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By Kerrah E. Fabacher, LPC
This is a podcast for those who want genuine and whole relationships with others, yourself, and with God. A Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Life Coach, your host Kerrah E. Fabacher helps you exchange fear for love so that you can finally see what good relationships are made of. If you long to have healthy relationships, come on in and sit a while. Come see that you are not alone, that you matter, that you are loved, and that life-giving relationships are possible. Let's see what kind of healing happens here.
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44. When You Can't Forget
Past hurt is so hard to forgive, and often we think forgiveness is forgetting. But what if it isn't? What if there is another way? This episode is for those who've struggled with forgiveness and the desire for revenge because they can't forget (nor should they). Listen now.  Links & Resources From This Episode:  Forgiving What You Can't Forget by Lysa Terkeurst  John 31:34, ESV Colossians 3:12-13, ESV Find me on Instagram @kerrahfabacher  For other resources and the transcript of this episode, go to
September 27, 2021
43. Safe People
How do we know who is unsafe and who is safe? How can we even begin to define safety? What can it look like to love the unsafe people? Listen in. 
August 30, 2021
42. The Need for Recognition
If we are honest with ourselves, we often feel we need recognition for who we are and what we've done. But it's not recognition we need. Because we already have it. 
August 23, 2021
41. Know the One Who Made You
When it feels like we've lost ourselves, the only way home, to knowing ourselves, is to know the One who made us. But how can we do that? 
August 16, 2021
40. The Risks, Responsibilities, and Rewards of Vulnerability
Vulnerability is necessary, but we need to understand there are risks that come with it. We need to be responsible with our vulnerability so we can experience the rewards of it. 
August 9, 2021
39. Build Emotional Awareness
When we are more emotionally aware, we can be healthier as a whole, not to mention have better relationships. This episode teaches us how to be more emotionally aware. 
August 2, 2021
38. Three Things Every Relationship Needs
From author Leslie Vernick, these are the three things that all adult relationships should have. When they don't have these three essential ingredients, they aren't healthy. They are destructive. 
June 21, 2021
37. When a Friend Holds a Grudge
How can you tell if your friend is holding a grudge against you, and what do you do about it? 
June 14, 2021
36. Respect Others' Boundaries
Boundaries aren't just about you. Having good boundaries means we respect others' boundaries, too. 
June 7, 2021
35. Feel What You Feel
Today, I want to hold space with you and for you to be still and lean into what is going on within you. Listen in. 
May 17, 2021
34. Tell Your Story
Our stories are powerful and need to be told. Start with writing it with some of these prompts found in episode 34. 
May 10, 2021
33. Ten Things I've Learned in Ten Years of Marriage
For marrieds, singles, and those dating: some of the important things I've learned throughout ten years of marriage! 
May 3, 2021
32. For When We Doubt
Doubt is real because pain is real. We struggle to believe God still loves us, is kind, is good. So what do we do with this doubt?
April 26, 2021
31. When Your Words Don't Change Anything
Because sometimes when we are brave enough to be vulnerable and honest, people won't always respond well. What should we do when they don't? 
April 19, 2021
30. Take Care of Your Heart
If we aren't well, we can't love others well. Here are five practical ways to take care of your heart. 
April 12, 2021
29. The Boundaries of Jesus
Jesus had great boundaries. So we can stop thinking that it isn't loving to have them. Listen in to hear more about his boundaries. 
March 15, 2021
28. What is My Responsibilty?
There are things that we should not take responsibility for, and there are things we should. So what are those things?
March 8, 2021
27. Cultivate Authentic Community
We have learned what holds us back from having good community, so now how do we build it?
March 1, 2021
26. When You Don't Have Good Community
We need each other. What holds us back from engaging in Christian community? And what happens when we don't?
February 22, 2021
25. You are Not Your Relationship Status
It's way too easy to believe we are wanted and loved only if we have a significant other. 
