Busting Through Life's Challenges with Diane Parker

This recording is the audio of my ebook, The Good Grief Guide.  This guide has been created for you from my own experience of my loss of my husband and how I was physically and mentally during those first few weeks.  Please remember that you are unique and so is your experience.  For those of you currently struggling, my hope is that you find some comfort in the pages. 

As a coach I understood what was happening in my head, and how I was feeling like I was in another "space and time" to everyone around me.  How I could not retain conversations.  Being asked to make decisions, which quite frankly, I would have had trouble with on a good day.

There is nothing wrong with you.  This is grief, the emotion.  We are told that it is a process that implies an end.  There is no end.  But when you come to understand grief, it will empower you, it will help you heal your pain of your loss.  But all that is for another day.  The purpose of this guide is to help you now.  To help you navigate through these first days weeks, perhaps months of your loss.  

I created this because people were telling me that their friend/loved one needed my help.  I would ask, how long have they been bereft to be told just days.  That may just be too soon for someone to work on their grief, but I asked myself, "how can I help, what would have helped me"? 

And so, this ebook has been created.  If you have come across this recording but have not received the book, please email me at diane@lifeafterlossiom.com or ask a friend to do that for you.

for now, I am sending you a consoling hug and much love

Diane x

My wonderful guest today is Sara M. Hegy Ahmed who talks about her experience the origins of suicidal thoughts and the essential elements to win her journey over them.

Sara shares what worked and what didn't work for her in her recovery and how she found the answers in coaching.

Sara now is a successful coach who helps entrepreneurs and leaders create freedom and abundance; both in their environment and life.  You can contact Sara on face book or LinkedIn.

If you would like to know more about my services, face book, LinkedIn, Instagram, or www.lifeafterlossiom.com diane@resultscoachingiom.com

See you soon!

ps this is 40 minutes long not an hour as displayed.

Have you ever wondered what Cranial Sacral Therapies was?  I did.  I thought it would be along the lines of a gentle Osteopath or Chiropractor!  How wrong I was.  This is a gentle non invasive treatment, and I am delighted to share this conversation with Caroline today who explains how it works and who can benefit from this treatment.

You can find Caroline on face book and indeed, you can find me.  Busting Through Life's Challenges and Grief with Di Parker. or email Diane@resultscoachingiom.com

Delighted to be joined today by Victoria Gore who shares her own personal journey of suicidal thoughts, as young as 13 years of age.  Victoria shares what helped her and now how she helps others in the work that she does with Holistic Recovery Services.

If you have any questions regarding today's podcast please do email me at diane@resultscoachingiom.com as Victoria has agreed to come along at a future date to help answer them. If you need help or support please do reach out, either to myself, Victoria or someone in your area.  

Together you can dismantle the feelings of overwhelm and find a path to heal.

Do you ever stop and ask yourself why you do what you do?  We generally have stories attached to this, and I am no exception.  In today's episode I share with you my story of how my husband's illness made significant changes in my life and why I am so passionate about what I do.

Challenged by my coaching team, this can also be found on my Youtube channel Busting Life's Challenges with Di Parker

If you would like to get in touch with me about your life's challenges, please contact diane@Lifeafterlossiom.com with any questions or suggestions of topics for my next podcasts.

Bye for now

I am so delighted to have Beverly Radley on my show today talking about Flower Essences and how they can help you with your healing.  

Beverly explains how the process is created, and how this improved as she opened up to the pain of her losses, ending up with her creating powerful essences.  

Her range for grief has been so successful, she is now launching a new range.  Acceptance is one.  Beverly shared that that was a pretty bitter tasting one.  For this to evolve, Beverly had to Accept that she was supposed to do this work.  Another is Unconditional Love.  We say it but do we mean that, or does it come with conditions attached.  We know that that is not unconditional, right? This new blend of Unconditional Love helps you stay in pure love, buy expecting "no answer". Just be love. 

Cherish is another soon to be released.  To come to a place where you can truly "Cherish" yourself.  Along with "Comfort" out of the Grief range, these can all help you find yourself, especially after a significant loss. 

How does it work?  We have known for years the healing properties of plants, by way of aromatherapy oils.  Many potions were created from plants and Flower Essences deliver yet another way in which helps the emotions heal.  

Our mental health is not always "seen" but felt, carried and can become engrained in our make-up.  All of these can then make an impact on our lives on so many levels, from how you deal with grief in respect of your losses.  

