Thrive Like A Parent

Today I have back with me, a very awesome special guest Carter, who, as you know, is my partner. And today we are going to talk about communication.

Communication is a topic that we really want to talk about. But it's also a topic that you all have been very interested in. Because it's really hard to have healthy communication within a partnership. And it's something that we have worked on, as well as something that we make an active effort to have strong communication skills within our partnership. 

Carter and I come from partnerships where we didn't feel strong communication was there.

We just recently did a reel which was a real conversation. And so many had so much to say, especially how they wish they could have that type of communication with their partner. And so, we felt it would be really supportive to you to discuss how we've gotten to where we've gotten, what has worked, tips and tricks and tools and kind of our journey along the way of how our communication has gotten to where it has gotten.

Carter and I truly believe that the key to a healthy and strong communication partnership is the “I” statements. Expressing your feelings with “I” statements, whether they are negative or positive makes a huge impact in your relationship. But it's also the active listening of hearing those “I” statements and then not taking it on, that you yourself are a failure.

Being self-regulated, requesting our needs, checking in with one another as well as knowing one another’s defense mechanisms are also important areas and discussions to have when working on thriving in a healthy and strong communication partnership.  

But without a doubt intentional commitment is a requirement needed in order to see change. You have to be willing to “do the work”. Carter and I both agree that you must get to the point where you put the time and effort into bettering your relationship.

So, until next time,

XOXO

Dr. B

EP:85 It's really hard to have healthy communication within a partnership.

It’s something that you have to make an active effort to build within your partnership.

There's three levels of communication. First phase: The chaos tit for tat. YOU. YOU. YOU.

Second phase: the psychological phase of communicating..  I'm trying to hear you but I don't understand because I did that and you did this. Third phase: the most deep layer is how do I feel… The I statements.

Carter and I have put in a lot of work to get to where we are today and we thought it would supportive to all of you to share what has worked, tips and tricks and tools and our journey along the way of how our communication has gotten to where it has gotten.

We would love to know what holding you back from building stronger communication within your partnership in the comments below.

EP:84 I used to be a raging people pleaser.

I did everything for everyone, for all the wrong reasons, I did what I thought I should do, I did what I thought I should do as a mom, what I should do as a wife, what I should do as a friend, what I should do as a sibling. You name it, I did it.

If you ever find yourself saying yes to things, you have absolutely no time or energy for or to complete. And you maybe even shy away from difficult conversations, or you find it really difficult to ask for help. Or you never accept help when it's given, you could potentially be a people pleaser.
One of the biggest gifts of doing this work with clients is getting to observe their own shedding and their own people pleasing. And it is truly part of mental health is releasing your people pleasing tendencies. Because if you're doing everything for everyone else, you're not doing for yourself, not nearly as much as you should. And if you're not doing enough for yourself, then that means that your mental health is suffering. That means that you are neglecting yourself.

Living in integrity with yourself aligning your self to your own purpose. That takes time that takes energy that takes effort, but don't ever settle. Don't ever settle for showing up in the world just simply for others. Because when you continue to self neglect when you continue to support others and not yourself, it does eat away at you. And so start small. Take the steps that I've given you and remind yourself that you're worthy, even if it ruffled feathers, you're so worthy.

On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.. Learn how you too can become a reformed people pleaser.

EP:83 Today is the day after the three-year anniversary of Jonathan's death. And my grief story was probably the fourth or fifth podcast that I ever recorded.

A year and a half ago, I was bursting at the seams to finally share what happened. But felt like, at least Charlie, my older son needed to know before the rest of the world.

We have a very hard time processing death, nonetheless, someone choosing to take their own life. And so I waited.

I waited until either one of my children were ready.

Eli, my youngest son, still doesn’t know today what happened. And that’s ok. He's asking questions, but we're going to wait until he's ready. Charlie has been wonderful at giving that respect to Eli, and waiting until his brain is ready to process.

There's so much of my story I haven't told and I think I'm ready.
The only reason I share my story and journey will always go back to my why. I know others have been through this or are going through this. And I don't want anyone to feel alone.
In this podcast, I will share with you the importance of taking care of yourself and getting the support that you need while going through a divorce and have your spouse go through a mental illness.

I will also share the journey of blame, pointing fingers, opinions and judgement that occurs after the passing of your spouse and the importance of boundaries and drawing lines in the sand of this “this is ok” and “this is not ok”.

Lastly, I will show you how you too can show up for yourself. Unapologetically you are going to say the hard things you are going to tell the truth you are going to give the hard information you are going to be you whether people like it or not, is not easy. But you have to make a commitment to yourself.

Don’t miss this podcast episode. It’s authentic and real and informative and healing. Let’s journey together.

EP:82 Today, I am really excited to have on Sarah Reardon who is a board-certified
pelvic health physical therapist.

