Better Than Fine
By Darlene Marshall
We all know what it's like to just be "ok". Work or school, family obligations, social pressure and stress can pull us out of what it means to lead a fulfilling life. Through exploring ancient traditions and modern science we can learn how to find what it means to truly thrive in the intensity of today's world. Host Darlene Marshall is an expert in wellness and well-being. A wellness coach with a decade of experience coaching clients and facilitating workshops to guide clients and students to build fulfilling lives that work for their unique needs & are better than fine.
81 - "Supersized Lies" with Dr Robert Davis
When you're in the fitness industry long enough you find that there are a few big lies. Some about movement; but many about diet. In his latest book "Supersized Lies" Dr Robert Davis dismantles many of the lies we've been taught about nutrition, nutrition science, and managing health through food. In this episode we explode some of those big lies, where they come from, and how to know when you're being taken for a marketing ride.
November 29, 2021
80 - Motivation vs Discipline with co-host Sandy Blaine
Sandy Blaine is an author and expert wellness consultant whose work draws on the power of positive psychology – the science of happiness and a meaningful life – in conjunction with wellness and mind/body integration to help people realize their highest potential and create greater well-being, fulfillment and happiness. She's been working with Pixar’s in house wellness program since 1994 - long before wellness was on most of the corporate radar. In this episode we unpack our shared experience of other's telling us we have "discipline", whereas we both feel we have aligned motivation. You'll learn about the difference between the two, the science underlying human motivation, and how to tap into your own intrinsic motivation, values, meaning, and purpose to shift your behavior in ways that feel good and build well-being.
November 22, 2021
79 - On Gratitude
I want to tell you about a 10 day meditation challenge leading up to American Thanksgiving - it starts next Monday. You’re welcome to just join, just meditate daily to prepare yourself for a holiday based on gratitude (you might have noticed the title of today’s show) - OR you can follow along on Instagram (@darlene.coach) and sign up on the website - link in show notes or go to darlene.coach/november-mediation-challenge Previous episode on positive emotion (#45) dives deep into the science of why pos emo is different than neg emotions for our experience. This episode is specifically about gratitude - it’s that time of year after all! I’ll share with you my big challenges with gratitude in the past My own gratitude practices now Some of what I suggest for my clients when I work with them
November 8, 2021
78 - On Boundaries
By listener request - how often do we hear "boundaries" vaguely referenced? As something people are working on, something they proclaim to suck at, or someone else has violated? Lately it seems boundaries are coming up a lot. At work, with our loved ones, and even within ourselves. With stress levels not only high, but staying that way, it's easy to feel like others are coming over the metaphorical walls. So when we throw around the word "boundaries" what are we really talking about? And, what can you do to shift your boundaries to a better place?
November 1, 2021
77 - Exploring Self Compassion
So many of us are able to extend compassion to others, but struggle with how we comfort and support ourselves. In a world where many people are struggling self-compassion is an essential component of building wellness and well-being. This solo-sode unpacks why self-compassion matters, the three foundations of self-compassion, and practices to bring self-compassion into your life.
October 25, 2021
76 - Self Care to Manage Stress
Darlene has a love-hate relationship with the phrase "self care" because of how it's used in the media; but meaningful self care isn't products or services. It's sustainable ways of taking care of yourself coupled with practices that bring you back into balance. In this solo-sode Darlene unpacks how to identify you're human needs and what it means to build sustainable self care practices; even when you're overwhelmed.
October 18, 2021
75 - Fall in Love with Movement with Dr Kelly McGonigal
Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist from Stanford University and the author of "The Joy of Movement". Dr McGonigal's work focuses on using scientific evidence to inform positive behavior change in health and wellness. In this episode we talk about movement's positive benefits not only on health, but also on emotion, mental health, cognition, and more. You can find more about Kelly's work at her website: http://kellymcgonigal.com/
October 4, 2021
74 - Amy Smith "The Joy Junkie" on Boundaries
Amy Smith, "the Joy Junkie", knows a thing or two about boundaries. She's spends her professional time helping people unlock their self-worth through successful self-worth - which often means saying a few big "NO!"s to the things you don't want, so you can have room for the big "YES"es! She's certified in hypnotherapy, coaching, NLP (just to name a few). In this episode you'll learn about: Why emotional intelligence is an essential part of setting boundaries How boundary setting opens up your life for YOU to exist in it The role of guilt & shame in boundary setting (and what to do about it) Authentically showing up so your boundaries are a reflection of YOU You can find more of Amy Smith at https://thejoyjunkie.com/ (where she also has a ton of freebies) She's on Instagram: @thejoyjunkie And her podcast, The Joy Junkie Podcast
September 6, 2021
73 - Shifting Your Thinking
If Albert Einstein was correct that “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” that means having a way to recognize we're in a moment of transitioning thought. I've found myself in such a moment and I want to share that journey and my takeaways with you.
August 30, 2021
72 - F*$% Weightloss with Kelsy Demelo
Part 2 of the split episode with Dr Kelsy Demelo. Kelsy and I are back on to talk about why "weight loss" isn't necessarily what everyone needs, that eating less probably wont get you the results you think it will, and what to do about it if you want to change how your body looks, feels, and it's ration of fat to lean mass.
August 26, 2021
71 - Why Diets Suck with Dr Kelsy Demelo
As fitness professionals with a combined twenty years in the industry Dr Kelsy Demelo joins me today on the show to share a clear message: long term and extreme calorie restrictive diets suck. And they don't get you the outcomes you've been told they will.
