Inner Source - Healing from Toxic Abuse
By Deborah
Inner Source - Healing from Toxic AbuseSep 22, 2023
62. Healing Through Poetry: Cheryl Bannerman's Journey with 'Words Never Spoken'
In this profoundly moving episode, we explore the power of resilience, healing, and self-discovery through the lens of poetry and personal narrative. Our guest, Cheryl Bannerman, author of "Words Never Spoken," shares her harrowing journey from the depths of hidden abuse to finding her voice and empowerment. Cheryl's story is not just one of survival but of transformation, illustrating how writing and faith can be potent tools for overcoming trauma.
Through her poetry journal for healing, Cheryl offers insights into the therapeutic process, encouraging others to find their own path of resilience, self awareness, and identity. This episode dives into the pivotal moments that led Cheryl to break the silence surrounding abuse, the role of spirituality in her healing journey, and how she utilizes her experiences to advocate for mental health and self-expression.
You will find a powerful testimony to the strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of self-expression and faith. Cheryl's openness about her struggle and subsequent recovery offers hope and a blueprint for anyone navigating their own path out of darkness. Join us for an inspiring conversation that highlights the importance of finding one's voice, setting boundaries, and rediscovering oneself through the healing power of writing.
00:00 Introduction to Cheryl Bannerman
00:25 Cheryl's Personal Journey and Inspiration Behind 'Words Never Spoken'
01:45 The Impact of Emotional and Verbal Abuse
02:24 Healing Through Writing and Faith
04:20 Encouraging Readers to Find Their Voice
06:22 Understanding Boundaries and Personal Growth
11:19 The Role of Faith and Spirituality in Healing
18:46 Challenges in Writing and Overcoming Trauma
20:31 Themes of Resilience and Self-Discovery
22:58 Reprogramming and Overcoming Negative Self-Perception
28:59 Understanding the Complexity of Toxic Relationships
30:02 The Role of Vulnerability in Writing
30:17 Balancing Authenticity and Emotional Well-being
30:58 The Power of Metaphors in Poetry
31:30 Surviving and Obscuring in Abusive Relationships
32:19 Public vs. Private Personas of Abusers
32:32 Reconnecting and Setting Boundaries
33:18 Mental Health Advocacy and Writing
37:31 Advice for Aspiring Poets
39:39 Exploring Other Works and Inspirations
41:13 Understanding Monsters Through Writing
43:50 The Importance of Empathy and Boundaries
46:27 Resources for Self-Discovery and Healing
48:49 Where to Find More Information
49:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
To contact the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS:
www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
61. Red Flags and Warning Signs of Love Bombing
In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, licensed therapist and addiction specialist Deborah Ashway continues to explore recognizing and dealing with love bombing in toxic relationships. She discusses the red flags like excessive gifts, rapid relationship milestones, and isolation tactics, and offers strategies for setting boundaries and seeking support. Deborah also highlights the importance of self-care, the role of therapy, and methods like EMDR to help individuals heal and reprogram their thoughts and nervous systems after experiencing manipulation. Through keen self-awareness and continuous effort, listeners are encouraged to rebuild their sense of self-worth and move towards healthier relationship patterns.
00:00 Introduction to Inner Source Healing
01:06 Understanding Love Bombing
01:55 Recognizing Red Flags
07:32 Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support
12:56 Healing and Reprogramming
21:39 Conclusion and Encouragement
60. Discussing Healing from Toxic Relationships with Dr. Jamie Huysman
In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, licensed clinical mental health therapist Deborah Ashway is joined by Dr. Jamie Huysman, a bestselling author and founder of the Toxic Abuse Relationship Network (TAR Network). Dr. Huysman shares his extensive experience in narcissistic behavior and toxic abusive relationships, discussing how individuals can empower themselves to break free from unhealthy dynamics. They explore the complexities of attachment disorders, the concept of trauma bonding, and the significant impact toxic abuse has on individuals and families. Emphasizing the importance of self-care, boundary setting, and seeking support, Dr. Huysman introduces listeners to the resources offered by the TAR Network, including virtual support groups and trauma-informed approaches to healing. This insightful conversation sheds light on the journey of recovery and the importance of creating awareness around toxic relationships.
00:00 Welcome to Inner Source Healing Podcast
01:02 Behind the Scenes: Preparing for the Interview
01:56 Introducing Dr. Jamie Huysman: A Journey from Personal Struggle to Professional Triumph
06:33 The Birth and Mission of the TAR Network
14:20 Understanding Toxic Relationships: Signs and Recovery
18:36 The Role of Attachment Disorders in Toxic Relationships
22:45 Distinguishing Between Personality Disorders and Traits
24:08 Unveiling the Complexity of Narcissism and Empathy
25:18 The Devastating Impact of Toxic Relationships
29:36 Navigating Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex
35:08 Empowerment Through Healing and Support Networks
35:29 Understanding and Addressing Complex PTSD
38:06 The Journey of Recovery and Self-Care
43:31 Closing Thoughts and Resources
Links:
https://taranon.org/
https://tarnetwork.org/
https://drjamie.com/#tar
59. Understanding the Dynamics of Love Bombing
In this episode of the Inner Source Healing Podcast, host Deborah Ashway, a licensed clinical mental health therapist and addiction specialist, dives into the manipulative tactic of love bombing. The podcast covers how love bombing works as a tactic used in the initial stages of a relationship to establish control and dependency through excessive affection, attention, and admiration. Ashway explains the signs of love bombing in romantic, familial, and friendship contexts and its long-term consequences on mental health, self-esteem, and the ability to form healthy relationships. She highlights the importance of recognizing these patterns and the necessity of seeking professional support for healing. The episode emphasizes self-compassion and the significance of trusting one's feelings in the journey toward inner healing and empowerment.
00:00 Introduction to Healing from Toxic Abuse
00:36 Understanding and Healing from Toxic Abuse
01:26 Deep Dive into Love Bombing: Recognizing Manipulative Tactics
03:24 Love Bombing in Romantic Relationships
07:32 Identifying Love Bombing in Family Dynamics
10:11 Spotting Love Bombing in Friendships and Social Circles
14:33 The Psychological Impact of Love Bombing
18:16 Concluding Thoughts and Seeking Therapy
58. Gloria Landaño's Journey of Resilience and Transformation
This episode invites Gloria Landaño to share her stirring journey of overcoming toxic abuse, including a traumatic kidnapping at 25 and subsequent toxic relationships. Hosted by Deborah Ashway, a licensed therapist with personal experience in addiction and abuse recovery, the episode explores the intricacies of trauma bonds, Stockholm syndrome, and the profound effects of toxic relationships. Gloria discusses the complexity of her healing process, the impact on her family, particularly her daughter, and the transformative power of acknowledging one's toxic traits, embracing vulnerability, and pursuing personal growth.
Through her story of courage, resilience, and empowerment, Gloria shines a light on the importance of self-compassion, the exploration of one's roots, and the potential for reinvention at any stage in life. This episode is not only Gloria's testament to human spirit's capacity to heal and flourish but also an informative resource offering hope and guidance to those on their healing journey from toxic abuse.
