Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti
By Angela & Patti
These podcasts are about building better relationships at home and work with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship Coach and Patti Oskvarek, Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach.
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In today’s episode Angela and Patti will be talking about trusting your intuition and using it in your everyday life whether at home or work. With all the talk going around about the world ending and let’s forget 2020. Angela and I thought this would be a good topic to talk about. Using your intuition to discern fiction from the truth. There is so much false information and fear flying around. Yes, some are valid but what is real and what is false?
Bob Proctor says - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tCTobIN6oIM Intuition is God’s way of talking to us each day. It is through your intuition that you pick up vibrations. Every question has an answer. It is the intuitive mind that will pick that up.
According to Google dictionary. Intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. A gut-feeling about something or someone.
Another point of view is that intuition is your soul talking to you. An inner-knowing.
What are signs of having good intuition?
You’re an empath, you can quickly pick up on other people’s emotions.
You’re a good judge of character.
You’re a deep thinker, you have vivid meaningful dreams and epiphanies
You’re open minded, you listen to your heart, and do what is right for you.
Why is intuition helpful?
It is a gut instinct or feeling and the understanding of something; not over thinking it or getting another opinion, it is just knowing. It’s helpful when you trust your intuition, and yourself; you avoid bad situations or relationships.
What are some good daily practices to connect to your intuition? Patti watched a short youtube video from Psych2Go https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AoZPAZ7acdw
Listen to your inner voice.
Follow your heart and dreams. Pay attention to your dreams.
Spend time alone and allow yourself to day dream.
Pay attention to your environment and others around you.
Don’t over work yourself.
Don’t attach yourself to negative situations, feelings or emotions.
Creating peace and balance helps you strengthen your intuition.
10. And you can try dance with angela movement meditation.
So if you are feeling it’s the end of the world.
What are you worried about and why?
What in your life needs extra care?
What is a priority for you?
What part of your life is ending?
Who in your life is important and why?
What do you want to share with them?
If your life was to end tomorrow what do you want to leave behind?
If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes with Angela by going here:
In this episode, Angela and Patti will discuss sensitivity towards others in the workplace and within daily personal life. Patti - How did this topic come about? (Patti) We were talking about a blog post I wrote called “What! Sensitivity Training?” The idea came from watching the movie “Sensitivity Training”. It caught my eye because it was about a life/business coach and her reluctant client. Questions for Listeners: Do you want an insensitive society? Are you happy being complacent when people are being ignored, hurt or treated badly? (Angela) Gentle movement has shown me that softness allows the compassionate part of us to expand, and that compassion is mostly (if not always) more often with yourself, after compassion with yourself, comes discovery, awe and other awarenesses about the gift of your body, the gift of life, the gift of breathing, the beauty of so much if you want to know more check out https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/ and sign up for the newsletter; https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ (Patti) Reflect - Does it need to be said? Will they listen to the feedback and take it to heart or will it cause more conflict and damage to the relationship? Do I need to end this relationship for my mental health? Sometimes you can’t totally end the relationship but you can distance yourself and put up boundaries. I try to remember each person we interact with may be faced with some hard life challenges that are not discussed and some are hurting so deeply with emotional wounds that have not been addressed and healed. (Patti) There are times throughout our lives and careers; we may say something offensive to someone and not even realize it. It was unintentional; however, we learn from those mistakes and continue to grow as a person, coworker, parent, child, sibling, spouse, manager, supervisor, and leader. Apologize when you should. Take time to listen, observe, and be open to other people's points of view. Be coachable. Take personal development courses and read books. Hire a coach to help you get through any challenges you are facing. Learn from your daily interactions and reflect on how to do better next time around. Thank you for listening and supporting the podcast. We would love to hear from you about this topic. Leave us a comment or voice message on Anchor.
In this episode, Angela and Patti's goal is always to discuss building better relationships, whether at home, work, and within the world we live in. Today's podcast is called "Choosing cultural awareness instead of racism".
How did we decide to discuss this particular topic?
Angela used to live in the USA, and she’s in Australia now where she grew up and been connecting with Patti while doing these podcasts. We were sharing our thoughts and feelings about the division between people in the USA and somewhat worldwide.
What is Cultural Awareness? According to Collins Dictionary
Someone's cultural awareness is their understanding of the differences between themselves and people from other countries or other backgrounds, especially differences in attitudes and values. Programs to promote diversity and cultural awareness within the industry.
