Men's Modern Dating Secrets
By Christopher Harders
Men's Modern Dating SecretsDec 15, 2023
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Why winter is the BEST time to find the ONE!
Winter is hands down the best time to meet someone who will become your partner.
As people decide to go more inside and spend less time out and about socializing, there is a unique opportunity to meet the perfect person for you.
Chris explains the psychology behind this and the solution to the most common mistake guys meet when they meet a woman this time of year.
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Ep 15. What dating system works?
And I understand why they are asking that. There is no shortage of advice and opinions out there…
Unfortunately, much of the advice is conflicting… And even more of it is flat out wrong.
In this episode, I discuss the foundations and fundamental principles that go into understanding the dating process.
We start by discussing that you can begin with the end in mind.
And you can do this for every step of the dating process, but most specifically…
Where do you actually want your dating to end up?
And based on the goal for your dating life, you can backwards engineer how to get there.
When you take a look at the key milestones that go into dating or building a relationship with someone, a lot of the what-to-do questions take care of themselves or end up not being too important.
Many elements of dating and what to do exist on a continuum or spectrum…
While there might be one preferred or recommend an option, there are many possibilities that you can choose from where you might mess up or be imperfect, but you will still be progressing things forward.
In someways, this can be a benefit because you’re putting unintentional stressors on the dating process, which allow you to see whether your relationship will have the potential of going the distance when real stressors are inevitably put on it later on.
Hope you enjoy this final episode before the new year.
And if you want to have a conversation with me to get your dating life in order, go to chrishardersdatingcoach.com/chat
Happy end of the year
Ep 14. Finding Quality Dating Advice
More than anywhere else, it can be frustrating to sort through what is true and what is not when it comes to dating.
The dating advice industry is filled with bad advice and some people who just look at you with dollar signs in their eyes...
It’s unfortunate because I’ve seen it firsthand…
And it can be easy to avoid these people that aren’t going to help you get where you want by getting real with yourself and asking yourself questions like…
“Does this sound too good to be true?“
“Do I agree with this person’s worldview?“
“Is what they are offering me what I truly want?“
“Does this person/product have actual expertise and experience?“
And others that I cover in this episode…
Dating can be a lot simpler than what most people want, and I hope this episode puts you on your way to finding that for yourself...
If you would like to have a call with me, go to www.chrishardersdatingcoach.com/chat
We will discuss where you are at, where you want to go, and a possible plan for getting you there.
Ep 13. 3 Steps to Becoming More Social from Scratch
These principles and practical advice will guide you.
Other episode referenced: Flirt Like a Pro ;-)
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Ep 12. What to do when you don't know what do and you're with a woman
In this episode, I discuss the 5 things that you can do with a woman when you do not know what to do.
This is a far too common thing where a guy who doesn't know what to do will just shut down or even leave a conversation that he is having with a woman out of insecurity or fear.
When you are getting started talking to women, one of the best things you can do is have a few ideas of how to get things going.
I break it down and gives actual examples of what you can do to take this part of your dating life into your own hands.
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Ep 11. "There are no good women in my city"
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In this episode, Chris takes on the common complaint he hears from both men and women…
Where are all the good people to date???
Chris will outline the three ways to solve this problem…
- Change location
- Change expectations
- Change yourself
Enjoy!
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Ep. 10 Mostly Mindset
Check it out everyone!
At long last, episode number 10 is live!
Here I start talking about mindset…
In dating and the self-help world, I have noticed a lot of unhelpful advice related to mindset, so I hope this episode can begin to set the stage for a man (or anyone really) to consider the dating life that he wants and choose the ones to view his dating Journey and the dating process through that will best help him reach his goals.
So often, we defer our opinions and decisions and beliefs systems to the loudest voice in the room or the consensus rather than asking if this is even what we want to begin with…
It's easy to believe somebody has it all figured out when they go ahead and quote surveys or data or chalk everything up to evolutionarily biology theories…
Right now, science and Darwinism are sexy topics for the dating advice niche, but this doesn't necessarily mean that it's the most effective in leading you to what you want.
Often times, a singular way of viewing something leaves many blind spots in what remains out of focus…
My personal take…
Choose the mindsets that move you towards what you want… and leave those that move you away from what you want in the dust…
For an in-depth explanation, take a listen :)
Ep. 9: Quality Not Quantity
Let's examine the myth of dating being a numbers game and examine a common trap men fall into when they choose to go this route. And then, let's focus on what you actually want instead.
Lots to come in this episode and if you want even more, head over to https://chrishardersdatingcoach.com/training to watch how I recommend clients approach dating which gives them a leg up!
Enjoy!
Ep. 8 The Friendzone
Ep. 7 Conversational Flow
Ep. 6 The 5 Love Languages
Ep. 5 The Friendship Formula
Ep. 4 Flirt Like Pro ;-)
Ep.3 The Connection Key
Ep 2. Dating After Covid
I've personally found 5 things to account for since getting back into dating post-pandemic...
Most people are feeling socially anxious... makes sense when you think about having not been too active the past year.
Check the mirror... If you slipped into a *ahem* comfortable sense of style and hygiene, now is the time to clean that up!
Outdoor dates are the new indoor dates ;-). At least until you and her have a conversation about things.
Don't talk about Covid all that much... this type of convo will become cliche and overdone... FAST
Regarding physicality... it's possible she (or you) might be more apprehensive about getting physical do to potential risk/exposure... I tell you how I handle that personally.
Have fun out there!
If you want personal coaching on the subject, schedule a call with me by going to www.chrishardersdatingcoach.com/consult to talk about your situation and see if you're a good fit for my program.