Break the Cycle with Bethany Dotson
By Bethany Dotson
Break the Cycle with Bethany Dotson Aug 24, 2023
Overcoming Fear & Grief After Toxic Love
If you’re a successful, accomplished woman who has recently ended a toxic relationship, this episode is for you.
I know you’ve achieved so much in your life, but nothing prepared you for the pain, grief and fear you now face on your journey to healing.
Today we’ll explore how to rediscover your worth, reclaim your confidence, and open your heart again after betrayal.
You’ll learn about the 4 main fears keeping you stuck in cycles of dysfunction in love and life, how to overcome the underlying trauma, stop attracting the wrong partners, and start attracting the love you deserve.
This is the first step in your journey from broken to brave.
EP 61 > THE #1 SKILL YOU NEED TO HEAL AFTER YOUR EX AND ATTRACT GREAT LOVE
You're a strong, successful, professional woman. You exemplify drive in your career. You're educated. You may be a Super single Mom. Bottom line: when you want something, nothing stops you from getting it. Sadly, this strong straight has been your greatest enemy in love. Keeping you in unhealthy relationships for far too long. You finally broke away from your Ex. You started dating again...only to find yourself repeating the SAME toxic traits you've done before: ignoring red flags, people pleasing, and settling. WHY?! I mean, you've spent a small fortune in therapy. You "should" know better, right? NOTE: Shaming yourself won't heal your patterns. BUT ONE CRUCIAL SKILLSET WILL.
EP > 60 HOW CAN I TELL IF HE'S EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE?
DATING AFTER A TOXIC EX: HOW DO I TELL IF SOMEONE IS EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE?You ACE it in your career. You show up with bells on for your kids. You're the shoulder to cry on for so many. But you've never had a healthy, safe, satisfying relationship. You've done a lot of therapy. You've read books. You've taken tons of time off dating between relationships to heal...But your last Ex was even MORE unhealthy than all the men before. You WANT a healthy relationship. But at the same time fear you won't be able to tell if someone is GOOD for you...or just another version of your "toxic type". You also worry that if you DID meet someone emotionally available, you'd find a way to create distance and sabotage it. TUNE IN FOR THIS EPISODE...
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Introduction
- 01:12 - Can you tell if someone is emotionally available?
- 02:55 - Importance of trusting yourself
- 04:18 - You can't tell if someone is emotionally available until you are
- 05:55 - Ways people remain emotionally unavailable to themselves
- 07:30 - Chronic busyness as a coping strategy
- 09:15 - Addiction to achieving and setting external goals
- 11:35 - The impact of trauma on emotional availability
- 13:25 - Healing trauma to become emotionally available
- 15:40 - The concept of discernment in dating
- 17:10 - Analysis paralysis and overthinking in dating
- 19:30 - How to become emotionally available and trust yourself in dating
- 21:48 - Taking consistent action to implement what you're learning
- 23:25 - Summary and conclusion
- 25:00 - Call to action for a breakthrough call
EP 59 > HOW TO DATE WHEN YOU FEAR DATING (and picking another "narcissist")
You've taken YEARS off dating after your Ex to heal. You focused on your career. On you. Your kids.And when you finally felt "ready" to date and hopped online...You fell for ANOTHER unavailable, avoidant or narcissistic person. WHAT THE HELL? Didn't all that time in therapy help? Didn't all those years "working hard" on yourself pay off? You WANT a healthy relationship...BUT: You don't want to get your hopes up. You hate online dating. You don't know if you can trust yourself again. You fear picking the wrong person again. You live in a small town. Quality men your age are slim pickin's.And the reasons go on and on....and ON.... If this is you and you're sick of being stuck in Camp Fear (not to be confused with the 90's flick "Cape Fear " with Robert DeNiro ) join me for solutions.
Timestamps:
00:00 - 00:23: Introduction
- "Welcome to Break The Cycle with Bethany Dotson. In this episode, we'll discuss a common dilemma: how to date when you fear dating and the fear of repeating past patterns."
00:24 - 00:54: Setting the Stage
- "You've taken YEARS off dating after your Ex to heal. You focused on your career, yourself, and your kids."
00:55 - 01:27: The Struggle Unveiled
- "And when you finally felt 'ready' to date and hopped online... You fell for ANOTHER unavailable, avoidant, or narcissistic person. What the hell?"
01:28 - 01:54: Seeking Answers
- "Didn't all that time in therapy help? Didn't all those years 'working hard' on yourself pay off?"
01:55 - 02:25: The Desire for Change
- "You WANT a healthy relationship... BUT, you don't want to get your hopes up, you hate online dating, and you don't know if you can trust yourself again."
02:26 - 02:52: Fear of Repeating the Past
- "You fear picking the wrong person again, you live in a small town, and quality men your age are slim pickings."
02:53 - 03:18: A Common Struggle
- "And the reasons go on and on... and ON. If this is you and you're sick of being stuck in Camp Fear, join me LIVE Tuesday, 1/23 @ 11:30 AM for solutions."
03:19 - 03:30: Conclusion
- "Stay tuned for valuable insights and guidance on conquering your dating fears."
EP 58 > 3 SIGNS YOUR CONTROL ISSUES ARE SABOTAGING YOUR LOVE LIFE
It may sound ironic to think that you have control issues.
You may have been with a really controlling Ex. Who at times, you still feel triggered by, especially if you have a co-parenting relationship. But if you've been single for a while, and you've tried your hand at dating, only to find yourself in more unfulfilling relationships - even if you've worked really hard to heal this pattern...Your control issues may be at play. Yes, I said YOUR control issues. This is in no way to victim blame or shame. But if you've always struggled in your love life, there's only one common denominator here: YOU. (Said with love). If you've taken years off dating only to find yourself falling for someone even more emotionally unavailable or abusive than your Ex...If you've focused solely on your career (for YEARS)...but can't seem to translate the success you have at work to your love life...THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU. Tune in to learn the 3 most prominent signs control issues are blocking your ability to have a healthy relationship. And likely causing resentment and burnout in other parts of your life.
Timestamps:
00:00 - 00:26: Introduction
- "3 SIGNS YOUR CONTROL ISSUES ARE SABOTAGING YOUR LOVE LIFE"
00:26 - 00:49: Setting the Stage
- "It may sound ironic to think that you have control issues."
00:49 - 01:15: Reflecting on Past Relationships
- "You may have been with a really controlling Ex. Who you at times, you still feel triggered by, especially if you have a coparenting relationship."
01:15 - 01:44: The Impact of Control Issues on Dating
- "But if you've been single for a while, and you've tried your hand at dating, only to find yourself in more unfulfilling relationships - even if you've worked really hard to heal this pattern... Your control issues may be at play."
01:44 - 02:13: Taking Responsibility
- "Yes, I said YOUR control issues. This is in no way to victim blame or shame. But if you've always struggled in your love life, there's only one common denominator here: YOU. (Said with love)."
02:13 - 02:45: Patterns of Unhealthy Relationships
- "If you've taken years off dating only to find yourself falling for someone even more emotionally unavailable or abusive than your Ex..."
02:45 - 03:12: Career vs. Love Life
- "If you've focused solely on your career (for YEARS)...but can't seem to translate the success you have at work to your love life..."
03:12 - 03:36: The Purpose of the Episode
- "THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU. Tune in to learn the 3 most prominent signs control issues are blocking your ability to have a healthy relationship."
03:36 - 04:00: Broader Impact
- "And likely causing resentment and burnout in other parts of your life."
EP 57 > HOW DO I STOP FEELING OVERWHELMED ABOUT STARTING OVER SINGLE AFTER MY EX?
You gave your heart and soul to this person.
Blood, sweat and tears. Oh the tears.
Yes, you sensed red flags right away.
BUT, the sabotaging inner child inside of you, overrode all logic, succumbed to the love bombing and honeymoon phase...
And here you are months...or many years later, picking yourself up off the floor.
You're throwing yourself into your career to stay busy.
But funny enough: the lack of boundaries, people-pleasing and resentment you had with your Ex...shows up in your work life.
You're unhappy. Numb. Fearful of the future and seriously doubtful of your ability to have a healthy relationship moving forward.
In many ways, you FEAR this new life by yourself...while your Ex rode off into the sunset with someone new. Timestamps:
Introduction (00:00 - 00:30)
Welcome!
In today's episode, we'll explore the overwhelming feelings of starting over after a breakup or divorce.
Segment 1: Understanding the Emotional Journey (00:30 - 05:15)
(00:30 - 01:15) The heartbreak and emotional investment in a past relationship.
(01:15 - 02:30) Recognizing the signs and red flags in the relationship.
(02:30 - 03:45) The inner child's role in sabotaging our logical thinking during the honeymoon phase.
(03:45 - 05:15) Coping with the aftermath months or years later.
Segment 2: The Impact on Your Career (05:15 - 09:00)
(05:15 - 06:30) Using your career as a distraction from the pain.
(06:30 - 07:45) How unresolved issues from your past relationship manifest in your professional life.
(07:45 - 09:00) Feeling unhappy, numb, and fearful about your future.
Segment 3: Fear of Starting Over (09:00 - 13:00)
(09:00 - 10:15) The fear of embracing a new life as a single person.
(10:15 - 11:30) Doubts about your ability to have a healthy relationship moving forward.
