU podcast, we are joined by German Marin who's interview captures the essence of his transformative journey from the challenges of divorce to the responsibilities and growth associated with becoming a father.

This week's WUBU podcast is an empowering episode, we're about to turn cuffing season upside down!

Have you ever felt the pressure to find a partner during the colder months? The so-called "cuffing season" often brings with it a sense of urgency, but it doesn't have to be that way.

Join host Yra Jai as she dives deep into the art of redefining cuffing season. It's all about embracing self-love, not loneliness. Yra will guide you on a journey of self-discovery, sharing the secrets to building a fulfilling, authentic relationship from a place of self-worth and self-care.

Discover the power of self-love as the key to unlocking your true potential, and how it can naturally lead you to a love that's deeper and more meaningful than any seasonal trend.

It's time to redefine cuffing season and create lasting connections that come from a place of authenticity and self-love.

In this week's episode of WUBU, we delve deep into the complex and often misunderstood emotion of jealousy. Jealousy has the power to grip us, hold us back, and make us question our worth. But here's the twist: we can break up with jealousy and wake up to a more emotionally mature and confident self.

Join us as we unravel the roots of jealousy, explore its various forms, and discover why it often plagues our lives. We'll debunk common myths, uncover the societal influences, and shed light on why jealousy isn't a sign of love, but rather a reflection of our own insecurities.

In this week's WUBU podcast episode we interview Max, who is a co-owner Provence en Couleur. Max takes us on a journey of his dating insights after living all over the world.

This week's WUBU episode is about decoding why people are labelled "crazy" and "narcissists" in the dating scene. Understanding the reason behind the terms and how we deviate from using them.

In this powerful episode of "Waking Up from Breaking Up," we dive deep into the theme of resilience as we explore the remarkable journey of one extraordinary woman, our guest, Malia Heale.

Malia takes us on a heartfelt journey through her life, sharing her experiences of navigating unexpected challenges with unwavering determination and grace. From personal setbacks to professional hurdles, she candidly reveals the moments that tested her resilience and transformed her into the strong woman she is today, of course with the support of her husband, Chris.

This episode is a testament to the resilience that resides within every woman and serves as a reminder that, even in the face of adversity, we have the power to rise, rebuild, and thrive.

This week in WUBU we discuss what makes someone a good partner. We discuss that being a good friend is the basis of being a good romantic partner. Also, go check out the podcast Best Before Dates for an interview with a previous guest Al Dee who interviewed me again regarding my dating.

In this week's episode of WUBU, we interview Megan, another neighbour. Megan gets vulnerable about her experience of her car accident and the after-effects it had on her mental state. She shares her struggles and the steps she took to overcome her dissociation, major depressive disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

We are not mental health professionals and please seek professional help regarding any mental health challenges and expert knowledge of any of the topics.

Tune in to the latest Waking Up from Breaking Up episode about Redefining Busy Culture, and Prevent Burnout 🎧 This episode dives deep into the myth that busyness culture defines an individual's importance. The episode uncovers practical strategies to find balance and shield yourself from burnout's clutches. Discover the power of saying "no," the beauty of embracing slow living, and the science behind a purposeful approach.

In this week's episode a Waking Up from Breaking Up, we are joined by facilitator and social change theorizer, Shiayli Toni. In this episode we delve into the significance of building self trust and becoming your own advocate as the first step towards happiness, success, and helping others effectively. Shiayli shares her journey about the transformative power of breaking up with the saviour complex and waking up by embracing a more empowering approach that encourages others to help themselves.

This week on WUBU we delve into the transformative journey of Joshua Iype, a man who discovered the profound benefits of living in the moment. Joshua shares his personal story of how marrying his wife sparked a remarkable shift in his perspective, leading him to find inner peace and a newfound appreciation for the present.

Joshua shares a few practical techniques that he used for controlling his thoughts and embracing the power of now. Through introspection and mindfulness, Joshua developed self-awareness and discovered how to redirect his attention to the present moment, ultimately leading to a greater sense of fulfillment and connection.