How can we take that food appreciation to the next level of cultural awareness?
Angela shared the story of Daryl Davis, a black musician who focuses on curing racism by talking and making friends with members of the Ku Klux Klan. Here is the Youtube link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORp3q1Oaezw&feature=emb_title
Angela shared about Megan Phelps-Roper, who grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bVV2Zk88beY who began messaging with a man on twitter who started engaging with her about her tightly held religious and cultural views on life, and later she left the church, and they got married! (How's that for a dating strategy!)
Patti wrote a blog post about Judging and Assuming the Worst in Others back in March of 2015 and she thinks it pertains more than ever.
Angela shared if you would like to experience the energy of culture through dance, I’m teaching movement meditation classes that are great for relaxing and de-stressing. The movement meditation uses music from many world cultures, and music and dance is a powerful way to experience a culture without speaking their language - the verbal language. And I share in the movement meditation the feeling the music gives to you so that you can connect to your heart, heal and feet at one with yourself. https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/
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In this episode Angela and Patti will be discussing change and how it can strengthen relationships. Let’s think about - What are the benefits of being more grateful, thankful, light-hearted, friendly, kind, and positive? Here are some possible benefits: Positive thinking attracts good things to you. A positive outlook creates meaningful relationships. Being positive decreases depression and anxiety. Positive thoughts increase motivation, inspiration, and creativity. Being positive improves the immune system. While, Reflecting on these benefits, why do you think society isn't more positive? How do we change a negative culture? Changing the focus to a positive, and an encouraging outlook towards each other, which increases motivation, creativity, better health, improves relationships whether at home or work, and it makes the environment a better place too. What else can we do? Affirmations are a great way to help change your outlook to the better. I would use Affirmation driving on my way to work and to get me through the day. Here is an example of an Affirmation. “Positive thinking is changing my relationships for the better!” Repeat it throughout the day, silently or out loud. Self-reflection is another strategy to improve and change our attitude for the better. Here is a self reflection question to journal about: How am I creating more positivity in my life? Pray to God for the change you want to see in your life, for the world and have faith it will happen. It may not happen the way you thought it would, it will probably be so much better. Keeping the faith in the good around us and not in the fear and anger being thrown in our direction. :) Spend time in meditation to calm and lighten your spirit. Smile, think good thoughts and speak kindly to those around you. By doing this it will change the way others treat you as well. Tell your spouse/partner, children, and parents you love them everytime you talk to them or see them. Love can change the world. People who feel loved, radiate love. How am I creating more positivity in my life? Patti's blog post What! Sensitivity Training? https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/2020/08/18/what-sensitively-training/ If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes with Angela at https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/ or sign up for Angela's monthly newsletter at https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ For more information about Patti's Affirmation cards click on the link. https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards/
Today Angela and Patti will be discussing the hot topic of social media and how it can affect relationships. We are concerned about how social media can cause hurt feelings, depression, addiction to social media, and comparison.
Here are some reflection questions:
What makes people feel it’s okay to post things that they would most likely never say face to face or outside of social media?
Where does this boldness or insensitivity come from?
Is proving your point worth all the drama and losing friendships over?
Today, we would like to explore how to manage some of those difficult behaviors. How do we relate to social media in a healthy way?
Are you taking a break from social media because it is “too toxic?" What do you find frustrating about social media, what makes it so toxic to you? We love to hear from listeners if they could share what they find disappointing about social media, why not leave us a comment.
To the Listeners: What are some of the things you ENJOY seeing on social media. What do you love seeing?
Angela: I love healing meditations and I share those because I love them. What do you love seeing? Maybe you can share a comment on the podcast and let us know.
Patti: I love seeing photos of families having fun together, vacation photos, travel adventures and cute positive memes.
In a previous podcast (episode 4) we discussed going Beyond Comparison and Accepting One Self.
“Cancel culture refers to the popular practice of withdrawing support for (canceling) public figures and companies after they have done or said something considered objectionable or offensive. Cancel culture is generally discussed as being performed on social media in the form of group shaming.” https://www.dictionary.com/e/pop-culture/cancel-culture/
Patti wrote a blog posts similar to this subject called Don’t Be That Guy! It is about shaming someone or making them the poster child in the workplace. When someone has committed a bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong, in some organizations, they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. I feel this is similar to the cancel culture.
In the blog post is a poll. With this question - Is shaming an effective management strategy?