(11:30 - 13:00) Comparing your journey to your Ex's new relationship.
Conclusion and Hope for the Future (13:00 - 14:00)
(13:00 - 14:00) Overcoming post-divorce overwhelm is possible with commitment and healing.
Wrap-up and Call to Action (14:00 - 15:00)
Thanks for tuning in!
Remember, you have the power to heal and find happiness again.
EP 56 > THE #1 TRAIT THAT MAKES YOU SUCCESSFUL AT WORK, BUT A MATCH FOR TOXIC PARTNERS
Introduction: In this episode, we dive deep into the intriguing connection between career success and challenging relationships. You've got your life together on paper—education, career, home, and more—but why do you seem to attract less motivated, unavailable, or emotionally abusive partners? Join us as we explore the top trait that's driving this pattern and discuss how to break free from toxic relationships.
Key Discussion Points:
The Discrepancy: We highlight the apparent mismatch between professional success and personal relationship struggles.
Personal Insight: Exploring the reasons behind your attraction to toxic partners, even after years of therapy and self-awareness.
Childhood Roots: Understanding how early experiences might be influencing your relationship choices.
Comparison: Recognizing that many people overcome difficult childhoods to build healthy relationships, so why is it challenging for some?
The Live Session: Don't miss our live session tomorrow at 1 PM EST, where we'll delve even deeper into this topic and provide insights for change.
Conclusion: If you find yourself questioning why you excel at work but struggle in your personal relationships, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in for valuable insights and join us live to further explore the trait that might be holding you back from the love you deserve.
EP 55 > I TOOK TIME OFF DATING AFTER MY DIVORCE...THEN GOT INTO ANOTHER TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. WHY?!
In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges of recovering from a narcissistic ex and finding yourself in yet another toxic relationship after working so hard to heal. If you're a smart, successful individual who's been through this, you're not alone. We explore the reasons why this happens and offer insights to help you break free from the cycle of toxic relationships.
Segment 1: The Journey to Healing
- You've worked tirelessly in your career.
- The struggle of recovering from a narcissistic ex-husband.
- Swearing off dating to focus on healing.
- Therapy as a crucial part of the recovery process.
- Prioritizing the well-being of your children.
- Achieving personal growth and career success during the healing period.
Segment 2: Reluctantly Back to Dating Apps
- Feeling ready to love again after a hiatus.
- The reluctant return to dating apps.
- The shock of falling into another dysfunctional relationship.
- Questioning how this could happen again.
- The impact on your children, who might have witnessed your suffering.
- The guilt of potentially hiding the toxic relationship from your kids.
Segment 3: Unpacking the Why
- Reflecting on the hard work you put into healing.
- Taking years off dating to focus on self-improvement.
- Reaching a positive place in your life, only to lose yourself again.
- Self-blame and frustration for repeating the pattern.
- Feeling like you "should've known better."
Segment 4: Breaking the Cycle
- Exploring the top reasons why this cycle repeats.
- Recognizing the role of trauma bonding.
- The allure of familiar yet harmful patterns.
- The importance of self-awareness in breaking free.
- Seeking professional help when needed.
- Building healthy boundaries and self-esteem.
- Embracing the journey of self-discovery and healing.
Conclusion: If you've found yourself in the frustrating cycle of toxic relationships after divorce, remember that you're not alone. It's essential to understand the underlying reasons and work towards breaking free. Seek support, practice self-compassion, and continue your journey of healing and self-discovery.
EP 54 > $200K LOVE LIFE: HOW TO TRANSLATE THE SUCCESS IN YOUR CAREER TO YOUR LOVE LIFE.
Introduction:
- Explore the intersection of success in your career and finding love.
- In today's episode, we'll delve into the challenge of achieving career success but struggling in your love life.
Key Points:
The Career Paradox: Many successful individuals find it challenging to translate their career success into fulfilling love lives. Despite hard work and achievements, they may feel like failures in love.
Unhealthy Relationships: Sometimes, people compromise themselves to maintain unhealthy relationships, often staying in narcissistic marriages or ending up with manipulative partners after a divorce.
Aging and Love Life: The older you get, the more challenging your love life can become, regardless of therapy or self-discovery efforts.
EP 53 > ARE YOU YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY? How to Stop Limiting Yourself in Love After Repeat Failure.
In this episode, we dive deep into a topic that many of us can relate to – the cycle of unhealthy relationships and the struggle to break free from it. If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong people and why your love life seems like a never-ending rollercoaster, this episode is for you. We'll explore the common pitfalls that keep you stuck in this pattern and discuss the essential steps required to shift from "what's wrong with me?" to winning in relationships.
Key Takeaways:
- The Unhealthy Relationship Cycle: We discuss how many individuals find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhealthy relationships that may initially seem perfect but ultimately lead to disappointment and heartache.
- Recognizing Warning Signs: Learn to identify red flags and gut instincts that signal potential danger in a relationship. Discover why you might ignore these warnings and continue down the same path.
- The Pursuit of the Ideal Partner: Explore the idea of trying to solve relationship issues by achieving more in your career or avoiding dating altogether in the hopes of someday meeting the "right person."
- The Role of Therapy: We acknowledge the importance of therapy but highlight why simply talking about past traumas and relationship issues may not be enough to break the cycle.
- Repetition of Patterns: Understand why you may keep falling for the same relationship patterns despite your best efforts to change.
- The Path to Winning in Relationships: We offer insights and strategies to help you shift your mindset, break free from the cycle, and start attracting healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Conclusion: If you've ever felt like you're your own worst enemy in matters of the heart, this episode provides valuable insights and guidance to help you break free from the cycle of unhealthy relationships. It's time to take control of your love life and embark on a journey towards self-discovery and lasting happiness.
EP 52 > PERFECTIONISM: 3 Ways It Kills Your Happiness and Love Life"
Introduction: In this episode, we dive deep into the impact of perfectionism on your happiness and love life. Despite your accomplishments and drive in your career, you may find yourself stuck in unhealthy relationships or struggling to find love. We explore the underlying reasons and offer solutions to break free from this cycle.
Segment 1: The Perfectionist Struggle
- It's easy to assume that successful individuals don't face relationship challenges.
- The pressure to excel in both career and personal life can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
- We discuss the emotional gut punch that comes with hearing about others' happy relationships.
Segment 2: The Pursuit of More
- Many perfectionists try to compensate for their love life struggles by overworking, staying busy, or seeking self-help solutions.
- This relentless pursuit of self-improvement often leaves them feeling even lonelier.
Segment 3: Attracting the Wrong Partners
- Perfectionists may find themselves repeatedly attracting avoidant or unavailable partners.
- We explore how perfectionism can unknowingly contribute to these patterns.
Segment 4: Breaking Free from Perfectionism
- If you're a successful woman who struggles to find a healthy romantic relationship, this episode offers insights and strategies to overcome perfectionism.
Outro: Thank you for tuning in to this episode on the impact of perfectionism on your happiness and love life. Remember, you are not alone, and there are ways to break free from the cycle of perfectionism and find the love and happiness you deserve.
EP > 51 Staying Busy: The Worst Way to Heal After Your Ex
Introduction: In this episode, we dive deep into the common misconception of staying busy as a means to heal after a breakup or divorce. Our host discusses why this approach might not lead to genuine healing and offers insights on a better path to finding love and happiness after a challenging relationship.
Key Points Covered:
- The ambitious go-getter's response to a tumultuous divorce or breakup.
- The trap of staying chronically busy and its impact on emotional well-being.
- The lingering feeling of being unlovable despite a busy schedule.
- The nighttime reflections and struggles of solitude.
- The question that plagues many: "What's wrong with me?"
- Navigating the cycle of dating and falling into anxiety-laden relationships.
- The advice from therapists and dating "gurus" to keep busy and why it may not work.
- The importance of tuning in to discover a more effective way to heal after a breakup.
Conclusion: Join us in this episode as we unpack the myth of staying busy and explore a more authentic path to healing and happiness after parting ways with a significant other.
EP 50 > HOW TO STOP SHAMING YOURSELF FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP FAILURES
In this episode, we delve into the sensitive topic of self-shame when it comes to relationships. While you may appear successful and driven to the outside world, your love life may tell a different story. We discuss the frustration of repeat failures, despite investing in therapy, self-help resources, and even unconventional methods like Ayahuasca and ketamine therapy.
Join us as we explore the all-too-familiar pattern of self-sabotage that emerges when you start to like someone. We address the desire for a great relationship, often shrouded in shame and self-doubt. Is it possible to trust yourself again, and do you believe anyone would want you now?
We dissect these disempowering questions and more, especially the late-night rumination about your Ex when the kids are with their Dad. Tune in as we provide insights into how to stop beating yourself up and unveil the blueprint to heal your relational trauma and deep-rooted self-shaming.
If you're ready to break free from this cycle and pursue the happiness and love you deserve, this episode is a must-listen. Join us now!
📣 For single, successful career-women who want to learn how we help clients heal relational trauma, fully trust themselves, lead wildly fulfilling lives...and ultimately attract healthy partners after divorce or narcissistic relationships, visit our free training Break the Cycle (www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass)
📞 If you're a single, successful woman who's already done talk therapy, but still feels stuck in anxiety, fight or flight or ruminating after your Ex... and you'd like to speak with us to see if we can help you heal your relational trauma patterns and reach your goals in life and love, book a free initial consult call: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 49 > The ROOT CAUSES Behind WHY You Keep Attracting "Narcissists"
Welcome to another episode of BREAK THE CYCLE where we explore the intricate reasons behind attracting narcissistic partners. If you've been stuck in the aftermath of a toxic relationship, or find yourself in repeated patterns with unavailable partners, this episode is a must-watch.
