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Courtship CodeFeb 12, 2024
Finding the Beauty in Breakups, Divorce & Your Next Chapter S7E19
They effortlessly challenge who you think you are and who you have been in life and to another person.
For some, the amount of vulnerability and grief that comes from a breakup may cause them to avoid love and connection to focus more on themselves and shut out the possibility of ever experiencing disappointment ever again.
For others, a breakup becomes an opportunity to grow and become more resilient with relationships, even if they continue to create the same pattern of pain over and over again.
Regardless of how you receive the experience, the goal is to find beauty in the breakup.
Only when you find the beauty in the breakup will you be open to receive the lessons, forgiveness, and purpose the relationship served.
By doing this, your heart remains open and available to love and commitment.
In this episode we discuss what steps you need to take to find the beauty in a breakup and move into your next chapter.
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Love Loop Guidance Call - This 60 minute 1:1 video call will provide you with clarity on your current dating and relationship blindspots, what exactly is holding you back and what specific steps you need to take to stop repeating courtship experiences according to your Love Loop relationship pattern. You will have time to ask questions about your patterns and unique circumstances so that you walk away with guidance and a clear vision of the best actions to take right now.
The Loop Membership - Our do-it-yourself transformational membership portal filled with transformational workshop pathways for your specific Love Loop relationship patterns. You will learn key steps to navigate dating and courtship for your specific Love Loop, breakups, burnout, and situationships using our proven processes.
The Captivating Courtship Code - Our signature coaching community with step-by-step guidance to help you transform relationship patterns, navigate courtship and attract your vision of love using our practical and proven 6 step process.
Relationship Pattern Accelerator - The 12 week private coaching accelerator that provides a customized approach to transforming your Love Loop relationship patterns. Dive deep into your subconscious blindspots and align with your vision of love with personalized attention and insight.
How to navigate Courtship Loops Questions Answered S7E18
This question and answer episode provides insight into your courtship loops with specific instructions on how you can break your current courtship patterns with the key steps.
12 week Private Coaching Consultation
FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap
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FREE Courtship Loops download
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FREE Relationship Pattern Assessment
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Stress and Nervous system regulation with Meredith Segan Sarason S7E17
FREE 6 Step Courtship Loop Code Roadmap
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FREE Courtship Loops download
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Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session
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12 week Private Coaching Consultation
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Courtship: Trust, Shadows and Sabotaging Relationships S7E16
If you have been attracting partners and navigating courtship and dating yet once you are invested in the relationship or find yourself attached to the possibility anxiety or avoidance creeps in and sabotages the relationship, this episode is for you.
We will explore how to regain trust, integrate your shadow, and stop letting past wounds ruin your relationships.
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FREE Courtship Loops download
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12 week Private Coaching Consultation
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Courtship 101: The Captivating Courtship Code Process Basics S7E15
Are you curious how your relationship patterns are formed and how you can use relationships as a spiritual journey to partnership and greater self discovery? At the core of all your relationship experiences is the foundation of trust, healing wounds, and having unshakeable self-worth. Rebuilding these three elements of your inner-self will have a direct impact on your ability to give and receive love. In order to step into your worth and align with the relationship awaiting, you must break your current relationship patterns and loops you're operating in. In this episode we explore the basics of relationship patterns and the Captivating Courtship Code process.
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Captivating Testimonial: Adapter Love Loop, Engagement & Doing the Inner Work S7E14
In this episode we have a chat with CCC client Amirah about having the courage to dive into the challenges of the inner work in order to quickly transform her Adapter Love Loop pattern and attract her relationship.
We discuss healing from past relationships, trust, and fully opening your heart to receive love after trauma and disappointments. Amirah shares the impact CCC has made on her love life and how she attracted her person and engagement after years of being single and avoiding relationships.
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Book a 1:1 Courtship Loop session
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Questions? Send a DM on Instagram @captivatingcourtship
Courtship for Anxiously attached High Achieving women S7E13
If you are a high achieving woman that's anxiously attached you may find yourself overthinking interactions with men, having a hard time balancing your career and love life, or attracting emotionally unavailable men.
You may find yourself subconsciously trying to control the outcome of the relationship and rushing the courtship process whenever relationship anxiety creeps in. This keeps you on the hot-cold, situationship relationship wheel.
Being in this courtship loop may have you feeling frustrated, lonely, or even confused about how to break-free from sabotaging patterns so that you can attract the healthy, long-term commitment you truly want.
In today's episode you will learn the actual problems you're facing in your dating and courtship experiences and what shifts you need to take, along with a practical solution that makes courtship and dating effortless and predicatable.
Enrollment for The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program is NOW OPEN:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.
Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop.
Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.
Have a question? DM us on Instagram @captivatingcourtship
Setting Boundaries and Uncovering Blindspots S7E12
What are your courtship blindspots? Are a lack of boundaries holding you back from the relationship you deserve? In this episode you will learn about how your courtship and dating blindspots are keeping you frustrated and from the relationship you want and how you can turn them around.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
DM "QUIZ" on Instagram to access the NEW Love Loops Quiz
Join the Love Loops Membership waitlist
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/7cbd8c30b3
Captivating Weekend waitlist
Captivating Weekend - Self Worth Sarah S7E11
If you have achieved success in her career but struggle with feelings of inadequacy in your personal life, you may be a Self-Worth Sarah.
When it comes to Self-Worth Sarahs, despite your accomplishments, you battle with low self-worth and often attract emotionally unavailable partners who reinforce your negative beliefs about yourself.
This may lead to codependency in relationships and feeling burnt out from unsuccessful dating experiences.
In this episode, you will learn how to break this relationship pattern and step into your worthiness to have the love and life you deserve.
Captivating Weekend
www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.
Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop.
Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship
Captivating Weekend - Anxious Ava S7E10
Are you an Anxious Ava? If you are a woman who values your spiritual beliefs and is actively seeking a long-term committed relationship, however, your anxious attachment style leads you to overthink every interaction with potential partners, then you may be an Anxious Ava.
Your anxiety causes you to appear clingy or needy. Despite your desire to find love, you struggle with managing your emotions and often feels discouraged by the lack of commitment from the men you date.
In this episode we discuss the biggest pain points for the Anxious Ava type when experiencing relationship anxiety, and how to attract a partner you desire who is willing to commit to a serious relationship.
Captivating Weekend
https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.
Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop.
Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship
Captivating Weekend - Are you an Overwhelmed Olivia? Story time S7E9
Are you an overwhelmed Olivia? If you are successful with a demanding career, balancing life and love can feel very overwhelming, and your romantic life may even take a backseat to your career.