00:00 Introduction to Healing from Toxic Abuse
01:17 Gloria Landaño's Journey: From Kidnapping to Empowerment
03:01 The Transformative Power of Sharing and Healing
04:13 Understanding Trauma's Role in Personal Evolution
07:00 Navigating the Aftermath of Kidnapping and Stockholm Syndrome
10:16 Breaking the Cycle: From Toxic Relationships to Self-Discovery
22:02 The Impact of Trauma on Family Dynamics and Healing
27:37 Rebuilding Relationships: Communication and Forgiveness
32:45 Navigating the Aftermath of Kidnapping: A Journey to Self-Love
34:41 Understanding Stockholm Syndrome Through Personal Experience
40:04 The Cycle of Toxic Relationships and Self-Reflection
42:13 Rebuilding Life and Business After Abuse
52:04 Embracing a New Beginning: Life After Divorce and Rediscovery
57:10 The Power of Healing and Transformation
57. Healing and Empowerment After Toxic Abuse and Health Disorders with Jennifer Brower
The Healing From Toxic Abuse podcast, hosted by Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS, focuses on aiding individuals in healing from toxic abuse and explores a journey through complex health disorders. In this episode, guest Jennifer Brower, author of Silent Killers, shares her personal experience with Lyme disease, mold toxicity, mercury poisoning, and coronavirus, highlighting her 25-year struggle after a spider bite. Jennifer's battle encompasses not just the physical ailments but also the emotional impact and the challenge of navigating the medical system and society's understanding of her conditions. The discussion includes the importance of alternative healing methods, self-advocacy, and the power of love and joy in the healing process. Jennifer also touches on the significance of detoxification and maintaining a strong immune system. This episode is a testament to resilience, the human spirit's strength, and the transformative power of healing and self-discovery.
00:00 Introduction to Healing from Toxic Abuse
01:16 Meet Jennifer Brower: A Journey of Resilience and Healing
01:35 The Start of Jennifer's Health Challenges: Spider Bite and Its Aftermath
01:57 Navigating Complex Health Disorders and the Importance of Self-Advocacy
11:03 Exploring Alternative Healing and the Power of Emotional Well-being
21:06 The Role of Joy and Love in Healing and Overcoming Health Challenges
35:26 Jennifer's Continued Journey and Resources for Healing
42:35 Closing Thoughts and the Power of Love in Healing
56. Interview with Comfort Woods: Empowering Stories of Triumph Over Toxic Abuse
In this episode, I am honored to welcome special guest Comfort Woods, a survivor and advocate for those impacted by narcissistic abuse. Join us as we dive into Comfort's personal journey, her dedication to supporting others in their healing process, and the importance of sharing stories to build resilience and promote empowerment.
Throughout the conversation, Comfort shares invaluable insights on her personal experiences with toxic abuse, discussing the challenges she faced and the transformative process of breaking free. We discuss the power of storytelling and how sharing personal narratives can foster connection, inspire hope, and challenge the stigma surrounding toxic abuse. Comfort also shares practical strategies and resources for cultivating resilience and overcoming the lasting effects of narcissistic abuse.
Listen in as we amplify the voices of survivors and highlight the power of resilience in the face of adversity. Together, we can create a space for healing, growth, and empowerment while learning more about Comfort's mission to support and empower individuals on their healing journey, emphasizing the importance of community and self-compassion.
To contact Comfort Woods: https://comfortwoods.coach/
55. Why We Never Really Know The Narcissist: The Grand Performance
In this episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, we look into the complexities of living with a narcissist and explore how these relationships often feel like carefully choreographed stage productions. Learn why everyone around them, including the narcissist, has a role to play. Gain insights into the tactics narcissists employ to manipulate their partners and maintain control over the narrative, and the roles we play as we examine the grand illusion they create to obscure their true intentions.
Throughout the discussion, we explore key aspects of narcissistic relationships. Discover how narcissists craft a persona to hide their true selves, making it nearly impossible to genuinely know and understand them. Explore the ways in which narcissists manipulate their partners and engineer situations to maintain control, turning daily life into a meticulously managed performance. We also uncover how gaslighting plays a crucial part in the narcissist's repertoire, distorting reality and eroding their partner's sense of self.
Join in for this eye-opening episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse as we pull back the curtain on the narcissist's grand illusion. Learn strategies for recognizing and dismantling the narcissist's carefully constructed façade, empowering you to reclaim your agency and identity. We offer guidance and support for those seeking clarity and healing in the wake of these manipulative relationships.
To contact host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS:
TikTok: @therapist_debashway
Instagram: inner_source_therapy
Interveiw with Jeannine L. Rashidi, AP, Author of Abundance Beyond Trauma
In this powerful episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, I sit down with author Jeannine L. Rashidi, AP to discuss her transformative journey from a victim of toxic abuse to a resilient survivor and advocate. Jeannine shares invaluable insights on overcoming trauma, self-discovery, and reclaiming one's identity in the aftermath of toxic relationships.
Jeannine's story is a powerful testament to resilience and growth, offering invaluable lessons and techniques that have helped her and others break free from the cycle of toxicity.
Throughout the interview, we explore key aspects of Jeannine's journey, including:
A Story of Resilience: Jeannine candidly shares her experiences with toxic abuse, highlighting the strength and determination that ultimately led to her liberation.
Lessons Learned Along the Way: Discover the essential insights Jeannine gained during her healing process, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and personal growth.
Empowering Techniques: Learn about the practical strategies Jeannine has developed and incorporated into her work as a life coach, guiding others on their path to healing and transformation.
Cultivating Hope and Inspiration: Gain inspiration from Jeannine's remarkable journey as she shares her message of hope and resilience, encouraging listeners to embrace their inner strength and potential for growth.
Don't miss this enlightening episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, where Jeannine Rashidi's incredible story serves as an inspiration of hope for those navigating the complexities of toxic relationships and seeking a brighter, more empowered future.
Jeaninne Rashidi's book:
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52. The Most Common Tricks and Tactics of Narcissistic and Toxic Manipulation
Learn the basics of the most common manipulation and mind-control tactics employed by narcissists and toxic manipulators. Empower yourself with the knowledge and the tools necessary to recognize and navigate through these often subtle, yet damaging, forms of manipulation.
Join me in breaking down the tactics commonly used by narcissists and toxic individuals, such as gaslighting, love-bombing, guilt-tripping, and more. We'll explore examples and insights to help you better understand the dynamics of these relationships.
If you're seeking to identify toxic patterns in your own relationships or may be experiencing narcissistic abuse, this episode helps you decode the narcissist's programming so that you can recognize when someone is trying to control or manipulate you. Tune in and arm yourself with the knowledge to protect your mental well-being and create healthier relationships.
53. Embracing Resilience: Breaking Free with Dr. Angie Read Doyle
In this episode, I am honored to have an enlightening conversation with Dr. Angie Read Doyle, an esteemed psychologist and author specializing in toxic relationships, trauma recovery, and mental health. Dr. Doyle shares invaluable insights into the dynamics of toxic relationships, the effects of emotional abuse, and the importance of self-care on the journey to healing.
