Another Ki Random Podcast
By David Ogutu
Another Ki Random PodcastJul 03, 2022
Controlled Bullying:Tough Love or Trauma.
In this thought-provoking podcast episode, we delve into the controversial topic of whether there is a case for controlled bullying. We explore whether exposing children to a certain level of bullying can toughen them up and prepare them for the harsh realities of the real world or whether the negative impacts of such an approach, including the trauma and long-lasting effects that bullying can have on children are not worth it.
ON RAISING A TEENAGER
On the continuation of our podcast series from last time, Maria and I talk about our new responsibility in raising a teenager
ON PRETTY NICOLE AND OUR DAUGHTERS GROWING UP FAST
We throwback to the scandal that started the year, the unfortunate assault of Pretty Nicole and how that reflects for the society we are raising our daughters in.
Boarding School Syndrome
On this podcast, we talk about Boarding School Syndrome, first coined through the work of the psychotherapist Nick Duffell. In the therapeutic work that he was doing with ex-boarders from the early 1990s, he found that there were common traits that these clients were presenting and so those who have “survived” boarding school became the boarding school survivors. Joy Schaverien, expanded on this work in her book, Boarding School Syndrome where she talks in more depth about the trauma of the 'privileged' child.
We talk about the trauma of boarding school and David shares some strange 'positives' for somewhat strange experiences.
Did you attend boarding school? Did you see it as a positive experience or a negative experience or did you feel rather indifferent towards your boarding school education? Share with us.
Is teaching cultural norms relevant in this progressive world?
Maria and I talk about some cultural norms, their origins, and what we think their place is in this progressive world where its been argued by some, that because of the harms of this culture, it should be done away with entirely.
Lets Talk Mental Health
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. Matama and I discuss candidly our own mental health struggles and journeys.
Parent Wounds
In this episode, we discuss my visit to my father with my daughter it can create, seeing that how your parent relates with their grandchild is different from how they relate with you.
Aunt Penny and Gender Roles
Aunt Penny took Twitter by storm when she set out what kind of women her men should marry. They would be willing to put up with men who will not wash, clean, cook or do any housework. We speak about her assertions and gender roles.
Money, Money, Money.
We talk about money in relationships and how we go about it in ours.
Old Wives Tales
The Ogutu's go to Dubai
We spent a few days away attending my wife's graduation in Dubai and also having a mini holiday. It was also an interesting time of self-discovery and challenging certain assumptions about ourselves. We talk about it all in this episode
What is compatibility anyway?
We sit to talk about how different we are as a couple, and how all the things we thought about compatibility when we were younger, are not true today.
Reboot Episode 4: The Dissonance of Adulthood
When we are growing up, we have a vision of what our adulthood will look like. Many times it doesn't turn out that way. Sometimes it does and it's not as satisfying as you thought. In this episode, my wife and I talk about those experiences in our own lives, and how we are coping with them.
Reboot Episode 3: A few thought on (step)fatherhood. A fathers day special
My foray into fatherhood didn't have the 9-month waiting period. I dated a woman with a child and had to start dealing with it almost immediately. I believe part of the audition for my relationship included my 'fatherhood' of my wife's son. I talk about manoeuvring the step-child-stepfather relationship. Oh, did I mention my regular guest is on the podcast too?
Reboot, Episode 2: Let's Talk About Vitiligo, Baibe.
I sit with my wife to talk about how my vitiligo condition affects us in different ways. This is the first time we are ever having this conversation in our entire relationship.
Reboot, Episode 1: Saints or Mutineers
The Uganda Martyrs, 45 Christians were executed because they choose to believe in Jesus Christ instead of giving in to the homosexual advances of then Kabaka Mwanga. But is there more to that story? My wife and I talk about our understanding of the times and the context of it all. Were they saints or mutineers?
Does it pay to take your kids to schools with "influential" peoples kids?
I invite my wife to the pod, for hopefully the last time to talk about what schools we put our children in. The value of the networks they create and whether parents should sacrifice a little extra to get their kids into schools of people with valuable networks.
Kamezza. What the wife has to say about it.
I bring my wife on yet another podcast where she shares her views on my objections with Kamezza money.
Discovering Bigumba
On this podcast, I feature my wife, Matama Mary, talking about the mysterious ailment known as bigumba and its strange treatment.
Kamezza Money. We need to talk about this.
Yesterday the Wives Association of Uganda, protested over a host of things that their husbands needed to pay attention to, one of them being Kamezza money especially as the price of goods rises in the country. As a husband, I have some responses on some things that would make this Kamezza conversation easier.
The HIV Vaccine is going to be a trick
Over 37.7 Million people living with HIV, according to the WHO. Over the last 4 decades, there have been advancements in the treatment of HIV with single tablet ARVs and injectibles for pre and post-exposure. But now, due to the success of Covid 19 treatments, there is a possibility of an HIV Vaccine. I speak on the unexpected challenge it might face if it comes to be.
In defence of Simon Kaggwa Njala
Following his tweet about the final resting place of The Late Rt Hon Speaker Jacob Oulanya, I believe he was being unfairly crucified for a factual statement. I explore what that has to say about our relationship with death.
The Metaverse Is Fraud
Heard of the metaverse? Sounds cool right? I don't think so. I think it's fraudulent and people should be in jail for some of the stuff planned in there.
My neighbour is a which doc...sorry Sherman. Plot Twist.