What You'll Learn:
- Why years of therapy might not have solved your relationship woes.
- The conflict between a successful career and hidden personal struggles.
- The consequences of hiding your true emotions and how it affects your life.
- The lingering effects of past relationships and how to move forward.
- Strategies to break the cycle of attracting toxic partners.
Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the topic 02:30 - Therapy and self-insight: benefits and limits 05:45 - Career success vs. personal struggles 08:10 - The impact of past relationships on family life 11:30 - Feeling alone in social settings 14:50 - Strategies to avoid toxic relationships 18:00 - Conclusion and actionable tips
#NarcissisticRelationships #EmotionalWellbeing #SelfImprovement
📣 For single, successful career-women who want to learn how we help clients heal relational trauma, fully trust themselves, lead wildly fulfilling lives...and ultimately attract healthy partners after divorce or narcissistic relationships, visit our free training Break the Cycle (www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass)
📞 If you're a single, successful woman who's already done talk therapy, but still feels stuck in anxiety, fight or flight or ruminating after your Ex... and you'd like to speak with us to see if we can help you heal your relational trauma patterns and reach your goals in life and love, book a free initial consult call: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 48> 4 REASONS YOU STILL GET INTO DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS EVEN AFTER YEARS OF TALK THERAPY
Breaking the Cycle: Why Therapy Alone Might Not Change Your Relationship Patterns
Introduction:
- Quick reflection on the fast pace of 2023.
- Addressing the target audience: Those who've spent years in talk therapy but still find themselves in toxic relationships.
Personal Insight:
- Personal journey with therapy and relationships.
- A common trend with clients of "Break the Cycle" and frequent feedback from Breakthrough Calls.
Four Key Reasons You Might Still Struggle:
- Decision to Heal: Discussing the distinction between acute and chronic problems and the decision to heal.
- Venting vs. Healing: The comfort of discussing the past vs. the necessity of addressing present and future issues.
- Trauma Awareness: The need for trauma-informed therapy.
- The Lack of Plan & Accountability: Addressing the necessity of a clear plan and consistent efforts.
Relational Trauma:
- Description of relational trauma and its impact on current relationships.
Somatic Therapy with Break the Cycle:
- The approach and its effectiveness.
The Commitment to Self:
- The role of self-commitment in achieving positive relationship outcomes.
Invitation for a Breakthrough Call:
- Encouraging listeners to take action and seek help.
- https://www.bethanydotson.com/talk
Conclusion:
- Reinforcing the message of breaking patterns and prioritizing oneself.
EP 47> Why Single, High-Achieving Women Often Miss Their Mr. Right
Understanding Relationship Patterns: The Link Between Trauma and Love Choices
Hey everyone, welcome back to Break The Cycle. In today's episode, we're diving deep into the complex psychology of relationships and the unseen forces that guide our choices in love.
What We Cover:
- My Personal Struggles: How I, as a high achiever, have experienced dysfunctional relationships and the toll they took on my personal and professional life.
- The "Unlovable" Feeling: We'll explore how subconscious feelings of being 'unlovable' or 'not enough' can significantly influence our romantic decisions.
- Beyond Traditional Therapy: The limitations of relying solely on talk therapy and how integrating somatic work can bring transformative results.
- Breaking the Cycle: The importance of understanding and rewiring the trauma response to foster healthier relationships.
- The Power of Coaching: The unique benefits of goal-oriented coaching and having someone accountable to break free from these detrimental relationship patterns.
BOOK A FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL: For single, professional women ready to heal trauma and codependency, so she can step into her BEST life and become magnetic to healthy partners, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you break your cycle. To qualify for the call, you must meet the following:
- Single or divorced. 100% DONE with an Ex.
- Successful professionally.
- Prior therapy, but no lasting changes in your love life.
- Ready for healing and change NOW.
Resources & Mentions:
- To those of you who might resonate with this journey, I recommend booking a free breakthrough call over at https://www.bethanydotson.com/talk. It's been instrumental in my understanding and healing.
Thank you so much for tuning in! I hope this episode brings clarity and understanding to anyone who might be grappling with similar challenges. If you find value in our conversations, don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more in-depth explorations on relationships and personal growth. Until next time!
EP 46> THE RIGHT WAY TO BE WORTHY OF LOVE
Deep Dive into Love and Self-Worth: My Transformative Steps for High-Achieving Women
Introduction:
- Addressing listeners who claim they deserve a great partner but make contrary choices.
- The dichotomy of saying vs. doing in relationships.
Main Topics:
Identifying Unworthiness:
- The professional profile of many women: successful, helping professions, educated, but struggling in love.
- Common patterns: attracting emotionally unavailable partners, partners with addictions, etc.
- Linking relationship patterns to childhood trauma.
Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms:
- The busyness syndrome: two main reasons for it.
- Modern Prince Charming ideology and the external search for love.
- The pitfalls of operating in an energetic or emotional deficit.
Breaking the Cycle:
- Recognizing and addressing relational trauma.
- The dangers of controlling behavior post-traumatic relationships.
- Importance of stepping out of comfort zones.
Emotional Regulation:
- Introduction to "Break the Cycle" approach.
- Somatic work and therapy for relational trauma healing.
- The significance of the mind-body connection.
- Building a healthy self-image and confidence.
- The journey from anxiety to self-assuredness.
Conclusion:
- The combined power of emotional regulation and active steps for personal growth.
- The need for professional guidance to navigate and heal from relational traumas.
Recommendations:
- Seek professional support when faced with relational trauma.
- Embrace the uncomfortable as an opportunity for growth.
- Consider the "Break the Cycle" approach for deeper understanding and healing.
www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 45> Why Therapy Isn't Enough to Dodge Toxic Ties
Introduction:
- The challenge: Years of counseling and still attracting unhealthy relationships.
- You've had extensive talk therapy experience but limited results in romantic relationships.
Main Points:
Logical Understanding vs. Emotional Healing:
- Difference between understanding issues logically and actually healing from them.
- The limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy in addressing relational trauma.
- How venting can reinforce negative pathways in our brain.
Over Identification with Diagnoses:
- The danger of becoming overly attached to terms like "codependent" or "childhood trauma".
- The importance of personal responsibility in healing and growth.
- How leaning too much on labels can stifle progress.
Lack of Direction and Accountability:
- The need for a clear, goal-oriented plan.
- The importance of accountability in therapy and personal growth.
- The common tendency to avoid self-promises and the importance of consistency in healing.
Call to Action:
- Invitation for a free breakthrough call: Check eligibility and book at https://www.bethanydotson.com/talk
- Requirements for the call:
- Must be single or divorced.
- Must be professional and stable in other areas of life.
Key Takeaways:
- Therapy can provide insight but might not always lead to the behavioral changes needed.
- Over-identifying with diagnoses can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
- Without a clear plan and accountability, progress can stall.
- The promise you make to yourself should be the most sacred.
Outro: An emphasis on the importance of internal emotional shifts for overall well-being, relationship success, and leading an authentic, vulnerable, and joyful life.
This episode covers a lot of ground and offers valuable insights for listeners who have undergone therapy but feel stuck in their romantic lives.
EP 44> How to Stop Existing and Start Living After a Narcissistic Ex
- A look at the contradiction: How someone successful in their career can still be a magnet for emotionally unavailable partners.
- The silent struggle many face, despite seeming like they have it all together.
Main Content:
- Understanding the Lure of the Narcissist
- The allure of charm and confidence, and the initial attraction.
- How they prey on empathetic individuals and use manipulation tactics.
- The Toxic Cycle
- The highs and lows: Why it feels like a roller coaster.
- Recognizing the signs of gaslighting, invalidation, and manipulation.
- Facing Reality Post-Breakup
- Why do some take longer to move on from narcissistic relationships?
- The prolonged effects of trauma bonding.
- The Healing Process
- Therapy: Benefits and challenges.
- The role of self-awareness and self-education.
- Why 12 hobbies or a retreat might not be the ultimate solution.
- Breaking the Pattern
- The scarlet letter syndrome: Attracting broken individuals.
- How to rewrite your love story.
- Dating Again
- How to identify red flags early.
- Learning to trust yourself and your judgment.
- Creating and maintaining boundaries.
- From Existing to Living
- Rediscovering joy in everyday moments.
- The role of self-love in reclaiming your life.
- Embracing vulnerability without compromising on self-worth.
Conclusion:
- Empowerment: You are not defined by your past relationships.
- Steps to regain control, find genuine love, and start truly living.
Call to Action:
- Share your stories and breakthrough moments with us on our social media platforms.
- Reach out if you resonate with today’s episode.
For the exact, 5-shift blueprint my successful female clients used to heal past trauma from an Ex, experience soaring confidence, inner peace, live their best lives and attract healthy partners: www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass
BOOK A FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL: For single, professional women ready to heal trauma and codependency, so she step into her BEST life and become magnetic to healthy partners, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you break your cycle. In order to qualify for the call, you must meet the following:
Single or divorced. 100% DONE with an Ex.