Discover how to break free from the cycle of abuse, develop resilience, and build healthier relationships through Dr. Doyle's expert guidance. Tune in now and join us on the path to healing, growth, and empowerment.
Connect with Dr. Angie Read Doyle:
Information about the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS:
#HealingFromToxicAbuse #MentalHealth #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalAbuse #SelfCare #Resilience #DrAngieReadDoyle #TraumaRecovery #Empowerment
51. Transforming Toxic Relationships: Insights and Strategies from Expert Suzanne Lachmann
In this episode, we are joined by a special guest, Suzanne Lachmann, a psychotherapist and author. Suzanne shares her expertise on understanding the patterns and dynamics of toxic relationships, the importance of self-compassion and boundaries, and how to navigate the healing journey.
During the interview, Suzanne provides practical strategies for recognizing the signs of toxic relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and cultivating resilience and self-esteem. She emphasizes the importance of self-care and mindfulness as tools for recovery and growth.
Listen to this empowering conversation and learn how to break free from the cycle of toxic relationships and build healthier, more fulfilling connections.
To connect with Dr. Suzanne Lachmann:
Website: http://www.drxuzannel.com
email: suzannelachmann@gmail.com
Facebook: drxuzannelachmann
To connect with the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS:
Website: http://www.innersourcetherapy.com
Email: Deborah@InnerSourceTherapy.com
#HealingFromToxicRelationships #SuzanneLachmann #SelfCare #Boundaries #Resilience #Empowerment
50. The Stages of Manipulation: The Similarities Between Cults and Toxic Relationships
In this episode of "Healing From Toxic Abuse," we explore the chilling similarities between the tactics used by cults and those employed in toxic and controlling relationships. This discussion revolves around the stages of brainwashing and manipulation that both cults and abusive partners employ to gain control over their victims.We explore how the brainwashing techniques used by cults to recruit and retain members closely resemble the tactics used by abusive partners to assert dominance and maintain power in their relationships. From love-bombing and idealization to guilt-tripping and gaslighting, we break down the common stages of manipulation and discuss how they can lead to a sense of helplessness and entrapment.
We also touch on the importance of recognizing the warning signs of brainwashing and manipulation and how individuals can empower themselves to break free from these toxic patterns. We highlight suggestions for those who have experienced emotional abuse or have been involved in cult-like situations.
Tune in to this insightful episode to learn more about the striking parallels between cult brainwashing and abusive relationships, and how to reclaim your power and heal from toxic abuse.
#brainwashing #cults #manipulation #toxicrelationships
49. Embracing Life with Nicole Kerr, Author of 'We Are Deathless
In this compelling episode of the "Healing From Toxic Abuse" podcast, join our host, Deborah Ashway, and the insightful and resilient Nicole Kerr, acclaimed author of the revolutionary book, 'We Are Deathless' in a groundbreaking discussion. Get ready for a powerful conversation that explores the depths of Nicole's NDE (near-death experience) and how it relates to overcoming trauma, finding strength in vulnerability, and reclaiming one's life after enduring toxic abuse.
Nicole Kerr is an inspiration and survivor of profound challenges. She shares her personal journey with candor and courage. Her book 'We Are Deathless' has touched the lives of many, providing a roadmap for healing and empowerment. Nicole discusses the profound impact of toxic abuse on individuals and the importance of shedding light on these experiences.
You can expect to gain invaluable insights into the strategies Nicole employed to break free from the chains of toxic abuse and rediscover her innate resilience. From navigating the complexities of emotional scars to fostering a renewed sense of self-worth, this episode offers a roadmap for anyone seeking solace and empowerment in the aftermath of trauma.
Tune in to discover Nicole Kerr's profound wisdom on embracing life after toxic abuse, rebuilding from the inside out, and ultimately realizing that we are all deathless in our ability to heal and thrive. This episode is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and a source of hope for those on their own journey towards healing and self-discovery.
Don't miss this transformative conversation on the "Healing From Toxic Abuse" podcast, where Nicole Kerr's story reminds us that, indeed, we are all capable of reclaiming our narrative and living a life that is not defined by our past.
Visit Nicole Kerr's website: www.https://www.nicolekerr.com/
You can find me at www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
#HealingFromToxicAbuse #SurvivorStories #WeAreDeathless #EmpowermentJourney #ReclaimingLife #BreakTheSilence #ToxicRelationships #EmotionalResilience #PodcastInterview #NicoleKerr #HealingJourney #SelfDiscovery #OvercomingAdversity #Inspiration #Empowerment #TransformativeTalks #BreakingChains #PodcastCommunity #MentalHealthMatters #SpeakYourTruth #StrengthInVulnerability #PositiveChange #PodcastRecommendation #MindfulHealing #InnerStrength #BreakFree #Resilience #LifeAfterAbuse #RebuildingSelf #HopeAfterTrauma
48. The Dark Side of Excessive Optimism
In this thought-provoking episode of the "Healing From Toxic Abuse" podcast, you are invited to explore the intricate nuances of a topic often overlooked - Toxic Positivity. Join Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS as we illuminate the shadows of excessive optimism and its potential detrimental effects on the healing journey.
While a positive mindset is often hailed as a powerful tool for resilience, there exists a darker side when positivity becomes a mask for suppressing authentic emotions. In this eye-opening conversation, we explore a candid discussion about the dangers of ignoring, dismissing, or invalidating genuine pain and struggle under the guise of relentless positivity.
Through insightful commentary and real-life examples, we'll navigate the thin line between genuine encouragement and the harmful impact of toxic positivity on mental and emotional well-being. We take a look at how individuals can strike a healthy balance, embracing authenticity without succumbing to the pressures of forced optimism.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has felt the weight of social expectations to "stay positive" during challenging times. Discover the importance of acknowledging and processing difficult emotions, fostering genuine connections, and building resilience through authenticity.
Tune in to "Healing From Toxic Abuse" as we unmask the complexities of toxic positivity, encouraging a more nuanced approach to healing that embraces the full spectrum of human emotions. Join the conversation on social media using #ToxicPositivityAwareness and share your thoughts on this crucial aspect of the healing journey.
Remember, healing is a multifaceted journey, and acknowledging the darker moments is just as crucial as celebrating the victories. Let's break free from the chains of toxic positivity and create a space where authenticity and genuine healing can thrive.
#HealingFromToxicAbuse #ToxicPositivity #AuthenticHealing #EmotionalWellbeing #BreakTheMask #PositivityBalance #RealTalk #MentalHealthAwareness #AuthenticityMatters #HealingJourney #MindfulPositivity #EmbraceEmotions #ToxicPositivityAwareness #GenuineConnections #PodcastDiscussion #BalancedHealing #PositiveVibesOnlyNot #EmotionalResilience #HumanExperience #BreakTheStigma #HealingIsComplex #HealthyOptimism #NoMoreFacades #PositivityAndReality #InnerBalance #PodcastAwareness #MentalHealthTalks #PodcastRecommendation #RealHealing
You can find Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS at: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
47. Breaking Free: A Journey to Healing From Toxic Abuse with Sarah Westbrook, author of 'Trauma Bonded'
In this empowering episode, I sit down with the insightful and compassionate Sarah Westbrook, author of the groundbreaking book 'Trauma Bonded.' Together, we dive into the intricate web of toxic relationships, exploring the deep emotional wounds that result from them and the transformative journey towards healing.