Despite your professional achievements, you struggle with relationship anxiety and constantly finds yourself emotionally attached to men who are unavailable or unwilling to commit.
In this episode we discuss how to avoid feeling burnout from unsuccessful dating experiences, and how to deal with clinginess and neediness in relationships, along with experiencing low self-worth.
Captivating Weekend Register Now:
https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/captivatingweekend
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to attract commitment and high level coaching every step of the way.
Love Loops Community Membership - Get a complimentary month to the Love Loops Community and break your relationship patterns. Step into your worthiness of unlimited love, and out of the burnout, breakup, and situationship loop.
Captivating Weekend - Join the 3-day immersive experience with like minded women who are serious about life and love. Learn tools and techniques to stop letting relationship anxiety block love, and create your 90 day attraction plan.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @captivatingcourtship
A Sneak Peek into Our Captivating Weekend Virtual Event S7E8
🌟 Ready to break free from relationship anxiety and find lasting love?
Join me for the Captivating Weekend virtual event! 🌟
If you're a high-achieving woman who's tired of feeling overwhelmed and burnt out in your dating life, this workshop is for you.
Discover proven strategies to overcome self-sabotaging relationship patterns, cultivate confidence, and attract the love you deserve.
For 3 days we will work together in an intimate event to help you get crystal clear on how to break your relationship patterns, create an offline plan to meet compatible partners, and design a life you love.
Space is limited.
Secure your spot today and take the first step towards a brighter, more fulfilling future.
DM, “CAP”, to register on Instagram @captivatingcourtship
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How to use Courtship Loops to Attract Better Relationships S7E7
Are you stuck in a courtship loop? If you have been meeting men and it feels like you are attracting the same experiences over and over again or if you feel clueless about why you feel stuck in your love life, you may be in a courtship loop.
Courtship Loops are a connecting pattern in your relationship experiences that shows where you have been settling, shrinking, or not in your value. Once you are clear on your Courtship Loops, you can quickly identify where you need to grow and how to accelerate your healing so that you can attract a better quality man and attract the relationship or marriage you deserve.
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No Journey to Love is the Same S7E6
Over the years of working with clients and helping them o shift their patterns and find love, one thing that's for certain: No journey to love is the same.
Every client success story has come with their own path and ups and downs. By understanding that no journey to love is the same you will be able to better embrace your unique circumstance. You will gain a deeper appreciation for your own journey and look to the lessons and experiences as positive check points leading to the relationship you deserve.
ENROLLMENT TO CCC IS NOW OPEN:
Apply now: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
Why insecurity stops men from pursuing you and what to do about it S7E5
If you often feel weighed down with anxious thoughts, fears and doubts when it comes to relationships this episode is for you.
Feeling insecure and anxious is one of the most common sabotaging behaviors that breaks promising relationships. Although it's totally normal to feel insecure at times during dating and courtship, when insecurities become a constant problem in your love life, you will want to learn to manage
your emotions, fears, and doubts so that they stop holding you back from love.
In this episode we discuss why you may feel insecure, how that impacts your love life, and what to do about it.
APPLY TO THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
Overcoming Uncertainty for Anxious Attachers S7E4
When you start your journey to partnership you may think you should focus on where to meet men, how to create emotional connection, or how to allow a man to pursue you so that you go from single to committed. You may think your biggest challenge is avoiding men who are time wasters so that you don’t fall into the situationship trap or get emotionally attached too soon to a man who isn’t ready to commit.
While these things are partially true and should be a part of taking control of your love life, for women who are anxiously attached and have a hard time attracting a man who will commit, one major shift you will need to make in order to create a different outcome is to make courtship simple.
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Links mentioned in this episode:
FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them
The Captivating Courtship Code - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
How to Use Marriage Mentors to Improve your Love Life S7E3
For many high achieving women, despite how confident you may be on the outside, you may feel very indecisive and uncertain when it comes to dating and relationships. This uncertainty creates major insecurity. Insecurity leads to feeling very hesitant to make decisions in your love life that actually creates the outcome you desire. Then, your go to solution will be to vent to your friends or family for advice.
Leaning on friends and family for relationship advice is a well intended action.
Yet, it's important to shift this behavior so that you avoid falling into negative mindsets, trauma bonding, or bad advice that will result in the opposite of what you want. In this episode we breakdown real life stories of well intended friends and family sabotaging relationships with bad advice, what are Marriage Mentors, and how you can use Marriage Mentors to improve your love life and create the relationship of your dreams.
DM "MORE" on Instagram to learn more about CCC and receive the Free 2024 service guide
Links mentioned in this episode:
FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them
Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
Captivating Courtship 2024 S7E2
In this episode we reflect on courtship lessons of 2023, what to expect from Captivating Courtship, and new services and programs in 2024.
To get the 2024 service guide, email or DM "MORE" @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram or book a consultation.
Book a 30 minute consultation: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them
Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
Stop trying to change him & do this instead S7E1
Oftentimes when I'm working with clients who find themselves repeating relationship patterns, anxiously attached, or fearful of getting hurt their main focus during dating & courtship is to change the man. Your love lens is so intensely focused on him that you may not realize your subconscious fears are causing you to show up as controlling, needy, or simply less attractive.
This is the opposite of what you actually want, right? Right. This behavior causes drama, pushes the man away, and prematurely ends promising relationships that could lead to deeper commitment. Instead, focus your love lens on you.
In this episode you will learn the importance of not changing a man and how it can improve the quality of your life and self-love.
Links mentioned in this episode:
FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them
The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.
Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
How to stop being the problem in your love life S6E51
One of the biggest triggers you may face on your path to partnership is the concept that you are the problem in your love life. When you embrace the idea that you may be PART of the problem, you open the door to change your current relationship status that no longer serves you. You will now have the opportunity to explore aspects of yourself that may feel uncomfortable to own. Which means you have the privilege to get to the root of your challenges, transform, and actually grow so that you can attract the quality of partner and love you deserve.
In this episode we discuss why you must embrace being the problem in your love life and how you can commit to the necessary shifts in order to stop allowing old patterns and problems control you and the love you desire.
Links mentioned in this episode:
FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them
The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.
Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
Why you struggle to trust men during dating & courtship and how to trust S6E50
One of the scarier aspects of dating & courtship is opening yourself up to making new connections, feeling excited about the relationship, then fearing disappointment. When you finally meet a new man that you share a connection with, you so badly want the relationship to work that you subconsciously begin looking for all the reasons why it won't. This cycle is exhausting and a pattern you will want to break if you are serious about attracting a healthy, committed partner and lasting relationship.