She currently works at a private practice called Nola Pelvic Health and has an
online (Instagram account) exercise platform called, The Vagina Whisperer, that she created six or seven years ago to help folks from all over. Today, she has
over 600,000 followers.

I just don’t think that this is talked about enough. And our pelvic floor health and
for all the dudes, the men, the dads, any of you human males who listen to this
today, we will probably talk more about the female reproductive system and all
the things but this does affect males too. And I don’t want to take that away from
the men.
But I really wanted to talk about females and our bodies and what happens after
childbirth, because a lot of the individuals who listen to this podcast are parents and I don’t think there is enough conversation around it. I think it’s very taboo.
In this podcast, we will dive deep into what is normal versus what’s not normal in the pelvic health world.
We are going tp discuss questions that most don’t want to ask but questions need to be asked so that we can get answers.
Sara will also teach us how to do a proper Kegel and she explains her V-hive and what that looks like and how it is designed for all seasons in life.
She also shares with us how she has been able to show up for herself and show up for her businesses and do all the things that she does while also having two kids.
It is a journey you do not want to miss hearing.
Don’t miss this informative, inspiring podcast with the AMAZING Sarah Reardon.

EP:79 Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the slight clutter or mess in your house, and you’ve walked in the door, only to feel overloaded by scattered papers orunwashed dishes and clothes and disarray. Maybe you’ve even had arguments because it bothers you more than it bothers your partner, or your your spouse.

I want you to know, most importantly, you are not alone.

When my house is clean, and there is no clutter, I have a peaceful mind.

The state of cleanliness for some brains, helps you feel like you have structure, stability and control, which helps you feel like you have that within your life and within your brain.

8 Reasons to Eliminate Clutter from your Life:

1. Clutter bombards our minds with excess stimuli.

2. Clutter distracts us by drawing our attention away from what our focusshould be on.

3. Clutter makes it more difficult to relax.

4. Clutter constantly signals your brain that your work is never done.

5. Clutter makes us anxious, because we’re never sure what it’s going to taketo get through to the bottom of the pile.

6. Clutter creates feelings of guilt.

7. Clutter inhibits creativity and productivity by invading the open spaces that allow most people to think, brainstorm, and problem solve.

8. Clutter frustrates us by preventing us from locating what we need to quickly.

Join me on this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent for tips to declutter your space and your mind!

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EP:78 You find self love for yourself by putting yourself first. You find self love by giving back to yourself, by saying no, by asking for help, by giving yourself moments of calm.

That's how you thrive in the chaos of life.  That is how you fall in love with yourself. That is how you find self worth and self love.
It doesn't make you a bad person for choosing yourself. It doesn't make you a weaker individual. It makes you a strong human. For being able to own your mental health, being able to own what you can and cannot do.

My wish for you is to start thinking about how you want to live your life, how you want your life to look within the chaos of life, because it is always chaotic. But there is a way to do this life without crashing and burning. There is a way to put yourself first even in the most strenuous of moments, even in the most strenuous of circumstances, and it is okay to lean into that rabbit hole of taking care of yourself and listening in to what your body needs.

Tune in to this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast and chat about how we all can thrive in midst of chaos.

EP:77 We're more exhausted than ever. We're more burnt out than ever. We're pushing so hard but yet getting stuck on a hamster wheel of unhappiness… Erika has done a phenomenal job seeing that reality and taking it upon herself to decided.. I’m going to take matters into my own hands and decide that I'm going to be in control of my own life…. On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent join Erika and I as we discuss how we found our own freedom in today’s world of chaos and how you too friend can start living a life that is aligned to exactly what feels right and best for you!

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EP:76 I am so incredibly excited to have Connie Zak on who is the CEO and co founder of sunlighten saunas, and I can't thank you enough for being here. And I think this is going to be so informative to our listeners. Because as they all know, and I've spoken about it a lot, I now have a sauna from you all. And it's been a huge part of my healing journey for my Hashimotos.

Connie Zack is a co-owner of Sunlighten, a leading company in infrared sauna manufacturing and infrared light therapy. Motivated by the positive impact of infrared saunas on her brother's health, Connie, alongside her husband, has dedicated over 24 years to advancing the benefits of infrared light worldwide, with Sunlighten operating in 13 countries and running an award-winning day spa in Kansas City. Their mission is to enhance wellness through infrared technology, focusing on innovation and meaningful relationships.

Join up as we discuss what is infrared, and is it safe + what are some of the main health benefits?

Make sure to listen to the VERY END for an exclusive offer to get your very own sunlighten sauna!