August 23, 2021
70 - Pillars of Lifestyle Medicine with Dr Liana Lianov
One major criticism of Western medicine's current paradigm is the treatment of disease symptoms with prescriptions; but doctor's knowledgeable in lifestyle medicine know that how we live our lives can protect and treat a whole host of modern diseases. Dr Liana Lianov has been a pioneer in lifestyle medicine and her current passion pursuit is bringing the science of well-being to health practitioners - for themselves and their patients. In this episode you'll learn the 6 pillars of lifestyle medicine, the current debate on "healthy" nutrition, and the undeniable links between lifestyle and health. Links from this episode: True Health Initiative nutritionfacts.org/ Dr Lianov's book Strengths in the Mirror, Thriving Now and Tomorrow will be released Aug 30th. You can find information about the upcoming GPHI conference at https://www.positivehealth.world/events-and-programs You can follow GPHI on Facebook and Instagram @globalpositivehealth and for questions email email@example.com
August 9, 2021
69 - Conscious Capitalism with Andrew Brady
Andrew is the Chief EVOLutionary Officer of The XLR8 Team, where he works with leaders to evolve themselves toward realizing their purpose and evolving their company’s culture into a competitive advantage. Andrew’s forthcoming book, For The EVOLution of Business, explores how the principles of evolution reveal a path toward a more “conscious” capitalism and why the only sustainable path to a thriving planet is through inclusive prosperity for all. He was a 2017 honoree of the Rochester Business Journal’s Forty Under 40 Awards and named a 2019 Top Thought Leader in Trust by Trust Across America. He holds a Bachelors in Applied Economics and Management from Cornell University and a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. Andrew's podcast is For the EVOLution of Business The XLR8 Team
August 2, 2021
68 - Psychological Safety, Having Boundaries as a Coach, and Human Skills with Ellie Hearne
Ellie Hearn is the founder of Pencil or Ink, a strategy and coaching firm that provides workshops, offsites, and targeted development of leadership on communication, strategy, and the "human skills" we all need to succeed. She sits on the advisory council of Insights and the board of Accountability Lab, and the board of trustees of the University of St Andrews American Foundation. Born in Ireland and raised in the UK, Ellie is a GlobalScot business ambassador for the Scottish Government. A licensed practitioner of Insights Discovery and Insights Transformational Leadership, Ellie earned a Master’s degree from University of St Andrews (first-class honors) and is currently studying Organizational Leadership at Oxford University’s Saïd Business School. She has an impressive roster of clients who've benefited from her skillset. This episode is on the essentials of psychological safety in the mid-COVID work environment, how to build psychological safety within your own teams and colleagues, the necessity of boundaries in different workplace relationships, and how "human skills" are the skillset of success in our current (and changing) world.
July 26, 2021
67 - Adding Life to Your Years with Sally Duplantier
When we think about longevity and aging we're often considering adding years to our life; but how about adding life and vitality to those years? My guest for this episode of Better Than Fine has dedicated her third career to learning, researching, and sharing information that inspires others to live fully throughout their lifespan. In this episode you'll learn about: Lifespan Cognitive health The role of nutrition, sleep, and movement in maintaining well-being throughout your lifespan That some of aging is all in your head! Sally Duplantier is the founder of https://myzinglife.com/ - a website and community focused on a holistic approach to improve lifelong health. She has a Certificate in Nutrition Science from Stanford Center for Health Education and is currently studying for her masters in Gerontology at University of Southern California, where she plans to also get her PhD.
July 19, 2021
66 - Post Betrayal Syndrome with Dr Debi Silber
After repeated betrayals in her own life Debi Silber got the push she needed to go back to school and learn more deeply about transformations. Now Doctor Silber, Debi decided to study betrayal and uncovered the process by which we either grown from or languish in the aftermath of betrayal. In today's episode we unpack what happens to ourselves or those we love when we've been betrayed, the 3 groundbreaking discoveries Debi made, and how they effect us physically, mentally, and emotionally. Think you might have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz at the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Get the Trust Again book and bonuses: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/ TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch? v=iyqOR69dHiU
July 12, 2021
65 - Faisal Khan - On being and doing, career trajectories, burnout, fearlessness, and overcoming uncertainty
Faisal Khan is the founder of 1extrodinarylife.com, offering Consulting, Training, and Coaching to help working professionals and students prevent burnout, find balance, and promote happiness in all domains of their lives. He holds Master's degrees in Technology Management, Business Administration and Management, and Applied Positive Psychology all from the University of Pennsylvania where he is also an Assistant Instructor. He's certified in coaching from IFC and is a member of the Forbes Coaching Council. In this episode we dig far and wide into pandemic stress, struggling careers, what to do when it's time to pivot, overcoming uncertainty, the need for fearlessness, and prioritizing being over doing. This is an episode you'll want to dive into with ears and hearts fully open! Faisal also has a Facebook group to target professionals avoiding burnout. You can sign up to join at positivepsychology4professionals.com
July 5, 2021
64 - Overcoming Setbacks
By fan request! We've all experienced the challenge and frustration when our best laid plans don't turn out. Projects, passions, and even marriages failing. On this episode I share some of my own setback and failures, how I dealt with them in the past, how I wish I'd handled them, and what I do now when things don't go the way I've planned. To vote for Darlene in Burn Along's America's Favorite Trainer 2021: https://burnalong.us.launchpad6.com/aft2021/entry/8
June 28, 2021
63 - The #1 Question I'm Asked - How to get yourself to do what you know you "should"
In all the workshops and consultations I teach, the #1 question I get is some version of "how do I get myself to do the things I know I should be doing?" So often we "know" what's good for us, but struggle to make it happen. In this week's solo episode I share why "should-ing" happens, why it sabotages our success, and the tools and tricks you need to snap out of it and actually make progress!
June 21, 2021
62 - Kathryn Britton - "The Midwife of Words"
For many the act of writing is a torturous creative challenge. For more than a decade Kathryn Britton has been guiding writers of all levels through her unique writing workshops, editing, and coaching. In this episode we talk about her journey to become the "midwife of words", why writing is challenging, the system of her writing workshops and many more drops of Kathryn's expertise and wisdom. Vote Now! Burn Along 2021 America's Favorite Trainer: https://burnalong.us.launchpad6.com/aft2021/entry/8 Show notes: betterthanfinepodcast.com/episodes/62-kathryn-britton
June 14, 2021
61 - Tribute to Rev Gaylord "Jake" Campbell (featuring Dan "OnePeg" Marshall)
On Wednesday, April 21, 2021 Rev Gaylord "Jake" Campbell passed away at the age of 84. In this tribute episode of Better Than Fine I've invited my brother, Dan "OnePeg" Marshall onto the show to talk about our grandfather, his legacy, and the dichotomies of his baffling life.