Successful professionally
Prior therapy, but no lasting changes in your love life.
Ready for healing and change NOW.
Thank you for joining us on this journey of understanding, healing, and growth. Always remember, it's never too late to break the cycle and start anew.
Ep 43> THE #1 BEST WAY TO HEAL AFTER YOUR NARCISSISTIC EX
Welcome back to another transformative episode of Break The Cycle.
Today, we navigate the treacherous waters of reclaiming our sense of self after enduring a relationship with a narcissistic partner. For many, such relationships can feel like a relentless maze with no way out, leaving behind emotional scars that can hinder us from experiencing life to its fullest. But recovery and rediscovery are within reach.
Segment Highlights:
- Recognizing the Signs: Understanding narcissistic behaviors and how they can trap individuals in a toxic cycle.
- The Emotional Aftermath: Exploring the mental and emotional toll of exiting a narcissistic relationship and the steps to healing.
- Rediscovering Your Authentic Self: Empowerment exercises and techniques to regain a sense of identity and purpose.
- Guarding Your Mental Space: Practical tips on setting boundaries, avoiding gaslighting, and maintaining emotional health.
- Inspirational Stories: Hear from guests who've journeyed from the shadows of their narcissistic exes to reclaim their sunlight. They're living proof that life can be vibrant, fulfilling, and authentic on the other side.
Join us as we break the cycle, empower our spirits, and guide each other towards a brighter, more genuine tomorrow. Because it's not just about moving on – it's about moving up.
Ep 42> How to Love Dating Again When You've Had Repeated Betrayal
Welcome to Episode 42 of Break the Cycle! In this illuminating episode, we take on a heavy topic that many struggle with—loving the process of dating again after facing repeated betrayals. Whether you've been steering clear of dating for months or even years, or you've been engrossed in your career to avoid dealing with the emotional toll, we've got you covered.
We understand, the dating game can sometimes feel like a revolving door of disappointment and emotional unavailability. You've put in the hard work to improve yourself, yet the cycle persists. You're tired of investing in connections that seem promising only to end up being another cautionary tale. But what if you could break the cycle and magnetize yourself to healthy, meaningful relationships?
Today's episode explores:
- Identifying Unavailable Patterns: How to spot red flags early in the dating process.
- Therapy vs Transformation: Why your previous therapeutic journey might not have led to lasting changes in your love life.
- The New Rules of Online Dating: Tips for navigating the digital dating landscape without losing your sanity.
- Work-Life-Love Balance: How engrossing yourself in your career could be a defense mechanism and what to do about it.
- Healing Trauma & Codependency: Concrete steps you can take now to break the cycle and start fresh.
BOOK A FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL: For single, professional women who meet specific criteria, we’re offering a complimentary breakthrough call to explore how you can heal trauma and codependency, elevate your life, and attract healthy partners.
Qualifications for the Breakthrough Call:
- Single or divorced. You must be 100% DONE with an Ex.
- Professionally successful.
- Have had prior therapy but haven't seen lasting changes in your love life.
- Ready for healing and transformative change NOW.
Tune in and let's take the first step towards breaking the cycle and embracing a future where love is not just possible, but fulfilling and authentic.
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your support helps us bring more life-changing content your way.
Connect with us:
- Website: https://www.bethanydotson.com
- Instagram: @_bethanydotson
Thank you for being a part of our community. Your journey towards breaking the cycle starts here and now.
Ep 41> WHY YOU'RE HYPER INDEPENDENT IN LIFE...BUT A "HOPELESS CODEPENDENT" IN LOVE
Picture this: by day, you're a powerhouse. A go-getter. A woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after it. You're fiercely independent, strong, and unstoppable. Yet, by night or behind closed doors, when it comes to love, you find yourself falling into a pattern of codependency, always available, always accommodating, always trying to heal or save your partner. Sounds familiar?
You may have been told by a therapist or realized after exhaustive research on narcissistic abuse that you exhibit traits of codependency. But how can that be? After all, in your daily life, you're the exact opposite. It's a puzzling dichotomy that many face - being hyper-independent in most facets of life but inexplicably codependent when it comes to romantic relationships.
On this episode, we delve deep into this paradox. What draws the assertive, independent woman to emotionally unavailable men? How can someone, who stands so strong alone, become so entangled in the needs and whims of another in love? And most importantly, how can you heal from this cycle?
Whether you've felt like you played the role of a therapist, cheerleader, or caretaker to your ex while managing everything else in your life, we're here to break down why this happens and what can be done about it.
For those ready to understand this pattern and seek change, join me in this enlightening episode.
Want a blueprint for healing? Check out www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass for my 5-shift guide that's been pivotal for countless successful women.
FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL: If you're a single professional woman, tired of repeating the same mistakes in love, I'm offering a chance for a life-changing conversation. To qualify:
- You must be single or divorced and have completely moved on from your ex.
- You're professionally thriving but emotionally unfulfilled.
- You've sought therapy before but haven’t found lasting changes in your romantic relationships.
- You're eager and open to deep healing and transformation.
If this resonates, let's talk about breaking this cycle together.
EP 40> THE SECRET TO FULLY TRUSTING YOURSELF AGAIN IN LOVE
In this episode, we are joined by renowned relationship coach, Bethany Dotson, who is here to talk about how successful, driven women can break the cycle of falling into emotionally unavailable relationships and finally trust themselves again. She dives into the importance of self-love, understanding past trauma, and cultivating self-awareness.
Timestamps:
- 0:00 - Introduction to Bethany Dotson and the topic of the episode
- 2:45 - The frustration of repeating the same patterns in love
- 5:00 - Understanding why you keep meeting emotionally unavailable partners
- 8:30 - How trauma affects our choice of partners
- 11:15 - The importance of healing past traumas for healthy relationships
- 13:30 - Bethany shares the 5-shift blueprint for healing trauma and attracting healthy partners
- 16:00 - Tips for breaking the cycle of codependency
- 18:15 - Building self-awareness and understanding your relationship patterns
- 21:00 - How to trust your judgment in relationships
- 23:30 - Techniques for coping with fear of pushing a great person away
- 26:00 - How therapy can help in understanding and breaking your patterns
- 28:15 - The role of self-love in finding and maintaining a healthy relationship
- 31:00 - Listener questions: How to recognize red flags early on in a relationship
- 33:15 - Listener questions: How to deal with the pressure from family and friends about your love life
- 35:30 - Final thoughts and wrapping up
Links:
- Bethany Dotson's Website - Find resources and the free masterclass where Bethany teaches the exact 5-shift blueprint used by her successful clients
- Book a Free Breakthrough Call - If you're a single, professional woman who's ready for healing and change, and meet the criteria mentioned in the episode description, book a free breakthrough call with Bethany
Connect with Bethany Dotson:
Listener Takeaways:
- Understanding your past trauma and relationship patterns is crucial to breaking the cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable partners
- It's essential to cultivate self-awareness, self-love, and self-trust in order to form and maintain healthy relationships
- Healing past trauma, breaking codependency patterns, and understanding your relationship history are key steps to becoming magnetic to healthy partners
Join us next week for Episode #41
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Ep 39> HOW TO OVERCOME LONELINESS AFTER YOUR EX
Episode Overview:
Navigating the choppy waters of emotional aftermath following a breakup, especially if the relationship was abusive, can be one of the most challenging experiences of one's life. In this episode, we'll dive deep into the emotions, coping mechanisms, and transformative ways to overcome the profound loneliness that may ensue.
Timestamps:
- 00:01: Introduction to the episode topic
- 03:45: Real stories - the raw emotions of post-breakup
- 10:30: The paradox - missing chaos when life becomes calm
- 14:20: Self-reflection: "What's wrong with me?"
- 18:15: Unpacking the history - unavailable partners & emotional unavailability
- 23:00: The dangers of loneliness
- 28:00: Coping mechanisms vs. Healing
- 35:00: Breaking the patterns that push love away
- 41:00: Steps to overcome loneliness
- 45:10: Rebuilding after trauma
- 49:20: The journey to falling in love again: with life, oneself, and a partner
- 54:15: Closing thoughts & call to action
Key Takeaways:
- Loneliness is Natural, But Not Permanent: Even after a tumultuous relationship, the emotions you feel are valid. But they're not your life's sentence.
- The Chaos Comfort: Why we sometimes miss the bad times when things start to calm down.
- Redefining Relationship Norms: It's possible to relearn love, how to choose partners, and how to connect on a deep, genuine level.
- Rebuilding and Thriving: Overcoming the patterns that lead to emotional distance, and finding love that enriches your life.
Resources Mentioned:
- Book a free breakthrough call: https://www.bethanydotson.com/talk
Conclusion:
If you've felt the sting of loneliness, remember that healing is not just about moving on from your ex, but about reconnecting with yourself and preparing for the love you truly deserve.
Don't let your past dictate your future. There's hope, healing, and a new beginning awaiting.
EP 38> The Right Way To Heal YOUR CODEPENDENCY... And Stop Losing Yourself in Toxic Relationships
Welcome back to another empowering episode of Break the Cycle.
I'm your host, Bethany Dotson, and today we're diving deep into a topic that might be hitting home for many of you - healing codependency and breaking free from toxic relationships.As successful, goal-oriented women, we've got it all together in various aspects of our lives, but when it comes to love, it can sometimes feel like a constant struggle.