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Today Angela and Patti will be discussing handling moving forward with emotions and relationships after ovarian cancer, hysterectomy and menopause. In previous Episodes 12 and 13 Angela shared her journey of recovering from ovarian cancer, hysterectomy and much more. In this episode we will be sharing how to deal with relationships - with one-self and others after these life-changing events.
Angela - stay in touch with Angela’s online movement and breath classes for those wanting to learn to breathe again and feel supported in your body by joining her newsletter here: https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ
Ted Talk - How menopause affects the brain by Lisa Mosconi https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJZ8z_nTCZQ
Reference for show notes www.Cancer.net https://www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/talking-with-family-and-friends/supporting-friend-who-has-cancer
For more information on anything discuss go to www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com
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Angela: How to set boundaries of time and space with the family. Patti: I encourage establishing a work schedule to help you move into a flow and getting things done; working from home can be challenging, especially when the family doesn’t understand your work demands, work obligations or time constraints with deadlines. Having established set work hours. Communicating them to the family and friends. Here are the hours and days I am working this week. Another way to communicate is to post your calendar/diary on the wall/door or give family viewable access to your personal digital calendar that reflects availability or not available. Another approach you can make a daily or weekly calendar post in view (maybe kitchen) or text your unavailability for that day to the whole family. There are lots of creative ways to communicate you are working and unavailable. Sit down as a family and ask them how they want you to let them know. This way everyone is part of the decision making. Do you want a daily text or a do not disturb sign on the door. Angela: I found the sign really official and makes it clear for others not to knock. In my building I used to live in, we had a lot of traffic going past my front door. People who delivered parcels would knock on the front door, which would be picked up on my calls or recordings. However, the worst thing about the knocking on the front door was when I was doing meditation. Sounds and knocks during meditation can actually be dangerous to your body if you are in deep meditation and give you a heart attack. That forced me to make a sign to post on my front door, “please don’t knock, meditation in progress, if possible leave parcels”. The sign also allowed some people in the building the idea to be quiet when passing the front door too (if they read the sign!) I’m going to use another sign to the door in my office at home to be really clear about meditation time or when I’m recording, as people may have no idea what you are doing in the office and the sign makes people more aware about noise. Angela: Working at home with family these days, it is really valuable to look at your physical work-space. Do you have a space that’s appropriate to do your work? Do your kids have a space that’s appropriate to focus on learning? And space is not just physical like a desk, it includes sound and light. I’ve seen a lot of people being really creative with working at the kitchen bench, buying a fold away desk for the bedroom, and other bits of furniture like a screen or divider to section off spaces in the house or to create work spaces. Sometimes, you won’t be able to really have a work space that is quiet, and people are more forgiving in these times if they hear kids and the kitchen in the background, but how does this affect you? Are there changes you need to make without necessarily spending a lot of money, but perhaps using your house differently? What could be something that gives you flow naturally that you need to put in your schedule to help you flow with the changes that we are now facing?
For me it's definitely movement and I will be sharing some of the results of my movement classes in the coming months as I plan to share these classes for more people to discover their own natural rhythm. You can stay in touch with Angela’s gentle movement classes by signing up to the newsletter: https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ
For more work-life balance strategies go to www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com
We will have a question in our Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group relating to this episode. We would love to see your answers to the question.
In this episode, we shared about improving communication with your boss and not overworking yourself while working from home. With a lot of people working from home lately due to the virus, some find themselves working even more hours. How do you find balance? This is a period of change in the way we work, and it doesn’t look like it is going to go back to the way it is - so more change is coming.
One of the challenges I hear about is people are working from home and taking care of their children at the same time since daycare services and schools are still closed. They have become the teacher, playtime instructor, nap time enforcer, lunch, and break time scheduler, all while trying to work at home. Because of the suddenness of the change, many of us have been expected to do extra work without extra pay or support, and there has been little time to talk about the conflicting expectations or changes and how they require extra thought and extra time to implement the changes.
What are some examples that you have seen?
Time management skills and learning what is expected from the boss while working from home. Setting boundaries with the family while working how to do it all and keep everyone calm, productive, and sane. A routine is good. Getting up at the same time you would if going into work, eating breakfast as a family, everyone getting dressed, and starting their day. By having a routine, everyone knows what they are supposed to do and are able to get things done. School work, zoom calls, projects, breaks, lunches and dinner, free time and nap time.
One of the extra duties is learning how to move things online and deal with new technology or platforms, and this includes changing how we present and share information. Now we have an opportunity to create a new normal to deal with change. When there are things that require extra thought and extra time, how do you approach your boss, co-workers, or those you work with?