You can find Beverly Radley on Face Book "Breakthrough From Within" or visit her website www.etsy.com/uk/shop/BreakthroughEssences.  If you would like to find out more about my services please visit www.lifeafterlossiom.com or email diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

This will also be my last podcast called Life After Loss.  I will of course still be talking about Grief, but will be more focusing on your challenges and helping you "bust through" these in the weeks to come.

My thanks to today's guest Jenny Rencher Dilts, a Grief Coach sharing her story on how she became a interested in Grief Coaching and now has a podcast where people can come along and share their stories in order to help others start talking more openly about grief.  This of course is something that we both share, to empower you to talk more, find out more about this emotion which will sadly show up in your life.  

You can message Jenny at Grief.Coach.com or find her here on Anchor, alternatively, face book.

email me with your questions:    Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself is to stop, think about where you are in life and ask, are you happy?  Do you need to change your direction?

Do you need help to do this?  Do you think that it is impossible?  Do you suffer from mental health problems such as depression or anxiety?

All that is needed is a willingness that you deserve more or better than where you are at, and have the desire to make changes.

Some are subtle changes and some are totally mind blowing.  

Remember you can email me for any help at diane@lifeafterlossiom.com or why not join me on one of my free workshops. See my website for full details.  www.lifeafterlossiom.com. 

On today's podcast I talk to Helen Bowler of Memories Box.  Helen has put together these beautiful box sets for children from the age of 3 to help them grief and understand their losses.  Helen talks about how she became inspired to create these Memory Boxes and how they have helped some of her clients.

It is so important to talk about loss with children to give them space to be heard about their feelings.  Whether that is the death of a grandparent or a hamster!  We give you tips during this podcast and if you would like to find out more, then please contact me at diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

Helen can be found on her face book page Memories Box.  

One of the hardest, yet now best things I have done for a difficult situation is reach out for help.  Today I share some of the fears that can stop people asking for help.  Alienation is not a new thing to happen to families, it is extremely sad.  When someone wants to make the journey back to their family or heal old wounds, I share some ways that this can be done. All you need is a willing and open heart.

Dedicated to Andrew, forever in our hearts. 

In this episode I touch on something I am personally going through at the moment, which is my loss of a relationship with one of my sons, and my granddaughters.  I talk about why I am sharing this, and about comparing losses.  Remember that you are unique and the way in which you grieve is unique. 

Any support or if you would like to talk, email Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com or schedule a call through my website www.lifeafterlossiom.com

Time is our most precious gift so how do you spend yours?  Struggling to find time to have fun? Do you make lists but never seem to get to the end?  This short podcast will share a few tips on how you can take action, create more time and make those lists flow.....

Today I talk about the impact that unresolved grief has on the mind and body.  Inspired from some articles I am working on for LinkedIn, I share with you some of the reasons why some people have difficulty understanding grief and how that affects their physical bodies. For example, that sore throat you have maybe because you are trying to get your words out but keep swallowing them down!   In this episode I explain by sharing areas of my own journey with you.

In the early weeks of my widowhood, I went from feeling deeply depressed and not wanting to do anything, to wearing that academy award recovery mask of "I'm Fine".  A time when you really shouldn't make big decisions. 

I also share with you the different losses that you can have not realize that you are grieving, and the impact that that can have on your mind and body.

Anyone wanting to get in touch regarding today's or any other podcast can reach me at Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

Choosing to recover from your loss can be the biggest step you take.  Most feel as did I that that might mean forgetting the person in the case of a bereavement.  Of course, nothing could be further from the truth.  In this episode I share my early steps from dealing with depression in my grief to recovery.

Taking responsibility for things in your life by looking at different patterns of behaviour that you might have picked up as a child.  This will help you think about how you deal with things in your life, from reacting from everything that happens to responding!  This can be a subtle change with a big impact.  

Any questions, please send an email to Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com or join the Lets Talk Life After Loss Facebook group.

Today on Lets Talk Life After Loss I share with you the replacing losses part of the Grief Recovery Method and how understanding this can have a big impact on some of your decisions going forward.

What do you do when a relationship ends?  Marriage ends? Pet dies? or you find yourself widowed.  Do you go from one relationship to another?  Fearful of having another relationship just you seem to attract the same type of people? Do you replace your pet before they pass?

I share my own story of being a widow, and how having completed the GRM, I found myself in a place ready to welcome a new relationship, both unique and special.

Any questions about today's podcast?  Then come and join me in my workshop to be held on 26th June at 10am.  Email Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com to register.  

Our sense of smell is a strongest one, linked from when we were first born and knew our mother's smell, then the milk.  When I discovered Linda and doTERRA oils, it was no surprise to me how much benefit you can get from smelling them.  I did not realise all the additional benefits as you will hear in this episode when Linda shares her story.   Bad shoulder surgery, widowed with her oils along the way supporting each step.  

