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STFU: We Are Not Done Talking Yet

STFU: We Are Not Done Talking Yet

By Charla & Danielle
Two conversational mavens discuss current events, popular culture, writing, books, movies, and women’s lives. We are smart, funny and occasionally profane.
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Poet of the Mississippi: Laura Hansen
Join us for a fun and wide-ranging conversation with Laura L Hansen, poet, librarian, former bookstore owner, and resident of Little Falls, Minnesota. Laura lives and works along the Mississippi River,  which is her muse. She also graces us with readings of her beautiful poems, some old and some brand new.  You can find out more about her and order her books at 
June 13, 2020
Covid Life: The Millennial Masked Edition
In which Danielle and Charla talk to Danielle's daughter and her roommate about 20-something life during the time of coronavirus. What's it like to quarantine with roommates? Date during a pandemic? Are you still employed? What are your friends doing? Where did you get that cute mask? Yep, three out of four of us were wearing cloth masks! 
June 4, 2020
Grief: Monica Welty Writes and Sings Her Story
Monica is a writer living in Portland, Oregon. She suffered an enormous loss and writes about it exquisitely.
May 30, 2020
The Wonderful World of Flower Essences with Ruth Toledo Altschuler
Flower Essences are a subtle, yet powerful healing modality. We speak with Ruth Toledo Altschuler, a longtime practitioner and leader in this field, about how to help our healing paths with Flower Essences during the Pandemic.
May 14, 2020
Buckminster Fuller, 20th Century Leonardo da Vinci
Join us on a voyage of discovery and learn all about Buckminster Fuller from one of his biggest fans, Patricia Ravasio. You know him as the creator of the geodesic dome, but he was much more than that. Steve Jobs called him the 20th-century Leonardo da Vinci. Patricia Ravasio has written a book called "The Girl from Spaceship Earth" (endorsed by environmentalist Bill McKibben) about her fascination with this American architect, systems theorist, author, designer, inventor, and futurist. In this episode, she tells us all about Bucky and why his words of wisdom matter today more than ever.
May 6, 2020
From the lost files: April 3rd Forgotten Pandemic Podcast
Yup. It's from April 3. We forgot to edit and publish it. Staying calm in the strangest times our world has experienced since World War II. Nia Classes via Zoom with Danielle Yoga with Adriene Italians send messages to themselves from 10 days ago Zoom Krisp for noise cancellation
April 27, 2020
Talking about Beekeeping with Mike Stephanos, the Bees Knees
We call Mike Stephanos, Contra Costa County, California long-time beekeeper, about hobby and professional beekeeping. Danielle is a 5-year beekeeper (mostly) enjoying the Zen of Bees.
April 17, 2020
Author Samantha Dunn on Writing, Memoir, and Life During the Coronavirus
Our beloved writing teacher and brilliant writer Samantha Dunn chats finds time to chat with us while running a magazine, teaching writing, working on a new memoir, and home schooling her delightful son. She is funny, engaging, smart, and highly entertaining. Plus she reads from her work-in-progress, a treat you won't want to miss.  Samantha Dunn is the executive editor of Coast Magazine, and the author of several books including the novel Failing Paris and a bestselling memoir, Not By Accident: Reconstructing a Careless Life. Sam’s work is anthologized in a number of places, including the short story anthology, Women on the Edge: Writing from Los Angeles, which she co-edited. She is a member of the Writers Guild of America and teaches at Chapman University. She also directs Writers Camp at Esalen Institute in Big Sur. #samdunn #samanthadunnauthor #memoir #esalen #esalenwriterscamp #womenwriters #samanthadunn
April 7, 2020
Pandemic Edition 2: Chat with Heather Atherton
In this issue, your hosts speak with Heather from Chicago. This show was recorded on March 24, 2020. Many topics are covered: anger and sadness over the pandemic, alternatives to toilet paper and the bidet wand, drinking too much, singing from balconies, Bon Jovi, and peeing on one's ankles while squatting.  #covid19 #pandemic2020 #womenwhowrite #womenwhopodcast #podcast #STFUwearenotdonetalkingyet #stfu #shutthefuckup #shutthefuckuppodcast #stfupodcast #bidet #hydrawand Resources for bidets
March 31, 2020
Helter Skelter: Sheltering in Place and the Coronavirus
Danielle and Charla talk about what's going on with COVID-19 and what to do at home as you shelter in place. Sit back, grab your favorite beverage, and take a listen.  #staythefuckhome #shelterinplace #coronavirus #covid-19  Resources mentioned in our podcast: Yoga with Adriene Italians send messages to themselves from 10 days ago Zoom Krisp for noise cancellation
March 22, 2020
Sex After 50: An Interview with Rachael Cabreira, Certified Sexual Health Clinician
Charla and Danielle talk with Rachael, who is infinitely wise and informative regarding women, aging, menopause, and sex. You can find more information about her practice at and about her product Pure Vitality at #activism #2020election #STFUwearenotdonetalkingyet #STFU #womensissues #vote2020 #sex #sexeducation #sexforover50 #sexualhealing #sexinelderyears #certifiedsexualhealthclinician #rachaelcabreira #innovativewellnessinc #innovativewellness #sexafter50 #youcanstillhavesexwhenyouareold
March 16, 2020
The Conundrum Edition
Danielle and Charla play the Conundrum game, posing either-or situations where neither outcome is particularly good. We were inspired by Slate Political Gabfest #Slatepoliticalgabfest. For instance, if you could choose only fruits or vegetables for the rest of your life, which would you choose? If you have any opinions, please write us at or go to our Facebook page. #conundrum #STFUpodcast #politics #slatepoliticalgabfest #friendship #democraticprimary
February 13, 2020
Seeking Refuge: An Interview with Refugee Expert Barbara Strack
In this podcast, we talk to Barbara L Strack, a refugee expert who retired from the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) in January 2018. She tells us all about the global refugee crisis, the legal definition of a refugee, the history of refugee resettlement programs here and abroad, refugees vs. asylum seekers, and much more. Find out what you can do to help.  Also check out her recent opinion piece in TIME Magazine about how the Trump administration is trying to mislead us about the refugee situation. This interview was recorded on January 21, 2020. The photo was taken at UN Headquarters in Geneva.
