Intuitive Vibez Narc Survival 101

Ever wonder why some people (maybe even yourself) find themselves remaining put in relationships, which can be toxic and even severely abusive? Though there’s so much more to consider, this clip gives Betrayal Trauma in simple terms and helps to understand the not-so-understandable.

This short excerpt provides more phrases commonly used in the cyclic behaviors of Narcissistic Abuse in family, romantic, and associative (friendships) relationships.

Although it’s believed Narcissism is found more in men, opposed to women, Female Narcissists are undetectable due to their extremely covert tactics. Which leads me to believe, how can one generalize a gender, when covert behaviors are utilized?

In this clip, I give some of the characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and how the signs mimic Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Please be sure to check out Intuitive Vibez Narc Survival 101 on YouTube for up to date content and our weekly lives.

A lot of victims of Narcissistic Abuse have wondered why, after all is said and done, why a Narcissist would go Silent. In this clip, I (joined by my best friend Amanda) give a few reasons why a Narcissist would go silent, after a discard.

After enduring one of the most painful and traumatic experiences one can have with a Narcissist, one often wonders... will they EVEN apologize and if they do, are they being genuine?

Many stay in relationships with emotionally unavailable people b/c they think they can change them or teach them how to properly love/treat them, while there are people walking this same earth, who have not only been taught, but have learned with life that happiness and love come from WITHIN, and are passing them by b/c they’re focused on trying to “fix” someone else.
If you choose to take on this RESPONSIBILITY (because that’s what that is) understand you are making room for disappointment.

******Advisory: Explicit Language****** These people are not worth your time, energy, or effort. They will drain you of everything and STILL blame you for running on empty, STILL hold YOU accountable for their nonsense, and STILL have you looking a fool if you think blind loyalty is what’ll make the boo boo better. Heed the signs.

After a heartbreaking, gut wrenching discard, most would think victims of Narcissistic Abuse would NEVER return to the person(s) who degraded them, demeaned them, and discarded them. Unfortunately, this is farthest from the truth and in fact, a lot of victims end up returning to the abuser (some more than once).

It’s common for Narcissists to have people (exes) they’ve dated in their surroundings as “Friends” because Narcissists like to recycle. Whether they be Covert or Inverted, If/when supply is running low, Narcissists will keep exes in their surroundings, to fuel them.

Be mindful of those who have exes/past partners as friends, as they may play a bigger, more deceptive role than you think.

*Some Explicit Language

In this clip, I give MY three rules on how I manage to acquire the dynamics I need in my life and maintain the peace I deserve.

Anyone who has experienced Toxic Relationships and/or Narcissistic abuse, though they can find it difficult to achieve, they know the importance and imperativeness of having and maintaining peace in their life.

People of Narcissistic nature will have victims believing:
1. Their mimicking behaviors are the abuser’s true nature
2. The victims are meant to be options, and the victim should feel validated for being such
3. The victim is bitter for disassociating and detaching from unacceptable behaviors

With the extremities of abusers, victims should be twice as extreme with their strength. It’s a lengthy road, nonetheless, there is a finish line 🏁

(With my Discard as an example)
A discard can be UNBELIEVABLE because you literally do not recognize the person who, in your entire relationship, told you they loved you, promised to (in so many words) to be kind, gentle, loyal, decent, and most importantly... respectful.

As a victim, this common mistake can make or break how your future relationships turn out.

A narcissist is very coherent in their decisions and it’s primarily due to the IDEA that they will get what they want and will get away with the deceitful actions committed.

Being self absorbed and self serving, they know what they are doing is wrong, they simply do not care. It’s all about their needs and desires... everyone else is nothing but a warehouse of supply.

For most who’ve endured Narcissistic Abuse, a lot of people hear certain phrases and terminology, yet are not quite sure what it means. In this video, I give you some of the phrases and examples of these phrases, to help with understanding.

