Hey! Let's Heal

In episode 004 of Hey, Let's Heal, Alexis talks about the reasons why healing takes time and emphasizes the importance of spiritual growth and emotional healing occurring together. The script includes personal anecdotes and insights on the healing journey. Trigger warning as molestation, abuse and sexual trauma are discussed in depth.

You are now listening to the podcast Life with Lex hosted by yours truly, Alexis M. Lott also known online in the creative space as Alexis M Creative. And listen on today's episode we are doing one of my favorite things. I am taking a coaching client, a life coaching client live on air, letting you hear all the things that I have to say to her and helping her get through a very, very tough season in her life where failure has framed her forward progress. And so on today's episode, we are kind of talking a little bit about failure and how it has the ability to just stop you in your tracks and reframing failure.  

I’d like to tell you a story. It’s about WHY I do what I do, and why I’d like to help YOU silence the voice of the imposter roaming in your heart and launch a profitable business.

I spent about 4-5 years helping ministers, churches, and individuals who wanted to build personal brands online. I would build these gorgeous websites for them, only to realize that they weren't getting very much traction. That's when it dawned on me there was a disconnect between what people think is branding versus what branding actually is. 

When I tell people that I teach service based business owners how to confidently launch profitable businesses a lot of people say, but HOW do people achieve real success? Isn’t it difficult to show people how to be confident and learn business basics?

Well, YES, it is difficult, especially if you are trapped with thinking you can't be successful.

Truly, we can’t "It is well" everything we face in life. Catchy amazing song, but not the truth of how we should conclude every hard place we find ourselves in.

Some things just don't sit well with you, because they require justice, truth and reconciliation from all parties involved. There is a grace provided for confrontation, so that it can lead  to peace.

David understood this deeply, so in times of battle he asked God what to do first. Should I pursue?

The beautiful thing about God's response, is that he always tells the outcome when we ask. Yes, pursue and you shall surely recover all. [1 Samuel 30:8]

When you consult God, you get to know ahead a time if your efforts will be worth it. And our emotions are what lead us to places of prayer, so that we can get the answers we need. 

This is THE most important revelation I gained from the 2009-2019 decade.

Here me out:

Trials and adversity are the way we grow. But just because you went through it and survived it, and maybe even can see how God worked it out for your good, doesn’t mean you still don’t need help unpacking it.

I truly believe that this was the greatest take away for the decade for me is realizing that you can go through adversity wrong.

I'm sure at the end of this year you looked over many of the lows and highs of not just the year but the decade, and realized there were many trials that God brought you over.

As I was sitting with Holy Spirit today, He whispered to me that just because adversity is the way we grow, doesn't mean that we don't have right to unpack how those trials have impacted us.

Even if you can clearly see how God used that place of adversity to shape you, doesn't mean you can't seek outside help to help you unpack all of what happened.

God doesn't want to withhold any good thing from you - not this year, not ever.

Take time to talk with God himself, a therapist, or trusted friend to make sure you are coming out of these trials whole, and not a shell of yourself. You don't have to live in survival mode, happy that you just "made it."

This is the Story Time With Alexis Blog! If this is your first time hearing about me I am a visionary, entrepreneur, and minister.

If you don’t know my story in 2009 I was miraculously saved from a suicide attempt, i fully dedicated my life to Christ in 2010 and now even with managing sickle cell disease, my why is to help people live seen and loved so that they can fully experience the wealth of life.

So this is just a fireside chat about our year in review in 2019. The year that forced me to grow up and see myself, and apparently I wasn't alone.

How to clearly tell people what you do when you have more than one passion and service and make money. On this episode I am joined by Kaleka Davis who is stucking trying to figure out what to call herself because she has three important business. 

She is having what I like to call a brand identity crises and I give her powerful coaching session to show her how to make her statement concise and clear, hone in on what things she's doing in her business that actually matters, and how to find the best way to package her years of expertise as a married millennial. 

Hey Boo, so this is the time in your life to make bold faith moves.

No more second guessing.

No more wide focus.

The best way to get out of a cycle of inaction is to just make a decision.

And trust me I know,

Putting yourself out there can be very, very scary.

• Maybe you've tried before and got horrible results.
• Maybe you're stuck trying to make it perfect because you secretly care too much about what people think.
• Maybe you lost momentum because you were stretched too thin.

I am all too familiar with these feelings.

We're going to dive into how to get over this together.

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Today’s episode: How to change your perspective after a hard life event

We are talking about how to bounce back and recover from when life has thrown us a curb ball and how to change our thoughts