February 5, 2020
Make Your Dreams Come True! A Conversation with Laura Geduldig of Vitality Coaching
Join us for a discussion about how to set goals, reach your New Year's resolutions, and make your dreams come true. A twenty-year veteran of life coaching and master certified coach, Laura Geduldig, tells us how to do it. Check out her web site at: or email her at Laura is generously offering our listeners a complimentary 90-minute coaching session and a discount of 20% off a coaching package; this special offer expires February 15, 2020.  #coaching #laurageduldig #nia #niatechnique #mastercoach #goals #goalsetting
January 26, 2020
The Next Generation: A 20-Something Gives Us the Scoop
We speak with 24-year-old Casey O'Brien about her writing career and about her generation's take on politics and the climate crisis. #20somethings #millennials #genz #journalism #activism #2020election #STFUwearenotdonetalkingyet #STFU #womensissues #vote2020
January 16, 2020
Almond Joy: A Conversation With Author Steve Almond
Steve  Almond is an American short-story writer, essayist, and author of ten books, including Against Football, Bad Stories: What the Hell Just Happened to This Country, and William Stoner and the Battle for the Inner Life. Steve co-hosted the podcast Dear Sugars with Cheryl Strayed for four years. This podcast was recorded on December 12, 2019. #dearsugars #stevealmond #stevealmondauthor #badstories #shortstories
January 8, 2020
Our Favorite Non-Profits and Worst/Best Gifts
Here is a list of the groups we talk about in this episode. Trust in Education Contare Con Vivo RIP Medical Debt National Resources Defense Council Center for Biological Diversity Rain Forest Action Network Ocean Conservancy Community Concern for Cats
December 27, 2019
In Search of Mr. Right: The Perils of Online Dating
Danielle's  friend Tonya tells us all about her recent adventures in online dating here in the SF Bay area. It's a jungle out there, people, but Tonya is our intrepid guide. She shares how she navigates the rules,  the weirdos, and the general craziness of searching for Mr. Right.
December 13, 2019
A Conversation with Heather Atherton
Heather reads us a piece called "Placentus Abruptus," a memoir short about her placenta and her reluctance to part with it. Heather asks that if you have feedback of her piece, please contact her at Danielle and Charla can be reached at and
December 7, 2019
Talking Tattoos with Randy Miller, Part 2
Danielle and Charla continue their conversation about tattoos with Randy Miller, dancer extraordinaire, who has adorned his beautiful body with tattoo art starting at age 18. 
November 21, 2019
Talking Tattoos with Randy Miller: Part 1
Charla and Danielle interview the one and only Randy Miller, dancer extraordinaire, to discuss his lifelong fascination with tattoo art and his personal experiences of adorning his body with tattoos. The conversation continues in Part 2, which will be published next week. #tattoos #tattoo #bodyart #piercing #adornment #nia #soulmotion
November 15, 2019
The Millennial Edition
Danielle's daughter, Lila, comes on the show and we ask her about her generation and what they think about the world, the environment, their future, politics, work, and more. It's an enlightening conversation about the differences in thinking between baby boomers and millennials, and what it is like to have had smartphones since age 12. #millennials #millennial #environment #politics #babyboomers #20somethings #genz #journalism #activism #2020election #STFUwearenotdonetalkingyet #STFU #womensissues #vote2020
November 6, 2019
Oh Canada!
In this episode, we speak with Anna and Sandy, who are Danielle's friends from Canada. Many important topics such as Drake and healthcare are discussed. Danielle takes a test to see if she can name 10 provinces. The Great White North does not disappoint.
November 1, 2019
Facing Up to Facebook: The Good, the Bad, the Ugly
Danielle and Charla take a look at Facebook and discuss how they feel about its ubiquitous presence in our lives. 
October 24, 2019
Funny Stories about Our Moms
In this amusing episode, Danielle and Charla regale each other with funny stories about their mothers. Guaranteed to make you laugh and think about your own mother....and cringe.