In order to do this you must learn to rebuild your trust muscle and learn to trust yourself, first. If you find yourself struggling to trust men you may be experiencing a lot of fear, anxiety, and conflict in your relationships. This episode will help you understand why you struggle to trust and how you can change this around and rebuild your trust muscle so that you can attract the love and relationship of your dreams.
Links mentioned in this episode:
FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them
The Captivating Courtship Code Lifetime Community - Become a member of the CCC community and get the 6 step proven process to heal relationship patterns, create your captivating life and attract love.
Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the luxury and intimacy of live coaching in our exclusive group coaching community for greater success and support to transform your love life for good.
Have a question? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com
Hot Cold Relationship Burnout S6E49
Are you feeling burnout from hot-cold relationships, situationships, and feeling like you are always on the edge of commitment? If so, there's a secret you are missing in dating and courtship that took me years to discover.
In today's episode you will learn how anxiously attached women can get off the hot-cold relationship treadmill and finally attract commitment. Not only will you have a better understanding of how to navigate courtship with more ease, you will learn the missing piece that will allow you to attract the guy you want without pressure, chasing or pursuing when he goes warm or cold.
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Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
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Anxious Overthinking & Sabotaging Relationship Patterns S6E48
Want to attract commitment yet find yourself feeling burnout, in situationships or breakups? If you find yourself anxiously overthinking
then your relationship patterns are sabotaging your relationship success.
In this episode we explore the biggest gap in your courtship and dating process, the commitment bridge. You will learn why you have a difficult time crossing the bridge to commitment, why women with an anxious attachment more often are in kinda-sorta relationships AKA situation ships and what to do about it, and what steps and tools you can use to keep you grounded during the courtship process so you no longer attach and instead move towards commitment with your guy, side by side.
To learn more about the New Love Loft VIP day experience email, "VIP" to captivatingcourtship@gmail.com or DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram
To get the New Free training and learn out to cross the commitment bridge and break cycles of burnout, breakups, and situationships email, "5 STEPS" to captivatingcourtship@gmail.com or DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
From anxiously attached to trusting the Courtship Process and Letting Go of Control S6E47
Do you find it difficult to stop anxious overthinking during the courtship process? If you find yourself getting deeply emotionally attached whenever the need for security and validation surface and it's sabotaging your love life, this episode is for you.
Oftentimes, when you find yourself feeling fear and other emotions around a potential relationship going left, you may emotionally react and become needy, clingy, or combative and unintentionally push the man away or try to control the courtship process in order to speed things up and get the commitment you desire. This is a fast track to ruining the path to commitment. When you are on the bridge of trust as we teach in CCC you must stop repeating past relationship patterns, allow yourself to fully connect with a man's heart, and navigate the courtship process with intention so the bridge feels safe to cross for both parties. This will help you attract love.
On today's episode we're discussing how high achieving women can manage anxious attachment during the courtship process and let go of trying to control the process.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
How to Communicate to Connect from the Heart S6E46
Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate and connect from the heart is one of the most powerful ways you can transform your love life and deepen emotional connections that lead to a healthy relationship.
As a woman, your feminine essence is your superpower. It allows you to influence, create safety, and captivate a man's heart effortlessly. Knowing how to tap into your super in a way that is purely authentic, heart-centered, and connected to your core will ground you in your worth and make you even more attractive to the best relationship for you. When you are reacting out of fear of hurt, guarded, or treating relationships transactionally you won't create the healthy, loving connection you desire with a man. This is Wounded Princess Energy. Potential partners won't be able to deny this aspect of your authentic value when you can fearlessly communicate and connect from your heart as the Captivating Queen you are.
In this episode you will learn how to communicate and connect with a man's heart and how you can empower yourself through your feminine essence to transform your love life and all of your relationships.
ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15-22. GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW.
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
Selling Yourself on Settling S6E45
Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve.
Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact. When you sell yourself on either settling to stay single or settling for less than you deserve in a relationship, you will never have the type of relationship you deserve, even if you attract commitment. When you decide to settle, you train yourself on a subconscious level to believe you are not worthy or deserving of what your heart and soul truly desires for your love life.
You can have the relationship your heart craves. You must simply decide it's inevitable and do the work required to make it happen now. In this episode you will learn the key steps to stop selling yourself on settling and get on the path to the relationship you deserve.
ENROLLMENT FOR CCC OPENS SEPTEMBER 15TH
GET ON THE WAITLIST NOW
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
Feeling Burnt Out w/ Courtship & Dating S6E44
Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtship process.
Wanting a relationship is normal. Every human wants to feel understood, connected and loved. Yet, if you have been single for some times or newly broken-up the stress of uncertainty and lack of control over the outcomes in your love life may cause you to react to situations in a way that's the total opposite of your true relationship desires. This is why getting to the root of burnout so that you don't avoid, shutdown, or make emotionally reactive decisions with potential partners can quickly transform this feeling and put you on the path to enjoying courtship, better dating experiences, and believing in love again.
In this episode we discuss why you are feeling burnt out, what to do about it, and steps to burnout around moving forward.
JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR THE CAPTIVATING COURTSHIP CODE:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
Where to meet quality men: Simple 5 step Love Links Strategy S6E43
If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner.
The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating Courtship Code's clients to navigate the relationship market and expand dating and courtship options, without overthinking. By using the map, you have a simple plan to prioritize where to meet men starting with a broad approach and narrowing in. We cover online dating, conferences, long distance relationships and more with this simple approach. This way you never have to second guess where to start or feel a drought in your love life, especially during cuffing season.
The Love Links strategy is at the perfect companion to your Love Loops, to make it easy to navigate the relationship market according to your relationship patterns. We provide you with the best tools and approach to meeting potential partners according to your specific Love Loops, to make dating and courtship work with you and decrease any resistance you may have to moving your love life forward. Take notes and listen now.
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https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
LoveMe Love Loop: Self Sacrificing and Shrinking w/courtship & relationships S6E42
The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from having the relationship and connection they deeply desire.
In this episode, we dive into the LoveMe Love Loop and the pros and cons of their particular relationship pattern. We discuss the secret to LoveMes getting their emotional needs met, increasing vulnerability and communication, and stepping into their most powerful authentic selves. You will also learn 3 simply keys to no longer shrink during the courtship process so you can get your wants and needs met.
