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The Choosing Brave Podcast

The Choosing Brave Podcast

By Lindsay
Dreams change. What happens next? Stories and honest conversations that shed light on times where we feel uncertain. Join host Lindsay Swoboda and guests as they explore what it means to show up to life, and choose brave.
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S2 E13 How We Persevere: Advocating for Art and Mental Health with Anne Villano
Anne Villano is an artist on a mission. She is a military spouse and social work grad student who is passionate about the power of creative therapies for the military community. Anne believes that being brave right now is “perseverance” and takes our listeners through her journey of creating the social action mural for military mental health. She shares: “Mental health knows no age or race. It doesn’t know active or veteran, it doesn’t know branches- it encompasses us all and that’s what the mural does- it puts faces to the statistics.” She also gives listeners great tips to make an eraser-free sketchbook, give ourselves grace in the journey, and claw our way back to creativity. Connect with Anne on Instagram @milartmom Anne Villano Art   Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
47:58
October 12, 2021
S2 E12 How to Push Forward to New Dreams with Stephanie Cuepo Wobby
“When your dreams change, it’s a sign that there’s something better out there...you have to push forward and believe in yourself.” Stephanie Cuepo Wobby served as a combat medic for seven years in the Army, and is now dreaming forward as a writer. She is pursuing her M.F.A. in writing at Columbia University. Stephanie is the editor-in-chief for The Line Literary Review, which is a unique publication from Columbia University that features “artistic works for and by the military and veteran community.” Stephanie is no stranger to embracing bravery in her life. She shares that “(being) brave to me is doing something that’s right even though it’s hard and pushing forward even when you don’t want to.” You can connect with Stephanie on Instagram @s_cuepowobby The Line Literary Review on Instagram @thelineliterary Read The Line Literary Review  Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com Resources mentioned in this episode: Voices from War Warrior Writers Empowered and Thriving Wrath Bearing Tree
55:08
October 05, 2021
S2 E11 How We Beat Imposter Syndrome and Move Forward as a Late Career Milspouse with Jayla Rae Ardelean
“I’m passionate about breaking military spouses out of imposter syndrome because all it’s doing is holding us back as a community. We are all truly connected by one thing: our spouse chose to serve...and we are just trying to do our best alongside them.” Not only does Jayla Rae Ardelean offer insights into breaking free from imposter syndrome, she also speaks on the challenges and unique perspective late career milspouses face, and advocates for how the military spouse community can utilize mentorship. She shares, “the process of coming back to yourself is the hardest thing to do. Sometimes you need a mirror to show you how much you’ve grown.” You will leave this episode with tangible steps you can take to walk forward with purpose as a military spouse. Connect with Jayla Rae on Instagram @mil.spouse Jayla’s webiste The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast  Just for Listeners! Access Jayla Rae’s 3 Steps to Getting Started with Personal Development Guide here: jaylarae.com/choosingbrave Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
01:00:15
September 28, 2021
S2 E10: How to Embrace Joy Alongside Grief with Amy Grass
“(I realized) none of my feelings would challenge the truth of who God is.” This conversation with Amy Grass is an honor and an inspiration. She unpacks the story of her miscarriage during the pandemic for listeners and invites us into a journey of walking in both hardship and faith. “Grief isn’t linear. I like organization, expectations, and control...but (grief) ebbs and flows. You don’t just get through it. In other trials in my life, there’s been an endpoint, but this will never go away. (Our baby) River will always be part of our story and we will always carry that grief. I think accepting that has been big for our family.” Amy is also a brilliant writer, podcaster, and baker. She has found that “my purpose in writing is to tell what is true and make others feel less alone...Bravery feels a lot like faith to me.” There is so much laughter in this conversation, and the strength to search for truth and hope in God. You can connect with Amy on Instagram @amyegrass Amy’s Newsletter: Monthly Mercies  A Good Word Podcast by Amy Grass and Molly Flinkman Amy’s outdoor challenge: #janueverydayoutside Exhale Community Love, Jessica Organization Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes Newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
56:27
September 21, 2021
S2 E9 Behind the Scenes of a Stretching Season
