The Cost of Boundaries
There is a cost to having boundaries, but more importantly there is a greater cost to not having them. If you would like to speak to me about how you can develop you own boundaries, or if you feel you struggle with the boundary violations of others and want some help with that then contact me at www.focusedlifecoaching.org. You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook, as I will frequently post articles of interest to strengthen you professionally and personally. My mission is to help professional women bring into harmony their lifestyle (health), livelihood (business), and love (relationships). To do so, boundaries are necessary.
May 15, 2021
Boundaries and Purpose
Are there some roles that you are operating in that are not comfortable for you? Could it be that they are outside your purpose? It can feel good that people admire you and your abilities, but if it causes you to say "yes" to things that you should be saying "no" to then you are putting yourself and perhaps others in jeopardy. We become at best ineffective, at worse, abusive when we start to take on things that are outside of our mission, purpose and competence. I referenced a scene in the Little Mermaid, for those unfamiliar with it, you can view it here. You can follow me on Instagram and Facebook. I hope you will take the time to identify your purpose and role in your important relationships and keep them clear and healthy.
May 8, 2021
Benefit of Boundaries
You have a lot to gain if you are able to establish and maintain good boundaries, professionally and personally. We will explore what you can gain in setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. Have you been able to identify some positive changes you experienced when you set a healthy boundary? I would love for you to share them with me on Facebook. It may encourage other brave souls to take the risk of setting a healthy boundary for themselves. Let me know what you were able to do and the positive outcome at here. Also visit me at Instagram and join the conversation.
May 1, 2021
No is a Complete Sentence
I have found "No" to be a powerful word, but it is difficult to say it directly. So I learned to say it creatively. "I appreciate your confidence in me, but I would recommend that you bring that task to X, they have the resources and availability to do it in the way that would serve you best." Just a wordy way of saying "No". It takes bravery to sometimes just let the power of the word "No" do it's job. It is worth it if you can handle it and erect some needed boundaries in your life. You can follow this subject on boundaries at my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/focusedlifestrategist/ and see some creative ways to say "No" on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/focusedlifecoachingorg/photos/a.2861100943993373/3243677572402373/
April 24, 2021
Healthy Boundaries for Healthy Relationships
They say good fences make good neighbors; well good boundaries make for loving relationships. This episode explores this further. This is the first in a series on boundaries. Listen, share with someone you think needs to hear this and comment on the subject on either my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/p/CNqAhVNBpU4/ or my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/focusedlifecoachingorg What are your struggles with boundaries?
April 17, 2021
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 5
No relationship series would be complete if we didn't address conflict. In reality relationship can at times be difficult to maintain in a healthy manner. That is why I did this series. When there is tension and conflict, instead of trying to find a shiny new relationship, work on the one you are in. Because all new things eventually get old and will need to be maintained and repaired. So work on the original, or the one you are currently in. There are many wonderful resources out there, from relationship skills workbooks, relationship coaches and couples therapists. You need a couples therapist if there is any degree of domestic violence, or mental illness in either of the partners, otherwise a relationship coach can probably work well with two committed individuals who want to have a better relationship. If you are not sure which one you need, feel free to contact me through my website for a free consultation. Be blessed and remember Ephesians 4:11-13 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Don't forget to like and subscribe as well as visit my YouTube channel and like and subscribe.
January 29, 2021
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 4
When we think about relationships we think about affectionate connections. We want that positive feeling that a romantic relationship promises. However for many the relationship remains minus the feelings of affection. If you have lost that loving or affectionate feeling towards your mate, here are some ways you can invite it back into your relationship. I referenced Gary Chapman's book the 5 Love Languages. For those of you who like to listen (you must, because you are listening to a podcast), but are challenged by the idea of reading a book; this book is on YouTube. So take a listen and see if it can help you improve your relationship. Don't forget to like this podcast, or leave me a voice msg telling me what is resonating with you from this series. My YouTube channel is Focused Life Coach, please subscribe.
January 22, 2021
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 3
When was the last time you complimented your spouse. We can get so busy we forget the power of appreciation. Today we will hear how appreciating our partners can boost our positive feelings towards them and rebuild our relationship.
January 15, 2021
5 Part Relationship Reboot episode 2
Today we explore the activity of reunions and how they can be used to recharge your relationship. Thanks for joining us again.
January 8, 2021
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 1
We are going to look at 5 elements of relationships that can be worked on to improve relationship health. As a coach working with women who are pursuing professional success, I want to provide information to make sure that their relationships don't suffer. So take a listen and apply what you can to reboot your relationship or to just take it to the next level. Let me know what works for you. Be blessed and be a blessing in your relationship.