Are you tired of settling for partners who don't fully appreciate you or contribute to a healthy relationship? Have you found yourself entangled in toxic connections that leave you questioning your worth and sanity?
In this episode, we tackle the burning question that may have crossed your mind time and time again: "WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?"
Rest assured, you're not alone in this journey, and the key to finding healing and happiness lies within you.We get it, you've tried it all - talk therapy, support groups, self-help books, and even sought guidance from psychics and astrologers. But the toxic patterns persist, leaving you feeling consumed and lost. The culprit might be codependency - that underlying trauma and set of beliefs that keep you trapped in these unhealthy cycles.But fear not! There's hope and a proven plan to reclaim your power and attract healthy relationships into your life.
Join me as I reveal what actually works and what doesn't when it comes to healing codependency. Let's put an end to those patterns that have haunted you for years and open the door to a brighter future filled with love, confidence, and inner peace.
I've worked with successful women just like you, and in this episode, I share the exact 5-shift blueprint they used to break free from past trauma, rise with soaring confidence, live their best lives, and ultimately attract the healthy partners they deserve.
You won't want to miss this powerful insight!
For those of you ready to take charge of your life, heal past relational trauma, and break the addiction to your narcissistic ex, I've got a special offer for you.
Remember, you deserve love, happiness, and fulfillment in all areas of your life. So let's embark on this journey of healing and transformation together.
To access the FREE 5-shift blueprint and learn more about our breakthrough coaching program, head over to [www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass].
Are you ready to take the first step towards reclaiming your life? Head to [www.bethanydotson.com/talk] and book your free breakthrough call today. Let's break the cycle of codependency and create the life you truly deserve.
Thank you for joining me on this eye-opening episode. Don't forget to subscribe and share this with friends who might need a dose of empowerment. Until next time, remember to love yourself fiercely and take charge of your destiny.
Stay fabulous, stay empowered, and keep shining bright!
EP 37> Are you the RED FLAG?
Are you a highly accomplished woman who's rocking it in her career, yet struggling to find lasting love in your personal life? If you've experienced the frustration of attracting the wrong type of partner well into your 40's, 50's, or 60's, you're not alone. Join us on our upcoming live podcast as we delve into the top 5 habits that might be keeping you stuck in this pattern.
In "Breaking the Cycle: The Successful Woman's Guide to Healing Her Love Life," we'll explore the common challenges faced by smart, successful women who seem to excel in their professional pursuits but struggle when it comes to matters of the heart. We'll discuss the emotional gut-punch of seeing your Ex move on quickly after everything you've invested and the heartbreak of falling for someone who turned out to be worse.
Hosted by relationship expert Bethany Dotson, this transformative episode will be packed with eye-opening insights and practical tips to help you break free from the shackles of past trauma, rebuild your confidence, find inner peace, and ultimately attract healthy and loving partners.
During the episode, Bethany will unveil her exclusive 5-shift blueprint, a proven method used by her successful female clients to heal from past wounds, overcome codependency, and create thriving love lives. If you're ready to step into your best life and become truly magnetic to healthy partners, this episode is a must-listen.
But wait, there's more! For those single or divorced women who are 100% done with their Ex and are yearning for lasting changes in their love lives, Bethany offers a unique opportunity. Head to www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass to access her FREE masterclass where you'll discover the exact blueprint her clients used to transform their love lives.
And if you're truly committed to healing and change, you can book a FREE breakthrough call with Bethany's team. This call is exclusively for single, professional women who have had prior therapy experiences but haven't seen lasting changes in their love lives. If you're ready to break your cycle of attracting unavailable partners and unlock the path to a fulfilling relationship, this call might just be the turning point you've been waiting for.
Don't let another opportunity for love slip away. Join us on [date and time] for "Breaking the Cycle: The Successful Woman's Guide to Healing Her Love Life" and take the first step toward a brighter and love-filled future.
Subscribe to our channel and turn on notifications so you don't miss this empowering episode. Together, let's make your love life as successful as your career!
EP 36> ARE YOU THE COMMITMENT-PHOBE?
Are You the Commitment-Phobe? 🤔💔
You find yourself in a cycle of unavailable, commitment-phobic, or emotionally abusive relationships, all while telling yourself "you're worth it." You may claim to desire a healthy relationship, but in the next breath, you're content with never dating again.
If you've reached 40, 50, or 60 without experiencing a fulfilling relationship, it's time to examine your own commitment issues. Ignoring red flags, intuition, and mounting evidence that a relationship isn't right for you keeps you trapped in this cycle. Avoiding dating or giving chances to those who blow hot and cold won't bring the lasting change you seek.
In this episode, we'll dive deep into how your own commitment issues are blocking you from the fulfilling relationship experiences you desire. We'll explore common traps that keep you stuck and provide insights on healing your fears of emotional intimacy.
Discover the exact 5-shift blueprint that my successful female clients have used to heal past trauma, boost confidence, find inner peace, and attract healthy partners. www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass
Ready to break the cycle?
Book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you step into your best life and become magnetic to healthy partners.
Qualifications for the call: 1️⃣ Single or divorced. 100% DONE with an Ex. 2️⃣ Successful professionally. 3️⃣ Prior therapy but no lasting changes in your love life. 4️⃣ Ready for healing and change NOW.
It's time to unravel your commitment issues and create the fulfilling relationship you deserve. Tune in and take the first step towards transformation. 💖✨
EP 35> HOW TO ATTRACT AN "EQUAL"... WHEN YOU'VE REPEATEDLY ATTRACTED DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS
How to Attract an "Equal" When You've Repeatedly Attracted Dysfunctional Relationships
You excel in your career, loving what you do and working hard. But when it comes to love, you find yourself repeatedly attracting partners who fall short of being the true partner you deserve.
From unavailability to addiction, infidelity, or narcissistic traits, these relationships leave you feeling lost and settling for less than you deserve. Your most recent Ex might have been the worst, leaving you questioning if you can ever attract an equal partner.
But don't lose hope! Join me as we delve into breaking this heartbreaking cycle in your love life. No need to swear off dating, become a workaholic, or spend years in talk therapy.
Discover the exact 5-shift blueprint that my successful female clients have used to heal from past trauma, regain confidence, find inner peace, and attract healthy partners. www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass
Ready for a breakthrough? Book a free call to see if we can help you break the cycle and step into your best life. Qualifications for the call: 1️⃣ Single or divorced. 100% DONE with an Ex. 2️⃣ Successful professionally. 3️⃣ Prior therapy but no lasting changes in your love life. 4️⃣ Ready for healing and change NOW.
Don't settle for crumbs. It's time to create a love life that empowers and fulfills you. Tune in and take the first step towards a brighter future. 💖✨
EP 34> Finding the Perfect Match: Unveiling the Secrets to Meeting Quality Men Over 40
Are you a smart, successful woman who is navigating the dating scene again after a divorce or a toxic relationship? Perhaps you spent years hoping your partner would change, only to find yourself back on the market.
It can be a daunting experience, especially if you feel that men your age come with significant baggage or lack the communication and follow-through you desire in a partner. You've tried various avenues like online dating, going out with friends, attending social events, and taking care of yourself physically. Yet, you find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable men or encountering those with their fair share of baggage or bad habits.
Maybe you've convinced yourself that all the men in your city are wrong for you or that high-level men only want younger women. You might even believe that finding love at 40, 50, or 60 is impossible, especially if you have a history of dysfunction and failed relationships.
But what if the key to meeting quality men your age isn't about the where, but rather the how? What if the fear and resistance within you are the barriers keeping love at bay?
Join us as we delve into the secrets of meeting quality men at your age and debunk the notion that a less-than-stellar love track record defines your future prospects. Discover the 5-shift blueprint that has empowered my successful female clients to heal past traumas, experience a surge in confidence, find inner peace, live their best lives, and attract healthy partners.
To access the exact blueprint and learn more, visit www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass.
If you're a single or divorced professional woman who is ready to heal from trauma and codependency, step into your best life, and become magnetic to healthy partners, book a free breakthrough call with us. Our team is dedicated to helping you break the cycle of unhealthy relationships. To qualify for the call, you must meet the following criteria:
- Single or divorced. Completely done with your ex.
- Successful professionally.
- Previous therapy attempts with no lasting changes in your love life.
- Ready for healing and change right now.
Don't let fear or past experiences hold you back from the fulfilling and loving relationship you deserve. Take the first step towards transformation by booking your free breakthrough call. Your journey to healing and attracting healthy love starts now.
EP 33> THE SUCCESS CONUNDRUM
Why Being a Successful, Driven Women is Making You Magnetic to the Wrong Men
On the outside, you have your ish together. Successful career. Ambitious. Goal Oriented.
Except you always wind up with dysfunctional partners. Your family is concerned. Your kids roll their eyes when you talk about dating. You secretly feel like something's wrong with you.
And you do whatever you can to get rid of feeling inferior: lots of therapy, workaholism, shopping, travel, peak experiences that temporarily take you out of your mundane life...
You're doing all the "right" things...but keep meeting all the wrong men. Or avoiding love altogether in favor of....more work and excess busyness.