“Once the stretching season is over it is going to bear fruit...but only if I work on my self-control in the process.” Join host Lindsay as she reflects on a season that is stretching both her and her family. Reflection Questions for Listeners: What extras are we doing? What extras am I doing? How can I find peace in present chaos? How do I want to feel at the end of this season? What fruit of the spirit am I being called to work on? The nine fruits of the spirit are as follows: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control The book mentioned in this episode is Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry by Katrina Kenison Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
16:55
September 17, 2021
S2 E8 This is How We Take a Break
“Am I behind if I’m the one setting the pace?” Join host Lindsay as she unpacks how to set ourselves up for a break.  A break that we do not have to earn by endless toil, but can be embraced as freely given. Reflection Questions for Listeners: Why do you fear taking a break? What does a “break” look like to you? How/When will you schedule your next break? How will you come back from your break? Mentioned in this episode: The Choosing Brave Podcast S2 E2 How We Rest with Erin Strybis Read Aloud Revival Sarah Mackenzie Kimberly Knowle-Zeller’s Walk and Talk Newsletter @kknowlezeller Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor.  Lindsay sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
21:27
July 23, 2021
S2 E7: How to Create a Life We Don’t Hide From with Becky Hoy
Becky Hoy shares with us that “there is a distinction between intentional self care and crashing. Intentional self care means that we are creating a life that we don’t need to hide from, a life that feels fluid, feels good for you, that you have set boundaries in your life that leave space for you to BREATHE.” You will be getting out your pens and paper for this episode! Take notes as Becky breaks down  how to: Establish our rocks in the river, which are critical for our own family’s well being, and they help to make everything else optional. Reframe a deployment. There can be a paradox of finding JOY in a painful season. In Becky’s experience, “Deployment forced me out of my comfort zone and forced me to create habits, systems, and routines in my life that transformed me and transformed my relationship.” Approach reintegration as a season of dating. Becky also answers the question of when to begin or when to wait as a budding milspouse entrepreneur. This conversation will give you courage to look at your life with new eyes. Or, as Becky puts it: “Being brave for me means taking a hard look at the reality I’m living in, embracing it, and stepping into that unknown to make a way forward.” Becky Hoy is the Founder and CEO of Brave Crate- the deployment countdown box for military spouses, where she curates unique monthly deployment countdown boxes to support military spouses throughout their deployment countdowns. In addition to her work with Brave Crate, Becky is the co-founder of PILLAR- the Digital Retreat for Deployment Countdowns. Connect with Becky Hoy: @bravecrate on Instagram and Facebook @pillardeploymentretreat on Instagram and Facebook Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
01:04:55
July 08, 2021
S2 E6 How We Hunt for Delight
Host Lindsay Swoboda chose the word DELIGHT to represent her year. But is she anywhere close to finding and feeling delight on a daily basis? She is working on it, by making small changes which include: reimagining her morning routine, adding beauty every day, and being able to evaluate and choose something different depending on her and her family’s needs. Reflection Questions for Listeners: What is one place in your life that you can decide once about? (thanks Kendra Adachi!) What are some routines that aren’t working for you? What are some ways you can add beauty to your day? What is one thing you have lost that would add a flicker of delight if you brought it back in some way? Mentioned in this Episode: Writer/Teacher Ellie Roscher Exhale Creativity Community Books: Devotions by Mary Oliver The Lazy Genius Way by Kendra Adachi Bright Dead Things by Ada Limon Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
23:36
July 02, 2021
S2 E5 How to Take One Brave Step, Transforming a Dream into a Business with Melissa Sheridan
“Being able to create art out of peoples’ lives is very meaningful to me.” Melissa Sheridan is an Air Force spouse, mom of two daughters, and runs her own portrait and wedding photography business in Charlottesville, Virginia. She shares how developing her photography business was a challenge. “The first step is the hardest...everything starts with a one step.” The height of her business grew out of a time where her husband was getting deployed, and yet the military community came alongside her in support. Continuing her business has meant constant re-evaluation and leaning into seasons of life. She has learned that “it’s easy to think (that when) you’re not going from point A to point B in this exact rhythm that you had planned that something is off, but let things happen to you and do not be so hard on yourself for the things that did not happen.” This conversation will help you take stock of your big dream, and give you permission to be in the season you are in. You can connect with Melissa Sheridan at https://melissasheridanphotography.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissasheridanphotography Instagram: @melissasheridanphotography  Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor.  She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