February 15, 2021
24. Practice Active Listening (final)
Here are five simple practices to help you be an active listener!
February 8, 2021
23. Jessica Hottle // On Communication in Relationships
Listen in as my friend Jessica and I talk about:  Why communication matters in relationships The cost of not communicating  Communication pitfalls  Healthier communication strategies 
February 1, 2021
22. What Good Relationships Are Made Of
We were made to love God, love others, and love ourselves. Without love, good relationships are impossible. 
January 25, 2021
21. Exchange Fear for Love
Fear is one of the biggest hindrances to deep interpersonal relationships. Let's flip the script and be the brave ones. 
January 18, 2021
20. Set Your Intentions
When 2020 felt like the year of lost choices, let's begin this new year by taking those choices back as we set our intentions. 
January 11, 2021
19. Listen
My word for 2020, "listen" wrecked me in all the right ways. Take a "listen" to see how I learned to listen to others, the Spirit within me, my emotions, and my body this year.  Plus an announcement about the podcast at the end. 
November 30, 2020
18. Keep Those Boundaries During the Holidays
This year has been hard enough. The last thing you need is unhealthy boundaries to send you over the edge. Let's talk about a simple way to set and keep them. 
November 23, 2020
17. Adjust Your Expectations
Because when we don't, we live in constant resentment and disappointment. 
November 16, 2020
16. Don't Forget About God
To be (or feel) forgotten is one of the worst feelings of all. Imagine how God feels when we forget about Him, too. 
November 9, 2020
15. Don’t be selfish with self-care
We can become too self-indulgent with our self-care. We can also neglect ourselves in unhealthy ways. So how can we do this in a balanced way?
November 2, 2020
14. When to Say Goodbye
Not all friendships are made to last a lifetime. Let's learn to say goodbye to those that have ended too soon, and let's learn how to end the ones that needed to end a long time ago. 
October 26, 2020
13. Know Your Worth
We can't have whole relationships if we do not have a whole relationship with self, if we do not know that we are people of worth. 
October 19, 2020
12. Be Slow to Speak
I'm not saying to be silent. I'm saying let's be less reactive and more thoughtful with the words we use. 
October 12, 2020
11. Embrace the Unseen
We feel unseen so much more than we would like to admit.
October 5, 2020
10. Listen to Your Emotions
Because this is part of what it means to be aware. And there is no growth without awareness. And there is no healing, either. 
September 28, 2020
9. Be the Friend You Wish to Have
We can't expect others to treat us in a way in which we aren't willing to treat them. 
September 21, 2020
8. Tell God What You Love About Him
Because when you do, it changes everything. 
September 14, 2020
7. Forgive Yourself
Forgiving others is already hard, but forgiving ourselves? I think that is the hardest of all. 
September 7, 2020
6. Be the House with a Picket Fence
We could talk all day about setting boundaries, but this episode will hone in on how to do this with people outside the fence, people inside the fence, and people in the house. Listen in. 
August 31, 2020
5. Be Honest with God
If we struggle with vulnerability with others, we will also struggle with it with God. But his presence is safe. We can tell him how we feel. 
August 24, 2020
4. Tune Out The Lies
What does it look like to uproot the lies we believe about ourselves? 
August 17, 2020
3. A Path to Authentic Connection
How do we know ourselves and show that self to the world?  Bonus: Apply this path to setting boundaries and communicating effectively in The Boundaries Bootcamp. Register before Saturday at midnight to reserve your spot! Find all the details here. 
August 10, 2020
2. Be Known
God knows us perfectly, and He has made Himself known to us. Will we do this work, too? Will we be brave and allow ourselves to be known? 
August 3, 2020
1. Take Off the Mask
We can't be known when we are wearing masks, and we can't be known if we don't even fully know ourselves. Listen in. 
August 3, 2020
Come On In!
Hear more about the heart behind the podcast and see that you are not alone in your relationship struggles. We are all in this together, friend. 
July 23, 2020