After Hours With Amanda
By After Hours With Amanda
After Hours With AmandaJan 06, 2021
Ep. 53- You are NOT an Aesthetic
If I had one Episode you listened to, I hope it would be this one. In this episode, we dive into the idea that in a world that bombards us with all the things "we need" in all honesty what we need more than anything is to edit our environment and check in with ourselves. We dive into this idea of all our parts, who we are, and how that is made up. How the meaning of "aesthetic" has changed from perfection to identity and how we can exist in this new version of expectations we seem to be putting on ourselves and valuing. I hope you have your favorite bevie to settle in with a little chair chat together!
EP. The Box of Limitations We Build
Grab yourself a bevie and settle for a chat! In this episode we dig into the idea of not just limiting ideas but boxes we build around ourselves as well as our children when it comes to growth and change and how that journey is for each of us.
EP. 52 - The Bear Hunt of Grief
EP. 51 - From Hurt Girl to Girls Girl
Back for another of life and laughter we talk all things life updates after a week away and dive into the idea of a girls girl. Learning, loving, teaching, and growing how to become better humans than the hurt ones we were. Loving ourselves for our past but growing into new people who can help tiny humans create a kinder encouraging world of girls girls while still holding ourselves up to growth and empath for the past with fresh hope for the future.
EP. 50 Grief & Addiction- The People We Loved Yet Somehow No Longer Knew
In this episode, Amanda takes on a topic that has been requested over her last 3 years diving into the topic of her brother his addiction the life of that and the grief process of his physical death.
EP. 49 Relationships & the PitFall of Scorekeeping
In this episode we jump into the topic of relationships and gentle reminder " don't hear what I'm not saying" but Amanda will share not only relationships tips, stories, learning (because that's a life long journey" but also helpful tips from their marital counselor and why she almost didn't make it down the aisle and what her dad had to say about it. So grab a bevie and let's get things started.
EP. 48 -The Text Thread Heard Round the World
And just like that were back for Season 4! Spend this episode hearing where I went. Whats in store for season 4 and a brief preview of things to chat about this season and how we can keep ourselves from letting consumption consume us. I'm so happy you're here!
EP. 47 - The Purpose in the Pain
Grab a cuppa your favorite something and join Amanda for time together chatting all things therapy, inner child, surgery, and the process of pain over the last year.
Ep. 46 Disneyland - When the Mouse Called & Pixie Dust Was Made
Grab yourselves a cuppa of your fav and let's sit down and chat all things Disneyland and the adventure we had when the Mouse called!
EP. 45 Cinderella- It was Never About a Glass Slipper
If you love shoes and self-confidence grab your favorite bevie and settle if for what I hope will be a wonderful conversation.
EP. 44 & Just like that we're Back!
After a 5-month hiatus, we are back and ready to share all the things. In this quick episode let's catch up, share some nuggets, and get ready for what is going to be a great season and the rest of 2023. So grab your fab bevie an lets spend time together!
EP. 43- Do it For Her
In Episode 43, first things first we have to talk about all things Disney and Disneyland; I can't believe we made it happen but you know I had to share the details of how we made the magic happen! After that, we dig into the idea of focusing on the future while holding place for the Past band and being grateful for it. I share something I never have before; my pregnancy journal and to be honest I haven't cracked that thing open in so many years. I can't wait to share with you so sit back and let's chat~
Amanda
EP. 42 The Greatest Love of All & Your Personal Perspective
Our perspective shapes so much of what we do. Whether times are good or bad or whatever season of life what we tell ourselves matters. Just like we fuel our bodies what we feed our minds and allow in creates so much of the life we have. We can either let that be framed by others and their perspectives or create a storyline where we remind ourselves that no matter what is happening to us it can also be happening FOR US. Join us as we jump into another episode sharing life and all the things in between. As we take time to remind ourselves that being in the "process of life" doesn't dull the shine of a diamond but rather pressure creates a more precious gem.
EP.41 -Comparison- The Trap We Use Against Ourselves
So excited to be back and share this all new Episode!