Terms in Video:
1. Triangulation
2. Flying Monkeys
3. Gaslighting
4. Supply
5. Narcissistic Discard
6. Deflection
7. Negging

If you’ve gone through the motions (discard) with a Narcissist, please understand their family was fake from the jump!

The Narc has been the victim of abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, gossip, shame, etc... by people of their own dynamic.. trust me, you will be no different.

Please do not attempt to reach out to them, thinking they care... THEY DON’T!!!

Whether the Narcissist is a family member or romantic partner, they will stoop to the lowest levels to keep their victims stuck or even trap them, to maintain all sorts of control.

People can change, right? They can work on becoming better individuals.
What about a Narcissist?

Well... let’s see...

How does someone, who believes everyone external to them is the problem, and not themselves, change?

What happens when a Narcissist fails in their “endeavors”? When they’ve been found out or rejected? Or when they simply run out of fuel? Listen in...

“The Narcissist’s Secret Fears”

Most wonder if people, who feel entitled and are completely egotistical, have any fears. If people who feel the need to be “perfection” in the eyes of others, and feel they can “do no wrong”, is it possible they could have fears...

Answer: yes! Narcissists not only have fears, but fear others knowing about these fears, as it would be revealing their weaknesses. In this clip we learn some of their fears, what exposure does, and deciphering narcissists in your surroundings.

“A son is a prince raised, with the loving, devoted care of his mother, to become a King... who will attract his loving devoted Queen”

Unfortunately, a son of a Narcissist will have a long, burdensome journey of endless toxic cycles before he can ever accomplish that, let alone appreciate that.
With the length of toxicity and abuse, the son is liable to attract toxic women (codependent - narcissist / narcissist - narcissist relationships) because the leading woman of his life laid the toxic foundation. Cycles of toxic familial/spousal relationships are repetitive and the trauma bonds created are too enmeshed, making it extremely difficult to break free from.
The three [types of] sons to a Narcissist Mother are:
1. The Golden Child - Privileged because of compliance
2. The Scapegoat - Fall guy; takes blame; never feels good enough
3. The Forgotten Son - No relevance to Narc Mother; ignored child

Narcissists do not know love... but they sure as hell know OBSESSION.. especially when they’ve lost control.

If they want to be “part of your life”, it simply means they want power and control in your life.

She’s entitled
She’s one sided
She’s insulting
She’s demeaning
She’s quick to anger
She’s about image
It’s her way or the highway...

She’s the DEVIL!!!

Not only giving a reminder as to how these females are, but informing those who are not sure. Female narcissists are extremely damaging, manipulative, and down right con artists. Their “persona” is just that... these people are just so malicious, internally envious, and feel the world should drop to their feet.

Don’t fall for their “humble” demeanor, as they are utilizing a false mask for their own personal gain

“The Beginning”

This story was a tough one to make because it meant reliving the events, re-feeling the pain, and tempering myself so that I’m not triggered. I attempted to make this story 2 times and both times, I went into emotional discord.

However... I needed to get it out. Someone needed to know they’re not crazy, they’re not “unloveable”, and they’re not doomed.

Speaking from a humble space, a torn heart, and devotion to help others...

This is my story...

Narcissistic personality disorder derives from a narcissistic environment. In Healthy family settings each member plays a role based on the dynamics. In a narcissistic family, a member is given a role based on the mood and manipulation integrated by the narcissistic member who holds the most “control”.