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Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
Trophy Love Loop: Boundaries and Fear of Missing Out S6E41
Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve.
All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security you desire and deserve. When you don't believe you are enough and that you can actually have the relationship you deserve, you will settle and find yourself feeling anxious and insecure with the men you meet.
These behaviors also trickle into your personal and work relationships, resulting in experiences and relationships that don't allow you to feel safe and valued. You can turn this around. You deserve to break this loop and have the relationship of your dreams and deepest, and most authentic desires. If you have the Trophy relationship pattern this episode is dedicated to you. Listen now.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Free Love Loops Roadmap
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Love Loops Masterclass:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman coaching community:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
Love Loops 101: Uncovering Relationship Patterns S6E40
If you have been single for years or find yourself experiencing the same types of relationships, men, or courtship and dating experiences you may be in a Love Loop. Love Loops are the signature 8 sabotaging relationship patterns that makes it difficult to build a happy, healthy relationship that leads to long-term commitment or marriage. Each of the 8 Love Loops has different experiences, beliefs, feelings, and actions that keeps them in the loop. Some are more difficult to break than others. Yet, they all can make courtship and dating hard, disappointing, and disempowering. By knowing your Love Loops and how to break them you can learn to navigate the dating and courtship process with confidence, clarity, and intention so that you can manifest the life and relationship you desire.
In this episode, we discuss the 8 Love Loops with a brief breakdown of each of the different relationship patterns. We also dive into how Love Loops are formed, why you need to break them, and the 6 key steps of the Captivating Courtship Code that will help you break them faster.
Links mentioned in this episode:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/mkpumLKR
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
The Captivating Courtship Code coaching
https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/ccc-waitlist
Captivating Courtship in 2023 S6E39
In this episode we discuss how you can take the leap to captivating courtship this year. Zara opens up about challenges, pivots, and changes needed in order to create the most aligned vision and ways to assist women transform their relationship patterns so they can improve the quality of their love life and attract a healthy relationship. You will learn about new programs, services, and coaching options available to assist you with the most important aspects of the dating and courtship process so that you can quickly and easily take your love life to the next level.
Links discussed in this episode:
FREE Love Loops Roadmap:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/F5jLDLyy
Love Loops Reading:
https://captivatingcourtship.mykajabi.com/offers/3nEoRN8Q
Worthy Women Community
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
The Captivating Courtship Code:
https://www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
The Love Loft private coaching:
Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? S6E38
Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? This episode is a special live coaching episode that dives into questions about making the decision to heal and prepare for marriage instead of waiting until you are in the marriage and working with your spouse to heal from past trauma. We discuss the impact itself
-esteem and self-worth on your ability to attract a healthy relationship, along with thoughts around having to choose between being single and focusing on travel and career vs focusing on finding a spouse and getting married.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman Monthly Membership:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match call:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Join the next open coaching call:
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship.com
Practical steps to find a spouse S5E37
This episode is from Captivating Courtship's monthly live training hosted by Zara J. Come join live and learn with us about the latest tools, tips, and information in the dating and relationship industry.
In this episode, we discuss practical steps to find a spouse, blocks that may be holding you back, and the main focus to increase potential options if you have not been courted by a man for at least 30 days, in the last 6 months.
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join the next live training:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/c0e4b32aa5
Find your path to love take the quiz
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Questions? Contact on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Unmasking Courtship & Dating Mistakes: What went wrong? S5E36
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of courtship and dating, focusing on successful women aged 28-43 who have a burning desire to find love and get married within the next 12 months. Join us as we unmask the most common courtship and dating mistakes that may be hindering their path to marriage and provide a roadmap for success.
We begin by discussing the importance of setting clear relationship goals and defining the path to marriage. By understanding what you truly desire in a life partner and effectively communicating those expectations, you can attract a compatible match.
Fear often creeps in when embarking on new relationships, especially for accomplished women. We explore the significance of vulnerability and trust, offering practical techniques to overcome relationship fears and create space for emotional intimacy.
Navigating the dating pool can be overwhelming, but we emphasize the quality over quantity approach. Discover how to effectively filter potential partners and invest time in getting to know someone before committing. We share valuable insights on identifying compatible matches who align with your long-term goals.
Balancing a successful career and a love life is a common challenge for ambitious women. We provide time management strategies to help strike a healthy work-life balance and prioritize self-care, ensuring that both areas of life flourish.
Managing expectations and recognizing red flags are crucial aspects of successful dating. We guide you in setting realistic expectations, establishing healthy boundaries, and trusting your instincts when it comes to potential warning signs.
Effective communication and conflict resolution are paramount in building lasting connections. We delve into the importance of active listening, expressing yourself authentically, and resolving conflicts with compassion and understanding.
Self-care and personal growth are often overlooked in the dating process. We highlight the significance of nurturing yourself along the way, offering strategies for self-reflection, personal growth, and enhancing self-confidence.
Join us on this enlightening episode as we unmask the courtship and dating mistakes that may be holding you back from finding love and getting married. With our roadmap to success, you'll gain the insights and tools needed to navigate the dating world with confidence and purpose, ultimately leading you towards a meaningful and fulfilling partnership.
Tune in now to discover how to unmask courtship and dating mistakes and create the path to marriage you've been longing for.
Join the next Captivating Weekend and Apply to CCC
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Monday Coffee Chat: Survival Mode and Authentic Values during dating, courtship and relationships S6E35
When you are in survival mode being in your authenticity and attracting a man who shares your authentic values in courtship is a challenge. This is because when you are anxious, fearful of getting hurt, or trying to control the outcome of the relationship you aren't focused on building meaningful connections. Instead, you will simply focus on securing the man or the relationship, even if he is the wrong partner for you. While it's a good thing to have resilience in courtship, applying pressure or ignoring incompatibility only causes you to waste time with a nowhere relationship or possibly commit to a man who's not authentically aligned.
This is a Monday Coffee Chat episode from 2019, where you go behind the scenes of The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program for live Q&A coaching. Zara J. shares expert relationship coaching advice to guide clients through their courtship and dating questions. In this episode you will learn about navigating dating in adversity, questions to ask before marriage, authenticity in romantic relationships, overcoming obstacles in love, and mindset transformation in dating.
0:00 Survival Mode and Courtship, Dating & Relationships
6:56 Questions to ask before marriage
9:30 Paying attention to what people value
Links mentioned in this episode:
Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Join The Worthy Woman Monthly Membership:
https://captivatingcourtship.ck.page/worthywaitlist
Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match call:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Find Your Path to Love:
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Join the next open coaching call:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAuceuuqz4iGN25FmjmYSe2jR4nKQr8QPCu
Getting over ex and interfaith relationships coaching S6E33
How do you push past an ex and deal with interfaith relationships? In today's coaching episode, we'll have an insightful conversation about how to do just that.