May 31, 2021
60 - Your Questions Answered - Staying Positive, Getting Organized, Keeping Consistent, Hip Tightness & More
In Darlene's first ever Facebook live she took questions from the Come What May Challenge Facebook group on gratitude, motivation, consistency, keeping positive, tight hips, and more. If you have any feedback on the Better Than Fine podcast or this episode please share it by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org
May 24, 2021
59 - Dwyane Thomas - "Can you do the work?" - self-perception, stereotype threat, and how environment can affect achievement
Dwayne Thomas is a member of the NY State Bar association, graduating from Brooklyn Law and holds a Master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. He's also a writer, with a regular column at Psychology Today, in addition to his public speaking. His Master's thesis focused on improving the pass/fail rate of law students who "should" pass the exam, but aren't able to - specifically black men. As we discuss in this episode, the stories we tell ourselves about the potential to succeed have a significant impact on performance. Those beliefs are seeded by our environment, and there are lessons far beyond a single test or a single population. You can find a collections of Dwayne's work at EqualResults.com
May 17, 2021
58 - Katy Sine - Whole Self Love
"Self Love" is one of those things you see all the time on social media but it can feel like it doesn't mean anything. Katy Sine wants to change that with her model of Whole Self Love. In this episode we talk about what meaningful self love is, how it's not narcissism, it's important role in well-being, and how you can cultivate it in your own life. Follow Katy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/self_love_sine Or check out Positive Voices: https://www.positivevoices.com/
May 10, 2021
2021 Better Than Fine Trailer
Fitness. Wellness. Well-being. A life that works for you. What does it mean to be better than "fine"?
May 10, 2021
57 - Karen Fetzer - Well-being in the Wilderness
Karen Fetzer has a love of wild spaces - and she wants you to love them, too. (Hint: so do I!) Research supports her on her quest, because time spent outside lowers stress, increases well-being, and benefits physical health. We'll tell you all about our love affair with the outdoors, and how to start your own, in this episode. Show notes: https://www.facebook.com/SYTRADER https://twitter.com/TRADERSailing https://www.instagram.com/tradersailing/ https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/transpac-video-series-on-trader#/ https://www.gofundme.com/f/dsmdx-sailing-for-freedom?qid=465c793cc2201d96a1e59af10c00a35a https://www.tradersailing.com/
May 3, 2021
56 - Andrew Soren on Intentionally Designing Well-being & Meaning at Work
Andrew Soren is the founder and CEO of Eudaimonic by Design, where he and his collaborative team are "working at the intersection of organizational effectiveness, design thinking and positive practice." He has a Master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and 20 years of experience working with companies of all sizes and industries on culture, leadership, well-being, and empowering their workforce. In this episode Andrew shares his wisdom on meaning, work, burnout, motivation, and so much more that many of us are juggling right now. Episode Link: www.betterthanfinepodcast.com/episodes/56-andrew-soren-on-intentionally-designing-well-being-amp-meaning-at-work Come What May Challenge 2021: https://www.darlene.coach/comewhatmay
April 20, 2021
55 - Jennifer Beatty - Calling, Cognitive Bias, and caring for your self so you can live your purpose
Jennifer Beatty is a social psychology Ph.D. student at Washington University in St. Louis. She tests interventions to reduce stigma, prejudice, and bias. She is also a certified Dare to Lead facilitator with Dr. Brené Brown and works on their Belonging Co-Creation team to operationalize diversity, equity, and inclusion. Jenn also holds a Master of Applied Positive Psychology degree from The University of Pennsylvania. Before beginning her Ph.D., she worked as a research coordinator at Wharton People Analytics with Adam Grant, Angela Duckworth, Cade Massey, and Matthew Bidwell in culture, careers, and character in work contexts. Jenn also has a bachelor’s degree with honors in Psychology and Theatre from The George Washington University. Upon graduation, she joined Teach for America and taught 8th grade English in Philadelphia where she won multiple awards. She also holds a Master of Science in Education from The University of Pennsylvania, Graduate School of Education. In this episode Jenn shares about her experience of calling and how it has lead her path of growth. We talk about her current research in cognitive bias, the essential nature of courage, vulnerability in relationships, and how prioritizing a full life allows each of us to contribute that which we are called to do. Books mentioned in this episode: My Grandmother's Hands The Body Keeps the Score
April 12, 2021
54 - Brigadier General Dr. Rhonda Cornum - Resilience, Self Efficacy, & Passing Life Lessons Forward
In her first ever podcast interview retired Brigadier General Dr. Rhonda Cornum shares her story of meeting challenge, learning about resilience, and how her own journey lead her to starting what has become the largest resilience training programs in the world - the US Army's Comprehensive Solder Fitness program. We dive into the deeper skills of resilience and how optimism, self-efficacy, self-regulation, and self-awareness all contribute to growing from challenge. The Science of Well-being on Coursera: https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being Resilience Skills on Coursera: https://www.coursera.org/learn/positive-psychology-resilience
April 5, 2021
53 - Nic Marks - Measuring Happiness and Asking Big Questions
Nic Marks is a statistician, policy advisor, speaker, and author known for his work on the Happy Planet Index - the first global measure of sustainable well-being which envisions a future where good lives don't have to cost the earth. He's also the founder and CEO of Happiness Works, an organization focusing on changing the world of work. In this episode we explore meaningful work, happiness in the pandemic, working for a better world at multiple levels of influence and intervention, why measuring happiness helps us make meaningful interventions, and Nic shares much of his own journey through a career working in the economy, government, planet level happiness, climate impact, and now affecting happiness at work. Friday One: https://fridaypulse.com/the-happiness-test/ Friday Pulse: https://fridaypulse.com/
March 29, 2021
52 - Hacking Your Sleep - The Science & Habits Of Why, What, And How To Get Good Sleep
Views on sleep have been changing from the old belief that sleep as "a lazy habit" to the prioritization of high quality sleep in a high functioning, healthy, actualized life. By listener request as a follow-up to last week's episode, this week we dive into the science of how sleep works, how to get quality sleep, and hacks you can use to upgrade yours - so you can get a solid one tonight!
