Nelle’s World💜

Excuse my tv in the background lol

😳 Scary world we live in. This episode talks about some actors and artists in the industry, how people should be more mature if they are going to be sexually active, Mo’nique and her weird marital relationship, and that time I was in a music video 😓 and other topics.

I cannot believe what I just found out. The entertainment industry is a sick place. I would only recommend watching the series Quiet on Set which is on HBO Max if you support their courage on speaking out otherwise just know that being in any industry music/entertainment is not glamorous.

That mess was dumb but still nobody should be treated bad. I will only keep this one up for about a week because I don’t want to be sued 😂

Just an update on why I’m not responding to certain things anymore.

Just be careful with everything you do.

Just doing a life update if you will. Being a realist and staying in my own lane keeps me sane. Hopefully this wakes you up a little so you change the course of your life romantically (and other areas) and stop making the same mistakes. 💯

This episode is about a podcast I saw on YouTube with two black women. One was talking about another’s video and how husbands are a requirement. My perspective is obviously get married but really just put your money where your mouth is. It’s irritating when some women think that their opinion is the LAW and not an opinion, but also how toxic black women can be to one another. One of them was bragging about having rappers and NBA players in her DMs but refuses to be a baby mama. Which is fine but who is she trying to convince? 🫣I’ve always been Solo Dolo because I don’t like fake people around me and I move accordingly. I used to beg people to be my friend or even in dating which means I couldn’t take a hint not literally begging 🙄. But anyway….worry about things you can control so you don’t sound like you have bird brains. And if you want a good man then date a good man. Don’t try to turn a bad one good it will just hurt you in the end. My word is not law either but I do have a point. Argue with yourself not me. 🤗

Recently there was a ploy couple that went viral on tiktok because of the alleged scamming and violence that is suspected with the “ring leader” of the trio (Snapping Turtle). From what I have seen so far these are my thoughts on the matter and I hope these 2 women get out sooner than later and know they deserve better. Olive Garden is the 20 year old and Shoe Shine is 30 and in the navy. I can’t use real names for obvious reasons. I do wonder how this will all end…

This episode is reflecting on the couple times exes told me they moved on or more recently about to be engaged. I think people don’t talk about bruised egos that happen when you hear things like that because it can make you feel hurt or that you weren’t good enough. But you forgot that they weren’t good enough for you and that’s why you left…right? So remember why you left them and know that they haven’t changed or if they did not that much and you rise above your past. Know that you deserve better and leave the dust on the ground where it belongs. This society pushes a narrative that if you are single you are the problem or you will die alone. Stop placing your value on other people and determine your value for yourself 💯

This episode is about how to deal with dreams about someone you were involved with or dated. Hopefully, this helps you not feel alone but also don’t think this means to reach out to them. Remember that you deserve better and actually believe it. Be careful when you feel very triggered or even pushed to contact them because it may hurt you when it doesn’t go the way you want. Figure out the feelings you had in the dream, sit with it, feel it, then let it go. This is very normal and understand that moving on is a process that doesn’t happen over night especially if you really cared for them ✨

Everyone says to be yourself but is that what we are seeing? Majority of people are fake but the only way to really be different is to be yourself 💗

I’m talking about my dating experiences, my standards and what I think about men having women best friends or mentioning exes too soon 😐

I know it’s been super long since I’ve posted but life has been happening however, I do want to move the podcast to YouTube so y’all can see me and interact more with me 🥰 the link is on my Instagram cj_nelle and I hope to see you soon!

This episode is about how women are blamed for men’s poor character and obviously it’s not a woman’s fault. But when in doubt just leave 😭. And I started cooking pancakes in the background so sorry about that! Im not going to add music because someone might like sounds in the background 🤷🏾‍♀️

No music on this one 🤷🏾‍♀️

No it’s not an ex. It’s a random dude and I’m just speaking on it. He doesn’t know where I live so I’m safe. It’s just a social media stalking situation and it’s annoying to say the least.

Stop dating women that aren’t your type…thanks

This episode reviews him and his wife’s relationship. There was a video where the wife talked about their “love” story. Here are my thoughts.

This episode talks about colorism, racism, my experiences, and also how we see colorism in media.