EP:75 On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast let’s discuss how to recalibrate the nervous system and shift patterns to achieve a state of calm and peace. I hope this will encourage you to practice awareness, recognize your wins, and support your own regulation. The fastest way to regulate the nervous system is not through control, fixing, or creating structure, but by sitting in discomfort and supporting the body's natural regulation process. Recognizing and validating your feelings without shame or judgment is essential for regulating the nervous system. While control, fixing, and creating structure may provide temporary relief, they do not support long-term regulation. Practicing awareness and understanding your triggers can help you respond to unexpected situations with calm and presence. Join me on this week’s episode as I dive deeper into how you can create larger windows of tolerance to stress and discomfort which will allow for longer periods of regulation and a more peaceful state of being.

EP:74 The majority of humans somehow get into the pattern of learning how to regulate themselves on an external basis, which means they rely on everyone and everything else around them to give them permission, as well as allow them to regulate their nervous system.

I find that the individuals who are externally regulating, it's as if that human is in a sea of water. And they are waving their hands around with tons of waves and white caps around them, and they are just treading water. And you can't do that forever. But what ends up happening is we're in the middle of the sea begging for a life raft.

Externally, the individuals around you are not meant to satiate and take care of your nervous system. Can they support you? You bet. But can they fix and throw you a life raft? Every single time all the time? 24/7? No. And the reason being is that A: It's not realistic. And B, they have their own nervous system to take care of.

Go down that rabbit hole and explore all the things that make YOU feel good. AND DECIDE to support yourself. Because what's waiting for you on the other side is such freedom, freedom from resentment and anger from your loved ones. Freedom for holding permission and everyone else's hands for your happiness and your mental health. Freedom from needing to feel worthy from others, and most importantly, regulating through someone else and other things externally.

More tips on this week episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.

EP:73 On this week’s episode I am joined by Laura Day. Laura is an intuitive healer. She is a New York Times best seller. And she's worked with many amongst the stars. Laura’s work has helped demystify intuition and bring it into the mainstream. Laura has trained thousands of people and companies to use their brains, perceptions, and “sixth sense” in effective ways to realize their goals.

We discuss what it means to truly live aligned within the individual neurology of your own brain.

Subscribe to the Thrive Like a Parent podcast and tune in for the full episode.

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EP:72 On today’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast… I am so honored to be joined by Kelli Bullard.

Kelly is an incredible mama. A young widow. Teacher turned author.

We are all struck by tragedy in some way within our life. And at some point, we may need to support a neighbor, a friend, a loved one. And we have no earthly idea what that's going to look like for them, or what they may need.

Each individual person definitely needs something different.

Join us as we discuss how we had to figure out our own process in grief, Kelly’s new book (Behind My Smily), finding love after tragedy and so much more.

EP:71 Happy 2024!!! As we start ramping up this year, I want to remind you that today is today, we'll see what tomorrow brings. But be proud of yourself just simply for showing up. And trust the process. Whatever you're going through in your life.. Whether it's you having some January blues, whether it's you're feeling some depression, just in life or you've gone through a loss or you're having a hard season of your life, whatever it is, I want you to trust that process. Trust time. Love time. Allow time. Don't force time but instead soak it in. Take one small step to change your life in whatever direction that means for you. Whether it is slowing down, whether it is slightly ramping up, utilize that throttle to make the long lasting impact within your life.

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EP:70 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I have a very special guest with me, my boyfriend Carter.

Throughout this journey, I had to grow and trust the process. It wasn't easy. I had to let my guard down, be vulnerable, and communicate, which is tough, especially after the trauma I've been through. That's why it took me so long to share my current relationship with the world. It's been two years, and it shows the depth of the trauma I had to work through.

It's not just about breaking down walls; it's about feeling safe enough to let someone in and building that trust. The process took time, but now I can proudly say I'm in a committed relationship, and it's a testament to the healing and trust we've built together. Although, it was hard.. It’s attainable and so so worth it.

You can find a healthy partnership and do life together in a way that feels best in right for you.

I hope by us sharing our story with you, you too will find the courage to embark on this journey.

I urge you to slow down and take a look at the world around you that you are creating… Because this is not easy. I don't care if you're a working parent, a stay at home parent, single, solo or divorced.This is hard.

It's not only hard to be a parent, but we live in a different world than our parents raised us in and it's okay to accept that and lean into that and give your brain and body all the support it needs.

My wish for you is extra rest and extra water. If you're feeling dysregulated get down to essentials. Skip everything else. Food, water, rest.

I wish you joy.

I wish you peace.

I wish you happiness.

I wish you support. I wish you love.

I wish you the gift of stepping on the brake.