Are you Problem focussed or solution-focused? Often when things change suddenly, we focus on not being able to do what we used to do, and this stops us from speaking up about our needs. I’ve noticed people harboring resentments with superiors or employers because they feel they can’t speak up because there is so much change, and they just need to deal with it. But often, a business or employer will also be struggling with the change. If you can respectfully share what you see as not working and what you see as a solution to that lack - then it clarifies for everyone what are possible solutions. And it may spark others to come up with other solutions, including your employer. Avoid the trap of staying quiet because everyone is just trying to deal with the change, but share your ideas respectfully without making people wrong.
Angela is looking for feedback on relationship needs people have in these times of change. Have people changed their needs and experiences of relationships? Why not share on the Building Better Relationships Facebook group what has changed in your relationships because of this virus? or email us at BBRathomeandwork@gmail.com
Welcome to Building Better Relationships with Angela and Patti. In this episode, we will share examples that stop relationships from being effortless and recommend changing those habits to becoming effortless relationships whether in the workplace or home life. Angela - Patti when I was dancing with a group in the early 2000’s, we used to explore movement that was effortless, and we always knew when things just flowed and we would be amazed. Then we found we couldn’t repeat that effortlessness because we started thinking about the movement instead of feeling it. We asked what habits as humans do we have that make us drop out of going with the flow. And we discovered the habits of being and thinking that interrupt our heart or force the heart to be something it's not because you think you should be a certain way. Angela - What I’ve learnt about effortless relationships, is the Einstein statement - “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Patti - How to Break Bad Work Behaviors: Identify the behavior or action Make the decision to stop Replace the habit with something positive Angela- Making things Effortless is enhanced by not coming from old habits of thinking, because old habits of thought made things repetitive and usually stuck or fixed. Instead - you want to come at things sideways, ask questions that take a person to a different topic or a different way of looking at a topic. If you want more relationship tips, join our Facebook Group Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti, please subscribe and like to follow this podcast. Is there a relationship topic you would like us to discuss on this podcast? Please email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com If you are struggling and need someone to talk to about your home or work life challenges Angela and Patti both have one to one coaching packages. Contact us at our email addresses below: email: firstname.lastname@example.org or schedule a time here https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com email: email@example.com
Tell us a little bit about the podcast title and Bending Your Knees? We thought about this topic a while back, but I really thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after recovering from surgery. It was a shock after being flexible most of life I couldn’t bend the knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock - but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now. Midlife-is an important time to look at your life and see what you are not able to do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost - although you may have a period of grieving. After grieving or during grieving it's important and valuable to take stock, reflect on what results of your life thus far? How do you feel about your life? If you reflect on your life constructively, it will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to REALLY see – what is your life about? What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. – what was it all for? Bending the knee reflects flexibility - and humility. In my case, I had setbacks - such as getting a little better than getting sick or weak again. What that taught me is to do things differently to go with my needs and energy better. Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy – and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it's also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are? Patti - what have you found stops people embracing the possibility of change in mid-life? I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job. When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going into work the next morning. On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed. On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with "I hate my job" self-talk. 🦋 Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep? 🦋 Are there no advancement opportunities where you work? 🦋 Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace? 🦋 Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done? 🦋 Am I learning any new aspects of my position? 🦋 Are my job duties challenging to me? 🦋 Do I enjoy going to work every day? 🦋 Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level? 🦋 Do I feel I am making a difference? 🦋 Are my coworkers positive at work? 🦋 Am I positive at work? If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead-end job. What are some options to improve the career situation? Use daily affirmations to get you through the day. Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards, these cards are good to use for any day in and day out work or home situations. https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards What do you want our world to be? Answer this question on Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Facebook group page: what are things, experiences, joys that you really really would like to experience.
In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss - Just Be - Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide. We feel this topic needs to be discussed openly and not avoided because it is uncomfortable. Lives matter. How did we get this topic title?
Angela and I were talking about how there has been an increase in suicide. Over the years, and how the current situation with isolation and other factors. Such as loss of a job can be a risk factor.
The Risk Factors provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website;
Alcohol and other substance use disorders
Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
Hopelessness, feelings of no reason to live
Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies
History of trauma or abuse
Major physical illnesses
Previous suicide attempt(s)
Family history of suicide - Angela talks about breaking the chain of generational loss and hurt - How to do that.
