Don't Tell Me What To Do

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An episode of Don't Tell Me What To Do

By Jori Saeger
In the age of social media and choice overload, we're constantly bombarded with opinions on the "right" and "best" way to live a fulfilled life. Eat this. Live here. Go after this job. Buy this. It goes on. But what happens when you want to pivot? How do you navigate all the advice — internally & externally? Don’t Tell Me What To Do dives into conversations about pivoting from the advice you’re given and charting a new path. This season we're diving into relationships, family, politics, finance, work life balance & more to share a balanced perspective on living a life YOU want.
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In the age of social media and choice overload, we're constantly bombarded with opinions on the "right" and "best" way to live a fulfilled life. Eat this. Live here. Go after this job. Buy this. It goes on. But what happens when you want to pivot? How do you navigate all the advice — internally & externally? Don’t Tell Me What To Do dives into conversations about pivoting from the advice you’re given and charting a new path. This season we're diving into relationships, family, politics, finance, work life balance & more to share a balanced perspective on living a life YOU want.

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Giving Yourself Permission To Be A Relationship Novice
Today we’re diving into the topic of romantic relationships and love. This is a topic that seems to bring up so many opinions from so many sources — internal, family, the media, friends. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, how do you navigate all this advice and pursue relationships that are right for you? Theora Moench, Portland-based dating relationship expert and educator, joins us for a conversation where we dig into the societal myths around partnerships. We talk about what we truly want versus what we’re told to want or think is available to us. We talk about creating passion and resonance versus waiting for it to happen to us. And we talk about why this process is so dang hard. Follow Theora on Instagram and check out her website at Follow the podcast on Instagram @donttellmewhattodopodcast!
December 3, 2019
Fertility Talks - Technology, Ethics And Our Own Biology
Today we’re talking about fertility with Alexa, a nurse practitioner that works at a Pacific Northwest fertility clinic. As IVF technology has advanced, women have been empowered to live their own “don’t tell me what to do” story when thinking about when to start a family. But sometimes this technology is advancing faster than our ethical standards. And sometimes this technology isn’t advancing fast enough to combat our basic biology. Today we get into debates surrounding new gene editing technology. We talk about the controversial case in China this year on gene editing for HIV. We talk about who should be responsible for creating new ethical standards as technology advances. We also dig into egg freezing as well as advanced maternal age and mourning the ability to have your own children. Lastly, we chat about how it’s virtually impossible to be an anonymous sperm or egg donor and how this has changed views on what information we might need for our own spiritual growth. For more information or to find a fertility clinic near you, visit 
November 26, 2019
Let’s Stop Fearing Money Talk
Today we’re diving into the black box of finances with Tori Dunlap. She’s a financial coach and millennial money expert who was featured on Good Morning America for achieving her ambitious goal of saving 100K before she was 25. I personally find it so frustrating and strange that we have a society of college educated millennials with expensive degrees, but with such a gap in financial education — especially for women. Today we’re talking about why and what to do about it. We talk about the fears we have around educating ourself on our own finances and how we can more easily bring it up in our relationships. We talk about finances and the workplace and how to advocate for yourself. And we get into some super practical tips as well. Follow Tori Dunlap on instagram at @HerFirst100K and check out her website at And here is a link to the money resources we talk about in the episode:
November 19, 2019
Season 2 Trailer
Welcome to season 2 of the Don’t Tell Me What To Do Podcast. As we talked about in our season one re-cap, We’re taking a slight turn this season and digging deep into specific "don't tell me what to do" themes on topics like relationships, family, politics, finance, food, healthcare and more to share a balanced perspective on living a life YOU want. Our first episode of the season launches next week! Subscribe today so you can get weekly episodes.  To learn more, head over to our website: and follow us on Instagram:
November 13, 2019
Recapping Season 1 & Looking Ahead to Season 2
In today’s episode Amy and Jori reflect on season one of the podcast. We delve back into the moment that kicked off this adventure and what we set out to do together. We share our favorite moments of the season and what we learned from our amazing guests. And we share what our plan is for season two and how we want your great ideas to make it happen.  We want to hear from you! Jori and Amy are taking a small break this summer to dig into some new stories and build a stellar lineup for DTMWTD Season 2. Our big question: who is an expert that you want to hear from in upcoming episodes? Do you want to be a guest on the podcast? Connect with us here. Thanks for listening to Season 1! Please review us on iTunes (it helps others find our podcast) and share with your friends!
May 30, 2019
Forging A New Path in Living With Chronic Illness
What happens when you’re diagnosed with a chronic illness and medicine just isn’t working? In this episode we talk with Carly Brawner, a health coach and wellness advocate based in Austin Texas. We talk about what happened after she was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s — a thyroid disorder — and how “ditching her endocrinologist” catapulted her into a new career to help others live a more holistic and healthy lifestyle. Once Carly started asking hard questions and "why" with her health, she started approaching everything else differently as well.  This episode is for anyone who has taken their health into their own hands or has watched a love one battle an autoimmune disorder. We dig deep into what it means to passionately advocate for your health and be highly communicative in your relationships to have a wholehearted life. Connect with Carly on Instagram @frolicandflow and on her website at To learn more about Hashimoto's, visit Carly's website or the American Thyroid Institute.
May 14, 2019
What To Do Next After a Breakdown-Breakthrough Moment