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EP: 68 Today I want to remind you the holiday season really truly at its core meant slowing down, resting, rebooting. I want you to focus in on what matters most, which is taking the time to make holiday memories. I guarantee you're already doing enough. So put the garland down. Slow your roll on the extra sides of mashed potatoes and the extra dish you think you need to make this year. Stop over functioning and doing so much for so many when you really don't feel like doing it but you think you need to do it. Start supporting yourself this holiday season and enjoy the time with your family and the ones you love most and most importantly rest, rest, rest. Tune in to this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast for tips and strategies to truly enjoy and be present this holiday season. XOXO, Dr. B #thrivelikeaparent #podcast #newepisode #parentingpodcast #holiday #holidayseason #neurosensory #momlife #unapologetically #authenticity #sensoryregulation #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #aligning #parenthood #holistichealth #thrive #burnout

EP:67 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I am so honored to be joined by the one and only Erika Nolan! Erika has not only been a dear friend of mine since childhood, she has also been an inspiration for personal growth and courage to live authentically in a world that often pushes conformity. Erika is now an incredible Holistic Health and Homestead Coach. Her journey involved many unexpected turns that led to a profound transformation. Pursing a life that aligns with one's true self means stepping into the unknown, releasing old expectations , stepping out of societal norms and stepping into a path that feels right for you. You, my friend are so worthy of living an aligned and fulfilling life that is your true calling. My hope is that this episode will be the sign for you to live and be unapologetically you! #thrivelikeaparent #podcast #parenting #nervoussystemregulation #thrive #thrivelikeamother #parenthood #motherhood #momlife #widow #sensorysystem #mentalhealth #triggers

EP:66 Hello, and welcome to another episode of Thrive like a parent Podcast. Today, I'm going to just give you a life update. So every now and then I will kind of do this and share with you what's going on in my life. And there are plenty of other podcasts of mine that give you tons and tons of information. But every now and then you crave and ask for a life update from me. And I appreciate your interest.

I think I will start with a Hashimotos update, because so many of you are asking for that. Doctors found that I had one tiny, gross, but former parasites, they've decided that I had an overgrowth of Candida. And of course, you know, stress, which of course that comes along with my life, and how much I have on my plate, which I knew that that's a part of Hashimotos. And they put me on basically a three month protocol.

And so it took me a lot to figure out what I could eat on a daily basis.  But, I kept saying we've got to do something about this daily routine because like this is clearly not working for my lifestyle.  Please know that number one, in life, you have to do what works for you! I now know that this can be managed.  But it has to be managed in the way that works for me.  I'm so proud of myself because I finally have enough energy to be able to attend to my needs as well as my kids.  It's slow, but I see it coming back and I take all my wins because if I don't then I'll just still feel icky.

I will never be the same person I was before Jonathan passed like I will never be the same person. I do believe that if you have have gone through anything huge in your life, lost a spouse, or a divorce or anything like that. I do believe that we don't fully own that it's okay to be someone different than who we were before.  Like, at the end of the day, I'm still broke, but the life experiences have shaped who I am, and who I will be for the rest of my my life, right.

The other thing on the life update is, I could not be more excited about this upcoming thrive.  So there are many different ways to work with me, you can work with myself, one on one, you can work with the three individuals who I've trained for over two years that I would absolutely never have on my team or never allow them to see clients if I didn't feel that you were going to get the same result as you would with me.  And so you can work with one of them.  You can work with me one on one basis, or you can do our Thrive group program.  So this year, we only do Thrive twice a year, just FYI, we do it in the beginning of the year and we do it before Thanksgiving, around September (please listen to my podcast to know how Thrive works).
So let's talk about what's to come besides thrive.  I have some very, very exciting guests coming on the podcast in the coming year.  So look for that, we are going to be doing a lot more of all that we already are doing.  Because we feel so good with what we're doing.  And it's it's so rewarding.
I can't thank you enough for listening and coming along for this crazy ride.  It's the best. It's so much fun.  I love doing this and I love I'm very lucky that I love what I do.  And I love supporting all of you.

EP: 65 Being around our family for the holidays can be so triggering to us. On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I want to give you a guideline of how to support yourself through that time. Dysregulation into regulation does not happen overnight. Anxiety into calm does not happen in a blink of an eye. Fight or flight into rest and digest does not happen overnight. It takes time, especially when you've been pounding the pavement all year long. That's the exact reason why I don't want you to start adding more to your plate with your family or taking on the emotional dysregulation of your family during this season. This holiday season, I encourage you to take care of yourself, because I care. I care so much. And I am so grateful to each and every one of you. XOXO, Dr. B #thrivelikeaparentpodcast #newepisode #sensoryregulation #nervoussystemregulation #authenticity #parenthood #widow #thrive #thrivelikeaparent #gainingsupport

