The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
By Dr Psych Mom
The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten Apr 20, 2024
Unique Challenges Of Being Married To Veterans/First Responders
Joining my episodes on men in IT, doctors, lawyers and CEO's! A listener wrote:
"Topic Idea: Challenges associated with being married to veterans. I don't know if you have seen many vets in your practice over the years, but perhaps there's a theme that could be interrogated here. My wife sees some of my adult behaviors as either outright pretentious or at a minimum annoying. I have tried to identify the cause and the best I can come up with is being an adult child of a dysfunctional home but then later finding the structure and discipline I needed to "normalize" my life in the military. Many of those habits have followed me for the rest of my life. Behaviors like routine, adherence to schedules, neatness, and even how I fold my clothes. I suspect it was the personal growth I achieved in the service that made me successful in college after I got out, and within my professional career today. As a reference point, I am now 52 and have been out of the service for nearly 30 years. Anyway, just a thought that maybe there might be something here to discuss in a post or on a podcast. My wife and I love your show, and your candid advice. You're often a topic of conversation in our house."
Sure! Dive in to what I think about this after having worked at the Charleston VA and with many veterans and first responders over the years.
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How To Connect With Your Spouse In Daily Life... What Is Appropriate In Front Of Kids?
How to connect with your spouse in little bits of time! A practical episode to help couples structure time together if you never saw this modeled by your own parents. Also: "serious discussions" are not appropriate in front of your kids, and large swaths of uninterrupted time are not appropriate either. Very concrete advice, especially for those who keep getting frustrated by kids "interrupting" their discussions!
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Having Bad Sex Too Often Is Not The Goal Either
Some couples are having too MUCH sex... quick sex every day so that the man "doesn't have to masturbate" or ever feel any sexual frustration. The problem is that the woman, past the honeymoon stage, can become dissociated from her own body and desire. Listen to learn about what good sex is and isn't!
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You May Need To Remember Being A Younger Age To Empathize With Your Spouse
As always, I provide you with yet another awesome cognitive reframe to help you be the best partner you can be. This one has an anecdote from my own marriage to explain the difference between what makes men and women anxious. Also covered: anatomy, hormones and overall biological variables that impede empathy between the sexes!
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When Men And Women Don't Have The Same Ideas For Retirement
In today's episode, I discuss the differences I've seen in what men vs women prioritize in retirement, as well as other variables that may impact these differences aside from gender. Great one to help you think deeper about your expectations about this stage, no matter your age now!
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All About Love Addiction
Love addiction... what is it, how does it manifest, why does it start, and how can you address it? And even more interesting....what are some books and TV shows about it?? Thanks for subscribing, guys!
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A Happy Life Vs A Meaningful Life
Many people chase a happy life... but eventually recognize that this is a moving target. Creating meaning is both easier and harder than looking for happiness, but ultimately is more fulfilling. Listen to how many people transition from happiness search to meaning creation!
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How Does Marriage Change At Midlife?
At 40, the developmental psychologist Erik Erikson says that we move from the "Intimacy vs Isolation" stage to "Generativity vs Despair." What does this mean for you as an individual and within your marriage?
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Remember, If You Do Everything For Your Child, They Will Turn Into An Underfunctioning Adult
Many people treat their child like they are completely incompetent... and then assume that, as an adult, their child will turn into a confident and competent adult. This is setting them up to fail. Here are the ways that overfunctioning for your kids hampers their life, including later relationships! A wakeup call in the age of overparenting!
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If You've Always Been A Goofball.... Here's Why Your Marriage May Be Frustrating In Later Years
Thanks for subscribing! Some guys find it easy or comfortable to take on a "goofy" persona starting in adolescence or even earlier. They get a woman who likes or tolerates it, and then, after kids and with age, things often change for the worse within the marriage. Here's why and what to do about it.
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There Is No Amount Of Time Spent With Your Avoidant Husband That Will Be Enough
Time spent with an avoidant guy is like junk food. No amount will fill you up, because it's not the quality you need. Start asking for the right things versus the wrong things, and this may move the needle!
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Make Your Own Money
If you are a woman, and someone tells you what you can and cannot buy at Target, this is like being a child. Here's why not to get into this dynamic. Also covered: compulsive shopping, family of origin impact on financial attitudes, being a SAHM, and why "my money is ours and hers is hers" is BS.
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It's Usually Normal That Your Wife Is Stressed Out... And What To Do When It's Not
Most women feel stressed out regularly. In reality, humans are supposed to feel stressed, it actually helps us perform better. Listen to be reminded of the Yerkes Dodson Law that you may have learned in Psych 101, and also to learn how to empathize and when to (and NOT to) help!
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What To Do When The Kids Walk All Over Your Wife
This episode can be a huge wake up call for men who blame their wife for being too passive. Look inward and into your past for clues on why you may be making this worse. Included: an actionable script for what to say to your kids to change the frame.
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"Love Languages Are Not Based On Research" And When People Say Stuff Like This In Marriage
Thanks for subscribing! Why this is a silly thing to say, and how couples try to get their way by citing "science," which rarely works to resolve arguments, versus empathizing with one another, which often works!
