Unmothered + Unbothered Podcast

I was so motivated to get this message out! It’s healing time!! In this episode, I share 5 pivotal things that I had to grasp and fully understand before I was able to see a real difference in my healing process. Listen, digest, and move accordingly!

Hey y’all! What y’all been doing??

In this episode, I explain the reason for my dry spell and briefly mention what I have in the works for the future of Unmothered + Unbothered!

This is part 2 and there is a huge bomb dropped at the end of the episode! Part 1 explained Amanda's background and how her mom got connected to the woman that will destroy her and those closest to her.

Stay tuned for part 3!!

An orchestrated meeting with a stranger leads Amanda's mom to run through her 401k, buy a condo for the stranger, buy a brand new car for the stranger's daughter and ultimately leave her mom broke and homeless.

These are just a few details you will hear in this series. There couldn't be a better episode to jump-start my comeback! In this episode, I interview Amanda about her growing up with a mother that was in a cult until the day she died. This ended up being a 4-hour interview, full of twists and turns that I was not ready for! This is part 1 but I will be dropping the other parts weekly until we are done. Listen carefully! You won't want to miss a thing!

In this episode, I speak with Sabrina about growing up with a mother that was too trusting and carefree. As a result, Sabrina had to grow up before her time and experienced some things that she will never forget. Although her mother has a giving heart, Sabrina often shuffled between her home and her grandmother's home because her mother did not provide a stable place for her to live. She often lost the rent money on extracurricular activities, claiming that God would find a way to provide for them. Her attention was always focused on the men in her life, who were an unwelcomed, unhealthy addition to their lives. Sabrina is now an adult with her own family and her mother has yet to "grow up", which resulted in Sabrina taking her sister into her home at the age of 3. She is now a 19-year-old  college student. What was supposed to be a temporary fix until her mother pulled it together, turned into a permanent situation. Sabrina figured this would happen, so her primary goal all through college was to obtain her degree so that she could create a stable home for her sister to grow up in.

Losing her hearing at the age of 3, being molested by several men from the age of 5, and holding a secret about her uncle for years so that her cousins would not be without their father, did not stop Sabrina from accomplishing her goals. She made no excuses and still does not. She has learned to create boundaries with her mother without guilt and accepts her for who she is. I am so proud of the woman Sabrina has fought to become and I know you all will be too!

Memorable quote:

"At 13 I revealed to my mother that my Uncle had had sex with me on several occasions and I didn't want her to tell anyone because I didn't want my cousins to be without a father. So in return, my mother blackmailed him and made him provide me school clothes every year. His wife unknowingly would take me shopping."

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There is a natural inclination to run from those things, people, and places that trigger us. This is assuming that we even know what our triggers are because most of us mistake our strong emotional reactions for passion and that is not always the case. We also run from our triggers because they scare us but we learn so much from those triggers. This episode is a quick look at why its important to delve into those triggers and embrace them.

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I know how I used to feel about forgiveness so I never want to force my current opinions on others. I do want to be able to tell my story and encourage others to take a close look at themselves and question whether they truly are "okay" with not forgiving someone. I used to think that I was not harboring ill feelings towards my mother and that forgiving her was not necessary until I began to notice my own toxic behaviors.  All I'm asking is that you stay true to yourself when it comes to what you need to feel whole.

This week I have decided to re-publish my very 1st episode, which happens to be the one with the most downloads. Lately, I have been reminded more and more of how important it is to be authentic to who I really am. Not because I want to be phony, but because I am constantly being told that I am too much. This is especially the case in professional settings because I am so passionate about what I do. Being told to relax or to hear coworkers say that I do "too much" is commonplace for me and I work hard every day to ensure I continue to show up, authentically. 

Dealing with this in the workplace can be tough for any of us for many reasons, but especially because we already battle imposters syndrome. We also fight against feelings of inadequacies because of the toxic relationships we had with our mothers, therefore this extra layer is frustrating. I re-published this episode to help all of us battle these feelings and to serve as the reminder we need to never water ourselves down or apologize for who we are. 

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In this episode, I explain what passive-aggressiveness is and how it plays out in people's actions. I use a personal story as an example to show what it looks like in real-time. I personally am not a fan of passive-aggressive people because I am more confrontational in nature. In my opinion,  there is no benefit in holding something that will eventually manifest in another way. Be up-front about it so that we can move on.

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In this episode, I discuss smear campaigns, also known as social media draggings. You know, when someone attempts to embarrass and discredit you online because they need people on their side? They make videos or create outlandish posts aimed at you, hoping to get a rise out of you.  Why do people do that? What are their actions REALLY about? Let's talk about it!

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Why do we suppress our feelings instead of showing them? Why do we equate certain feelings to being soft, hostile, and inadequate? The answer is simple: we were never taught how to process our feelings. We were taught that suppressing our feelings somehow gives us the upper hand. It does not. What we are feeling will come out one way or another and we will be forced to deal with them. 

In this episode, I discuss how we can become comfortable with feeling and why it's important.

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In this episode I interviewed “Nicole”, who wished to remain anonymous. She shares a different aspect of toxic mothers that some would call MATERNAL ENMESHMENT. This can essentially be described as a mother being overly and inappropriately involved in their (in this case) daughters life. She lives through the daughter and depends on her for physical and emotional support in most cases. The mother does not want the daughter to have any independence and will guilt her if she has her own mind. There are many layers and degrees to enmeshment and in this episode you’ll hear “Nicole’s” version.

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This week on Tell Us About it Tuesday (or what was supposed to be TUAT), we have April Mack out of Birmingham, AL, creator of Kick | Box | Sculpt and host of the Warm Up, Cool Down Podcast.  April and I  go back 20 years to undergrad and it was great catching up with her. She discusses how she left corporate America to follow her passion and how she finds the most joy out of the non-paying gigs she gets. You also don't want to miss the story of how she was stopped in the grocery store by a woman she never met, only to be told something that would forever stay in her heart. What started as a short spotlight, ended up being a memorable conversation about finding your passion, maintaining peace and raising a 15-year-old. If you are contemplating a change in your journey or are the parent to a teenager (bless you), you have to take a listen.

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Background track, Cold Maybe, produced by @akilpratt