EP:63 I promise you I am not getting political. My stance on what is going on in the world is that "a human is a human is a human '' and anytime there is loss of a human, it's devastating. With recent events, was I devastated to see what happened on October 7th? You bet. Does it hit home for me? Sure, I am a white Jewish female. But a human is a human is a human, and I need you to know that before I speak on anything I say today. As someone who has a voice you are always going to say things wrong. No matter what you say, it is always the wrong thing. I was told I was a disgrace, uneducated, disappointing, unfollowed, ignorant for my stance. But I want to take this example of what happened to me to speak about what often happens to us in our daily lives. It is important for you to understand that when having a conversation with someone you feel you are being heard, seen, your boundaries are being respected, and your position on a particular subject or matter, matters. It is also important for you to know, prior to any conversation, if that conversation will meet: 1. Conversation dialogue of safety 2. Connection Everyone needs to feel a safe connection rather than feeling shut down and defensive. You might be experiencing this right now and I'd like to help guide you and move you through how you can support yourself in moments where you don't feel seen, heard, shut down, defensive, etc. Those hard conversations will lead to the most beautiful safety and to the most beautiful connection if you go into them with vulnerability, honesty, and chipping away at all the walls around you. And if you have fear going into those conversations, that means that you're doing something different than you've ever done in the past. And that fear can guide you into knowing you're actually making changes in your life and making changes in your brain patterning and you're growing as a human because you're saying no fear. Join me on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to talk through how you can build safety within your brain. XOXO, Dr. B #podcast #thrivelikeaparent #parenting #burnout #fightorflight #sensoryregulation #emotionalregulation #selfcare #nervoussystemregulation #awareness #momlife #modelingregulation #thrive #thrivelikeaparentpodcast

EP:62 In this podcast episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast I am so honored to be joined by Maria Gonzalez, a Doctor of Physical Therapy. Maria is also one of the coaches on my team who helps support our clients.

Personal growth doesn't happen overnight and requires trust in the process. So many of our clients initially seek rapid, linear changes, but it takes time. We must learn to embrace the journey with its highs and lows that eventually turn into rolling hills.

We must understand what truly mental health looks and how to support your mental health on a neurological level. And it stems so deep that we are then able to impart this wisdom on to our children.

Once you make that shift, your child is then living with that parent, that version of you. And that's the version you've always been, but maybe never let out. And our children will then learn that and we help our clients learn how to support our children through the same mindset.

If you tired of living in a constant state of fight or flight and are ready to find balance and piece.. My team and I would love to support you.

EP:61 If you are tired of being exhausted, if you're tired of being lonely, if you are tired of snapping at your kids, if you're tired of feeling like it's an uphill battle, if you are tired of only getting that dopamine hit when you buy something for yourself and there's no other joy in life, if you feel like your partnership is stale, or you want to rip their heads off…..

That means ding ding, ding, ding, ding, it's time for support! Because you we aren't meant to do this alone.

Take time to support you in the way that you need. That is how you go from fight or flight (red zone) to rest, restoration, peace, calm and all the different things that you long for. So take some time to rest and move through the yellow which is will be wildly uncomfortable but oh so worth it when you come out on the other side.

Today I urge you to check in see how you're feeling for the day.

- Are you picking your skin?

- Are you chewing your nails? Are you biting your nails?

- Are you emotionally eating? Are you snapping at your kids?

- Are you completely disconnected from your partnership?

- Are my shoulders raised?

- Is my jaw clenched?

- Is my forehead lifted?

- Do I have a headache?

Do a body scan. What are the things your body is telling you that suggest you may be in the red. What are you feeling? Where in your body are you feeling it? Then go give yourself three hours to take care of you because you're so damn worth it.

EP:59 This episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast is for the parent who is struggling with a child. And that is the bottom line. No matter diagnosis or not. The reason I'm doing this podcast, is because I've been there.
Maybe you haven't realized how to put it into words.
Maybe you haven't allowed yourself to fully feel those emotions.
Maybe you haven't given yourself the permission to just validate that sometimes this shits hard, and you're exhausted and you're tired.
I want you to know you're not alone. I want you to know it's okay to feel those feelings. And I want you to know that you are not the only parent on the roller coaster.
If you need more support the team and I would love to support you. We would love to support your child into learning how to regulate. This journey is not meant to be taken alone.
Comment “SUPPORT” and let’s chat.
XOXO,
Dr. B #podcast #throvelikeaparent #newepisode #parent #momlife #nervoussystem #nervoussystemregulation #emotionalregulation #sensoryplay #sensoryregulation #sensoryseeking #viral #video

EP:58 Join us in our latest episode on Thrive like a parent Podcast, where we chat about something we've all felt at times--- that feeling of being 'too much.'

It's a deep-seated issue that quietly influences many areas of our lives, often without us realizing it.

In our journey of self-discovery, we often seek empowerment, self-confidence, and control over our lives. These desires can be powerful driving forces, but sometimes, in our quest to achieve them, we unintentionally create a mask that usually hide our true selves where we end up portraying another version of us that doesn't align with our genuine feelings and identity, and make it hard for us to embrace confidence, honesty, and control which are helpful in rewiring the brain.