EP. 40 Control: The Great Illusionist
I can't remember if it's week 3 or 4 but all I know is we have got to get together and chat for more than one week in a row and it's so exciting I honestly can barely believe it. This episode is special to me because we are diving into this idea of control and the fact that at the end of the day, it's one of life's greatest illusions. With everything that went down at the end of last year the feeling of having all and yet none is such a real experience and one that I wanted to share with you. So grab your cuppa whatever brings you joy and let's dive into some more time together.
EP. 38 Restriction vs. Restraint
Hey Happy Humans!
In this episode, we dive into the idea of restrictions vs restraint and what that looks like when raising tiny humans, having relationships with others as well as our relationship with ourselves and the things we care about. We dive into the idea of the present moment and hopefully take a break to listen, or finish a project but mainly spend time together as we continue to venture into this crazy thing called life. So grab your cuppa whatever brings you joy and join me for what I hope will be a meaningful conversation.
EP. 37 : Purpose & People over Productivity &
Hello Gorgeous! We're back for another episode so grab your favorite cuppa and let's chat! In Episode 37 Amanda dives into this idea that we have become so focused on the idea of productivity whether it be our own or those around us that we might have gotten to distracted we can't see those around us and the purpose of people in our lives. We are so much more than the balances and checks of our lives as well as the check boxes that need to be filled in so many areas of our life. Regardless we're going to talk about that as well as Makeup by Mario, Lyle Lyle Crocodile, and all the things. As always, I'm so happy you're here friend!
Ep. 36: Botox, Buttholes, & Bears Oh MY! The Last 4 months of my Life
Where have I been the last 4 months?? What has been going on? Well, that's going to take a while to explain so grab your fav beverage or settle in for a study session, or a load of laundry as we dive deep into the last 4 weeks and I share every last detail on this hour-long episode. Because if were honest no one really likes to wait for a part 2. I do want to say I want to include a trigger warning for this episode as we cover several topics involving food, and pain, and briefly touch on the subject of assault triggers for those of our community who would like to be prepared; I wanted to include that Trigger Warning. I am so excited for this season and all the lessons to share as we navigate this brand new year.
Ep 35. Building Trust: The Pebble in the Windshield & The Dock for the Boat
Hi Babes!
Well, we are officially 2/2 and by hindquarters are on the mend. In this episode, we dive into the idea of building trust with our tiny humans or humans in general. Because what can start as a small crack in the windshield can develop into so much more if we don't create the communication dock to return to. So join me as we chat all things Christmas decor, hemorrhoid journeys, Trader Joes Pineapple juice, and more! And as always thanks for tuning in friend!
xo, Amanda
Ep 34. The Holiday Haze- The Being is found in between the Doing & Giving
Hi Babe!
In this episode, we jump back in after several months away to kick things off with the holiday season. We chat all things barefoot dreams, hickory farms, and remembering to pause ourselves during the time of year that can bring joy and also pain. So come grab a cup of coffee, fold some laundry, or rock a little one to sleep and spend some time with me bestie.
Clean Your Plate & Forced Apology Mentality- The Silencing of Our Intuition
Hey Happy Humans! Were Back for another episode where we dive into this idea surrounding the "finish your plate" mentality and the "You better apologize now" mindset and how we inadvertently teach our tiny humans to not learn the skills they need to listen to their intuition and learn the skill of empathy. Come along for another rabbit trail adventure with me, myself, and I as we dive into some chit-chat and sleepy-time tea.
Hi! We're Back; Let's take a Deep Breath
It's been a minute, but we're back! I have been taking the week of socials so we are going to jump back in as y'all have been so kind sharing in my DM's and comments you've been waiting. This episode is a restart and a possible reset- she doesn't have a total point but I hope it has something for you.
Ep. 31: You Asked- I Answered: My Trauma Dictated Dating Life
TW: In this episode, I broadly touch on sensitive subjects so I wanted to give you a heads up. So many of you have requested a dating episode speaking specifically to my dating life and experience and as always I wanted to be honest with you.