A follow up on a previous episode on what its like living next to a traditional healer ( Sherman ), and the interesting plot twist that has developed since the last time I talked about it.
Season 2, Episode 8: Gambling with our Children.
I talk about the expectation to raise highly functioning, balanced, emotionally aware, stable children when in truth most of us are neither of those things nor do we have the tools to impart them.
Sorry Grammys! I have some things to say about Oscars So Will Smith.
I talk about the incident between Will Smith and Chris Rock and the real reason behind Will's reaction. I also highlight our (Ugandans) hypocrisy in commenting on that sitaution.
Season 2, Episode 5: On Child Mothers not being allowed into Church Of Uganda Schools
In light of the school reopening, one of the things schools have to deal with is child mothers. Despite recommendations from the government, Bishop Ssebagala of Mukono diocese said child mothers shouldn't be allowed into Church of Uganda schools. I spoke to a theologian, pastor, social activist and former Assistant Arch Bishop for Kampala Bishop Zac Niringiye about this position and what he thinks a better solution would be. I also shared my personal thoughts on the matter.
Mastering Time with Raymond Qatahar
On this episode, I talk to the most programmed human being I know; Journalist, Founder, Budding Saxophonist, Husband, Writer, Entrepreneur Raymond Mujuni Qatahar. He talks to us about how he manages to do so much on 24 hours and share some things we can all incoperate into our days to make better use of our time.
My neighbour is a witch doc... sorry Sherman.
On this episode of #AnotherKiRandomPodcast, I talk about this new interesting relationship I have to manoeuvre with my new neighbour who believes practices African spirituality.
Life is for the Living
First, I AM BACK. Thank you for your patience.
On this episode, I reflect on the death of my brother, and how that changed me beyond what I initially realised. I also share a couple of things that you can expect in this Season (yes, I am deciding that this is Season 2, rules be damned) of Another Ki Random Poscast.
Episode 27: How Whatsapp Saved Uganda at the Dubai 2020 Expo
After a long break, the podcast is back talking about the Facebook downtime and how much of a blessing it was to Uganda. #Dubai2020Expo
Episode 26: My daughter's imaginary friend Lulu.
My daughter recently introduced me to her imaginary friend Lulu, and as an African parent, I don't know how to deal with this.
Episode 25: The logic behind our govt not investing in sports
I talk about our recent triumphs at the 2020 Olympics and why I think despite the obvious gain in investing in sports, our government is still hesitant.
Episode 24: How far would you go to protect yourself from people who refuse to be vaccinated?
As vaccination snails on, there is an ever-growing (in the more vaccinated countries) trend to draw societal boundaries via whether or not someone is vaccinated. Will we see that trend come here when we eventually reach a sensible threshold? How is vaccination going to affect friendships and workplace interaction?
Episode 23: It is as much our fault as it is the 600 shilling bank.
I talk about the bank that charges UGX600 for people to check their bank balance, and how we are to blame, at least partially, for this.
Episode 22: Is it necessary to shower everyday?
There is a constant debate about the real benefit of showering every day. WE talk about what celebrities say, what science says, and what I think.
Episode 21: We need to consider an extra olympics
I talk about Lauren Hubbard the transgender weightlifter who has caused a lot of debate in the 2020 Tokyo olympics.
Episode 20: Do Millenials and Gen Z have a bad attitude towards work?
I talk about the contrasting expectations of work today vs work in our parent's day and how that might be causing us problems.
On lockdowns possible end and UACE results
As we wind down the week, I talk about the things causing us a bit of anxiety ending the week; The presidents impending speech and the release of UACE results
Episode 18: Maybe the pandemic is not all bad
At the worst time in living memory, I try to glimpse a silver lining from the Covid 19 pandemic inspired by the noticeable difference in our TBT posts.
Episode 17: Fred and the Capitalist Bicycle
I talk about New Vision rewarding a long-serving member with a bicycle and how that is a true representation of the world we live in
Episode 16: I think my wife is a witch.
Episode 15: A Friday, in a pandemic in Uganda
It's Friday then, it's Saturday, Sunday, what? Most Ugandans now skip everything and just go to the what part. I discuss why that is. Especially this week.
Episode 14: What makes a man?
Commentary on the male and female dynamic as expressed by an anonymous lady on Twitter spaces and the role of anthropology on how most people view that dynamic.
Episode 13: Whats going to happen to our kids?
It's a confusing time as school calendars either stagnate or collide. Primary 7 results are out as Senior 1's haven't moved an inch. Other classes seem to be stuck in place. I explore the impact of that on us parents and our kids.
Episode 12: Julius! Julisu! Julius!
Julius Sekitoleko, an Olympic weightlifter has gone missing from Uganda's training camp after failing to qualify for the 2021 Tokyo Games. I talk about the spectacle surrounding this
Episode 11: What really goes into not having unplanned kids?
Over the weekend, I escorted my wife to get our family planning method. It was an eye-opening experience. I share about why all men should go with their partners.
Episode 10: Omission is not necessarily lying.
I talk about why the philosophy of total honesty is not always the best. Sometimes you have to omit some information.
Yes, A Rolex stand can make you rich.
I talk about the statistical disadvantage graduates have, and maybe how we need to start looking at our world differently.
Episode 8: They are laughing at us
A Uganda Airlines flight was delayed because it couldn't refuel in time. I talk about the implications of that on us as a country.