The family (cast) is as follows:
1. The Narcissist (Tyrant)
2. The Enabler/Codependent (supporter)
3. The Flying Monkeys (Manipulated band wagoners)
4. The Golden Child (idealized child)
5. The Scapegoat (blamed victim - later turned Black-sheep)

Others not mentioned:
The Lost Child (forgotten child)
The Mascot (family clown)
The Hero (caretaker of family)

No matter the role, ALL are victims of a form of manipulative abuse. Narcissism goes beyond vanity, cockiness, and self absorption. Psychological abuse is detrimental and extremely hazardous

After all the damage that was said and done, they want to keep you as a “friend”, failing to mention the reasons why. Narcissists are known for keeping a harem (group of people sharing one person) of their exes in a friend zone as a form of “tangible” use. They use a friendship as a cover up for their REAL agenda, which is to use you whenever and however way they can; especially if supply has reduced or they are yet again bored with whom they are involved with.
Narcissists have a number of their own selfish reasons, but the main outcome is SUPPLY! Narcissists can be men or women and have different ways they go about their agendas. Use discernment at ALL times

“A son is a prince raised, with the loving, devoted care of his mother, to become a King... who will attract his loving devoted Queen”

Unfortunately, a son of a Narcissist will have a long, burdensome journey of endless toxic cycles before he can ever accomplish that, let alone appreciate that.
With the length of toxicity and abuse, the son is liable to attract toxic women (codependent - narcissist / narcissist - narcissist relationships) because the leading woman of his life laid the toxic foundation. Cycles of toxic familial/spousal relationships are repetitive and the trauma bonds created are too enmeshed, making it extremely difficult to break free from.
The three [types of] sons to a Narcissist Mother are:
1. The Golden Child - Privileged because of compliance
2. The Scapegoat - Fall guy; takes blame; never feels good enough
3. The Forgotten Son - No relevance to Narc Mother; ignored child

A child of a narcissist will either develop narcissistic traits or codependency issues and can even develop C-PTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) as a result of psychological abuse.

Explained in the video:

1. Abuse
2. Emotional unavailability
3. Control
4. Competition

The dynamics between a mother and child should be filled with unconditional love, emotional support, empathy, devotion, understanding, and trust. We owe them the right to have loving, long lasting and healthy connections, with guidance and no judgment. It’s what being a parent is all about.

Wonder how a Narcissist is created?

Note: not ALL behavior and characteristics MUST Apply to determine traits of NPD

It’s devastating to ever have to come to terms that a mother would/could be a narcissist. Sometimes it’s undetectable because of years worth of manipulation, the children think it’s part of life... they think it’s “Normal”
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It’s anything but. •
To a narcissistic parent, children are to serve their (the parents) needs. Parents who have NPD not only deprive their children of proper love, emotional attachment, and safety... they are depriving them of their identity and their real chance at having happiness. •
In this video are 5 (of many) traits and tactics used by a narcissist mother:
1. Everything she does is deniable
2. She makes YOU look crazy
3. She’s a liar in too many ways to count
4. She displays Favoritism
5. She exploits her child(ren)
Children to a narcissist/parent with NPD are more at risk to:
-Developing Narcissistic Personality Disorder
-Developing Codependency issues (both personal and substance abuse)
-Attracting toxic relationships -Forming trauma bonds -Suffering mental, emotional and even physical abuse
-Emotional instability -Develop self sabotaging behaviors
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Narcissist parents thrive on keeping their children bound, by any means, while manipulating and hurting them without a second thought. Discern 🙏

[Excerpt from YouTube video] Many find it hard to go “No Contact” with someone they really want to contact... imagine that with a Narcissist. Going no contact is probably one of the hardest phases in the start of the healing process and it’s due to the “addiction” to the Narcissist.

Though it may be hard, it’s NOT impossible. Of course, this all depends on how serious you are about your healing and how serious you are about reclaiming your life back.

Codependency in relationships (whether with a Narcissist or non Narcissist) can be toxic either way we look. The person in the Codependent role has no sense of identity and therefore relies on external sources/people to emotionally gratify them.

Codependency, much like Narcissism is an expanding epidemic. If you think you suffer from Codependency, it’s never too late to get the help you need to overcome it

Inverted Narcissists (IN) are classified as Codependents who ACTIVELY seek relationships with Narcissists, regardless of the abuse afflicted. IN are reliant on the dynamics of a relationship with Narcissists and cannot sustain relationships with Non-Narcissists. Like any other Narcissist, IN when faced with injury and rage, can be just as hostile and volatile.