But if we learn how to embrace our authenticity, speak up, and dance to our own rhythm, fear won't hold us back.

So in this podcast, we talk about honoring exactly who you are, so that being too much will be your greatest gift.

Actually, you are not too much, you're just being all that you're meant to be in this life.

Take a risk! It's your brain's way of saying, "Be yourself, it's worth it!"

EP:57 Today, I have a guest on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast. Her name is Lindsay Kane now and I've known Lindsey since playgroup! Lindsey is a an incredible wife and mamma to two amazing boys. Lindsey owns a beautiful jewelry company. The link is in stories!

I've worked with Lindsay and her family for a few years now. I've worked with Lindsay regarding herself and I've supported Lindsay with her kiddos.

This episode is an authentic look through the lens of what a session with one of my clients looks like.

We talk through our kids different nervous systems and how sometimes their underdeveloped nervous systems is what's getting in the way of them being able to attend and focus and how to support them through it all!

My hope is that this will help you and other parents relate to Lindsey’s story.

EP:56 It is ok for you to be an individual.

It's okay to not have the same opinions. It's okay to feel things that others don’t.
It's okay to be a quote sensitive human. It's okay when others tell you to get over it and are not ready, and it affected me and that's okay.

All of our brains function differently. And if you're trying to model someone else or a generation or you're trying to keep up with something that was taught to you that you quote should be keeping up with but deep down you're you feel empty… Listen to that!

EP:55 A question I get asked all the time… When do you know you are finally healed from trauma?

The truth is… It's not about when is the healing over. It's about gaining awareness to understand that you actually do have control over how you feel in the midst of a trigger.

It is the ability to say, I know that I can support myself through this. I know I have the capacity to do it. I've done it before. And I know I'm going to feel okay on the other side. And that is what it's about.  

The healing and work always continues. Am I more healed now than I was a year or two ago or five years ago, you bet. But I also love the person that I am here today. And I also look forward to the person I will be in a year. Like I look forward to that. And it's okay to accept it all. Healing can happen, but it does happen very slowly. And I do believe that we become wiser as we get older, we become more comfortable within our skin and more comfortable with the choices we're making and who we are and how we choose to lead our lives and not caring about what others think as much like all that happens with with time, right and experience, but also healing. So best of luck on your healing journey and know that it's okay to go slow.

EP:54 Although being sensory seeking can be difficult at times.. You're feeling, hearing, seeing and tasting everything that most others are not. The stimuli can be overwhelming...But it can also be a beautiful benefit, personality trait and neurological trait that can support you and your life and help you find your magic, help you find what you're best at and your strengths.

Your sensory sensitivity is not a weakness friend, it’s your superpower!

After you listen to this podcast, if you have any more questions on this or are interested in working with myself or my team and get support in truly understanding how to support your brain please reach out. Let's chat, because you deserve to live a full life that support your individual nervous system and you absolutely CAN HAVE THAT.

EP:53 It has officially been one year since I've started my Thrive Like a Parent podcast!!!

I am so grateful that you have chosen to trust me.

That's why I push so hard to make sure that this is done the correct way.

Thank you for trusting me in supporting you and giving you the knowledge to understand how your brain functions, how your children's brain functions and how to support both.

I can't thank you enough for your love and support for myself, my family and my children.

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EP:52 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I was fortunate to be joined by Dr. Morgan to discuss her book coming out called Love Your Kids Without Loosing Yourself in the Process.

I was very lucky, I got a little preview. We will discuss a few things in it and a little teaser for all of you listening to my podcast to hear kind of what to expect.

I personally cannot tell you enough positive things about this book and I would love for all of you to grab yourself a copy because Dr. Morgan could not be more on the money with this book.

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EP:51 On this weeks episode of Thrive like a Parent podcast we will talk steps and signs of what happens when you finally begin the process of feeling your body come out of fight or flight. And it is so crucially important to understand this because you it's going to feel not as good as you want it to feel.

is so crucially important to have this knowledge so that you don't spiral. That you don't think you're in a deep dark depression so that you don't think it's never going to end so that you know that your brain is doing exactly what it needs to do.

EP:50 This week I decided to do something a little different on my Thrive Like a Parent podcast.

I want to say thank you to each and every one of you who trust me to support you through this crazy journey of life and dm me your questions.

I know I don’t have the time to answer all of your questions but I will do the best I can to do that in these podcast episodes.

Tell us how you're liking the podcast in the comments below, ask questions here! This will be the easiest place for me to see them.

-> If you have any requests on specific topics let me know in the comments below.

EP:49 We can support our brain into rewiring.

We can support our brain into healing.

We can support our brain into gaining more fluency within each different portion of our brain.

