Beauty In The Breakdown: Living & Loving Life After Loss
By Celenia Delsol
This podcast is about loss and grief. My premise is that grief is a natural response to losses of all shapes and sizes. If you are grieving or if someone dear to you is, I hope this podcast can be a safe haven; a place where listeners will see themselves, find comfort, and imagine a future that may not look like what was "supposed to" be, but holds the promise of beauty, love and joy...again.
The first positive coping mechanism I want to introduce you to is the practice of cultivating gratitude. This may be the furthest thing from your mind as you navigate the unbearable feelings that accompany loss and grief, but trust me, this practice is worth looking into. In this episode I explore why and reveal how. (It's super simple!)
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Grief is painful. It even feels unbearable at times. All we want is to feel better. And often, in wanting that, we turn to short-term energy-relieving behaviors that do alter our emotional state - for a moment - but do us no favors otherwise. In this episode I talk about how easy and natural it is for us to turn to ANYthing that will give us relief, and how we must be mindful of our choices so that they do not do us more harm, and so that we can actually experience longer-term relief and recovery.
The loss of a pet can be one of the most devastating experiences for those of us who have experienced the unconditional love of our furry (of feathery or scaly) companions. This episode addresses the challenges associated with this category of loss and what to do and not do to honor the memory of beloved pets.
There are all sorts of support groups out there for all sorts of losses, but not all support groups are equal and not every group is a good fit for YOU. I found it helpful to find a community of people who were experiencing a similar loss to mine. It helped me feel less alone with my anguish, and it gave me hope to see that people who'd been at it for longer were also beginning to have lives again. So I encourage you to try a support group, maybe several, until you find one that works for you.
Welcome back to Beauty In The Breakdown. In this episode, my guest and I discuss why it's important to deliver messages of appreciation and love before it's too late, and some simple ways to go about doing just that. Sherry Richert Belul, author of "Say It Now: 33 Creative Ways to Say I LOVE YOU To the Most Important People In Your Life," believes that life is to be celebrated, so that when loss of loved ones occurs - whether through death or the end of a relationship - we don't look back with regret. You can find Sherry and all her forms of celebration at: simplycelebrate.net.
As the year (and decade!) come to an end, I wanted to offer some affirmations and intentions as we move further away from the moment of our losses, and step further into our futures, which are precious and ours to live. Tagged on at the very end is a request which I hope you are able and willing to take on.
Nancy Marmolejo, author of "Don't Say That, Say This: Navigating Grief & Loss in the World of Social Media," is my guest. The key, it turns out, is empathy. How do we express it, and how do we avoid saying inappropriate or hurtful things when responding to someone's loss? How we do so on social media is covered in particular, but our conversation reveals that empathy can be expressed anywhere, both written and spoken.
Nancy experienced several losses which spurred the writing of her book, but she is primarily an executive coach and social media consultant. Her book can be purchased here, and her website is at: TalentAndGenius.com.
My first podcast guest, Mary Tuchscherer, and I explore writing as a tool for claiming your voice at any time, but especially after loss.
Mary is a writer in her own right, has edited and published two anthologies, and is the founder of VoiceFlame. VoiceFlame works with women and girls in Malawi, Africa using writing as the portal to greater educational opportunities, economic independence, and self actualization in a culture which historically disenfranchises and devalues women.
In the San Francisco Bay Area, Mary offers writing workshops, and is soon to be launching an online series in January 2020 about finding your unique voice through writing and other creative expression. Email her at: email@example.com. Explore her website at: www.marytuchscherer.com.
"Using a pen is like healing a wound. It ends my worries. One day I will change the lives of other girls." - Mphatso [Malawian writer]
Loss and grief can be hard enough, and the holidays can be an emotional minefield, but when you combine the two? Emotional disaster can ensue. This episode explores ways to navigate what can be a challenging time of year.