Job or financial loss
Loss of relationship(s)
Easy access to lethal means
Lack of social support, isolation and social withdrawal
The stigma associated with asking for help
Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment
Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet)
The Warning Signs
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves, communicating suicide intent or plan
Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
Talking about being a burden to others
Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
Sleeping too little or too much
Withdrawing or isolating themselves
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
Extreme mood swings
Making final arrangements (wills, notes, giving away personal things, etc.
For immediate help, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and talk with a trained counselor at National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.
For Australia https://www.lifeline.org.au/
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In this episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing a topic request from a listener; Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip On You? How to Deal With It! Angela is the expert on this topic being a Love and Relationship Coach and coaches on family dynamics.
Let’s look at guilt. It is the inner ward process of beating yourself up through harsh thoughts. Nobody can put a guilt trip on you, but you, because these are your thoughts. Some of the thoughts could be - I'm not going to make them happy or do what they want. They are going to dislike me or leave me. They are going to think I’m not a good person.
How do you go your own way without the guilt? Many people live with regret because they did what their parents wanted instead of what they want to do.
1. Why do you feel guilty?
2. How has this guilt shown up in my family before? When do you first remember this guilt?
3. What would be the one thing that inner child would love to do or love to hear and love to express?
4. What could you say to the family member to tell them about what you really want to do instead of the ‘trip’ they think you should do?
5. Do you value yourself?
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Angela references Patrick Wains here is his website link https://www.patrickwanis.com/
This topic came from a listener, How To Get Along With Your Teenager!
Patti started by asking these questions to the audience. Self-reflecting back to when you were a teenager. Yes, I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?
What did you want from your parents? Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want in Life. What was it? Your teenager probably wants the same.
Angela talks about as a parent - you love them, but you don't like their behavior - and there’s a consequence for the behavior - follow through and don't bend, you’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes.
Think kind thoughts - don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off. What are some deals you can negotiate with them?
Tips from book Crucial Conversations:
1. Start with the heart.
2. Ask - What do you want for the relationship?
3. Ask - What do you want for the teen?
4. What do you want for you?
5. What is the greatest possible outcome for the relationship?
How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart? Come up with boundaries and consequences, if boundaries are not met. Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.
What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days - that may be similar and different to what we went through?
1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.
2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying
3. Suicide - For more information about suicide prevention check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents it is free advice in Australia and https://www.lifeline.org.au
Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is The Love Oracle - check it out https://anchor.fm/angela-ambrosia
Welcome to Building Better Relationships with Angela and Patti. In this episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing surviving social isolation. We are all experiencing this first-hand due to the coronavirus epidemic. Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation. Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus. This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care. How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated? It is another way not to feel so isolated. Facetime or video chat with family and friends Adult coloring or coloring with the children Play board games with family and do a puzzle Blow bubbles outside with the children Write and draw in chalk with the kids Have a virtual meetup; Facebook, skype, or zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually Start a group text, WhatsApp with people who get you/can help you get support Here’s a journal exercise to move and release those feelings. Write down on a piece of paper 1. What you feel you have lost in this situation? 2. What you feel you need? 3. Why do you need this? 4. How could you meet this need? With the feelings - acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it's OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need - find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy! Why do you need this - when you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need - you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time. And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love...or you may realize something about your need - like its actually not that important! How could you meet this need? Is it Reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing. Look at a list of tips we are sharing. Notice which of your needs are the most important - Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it - so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy. When you send a text - put a good feeling into it - people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.
Angela’s new Youtube channel link New Energy Body https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWiZWqu52a62jaAZXE8bZcg
Prayer of Hope: https://www.coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/2020/03/24/225779
Welcome to Building Better Relationships with Angela and Patti. In this episode, Angela and Patti will be discussing the topic of how a Father can be understood, respected, welcomed, and supported while in isolation with the coronavirus situation. Families being in isolation triggering a lot of uncomfortable feelings and stress. The stressors: Being out of work, isolated, stressed about money, people sad, angry, have no control, in fear of the unknown. What is a good father?
They are sharing equally in household chores, helping with caring for the kids, and with their activities, reflecting respect and loving-kindness towards the wife/partner/the children’s mother by scheduling date nights and eating dinner with the family at least once a week. Kind and patience with your partner and children. Easy to talk too. They share their life experiences, leading by example, or what not to do and support their family in many ways. What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0
Set up healthy family boundaries:
Set family guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not.
