Ask Aubree: Self-Love Coaching
By Aubree Henderson
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Ask Aubree: Self-Love CoachingMay 31, 2021
103: Demystifying Foster Parenting with Marisa Whelan (New Alternatives for Children)
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102: Belonging to yourself.
REPLAY: It’s okay to be hungry for love.
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Poem - “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.
REPLAY: Where do you get your confidence?
REPLAY: Why you should befriend your inner critic.
This week, I'm re-sharing one of my favorite episodes, originally shared in April 2020.
Most of us have an inner critic - with familiar refrains of “you’ll never be good enough” or “you’re a failure”, these internal voices can be a nuisance at best and deeply painful at worst. I‘ve been asked how to get rid of one’s inner critic - and I don’t believe you can (or should). In fact, I think you should make friends with it.
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on instagram!
REPLAY: The gift of feedback with Adeola (Ola) Whitney
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101: What if someone I love won’t speak my love language?
100: Why ultimatums aren’t always a bad thing.
We've always been taught that ultimatums are a relationship no-no - this week, I tell you why I've changed my mind about ultimatums and don't think they're all bad.
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99: Why you should let people fuck up.
98: 3 tips for sitting with difficult emotions.
So many of us have learned to avoid, solve, or distract ourselves from our difficult or painful emotions - but what does it look like to sit and be present to your feelings? In this episode, I share 3 tips for sitting with and allowing yourself to experience challenging emotions.
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97: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 6)
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96: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 5)
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95: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 4)
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94: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 3)
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93: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 2)
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92: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 1)
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91: I can do hard things when I need to.
90: Stop f*cking downplaying your joy & excitement.
89: Guided meditation to calm your inner critic.
88: No answer is also an answer.
87: That conversation you're afraid to have? It's probably the most important one, too.
86: How proactive rest & pause practices will change your life.
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85: 3 reminders for when you feel like you're backsliding in your growth.
We've all had those moments when we've been working toward a goal, healing from something, developing ourselves, or building a new skill when suddenly we saw an old habit or behavior creep in and wondered "is all my progress for nothing? am I failing? am I reverting back to my old self?"
Don't worry - this doesn't mean you're failing or backsliding. In this episode, I'll tell you why, and share 3 reminders to give yourself next time you feel this way.
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84: What does it look like to choose yourself?
83: For anyone who just wants to feel chosen.
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82: What if you're already in your worst-case scenario?
For many of us, pursuing a goal we're invested in is scary because it requires risk - which can sometimes tempt us to stay where we are to avoid the potential pain & disappointment that accompanies risk. In this episode, we explore the issues with this mindset and questions to ask yourself when you find yourself in this situation.
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81: How to mindfully receive & respond to apologies.
We've talked in a couple of episodes about how to give better apologies - being specific, checking in with the other person, being accountable for your actions, and avoiding unnecessary apologies when gratitude will serve you better. But what about when you're on the receiving end of the apology?
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80: Your permission slip to stop pretending to enjoy things when you really don't.
79: Shifting your mindset from perpetual apology to gratitude.
78: REPLAY: Guided Meditations for Self-Compassion
77: How do I source validation from within?
76: REPLAY - Guided meditation for disappointment & rejection.
This week, I'm sharing a replay of an old favorite from September 2020 - a guided meditation to build self-compassion and increase positive self-talk in the face of disappointment and rejection.
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75: Three Listener Questions - Roommates, Boyfriends, & In-Laws
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74: The gift of feedback with Adeola (Ola) Whitney
Does giving feedback make you want to puke? Do you get defensive at just the possibility of getting constructive criticism? This week, I'm joined by my mentor and friend Adeola (Ola) Whitney, who taught me a ton of what I know about giving and receiving feedback artfully.
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73: Listen to this when you have a vulnerability hangover.
Yep - that’s a vulnerability hangover! And this week I’m telling you how to handle it the next time you have one.
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72: How to ask for more of what feels good in your relationships.
71: You’ll probably never get rid of your nagging thoughts... and that’s okay.
70: Demystifying Codependency - a conversation with Whytli Rogers
This week, I'm sharing an interview I did earlier this year with Whytli Rogers for her podcast, In the Wake with Whytli. Whytli is a mental health advocate, certified life coach, and survivor - her podcast is a space for conversations about topics that are often shrouded in stigma and shame, but need to be talked about more. In this conversation, we talk all things codependency - what it is, where it stems from, and how to love others while still loving yourself.
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69: It's ok to want what you want: your sex questions, answered.
68: Guided Meditation for Self-Compassion & Connectedness.
This week, I walk you through a guided meditation created to tune into and hold compassionate space for difficult emotions. Listen when you want to get present in your mind & body, need to sit with your feelings, or just want a yummy moment for yourself.
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67: How do I ask for what I need if I don't know what I need?
I often preach about the importance of asking for what you need - but how can you do that if you don't know what it is that you need?! In this episode, I share some strategies to try when you're not sure what you need, so you can gain the clarity required to name your needs.
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66: Why we need rituals.
Humans thrive on rhythms, routines, and rituals. In this episode, I share a little bit about the roles that rituals play in my life and how they can be a benefit to yours, too!
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65: Can I be platonic friends with someone I’m attracted to?
64: It's not your job to endure being treated like shit.
This week: it's not your job to endure being treated like shit! Why we're made to believe that tolerating shitty treatment is an admirable quality, and the mindset shifts to support better boundaries.
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RESOURCES FOR FOLKS EXPERIENCING VIOLENCE OR ABUSE
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
www.ndvh.org
National Dating Abuse Helpline
1-866-331-9474
www.loveisrespect.org
National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
www.childhelp.org
63: It's not your job to keep other people comfortable.
Part 3 in "It's not your job to..." - a series on the things we've been socialized to believe are our responsibility, but in reality are NOT our job!
This week: it's not your job to keep other people comfortable! Why we are so quick to prioritize other people's comfort over our own happiness, and strategies to begin to unlearn these habits and move toward authenticity over approval.
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62: It’s not your job to “fix” other people.
61: It’s not your job to prove that you’re worthy.
60: REPLAY - You aren’t selfish for asking for what you need.
Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in February 2020.
“Asking for what you need doesn't make you selfish." To some, this is a simple statement. To others, it's a radical notion. In this episode, we dig into the people-pleasing patterns and experiences that make us terrified to ask for what we need and how we can break that cycle. A listener writes in about the pain of rejection.
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59: REPLAY - How do I get comfy with conflict and confrontation?
Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in October 2019!
In this episode, we hear from a listener who struggles with conflict and prefers to avoid it altogether, but wants to know how to approach conflict and confrontation in their relationships with confidence and health.
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58: REPLAY - Is self-care keeping people from getting shit done?
Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in November 2019!
In this episode, I respond to a letter writer who is struggling with anger at others around them who are prioritizing self-care at the expense of their work and relational roles and responsibilities, and asks for strategies to reframe their thoughts and interactions around this.
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