Sarah Westbrook, a renowned expert in trauma recovery, shares her personal experiences and profound insights into the complex dynamics of toxic abuse. You will gain a deeper understanding of #TraumaBonding, a powerful yet often misunderstood aspect of toxic relationships. Through Sarah's extensive research and personal anecdotes, she offers invaluable guidance on recognizing, understanding, and ultimately breaking free from the chains of toxic bonds.
This episode is a source of hope for anyone navigating the challenging path of healing from toxic abuse. Sarah Westbrook's wisdom shines through as she discusses practical strategies, self-compassion, and her own, very personal journey. The conversation explores the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of self-discovery on the path to healing.
Listen in to gain insights that will empower you to reclaim your life, break free from toxic patterns, and embark on a journey of self-love and healing. #BreakingFree #ToxicRelationships #SelfLove #Empowerment #TraumaBonded #TraumaRecovery
You can email Sarah Westbrook at: daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
You can find Deborah Ashway at:
www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
46. The Thing About Perfectionism
In this powerful episode, we look into the intricate web of perfectionism that often entangles survivors of narcissistic and manipulative relationships. Join in as we explore the roots of perfectionism as a coping mechanism, its development in the course of toxic abuse, and the profound impact it has on one's journey to healing.
Discover the paradoxical nature of perfectionism, initially adopted as a shield against criticism and manipulation, only to become a self-imposed prison. Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS, a seasoned therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery, shares insights into how victims inadvertently embrace perfectionism as a means of regaining control and protecting their self-worth.
This episode offers a roadmap for dismantling the chains of perfectionism and reclaiming your authenticity. Learn strategies for cultivating self-compassion, embracing vulnerability, and navigating the path to genuine self-discovery after surviving toxic relationships.
Tune in to "The Thing About Perfectionism" and empower yourself with the knowledge and tools needed to break free from the perfectionist trap and embark on a journey towards true healing.
#ToxicAbuseRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #HealingJourney #Perfectionism #SelfCompassion #Authenticity #EmotionalFreedom #ReclaimYourself #PodcastEpisode #SurvivorHealing
44. Cutting Contact with the Narcissist: Breaking The Bond
In this introspective episode of Healing From Toxic Abuse, we look into the challenging journey of cutting contact and breaking the bond with a narcissist. We explore the intricacies of breaking free from the toxic bond and finding the strength within.
Your host shares personal insights, struggles, and triumphs on the path to healing from toxic abuse. This deep dive into the process of cutting ties with a narcissist offers listeners a unique perspective on the internal struggles, emotional hurdles, and transformative moments that accompany this courageous decision.
Throughout the episode, you can find practical coping strategies and empowering affirmations if you are grappling with the complexities of trauma-bonds and severing ties with a narcissistic abuser. Whether you're contemplating this crucial step, currently navigating it, or supporting someone who is, this episode serves as a companion for anyone seeking solace and understanding on their healing journey.
Tune in for an episode that speaks directly to the heart of breaking the narcissistic bond. The power of solitude, coupled with the strength within, is the focus as we explore the resilience that comes with reclaiming your narrative and embracing a life of healing after toxic abuse.
To reach Christina Bonnet's UNFOLD program: www.ChristinaBonnet.com/Unfold
To reach Deborah Ashway: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
#HealingJourney #HealingFromToxicAbuse #TraumaRecovery #ToxicRelationships #CoreHealingTechnique #SelfLove #Meditation #Boundaries #RadicalSelfLove #TraumaBond #NarcissisticAbuse #SuccessStory #HealingPodcast #SupportAndHope
45. Interview with Marina Carrier on Spirituality in Healing
In this episode, we sit down with the inspiring Heulwen-Marina Carrier to explore topic of how she healed from toxic abuse through spirituality and her Christianity. Heulwen-Marina, a renowned expert in mental health and survivorship, shares her own courageous journey of overcoming the bonds of toxic relationships and emerging into a life of strength, resilience, and empowerment.
Throughout the interview, Heulwen-Marina opens up about the challenges she faced, the pivotal moments of self-discovery, and the empowering tools she used to break free from the chains of toxicity. You can listen to Marina's insights into discovering the path to healing.
As a survivor turned advocate, Heulwen-Marina offers practical advice and transformative strategies for listeners who may be navigating similar experiences. Her story proves that it is possible to not only survive but to thrive after enduring toxic abuse.
Listen in for this candid and enlightening conversation as we explore the nuances of toxic relationships, the journey to recovery, and the profound resilience of the human spirit. Whether you've personally experienced toxic abuse or are seeking to support someone on their healing journey, this episode can help with understanding and encouragement. Tune in and let Heulwen-Marina Carrier's wisdom from her personal experience guide you on the path to healing and empowerment.
To reach Christina Bonnet's UNFOLD program: www.ChristinaBonnet.com/Unfold
To reach Deborah Ashway: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
#HealingJourney #HealingFromToxicAbuse #TraumaRecovery #ToxicRelationships #CoreHealingTechnique #SelfLove #Meditation #Boundaries #RadicalSelfLove #TraumaBond #NarcissisticAbuse #SuccessStory #HealingPodcast #SupportAndHope
43. Interview with Phoenix Gould on the Core Healing Technique
This podcast episode is a special one as we sit down with Phoenix Gould, a remarkable life coach whose expertise in trauma recovery and toxic relationship dynamics has become a guiding light for many navigating the difficult journey of healing. Phoenix's credentials and personal triumphs over adversity make her an extraordinary individual, aligning seamlessly with the mission of our podcast. As we delve into her insights, we discover a wealth of knowledge and compassion dedicated to helping others reclaim their lives after enduring the devastating effects of toxic relationships.
Phoenix shares her healing journey and the path that led her to dedicate her life to helping others. Her Core Healing Technique, developed through a background in professional modern dance, becomes a focal point of discussion, offering a unique perspective on trauma recovery. We explore the intricacies of self-love, meditation, and the challenge of discarding overwhelming insecurity. Phoenix sheds light on personality changes in post-toxic relationships and strategies for establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries.
Navigating the darkest aspects of toxic abuse, Phoenix emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for clients to explore and heal from past traumas. Her expertise in radical self-love becomes evident as she guides clients toward reclaiming their sense of self, especially after experiencing narcissistic abuse.