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The Same Hormones That Made Her Feel Crazy Are Leaving The Building
Remember, there is a real true positive of your wife's hormonal decrease! Listen and learn, grasshopper.
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Of Course Women Are Sad When Their Sex Drives Decrease
Some men think women don't care. Do you not care when you can't run as fast anymore? Everyone minds aging. But it happens anyway, and acceptance of this while acknowledging the sadness is important work. Send this to your husband to open up a conversation!
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5 Things To Say When Your Wife Is Mad
What's covered in this awesome episode? Why, only five ways to instantly defuse conflict with your wife! Listen and learn.
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Don't Take Tracking Your Wife's Ovulation To Some Dystopian Novel Level, Guys
Thanks for subscribing! Some guys take tracking their wife's ovulation to an extreme. Don't do this! She is still a person first, not a reproductive system only. And also, what she means by "read the room" in terms of when you should initiate.
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What Motivates My Desire To Help Couples Understand Each Other
The answer may surprise you, and motivate you even more to start your own couples therapy! The discussion covers my own experiences as well.
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COVID Codependence
Some couples got way too enmeshed during COVID and have struggled ever since with the re-integration of extended family, going back to work, and hobbies/friends. In this episode, I go into depth about this phenomenon and tell you how to work on it if it describes your marriage!
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Working Together: Good Idea Or Terrible For Your Marriage?
I have many clients who work together, and it works well for some and poorly for others. Here's what makes this more and less likely to succeed! And I also work with my husband so I give you my own take on this dynamic.
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Sex Positive Vs High Libido
Thanks for subscribing! Some people brought up these terms in the secret group... they are not synonymous! Here's the differences and why sex positive is way more important for later marriage than high libido!
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Some Guy Equates A Breach Of Contract Between Partners In A Therapy Practice To A Sexless Marriage And My Response
Yet another man on the internet tries to mansplain stuff about sex to me even though I am literally a person who tells women to have more sex. Hey guess what everyone, men aren't pure victims. Just like women aren't. I fix the analogy and remind everyone that life is complex and that women aren't bait and switching unless it's the same Lifetime movie where the man has a secret second family. AKA most people aren't sociopaths and life isn't black and white!
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Retroactive Jealousy: When You're Obsessed With Your Partner's Past
What is retroactive jealousy and why do some people struggle with it so much? Many reasons are covered in this podcast episode, including the one where you actually are worrying for a good reason!
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The Pros And Cons Of Starting Your Relationship As Friends
If you originally met as friends, it can be difficult to transition into romance... but you usually have a strong foundation of mutual respect. Can you be attracted to someone you met as a friend? Can you fully transition into romantic partners, and if so, how? How does the honeymoon stage come into play in this dynamic? All this and more on today's episode!
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Should High Libido Wives Withhold Sex To Make Their Husbands More Romantic?
Thanks for subscribing! Got this question in the secret group and it's similar to when guys talk about "inspiring dread" to make their wives more interested. Do not game-play with your spouse, it will backfire with all healthy people! Also covered: a lot about attachment.
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Financial Abuse And Control
Financial control and abuse can be insidious. If your partner is the only one allowed to buy things or make decisions about how money can be spent, or if you have no idea how money is managed or what accounts you have money in, this episode is for you!
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Nobody "Has The Power" In An Unhappy Marriage
Often, men think that the woman "holds the power" if she has a lower sex drive... just like how women think the man "holds the power" if he has a lower desire to be emotionally close. The reality is that nobody is happy or feels powerful in an unhappy marriage, not the anxious partner or the avoidant one! Here's how to rethink this, as well as why it can be transformative to understand that women in no way LIKE rejecting their husbands for sex!
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You Can Co-Create A Happy Marriage
Thanks for subscribing! If both of you are on board, you can intentionally create a happy marriage. Here's how to think about this!
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Responsive ROMANCE!
Remember, more women have sex when they don't want to than men are romantic when they don't want to be... because men more are avoidant. So here's what to think about if you think romance should be "organic"... based on what I've already taught you about responsive desire in women!
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If Your Wife Finds You Attractive It Doesn't Really Matter (In This Sense)
It doesn't really matter how hot your wife thinks you are, although you can certainly be hoodwinked by an entire industry looking to tell you that becoming hotter will lead to more sex. Here's why and how attraction doesn't matter... and the case where it does.
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Sex Positive/High Libido Women May Feel MORE Of A Drop Hormonally With Age
Whenever I post about the incendiary idea that humans age and drives decline, some women say they are more comfortable now than when younger, which can compensate. In this episode, I discuss high vs low libido women over time, and drive over time as well. As usual, join my Facebook group if you want to see where some of these podcast topics originate!
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Compatibility Is SO Important!! (And Happy Anniversary To Me And My Husband)
Thanks for subscribing! Today I discuss how yin and yang really doesn't work as well as the movies would have you think. Here's why with every year in practice, I believe more and more that computers or matchmakers should arrange matches based on personality testing (and my own experience with a simulacrum of that).