In a world that often pulls us in different directions, finding the ability to live in the present moment and release anxiety becomes an art form. In this transformative episode of "Waking Up from Breaking Up," host Yra Jai takes you on a journey of self-discovery and growth, offering practical steps to dissolve anxiety and regret.

This episode explores the power of presence, self-awareness, and vulnerability, guiding you towards embracing the beauty of the here and now. Through practical strategies, she shares the keys to unlocking a life filled with purpose, authenticity, and inner peace.

Discover the importance of cultivating a strong relationship with yourself and being honest about the areas of your life that may be holding you back. Dive into the transformative practices of mindfulness, deep breathing, and gratitude, which help you connect with the present moment and reduce anxiety.

Explore the significance of physical movement, exercise, and mindful eating as tools to ground yourself and release tension. Uncover the power of simplifying your life and creating space for what truly matters, allowing you to live fully and free from overwhelm.

This week's Waking Up from Breaking Up (WUBU) episode is about waking up to the power of self-love and breaking up with the belief that the issue is someone else. However, the truth is what we attract and the quality of our relationships is truly a reflection of our own self-perception.

Learn from the podcast guest, Cecilia Fung as she discusses the profound impact self-love has on the quality of her relationships, and discover how it shapes the partners she has attracted into our lives and the boundaries she has learned now.

This week's Waking Up from Breaking Up (WUBU) episode is about breaking up with our negative mindset and waking up to a more positive outlook in life.

In this episode, I talk about positive neuroplasticity can help us rewire our minds from negative thinking to a positive outlook. Get ready to unlock the power of your brain as we explore the strategies for a positive mindset using neuroplasticity.

In this week's Waking Up from Breaking Up (WUBU) episode we interview my neighbour, Lauren Mills.

Lauren is a career-oriented person whose professional ambition and journey have taken her to numerous career endeavours but also shares the downfall of her ambition and busy lifestyle.

The busy culture is a paradox! It offers both benefits and drawbacks. On one hand, it can bring productivity, motivation, and a sense of purpose. But on the other hand, it can also have negative consequences on our well-being. The sense of accomplishment and the feeling of being engaged can provide a boost to our self-esteem and overall satisfaction. While busyness can be invigorating, excessive busyness can lead to negative consequences for our health. When we're constantly busy, we often neglect self-care, rest, and relaxation. This can result in chronic stress, anxiety, and even burnout. Our mental, emotional, and physical well-being can suffer as a result.

Listen to the episode to get advice on how to change the trajectory of your busy lifestyle and focus on having a balance lifestyle.

This week's WUBU episode discusses how striving for perfectionism is holding us back and there needs to be a balance.

The episode delves into perfectionism's complexities and explores why some individuals claim to be perfectionists. Join us as we shed light on the underlying motivations and defence mechanisms behind perfectionistic tendencies and provide practical strategies for breaking free from its grip.

In this week's Waking Up from Breaking Up (WUBU) episode we interview Mic Deane, a co-founder of the community Sober Babes Vancouver.

Mic shares her journey from when she decided to stop drinking, focus on her mental health, and embrace sobriety. She tells us how her life has shifted and the positive effects of choosing sobriety.

Alcohol can have a significant impact on mental health. Many people turn to alcohol as a coping mechanism to numb emotional pain, stress, or anxiety. However, what initially seems like a solution often exacerbates the underlying issues. Alcohol is a depressant and can intensify symptoms of depression and anxiety.

Sobriety allowed Mic to reclaim control over her life. It brought her clarity, and increased emotional stability. Removing alcohol as a coping mechanism allowed her to confront and address underlying issues, leading to personal growth and a stronger sense of self.

This week's WUBU Podcast Episode discusses the benefits of owning a dog and the lessons we learn from our pets.