January 2, 2021
And Finally . . . Charity
It's great to be successful, whether in business or your personal life. At the end of the day however was that success only for you or were you meant for more? Your success is a tool that God uses to make you a resource to bless others. He is ultimately the source of your success and he blesses you to be a resource to others. At the end of the day, don't forget to be charitable. You can also watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/CIkTsLhdcKA. If you find this message helpful, help me share it to more people by liking and subscribing
December 20, 2020
Moving forward can be scary. Oh how we wish we can know with certainty what plans will succeed and what plans will fail. Can we learn from the sailors of old and from women through the ages who were tasked with giving birth without all the modern technology? Ecclesiastes 11:5 says we can learn to embrace uncertainty and still move forward. What are you uncertain about today? There is more to come so stay tuned. You can also watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/P8zA1JoIa-Q. If you find this message helpful, help me share it to more people by liking and subscribing.
December 20, 2020
Planning and Perfection can be the reason you are procrastinating, but if you never launch how will you succeed. More wisdom from the book of Ecclesiastes 11:4 about this mindset of procrastinating. Is it time to aim for progression? There is more to come so stay tuned. You can watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/jwnKV9OYtv4. As always I ask that if you find the message helpful, help me to share it to more people by liking and subscribing.
December 20, 2020
How easy it is sometimes to just ignore or be in denial of things. The scripture of Ecclesiastes 11:3 calls us to pay attention to things so that we can take needed and timely action. If you have been following this series you will see the wisdom that is provided through these scriptures, whether for your business or your personal life. There is more to come so stay tuned. You can watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/sKBrQgwz2aU. As always I ask that if you find the message helpful, help me to share it to more people by liking and subscribing.
December 20, 2020
Continuing on with my series in Ecclesiastes 11 I share about verse 2 and it's application in life. So much of scripture provides wisdom on a personal and professional level. If this message resonates with you please let me know by sending me an "Amen" or a "Yes". Continue to listen as I unpack subsequent verses in later episodes. You can also see these episodes as videos by visiting my YouTube channel https://youtu.be/CC3FvsVKPqE. After viewing please like and subscribe so that others can also be blessed with this message.
December 20, 2020
Shipping Your Grain
Not everything we do shows immediate results. We sometimes grow weary in waiting for the return on our investments. Whether that investment is an investment of time, talent of treasure, we all want to see a positive outcome early. In this episode I unpack Ecclesiastes 11:1 as we talk about this. You can also watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/1dCGU58UL-U. If you find this message helpful, help me share it to more people by liking and subscribing.
December 18, 2020
Understand your Impact
We all have defining moments in our life that impact us for a long time. Here is one of mine. I share this with the hope that if there are any such moments in your life that you have not been able to resolve positively that you would not waste another moment in your life suffering the negative impact of that moment, but will work to reframe it and make it powerful in a positive way.
November 1, 2020
Attacking Negative Thoughts
Being at the mercies of negative thoughts can hamper your relationships. It's important to find a way to disconnect yourself from automatically thinking negative and give yourself space to discern the truth about situations. In this episode we look at a way to help you have more control over your thought life.
August 27, 2020
Eating Your Heart Out
A healthy relationship with food is more that what you eat. It is more about what is in the mind than in the stomach.
August 25, 2020
"When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. "Brene Brown. But how do you set boundaries, and what types of boundaries are there. This episode we will explore this as I share with you a personal experience regarding boundaries. Take a listen.
August 22, 2020
Being skilled at communicating assertively will improve your ability to relate in all your relationships, personal and professional. Learn some concrete tips to get you to the place where you can express yourself and influence the behavior of others towards you.
August 3, 2020
Confrontation Done Well
When we think of confrontation, we thing of escalation of tension. If done well however, it can lead to decreased tension and improved relationships with others. Learn how to confront well and bring back peace to your relationships.
January 2, 2020
4 Steps to Successful Goal Engagement
Having goals at the beginning of a year then reflecting on them at the end of the year is common to most people. Wouldn’t it be great if when you reflect you see that you had successfully engaged with your goals and achieved a result you were proud of? Her are some tips and thoughts on that subject.
December 22, 2019
Recognizing how difficult it is to change can promote humility. You are more likely to be forgiving of yourself when you fall short of your own goals of changed behavior when you exercise that compassion for others who are attempting to change.
November 13, 2019
Protect your Peace
Ever felt that you were so focused on something that it was preventing you from moving forward? Maybe a change of perspective is in order.
November 7, 2019
Respond don’t just React
The benefits of acceptance as a way to respond to the unpredictability of life.
November 7, 2019
3 Tips to help you keep friendships as you build your business.
Having some clear boundaries that respect and value personal friendships are important when you begin you business. Yes your friends can be your first customers, but don't lose sight that they were your friends first.
September 16, 2019
5 Tips for better Social Engagement
For some people even basic social engagement can be very difficult. This episode focuses on the mindset that needs to be in play to avoid pitfalls in beginning social interactions. Share it with someone who is struggling with basic social engagement.
September 1, 2019
Demystifying work and life balance
Many people struggle to find the balance between work and homelife. Is it really that hard or do we complicate it?
August 15, 2019