March 23, 2021
51 - The Case Against Daylight Savings Time
In Oct 2020 the American Academy of Sleep Medicine issued a position paper against daylight savings time saying it "incurs significant public health and safety risks, including increased risk of adverse cardiovascular events, mood disorders, and motor vehicle crashes". What's underneath this position paper? How does daylight savings affect our bodies and our societies? Why am I so adamant that it's bad for us?And how can you make choices to mitigate DST's effects?
March 15, 2021
50 - Happy Birthday BTF - Host Darlene Marshall interviewed by David Van Daff
In this episode of the Better Than Fine podcast the microphone gets turned around and Darlene is in the hot seat! Friend of the show David Van Daff comes on to celebrate this milestone episode and ask Darlene some burning questions about her personal journey, career, and where she thinks the fitness industry is headed. She's also got a special thank you & announcement at the end of the episode so check it out!
March 8, 2021
49 - Anxiety and Being in the Moment
With everything that's happened in the last year many more people are struggling with anxiety - and those who have had it in the past are feeling it more acutely. But what is anxiety, really? And what strategies have been shown to help? In this mini episode I share my own experiences and tactics to help with anxiety, some things my clients us, and what clinical research shows can help when anxiety strikes.
March 4, 2021
48 - What is "happiness"? (and what's science say about building it)
Research has shown that modern humans aren't great at gauging what will make us happy ~ why is that? In this episode we'll explore what "happiness" is, why we struggle to identify the things that build happiness long term, and what research shows actually contributes to lasting happiness (and what disrupts it). This episode is part of a series of short episodes on foundational concepts that are common in interviews on the show. If there are topics you'd like to hear an episode on you can email email@example.com and let us know.
March 1, 2021
47 - Understanding Upward Spirals Can Level You Up
You know that thing that happens when you feel really good and then things start clicking into place? Where good stuff rolls into more good stuff and your normal problems bother you less? You feel cuter. Smarter. Things are going your way. That's called an Upward Spiral and there's research into what it is, how it works, and some of the elements in how to get one rolling - and that's what this episode is all about. https://repository.upenn.edu/mapp_capstone/194/
February 25, 2021
46 - Jonathan Wolf on Individualized Nutrition, Gut Microbiome, Emergent Technology & the New Science of Nutrition at ZOE
Jonathan Wolf is the co-founder of the health technology company ZOE. ZOE teaches you how your own body responds to food, based on personalized tests, AI and the largest in-depth nutritional study in the world carried out with Mass General Hospital, Stanford Medicine and King's College London. He has a fascinating journey in which he dovetails being a tech entrepreneur into the world of health and nutrition. In this episode we dive deep into the gut microbiome, our unique physiology (like why even identical twins respond differently to food), and how machine learning and data analysis are evolving our ability to truly customize our nutrition, health, and beyond. ZOE also has extended a gift to our listeners. If you enjoy this episode and are curious to try ZOE yourself we can jump you to the front of the cue (right now the waitlist is in the thousands) - visit joinzoe.com/darlene
February 22, 2021
45 - The Science of Positive Emotion
We regularly dive into positive emotion research with guests on BTF, so in this episode I share the foundations of the work of Barbara Fredrickson - one of the world's leading emotion researchers. You can find more information & specific practices in her 2 books: "Positivity" and "Love 2.0".
February 17, 2021
44 - Cecilie Løvestam - Self Permission, Self Compassion, & Processing Trauma Through Movement
Cecilie Løvestam is a positive psychology practitioner with a master degree in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) from the University of Pennsylvania. Cecilie facilitates corporate well-being workshops and trainings. She is a teacher assistant for New York University’s (NYU) positive psychology class 'The Science of Happiness,' the university’s largest and most popular elective. In this role, she teaches undergraduate students about positive psychology and well-being theory, research and practice, and facilitates class discussions. She also guides them through evidence-based positive interventions on a weekly basis. Instagram: @cecelie.lovestram.wellbeing Website: https://cecilielovestam.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cecilie-l%C3%B8vestam/ Capstone Paper on Self Permission: https://repository.upenn.edu/mapp_capstone/164/
February 15, 2021
43 - Henry Richardson - Balance, Alignment, and Resilience in Yoga, Movement, and Life
Henry Richardson is an entrepreneur, yogi, Positive Psychology practitioner and thought leader at the intersection of yoga, wellness, and well-being. In this episode we explore what it means to have balance and alignment in your life and in your body. How caring for your physical self and community foster resilience in the face of challenge. How it takes time to foster meaningful and lasting results in changing your life.
February 8, 2021
42 - Dr Darcia Narvaez - Indigenous Worldview on Thriving, Evolved Nest, Ecological Attachment, and Thoughts on Healing
Dr Darcia Narvaez is a professor of psychology at the University of Notre Dame who focuses on moral development and flourishing from an interdisciplinary perspective. In this episode we explore the indigenous worldview on thriving, how that effects child rearing and the evidence that indigenous childrearing practices are more closely aligned with most of human history and evolution. Along the way we explore a variety of subjects directly relevant to this moment in climate, COVID, well-being, human connection, and our interconnected existence. Links mentioned in the show: Dr Darcia's website: https://darcianarvaez.com/ Links to her research and books via Notre Dame: http://sites.nd.edu/darcianarvaez/ Evolved Nest: https://evolvednest.org/
February 1, 2021
41 - Dr. Elaine O’Brien - Embodied Well-being, Alignment, Legacy, Aging and Elder Wellness
Dr. Elaine O’Brien is a pioneer at the intersection of fitness and well-being. She has a PhD in Kinesiology and is one of the first 100 people in the world to get a Masters degree in Positive Psychology. She's an is an educator, trainer, author, speaker, and has worked with senior adults and directors in physical activity design, positive leadership and uplifting flourishing for the past 20 years. In this episode we explore the concepts of embodied well-being, the importance of alignment, the role of rhythm and connection in physical wellness, and how we're taught to think about aging (and why you don't have to buy into it!) Resources mentioned this episode: Brains Way of Healing by Norman Doidge Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankle The Age Wave by by Ken Dychtwald Ph.D. , Joe Flower Sisterhood of Diabetes by Judith Ambrosini Elaine's website is https://elaineobrienphd.com/ Body Full of Joy is available at https://mappalum.org/Body-Full-of-Joy
January 25, 2021
40 - Dr. Rick Richey - "Do what you can, not what you can't" - behavior change, attachment, the fitness industry, and so much more!