In relationships and specifically interfaith relationships, it's important to understand why we feel the way we do and process our emotions. In this episode, she admits that she still misses her ex because he had certain qualities that she can't find in other men around her. But as she digs deeper, she realizes that she's not open to receiving those qualities from other men because she got hurt the last time she did. She also realizes that if men don't show up for her right from the beginning, she tends to lose interest and doesn't give them a chance to open up later on. This points her toward a much deeper issue: her own emotional unavailability.
If you want someone to give, you have to be open to receiving. This often proves to be difficult because we come from a place of fear, distrust, judgment, and guarded emotions. It’s crucial to focus your mind and energy on the type of relationship you envision for yourself.
In coaching with Zara, this woman reaches the conclusion that in interfaith dating, when you’re not operating in your authentic values and boundaries, things will often take unexpected turns. She realizes while processing that her key takeaway from this coaching class was just this. Determining her own authentic values because if your values are fluctuating depending on who you’re in front of, it is an indicator that you’re not operating to your full authentic worth.
Take a cup of coffee and dive into this episode to process your perspective on interfaith relationships and getting over exes as you listen to this coaching episode unfold.
Time Stamps for this episode:
00:00 - Introduction
00:29 - How to push past missing your ex
1:15 - What about her ex she still misses
2:50 - Not seeing the same in other men
3:30 - Believe in finding that in other men
4:12 - On not being open to receiving
5:45 - It is possible to become available even after breaking up
7:00 - Unravelling emotional unavailability
9:30 - If you want someone to give, you have to be open to receiving
11:55 - Honing down on the desired type of relationship
12:45 - Overcoming challenges in interfaith relationships
16:30 - What she felt was unfair
22:40 - Fear of putting herself in the same situation again
23:10 - Exercises in CCC, on guilt and shame
24:35 - Believing that you can make decisions more in alignment with yourself
25:05 - Committing to your vision of love
28:00 - Dealing with guilt: an example
32:10 - Her takeaway: determining her values
33:14 - Interfaith relationship advice
Links mentioned in this episode:
Register for the next open coaching session:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAuceuuqz4iGN25FmjmYSe2jR4nKQr8QPCu
Attract Your Match Game Plan Call
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
How to stop wasting time with a relationship that's going nowhere S6E32
You don’t need to go through pain and relationship issues for months or years on end to find a valuable man who is worthy of you. Today’s episode brings to you freshly brewed stories for the Captivating Courtship Code which are examples to tell you How and why to stop wasting time with a relationship that’s going nowhere.
Many high-achieving women rush into the dating and courtship process, focusing solely on the outcome. This will lead to being in cycles of non-committal relationships, investing in emotionally unavailable men or toxic, narcissistic men, and hot & cold relationships. In doing this, endless time is wasted hoping for a man to commit and come around.
The problem lies in how much we value our time and when we don’t value our time, how can we expect anyone else to value it? If you want love, trust, emotional connection, stability, and a partner who is authentically aligned to your personal and professional life, you have to be confident about their commitment level and you don’t have the time to waste it on convincing them to prove your worth to a man or relationship that makes you feel insecure and doubtful.
High-achieving women almost always face pressure to succeed in all areas of life - career, relationships, personal commitments, and simultaneous pressure to not be weak through all of this. The obvious result is stress and stress leads them to complicate relationships and over-extend themselves physically, emotionally, and even financially.
You must practice getting out of your mind and into your body, heart, and gut. Your gut is your feminine intuition and that is your superpower in the courtship and dating journey. Pay attention to whether he is using language that includes you in his future plans. Is he consistent in his investment in you? Is he respectful of the boundaries that you create or is he breaching them? It is also on you to not just create but also keep these boundaries irrespective of who comes and goes. When you spend more time reflecting on your relationship patterns and experiences, you will see long-term authentic shifts in the quality of your life and relationships.
Take a deep dive into this episode to gain valuable insight into the hows and whys of not wasting your time in nowhere relationships.
Time Stamps in this episode:
00:00 - Introduction
2:15 - Shifts you see once you start the inner work
4:13 - Storytime!
7:30 - Why CCC does not have scripts
12:40 - Commitment readiness
12:50 - Long-distance courtship
13:50 - Attention is not intention
14:04 - Story 2
15:55 - What often happens in Long Distance Relationships
17:52 - Learning to value your own time
20:13 - Story 3
22:17 - Are you prepared to move?
23:52 - You don’t have time to waste
25:00 - Investing time in a relationship that makes you doubtful
26:52 - 3 Shifts to Attract Commitment
27:12 - Getting out of your mind and into your body
28:18 - The process of attracting low-value relationships
31:12 - Solutions to turn this around!
31:30 - 1. Pay attention to his future plans
32:34 - 2. Is he consistent?
34:29 - 3. Making high-quality relationship decisions
35:32 - 4. Setting and keeping boundaries for the standard you deserve
37:13 - 5. Expressing your needs, desires, and expectations in courtship
38:37 - 6. Spend more time in reflection
40:36 - Surround yourself with a community of women
44:00 - Conclusion
Links mentioned in this episode:
3 Shifts To Avoid Wasting Your Time And Attract The Commitment You Desire S6E13
https://captivatingcourtship.com/3-shifts-to-stop-wasting-time-and-attract-commitment-s6e13/
Attract Your Match Game Plan Call
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship S6E31
Humility in your spirit is a beautiful virtue to have but it can make you shrink in your courtship process in a way that is unhealthy for both your partner and most importantly, you. Take a deep dive into this episode to know why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship.
Since time immemorial women have been taught to be less, speak less, and express less. It has never been safe for a woman, especially women of color to be seen and heard. We grow with generational trauma and triggers that severely impact our understanding and expression of our most authentic selves. It is not unexpected then, that we develop the idea that we have to shrink ourselves in order to be loved, valued, and respected. If we don’t, we fear that there will be rejection and abandonment.
Many women are what we would call, modern traditionalists. Women who have worked hard to create a completely modern life but the values they hold are traditional. In that case, a traditional or an anti-traditional man can again force us to shrink our boundaries, needs, and wants. If we don’t, there comes the fear of rejection again.