Awareness of what is happening and discussing it compassionately together with solutions
Make a conscious decision to stop these behaviors, so everyone feels safe, loved and protected
We would love your thoughts and comments.
“What does being a good father mean to you”?
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Welcome to Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti. Today, we will be discussing Part 2 of Angela’s healing journey after a near death experience and surviving from an aggressive cancer.
The breathing technique that Angela used was placing the right hand on the heart in the middle of the chest and the left hand on the upper belly. In
In Angela words as she is sharing her healing:
My understanding about healing from the cancer and surviving. Is what I teach now and is based on what I learnt in hospital, and how I got through the surgeries when I wasn’t supposed to survive. It was a miracle! Healing is actually a refined science with protocols and I practised those even in delusional and very sick states - and they got me through the worst. I’m still learning what the science of healing is, I’ve got the art down based on clairsentient and intuitive work. “Lessons from the Hospital Bed”
What I learnt in hospital is that procedures provide a structure for healing that is tantamount to rigorous protocols adhered to in hospitals to ensure best outcomes. And those are what I share with individual clients who wish to enhance their own support system. I call it the new energy body. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWiZWqu52a62jaAZXE8bZcg?view_as=subscriber.
When they found out about infection in the abdominal cavity it was 8 weeks after I was in the hospital. My INTUITION said SOMETHING WAS WRONG from the beginning, and it was not the cancer, it was an infection. Intuitive Healers don’t work with Traditional Medicine.
New Energy Body is my commitment to creating a structure to listening to the intuition for healing. MAJOR OBSTACLE or HEALING CRISIS was part of my journey and how intuition is important to work with traditional medicine. Our bodies are evolving and some of the diseases we are getting are to help release or stop old ways of using the body, upgrade the organs and the body’s way of working so that you upgrade the operation of the chakras which can no longer carry old energy. I had the uterus and ovaries removed because they carried old energy that was toxic.
To learn more about New Energy Body to go YouTube channel link https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWiZWqu52a62jaAZXE8bZcg?view_as=subscriber
Welcome to Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti. Today, we will be discussing Angela’s journey for the past few months after surviving aggressive cancer and her healing transformation.
Daily life can get interrupted at any moment like now with the (coronavirus). For Angela, the aggressive cancer was a chance to see how angry she was at life. The glamour and illusion of how she thought life should be. "Is this how you want to live your life, busy focused on how things are not the way you want?"
Angela was supposed to die in all given circumstances and from a physical diagnosis and doctor's point of view, but she didn’t. The message she received was "No. What are you doing here?" When she was trying to die, and it wasn’t her time, so Angela had to go back. And again, the illusion of how it should be when you pass over. She got a rude and firm rejection from the spirit world. "No! Go back."
Back to life. How every moment of her sickness after trying to die became a stepping stone of how to come back to life. To breathe, sit, walk, eat, stand up, go to the toilet. How each moment is a choice, even when you feel you have no choice, each moment became that for Angela, including saying no to a lot of things, simply because it didn’t serve her. In a 24 hour day, 5 minutes of focused positive action, and healing was all she needed to allow her to recover her body, which had wasted away. This is the difference 5 minutes can make in your life every day. It may not feel a lot, but cumulatively, it led to her to doing 2 hours of exercise a day later or being able to climb the stairs later. Sometimes it was only 5 minutes she could do.
In Part 2 of this Podcast, Angela’s Journey Back to Life, Angela will share what she learned from the hospital bed about healing, miracles, and transformation.
Here is Angela's New Energy Body YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWiZWqu52a62jaAZXE8bZcg?view_as=subscriber
Angela and Patti share communication tips at work. How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships. How to ask yourself the right questions to determine how to manage your emotions.
A meme Patti saw - I’m sorry that your terrible behavior caused me to act out of character. You should work on that!
What does this meme tell you?
Take a look at yourself.
Is the relationship problem really you?
What is it about this person that triggers you?
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone? Do they remind you of something you don’t like within yourself?
Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.
Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding. This gives you time to change your response or don’t respond at all.
What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?
Before responding back to the email. Write out your response. Don’t send it! Walk away for awhile. Sleep on it, if you don’t have to respond within the same day. Then rewrite it when you have calmed down. Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button.
What to consider:
Should I stay at my current employment or move on?
Make a list of "why to stay" and "why to go". Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons? Make your decision from there. Is there more good reason to stay? Or reasons to leave.