Rick Rickey has spent 20 years at all levels of the fitness industry. From owning his own facility, to teaching for one of the world's most recognizable and respected personal training certifications, to presenting at conferences & everything in between. He has a doctorate in Health Science, is a Certified Personal Trainer, and a Licensed Massage Therapist. Here are the links from the show: Daniel Pink - "Drive" Don Miguel Ruiz Jr - "5 Levels of Attachment" Don Miguel Ruiz - "The 4 Agreements" Book & my previous episode on this book BJ Fogg - "Tiny Habits" Martin Seligman - "Flourish" Angela Duckworth - "Grit" Shawn Achor - "Happiness Advantage" NASM CPT Podcast Hosted by Rick Richie
January 18, 2021
39 - David Van Daff - "Move better, feel better" - On the evolution and future of the fitness industry, sustaining change, and the changing expectations for fitness professionals
David Van Daff is the Director of Health Club Relations at the National Academy of Sports Medicine, the world's largest certifying body for Personal Trainers and Group Fitness Instructors. After 22 years in all aspects of the fitness industry, from celebrity training to high performance athletes to fitness club management, David is arguably one of the most knowledgeable people in the world about fitness industry trends, marketing, and what it takes to be successful as a fitness professional or someone looking to make a change in their fitness. In this episode we dive deep into the evolution of the fitness industry, what motivates clients, the effects of the pandemic on fitness, the direction of the industry as a whole, why client expectations for trainers has changed in the last 20 years, and his hopes for what the industry will evolve into going forward. If you have a interest in evolving your fitness, or you're an aspiring fitness professional, don't miss this episode.
January 11, 2021
Bonus: Amanda Masters' lead breath training
In Episode 38 Amanda Masters shares the benefits of breath training & leads us through a brief practice. As promised in that episode, here is a stand alone recording of that breath practice for your regular use. Enjoy.
January 4, 2021
38 - Amanda Masters - Yoga as a world view, effortless effort, & using breath training to develop awareness
Amanda Master's is a yogi, well-being educator, and program coordinator with a background in Positive Psychology who works primarily with non-profits, youth, and families to help individuals, organizations, and communities flourish. In this episode we dive into what it means to live a lifestyle committed to self-discovery and "yoga as a world view", the concept of effortless effort, breath training, and so much more! At the end of the episode Amanda leads us through a brief breathwork training session. The next episode after this is that same session available for regular practice.
January 4, 2021
37 - 2020 wrap up, my Master's Capstone project, and 2021 preview
This episode looks back over 2020 - 10 months of episodes heard in 36 countries with 20 guests! Darlene also unpacks her Master's Capstone project - the Upward Spiral of Self Development & Well-being And then we wrap up the year by looking ahead to the themes and guests on deck for 2021.
December 28, 2020
36 - Adriana Drulla on the essentials of Self Compassion
Adriana Drulla is a domain expert in self compassion. She is the founder of Bloom, a Brazilian start up supporting companies in their support of growing families. She has a Master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She's also the host of the Portugese language podcast Crescer Humano & works as a consultant, speaker and facilitator of courses on self-compassion, conscious parenting, positive psychology, emotional resilience. Here soon-to-be published ground-breaking study links self compassion in adolescents to the self-compassion of their mothers, proving the link between child self-compassion and their parent's ability to provide compassion to themselves. You can find her Instagram here.
December 23, 2020
35 - Dealing with disappointment this holiday season using Regoaling
Resources on regoaling: Original conceptual model Summary blog post
December 14, 2020
34 - Felix Yerace on Followership, being a good teammate, what it means to be a good citizen, and so much more
Felix Yerace is the Assistant Executive Director and Advanced Summer Leadership Camp Co-Director for the Pennsylvania Association of Student Councils (PASC). Professionally, Felix is an educator at South Fayette School District, where among other responsibilities he teaches two semester long leadership classes for high school students, using a curriculum he designed. Working with the University of Pittsburgh, he helped establish a College in High School (CHS) Leadership course for high school students. Felix also teaches AP/CHS US and AP Comparative Government & Politics, Honors/CHS US History 1865-Present, and Applied Positive Psychology at his school. At South Fayette, Felix is co-advisor of Student Government, Interact, and Link Crew. Felix holds a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Pittsburgh in History and Political Science, with a minor in Economics, a Master of Education degree in Curriculum and Instruction from Bloomsburg University of Pennsylvania, a Master of Public Management degree from the H. John Heinz III College at Carnegie Mellon University, a Master of Applied Positive Psychology degree from the University of Pennsylvania, and a Ph.D. in Leadership Studies from Gonzaga University.
December 7, 2020
33 - Sherri Fisher on learning from our strengths, executive function, what Positive Education is and why it matters now, & changing how you think about education
Sherri Fisher is a learning specialist and an expert in Positive Education. She's also the director of Learn & Flourish and has spent over 30 years unleashing the potential of bright clients who have learning, attention and executive function challenges. Sherri earned her Master’s Degree in Positive Psychology (MAPP) at the University of Pennsylvania, where she studied with the founders and other pioneering practitioners of the field. She is the author or co-author of several books, 50+ articles and countless blog features. She continues to speak to varied audiences and has volunteered over five hundred hours as coach to an Australian trailblazer in community-based positive education where 27 schools now have embedded Positive Education. Sherri’s live and virtual clients have spanned five continents. In her spare time Sherri has fun with her grown kids and three big dogs! She is #unleashinghenry, a future therapy dog who just turned one!! Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/LearnAndFlourish Facebook Group: Positive Edge Parent https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveEdgeParent Instagram page: Just launched! https://www.instagram.com/learnandflourish Website: https://www.learnandflourish.com Sign up on website for newsletter and access to my secret subscriber page with free downloads, including: Book excerpts Exercises Strengths e-book e-zines
December 7, 2020
32 - The Science of Gratitude & three practices for this unusual holiday season
The research behind a popular practice, just in time for Thanksgiving.