However, although this may come across as contradictory, the truth is you can have both - balancing modernity and traditional values. Navigating the complexities of courtship can be challenging but the real problem is not external. It is the self-doubt, the insecurity of being too successful and still not being enough, it is the disbelief in the ability to have a fulfilling relationship. This happens because we place our value in external things like our home-making skills or our sex appeal or mostly, our accomplishments.
The solution to this? Setting boundaries in courtship and embracing your most, authentic self, placing your value in your growth. The end goal here is overcoming self-doubt in dating, and owning your value in courtship because if you don’t, humility can keep you in a loop of compromise. Inner-work for successful women isn’t easy as you must challenge the beliefs that come up and question your worthiness, making you want to hold back and shrink but this reprogramming of how you show up in a relationship is the most important takeaway from today’s episode. Listen now!
Time stamps for this episode:
00:00 - Introduction
1:33 - On Lifestyle Shifting
11:18 - Storytime!
15:55 - Is it okay to not be heard?
17:08 - Generational impacts of trauma
19:03 - Wanting to be enough
19:22 - Modern traditionalist in relationships
21:55 - Trophy partners and the problem with looking at them as a prize
24:48 - The reason why humility does not serve successful women in dating and courtship
26:58 - Problem 1: Self-doubt and insecurity in your own worth and value
Problem 2: Fear of rejection and abandonment
30:35 - The solution to these two problems
32:00 - Embracing Your Authentic Self in Courtship
33:30 - Honoring and enforcing your boundaries
35:42 - Reclaiming Your Worth: Ending the Cycle of Settling for Less in Relationships
36:53 - The changes you will notice once you start the inner-work
37:47- 5 Tips for Cultivating Self-Worth: Building Confidence to Pursue a Fulfilling Courtship
37:53 - 1. Identify & challenge limiting beliefs
39:32 - 2. Create new routines
40:30 - 3. Work on building effective communication skills
41:45 - 4. Practicing sharing and communicating with a community of women
47:17 - 5. Prioritizing and Investing in personal development and growth
49:00 - Accelerating your courtship process
49:41 - Humility - the virtue that can become a vice
50:00 - Conclusion
Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Attract Your Match Game Plan Call
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Courtship Mistake 3&4- Not knowing how to meet, qualify, and get courted by valuable men S6E30
If you have been dedicating 10-15 years of your life to education, growth, and self-development, you deserve a partner who understands you and is authentically aligned with your values. Today’s episode brings you an in-depth dive into the 3rd and 4th mistakes of the Courtship Mistakes series of episodes in our podcast!
If you find yourself jumping into situations that don’t go too far, it is because there is somewhere in you a lack of confidence in your own ability to feel valued, loved, and respected. There is thus a high level of urgency and you don’t trust any man, no matter how valuable to take his time to make the decision to commit to you. The problem, to begin with, is ourselves. If we don’t truly believe in the value we bring to the table, how can we expect to be able to qualify a man?
This could look like a disaster, but these human mistakes need action. You need clarity to first know and then own your authentic value, you need to open up your social circles and tap those social resources for your courtship process too to meet these valuable men around you (believe us when we say there are plenty). You have to very necessarily take the effort to go through the courtship process in a way that is intentional and will lead to commitment. This is where knowing how to get courted, and stepping back into your feminine energy comes into the picture.
It’s not a rule but this is why at Captivating Courtship, we focus on getting to know how men think and their perspective in commitment psychology. It truly could be life-changing for your courtship process. The Love Loft is a tool that has the power to transform your framework, shake and reconstruct your belief system and most importantly get you commitment-ready so you can meet, qualify, and get courted by valuable men.
Take a plunge into this insightful episode and know what not to do when you’re trying to court for commitment!
Time Stamps For This Episode:
00:00 - Introduction
1:55 - Comparison is the thief of joy
2:50 - Why you deserve an authentically aligned partner
4:04 - Importance of understanding commitment ready levels
5:00 - Mistakes 3&4 introduction
5:13 - 2 processes to help attract quality men
7:00 - There actually are valuable commitment-ready men around
7:20 - Importance of understanding the way he thinks
9:44 - High-achieving women vs high-achieving men
13:08 - What a man truly wants
16:27 - The 4 big problems
21:00 - The Love Loft Introduction
21:54 - The signature 6-Step Process
22:03 - Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
23:13 - Attracting from a place of distrust
23:40 - Helping you embody the Queen energy
24:15 - Helping you to meet men
24:57 - Knowing how to move through a courtship that ends up in commitment
25:08 - Getting grounded in your favorite energy
25:38 - Make commitment decisions & conversations
26:36 - The Love Loft - A deeper look
30:00 - Conclusion
Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship/
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
Courtship Mistake #2 Not Understanding Commitment Readiness Levels S6E29
Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself.
A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point where you are able to receive that commitment healthily.
There are cold guys, warm ones, and hot guys. Cold guys are inconsistent, rejecting, and emotionally unavailable. You only attract the hot & ready ones when you yourself are self-secure and fully commitment ready. There can be endless debate on the third type of guy - the warm guy.
Warm guys who are valuable and ready to explore are tough to decipher. Not courted with intent and knowledge, warm guys can even turn cold. Then there are men who are valuable and warm but they’re not commitment-ready. Many women get stuck in these grey spaces with valuable and warm guys who they think are hot guys.
The underlying truth is you can’t expect every man you meet to be “The One”. We are actively working in the Captivating Courtship Code to break these stereotypes. The common thing about all three types of guys is: they come to teach you. You must be open to receiving and learning from each man you meet. The more experience you gain, the more value you show up with, in the ultimate relationship that later turns into a successful and valuable marriage.
Dive into this episode to learn about the three types of men, three things that could happen when you meet these men, and what you can do when you meet a warm, valuable guy.
Time Stamps for the episode:
00:00 - Introduction
1:40 - What is a commitment?
2:10 - Check-In with Yourself
4:00 - You have to be able to receive a commitment
4:33 - Three Types of Guys
10:20 - What to expect from guys in the relationship market?
14:02 - Every man you meet is not going to be your husband
15:18 - 3 things that could happen when you get out there and meet men
16:55 - More on the 3 types of men|
20:20 - How Warm Guys Are Different
22:28 - Conclusion
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Courtship Mistake #1 Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men S6E28
In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men.
Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional women who desire to partner with men they deem as valuable.
It became clear they had no real idea how to identify a man of value and how to focus their energy on being courted by them. Even if they had attracted these types of men in the past, they didn’t actually know why they attracted them, or how to meet more men they actually desire to partner with.