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Are you interested in one to one coaching with Patti? I have coaching packages available. Contact Patti at firstname.lastname@example.org
Are you interested in one on one coaching with Angela?Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.comand discover more about the program.
Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore:
How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY
Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu
Warning Signs - Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs
Patti and Angela discuss using empathy in the coaching environment. Patti talks about using empathy in group dynamics as a leader. Angela discusses empathy within family and personal relationships.
Patti Oskvarek is a personal, leadership and work life balance coach. She is passionate about coaching supervisors and managers on becoming better leaders and creating a balanced fulfilling life. www.facebook.com/CoachingforInsp
Patti’s - Live Your Best Life Now - http://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/
and Patti's Blog Post on The Floating Experience for Work/Life Balance - https://wp.me/p3W3dA-V8L
Angela is a teacher who helps people love and understand themselves using the energy body, movement and awareness so they can resolve and manage their emotions and experience great love and joy in themselves and their relationships.
Learn about her Emotional Management Class here: http://transform.loveandrelationshipcoach.com/emotional-man…
Join Angela’s Monthly Newsletter and learn more on accepting who you are through the energy body: http://eepurl.com/dx-XnL
Patti talks about the benefits of taking time for yourself.
Let's the brain rest
Helps with problem solving
Reflection time to better understand yourself and be a nicer person
Creates relaxation and calmness
Spend time with family, spouse/partner and really give them our full attention without focusing and thinking of work.
How do we do this?
When should we do this?
How often should we do this?
What is really important to you?
Reflect on these questions and realize we really need our family, our spouse/partner in our lives. They keep us balanced, grateful and loved.
Angela talks about Family Dynamics can often be challenging for reasons we can’t always put our finger on. There is often a tension in families - that create unexpressed hurts from a situation in the past. So if you have a challenging family start by realizing your family is not unusual! we all have quirks in families - and some of us have really strong issues in families - so we tend to run away from them!
How do you move past these? Go back to questions above:How do we do this?When should we do this?How often should we do this?What is really important to you?
Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.
Do you want harmony and balance in your life? Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program. The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective. During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook. https://wp.me/P3W3dA-UwI
Patti’s blog posts about spending time with family and planning a vacation:
Summertime Inspiration https://wp.me/p3W3dA-URL
Time to Plan a vacation
What is the concept of Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth?
Each day is a new beginning. The sunrises and the sunsets. Time to release the old and start again. Wiping the slate clean. It’s often difficult to release bad situations, relationships, or past regrets. Rediscovering is about looking forward to the future and letting go of the past, which is holding us back on what we really want in life. When you watch a sunrise it affirms a brand new day and life continues to go on. In the cycle of life, plants died in the fall and rebirth in spring. There is a time to end and a time to begin. The challenge is facing the fear of transition and be willing to rediscover yourself. (Inspired by Denise Linn).
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 New International Version (NIV) A Time for Everything
Patti talks about career transition and making a career journal you can more learn more from these blog posts:
Making a Career Journal - https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UfY
Lifescaping ~ What is holding you back in life? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-V8n
Angela talks about rebirthing the Body. Sometimes your body needs to restore so your natural rhythms can come into sync and you can rebirth your spiritual energy or reinvigorate your aspirations.
Creating a “Fallow field” for the Personality Habit of Pushing. Giving yourself time to slow down. Become in rhythm with your needs, nature and not rush. Modern Society forces you to rush and it is becoming faster. How do you say - NO and find your natural rhythm? Letting go.
On May 11, 2019 Angela will be doing a Movement Meditation ~ Align with Nature in Sydney Australia https://www.facebook.com/events/308427649823591
Interested in releasing karma? Why not set up a Relationship Clarity Call with Angela to remove once and for all old habits of relationships.https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com
How Change Inspires Relationships!
Patti's Thoughts: Change is good in the workplace because people don’t get bored and they learn new things. It is easy to go through the motions if you do the same job function everyday. People leaving the team and new people coming onto the team is good. New ideas and new energy comes to the team. New projects and different new challenges keeps everyone thinking and motivated. The same old stuff day after day demotivates staff. Learning new ways and methods helps the team members grow. Now, change can come with upheaval at first. People have to learn how to communicate with each other. There maybe some growing pains. It also puts new perspective on the job. If you don’t like what is changing you have other options to move on yourself. That isn’t a bad thing. It is a way of reflecting is it time for me to make a change as well. It could be a new boss or a new job assignment that you just don’t like. What is this telling you about yourself or the job? Is it time to move on or will I stay and see how it works out for me? Change is part of life however at first it is scary and uncertain. Sometimes it is for the better and sometimes it helps us improve by the experience. It depends on how hard you fight it.