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Don't "Try To Be More Interesting" To Make People Interested In You
Many preoccupied attachment people think they need to develop extra hobbies or travel more or make themselves "more interesting" in order to attract people or maintain the interest of their spouse. This is not accurate. Do things you want to do if you want to attract people who value you for you!
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Fighting About Loading The Dishwasher? Listen To This
This is a huge waste of the only time you have on this planet. Listen up for what you're really fighting about and how to think about it differently. This went longer as expected as I touched on individual-level, couples-level, and even societal-level reasons for these types of arguments!!
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"I Just Want To Be Alone" Is Now Considered A Healthy Female Ideal
It's the era of no touch! Women who feel this way are now extolled in the media. Why this hurts marriages... but also individuals, and how to situate this in the context of social trends.
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"Porn Doesn't Create Masturbation" Is Wrong
Thanks for subscribing! A guy on Facebook said that guys would masturbate just as much without porn. Would people eat as much without processed food? Come on, people.
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Why Being A Good Stepdad Gets Men A Lot Of Love And How To Approximate This Effect If You're Not A Stepdad
I have long noticed that guys who remarry women with kids get a lot of love from their wives, and this topic just came up in my Facebook group as well. And it's my own situation, fwiw! What is the reason, and how can you understand it in a way that helps you get the same love from your wife if you aren't remarried?
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Nostalgia For Your "Prime" And How This Impacts Men And Women
The prime years of your life can look different based on your personality, gender, and values. Here is how nostalgia for your "prime" looks for many men and women I see in my practice, and how this impacts their relationship in different stages. Also, what if you didn't feel you had a prime?
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Why Men Nowadays Don't Know That Drive Drops For Men After The Honeymoon Stage And With Age
Men in earlier generations admitted this freely. Here's why they don't anymore! Included: The Coolidge Effect, testosterone, porn, and more!
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Why Your Dirty Talk Fails To Turn On Your Wife
Thanks for subscribing! Today I address why your attempts to verbally seduce your wife go awry, including common male mistakes and how to change things for the better.
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Yes, Sex Is A Proxy For Connection. But, Connection Shouldn't Be Your Central Obsession Either!
Sometimes preoccupied attachment guys use my podcasts to tell their wives how it is normal for them to be super invested in their sex lives because sex is a proxy for intimacy and connection. But keep in mind that connecting with your wife ALSO shouldn't become a central and defining obsession! NO EXCEL SPREADSHEETS ARE HEALTHY, whether you're documenting date nights, conversations, or sex!
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Why You Can't Find A Partner After Divorce
If you're finding this very difficult, then here's a breakdown of why and what to do!
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"Gaming" or "Hacking" Your Wife Makes Her Respect You Much, Much Less
Some guys go beyond "working on their marriage" and think they can somehow "hack" their wife to make her constantly desire them. This is silly and makes your wife think of you like a child. Here's how this dynamic plays out and why it is one of the worst things you can do!
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Sulking When You Don't Get Laid Is As Wrong As Sulking If Your Kids Don't Listen
Thanks for subscribing! Today I address, again, because it seems to still be confusing for many, whether it is "okay" to sulk when you don't have sex. Here is why it isn't, what sulking is, what to do instead, and a really helpful analogy.
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Should Your Husband "Be Happy With What He Gets" In Bed?
Well, I guess you'd have to ask yourself... what is he getting in bed? This episode includes a whole bunch of extra info and includes various situations where your husband might want to think deeper about why he is unhappy! (And some situations where almost anyone would be unhappy.)
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What To Say To Your Husband When You Don't Want Sex... Instead Of Mean Stuff
Someone asked, "As the higher drive spouse in my marriage I do most of the initiating and hear “no” pretty frequently. Some no’s feel a lot more like a rejection than others. This is usually when they are accompanied by “we just had sex 4 days ago, you’re insatiable,” “you just have a one-track mind,” “you should just take care of things yourself,” “maybe if you had done [insert chore or criticism] I would have said yes,” “you don’t need sex, you just want it,” “maybe sometime later (typically with a vague date, often a week or more in the future),” or “what is wrong with you?” "I understand that often the answer is going to be “no” because she just isn’t in the mood, or the circumstances aren’t right, or she has her period, or there is some other barrier and this is just the way things are, but I wonder if at least the process/communication could be improved. Is there any chance you would be able to do a post on what best practice in saying “no” would look like in order to minimize the associated hurt and feelings of rejection to one’s spouse?" Here's the answer!
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Happy Valentine's Day... Here's How To Make It Good!
What can you do RIGHT NOW to make this an awesome Valentine's Day, and why "Hallmark holiday" is a foolish term that translates to "I'm closed minded, difficult, and avoidant."
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"You NEVER Act Like You Love Me/Kiss Me/Hug Me/Compliment Me!": The Preoccupied Woman's Lament
Thanks for subscribing! Today we tackle pursuer/distancer relationships, specifically one common interaction where the preoccupied attachment woman says the avoidant man NEVER does some expression of love, and he responds with the time and date of his last ten prior expressions. That doesn't work, so here's what will, why, and what is really going on here on a deeper level.
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