I just want to thank all of my listeners for tuning in. I really appreciate the support. I hope you all continue to grow on this journey with me and stay tuned for more 💕💕

I’m just giving examples of toxic advice and things to not internalize. Don’t let others try to make you feel bad or dictate how you should be. It’s your life, not theirs

In this video I’m speaking on advice that I saw to help men heal. The message is from a man and I wanted to share it so it can possibly help you. Anyone is able to listen because it is applicable to healing pain. I hope that you can find the source of your hurt and start to correct it. I don’t want people to keep hurting others when they don’t have to. And I wish I recognized that how I was being treated wasn’t about me but the pain a man could be suffering from. No you don’t stay with men like that but you can be their friend to help them if they need it. It’s short and to the point so listen to it twice if you need to. ❤️‍🩹

When you are in a toxic relationship, it’s like a drug. You go through withdrawals and start feening for his attention. But remember why you left in the first place. You need to learn how to let go and move on because most likely he is with someone or sleeping with someone anyway. And if not, him not being the one for you should be enough to let it go. It’s a process but you’ll be glad you left sooner than later in the end.

Are you doing things to get a man’s attention or are you really doing it for you? It’s normal to care what people think but that shouldn’t dictate what you do. Presentation does matter when it leads to a perception of you. That’s all I’m saying.

This episode talks about some experiences I had with a few of my patients and how representation matters in the medical field. Nobody understands us like we do and we need that support. If you want to create a business to help our community you should. Sorry it cut out around 10mins 🥲

This episode talks about being alone versus being lonely. Often times people are not alone enough and that’s the problem. People don’t know who they are and are always distracted by external things. It’s important to figure out what you need in relationships and friendships and to do that you need some time alone to actually think about it. I hope you don’t feel lonely but I also hope that you grow and become your best self. Stick to your standards and don’t change them. Do what works for YOU.

This episode talks about a video I saw that spoke on the numbers between black men and women marriages. How many of us still hope and desire we get everything we want with a black man only to see the reality that we are not their “preference”. Although that word is used wrong in most instances you get what I mean right? According to statistics most black men don’t marry anybody let alone black women. How does that make you feel? Do you agree or disagree? Either way I’m here for the women in doing better because we have been abandoned by black men (collectively). They have shown us time and time again that they don’t care nor respect us. But what do we do? Love them anyway? No. You deserve reciprocity and if black men aren’t giving you that don’t limit yourself to other options.

This episode talks about romanticizing and fantasizing about what could be. When you are dating, a lot of women go off potential which essentially is your imagination. I hope that you become more present when you date and look at things for what they are, not what they could be. 💎

This episode just challenges the beliefs about Christians and why some people have very negative stereotypes of those who practice it. You can believe whatever you want but the truth is only one truth there are not multiple truths at the end of the day. There are however multiple ideas/theories that people have developed and resonated with. I just want to challenge why you think how you do and just be aware that you can’t blame a religion that has people that have their own personalities and character….we all have free will out here.

This episode is about not changing who you are to fit in. As a woman with amazing qualities it’s discouraging when you don’t have the things you see other women have. The women that are more out there seem to reap all the benefits. But at what cost?? It’s not risk losing who you are to fit in or get a man. The right man will give you the desires of your heart but also don’t wait up for that. Be happy with you whether he comes or not. And also treat yourself . Be the best you that you can be. There is more to life than material things. 🌹

Just giving some tips on how to get through feeling down or depressed. Be encouraged that it won’t last forever. 💕

Today’s episode is about what men know and what women don’t when it comes to commitment. Men usually know fairly quickly if you are their wife or something else. They judge you based on things they want in a woman and go from there. Either they will string you along or date you with intent (courting). This is important because men will drag you through the mud knowing they don’t want you because you don’t understand what it looks like when a man truly wants you. A man moves different when you are the one. I can’t speak for men nor can I speak for all men. But based on what I’ve heard men say and do this is a conclusion. Some men will take advantage of the fact that you don’t have standards and they will take whatever you give them. All the while judging you in the process (which is wrong and hypocritical). When a man doesn’t know what he wants you start to wonder where you stand with him. Usually that means you don’t have a place in his life at all other than something physical. Having love and being IN love are very different as well. But just remember a man knows. And don’t let a man that’s not for you take up the time that belongs to your future husband. If you don’t care to be married then don’t worry about this but if you do keep this in mind while dating.