Your brain might push and resist away from saying the hard emotional things because your brains not used to it NOT because it can't. It's just that muscle has not been flexed enough.

That is why it is so important to teach our children how to understand feelings, what they are and how to verbalize them.

It is our responsibility as parents to teach our children this consistentely within the safely of our home so they can continue to do the same out in the world.

Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent to learn how to teach your children feelings.

EP:48 I have officially been diagnosed with Hashimotos.

It's an autoimmune disease, where your thyroid can bounce into hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism.

It's been a hard one, it's been a real hard one to swallow.

But this will now be part of my story that I share with you and hopefully share my healing journey of what this looks like and how I am stepping in to supporting myself even more. And at the end of the day. It first and foremost starts with me on apologetically, taking care of myself.

So I choose to move forward with the awareness, with more knowledge, more grace, more understanding, more self love, and more healing. Because at the end of the day, health is the most important thing. Mental and physical. So take this today as a reminder to slow down. Take care of yourself.

EP:47 Technology is sucking the money out of the world. It's absolutely crazy. And so many are going along with it.

It's so upsetting to me. It's so upsetting for our future generations and our children. This is not what I signed up for when I decided to have a family and have kids.

we've got to start living in reality and teaching our children that reality exists. And what that reality looks like is up to you to decide. You get to decide what this life looks like for your children, what you have them engage in and what you have them not engaged in.

On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we will dive deep into how our choices will help dictate the next generation.

EP:46 The first number one step to taking care of yourself within the exhaustion of parenthood is awareness, and acceptance.

Ask yourself… How do I feel? It is ok for the answer to be I feel exhausted. You get to feel that feeling. Exhausted does not mean you're weak. Feeling exhausted does not mean that you're a bad parent. Feeling exhausted means you're probably doing a phenomenal job.

When you accept how your brain and body is feeling, you are then allowed to go after the mental health that your brain and body is craving deserves and longs for.

But in order to truly support ourselves, not only do we have to have the awareness and acceptance, but we have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. We have to learn how to regulate ourselves.

You are so worthy of finding that self care, you are so worthy of gaining support, no matter who it is. You are so worthy of finding a community, you're so worthy of asking someone for support, you're so worthy of having a moment of silence or just to stretch before you go to bed. You are so so worthy of that. But I cannot give that to you. You have to decide for yourself.

This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we are going to discuss owning your exhaustion in parenthood and steps to take care of yourself through it without any guilt or shame.

EP:45 When there is a transition, your brain is feeling discomfort.

We as parents have to support a child's brain into helping them become aware of the discomfort.

We have to guide them through the process of helping them BECOME AWARE, having lots of conversations.

There's no cure here. There's support. We cannot fix immediately, we have to support over the long haul. And consistency is key.

On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I dive deep into how to support your child through transitions, teach them to continue allowing their brain to say, I'm going to keep going despite the discomfort, I'm going to keep going despite the fear, I'm going to keep going despite the lack of knowledge of where the where the heck this is leading me to and set them up for success.

EP:44 On his week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast… we're going to talk about why it's so damn hard to take time for yourself away from your kids.

I believe that we get in this state of only focusing in on our children that we totally forget that we too exist.

I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way.. In fact it SHOULDN’T be that way!

What I'm telling you is there is an incredible ability for you to become the captain of your own ship, despite the feelings discomfort, guilt, shame.

It might be wildly uncomfortable.

But is it worth it? You better fucking believe it's worth it. It's worth every ounce of moments away and self care and self love and you better believe it.

Because when you come back, it's magic.

Because you have given yourself what you need to then show up for your children, to show up for your partnership, show up for yourself. You have gifted yourself the gift of honor and mental health.

Join me to dive deep into how you too can enjoy time away from your kids without any guilt or shame.

XOXO,

Dr. B

EP:43 Our children have feelings and they are in there. They may not understand or be able to identify the word but they sure as hell have them and it is up to us to help them feel the safety and comfort of pulling it out of their body and to be able to verbalize it.

So crucially important.

We don't want to minimize, we don't want to belittle, we don't want to overshadow… We just want to validate that's it. Just be present that's it just be present to the vulnerability of our children.

That will get you so much farther in trust with them and connection with them. And the ability to know that they are okay. And that they have the tools to spread their wings and fly.

Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast for tools, actionable steps into how to help your children find the feelings themselves, how to help your children learn how to communicate their own feelings, rather than us giving it to them.

EP:42 This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast we are talking about a topic that was requested by YOU the listeners, which is postpartum, rage and dysregulation within postpartum.

In order to understand how we get to that place of postpartum rage and dysregulation, we have to take a step back in terms of how we've gotten to that place.

We have these expectations of I've always wanted to be a parent. But the true question is... Do I really understand what that will look like when the baby finally comes out?