Tune in to learn WHY your drive is a match for unhealthy partners and what needs to shift in YOU so that you break a lifelong cycle of abandonment and disappointment in your love life.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast! We hope you've enjoyed the episodes and found them impactful. We would love to hear your feedback, so please take a moment to leave us a rating and review wherever you listen. Your thoughts mean the world to us and help us continue to improve.
If you're a driven, ambitious, and successful professional woman who has experienced challenges recovering from a narcissistic ex and finds herself attracting similar partners, we have resources for you. Visit www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass for a free masterclass where you'll discover a 5-shift blueprint used by our successful female clients to heal past trauma, gain confidence, and attract healthy partners.
Additionally, if you're ready to break the cycle of trauma and codependency and step into your best life, you can book a free breakthrough call with us. To qualify for the call, you should be single or divorced, completely done with your ex, successful professionally, and ready for healing and change. Visit www.bethanydotson.com/talk to schedule your call and see if we can help you on your journey.
Once again, thank you for listening and being a part of our community. We appreciate your support and look forward to bringing you more valuable content in the future.
Ep 32> Why Taking Time Off Dating Does More Harm Than Good After a Toxic Ex
Why Taking Time Off Dating Does More Harm Than Good After a Toxic Ex
I know what you're going to say:
"SHOULDN'T I take time off after my Ex to work on myself?"
"Dating is the LAST thing on my mind right now."
I get it. As a smart, high achieving women who's likely struggled in love her entire life...
Dating after a bad relationship may feel like getting a root canal. Without the pain meds.
After your Ex, you may have focused 200% on your career. Picked up new hobbies. Traveled. Went back to therapy.
But many months or YEARS have passed...and dating still feels uncertain.
Or the one-off dates you've been on have all been DUDS.
You know this ONE area of your life is still unhealed. You KNOW deep down you want a partner...but you're blocked. BIG TIME.
"But Bethany, online dating sucks!" "Have you seen the men my age?"
"There are no good men in my city, I swear."
I get it. And these thoughts are killing your chances at love. ❌
Tune in this week to learn the damaging effects of taking lots of time off dating after an Ex and what needs to happen INSIDE of you to attract the love you want.
🎙️ Thank you for tuning in to our podcast, where we empower and inspire professional women who are driven, ambitious, and successful in their careers. We understand that even the strongest individuals can face challenges in their personal lives, especially when it comes to recovering from a narcissistic ex-partner. If you find yourself struggling to break free from this pattern and want to regain your confidence, inner peace, and attract healthy partners, we have a powerful solution for you.
🔥 Introducing the 5-shift blueprint that our successful female clients have used to heal past trauma from their exes and transform their lives. You deserve to live your best life and experience the happiness you've always desired. To learn more about this transformative blueprint, visit www.bethanydotson.com/masterclass.
💫 Are you a single, professional woman who is ready to heal from trauma and codependency? Do you want to step into your best life and become magnetic to healthy partners? We invite you to book a free breakthrough call with us to see if we can help you break the cycle and embark on a journey of healing and growth. To qualify for the call, you must meet the following criteria: 1️⃣ You are single or divorced and 100% done with your ex. 2️⃣ You are successful professionally and are committed to personal growth.
📲 Don't let your past define your future. Take the first step towards a happier and healthier life by booking your free breakthrough call today. We look forward to supporting you on your journey of transformation.
www.Bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 31> WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN HEALING AFTER DIVORCE OR A NARCISSISTIC EX
As a smart, successful woman you've likely struggled your entire life in love.
Aside from maybe a high school sweetheart, you repeatedly attract unfulfilling, unavailable or even abusive relationships.
Your most recent Ex was likely the worst.
You know you're the common denominator.
But even with years of talk therapy and hard work on yourself, you still can't get it right in the love department.
You're not sure if you can trust yourself to choose better. You're not sure you can trust other people. Dating = more disappointment.
You're stuck in no-man's land. Achieving in your career. Looking good on "paper". But feeling empty and alone inside.
If this sounds like you, tune in to learn what NOT to do...common traps so many intelligent women make when healing and learning to trust after narcissistic abuse.
For single professional women ready to heal narcissistic abuse trauma, open their hearts to daily happiness and eventually a great partner, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you break your cycle. Women who are a good fit are:
- Successful professionally / in other life areas.
- 100% done with her Ex
- Have had prior therapy but didn't receive lasting change. There's still a GAP.
EP 30> How to Feel Excited About Your New Life Post Divorce or Toxic Relationship
Still struggling to emotionally let go of your Ex?
Even though you know it would never work out?
Still struggling to feel happy every day and trust yourself YEARS later?
Did you this was toxic, but still did everything you could to make it work?
Worse, did he LEAVE you?
Move on at lightning speed, while you're left picking up the pieces trying to feel excited about a future you didn't ask for?
Tune into this week's episode for insights on emotionally MOVING ON and feeling EXCITED about your future post divorce or narcissistic Ex.
For single professional women ready to heal narcissistic abuse trauma, open their hearts to daily happiness and eventually a great partner, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you break your cycle.
Women who are a good fit are:
1. Successful professionally or in other areas of their life
2. 100% done with her ex
3. Have had prior therapy but didn't see lasting change. There's still a GAP
EP> 29 Reclaiming Your Power: How to Live Your Best Life After Narcissistic Abuse
RECLAIMING YOUR POWER: How to Live Your Best Life After Narcissistic Abuse
Maybe you just exited a long marriage with someone who, you eventually learned through a wise counselor or your own research...was a narcissist.
Maybe you knew things were off from Day 1...but thought with enough love you could work through anything.
Maybe all was great until Year 10...when the addiction or abuse started.
Maybe all of your romantic relationships have been unfulfilling...your most recent being the worst.
And now, you're picking up the pieces. Painting on a smile for clients and colleagues at work.
Lying to your kids that you're fine. Feeling like a ghost at church, work events or school functions when everyone else seems to be getting it "right" in love.
You suffered in silence long enough in a toxic relationship...and now that you're free...the suffering continues. Almost worse than before.
To everyone outside, you seem to be doing "fine". You're doing all the right things therapists and your mountain of self-help books tell you to do... but INSIDE?
You're crumbling. Stuck. Anxious and empty.
Tune in this week as I break down the exact steps I personally used and that I teach my clients to heal the past and live their best lives after betrayal trauma, divorce or narcissistic abuse.
For single or newly divorced, high achieving women ready to heal narcissistic abuse trauma, codependency, build a strong foundation for love by healing HERSELF and ultimately attract an equal partner, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 28> Your Toxic Ex: Your Worst Enemy or The Greatest Thing That Ever Happened to You?
YOUR TOXIC EX: THE GREATEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?
When you're super honest with yourself....you've never had a truly healthy, satisfying relationship. After decades of waiting for your "Prince", you fell for your Ex.
Who was the MOST emotionally unavailable, abusive or dysfunctional person you'd been with YET. Of course, it didn't start that way. You may have sensed red flags immediately...but all of the love bombing quickly canceled out your concerns.
You're smart, driven, successful. You've had therapy. You're growth oriented...and yet the SAME TRAP keeps happening in your love life. You may now have so many walls up, you worry you'll push a really great person away. You may long for a healthy relationship....but have no idea how that could happen. You may even reminisce about who you WERE BEFORE you met your Ex. And silently beat yourself up for staying so long.
If you're in limbo after your Ex, continuously meeting duds in dating (while he moved on at lightning speed), tune into this week's EPISODE for important concepts needed to shift you out of stuckness and into soaring confidence.
For single or newly divorced, high achieving women ready to heal narcissistic abuse trauma, codependency, build a strong foundation for love by healing HERSELF and ultimately attract an equal partner, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 27> Janet's Inspiring Journey to Healing and Self-Transformation After Narcissistic Abuse
When Janet enrolled in Break the Cycle, she’d been following me for years.
She came across some videos when she was still in an unhealthy marriage.
Janet, like many women we work with, married young.
She knew in the first 3 months of her marriage that she’d picked the wrong person…
But fear of displeasing others, among other things, caused her to stay.
For 23 more years.
In that time, they had 2 children. She built a successful sales career.
But for 23 years stayed small within the walls of her marriage.
She battled people-pleasing and perfectionism… wanting to be liked by others and fearing “making people feel bad”.
Years of watching our videos and content, helped her find the courage to finally leave her husband for good.
When he moved out during the divorce process, she booked a call, enrolled right away in Break the Cycle and never looked back.
She thought this was going to be a “how to meet Mr. Right” kind of a program. How to never fall for another narcissist again…
She wasn’t expecting such deep, profound changes in just 3 short months.
Afterall, if you consistently wind up in unfulfilling relationships…the common denominator is you.
Today, she has a deeper bond with her teenage kids.
She can be around her Ex with ZERO animosity and co-parent in a healthy way for her kids.
She received a promotion in her sales career that provides more financial security as a single mom.
She LOVES being alone, whereas before, weekends without her kids made her anxious, lonely and insecure.
She sets boundaries with others without guilt now. She communicates through conflict with grace and staying centered in her heart.
And she’s the most confident, radiant version of herself.
A lot of people think it’s going to take YEARS to see any kind of changes after such a long time in a dysfunctional relationship.
But with the right plan, evidence-based methods for healing trauma and guidance, you can make massive changes in 90 days.