Healing is a non-linear journey, and seeking support is a crucial step forward. For more information and resources, check out the show notes for relevant links.
https://phoenixcore.us11.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=5e8b7fb3cebf0f389ad9b6c21&id=3041f8a17b
https://calendly.com/phoenix4me
Phoenix Gould WhatsApp number: +1 (780) 268-9888
To reach Christina Bonnet's UNFOLD program: www.ChristinaBonnet.com/Unfold
To reach Deborah Ashway: www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
#HealingJourney #HealingFromToxicAbuse #TraumaRecovery #ToxicRelationships #CoreHealingTechnique #SelfLove #Meditation #Boundaries #RadicalSelfLove #TraumaBond #NarcissisticAbuse #SuccessStory #HealingPodcast #SupportAndHope #PhoenixGould
42. The Power of Anger: Understanding the Difference Between Anger and Reactive Abuse
In this episode of "Healing From Toxic Abuse," we explore and talk about the complex world of emotions, focusing on the often misunderstood and misrepresented feeling of anger. Hosted by Deborah Ashway, LCMHC, LCAS, a seasoned therapist and advocate for survivors of toxic abuse, this episode explores the benefits of anger and, crucially, the differences between healthy anger and reactive abuse.
When you've been subjected to toxic abuse, it's not uncommon to suppress your anger or, conversely, to let it consume you. However, as we'll discover in this episode, anger can be a powerful tool for healing and personal growth.
We begin by unpacking the concept of anger as a natural and healthy emotional response to perceived injustice or harm. We'll emphasize how acknowledging and understanding your anger can be a crucial step in your healing journey. We share professional insights and practical advice for managing and harnessing the energy of anger in a constructive way.
One of the central themes of this episode is distinguishing between anger and reactive abuse. We'll explore the subtle yet critical distinctions between expressing your anger and perpetuating the cycle of abuse. By gaining a deeper understanding of these differences, you'll be better equipped to navigate your emotions and relationships as you heal from toxic abuse.
Listeners can expect to:
Learn the psychological and physiological benefits of expressing healthy anger.
Gain insights into the common triggers that can lead to reactive abuse and how to break the pattern.
How to harness the power of anger to facilitate healing
Receive practical tips and strategies for managing anger and turning it into a force for positive change.
Healing is possible, and in this episode, we shed light on how embracing and working with your anger can be a transformative step towards recovering from the effects of toxic abuse. Join in on this empowering journey of self-discovery and healing as we explore the profound wisdom of anger and its role in your recovery.
Tune in to "Healing From Toxic Abuse" to find the strength and clarity you need to reclaim your life and build healthier relationships.
For more information or to contact me visit www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
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41. Interview with Christine Hammond of Understanding Today's Narcissist
Exploring the Narcissistic Mind: An Interview with Christine Hammond"
In this episode I speak with another expert in the field of mental health about the complex world of narcissism. Join in on the conversation with renowned therapist and author, Christine Hammond, from 'Understanding the Narcissist.' We embark on an enlightening journey to try to gain a deeper understanding of healing from toxic abuse.
Christine Hammond, a leading expert in the field, offers unparalleled insights into the intricacies of narcissistic personalities and how they can profoundly impact the lives of those in their orbit. With years of experience and a wealth of knowledge, Christine Hammond takes us on an exploration of the various facets of narcissism and toxic abuse, from its origins to its effects on individuals and relationships. Her compassionate and expert perspective provides listeners with the tools they need to recognize, cope with, and ultimately heal from the trauma of toxic narcissistic abuse.
Throughout the episode, Christine shares invaluable advice on identifying red flags, setting boundaries, and reclaiming your sense of self-worth. Her dedication to helping survivors heal and move forward shines through in her profound wisdom and empathetic approach. If you've ever found yourself entangled with a narcissist or are eager to deepen your understanding of this complex personality disorder, this episode is a must-listen. Join us as we unravel the mysteries of the narcissistic mind and pave the way for healing and recovery.
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39. The Energy Vampires: How Being Around Them Leads to Emotional Exhaustion
In this episode, we delve into the energy draining, pervasive and often unspoken aspect of toxic relationships – emotional exhaustion. Join me in the exploration of how individuals with traits from the dark triad, such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), drain the energy and vitality from those around them, especially their partners.
Toxic people, particularly those with NPD, have a unique ability to leave their loved ones feeling emotionally depleted and drained. In this episode, we shed light on the insidious dynamics that lead to this exhaustion. We look at the why, and the how, providing you with a deeper understanding of the emotional toll that you pay being around toxic individuals.
We also discuss strategies and coping mechanisms to combat emotional exhaustion in the context of toxic relationships. This episode offers practical guidance for listeners who may be grappling with the debilitating effects of emotional exhaustion including depression, apathy, anxiety and panic attacks. Learn how to regain mental strength and heal from the toxic grip of narcissistic abuse as we explore how to enhance emotional strength.
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40. Interview with Jana Wilson, author of Wise Little One
In this episode, we have the privilege of hosting the incredible Jana Wilson, the brilliant author of "Wise Little One," a book that has been a beacon of hope for countless survivors of toxic abuse.
Jana Wilson is not just an author; she is a survivor, a warrior, and a compassionate advocate for those who have endured the traumas of toxic relationships. Her own journey through the depths of abuse has transformed her into an inspiring force for change. Her book is a testament to her resilience and wisdom.
In this deeply moving and enlightening conversation, Jana shares her personal story of survival, recovery, and empowerment. She delves into the insights and revelations that led her to write "Wise Little One," a book that has been described as a roadmap to healing and self-discovery for survivors of toxic abuse.
Throughout the episode, Jana provides invaluable advice and guidance for listeners who may be navigating their own healing journeys. We explore themes of resilience, self-love, and the power of storytelling as a means of healing. She discusses the importance of self-compassion, setting boundaries, meditation, and finding strength in vulnerability. Jana's words are not just uplifting but also deeply practical, offering tangible tools and strategies for reclaiming one's life after abuse.
Join us as we dive deep into the wisdom and insights of Jana Wilson, an author whose words have the potential to transform the lives of those who have experienced toxic abuse. Whether you are a survivor seeking solace or someone looking to understand the journey of healing, this episode promises to be a source of inspiration and guidance.
Remember, healing is possible, and you are not alone on this path. Tune in to this episode of "Healing From Toxic Abuse" and discover the strength within you to overcome even the darkest of experiences.
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38. Complexities of Growing Up with Narcissistic Parents
This podcast episode of Complexities of Growing Up with Narcissistic Parents delves deep into the intricate web of growing up with narcissistic parents. In this eye-opening exploration, we explore the profound and often distressing impact of narcissism on family dynamics and the emotional well-being of children.
We provide an essential overview of narcissism, unraveling its defining traits like grandiosity, manipulation, and a distinct lack of empathy, then look closer into how these traits shape parenting styles, giving rise to a family dynamic rife with complexities. Through real-life anecdotes and examples, we examine what it's like to be raised by narcissistic parents.
We take a journey into the heart of narcissistic parenting, dissecting the ways narcissistic traits manifest in parenting, from the painful lack of empathy that leaves children feeling emotionally invalidated to the self-centeredness that turns children into pawns in their parents' ego-driven games. We explore the unpredictable terrain of narcissistic households and the roles children often assume, whether as the golden child, scapegoat, or enabler.