November 24, 2020
31 - Lisa Richardson on motivations for change, shifting motivation, belief, and what research says matters most when we start a change in our lives
Lisa is a researcher and educator who spent a decade in education teaching and leading in schools throughout the Denver area. Along the way she experienced burn out and fatigue until she prioritized her own well-being & transitioned from being a middle school principal to working with Guild Education. There she provides education as an employment benefit to frontline employees throughout the country. In today’s episode we dive into her research in motivation to change - specifically with the motivations of Peloton users - and the fascinating results she uncovered about the #1 factor in why we start a new behavior as well as the features that keep us coming back for more. You can check out Lisa's research here
November 9, 2020
30 - Rebooting your Self Care
What is “self care” - it's more than taking a bath with the right kind of oils, or getting a massage, or doing the right kind of workouts. In this episode I dive into what meaningful self care looks like, how self care is actually high level adulting, how to identify and meet your needs so you can care for yourself fully, and why that matters in 2020. Click here for more information on The Self Care Reboot
October 13, 2020
29 - Tamara Myles and Wesley Adams on Meaningful Work
My guests are Tamara Myles and Wesley Adams and they’re here to talk about their research on meaning and well-being at work. Tamara is a meaningful work and productivity expert who helps organizations design systems and create cultures which enable individuals and teams to thrive. She is the author of The Secret to Peak Productivity: A Simple Guide to Reaching Your Personal Best, as well an international speaker & she has a Master’s degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania - When she is not speaking and consulting, Tamara enjoys traveling, reading, learning to play the guitar, and most of all being a chauffer and passionate cheerleader for her 3 children’s many sports teams. Wesley is the leader of SV Consulting Group where he works with companies on organizational transformation, leadership development, and employee engagement through the lens of meaningful work. He’s a speaker, consultant and was an early employee at the social impact agency Purpose where he helped the globe’s leading organizations leverage technology to build some of the world’s largest social movements for positive change. He’s also garnering multiple James Beard Award nominations, has produced a documentary for HBO, and a book highlighting leaders in the sustainability space, I Am EcoWarrior. He also holds a Masters from University of Pennsylvania in Applied Positive Psychology. And together they’re here to talk about their qualitative research interviewing leaders in some of the top companies who focus on meaning and well-being at work.
October 5, 2020
28 - Darlene's Guest Appearance on Whiskey, Wine & Spine
This episode is a crossover from my recent guest appearance on Whiskey, Wine & Spine - which you can find on Spotify & Apple Podcasts. About Whiskey, Wine & Spine: Led by Dr. Kelsy DeMelo and Dr. Peyton Vickers - this is a podcast where we believe life is a sport and we want YOU to perform better. About the episode: Where do we even begin? With a Masters Degree in Applied Positive Psychology, Coach Darlene brings a WHOLE new light to the health and fitness industry. Covering diet culture, fitness misconceptions and the latest research on WHY working out benefits not only your body... but also your brain!
October 1, 2020
27 - "Stop Fighting Food" - Isabel Foxen Duke on emotional and binge eating, body positivity, chronic dieting, and so much more!
Isabel Foxen Duke is the creator of Stop Fighting Food, a Video Training Series & Master Class for women who want to "stop feeling crazy around food." After years of trying to overcome binge eating disorder through weight-normative approaches, Isabel discovered the critical role of acceptance, surrender and social inquiry in the binge eating recovery process—and has been sharing her insights with clients and professionals ever since. A thought leader in the Intuitive Eating and Body Positive movements, Isabel lives in San Francisco where she runs virtual group coaching programs for clients and professionals around the world. Her writing and free guide, How To Not Eat Cake, can be found at isabelfoxenduke.com and you can watch her free video training series at stopfightingfood.com. Books mentioned in the episode: "Health at Every Size" "Intuitive Eating" Body Positive Thought Leaders mentioned in the episode: Vergie Tovar Ragen Chastain Isabel Foxen Duke
September 28, 2020
26 - Jodi Wellman: Memento Mori ~ How an awareness of death enhances your life
Jodi Wellman, MAPP, is a keynote speaker and professionally certified coach who helps people make the most of their time while they're lucky enough to be above ground... to not take life for granted, to live squander-free lives. She has an online course through her coaching practice, Four Thousand Mondays, where she playfully uses mortality as a spark to live life with more vitality and meaning. Four Thousand Monday's website: https://fourthousandmondays.com/ Four Thousand Monday's on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FourThousandMondays
September 14, 2020
25 - Kristin Elinkowski & Madison Romney: Flourishing Friends
Madison is a Human Capital consultant at Deloitte, supporting clients at the intersections of Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion and Well-Being by empowering them to cultivate cultures of belonging for all employees. Kristin leads the Community Division at a tech start-up, developing a new social media platform that will disrupt the current model of “friends” in a social network with the goal of helping individuals capitalize on their strengths, find their purpose, and achieve their goals. Together they are positive psychology practitioners, friendship-researchers, and co-creators of the digital community Flourishing Friend Madison & Kristin study what makes life worth living and know – from experience and also from their research - that friends most certainty do make life Better Than Fine. You can follow Flourishing Friends and learn more about applying their research at https://www.instagram.com/flourishingfriend/
September 1, 2020
24 - Our illusion of control
We all live with the push & pull between the need for control and structure in our lives and the fact that we actually can't control the world around us. In times of challenge that dichotomy can derail us from our path to well-being. In this solosode I break down the dynamic between control and chaos, how it shows up in our lives, and how each of us can learn to accept it, work around it, and still build meaningful change. Along the way I share my own journey of learning not to hate the word "surrender" on an adventure in Thailand.