57:58
June 29, 2021
S2 E4 How We Invest in Ourselves and in Our Community with Melissa Collazo
“Sometimes when you allow yourself to be brave, even the tiniest bit, it gives someone else the permission to do the same.” Melissa Collazo is a makeup artist based in the DC metro area. From her work on the runways of New York Fashion week to bridal and commercial projects, her approach to beauty is that it is “not about looks, it’s about feelings.” Melissa shares the wisdom she has learned on her journey of transitioning careers. “As scary as it is, being brave enough to suck at something new means you are investing in yourself, and you are always going to be your best investment.” She is a champion for community and runs The Real MC which is a safe space online that spreads a message of empowerment and encourages women to set their OWN standards in beauty, motherhood and beyond. This conversation will remind you to keep growing and to keep going. You can connect with Melissa Collazo at: www.melissacollazomakeup.com www.therealmccollective.com IG: @melissacollazo_makeup & @therealmc.collective FB: www.facebook.com/melissacollazomakeup LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/makeupartistmelissa/ Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
01:04:29
June 12, 2021
S2 E3 This is How We Move
In this special episode for military families, host Lindsay and her husband Ryan talk through how they have approached moving six times as a family. How do you transition well? Their moves have criss-crossed the globe, from CA to Seoul, South Korea. From there to HI. From HI to Morocco. Morocco to Ecuador, and Ecuador on to VA. They know they have more moves ahead of them. You could say they have some experience (wink) on dealing with the highs and lows of packing, unpacking, flying, making the most of each location, working with one another’s strengths and stressors, deciding when they should take leave, how to see family, and how to help kids adjust. Join them for this in-depth discussion (and a few laughs!) on how to move well. Lindsay has created a FREE comprehensive resource, Moving Overseas for Military Families which you can access here. Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
54:07
June 03, 2021
S2 E2 How We Rest with Erin Strybis
"Rest is the pause that we take when we stop pouring out for others and fill up our own cup. It is essential. Rest is waiting for you, you don’t have to earn it. You are worthy of rest right now, today, in this present moment.” Erin Strybis joins us on the podcast to unpack all things REST.  In this episode we discuss how to recognize signs of burnout, why we sometimes withhold the rest we need, and how we are working to push against hustle culture by making real, rejuvenating rest a priority. Erin is a writer and editor based in Chicago who loves connecting with other moms through storytelling. As the mom of one strong-willed preschooler, she believes the secret to motherhood is leaning into grace. When she’s not chasing stories (or her preschooler!), Erin writes Nourish, a newsletter to help you be kinder to yourselves and others. Find her on Instagram: @erinstrybis. Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com This episode mentions: Exhale Creativity: a community that believes that motherhood and art can coexist. Anne Helen Peterson Burnout: How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation (buzzfeednews.com) Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs | Simply Psychology Surge Capacity: Our Brains Struggle to Process This Much Stress | Elemental (medium.com) Lindsay's Book Rec: Rhythms of Rest by Shelly Miller Erin's Book Recs: Devotions by Mary Oliver, Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist
41:33
May 29, 2021
S2E1 Fighting with the Wind, Finding Hope in Hard Times
“She made herself stronger by fighting with the wind,” this quote from The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett kicks off Season 2 of The Choosing Brave Podcast. Join host Lindsay for this solo episode where she explores how she’s both getting back to hope after a hard year. She shares how we can dig to find the fruits of our labors, create a delight list, and how the practice of noticing the life in front of her is making all the difference. Connect with host Lindsay on Instagram @upliftinganchor. She sends out her Hope Notes newsletter seasonally, you can sign up for it here. You can read more of her writing on her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com
32:40
May 25, 2021
Season One Finale
We made it to the Season One Finale! Join host Lindsay for this solo episode where we unpack Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, give ourselves permission to change up the plan, and make a good list. If you've been a listener this season, THANK YOU! To create anything this year, AND to share it, feels like a feat. Celebrating YOU and whatever your next brave step is. Come hang out with me more @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and at http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
33:36
December 30, 2020
Let's Catch Up