Deekin, my dog, turns 14 this year and we have shared thirteen and a half wonderful years together. I have learned a lot from him and I have grown tremendously over the years from our experiences together. We have to let go of the thought that pets are just animals and come to the realization that dogs and pets have a huge impact on our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

Paolo shares his journey with us, how he appreciates the people he had in his life, and how they have helped him find joy in the healing. He has this mentality and attitude knowing that this life is not easy, might as well enjoy the process and do it in style!

We laugh, cry, and talk about Paolo's experience and how much he has grown in such a short period of time.

Have you ever wondered why some of your relationships are fulfilling and others are draining? It turns out that the quality of your relationships is determined by the quality of your relationship with yourself. In this episode, we dive into the importance of self-love and self-respect in building healthy and meaningful relationships with others.

We explore the ways in which having a positive relationship with yourself can help you set boundaries, communicate effectively, and attract people who align with your values and priorities. We also touch on how being secure in who you are can lead to more present and engaged relationships and greater compassion and empathy toward others.

But what happens when you realize a relationship no longer serves you? We delve into the difficult but necessary decision to break up with friends or partners who no longer align with who you have become.

Whether you're looking to improve the quality of your current relationships or decide to let go of relationships that no longer serve you, this episode will provide valuable insights and actionable tips for building and maintaining healthy and fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, we're joined by Stephanie, who shares her personal journey from monogamy to polyamory. Steph takes us on a deep dive into her personal experiences and the process of discovering her desire for multiple loves in her life. From confronting her shame and guilt to discovering new depths of love, Steph shares the ups and downs of her transition and the lessons she's learned along the way.

Whether you're curious about ethical non-monogamy or polyamory or considering a similar transition yourself, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to gain insights into the challenges and rewards of exploring multiple loving relationships, and discover how to build a stronger, more fulfilling connection with yourself and your partners.

Join us as we explore Steph's personal journey and the valuable insights she's gained about love, communication, and personal growth. Don't miss this inspiring episode about embracing polyamory and opening yourself up to new possibilities in love and relationships.

And avoiding these conversations can lead to resentment, misunderstanding and the breakdown of relationships. In this episode, we will explore why people can't communicate the truth to someone and what we can do about it. It's a challenging topic that is essential for personal growth because it's breaking up with immature behaviours and beliefs and waking up to a healthier, mature mindset.

Communicating the truth to someone is not always easy, but it is essential if we want to build healthy, authentic relationships.

Being aware of some of the reasons why we may struggle to communicate the truth, such as facing our fears, learning to manage our emotions to their reactions, and developing our self-awareness. We can start addressing these issues and becoming more confident and authentic communicators.

This week's podcast episode explores the experiences of Louise Gavin who is part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community in Vancouver, specifically Vancouver Queer Irish (VQI). In the podcast, she talks about her experience of finding acceptance in herself when she found herself moving to another country.

For many LGBTQIA2S+ individuals, finding acceptance in a community can be a challenging and sometimes painful experience. It's not uncommon for LGBTQIA2S+ individuals to face discrimination, rejection, and even violence because of their identity. However, it's important to remember that every person has the right to be accepted for who they are. It's not up to others to decide who is or isn't part of a community based on their identity. Every person deserves to be recognized and respected for their authentic self.

One way to find acceptance in a community is to seek out spaces that prioritize inclusivity and celebrate diversity. Finding a community that values and respects your identity and experiences is important, and that is what Louise and the VQI are doing in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. Another way to find acceptance is to connect with allies who can provide support and advocate for LGBTQIA2S+ rights and inclusion. Allies can also help educate others on the importance of acceptance and create more inclusive spaces within their own communities. Waking Up from Breaking Up is proud to be an ally of the LGBTQIA2S+ Community.

Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your relationships? Join us on our latest podcast episode as we explore the art of setting boundaries, and why it's so important for cultivating healthy relationships and building self-respect. We'll share some practical tips and strategies for setting boundaries that work for you and communicating them assertively and respectfully to others. Tune in now on your favourite podcast platform.