The big problem for these women, and maybe even you, is that valuable men meet women with the same accolades often. Women who are successful, educated, and attractive. That’s not enough to feel emotionally moved to commit. You must understand the psychology of commitment. Why they want to commit to a woman and how the process of commitment works so the relationship naturally and authentically moves in that direction, or you will find yourself in hot-cold relationships and situationships.
Two important things women need to consider: Valuable men want women like you and there are lots of valuable men available, right now.
Today's podcast breaks it down and provides a clear understanding and perspective of the shifts necessary to focus your energy on valuable men so that you can attract the types of men you deserve.
Time Stamps for this episode:
00:00 - Introduction
3:15 - Not attracting commitment
4:15 - What is a valuable man?
7:21 - Building an authentic connection
7:30 - Logical Attraction
9:00 - How successful women will sometimes fear a valuable man's circle of influence
9:35 - Accolades aren't enough to move a man to commit
10:13 - Not understanding commitment psychology
10:35 - Do you believe you're worthy of a valuable relationship or do you question it?
11:11 - You are already worthy enough to attract a valuable partner
11:49 - Successful women are often the first of their kind
14:15 - How you will notice shifts in your life once you start working on yourself
15:25 - Holding the initial interest beyond the initial desire
15:57 - Low value thoughts and emotions arising in courtship
17:00 - Valuable men actually want women like you
17:42 - What makes a valuable man feel supported?
19:42 - You already have the qualities that you value in someone else
21:26 - The odds are in your favor
22:07 - Envisioning life with a valuable partner
23:00 - Attract Your Match Game Plan Call
23:26 - Two reasons you're not attracting commitment ready men
24:00 - Conclusion
Links mentioned in this episode:
Book a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan call
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Take Assessment to Discover Your Path to Love
www.captivatingcourtship.com/queenofcourtship
Apply to coaching
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Questions? DM Zara on Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship
6 Courtship Mistakes Made by Successful Women And How to Correct Them S6E27
You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep.
Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head, sit with it, embody it. Because you are about to actually find these “imaginary” men like many other women in this community did.
When you repeat the same actions and expect different results, you disappoint yourself and get stuck in the Loop of Distrust. However, changing your courtship actions and decisions can be a first step to having valuable relationships with a man worthy of your time and effort.
This episode gives us a quick and impressionable glance at 6 courtship mistakes made by successful women like you and how you can correct them. Tune right in and click on the link below for a 20 minute Attract Your Match Game Plan Call which will guide you with actionable steps on starting your courtship journey right.
Time Stamps For This Episode:
00:00 - Introduction
1:25 - Envisioning Valuable Men
4:02 - Spending more time living your vision
5:00 - Making different courtship decisions
7:40 - Shifting the focus of your energy
8:59 - First Mistake
9:52 - Quality men vs Valuable men
11:01 - Second Mistake
12:07 - Third Mistake
13:07 - Fourth Mistake
14:30 - 5 Steps for commitment
15:08 - Fifth Mistake
16:19 - Sixth Mistake
17:30 - Conclusion: Attract Your Match Game Plan Call
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment
www.captivatingcourtship.com/contact
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
Better Hormonal Health & Relationships w: Jasmine Filiatrault S6E26
DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process?
This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yourself! Your hormones also can affect how you emotionally react, communicate and navigate your relationships and your love life.
In this episode, Zara J. interviews Jasmine Filiatrault, who is an ER Nurse and a specialist on Hormonal Health and Relationships, who takes us on a journey of how her mother had Endometriosis, her struggles with her cycles as a young woman and how she discovered the path to feminine wellness.
We learn about hormonal health, PMS, uterus alchemy, period cramps, birth control methods, their pros and cons AND fertility which is a concern to many women listening to this podcast because you’re looking to start a family or you see commitment and marriage in your future plans!
Take away life changing knowledge and tips from this enlightening episode of Captivating Courtship Podcast. LISTEN NOW!
Time-Stamps for the Episode:
0:00 - Intro
2:58 - Jasmine’s background and life
4:12 - Jasmine’s painful period cramps, is that normal?
4:32 - What happened to her body on birth control pills
7:07 - Birth Control stopped, IUD started
14:26 - Why do doctors insist on other solutions outside hormonal balance and nutrition?
17:55 - Jasmine specializing in hormonal health
19:05 - Women pick better partners, make better decisions when not on birth control
19:35 - Certification in Australia
21:25 - Do we inherit period/hormonal issues from our mothers?
24:02 - Over-working out
25:55 - Why is hormonal health something that matters?
30:26 - What is one of the biggest misconceptions some women have about their hormones?
31:29 - Can you have COFFEE?
33:45 - How Jasmine assessed Zara and her hormones!
35:05 - 3 to 5 big things YOU’RE ignoring!
40:43 - Funny Story by Zara
43:15 - Cancer, Breast Cancer
46:36 - How your hormonal imbalances are directly impacting YOUR LOVE LIFE!
49:37 - Misconception you might have about hormonal health or fertility!
53:13 - Tips for someone NOT ON BIRTH CONTROL!
54:20 - Concluding notes and tips.
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment
https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Relationship Patterns pt3- Tips to create new healthy, authentic relationship patterns S6E25
If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship - what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life.
If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you and the voice in your head that tells you it’s not, is lying to you. No matter how much action you take, if your mindset does not welcome new, healthy relationship patterns, you are not going to be able to bring about a substantial change in your love life. This is exactly what is called self-sabotage.
In this episode, we discuss that the key to changing this is being powerfully vulnerable & transparent with yourself about what you want in your relationship and taking full ownership of the choices you make in your courtship & dating journey. You have to decide that your old patterns are not serving you any longer and you want to make the decision to be committed to making your future happen.
Listen to this podcast to finally give yourself the permission to not shrink yourself when you decide to dream, think and live big. You are allowed to design a Captivating Life with a man who wants to grow with you.
Link in bio, listen now.
In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Learn how to be on the driver's seat of your love life.
You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!
Time Stamps For This Episode:
00:00 - Introduction
00:29 - Self Care Weekends
4:01 - Cycle of repeat experiences
6:20 - You should know this, if you really want a marriage & family life
7:57 - Owning the desire for a partner
10:06 - You have to get clear on your patterns
12:00 - You have help available to you
12:33 - 5 Tips to create new authentic, high value relationships
13:05 - 1st Tip
16:47 - 2nd Tip
19:24 - 3rd Tip
24:00 - 4th Tip (The Gap)
26:58 - Make the Decision (You are committed to make that happen)
30:00 - Note on Making Decisions
34:32 - There is no Plan B
35:58 - Conclusion
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset
https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Relationship Patterns pt2: 3 Relationship patterns to shift to attract better partners S6E24
Of the top three relationship pattern types (The Too Goods, The Love MEs and the Trophies), which one are you? Most people fit into one dominating pattern type and one or two other sub pattern types.