In this episode, I share how I unknowingly was guided by trauma when it came to dating and how now literally decades later I can see how that directed the relationships I was in before meeting Blake who was the complete opposite THANK GOD! I honestly was so unsure with this episode but eventually ended up deciding to post it. I hope that it encourages you in any way and if you feel it is meant for someone please feel free to share. Also, I have included several hotlines that I hope help if needed. As always; I love you, Happy Humans.
Substance Abuse Hotline- 1-800-662-4357
National Suicide Prevention Hotline- 1-800-273-8255
National Sexual Abuse Hotline- 1-800-656-4673
National Domestic Violence Hotline- 1-800-799-7233
Ep. 30 The Toxicity of Achievement Culture
In Episode 30 we dive into the idea of Achievement culture and the toxicity it creates in the cycle of life. It starts from the womb and follows us to the tomb whether it's in early developmental skills like walking, talking, or school even as young as reading, and follows us to college, jobs, careers, etc. The idea is that we have to always be doing more, being more, and attaining more. We talk about how this hinders us not only as parents but as individuals as well. Come join us for the whole episode and also hear all about Trader Joe's new pineapple juice discovery! As always I'm happy you're here and thank you for listening.
Ep. 29: The Certainty of Being Uncertain
Did you ever grow up thinking that because your parents were adults they knew everything and the exact reason they did the things they did? That every decision they made they were doing it because they were certain and had knowledge only an adult or parent would and at some point we would reach an age and magically that knowledge would arrive for us? But as time went on and you graduated H.S., went to college, tried to find a job, figure out a career, or even got married and had kids you realized you still felt completely unsure of if everythinG you were doing you were right; like how did your parents know because if you were honest you still felt like a clueless kid?
In this episode, we touch on the idea that the only thing we can really be certain of especially in the last 2 years is that nothing is certain and that with so many things uncertainty is the only thing we are certain of. We touch on the fact that sometimes being uncertain can put us in a place of being on the defense and what we can do to help ourselves when that happens and a fun question to ask provided once again by Blake and I's old pre-marital counselor. Regardless it will hopefully be a good time that encourages you and reminds you that I am so grateful you're here.
Can't wait for it!
xoxo,
Me
Episode 28: Catching Up- Chatting Marriage & Therapy Things
AHH! You'll how happy am I to be back and kicking off a whole new year with you with new episodes dropping every Friday; honestly, why didn't we do this already?! I love that we get to kick off the weekend together. I brought my McDonalds coke to this episode so grab your favorite drink while we catch up. We're talking all the things from Therapy updates, Inner Child things, and some fun tips from our Marriage Therapist Karen we saw before Blake and I got married. Honestly; I want to get Blake on an episode so stay tuned for all that! I can't wait to spend time with you!
Holding Trauma- Where Have I Been? Update
It's been a hot minute! In this episode, I take some time to update you on what I have been up to and where I've been. We also talk a bit about therapy and the things I didn't know and am learning.
Mental Health- The Oil Change We Ignore
In today's episode, we dive into the topic of Mental Health and the taboo stigma that still even in 2021 surrounds it in many conversations. So take a minute and come listen and possibly change your mindset on the idea of Mental Health and what we might need as indidviduals.
Parent Or Friend? The Choice They Want You To Make
In this episode, we dive into the idea of why so often people want to group Parents into categories of Friend vs Parent. Why is that a thing? What is it tied to and the choice I've made instead. I also walk through the steps I take when it comes to interacting with my tiny humans in any situation. Enjoy Episode 24 and be sure to share with someone you think will love it!
Identity After Kids: It's Not a Power Struggle You Can Co-Exist
In this episode, we break down the idea that we are not the person we cant to be because of our Tiny Humans. This idea that we want to go back to who we were before kids, that in some way that person was better. We get down to the mindset behind this and the paradigm shift we need.
This Missing Ingredient of Self Love & the Journey to Find It
As we kick off Season 2 we start things off by talking about this idea of authenticity of Self Love and how it requires empathy. This season we will be talking about all the things and keeping it as chaotic as always.