TUNE IN BELOW to hear Janet’s powerful story of transformation and the advice she has to other women who are still struggling to heal after narcissistic abuse.
For single or newly divorced, professional women ready to overcome narcissistic trauma, codependency and fear-based patterns that block love so you can experience soaring confidence, deep SELF TRUST and attract a healthy partner, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you break the cycle. (www.bethanydotson.com/talk)
EP 26> Overcoming Addiction to Difficulty in Relationships
ARE YOU ADDICTED TO DIFFICULTY?
You may have been "addicted" to your Ex.
So now that you've left...
And you've faced your fears of starting over and being alone and the risk of never meeting anyone ever again and dying alone...
You vowed to be the BEST version of you EVER...
You focused 1000% on your career. Travel. Retreats. Therapy. Coaching.
You learned 9,476,987,253 ways to spot a narcissist thanks to the internet.
Maybe you started a business. Or 3....
But no matter what, you STILL FIND YOURSELF feeling drained and resentful.
You always seem to DO MORE than everyone else at work. While they get all the good clients, accounts and prime vacation time...WTF?
You go out with your girlfriends...only to drink too much and get caught up in complaining about how crappy online dating is when you're 50.
You go to church or your kid's parent weekend at college...only to feel like something's wrong with you when you see all the couples, and you're alone.
You certainly didn't PLAN for this to be your life.
No one wakes up one day and decides to marry an emotional abuser and spend years hoping to make it work out.
No one says they want to be a "workaholic" when they're 10 years old.
Abuse is never your fault...but could it be that you're actually addicted to difficulty and chaos?
And making things WAY MORE DIFFICULT than they need to be? Tune in to find out....and how to break your OWN internal addictions to unavailability and feeling like the victim so you can have more joy, inner peace and love in your life.
For single or divorced, professional women ready to heal codependency, create unshakeable self trust and ultimately attract a healthy relationship after narcissistic partners or repeat disappointment in love, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 25> Are You More Controlling Than Your Ex?
ARE YOU MORE CONTROLLING THAN YOUR EX?
Perhaps you've been on the receiving end of a brutal divorce with a narcissist who seems to purposely argue and drag things out....JUST to piss you off. MORE.
Perhaps you sensed red flags with your Ex in the *first week* but stayed 20 years, hoping he would change.
Perhaps now, that you're single and figuring out who you are again, life feels like a giant rut and you constantly question whether you'll ever find love.
Perhaps you've also found yourself in unfulfilling career environments...
Getting roped into projects you don't like, picking up the slack for low performing colleagues...or worse, working for a narcissistic, no-way-you-can-win boss?
COULD ALL OF THIS....really boil down to your own control issues?
Yes, yours.
Tune in to find out...and most importantly how to heal the trauma, fear and insecurities BEHIND your fixing, rescuing and control issues so you can experience *healthy* love.
For single or divorced, professional women ready to overcome trust issues, dating fears, confidence issues, trauma and codependency blocking her from daily happiness and healthy relationships after narcissistic abuse, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 24> How Have Unshakeable Self Trust After Your Emotionally Abusive Ex
You work extremely hard on yourself.
You're probably extremely hard on yourself. PERIOD.
You've pushed yourself to be successful in your career.
And while someone like you *should* have an amazing partner...
All you keep getting are emotionally unavailable or abusive men.
Workaholics, alcoholics, complain o-holics.
You've ignored SO MANY red flags over the decades, you could teach a masters program at Harvard on how to get into sh*tty relationships and drain yourself hoping it works out.
So it's only natural that you have massive trust issues.
Those SAME trust issues bty, may be keeping you in a draining career or position, because deep down you don't believe in yourself in enough.
It's a lot easier to blame your trust issues on your Ex...when your intuition was telling you from date 1 this guy was bad news.
But blame won't heal you. Whether it's your Ex...or your boss.
It makes your trust issues worse.
AND actually makes you an emotional match for another toxic person (or career) later on.
Tune in with me to learn how to heal the trust with YOURSELF and attract more success in life and healthy men...even if you've never had a healthy relationship before.
For professional, high achieving women ready to overcome narcissistic abuse trauma, reclaim their confidence and ultimately skyrocket their life and attract a healthy relationship, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 23> How to Overcome Your Fear of Being Alone
Did you dedicate DECADES to your Ex?
Did you sense red flags EARLY on...and hoped they were nothing? Hoped you could handle them? Hoped he would change?
Did you FIGHT SO HARD to make it work...and now can't stop ruminating about how fast he moved on?
Or worse, questioning if you should've even left in the first place?
Are you trying your best to stay super busy at work...but find your performance is down...that it's a struggle to get through every day?
Do you feel embarrassed around other parents at school functions? Like an outsider around happily married coworkers?
Are you numb, afraid of the unknown and don't know HOW you'll ever feel joy, excitement and love life single...let alone EVER meet another partner...who's healthy?
If you're SICK AND TIRED of living in the rearview mirror...many months or YEARS after your Ex and you're terrified of winding up alone, this episode is especially for you.
For single, professional women ready to heal relational trauma and step into wildly thriving lives, healthy relationships and unshakeable self-trust after divorce or narcissistic abuse, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 22> Top 4 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After Narcissistic Abuse
TOP 4 MISTAKES KEEPING YOU STUCK AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE...EVEN IF YOU'VE DONE ALL THE THERAPY AND SELF HELP
You're smart and driven. And yet, at 40, 50 or 60...you've never had a healthy romantic relationship.
They *start* off OK, but your MO is ignoring many, MANY red flags...hoping this person will change.
Addicted to an unavailable person you know isn't right for you, but that you can't quit.
Losing yourself in the process.
Your last Ex was the worst of them all. Even after years of talk therapy and googling your eyeballs out on the "narcissist."
WHY? FOR THE LOVE ALL THAT'S GOOD AND HOLY does this keep happening to you?
In spite of your best efforts, you might be making one (or all 4) of these common mistakes.
If you long for daily happiness, fulfillment, unshakeable self trust and someone to share your life with I'm breaking down the exact roadblocks keeping you from that experience.
For professional, high achieving women ready to break their addiction to a narcissistic Ex, heal the trauma, codependency and self sabotage so she can have unshakeable self trust, confidence and be magnetic to healthy relationships, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 21> 3 Things You’re Doing That Keep You Attracting Unavailable Love
It's not ignoring red flags. It's not that you need to learn the signs of a "narcissist" or get better at boundaries.
You're 30, 40, 50 PLUS. You've never had a healthy relationship.
You'll tell yourself your narcissistic Ex *started healthy* and try to make that count.
But I'm not here to sugarcoat the (painful) reality of only knowing unhealthy love.
Maybe your thing is rushed intimacy followed by painstakingly hollow distance, makeup and breakup cycles...or gaslighting and you minimizing the bad behavior to stay in it...and go back to the good times.
You've meditated. You've prayed.
You've talked it out in counseling. To your friends. To your concerned family....who can't understand why such a successful, amazing person like you keeps winding up with men nowhere near your level.
You've rehashed your painful childhood traumas. You've read. You've retreated. You've been the shoulder to cry on for SO.MANY.DAMN. PEOPLE. Ex's, family, friends, clients, your kids.You get massages. Mani/pedi's. You're involved with your kids. You feel guilty for the damage and relationship examples you set for them and pray to God they do better.
You're an outstanding woman with a heart of gold, who's come SO FAR from any past heartache and trauma... so why the hell do you keep winding up with men who can't give you what you need?
Even when you've tried EVERYTHING TO work on yourself and heal?
You're missing a few hairline tweaks...about YOU. You are the barrier. YOU are standing in your own way.
And I'm going to be breaking down the 3 most common things you're likely doing right NOW that are blocking you from true emotional freedom, inner peace, self-trust and amazing, emotionally available love (when all you've known are narcissists, emotionally unavailable duds and commitment-phobes).
For single (or divorced) professional women who are 100% DONE with an Ex, who are ready to do the deep inner work of healing her trauma, emotional intimacy fears or codependency so she can experience soaring self trust, emotional health and healthy relationships (after narcissistic abuse), book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 20> How to Embrace Vulnerability After Narcissistic Abuse?
HOW DO I EMBRACE VULNERABILITY AFTER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE? Even if every time I've let my guard down, I'm betrayed or disappointed?
How do I ever trust myself again?
How will I ever know I'm trusting the right person when I do date again?
How will I know if those are red flags or just me being terrified and overreacting?
Likely questions that have circulated your mind since you left.
As a smart, driven woman you may have turned to your career to fill the hole your Ex left.
Swapping one codependent relationship...for another.
Your heart longs to share your life with someone...but with your track record, you have ZERO confidence in your ability to actually have that.
When around friends or colleagues, you may plaster on a fake smile....but go home feeling empty.
You can be amongst friends...but still feel deeply disconnected and like the "outsider".
When you stop and think about it, no one really knows the REAL YOU.
Your heart KNOWS you must be vulnerable to have the type of love you want...but you've spent so many decades GUARDED, overachieving or walking on eggshells, that you don't know HOW to let the walls down.
Tune in as I break down the exact steps for embracing and BEING vulnerable...even if you've repeatedly attracted dysfunctional relationships and your last Ex was the WORST.