Most of us don't realize that dysregulation and rage and sadness and postpartum depression is a form of grief, you are grieving your old life. Because within a blink of an eye, you, your body, your entire life has changed forever.

The dysregulation is coming out because you're living in a state of survival from the moment you start having contractions and we are neglecting the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort it takes to actually deliver these humans.

Knowing how to take care of your body. Give yourself what it needs. That's the ultimate parenting guide one on one.

This and so much more on this week's episode..

EP:41 What most don't quite understand is that emotional eating is not psychological. It's neurological.

And on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I am going to give you the tools you need to break that cycle through regulation!

You absolutely can have an intuitive and healthy relationship with food. Without any shame.

Recognition

Awareness

Trust

Create awareness behind how you're feeling and why you might feel dysregulated or heightened or overstimulated. Why is your brain seeking regulation?

I urge you to BE CURIOUS, listen to your body and what it wants.. Go slow. Tune in with your body and your brain. Building new patterns takes time. Be kind and loving to yourself through the process.

Join me to dive deep into the steps to break the cycle of emotional eating, trust yourself and create a healthy and intuitive relationship with food on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.

EP:40 In today's world it has become incredibly hard for humans to slow down.

People are now glorifying hustling and bustling and we seem to be in a constant race against time in juggling numerous responsibilities, roles and keeping up with the daily demands of life.

These days, the busier you are, the more relevant you become and more jobs mean more food on the table.

But what happens when we start contemplating the idea of hitting the brakes and taking things a little slower?

Well, that's when this fear creeps in.

Why? Because slowing down in our society could mean insufficiency, failure, or stagnation.

For most of us, slowing down means less income, missed promotions, and less money for our family's needs.

Deciding to slow down means something important has to be given up.
And we don't want that because our brains thrive on structure, stability, and control.
Because of this fear,  we keep going, we normalize multi-tasking, and we keep on pushing ourselves harder to our limits until we get exhausted, irritable, burnt out, and dysregulated!

But what if I told you that there's another side of that fear that could unlock the door to a happy, confident, satisfied, and joyful living? -- where it's ok to chew slower and walk slower;  where it's safe to ride the waves, smell the flowers, and feel settled; where it's guiltless to comfortably lie down on the couch, enjoy, and REST!

So in this week's Thrive Like A Parent podcast episode, let's talk about one of society's most intriguing topics --

The Fear of Slowing Down and Why it's the Key to Enjoying Your Life.

Join me as we start to learn about creating new patterns to slow down your brains and live the life that you truly want for you and your family at a pace that's

good for you and that works for you!

Yes! You can do that!

EP:39 For this week's episode, join me as I talk about one of the things that usually happens at homes that no one really talks about--
It's the feeling of being like roommates with your partner.

This situation is so inevitable in every relationship as time goes by. It easily happens;  it's somehow bound to happen; and it's absolutely normal.
However, it's like a  super taboo issue that nobody can comfortably bring up without the fear of being shamed or judged!

Why??  Because we all want to put our best faces in everything, especially with what's happening inside the four corners of our homes! We always want to project that we are so in control at home, especially in front of others. Right??

What usually causes the drift?? Overfamiliarity, too much comfortability, overwhelming tasks, and routines, piled up work, new responsibilities, raising kids, insecurities, lack of intimacy, fear, resentment, and so much more.

While this is a common phenomenon among partnerships, it takes a lot of effort to change this shift. This takes brain rewiring and so much decision making.
As we know, matters like this  never changes overnight. It needs the key elements of time, communication, and enough vulnerability to be able to see that spark and joy in the relationship again!

All these and more on the Thrive Like A Parent podcast.

EP:38 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent I am so excited to be joined by Lolo to discuss my grief journey through another lens. Lolo has been my rock and partner in crime through every step of this.

Lolo has supported me and my boys through an unimaginably tragic time of our lives. I can not be express into words how incredibly grateful I am to Lolo and her husband Chris. I am so thankful for the choice they made to unconditionally support us through this wild ride.

We all need support. We are not meant to go through this journey alone and there is no shame in admitting, seeking and getting what you need, what your brain needs and what you body needs.

Join us as we dive deep into the last three years of our lives.

EP:37 On this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast we are getting real about parenthood because the truth is... This shit is hard!

We crave that control and structure and stability within parenthood. That structure stability and control is an illusion, it is not reality, and it does not exist.

Waving the white flag and admitting that this just is what it is. It's going to be ups and downs and highs and lows and that is ok!

There are hard moments, that doesn't mean that you don't love parenting. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Hard moments are just that.. A hard moment. When you finally accept that it's just a moment and release the guilt and shame... Happiness, joy, peace, calm and acceptance will start flooding in.

And you can have that. You are worthy of that!