In this episode, we’re serving up real talk on anxiety and depression with Seattle strength and fitness coach Anna Clausen Williams. We talk about Anna’s “breakdown-breakthrough moment” during a yoga class that precipitated her decision to leave her acting career behind after the realization that her career was at the root of her anxiety and depression.  Anna talks about how she got the courage to walk away from an acting career she had been building since she was a child and pivot into a life that felt more true to her. She finally asked “what do I want” and “who am I in this world” instead of asking everyone else around her. What followed was her commitment to help others find their joy through movement and connect with the badasses they are. You’re going to want to lift some heavy shit after this one.  If you’ve ever felt you might be living your life for others, or feel afraid to try something new, this episode is for you. We talk the hard stuff, but we also laugh (a lot) along the way.  Follow Anna on Instagram at @AnnaClausenWellness and check out to learn more about how to workout and train with Anna in Seattle (and to subscribe to her Feel Good Friday emails!)
May 7, 2019
Reframing The Narrative On Women And Physical Weakness
Dr. Ellie Somers, founder of SISU Sports Performance and Physical Therapy, is working to reframe the narratives that women hear around healthcare and injury prevention. She’s bucking the traditional medical system by listening and empowering her clients to break free from injury because of weakness and empowering them to believe they’re enough in their own strength. Fueled by her own “Don’t Tell Me What To Do” moment from childhood and learnings as she’s built her own practice, Ellie is raising her voice and passionately focused on how to help women discover their own power and strength. Hear more about Ellie’s driving mission and how she’s advocating for female athletes in this week’s episode.   Connect with Ellie on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter,  or visit SISU Performance online at
April 30, 2019
Confessions of an Unemployed CEO
In this episode we dive into the messy middle of what happens after you sell a company and don’t know what happens next. Last November, tech entrepreneur Kristen Hamilton sold her latest company. As the funds crossed the wire, she shut her laptop and froze, asking herself: “what do I do now?”   What followed was a period of pressing the reset button in a way she had never done before. She realized that after this intense change, she needed to be still in order to determine what was next. She entered a period of blank space — one that gave her complete panic, but became a period that was so important.  As a high achiever with her identity wrapped up in tech entrepreneurship and as a CEO, Kristen needed to get super clear on her value moving forward. Listen in as we dig into what this process looked like and empathize with Kristen’s assessment that self-love is so f-ing hard.  Connect with Kristen Hamilton on LinkedIn here:
April 23, 2019
Bringing Black Girl Magic to Wellness
What happens when you look around on your social media feed and see no one that looks like you? Shouldn't someone do something about that? For Lestraundra Alfred, it was a moment where she realized that someone was her.  After building her online community with The Balanced Berry for almost five years, Les knew she needed to make a shift and tell stories of health and wellness for women of color. In this episode, Les unravels how this pivot to create the Balanced Black Girl podcast helped bring more clarity in purpose and mission for herself and her online audience. She also unpacks why it was somewhat taboo to go in this direction — and yet, she did it anyway. Not only is her podcast amplifying new voices in wellness, but it’s also elevating conversations about diversity and inclusion in today’s world.  Find more about Les and Balanced Black Girl Podcast at You can follow Balanced Black Girl Podcast on Instagram at @balancedblackgirlpodcast and follow Les @BalancedLes.
April 16, 2019
Navigate Anxiety & Depression by Telling Fear to F*ck Off
Building a strong community in a 24/7 always on, frenetic world isn’t easy. For Molly Kieland, creating a family that combined her love of strength training and a community that relentlessly supported each other was exactly what she needed to do at a time when she felt like something in her life was out of place.  In 2014, she made it happen: shifting her life from the corporate world to creating FUELhouse, a community built around group strength and conditioning classes. Four years later, Molly had yet another “Don’t Tell Me What To Do” moment as she grew the community but noticed something about her own life wasn’t quite right. Identifying she was in a period of depression became a wakeup call that reshaped how she viewed her days and her team. Listen to more of Molly’s story and how her mindfulness practices and whole-body routines have had a ripple effect with her FUELhouse team and her greater community. Learn more about Molly and FUELHouse at and
April 9, 2019
Ignoring Your Inner Critic
Sometimes the hardest advice to ignore is our own. Those internal voices that try to guide us in a different direction than we know is right for us. But when we push away our fears and insecurities, we can actually hear the true voices that matter and follow our truth.  Erin talks about how this process of truly listening to herself led her to make huge life changes that ultimately led her to where she is today. We hear about her decision to leave college and travel for a year, to pick up her life and move to Germany, to start a hostel in Bolivia and ultimately her decision to walk away from it all and start something completely new. Learn more about Erin’s empowerment coaching services here: Follow her on instagram here:
April 2, 2019
That Time You Ignored Your Family's Advice
When the people we love the most give us advice, it's pretty dang hard to ignore — especially when it comes to family. In this episode we meet Jen Hope, executive coach and badass fitness lady. Her "Don't Tell Me What To Do" story spanned a decade of advice from trusted family members, and going against the grain helped pivot her to her current success.  What happens after you say "yes" to entrepreneurship? Jen talks about the mess, the muck, the joy, and when you just want to throw a meditation pillow. Learn more about Jen and work with her here: Follow her on instagram here: 
March 26, 2019
Finding Your YES
We've all had the feeling that others want to put us in a box — the mom box, the career woman box, the friend box and more. What happens when you don't fit perfectly into that box? Today we talk with Samantha Willing, an HR professional turned freelance coach and podcaster, who recently left her traditional full-time role to navigate life on her own terms. Listen to what happens in the grey when you take the leap and go for it.  Listen to Sam's Podcast, Imperfection Wins: Follow Sam on Instagram:  
March 19, 2019
PILOT: Don't Tell Me What To Do
Today we're launching a new podcast: Don't Tell Me What To Do, brought to you by Seattleite 30somethings — Jori Saeger and Amy Kugler.  Many stories of success start with the moment that precipitated future greatness and jumps to the end. But what happens in the middle? What led to a new direction? How do you navigate all the advice — internally and externally — that comes during a huge life change? Don’t Tell Me What To Do will dive into those conversations about pivoting from the advice you’re given and charting your own path.
March 19, 2019
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