Today I’m just talking about things I don’t agree with or subscribe to. Things that a lot of people disagree with or the mass media has shown to be important. I think that everyone should have their own thoughts and beliefs and stand in it all the way. A lot of my thoughts are things I’ve seen through social media, TV, music videos, family members, boyfriends, and friendships. If you want to know what I don’t like then here it is 😊 Appreciate people’s differences and respect them and you will be in a much happier space then trying to change people.

Today’s episode defines narcissism and also the traits that they have. I also mention 7 types of narcissism that was identified in an article by an actual therapist. The reason why I made this episode was to inform you of men like this and also so you won’t keep labeling every single man a narcissist. He may have the traits but he may not have the actual disorder/illness. Although that can be debatable let’s just be more aware and understand that these are unhealthy traits that we should stay away from. Be careful out here and know that a narcissist is a danger to your sanity. Both genders can be narcissist but I am a woman trying to help other women. But technically if he wasn’t diagnosed then he’s not a “narcissist”. But you should still run if you see any signs that look bad. Save your heart and your sanity. A lot of men don’t care and that’s a fact but that also is a lack of empathy which is very scary. If you feel like you have any of these traits, stay single (no sex) and do the self work. Be healed before you get in another relationship. Don’t hurt someone because you are being selfish. That damage can’t be undone. So just be careful out here and work on self-love.

What do you define as a friendship? I think we have different definitions but it should be mutual across the board. I think a lot of us use the word friend very loosely. I speak on these ideas and also how a lot of women praise the fact that they have a best friend to women who want to become their friend. So you think there’s only one best friend? If so, then why have other friends? I find it hard to nurture friendships that fulfill my emotional needs and always end up feeling left out. I can’t be the only one trying to grow with you and you don’t feel the same. I speak on some experiences I had growing up and how I became ok with not having a “best friend(s)”. It can be hard but at the end of the day just be yourself and someone will appreciate it. 😊

Today we talk about some examples of trauma bonding and premature attachment. It is important to recognize these things so that you can develop a healthy loving relationship. I also speak on settling and how men will show you what’s important to them by what they do. These are my opinions however, I hope they can help you if you have been putting your needs aside for someone who isn’t doing the same. Don’t settle for less. If he doesn’t get right then he gets LEFT. You deserve the best even if you are just solo. Your time is too precious to waste on someone not sure and not ready. At the end of the day just do what is best for you and nobody else. 💖💖

This episode is about the phrase “protect black women” that has trended on social media shedding light on how black women are NOT protected in our community by our men. I speak on a YouTube video that showed a black man asking if black women felt protected and the responses that followed. As black women we need to learn that when someone shows us they don’t care for us we need to move on and know our worth. Don’t accept the stale crumbs when you deserve a fresh cake. These are my opinions through my eyes so don’t take anything personal 👍🏾💜💖

In this episode we discuss body image and how certain beliefs in the community about body image can be damaging, we also discuss how black women are over sexualized and how all of these things reflect low self-esteem and the seeking of external validation. This one is long but discusses some important themes. Tune in and let’s be better for the next generation 💖💖

On this episode we talk about the mindset of men who identify as “red pill” meaning exchange sex for sex and don’t do anything for a woman outside of that. MGTOW= men go their own way, which means don’t pursue a woman basically. What do ya’ll think about this new age mindset? Stay tuned to hear my thoughts 🤓

This episode is about going half. What do you think about going Dutch on a date? Do you feel a man should pay? Tune in to hear my take on it and an article I found about going half on dates.💜🌍

This episode talks mostly about verbal abuse and how it shows up in our relationships. I don’t want to trigger anyone but I do want us to acknowledge that we may hurt people when we don’t mean to. It’s all love here and all about growth. Enjoy and thanks for listening.💕

This episode is an intro to my podcast. This is a safe space for mental health discussions and things we experience as people, as a black woman I will also speak on my community and things we experience especially when it comes to relationships. Please remember to respect other humans on your day to day so this world can be a better place. 😊💕