Remember that time in a pandemic I started a podcast? And then had a baby? And then thought, “when will I ever write, create, record, have anything to say again?!” Eventually, we get to come back to the other extras in life- and hopefully, we come back refreshed and excited. In this episode, Let’s Catch Up, I’m talking about all things of life lately, including a healthy dose of how I’m learning to run my own race (without any actual running involved). I talk about our birth story, 21 days of Whole 30, and how the word capacity is helping me out. Come hang out with me more @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and at http://www.upliftinganchor.com/ Show Notes: Surge Capacity Article // MUTU System // Whole30 // Exhale Creativity: Thirty Days of Grateful Writing Challenge
34:24
November 20, 2020
Choose What Makes You Feel Like You with Katie Sieber
“Being true to you is often very brave...and sometimes when you do need to change you feel it inside a long time before you’re willing to admit it to yourself.” Katie is a Kentucky native turned New Yorker who loves musical theater, traveling the world, hiking up mountains, reading historical fiction and eating her away across NYC. Katie moved to Manhattan to pursue theater and spent several years performing around the country at both regional theatres and on a national tour. Favorite roles include Belle in Beauty and the Beast, Jane Eyre in Jane Eyre the Musical and Maria in The Sound of Music. In her interview, Katie leads us on her quest to change dreams- and what it looked like to slowly let go of one in order to make space and pave a new path to herself without performing as her identity. Katie is currently a member of a vintage entertainment group called America’s Sweethearts and is thankful for the opportunity to continue to share her music. Katie currently lives in Brooklyn and spends her days teaching chess to children and dreaming about her next travel adventure. You can connect with Katie on Instagram @katiejeanne18, as well as find out more about Chess at 3 @chessat3and @storytimechess Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and find Show Notes at her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
37:59
June 30, 2020
Not Letting Fear Hold You Back with Katie Haahr
Katie Haahr takes us on her path from the east coast of America to the west coast- from telework to landing a new job, and then getting let go by the company and starting her own business. She is now the Founder and CEO of KatieHaahr.com where she helps women in their early twenties figure out all the “non-sexy but essential” life skills that no one really talks about (aka: adulting). Katie is now a “virtual big sister” for girls like her, and creates resources designed to help women feel less alone and navigate life as an adult with confidence. “I feel the most brave when I’m the most scared- but I’m not letting that fear hold me back.” Connect with Katie on Instagram @katie.haahr or at her website: katiehaahr.com. Sign up for Katie’s Weekly Tips Here. Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and find Show Notes at her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
44:18
June 23, 2020
Courageously Vulnerable with Anne Villano
“Art saved me. Art was the one thing…that I was drawn to, I leaned on, and it became this coping mechanism to help me through my day to day.” Anne Villano leads us in a discussion on her personal experience with Bipolar Depression, and how she has become courageously vulnerable on her journey. Anne is a mother, painter, military spouse, and graduate social work student. She received a B.F.A. in Graphic Design from The College of Saint Rose and because of the frequent moves of military life; she decided to take the leap into being a professional artist. She has had her artwork and writing featured in Legacy Magazine with hopes of expanding these opportunities. Working with many mediums starting with acrylic paint and ending with oils, it is her goal to create a moment where the viewer feels something or even better, begins a conversation. After graduate school, Anne’s goal is to use her MSW degree coupled with her talent and love of artwork to establish a creative therapy program for active duty service members and their families. This program would utilize multiple creative therapies to reveal to active duty members artistic coping skills that can be exercised when in crisis. Connect with Anne on Instagram @milartmom, and her website www.annevillanoart.com will be available mid July 2020. Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and access Show Notes at: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
43:27
June 16, 2020
#writelikeamother Reflections on COVID-19
15 voices from across the nation. Mamas hailing from Georgia, Virginia, Alaska, Hawaii, New York, Spain, California...the list goes on. 15 writers capture their experiences in the times of COVID-19 on The Choosing Brave Podcast and offer them as pieces of their hearts that breathe hope. Meet the Writers that shine their light in this special edition: Tamar Rachel Mekredijian @tamarrachelwrites McKinsey McCormick @mostly_motherhood Lorren Lemmons @lorrenlemmons Molly Flinkman @molly_flinkman Michelle Windsor @michellevwindsor Rachel Nevergall @RachelNevergall Erin Strybis @erinstry Lindsay Swoboda @upliftinganchor  Jacelya Jones @jacelya_jones Karla Filibeck @karlafilibeckwrites Kimberly Knowle-Zeller Kimberly Knowle-Zeller, Writer on Facebook  Rosalie Durayee  @mrsduryee Robin Chapman  @robin.chapman and @kindred_mom Megan McCoy Dellecese @megactsout Jodie Toresdahl @jodietoresdahl Show Notes are available at upliftinganchor.com 