Angela's Thoughts on personal relationship: “Your partner is a mystery”.
Too often we get comfortable or bored with our partner. How do you know you really know them? You know their habits. Do you know them? How can you see your partner as a mystery? Do you have a question that you want to ask your partner - have you already assumed you “know” how they will answer...notice how you tend to put them in a box. Some ideas on how to get to know your partner in different context. Board games that involve moral questions like “scruples” , a new card game or game, dance class, a challenging hike or outdoor adventure, book a trip somewhere for a weekend and don’t tell them where you’re going. Take a train ride instead of the car. Trying different modes of transport and feel what it’s like to share a new experience with your partner.
Follow Coach Patti on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/coachingforinsp/
Patti's online course - Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders - https://wp.me/P3W3dA-Vwt
Patti’s blog on Change:
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Episode 6 podcast - How's Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone? In this podcast Patti and Angela discuss how the cell phone can enhance and limit relationships with others. They also talk about their personal relationships with their own phones.
Discover Patti’s new online course:
INCREDIBLE WORK-LIFE BALANCE HACKS for BUSY LEADERS
This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, works 24/7 and wants something more in their life. The course has 7 hacks to create some balance in this so called busy life! coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti.teachable.com/
Check out the ENERGY BODY OF SELF ACCEPTANCE PROGRAM
Put Your Relationship with yourself as a priority and discover a simple energy system with movement and exercises that empower you to accept yourself, overcome old habits and discover what love is that allows self acceptance to happen effortlessly.
Read Angela’s blog post Turn OFF Your Phone and Get Turned ON
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Angela and Patti discuss "What is being Authentic?"
Patti view: A truly authentic person doesn't put on a mask and become someone they are not or change to fit in. They express their true thoughts, feelings and views without apologizing. Being authentic is having integrity and being true to oneself and others.
Angela view: Sharing without forcing people to agree. Sharing without proving you are right or anyone is wrong. Sharing from your heart. Sharing to get understanding between people. Being in the heat of anger and needing to stand up and fight for what you believe in.
What is being authentic mean to you?
Accepting oneself for the good qualities you have. Everyone is unique and has some type of talent and gift. Comparing yourself to someone else just causes pain and envy. To stop those thoughts: Write down all your good qualities. Anytime you start to feel self-doubt, comparison or negative feelings reflect on those words you wrote and read them.
Self Reflection questions:
*Who were you at the beginning of 2018?
*How are you different now?
*What have you achieved?
*What are you happy about?
Episode 3 of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti - The Many Masks of Loneliness. This episode is about The Many Masks of Loneliness – What lies behind the masks?
Warning Signs of Loneliness:
1. Shopping a lot and care a lot about material possessions
2. Binge watching TV
3. Feel don't get enough sleep. Constantly tired. Sleep fragmentation when you can't sleep through the night and are continuously waking up.
4. Take a lot of hot showers or baths for comfort.
5. Get sick a lot with colds.
6. Feeling depressed.
7. Spend a lot of time of time on social media.
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Angela and Patti discuss being able to be social without being stuck to the phone.
People are losing face to face contact. There is home schooling, working from home, solo-entrepreneurs, single parenting and much more. Distance over internet makes people bold, they feel comfort behind electronics. Interacting face to face, shy people feel more uncomfortable and their not forced to socialize.
How do you get social away from the phone?
Go and get face to face with others, and put the phone away.
Go to the same place and same time every week and possibly you will see the same people every week and make a connection.
Start going to meetups groups.
Stretch out of your comfort zone.
People cut themselves off from social opportunities before they even get there.
Strategy - Pick a place and go once a week. Get past the What IF of past fear of rejection. Sometimes you may never know who you may meet by taking a chance. Take the risk and leave the what-ifs behind. The most fun times, has been talking to strangers about the weirdest things!
Connecting to your heart and writing exercise.
What do you want to experience socially?
Not everyone wants romance.
If someone invites you to go somewhere. Say yes.
Find people with same interests as you.
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Welcome to Building Better Relationships at Work and Home with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship coach and Patti Oskvarek, Leadership & Work-Life Balance coach. We talk about today's relationships and how to enable you to create long-lasting relationships. This episode is about when to say no and when to say yes.