Linda shares her story about working through the Grief Recovery Method Programme and discovering the oil Console, which I now give to some of my clients struggling when they first arrive to start the programme.  

If you would like to find out more about doTERRA or the Grief Recovery Method programme, please email me on Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

In today's episode I am sharing my journey at the start, when my late husband was diagnosed with his illness and we spent our early days living in the fear of him dying.  A combination of other things happening around the same time all had me feeling overwhelmed leading to a meltdown.  That was a bad time, but also a good time.  That was the start of my journey which has lead me to you today.  

If you are currently living your life in fear, I hope that you can find some helpful tips in this recording and if you feel the need, please reach out for support.  You can also email me at Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com.  Pushing through fear may feel hard, but it is well worth it.  Find the courage and live your best life.

Caroline Etherington is Caroline Etherington Therapies and can be contacted through her face book page.  Caroline talks about the effects of her mothers bereavement, lockdown and how she has used what she discovered completing the Grief Recovery Method with me.

I may sound a little spacy during this recording as I had just enjoyed one of Caroline's Cranial Sacral Massages!  A wonderful relaxing treatments, very much appreciated.

If you would like to find out more about my services or tell your story on my podcast, then please do get in touch.  Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

A very difficult subject to talk about but Anna has discovered the freedom that comes from seeking help.  Anna talks openly about what the affects of the attack left her living with, how she was trying to deal with the emotions and how the Grief Recovery Method helped her heal the pain of her loss.  Loss of self-esteem, confidence has a massive effect on how we see the world we live in, how that in turn influences how we are with others, friends family and relationships.

Anna also talks about her recent challenge to complete a Sprint Triathlon to support Lupis UK.  If you would like to add to her support simply go to www.justgiving.com/fundraising/anna-parker12 

If you resonate with any of the topics covered in today's podcast, please seek out a professional to talk to.  Alternatively you can visit or email me.

www.lifeafterlossiom.com or email diane@lifeafterlossiom.com 

We have all had to face difficult conversations in the home and workplace.   Whether you have to deliver these conversations or been the recipient of them, we all know that the "conversations" we have with ourselves about them can make us feel worse than the actual chat.  With the right skills and strategies in place, you can make these "Courageous Conversations" easier to deliver. Join us on Tuesday 11th May at 10.30am to find out how to structure, begin the process and create that successful outcome you desire.

This podcast is going out ahead of our second online workshop, and we plan to run a few more.  You can find the link on my LinkedIn page, or through Gill Leece of the Learning Curve, and Nicola Quayle of Positive Solutions HR.  All online courses are through Event Brite. 

On today's show I share what the structure of the Grief Recovery Method programme is and how this has impacted my clients as they have worked through the programme.

Have you been pushing your emotions down inside you with regard to your losses?  Find out how understanding this has helped my clients and can help you.

Any questions for my next podcast, please email me Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com and I will cover these on my next episode of You Ask, I will Answer

Hello, I am Diane Parker and I am a Grief and Loss Coach.  Widowed 2016, and my little sister 2017 I completed the Grief Recovery Method Training in between these two significant losses.

I am sharing my story in the hope that I can get more people talking about their losses, whether that is death, divorce, relationships, finances, health or career!  Let us share and support.  I am launching today on what would have been my 36th Wedding Anniversary!  And so I am dedicating my Podcast show to Andrew, and my sister Pauline.  Forever in our hearts.

There are many questions that people ask me before deciding to work with me and so I thought I would share some with you all.  More to follow.

If you have any questions, why not drop me a line Diane@lifeafterlossiom.com

Today I share my story with Julie Owen, from Chase Wealth Solutions here on the Isle of Man.  Julie came into my life after my losses and I really wish I had known someone like her before my loss.  

My hope is that you will allow yourself to have some of those difficult conversations and make sure this doesn't happen to you!

I have met so many lovely people and the saddest for me is when I can see what pain their are in from their losses, but decide to stay holding onto the pain.

I know it may be that the time is not right for them at this moment, but it does raise the question, Why?  Why would you chose to hold onto pain of your losses?  Lets explore in today's podcast

There are many losses that we experience in life, and this is one woman's experience of how she tried to have her own family, how that in turn shaped her life.

Sharing our personal stories can help others understand and support where they currently are in their own journey, dealing with losses. Indeed,  how their life changes on their path with the obstacles we all experience.

My thanks to Dianne for her courage in sharing her story.