August 18, 2020
26 - Leia Desousa - Mindfulness, mindful eating, & the HOW of eating
Leia Desousa is a Nutrition & Health Coach and Personal Trainer who joins me to talk about mindfulness beyond meditation, mindful eating, and how the HOW of eating affects each of us. A few links from the episode: The tracking device we both love and use: https://ouraring.com/ Leia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leiadesousa/ Leia's website: https://www.leiadesousa.com/
August 10, 2020
25 - Your Questions Part 2! with guest host Dorota Soto
What's with this trend with drinking apple cider vinegar? What are the best strategies to stay consistent with meditation? Are there certain habits that are better to stack it with than others? Should I try yoga instead? Do you have any Hydration tips/hacks? How to convince your partner to work out with you when they aren't feeling motivated? Or, do you leave well enough alone, even if you know they need it? We also talk a bit about Dorota's daily habits! Here are the resources we specifically mention this episode: Quench - book about gel water: https://drdanacohen.com/book/ Dorota's recommended alarm clock: https://www.amazon.com/iHome-Zenergy-Soothing-Lighting-Bluetooth/dp/B01K5IE6CY Eastern Body Western Mind: https://www.amazon.com/Eastern-Body-Western-Mind-Psychology/dp/1587612259 Dorota on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dorotasoto/
August 6, 2020
24 - Your Questions! - Part 1 with guest host Dorota Soto
Dorota Soto is taking over Better Than Fine today and turning the mic around! She's asking me YOUR questions in the first of a 2 part episode (you had so many questions). Questions covered in today's episode: What do you think about the keto diet? For someone who has recently begun working from home, what should I be thinking about to support my physical health when setting up a space to work? Also, what workouts would you recommend for people whose jobs require them to spend hours on a computer? What are your tips for building muscular endurance for running? I used to run all the time, now whenever I try I feel great while running and have strong cardio strength, but it hurts to sit and walk for days after. Tips on building up muscular endurance for running? What is your opinion on intermittent fasting? When COVID quarantine started, I found it easy to stay motivated and work out. Now, as the months go by, I miss my gym, my small group exercise classes and my instructors. I have a gym at home but am finding it hard to motivate. Any advice? I am curious about hand-joint pain in relation to typing? I spend a lot of time on my computer now and find that my finger joints are hurting and my hands are sore. Do you have recommendations for how to counteract or build hand health? How do you know if you are lifting weights correctly? How do you know if you are stretching correctly?
July 27, 2020
23 - Building Heaven on Earth - The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
July 21, 2020
22 - 2020 So Far
This episode is a little different - Darlene shares her experience the last 7 months, the changes and challenges of flu, COVID, fleeing NYC, all while getting a Master's degree and staring her own business. Link to the Ben Talk mentioned
June 30, 2020
21 - Why your goals aren't working out and 3 ways to dig deeper
Seems like every trainer, coach, and guru on the internet has a post about goals... so why are you still struggling with making yours happen? This episode isn't "just another goals post". In this episode we dig into the research validated reason we know people struggle to keep up behavior after they hit their "goal" ~ AND what to do about it.
June 23, 2020
21 - Cindy Chou - Journaling, Grounding, Steadiness with Ease, Setting Intentions, Empathy vs Compassion, Trusting Your Intuition, and Being a Global Citizen
Cindy Chou on Journaling, Grounding, Steadiness with Ease, Setting Intentions, Empathy vs Compassion, Trusting Your Intuition, and Being a Global Citizen Cindy Chou is an international yoga and mindfulness teacher, writer, and explorer of life. She's had a successful career in tech and recently graduated with a Master's in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She identifies as a global citizen and described the pillars of what drives her as the universal truths of being human, connection, and love; with a desire to make her life's work to impact positivity in people's lives at scale. Visit Cindy's Website: https://www.yogacindy.com/ We mention the episode with productivity coach Tamara Myles
June 8, 2020
20 - Jared Glenn on the complex emotional reactions to race, purpose and leadership, communicating with people who you don't agree with, and being a good ally
Jared Glenn works with the All Stars Project of New York creating youth development programs focusing on community and police relations, an activist, writer, film maker, and a student of history. Before working with the All Stars Project, Jared spent 15 years working as a trainer and wellness coach in New York City In this episode we cover the complex emotional reactions to race, purpose and leadership, communicating with people who you don't agree with, being a good ally, and more. Reading list mentioned in this episode: (purposely not linked to encourage purchasing from a local bookstore in your location) "The Fire Next Time" by James Baldwin "Notes of a Native Son" by James Baldwin Autobiography of Malcolm X The works of Langston Hughes The plays of August Wilson "Dreams of My Father" by Barack Obama "America Behind The Color Line" by Henry Louis Gates Jr. "The Warmth of Other Suns" by Isabel Wilkerson "Barracoon: The Story of the Last "Black Cargo"" by Zora Neale Hurston "The Souls of Black Folk" by W. E. B. Du Bois
June 3, 2020
19 - Meaning, the stories we tell ourselves, and why positive emotions matter during social distancing
Book recommendations in this episode: - Barbara Fredrickson's "Positivity" - Emily Esfahani Smith "The Power of Meaning"
May 27, 2020
18 - Dr Kelsy Demelo - What's the vegus nerve and why do you care? Also your pelvic floor, breath work, why progression is important, and a bit about caring for yourself in COVID
Doctor Kelsy DeMelo graduated from Texas Chiropractic College in April of 2019. As a student at Texas Chiropractic College she excelled as a teaching assistant in the Department of Anatomical Sciences. Prior to Chiropractic College, Dr. Kelsy graduated from Simmons College in Boston, MA with a Bachelors in Science, majoring in Exercise Physiology and Nutrition. Dr. Kelsy has worked at New York University in cardiovascular research. She has also worked as a health and fitness coach at Equinox, providing group and individual fitness training to a a wide spectrum of clientele. Dr. Kelsy aspires to continue her specialization in the fields of Pre and Post-natal Women's Health, Nutrition, and Pelvic Floor Rehabilitation. She is currently working towards the Herman and Wallace pelvic floor therapy certification, and is offering both virtual and home care services. In her spare time, Dr. Kelsy is also a nationally qualified Figure and Bikini competitor with the National Physique Committee. Her previous passions were marathon running and classical ballet. Kelsy's instagram is @dr.kelsydemelo and is how you can reach her for all inquiries What's the vegus nerve and why do you care? Also your pelvic floor, breath work, why progression is important, and a bit about caring for yourself in COVID
May 22, 2020
17 - The Stages of Change
Understanding how humans change can help us grow and evolve in our own lives. In this short episode we dive into the phases of change and how you can use your awareness of them to support your personal development.