Discussed in the video:
1. The Rage
2. The Response to injury
3. The Reaction to breakups
4. The Lifestyle/Upbringing

(Some explicit Language) Because...
Because I have a son, whom I worked so hard to protect and teach him unconditional love.
Because we women, who give our all, are tired of fixing hearts we didn’t break. Hearts broken with someone else’s actions, all to have ours destroyed in the process

(YouTube channel: Intuitive Vibez) The Malignant Narcissist (a/k/a The Toxic Narcissist) is considered one of the dangerous narcissists on the spectrum. Borderline Sociopaths (Narcissism + ASPD), malignant Narcs can go to extremes to hurt/destroy their victims.

In this episode, the following is explained:

1. Entitlement
2. Lack of Conscience/Empathy
3. They are Sadists (Sadistic)
4. Extremely Egocentric
5. Extremely Paranoid
6. They project their bad behaviors onto others

(Audio clip from my YouTube channel Intuitive Vibez) The Cerebral Female Narcissist, alongside the Malignant Female Narcissist, is considered to be one of the most dangerous (as well as undetectable).

A master manipulator, who utilizes the mind and “words” in effort to gain narcissistic supply and deteriorate the mind of her victim(s), with the precise use of gaslighting and diversion. Cerebral narcissists utilize their intellect to make others feel unintelligible and completely inferior. Their tactics are just as callous and detrimental. Their deception and devalue, just as brazen.

After the betrayal of family, or a horrendous discard from a Narcissist ex, you’d think one would be able to just let go of the Narcissist. However, letting go is not so easy.

If it were... leaving would be easier

Somatic Narcissists are considered to be the most vain, on the spectrum of Narcissism. Though they are most superficial and materialistic, they are no less worst than any other Narcissist. In this video are listed 7 signs of a Somatic Narcissist:

1. They obsess over their appearance
2. They use sex to validate their self esteem
3. They take credit for YOUR accomplishments
4. They neglect your needs
5. They hate criticism
6. They gaslight you
7. They criticize people based on their appearance

If left attached and unhealed, toxic attachments (family, friends, romantic relationships, addictions) can truly sabotage your life and even make you sick (mentally, physically, and spiritually). You’ll find yourself either continuing the same cycles with the same people or creating the same cycles with different people... dynamics remain the same. Detachment can be hard, especially if the toxic attachment is with a family member, nonetheless necessary. If you find yourself in the same patterns [with the same people] detachment is your best chance at having a happy, healthy, stable life and mental well being 🙏💜

In this episode, I go over the different types of Narcissists you should steer clear of. Yes! There is more than one type.

There is a difference between being an “Ex” and being a “bitter Ex”. An ex is one who, despite the circumstances, will walk away with their dignity in tact. A bitter ex is one who, because they no longer can control, manipulate, or make your life miserable for their own personal gain, would do anything to sabotage your chance at having a great relationship. Know the difference... know the thin line.

Succubus:
a female demon who appears to be a very beautiful woman and has sex with men to feed off their sexual energy.
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Her [covert] toxicity, you find “exhilarating”. Her beauty, you can’t just help but feel proud to have. She’s “exciting” and “adventurous”. She’s the one all the men want, but YOU have her... *
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She’s in control. She’s the best you’ll ever have. No one compares to HER. She’s your trophy. She’s also... YOUR DOWNFALL!

(Some explicit language) **Emasculation not limited to only mothers** **Toxic females either were emotionally/mentally abused/deprived by fathers, or abandoned.

Often, people ask themselves, “What did I do to deserve this?”, and the truth is, absolutely nothing. You are not responsible for how others internalize their trauma, which they then project onto you, hence a “Toxic Relationship”. Toxicity is a dynamic created by projection... projection of fears, internal pain, disconnect, and deprivation. Break the cycles and see the difference!