44:51
June 09, 2020
From Active Duty to Diaper Duty to Author & Podcaster: Amanda Huffman
Amanda is a military spouse and veteran who served in the Air Force for six years as a Civil Engineer including a deployment to Afghanistan. She traded in her combat boots for a diaper bag to stay home with her two boys and follow her husband’s military career. She is the host and creator of the Women of the Military Podcast sharing the stories of women who have served or continue to serve in the military.   "(My) Podcast has been a healing journey for me. There was a hole that I didn't know was in my heart (that is now) filled up because I get to talk with other women about their military experience."  You can connect with Amanda on Instagram, the Women of the Military Podcast and her book Women of the Military  Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and at her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
43:14
May 26, 2020
What does Love Require? Special Edition Episode; dedicated to Military Appreciation Month
What does love require? Join host Lindsay Swoboda for this special edition of The Choosing Brave Podcast, dedicated to Military Appreciation Month. “Love has required sacrifices and strengths I could have never imagined. It doesn’t stop requiring it. Somehow I learn to keep giving, as all military spouses do.” Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchoron Instagram Show Notes: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
38:35
May 24, 2020
Gain Confidence with Moving: Mallory from @mamas_onthe_move
Mallory from @mamas_onthe_move and the DITY Mama Blog is an Army wife of eleven years. Her family has moved 9 times in 11 years and they have lived in 11 homes (and the number keeps on growing). She utilizes this experience to help military families with their own DITY (Do it Yourself) moves. She has a master’s degree in Psychology with a specialization in marriage and family therapy and is currently a stay at home mom to 3 precious kids. Her perspective on moving her life so frequently is refreshing and encouraging. “I have to actively remind myself to search for good and the beauty in each place and the opportunities that await…It really is all about the perspective and the attitude.” You can connect with Mallory on Instagram @mamas_onthe_move and her DITY Mama Blog Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and at her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
41:15
May 19, 2020
Don't Let Your Life be Full of "What ifs" with Zayda Barros
“It’s easier to regret not doing something than to do it. Do not let your life be full of ‘what ifs.’” Colombian born and raised photographer Zayda Barros of @zaydabarrosphotography joins The Choosing Brave Podcast to discuss how she has shifted within cultures as she’s lived around the world with her Navy husband, son, and 9 year old stubborn Scottie dog. Zayda has a contagious zest for life, and she shares how to foster a deep love of traveling, how one photograph gave her the confidence to launch her career, and how to reframe change from hardship to privilege. Connect with Zayda: @zaydabarros on Instagram Her professional account  @zaydapbarrosphotography Zayda’s Society6 shop: https://society6.com/zaydabarros Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchoron Instagram, and at her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
46:26
May 12, 2020
Mama Year One with Megan Staub
“It takes bravery to hold onto what you know is true when your world turns upside down...I’m in a season of accepting limitations and looking for joy.” In this episode we get to chat with Megan Staub, the founder of Mama: Year One, a new website that dives into the mess and magic of new motherhood with honesty and camaraderie. As a writer, Megan believes in the power of storytelling to create connection and erase fear. Connect with Megan: @mamayearone on Instagram, and at her website https://mamayearone.com/ Connect with host Lindsay: @upliftinganchor on Instagram, and at her website: http://www.upliftinganchor.com/
30:04
May 05, 2020
Welcome to the Choosing Brave Podcast
In the first episode of The Choosing Brave Podcast host Lindsay Swoboda delves into her own journey navigating several job transitions from performer to teacher to stay at home mom to free lance writer.  She has moved six times is eleven years, all over the world from California, Hawaii, Korea, Morocco, Ecuador, and back to the USA. As a military spouse, creative, and mother she weathered change both well...and terribly. She speaks on how she works to navigate seasons of transition, and the hope that this podcast reaches out to listeners who feel stuck or feel like they have failed because life isn't what they thought it would be right now. Dreams can always change, but what happens after they do? Lindsay defines bravery by showing up to her life, the best way she can. You can connect with Lindsay on Instagram, Facebook, and read her stories on her website.
32:25
April 28, 2020