We look at the profound emotional and psychological effects of growing up in such an environment and shine a light on the insidious concept of "narcissistic abuse" within parent-child relationships, uncovering the covert manipulation and emotional turmoil it entails. With an emphasis on the subtle tactics used by narcissistic abusers, we highlight the gradual erosion of self-esteem, emotional dependency, and the complex trauma that survivors often grapple with.
Join us in navigating narcissistic parenting as we navigate the intricate terrain of families affected by narcissism. Through understanding and awareness, I aim to empower individuals to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse, seek support, and embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. Subscribe now to gain insight into this challenging topic and find solace in the knowledge that you are not alone in your experiences.
36. Interview with Francesca Raoelison
In this profound episode of "Healing From Toxic Abuse," we dive deep into the world of resilience and empowerment with our special guest, Francesca Raoelison. Join us as we embark on a transformative journey through Francesca's life and insights, shedding light on the path to healing from toxic relationships and abuse.
Francesca Raoelison, a renowned therapist, survivor, and advocate, brings a wealth of wisdom to the conversation. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise, she unveils the intricacies of toxic relationships, offering a compassionate and empowering perspective on recovery and growth.
You will enjoy this heartfelt conversation, exploring Francesca's story of triumph over adversity. From the initial stages of recognizing toxicity to the challenging process of breaking free, our guest shares invaluable insights that resonate with anyone who has grappled with the shadows of abusive dynamics.
Listeners will be captivated by Francesca's ability to turn pain into power, inspiring a newfound sense of hope. Through her journey, we learn about the importance of self-care, boundary setting, and the gradual restoration of self-esteem. This episode serves as a guiding light for those who seek to heal, offering practical advice and emotional support for anyone navigating their way towards a healthier future.
Tune in to this enlightening episode of "Healing From Toxic Abuse" to discover the resilience that resides within us all and to gain the tools necessary for reclaiming your life after trauma. Francesca Raoelison's transformative insights will remind you that healing is not only possible but also an essential step towards a life filled with empowerment and authenticity.
Remember, you are not alone on this journey to healing. Subscribe to "Healing From Toxic Abuse" and join our community of survivors and thrivers who are rewriting their stories and embracing a brighter tomorrow.
37. Toxic Tango: Unmasking the Dance of Destructive Behaviors
In this thought-provoking podcast episode, titled "Toxic Tango," we dive into the intricacies of toxic relationships and how they resemble a predictable yet destructive dance of behaviors. The episode sheds light on the typical stages that characterize this harmful cycle, which traps countless individuals in abusive relationships.
The podcast begins by introducing the concept of the "toxic tango," where an abusive partner lures their victim into a false sense of security during the "Love Bombing" stage.
As the dance progresses into the "Isolation" stage, the abusive partner's behavior becomes unpredictable and critical, leading the victim to feel anxious and isolated from friends and family. The manipulation tactics escalate into the "Devaluing" stage, where the victim's reality is distorted through gaslighting and emotional manipulation, causing them to doubt their self-worth and judgment.
We continue to explore the stages through to the final discard stage of the relationship.
Throughout the episode, the emphasis remains on the importance of recognizing the signs of abuse and understanding the manipulative tactics employed by abusive partners.
The significance of breaking free from the toxic dance by setting firm boundaries and seeking help and support cannot be understated. Empowering victims to recognize the cycle of abuse and reclaim their lives becomes a central theme in this powerful and insightful episode.
Listeners are left with a sense of awareness and hope, as the podcast encourages them to seek help and resources to escape destructive relationships and foster healthier connections. "Toxic Tango" serves as a crucial resource in raising awareness about abusive dynamics and promoting healing and empowerment for those affected.
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35. Materialistic Mirage: Unraveling the Superficial Nature of a Narcissist
In this podcast episode, we delve into the connection between the ego and materialistic tendencies in narcissists. We explore the significance of the ego in cluster-B personality disorders, the dark triad, and toxic abuse. Our aim is to equip you with practical strategies and insights to navigate situations involving materialistic narcissists with grace and self-empowerment.
The materialistic nature of narcissists revolves around their constant need for external validation and admiration. They often place excessive emphasis on material possessions, status symbols, and external appearances to bolster their inflated sense of self-worth.
We also explore the function of the ego, which serves as a map of the 3D world, helping us navigate and protect our sense of self. However, when the ego becomes overly dominant, it can lead to superficial and materialistic behavior.
By valuing yourself for who you are and prioritizing meaningful experiences over possessions, you can reclaim your power and navigate relationships with materialistic narcissists confidently.
Remember, you are not alone in this journey of healing from toxic abuse. By prioritizing your well-being and embracing your inherent worth, you can break free from the influence of materialistic narcissists and build a life free from manipulation and toxicity. Stay strong and take care of yourself on your healing path.
34. Embracing Inner Healing: A Journey to Freedom from Toxic Abuse with Jason Shires
In this episode of the ‘Healing From Toxic Abuse’ podcast series, we dive deep into the transformative journey of Jason Shires, a compassionate expert dedicated to guiding individuals towards rediscovering their true nature and breaking free from the shackles of suffering. As survivors of toxic abuse, we know all too well the wounds left behind by these traumatic experiences. Join us as we explore the profound connection between codependency, addiction, mental health, and the path to healing.
Through an intimate interview with Jason, we gain invaluable insights into his personal odyssey of self-discovery and inner healing. With unwavering authenticity, he shares his own profound experiences and the wisdom gained along the way. Discover how he embarked on a profound inward voyage that led to true liberation and a life free from the clutches of toxic abuse.
We delve into the fascinating intersection of codependency, addiction, and mental health, and unravel the intricate layers of the healing journey. Through Jason's compassionate guidance, we navigate the treacherous terrain of toxic relationships and emerge with a deeper understanding of ourselves, armed with the tools necessary to reclaim our lives.
If you're ready to embark on a transformative journey of healing, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in as we uncover the power within, embrace our authentic selves, and unlock the door to a future filled with hope, resilience, and freedom from the scars of toxic abuse, dependency, and codependency.
33. Reactive Abuse
This episode is about reactive abuse, where we delve into the intricate complexities of reactive abuse, shed light on its dynamic impacts, and discuss the path to healing.
Join me as we navigate the uncharted waters of reactive abuse, a lesser known yet profoundly destructive aspect of toxic relationships. Reactive abuse occurs when a victim of chronic abuse finally reacts in self-defense, only to be blamed and labeled as the aggressor. This insidious form of psychological manipulation leaves victims feeling trapped, confused, and invalidated.
Throughout the episode, we explore various themes, including the patterns and triggers of reactive abuse, the psychological tactics used by abusers to twist the narrative, the consequences of gasoline and victim blaming, and the road to recovery and healing.
By shedding light on reactive abuse, we aim to validate survivors' experiences and empower them to break free from the cycle of blame, shame, and self-doubt. We will discuss practical strategies and resources that can aid in reclaiming one's sense of self, rebuilding self-esteem, establishing healthy boundaries, and fostering growth and healing.
Whether you are a survivor seeking validation and guidance or an ally wanting to deepen your understanding of tax relationships, this episode offers invaluable insights and a compassionate space to learn, heal, and grow.