We discuss why and how people struggle to set boundaries and why people have a hard time receiving boundaries. These tough conversations are essential to building healthy relationships, especially with yourself. This is part of the healing journey and takes a lot of emotional maturities to have these hard conversations.

Adam Ambrose is a singer song writer who shares his experience from being homeless, to viral on TikTok, to pursuing his dreams in music in Vancouver, Canada. His WUBU moment when he let go of his addiction to social media and focused on his music. His latest song, Raincoat, comes out on March 31, 2023!

First Episode of Season 2!

We get right back into it and we discuss how to build self-worth, by facing our demons.

This season is all about accountability and how we show up and turn up for ourselves, our family, our friends, and the rest of the world.

What we project in the world is truly what we feel inside.

This is the last episode for Season 1 of Waking Up from Breaking Up (WUBU)!

The final episode reflects 20 years ago when the journey of Waking Up from Breaking Up originated. This process of self-growth and the inspiration for this podcast came from the lessons learned in my past relationship and the journey that happened to both my ex-fiance, Jaxon, and myself after our breakup.

Sometimes relationships hold us back without actually knowing it. This episode shares Jaxon's growth story in his career after our breakup. Our relationship was our comfort zone and safety blanket and once it ended, it gave us both an opportunity to change and progress in ourselves, especially Jaxon's career. It's not common, but our goal was to remain, friends, after we had broken up. We did the best we could, and at least we attempted.

Faye is a confident, traditional Irish woman who decided to push the boundaries people set for her at a young age. She used other people's limitations of her as fuel to educate herself and start her own business in Vancouver, Canada.

Face your problem head-on and be open when tough times come. Ambitious, successful people know that there are always ups and downs. Don’t close yourself in or give up when life gets hard. Keep going and kick the door of limitations down.

Every journey of personal growth begins like the hero’s journey, with an escape from the known territory of the safe into unknown danger.

In order to live a life out of a victim mentality, we first have to stop blaming our circumstances or allowing them to govern how we feel. Therapy provides you with means to gain insight.

Let’s rewrite the definition of masculinity, by continuing the conversations on gender expectations and ideals in our society, while raising awareness for men’s mental health. This world would be a much better place if everyone was encouraged and comfortable in discussing their mental struggles.

The twelfth and final component in C.A.R.T. is TIMING! 

What does timing mean in healthy committed relationships? Timing in relationships pertains to commitment readiness. We all know that relationships take commitment. Committing to work through the rough times, because LOVE is NOT enough.

The truth is, there is never a perfect or ideal time to initiate a relationship. There are different reasons why we might not feel like entering into a committed relationship. Many say that if they are undergoing distressing circumstances in their lives, they cannot commit to someone else. And that makes perfect sense because readiness impacts behavior over various stages of building a relationship. What you should be striving for is to be familiar with the “baggage” that you will bring in the relationship.

Jagtar and Kate share their relationship history and how timing played a huge role in the progression of their relationship. 

The eleventh component in C.A.R.T. is TRUST! If there is no trust in a relationship, then there is no point in the relationship.

Trust is built through communication, listening, understanding, compassion, empathy, priority, and setting healthy boundaries. Someone's trust is earned over time but can be lost in a blink of an eye. 

Javi and Ivana share how they have built trust in their relationship by listening, understanding, and having compassion for each other. They have created a safe space for each other to express their insecurities and concerns and have grown and developed a strong foundation in their relationship.

The tenth component in C.A.R.T. is RESPECT!

Noe is back with his wife, Deb! They share how their cultural differences played a role in their relationship in the early stages of dating and how they had to adjust accordingly. 

Deb & Noe have different upbringings and different ways that they were raised. They bring two unique cultural perspectives into their relationship and they discuss accepting and respecting their differences. They share how their cultural polarity has played a role in their relationship, especially when they first started dating, their relationship with each other's families, and how they have accepted and respected each other for their uniqueness.