May 15, 2020
16 - Darwin Diaz on motivation, consistency, starting where you are, building a roadmap for movement, and challenges to longevity in the mindset of the fitness industry
Darwin Diaz is a personal trainer, nutrition coach, movement instructor, and mentor. He's a sought after trainer in New York City. You can find him on Instagram @coach.darwin
April 30, 2020
15 - Permission to be Human
What does it mean to have permission to be human? Links: - Join the Come What May Facebook Group - Come What May Challenge Website - Follow along on Instagram
April 22, 2020
14 - Tamara Myles - Roles vs Relationships, Skill Transference, Positive Organizations, and Why Productivity is Never Doing More, but Doing More of What MATTERS
Tamara Myles is a productivity expert and international speaker. She is the author of The Secret to Peak Productivity: A Simple Guide to Reaching Your Personal Best, and a consultant for individuals and corporate clients. She has been featured in USA Today, The Boston Globe, and Success Magazine, among others. Tamara was born and raised in Recife, Brazil. She currently lives in Concord, MA with her husband and three children. When she is not speaking and consulting, Tamara enjoys traveling, reading, learning to play the guitar, and most of all being a chauffeur and passionate cheerleader for her children’s many sports teams. Links mentioned in the show: - Free VIA Assessment of Character Strengths - Strengths in a New Way practice - Dan Tomasulo's Learned Hopefulness is out June 1st - Loving Kindness Meditation by Barbara Fredrickson (where you can find the meditation Tamara practices)
April 17, 2020
13 - Regoaling
Regoaling comes out of research in pediatric palliative care to guide a process of accepting where you are, releasing what you thought you wanted, and identifying what to hope for going forward.
April 8, 2020
12 - Sophia Heiser - Coping with isolation, the importance of connection, building resilience, and being patient with yourself through physical distancing
Coping with isolation, the importance of connection, building resilience, and being patient with yourself
April 6, 2020
11 - Jackie Blake - Transitions, being patient with yourself, getting quiet in crisis, learning to listen to your intuition, surrendering, manifesting, self-acceptance, positive emotions, and being ok
Episode Links: - Jackie's Instagram - Michael Singer's book is "The Surrender Experiment" - It was actually 78% of America living paycheck to paycheck - Neuro Linguistic Programming - Optimism Research - Bill Gates' TED Talk - Jonathan Haidt on Hiving - Joe Dispenza - Barb Fredrickson - Bruce Lipton
April 2, 2020
10 - Jodi Wellman - Leadership during crisis, values driven mission, genuine care, decision fatigue, that everyone is a leader, and much more
Jodi Wellman is a co-founder of Spectacular at Work, a leadership consulting firm specializing in well-being at work, spectacular employee engagement, and cultures where people want to work. She is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach and ICF Professional Certified Coach working with CEOs, Senior Executives, and emerging leaders. In this episode we cover corporate leadership in the COVID19 crisis, the importance of values driven leadership, using ones strengths to lead in challenging times, and how not everyone leads from the front of the room. If you'd like to support Better Than Fine visit anchor.fm/betterthanfine and become a regular supporter.
March 30, 2020
09 - Reframing Saturday Night - on COVID19, constructs, and dealing with a shifting reality
At some point in this crisis we'll all have a moment when the rules of our world change. This episode is about why that might feel so difficult mentally/emotionally, and strategies to help you approach the shifting times. Sign up for the Better Than Fine Newsletter https://mailchi.mp/darlene.coach/subscribe
March 26, 2020
08 - Gratitude Meditation
One way to combat negative emotional states is to connect with a sense of gratitude in what we DO have. As a tool in these challenging times, in the meditation we use gratitude to release tension in the body. If you'd like to join daily meditations at 12p EST you can do so here: Join Zoom Meeting https://zoom.us/j/426109033
March 19, 2020
07 - State Management and Ritual Building during COVID 19
Coronavirus is getting under all our skins; and it's likely that at some point you'll struggle a bit emotionally. That's what happened with me this morning, and in today's episodes I'm sharing some of what I know about State Management and Ritual Building that I'm using to help me cope. Hope it helps. Stay safe, be kind, and keep sane.
March 17, 2020
06 - Progressive Relaxation Meditation
If you're struggling to deal with the COVID19 threat, this meditation is meant to help you recenter, relax, and move through this difficult time.
March 13, 2020
05 - Alignment
This episode is on the foundational ideas of aligned action, how to cultivate it, and what the terms mean. What is alignment in yourself. Two models to explore: - Spiritual alignment - Psychological ideas of alignment Show notes:
March 9, 2020
04 - Dorota Soto - Self Acceptance, Impostor Syndrome, Finding Balance, Self Love, Meditation, Overcoming Fears
In this episode we discuss: Impostor syndrome, over exercise, Dorota’s journey through divorce, miscarriage, and feeling lost in your body. How to find balance. What balance looks and feels like. How coaches can recognize clients struggling with self-acceptance and what to do when you recognize it. Transitions and self-transformation after trauma and change. Show notes: darlene.coach/blog/2020/3/2/better-than-fine-dorota-soto
March 4, 2020
03 - What the Hell is Mindfulness?
Better Than Fine – Episode 3 – What the Hell is Mindfulness? What’s the difference between you mind and your consciousness? How does understanding that change your ability to observe yourself, your behavior, and use that awareness to shift your life? In this episode we: - Define mindfulness and mindful awareness - Define self-awareness and consciousness - Why is it difficult to teach someone about mindfulness? - Different applications of mindfulness to bring you to the present moment and why that matters - What it means to “make space” and self-observe - How to train mindfulness Show notes:
March 2, 2020
02 - What is Positive Psychology?
Traditional psychology western medical model focused on the problems of the mind. That method brought people from negative to “zero”; a neutral baseline. Positive Psychology is the study of a well-lived life and flourishing; defining the models of flourishing and well-being.
February 26, 2020