Subscribe to “Healing from Toxic Relationships” and join us on this transformative journey as we shine a light on reactive abuse and provide a platform for survivors to reclaim their power, embrace healing, and forge a brighter future.
Note: The content discussed in this podcast is intended for informational purposes only and should not replace professional therapy or advice. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek help from a qualified professional or contact your local helpline.
32. Interview with Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C, on Accelerated Resolution Therapy for Healing From Toxic Abuse
In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the realm of healing trauma and explore the powerful technique of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) with our special guest, Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C.
Brooke Bralove, a renowned therapist and spiritual guide, joins us to shed light on the transformative potential of ART in overcoming the lingering effects of toxic abuse. Drawing from years of experience and expertise, Brook provides valuable insights into the spiritual dimensions of healing trauma through the utilization of ART.
During this captivating conversation, we embark on a thought-provoking conversation of the spiritual realm within the context of trauma recovery. We delves into how ART and EMDR can integrate spiritual elements into the therapeutic process, allowing individuals to tap into their inner wisdom and find profound healing and restoration.
Moreover, we explore the fascinating parallels between ART and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), a widely recognized therapeutic approach that treats underlying trauma and programming. Brooke shares her expertise on the similarities and differences between these two modalities, highlighting the unique benefits that ART brings to the table.
Join us as we unpack the inner workings of ART and its potential to accelerate the healing process. Discover how this innovative technique can help individuals reclaim their power, release emotional burdens, and create a solid foundation for a brighter, healthier future.
Whether you're a survivor of toxic abuse or a dedicated professional in the field of mental health, this episode will provide you with invaluable insights and practical tools to navigate the path of healing. Tune in to "Healing from Toxic Abuse" and embark on a transformative journey towards resilience, self-discovery, and freedom.
31. The Creation of a Worry Storm
In this episode, we explore the concept of worry storms and how they are used by narcissists to control and manipulate their victims. A worry storm is a state of intense anxiety and fear that can be triggered by a variety of factors, including uncertainty, doubt, and the threat of loss or harm. At its core, “Worry Storm” refers to a manipulative strategy frequently employed by narcissists to gain control over their victims. It involves the deliberate creation and amplification of anxiety, uncertainty and fear within the victim's mind, leading to a state of heightened alert and constant worry. These toxic individuals skillfully exploit their victims' vulnerabilities. They use all kinds of tactics including gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional abuse to sow the seeds of doubt and insecurity.
Join me in an exploration of what it means, why narcissists employ this tactic, the damage it causes and effective coping strategies for reclaiming your power. Understanding why narcissists use this tactic is crucial to reclaiming your power and your emotional well-being. They use worry storms to establish dominance and Power, and Foster a sense of dependency and helplessness. The goal of their tactic is to keep you constantly on edge, questioning yourself, and seeking their validation. By undermining your confidence and sense of reality, they maintain control and prevent you from realizing your true potential.
The damage caused by living in a perpetual state of worry can be profound and long lasting. There is a path to hope and healing. In this episode we explore practical coping strategies to help you break free from the devastating effects of worry storms. tune into this episode of healing from toxic abuse and embark on a journey of transformation towards self-empowerment and healing. together we can overcome the manipulative tactics and toxicity, and create a future filled with joy, authenticity and resilience.
30. Interview With Shaun Randall, Quantum Healing
Shaun Randall is an author and renowned quantum energy healer who has helped countless individuals heal from the effects of dependency, toxic relationships and other issues. His unique approach to healing has been praised by many, and he has become a leading figure in the field of energy healing.
In this interview we discuss Shaun's views on dependency, toxic relationships, and quantum energy healing. We delve into the intricacies of these topics and explore how they relate to our lives. Dependency is a common issue in relationships, and Shaun believes that it is a significant problem that can have a lasting impact on our lives. He believes that dependency is caused by a lack of self-love and self-esteem. When we are dependent on others, we are giving away our power and allowing others to control us. This can lead to toxic relationships where we feel trapped and unable to break free.
Shaun's approach to healing from dependency is to help individuals build their self-esteem and learn to love themselves. He believes that when we learn to love ourselves, we become less dependent on others and can build healthier relationships.
When we are in a toxic relationship, we are often stuck in a cycle of negativity that can be hard to break free from. His approach to healing from toxic relationships is to help individuals establish healthy boundaries and communicate effectively. Quantum energy healing can help us release negative energy and emotions that may be holding us back from building healthier relationships.
We discuss Shaun's views on quantum energy healing. His approach to quantum energy healing is to help individuals connect with their inner selves and tap into the healing power of the universe.
Shaun Randall is a powerful healer who has helped countless individuals heal from the effects of toxic relationships. His approach to healing is unique and effective, and his insights into dependency, toxic relationships and quantum energy healing are invaluable. If you are struggling with any of these issues, this episode is for you!
29. Attention as Currency; Natural Attention vs Fake Attention
This episode is on the topic of attention. Attention is currency in the context of toxic abuse. We explore the different kinds of attention that is given by or received from a narcissist and how it affects the recovery process. In this episode, the various forms of attention that any narcissist may give such as a love bombing is examined.
We will also delve into the opposite end of the spectrum where the narcissist may withhold attention or use the silent treatment as a form of punishment. Additionally we will examine how the attention received from a narcissist can perpetuate abuse and impact healing. The concept of trauma bonding, where people become addicted to the highs and lows of narcissistic attention makes it challenging to break free from the cycle.
This episode offers practical tips and strategies to help survivors of narcissistic abuse navigate through the healing process and regain control of their lives. Whether you are a survivor of narcissistic abuse or someone who wants to learn more about the topic join me as I uncover the different kinds of attention given by or received from a narcissist and explore ways to heal from toxic abuse.
28. Manipulating the Manipulator: Outsmarting The Narcissist
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist or anyone along the cluster-b dark-triad, you’re dealing with someone who constantly tries to control and manipulate you. You’re always on guard, always walking on eggshells around this person, never quite sure what they’re going to do next. Narcissists and other manipulators can be incredibly challenging to deal with,Leaving you feeling frustrated, powerless and drained. But what if you could turn the tables on them? What if you could learn how to spot their tactics, outsmart their schemes, and take back control of your life?
That's exactly what we will be exploring in this podcast. Sharing years of experience in dealing with narcissists and other manipulators, I will provide practical tips and strategies for protecting yourself and breaking free from their toxic influence. From understanding the psychology behind their behavior to learning how to set boundaries and avoid their traps, we'll cover the stuff you need to know to stay one step ahead of these master manipulators.
So whether you're dealing with a difficult coworker, a toxic family member, or a romantic partner who's always trying to twist your words and emotions, this podcast is for you. Join me as we deep dive into the world of manipulation and give you the tools you need to fight back and reclaim your power.