October 18, 2019
Climate Change
In this episode, we discuss climate change and the effects it is having on our earth, wildlife, and humankind. You can connect with us on Facebook: Email us at:
October 1, 2019
Pet Peeves (Things We Hate) and Things We Love
In this episode, Charla and Danielle discuss things we hate and love.
September 20, 2019
End of Summer Catch-up and Ketamine Update
Charla and Danielle talk about their respective summer activities and Danielle shares more about her ketamine journey. Read more about Ketamine for treatment of depression, anxiety, bipolar, and PTSD on the following web site: #ketamine #ketaminefordepression #treatmentresistantdepression #ketamineheals #ptsd You can reach us by email Coming soon:
September 13, 2019
Ketamine and Kats
In this issue, we discuss Ketamine and its use to treat Treatment Resistant Depression. We also talk about cats, one of our favorite topics. To join our cat group on Facebook, go to #ketamine #ketaminefordepression #ketamineforbipolar Our Facebook page for this podcast is You can email us at
June 13, 2019
Rhino in the Room by Jill Hedgecock
Rhino in the Room was published in September 2018. Jill Hedgecock has written a thrilling book about a father and daughter on safari and their interactions with rhino poachers. Our discussion covers wildlife conservation and how she published her book independently.
June 6, 2019
Interview with Maren Cooper, author of A Better Next: A Novel
Author Maren Cooper talks about her first novel A Better Next, the story of a stressed dual-career couple with overlapping careers and a distressed marriage complicated by the sexism and duplicity of corporate politics. We also discuss her writing process and her experience using hybrid publisher She Writes Press to produce and market her book. Available on May 28, 2019.
May 29, 2019
Interview with NY Times Bestselling Author Julie Barton
In this episode, Charla and Danielle sit down with author Julie Barton at her dining table and talk about her best-selling memoir "Dog Medicine," her writing class called "Unleashed," her current book-in-progress, and other topics ranging from depression to vibrators. Yes, it's a classic episode of STFU: We are not done talking yet! Julie's memoir "Dog Medicine: How My Dog Saved Me from Myself" can be found wherever books are sold. Her author web site is
May 23, 2019
(Almost) Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Bladder Cancer!
Did you know that May is Bladder Cancer Awareness Month? In this episode we talk about how common bladder cancer is and the risk factors, symptoms, and treatment. Charla shares her own experience with non-invasive bladder cancer.
May 16, 2019
Mah Jongg teacher and evangelist, Toby Salk
Toby Salk is a Mah Jongg teacher and expert in the Bay Area and beyond. She teaches in and around the Berkeley, California area, and has taught at Rancho La Puerta Spa in Tecate, Mexico. Her website is OR
May 9, 2019
Interview with Marilyn Bousquin, founder of Writing Women's Lives Academy
Marilyn Bousquin is a writer as well as a writing mentor, teacher, and coach for women who write about real life. Danielle and Charla have taken several online classes with Marilyn as we work on telling our truth. More information about the Vida Count can be found here :
May 6, 2019
Weighty Matters
In this podcast, we discuss our weight as it relates to current cultural norms and societal expectations.
April 26, 2019
Interview with Debbie Rosas of The Nia Technique.
We talk to Debbie Rosas, Founder and Creator of the Nia Technique, about the Body's Way--finding health and wellness by listening to the body. Debbie shares her philosophy of listening to your anger, finding your voice, and learning how to stand in your own truth. We learn about the Nia Technique and how Through Movement We Find Health. Debbie has helped thousands of people access joy in their bodies and initiate self-healing. More information at and go to for workouts. You can read more about Debbie and her Awakening Project by going to
April 18, 2019
Find Your Deep Genius: Interview with Nancy Marmolejo
We interview Executive Coach Nancy Marmolejo, who reveals the secrets to discovering your own inner Deep Genius. Nancy can be reached at her website Her book is called Don't Say That, Say THIS: Navigating Grief & Loss in the World of Social Media.
April 11, 2019
Pilot Episode of STFU: We are not done talking yet!
When we were green, more green than we are now. Enjoy listening.
April 4, 2019
Interview with Reema Zaman, critically acclaimed author of I Am Yours.
We speak with Reema about her book and her life, and what she is doing about the systematic silencing of women.
March 31, 2019
Interview with Joanell Serra, author of The Vines We Planted
In this episode, we have a lively discussion with Joanell about her book, her writing process and characters, her experience with publishing and other topical subjects around writing and literature. You can find The Vines We Planted on Amazon and at other book sellers. Joanell enjoys appearing at book clubs. You can contact her  via her website at
March 22, 2019
When Good Artists do Bad Things
In this episode, Charla and Danielle discuss Michael Jackson and other artists who have been accused of sexual wrongdoings or other bad behavior. Should we boycott their work?
March 15, 2019
Women’s Silencing and Anger
Your hosts talk about Reema Zaman’s book ‘I Am Yours’ and many topics regarding sexual abuse, trauma, and memoir writing.
March 7, 2019