Movie Parallels: Harry Potter & Trauma Scars
In this episode we talk about trauma and scars and how Harry Potter changed my life.
Movie Parallels and Parenting: Hook
This week we kick off our first-ever intentional series surrounding some of my favorite Movies and Parenting Parallels as well as just life in general. So crack open a kombucha with me and let's talk all things, Hook.
Ego's & Parenting: The Default Setting of our Titles
We revisit the topic of our egos in Parenting and how this is a default setting based in the titles of how we are categorized.
Who are You? Identify and Toy Story and The Calluses We Create
In this episode, we talk about Toy Story and dive into the question of "who do you want to be?"
"Just Wait Till You Have Kids" When Ego & Invalidation overtake Empathy and Communication
In this episode, we talk about Mrs. Wilson the GOAT of 1st grade, my Starbucks Oatmilk journey, and the most popular sayings of "Just wait till you have kids" and "Just wait till you're an adult". So let's dive in!
What You Verbalize You Internalize and So Will They: The Pitfalls of a "Do As I Say Not As I Do" Mindset
In the episode, we discuss the idea that all the things we tell our tiny humans won't change what we show them. Because what we verbalize we internalize and so will they.
Losing My Religion and How I Found My Relationship
Amanda shares her testimony and faith and how she lost her religion and began her relationship.
You Don't Need to Stay on the High Horse- Shifting Your Parenting Mindset from Power to Empowering
In this episode we talk about shifting our ideas as Parents and People to not needing to be in Power but rather seeing each relationship as an opportunity to Empower our tiny people on the journey of life.
Ego and Others Opinions. & Why Sparing the Rod WILL NOT Spoil the Child
In this episode, we touch on the topic of Spanking. There is a ton of research that shows this as an ineffective method when it comes to discipline as well as scientific reasons this can have long term effects but we don't dive into those as deeply as we touch on what motivates as in those moments and how those tie to our Egos and Other Peoples Opinons.
The Re-Traumatizing of Our Inner Child: Are you Projecting or Protecting
In this episode, we dive into One Tree Hill and Dan Scott and so much more when it comes to why we make decisions as adults or parents. Are we trying to protect them or are we merely projecting our own wounds onto them again creating an endless cycle?
Breaking the Cycle: Your Tiny Human is Not Manipulating You
In this episode, we dig deep into becoming first responders instead of First reactors and changing our narrative around our tiny humans and teens when it comes to their emotional development.
The One Where We Realize Our Tiny Humans Are Individuals
Isn't it funny how we are surprised when our tiny humans don't do something we would or the way we would? I mean they aren't us... So let's talk about that a bit more.
I Don't Want My Daughter to Grow Up Resilient - The Day the Rubberband Snapped.
In this episode, Amanda enjoys a Taco Bell bean burrito & McDonald's Coke while she talks about the fact that being Resilient is something she doesn't want for kids and explains why.
Others Opinions Don't Own Your Identity
Besides delicious Danish Krinkles in this episode, we discuss my laundry and the power of other people's opinions and the Identity we give away.
It Doesn't Have to Be One Or The Other
In this episode we touch on the fear surrounding Motherhood and searching for the middle ground.
When You Have No Idea What You're Doing- You're Right
This episode focuses on the fact that when you feel underqualified to be a parent you are right; none of us are qualified. But it's time to change our thinking surrounding this.
Invisible Expectations- The Invisible Ghosts that Haunt Us
For this weeks, Halloween Week episode we are talking about Expectations as the invisible ghosts that haunt us. Heads us the audio cut out for 15 seconds and I had no idea how to fix it but we're rolling with it anyways. It's just who I am LOL.
Misconceptions & Motherhood- Identity is the Name of the Game
This episode focuses on the Misconceptions about Motherhood when it comes to losing our identity as mom's but rather the idea we slowly unknowingly hand it over in an effort to somehow earn or live up to the standards we believe makes us a good mom.
Mom Shaming - We're all Just Crabs in a Bucket
What does the show Deadliest Catch & Mom Shaming have in common? Listen to find out what is truly holding us back as women & moms in 2020.