27. Who Is The Prime Target For A Narcissist?
“Who is the prime target for a narcissist” is a question that many people find themselves asking after being in a relationship with one. This episode explores the characteristics and vulnerabilities of individuals who are most likely to become victims of narcissistic abuse. We delve into the psychology of narcissists and their manipulative tactics to examine the various traits that make certain individuals more susceptible to their charm. Being able to identify the motives and needs of narcissists helps reveal some of the warning signs that are often missed in the beginning stages. Some of the qualities that narcissists are after may surprise you. Learn how to recognize some of your own characteristics that may make you a prime target.
26. What Happens When You Are Your Truest Self With A Narcissist?
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, do you feel like you can’t be your true self? In this podcast episode, we explore what happens when you are your truest self with a narcissist. This episode focuses on guidance and advice on how to navigate this phenomenon. We discuss how to recognize the signs of this behavior, how to protect yourself and your boundaries, and how to reclaim your power. Listen in and learn how to recognize your own behavior in response to the narcissistic programming, how to handle it, and ultimately how to find the courage to be your truest self and stay true to your values.
25. Codependency and the Ultimate Fear With Special Guest, Nikki Eisenhauer
This episode features a special guest, Nikki Eisenhauer from Emotional Badass, who joins me in discussing codependency and the ultimate fear of abandonment. It takes people like Nikki to pave the way by opening up and sharing their story. Join us in this episode as we hear her journey through multiple toxic relationships to reconnecting with her own inner strength. If you have ever found yourself obsessively trying to please others or giving up so much of yourself, time, talents and resources out of fear of abandonment or being alone then her story is a ‘must listen to’. You will be reminded that you deserve to experience loving and compassionate people like yourself. Nikki Eisenhauer is truly an inspiration and I am so grateful for her to have joined me on this important topic.
24. Who Defines You?
People along the Dark Triad love to define others in a way that makes their inner world more tolerable. If you are in a toxic relationship with someone like this, you will be incorrectly defined, not as you are, but as they want to see you. What happens when we begin to tune into their definitions of us instead of tuning into our truest, highest self? This can set off an identity mindset that restricts your fullest potential. In this episode we look at the internal programming that results from an environment of constant, inconsistent consequences. Breaking down these rules can be difficult, but it is the programming that keeps you trapped.
23. How Your Behavior Affects Narcissists
Anyone that has been in a toxic relationship knows the feeling of searching for clues and answers to fix the relationship. In this episode we explore the many tried tactics people in relationships with narcissists have used in attempts to change their relationship for the better. We take a deeper look at the reasons their attempts have failed and how some are worse than others. What behaviors do affect the narcissist, and are they really effective in the way we intend them to be? Or are our attempts to change the relationship futile? Is it possible that trying to fix these relationships can actually make things worse?
22. Intentional Boundary Blurring
Healthy boundaries are vital for our survival. The intention of toxic people is to break down others’ boundaries in order to gain more for themselves. By breaking down your boundaries, they are more able to control you and get what they need from you. This episode takes a more in depth look at the mastermind behind toxic people's intention to blur and violate boundaries in ways that are often undetected. We look at how they do this and the typical tactics used to distort, blur and violate boundaries. Understanding the methods used, gives us more insight to why it is so hard to set boundaries after being submerged in toxic relationships. And finally we learn fundamental skills of how to set appropriate boundaries in this episode
21. HSP, Highly Sensitive People and Their Super Power
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20 - Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
This episode focuses on the Fear of rejection, which also includes fear of abandonment, because of the way it impacts relationships. The fear of rejection is based in a deep seeded need to be accepted or liked. Our ability to truly connect with others greatly depends on feeling safe and the ability to trust. Fear of rejection inhibits us from being our truest self. The ultimate goal of emotional healing is returning to the truest, most authentic version of self. Learn what the signs and dangers are of the fear of rejection and techniques on how to overcome it.
19. The Inner Programming of Your Mind
This episode focuses on the inner programming that results after being with controlling and manipulative people. Many abusive relationships follow the same patterns as brainwashing institutions such as cults. In a toxic environment, our automatic thoughts adapt to the positive and negative experiences. We don’t even realize that they may become part of our internal dialogue and response system. After a while we find that we are out of line with our truest and deepest selves including our own values, beliefs, opinions and memories. Being out of line with our truest self results in a sense of instability, self-doubt, insecurity, anxiety, and depression. Learning how we became conditioned by manipulators can be a big part of the healing process in piecing our lives back together.
18. Authentic Love Versus Toxic Love
Sometimes we stay in relationships much longer than we should because we believe, want to believe, or want to find out if the other person genuinely loves us. Breaking a bond of authentic love can be one of the most difficult things we ever go through. But if the love is not authentic then the feeling may be one of being trapped. When you know for sure whether the relationship is based on authentic love or if it is a transactional relationship you gain more power over your choices. This episode details and provides examples of authentic love versus toxic love. so that you can make more informed choices about how to proceed in the relationship, and if you want to stay or leave.
17. Becoming the Observer
Becoming the observer gives you the advantage of keen awareness and more emotional management. Which means not getting sucked into irrational and pointless battles. It means becoming aware of yourself, your emotions, your responses, and how you interpret your experiences from a non-judgmental place. It also allows you to observe others' reactions without emotional investment.
16. 30 Signs That You're With A Toxic Person
Sometimes it can be difficult to determine if you are in a toxic relationship, and ironically, especially when you’re in one. There are many factors that contribute to a very powerful trauma-bond causing confusion, distortion of reality, and a lack of trust in your own perceptions. You might often have a strong desire to leave the relationship but get stuck wondering if you’re misreading the behaviors, or if the negative moments are just mistakes that can be mended, forgiven and put in the past only to find a repeated pattern of similar destructive behavior. But it’s hard to tell how much of the dysfunction in the relationship is you and how much of it is your partner. This episode provides 30 signs of toxic behaviors to help you identify where the toxicity resides in order to make more informed decisions.
11. The Sorry Compulsion
We end up over-apologizing for everything. This is our attempt to avoid more conflict and backlash. Apologizing also helps defend against disappointing others. But being in the habit of apologizing sets us up for low self-esteem and other negative affects. This episode looks at the ‘sorry syndrome’, which can develop after being around toxic people for a while, as we take on more and more of their responsibilities.
8. When You Finally Figure Them Out
You have been a great source of narcissistic supply, but you finally figured out that you have been dealing with a narcissist. When they realize that you see this, there will be backlash. That is because they know that they will be unable to fool you anymore and won’t be able to continue their narcissistic supply from you. You are now interfering with their addiction, which is the supply of attention, admiration, power and control that you gave them. They will be in withdrawal. You might see a no gap transition, meaning they will quickly find another source of supply, maybe immediately into another relationship to stabilize their inner world. You will also see narcissistic rage, which looks completely unfamiliar and like pure evil. Look out for smear campaigns, verbal, emotional, mental and even possibly physical abuse, and of course, the victim mentality.
15. The 4 Things Needed To Survive In A Toxic Relationship
There are times when it is more difficult to leave a toxic relationship than to stay in one. This episode offers four essential strategies to remain in a toxic environment without losing your mind or yourself. These four counter actions, when practiced, can save you from further pain and can actually contribute to your healing. Learn how to become stronger against manipulative tactics and use protective measures to free yourself of the control of others.