Not knowing and owning your authentic value in a relationship may be happening because your inner girl is still choosing your partners and making decisions in your relationships. So, you seek validation or settle in a relationship.
In this episode, we deep dive into the three main relationship pattern types to understand what each type can do to break a toxic pattern and create new patterns that take their relationships to the next level.
Listen to this podcast episode to know how to reverse this and shift all control to the hands of your authentic adult self. This will help you create the high value love life you’ve always wanted to manifest.
Link in bio. Listen Now!
In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. You too can make your way through the courtship process and qualify & attract a man who is aligned with the love life you’ve always wanted to manifest.
You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!
Time Stamps For This Episode:
00:00 - Introduction
1:49 - 3 most popular pattern types
5:06 - The Too Goods
9:10 - The Love Mes
12:07 - The Trophies
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset
https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Relationship Patterns pt1- Deep dive into discovering your relationship patterns S6E23
In this episode, Zara breaks down why discovering your relationship patterns will be the turning point of your love life- not just for your love life but your other relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your self image.
What takes you from being a Wounded Princess to a Captivating Queen is healing your inner child. Your inner child has felt insecure, abandoned, ignored, unheard and triggered. This is why, even now, your inner child is running the show. This is why, after all these years of relationships, you could feel like you “ruin” even good relationships even though that’s not your fault you went through all that at such a young age. This is why your inner child needs to heal.
Because you value your love, career, finances and time, learning how to communicate your value to the right types of men is essential so that you can attract the right kind of relationship.
In exciting news, Captivating Courtship is holding a 3 Day Relationship Reset! It will be a 3 day live virtual event and it will leave you with the tools and knowledge you need to reset your love life in the next 30 days. Time for you to get intentional and take action. Allow yourself the opportunity to hit the “RESET” button on your love life!
Time Stamps for This Episode
00:00 - Introduction
1:19 - What Transformed Zara’s Life
3:50 - Why Matchmaking Was A Challenge
5:05 - Turning Point For Zara
5:26 - Why You Probably Sabotaged That Perfect Relationship
8:24 - Zara’s Breaking Point
10:46 - You Are Gonna Have To Do The Work To Bring Change
12:23 - How Zara’s Heartbreak Made Her Feel
14:23 - This Time Zara Focused On Herself
17:14 - Zara & Hypnotherapy
19:50 - Zara’s Decision to Captivating Courtship
21:40 - Patterns
26:22 - Why It Might Not Be Working For You
28:28 - You Don’t Have To Live A Life Of Regret
31:00 - Why Your Inner Child Needs To Heal
33:17 - 3 Day Relationship Reset & Conclusion
Links Mentioned In This Episode
Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset https://buy.stripe.com/8wM8xdbLxf6Z97qaEV
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Captivating Testimonial - Married Abroad & Becoming an Emotionally Available Woman w/ The Captivating Courtship Code Relationship Coaching S6E22
If you attract emotionally unavailable men there may be a chance you are also emotionally unavailable. Do you want to know how to build and turn a long distance courtship into marriage? Maryama says “Don’t wait until things get worse. The sooner you take action, the better your life will be!”
If you’re a successful millennial woman and you have been actively courting and dating and you don’t know where to start, this podcast is tailor-made for YOU!
When she joined coaching, Maryama felt like she had “nothing to lose” and she needed “external help to figure out” her love life. From the Captivating Courtship Community, she found the examples, healing and relationship skills she needed to attract the right match for her. Coaching helped her also establish healthy boundaries and improve her career and her relationships, she finally learnt to advocate for herself!
In this episode, Captivating Courtship Code student shares her journey of becoming an emotionally available woman, attracting love, getting married and moving abroad. We dive into tips for long distance relationships and what made her decide to commit to her husband and take the leap to get married.
Get to know how Maryama turned around her love life and the ONE thing that was holding her back! She also gives us a sneak peak into her life as a wife and how coaching has impacted that. Head over to the podcast and LISTEN NOW!
Time Stamps:
00:00 - Introduction
2:22 - Where Maryama was before she joined coaching
5:57 - The benefits she had after joining coaching
8:07 - Maryama’s No.1 thing to work on when she joined coaching
10:23 - How she turned around her No.1 thing to work on
13:27 - How Maryama met her husband during coaching
16:30 - Long distance before marriage
20:40 - What about her husband was a “YES!” for her?
23:00 - What impact did coaching have on how Maryama shows up now as a wife?
25:20 - What has life been like now?
27:00 - Her wedding!
28:16 - Moving abroad and some important advice!
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment
https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
Trust IS difficult after Betrayal: How to trust again & attract love S6E21
YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO FIND LOVE!
The good news is that you can rewire it.
Do you feel like every time you take one step forward with attracting a partner, you go three steps back in your love life? Do you at this point question your desirability or ability to find love?
We are all operating on negative thought loops and patterns we default to because they feel familiar and safe. The way out of this cycle is to learn how to process from the present and the future instead of your past. You have to get new experiences that validate new beliefs. You have to rebuild your trust muscle so your brain has proof that you can have the type of relationship and commitment you want from the types of men you want.
Listen to this podcast to make high quality relationship decisions so that you can attract the right partner faster and to get more information and action to develop the skills you will need in this courtship journey with us!
We have a Freebie for you today. It's called Total Package Confidence. It breaks down the pillars of stepping into the best version of yourself and that includes trust & intuition. To get the free download, message Zara on Instagram, “TPC”.
Time Stamps for the Episode:
00:00 - Intro
4:16 - Time is now to make your love life a priority!
6:17 - The Loop of Distrust and its effects
14:47 - Attracting the same type of men
16:54 - How To Break The Loop of Distrust
18:14 - First & Second Hand Proof
18:57 - Captivating Courtship Coaching Community - why YOU should be part too!
Links Mentioned In This Episode:
Get FREEBIE DM “TPC” on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship
Attract Your Match Game Plan Appointment
https://Captivatingcourtship.as.me/?appointmentType=37891515
Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program
www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching
Queen of Courtship Assessment
https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/610be21f0713020017ea30ce
Questions? Send Zara a DM on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/zarajcaptivatingcourtship