Church Hurts
By Joshua McLemore
Church HurtsMar 27, 2020
Are We More American Than Christian? - Drew Anderson
Join Josh and his first repeat guest Drew Anderson as they talk about Drew's new book "No Longer Self-Evident: Are We More American Than Christian?" Is it possible that the church has been co-opted by American values over Kingdom values? What kind of damage has that done and what kind of damage can it do?
Buy Drew's book here https://www.amazon.com/No-Longer-Self-Evident-American-Christian/dp/1942221142/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=drew+anderson&qid=1599830668&sr=8-1
Two Reasons Your Church Job Might End Poorly - Mark Oestreicher
So many of us have found ourselves in situations where we are either fired or leave our churches. What is the reason that this is so common in church work. Could there be some way to avoid being blindsided with a church job going south? Join Josh and his guest Marko as they discuss some practical ways that negative church work experiences might be avoided even from the interview process.
Mark Oestreicher has been involved in church ministry his whole life, particularly with teenagers and youth workers. Marko has had a broad experience working in churches in roles ranging from Junior High Pastor to Executive Pastor. For 11 years, Marko was at Youth Specialties in San Diego, an organization that trains and equips church youth workers – the last 8 of those years as president. Concurrently, Marko was also a part of the leadership team of Zondervan (Grand Rapids, MI).
Marko has authored or contributed to more than 70 books, including the much-talked-about Youth Ministry 3.0. Marko is a partner in The Youth Cartel, providing resources, training and coaching for church youth workers.
Naming Spiritual Abuse - KJ Ramsey
It is so important to name things what they are. Very often we are slow to call spiritual abuse by its' name. Join Josh and his guest KJ Ramsey for a discussion on how to recognize spiritual abuse and for some examples of things that you may not think of as abuse that are.
K.J. Ramsey (BA, Covenant College, MA, Denver Seminary) is a licensed professional counselor, writer, and recovering idealist who believes sorrow and joy coexist. She is the author of This Too Shall Last: Finding Grace When Suffering Lingers, and her writing has been published in Christianity Today, RELEVANT, The Huffington Post, Fathom Magazine, Health Central, and more on the integration of theology, psychology, and spiritual formation. She and her husband live in Denver, Colorado. Follow K.J.'s writing at kjramsey.com and across social media at @kjramseywrites.
You Don't Know What You Don't Know - Michael Otto
Hired as a young youth pastor, Mike Otto quickly found himself wondering what he was doing. His mentor was gone and the attitude of a less experienced church worker collided with expectations he was not aware of. His story is pretty common in church work. What did he learn through this? What would he have done differently? Join us this week for this conversation on being a young church worker.
Creating Space for Doubt - Ryan Schaible
What if you woke up one morning doubting everything? Would your church allow that? Can you even serve when you are having doubts? This week Join Josh and guest Ryan Schaible as they talk about what it looks like to experience doubt while working in a church and how churches can help and minister to a staffer who is experiencing a reconstruction of faith.
Racism and the Church: Now That We See It What Will We Do? - Ade Oni
When You Realize Your "Church" is a Cult - Elizabeth Halford
As our guest this week said: are you ready for "the most culty sh*t you've ever heard"? This week we talk about what happens when your church is a little less church and a little more cult. Elizabeth Halford also talks about what it's like to leave a church situation like that and what its like to see some of those same bad practices enter your own ministry.
Love, Respect, and Sex (What the Church Gets Wrong) - Sheila Gregoire
Sheila Gregoire has a lot to say about the book "Love and Respect". Is it possible that the thoughts in the book can be used to hold people in abusive or unhealthy relationships? Sheila thinks so. After hearing from thousands of women who shared stories of this kind of hurt, she took her concerns to a group that supported the book only to face backlash from them publicly. Join Josh and his guest as they unpack the kinds of hurt the Church has caused over the issue of marriage and sex and how we can fight against that to a healthier version of both of these things.
Sheilas original article on Love & respect & sex:
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/01/love-and-respect-review-how-sex-portrayed/
Here's the open letter to focus on the family:
When God Calls and Your Church Doesn't Listen - Jennifer Dawn Watts
When Jennifer felt called to plant a church she could not have known the way her existing faith community would treat that call. How do you move forward in your call when your church is holding you back? Is there room for questioning the status quo? Join Josh and his guest Jennifer Dawn Watts as they discuss these ideas and many others in this weeks episode of Church Hurts.
How Do We Minister to People Even As They Walk Away? - Heather Thompson Day
Gen Z is leaving the Church in droves. But what are their reasons for doing so? How can we minister to people even as they walk away from the Church. In what ways can we still be a blessing and a source of hope and love. Join Josh and his guest Heather Thompson day as they discuss the things she is hearing from her students in her university classroom and the future of the Church post Covid-19.
Is the Church Failing the Loneliest Generation - Dr. Josh Packard
You can find Springtide Research Institute and order their book Belonging at www.springtideresearch.org/
When The Church Holds You Back - Katie Ruth
Join Josh and his guest Katie Ruth for a frank discussion of what it's like to realize your church may not be the healthiest or even the safest space. How do you find your way out of a church that you need to leave for your safety and sanity? Once you do that, how do you stay connected to the Church outside of the one you grew up wounded in?
Do We Have To Pick Between Intellect or Faith? - Dr. Karen Swallow Prior
When Church Attendance Causes Anxiety - Hannah Keefer
When the Church Says No But God Says Yes - Heather Lea Kenison
The Church Is Handling Mental Health Wrong - Steve Austin
Steve Austin is a writer, coach, podcaster, and former pastor whose work has been featured in USA Today, Huffington Post, Relevant, and other outlets. Austin nearly died by suicide after secretly suffering from depression, anxiety, and PTSD, and he has become a leading voice at the intersection of faith and mental health. Austin resides in Birmingham, Alabama, with his wife and two kids, and he loves all things peanut butter and chocolate.
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The Youth Pastor as the Church's Mistress - TJ McConahay
When the Church Goes After Your Spouse - Keith Parker
Wounds Caused From A Culture of Fear - Blaine Christenson
Find Blaine HERE
When Spiritual Hurt Causes Physical Harm - Greg Gross
Patriarchy, Sexism, and Operating Like We Are Still In The Fall - April Diaz
Check out April at ezerandco.com and follow her on Twitter @aprildiaz
Churches Don't Know What to do With Single People - Andy Unger
When the Church Lies to Women In Ministry - Tash McGill
What happens when the church deceives someone in ministry by not being up front about its actual views. Specifically, what kind of hurt is it causing women who want to serve in ministry when it isn't honest about its theological viewpoint on the issue.
Join us this week as Tash McGill of http://thetransformationist.org/ tells her story of this hurt.
When Leadership Abandons its Responsibility - Drew Anderson
In this episode Josh speaks to Drew about being a young youth pastor and navigating the church hurt of a lack of support when the going gets tough. You can find Drew at https://www.sumterchapel.com/