For single (or divorced) professional women who are 100% DONE with an Ex, who are ready to do the deep inner work of healing her trauma, emotional intimacy fears or codependency so she can experience soaring self trust, emotional health and healthy relationships (after narcissistic abuse), book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 19> Your #1 Barrier to Having a Healthy Relationship
OVERCOMING YOUR #1 BARRIER TO HAVING A HEALTHY, LOVING RELATIONSHIP...(Even if you're 40 plus and have repeatedly fallen for toxic partners)
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You work hard on yourself. Maybe you came from a dysfunctional childhood (like 70-80% of the population).
And you vowed to NEVER be like your parent(s). So, you doubled down on your education.
You landed a great career. You secured the finances, the car, the vacations. You probably got married to what you "thought" was your soulmate...only to later recognize he was a narcissist.
When you're REALLY HONEST with yourself... EVERYONE you've ever fallen for is unavailable or some shade of "narcissist".
It's like no matter how much therapy you try, how many YEARS you take off dating to "find yourself"
You keep walking into the same familiar trap in love.
Believe it or not, you're not cursed. And you're not doomed to ongoing betrayal, loneliness or being single with 14 cats. (Unless of course, that's your dream scenario).
Tune in to find out why...after ALL THE WORK you've done on yourself...love continues to elude you.
For single, professional women who are 100% DONE, DONE with an Ex...who are ready to truly heal complex trauma, fears, their own commitment issues and blocks to love in order to have the love they long for: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 18> WHY YOU FELL FOR SOMEONE WORSE THAN YOUR EX...Even If You Took Time Off to Heal and Love Yourself
WHY YOU FELL FOR SOMEONE WORSE THAN YOUR EX
Even if you took time off to heal and love yourself
You're a strong, successful woman. You work hard in your career. You've likely raised children. At times single handedly.
A stranger looking at you would assume you have your ish together.
A stranger looking at you probably WOULDN'T peg you as a woman who attracts dysfunctional or abusive relationships.
In fact, you may be telling yourself your marriage didn't work out simply because you grew apart. When you knew very early on there were red flags.
You might tell yourself narcissists are everywhere...and lots of women date them. It can happen to anyone.
Perhaps to avoid facing the hard truth that you keep winding up in unavailable or dysfunctional relationships.
In fact, your most recent Ex...may have been the WORST of them all.
Even when you did all the therapy and self help books and hobbies to rebuild your sense of self when you left.
So WHY are you still struggling? Tune into this week's episode for some key insights and exactly what you need to do in order to shift this lifelong pattern.
For professional, single women 100% ready to leave toxic relationship patterns in the past, heal their trauma, fall in love with themSELVES, fall in love with LIFE and attract healthy partnership: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 17 > IS THIS A SCAM? TO SOARING SELF TRUST- Candis's Success Story
When Candis came to me, she was emotionally at rock bottom.
She’d just left a 15 year toxic marriage.
She’d never had a healthy romantic relationship.
She had childhood trauma and a long career in law enforcement.
Being “guarded” at work and walking on eggshells at home was all she knew.
She’d been in talk therapy…but felt she was just talking in circles.
Venting over and over and over again about her Ex.
NOT feeling better.
And in many ways, feeling even WORSE than she did when she was IN the marriage.
When she came across my Facebook Ad…and then watched the webinar, she was intrigued...but skeptical.
Could something she found on Facebook actually be legit?
Was I a scam?
Could she trust me?
These were all normal fears in her mind.
Understandable, especially coming from someone with trauma and massive trust issues.
But her heart resonated with what I said. Her gut told her to book a call.
And she took a leap of faith and enrolled in Break the Cycle and WENT ALL IN.
And life for her hasn’t been the same since.
In just 3 MONTHS…Candis has made more progress than she ever did in talk therapy.
Life is better than she could have imagined. She’s happy. Confident. Embracing life. Attracting healthier people.
The most emotionally stable she’s been in a long while.
And most importantly TRUSTING HERSELF in relationships.
Tune in to hear her inspiring, powerful transformation story.
If you’re a single or divorced professional, high achieving woman who feels dead inside after an emotionally abusive marriage…and likely a lifetime pattern of dysfunctional relationships…
And you’re ready to heal your trauma, codependency, reclaim your identity and find SOARING SELF TRUST, book a free breakthrough call (www.bethanydotson.com/talk) to see if we can help you break your cycle.
EP 16 > Doing a Ton of Therapy But Still Feel Stuck?
DOING A TON OF WORK ON YOURSELF...BUT STILL MEETING THE WRONG MEN (OR HUNG UP ON AN EX)?
You may have heard from a well meaning therapist that it's going to take a LOOOOONNNG time to heal from your Ex, the divorce.
And really...your overall pattern with men.
You may have seen comments in forums: "I left 8 years ago, and I'm still destroyed."
You may have spent years (if not most of your life) in therapy. Trying your damnedest to undo your childhood trauma.
You've read. You've meditated. You've Reikied. Taken time off dating. Taken solo walks in the woods. You've journaled your heart out. Gone on retreats. You've smudged sage, prayed, gotten in shape, gotten a new home, a new promotion, a new wardrobe, a new haircut...heck, even a new car.
And yet...inside, you still feel lonely. You still aren't sure you can trust yourself. Or you still find yourself falling into the same pattern with men.
What the hell? You've worked so hard on yourself...is life just unfair? Are you going to have a broken picker forever?
No. That is, not if you apply what I'm going to share in this week's episode.
For professional, single women 100% ready to leave toxic relationship patterns in the past, heal their trauma, fall in love with themSELVES, fall in love with LIFE and attract healthy partnership: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 15> The Horrendous Cost of Hoping One Day Your Love Life Improves
THE HORRENDOUS COST OF HOPE
You likely told yourself "I hope that's nothing to worry about" the first time you sensed red flags with your Ex.
You probably got REALLY GOOD at hoping you'd finally get it right together. Even after years of mounting dysfunction.
You may be now HOPING one day the right one comes along...even though it's been years since you've been on a date... or you tend to pick people apart citing reasons it would never work.
You may be a workaholic, HOPING that one day when you finally have X amount in your retirement account, more time...
Or that when you finally finish those kitchen renovations ....that you'll be happy and have a chance to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
If you're 40, 50 or 60 plus... consider yourself a driven, goal oriented woman who's never had a healthy, romantic relationship, tune in live with me as we explore the high price tag of HOPE and what it really takes to actually solve a lifetime of love dysfunction and have healthy relationships.
For single, professional women ready to heal love addiction, trauma and codependency and step into more fulfilling peaceful lives after narcissistic abuse...and become MAGNETIC to healthy relationships at 40 and beyond, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 14> How Smart Career Women Become Magnetic to Healthy Relationships… After YEARS of unavailable or narcissistic partners
HOW SMART, CAREER WOMEN HEAL A LIFELONG PATTERN OF ATTRACTING "NARCISSISTS" AND BECOME MAGNETIC TO HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
You're educated. You work hard in your career. You're probably an overachiever. To people on the outside, you're successful at what you do and have your shit together.
Except on the INSIDE...you're crumbling.
You stay chronically busy to avoid feeling lonely at night when you come home.
You just got out of another toxic relationship (who felt like your soulmate and who was WORSE than your other Ex's)
Your kids roll their eyes when you talk about dating. (Ouch) OR your kids may be picking the wrong partners too, which leaves feeling like you've failed them.
And you constantly wonder if you'll EVER have a healthy relationship...or if you're just supposed to accept that you're somehow "broken" and meant to be alone.
You've probably done LOTS of work on yourself already: therapy, books, retreats, research...but you still struggle with boundaries.
You still feel like something's wrong with you. And you keep avoiding dating. Or choosing the wrong people.
If this is you, this episode will break down the steps needed to heal this toxic pattern in your love life...without 5 more years of therapy or researching your eyeballs out on the "narcissist."
For single, professional women ready to heal love addiction, trauma and codependency and step into more fulfilling peaceful lives after narcissistic abuse...and become MAGNETIC to healthy relationships at 40 and beyond, book a free breakthrough call to break your cycle: www.bethanydotson.com/talk
EP 13> How To Use The Trauma & Heartbreak From Your Narcissistic Ex As A Launchpad To Your Best Life
So many smart, high achieving women repeatedly fall into dysfunctional relationships. That often, progressively get worse as the years roll by.
She may spend many months researching her Ex's toxic behavior...only to find herself dating another unavailable or abusive partner a few months or years later.
By the time she hits midlife...the future feels bleek.
She may paint on a smile to coworkers, and seem like the confident leader at work...
But behind closed doors, she feels empty.
Alone. Like a fraud. Separate. And doubtful if she'll ever feel truly happy or know what an incredible relationship feels like.
Sadly, many women camp out here for YEARS...if not DECADES. Going to work. Getting caught up in the daily demands of life.
But 5-10 years later, still standing in the same place. Feeling separate, unhappy, uncertain. Or in many cases, falling for another unhealthy partner...ignoring all the red flags and staying long past the expiration date AGAIN.
Tune in with me Thursday 11/10 as I break down what it takes to transform the trauma you've been through in love into a catalyst to live your most wildly fulfilling life.
For single, professional women who are successful at work (and other life areas) but behind closed doors, repeatedly magnetic to emotionally unavailable or even abusive partners, book a free breakthrough call to see if we can help you heal your complex trauma, codependency, live your best life and attract great love after narcissistic abuse: www.bethanydotson.com/talk